Suzy Ismail – #16 AlQahhar

			Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you
again as we discuss how we can
		

			bring the Divine Names of Allah
subhanaw taala and the
		

			characteristics of those names
into our daily lives to improve
		

			our families and our
relationships. Today we're going
		

			to discuss the name of Allah
subhanaw taala. Alcohol. Alcohol
		

			remains the sub doer. Oftentimes
when we think of our own families
		

			and particularly our children, we
may think that subduing them
		

			subduing their exuberance of doing
their enthusiasm subduing their
		

			excitement, is a way to keep them
calm or a way to keep them
		

			controlled. But in reality, as we
raise our children to become the
		

			strong Muslim American citizens
that we want them to be, it's
		

			difficult to consistently try to
subdue them to subdue them by
		

			keeping their personalities down.
By pushing away what makes them
		

			individuals. There is a way for us
to help our children develop their
		

			individual qualities, their
individual characteristics, while
		

			still teaching them to love their
deen and to love Allah subhanaw
		

			taala. This concept of subduing
often comes into play with our
		

			spouses as well. Many times there
are situations where, as you know,
		

			in a humorous manner, as a joke, a
husband may say something like,
		

			oh, well, you know, I have to ask
the boss in reference to their
		

			wife or I can't do anything
without the boss's permission, and
		

			jokingly referring to the wife
often, but in reality, that joke
		

			can sometimes have an undercurrent
of truth in there or perceive
		

			truth. When a husband in a
relationship feels that the wife
		

			is subduing, who he is or what his
interactions are, that can cause
		

			resentment to build up. The same
goes for the wife. If the husband
		

			tries to subdue a wife, and tries
to keep her from becoming who she
		

			is from seeking out her interest
from supporting her, then also
		

			this can cause resentment to grow
in the marriage. So as we continue
		

			to delve into understanding the
characteristics of Allah subhanaw
		

			taala, it's important for us to
know that many of the Divine Names
		

			of Allah subhanaw taala, are for
Allah alone. And alcohol is one of
		

			those names. He is the sub doer.
He is the one that we submit to.
		

			He is the one who loves us more
than we even love ourselves more
		

			than our mothers, our fathers, or
even our spouses love us. And so
		

			he is the one that we submit to.
So I pray that Allah subhanaw
		

			taala guides us or strengthens our
families continues to connect us
		

			and allows us to be the best
version of ourselves that we can
		

			be as salaam alaikum