Suleiman Hani – Showing Mercy To One’s Family

			Smilla Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah where he was happy woman wala I begin in the
Name of Allah the Exalted the EverLiving the most loving the oft forgiving. I ask Allah subhana wa
Taala the most merciful to send His peace and His blessings upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam and all of those who follow him correctly until the day of resurrection as salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah
		

			does not know head on for having me here. I am blessed and humbled and excited to be here at the
very first miftah conference, one of many by the will of Allah subhanaw taala. May Allah subhanaw
taala bless everyone who facilitated this gathering, and everyone who attended as well say Amin,
		

			I want to ask you a question to start off my talk of the mercy of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam towards his family. And the question is, what are some signs that you love someone? Now in
modern times, perhaps someone will say, a sign that you love someone with that false type of love,
or obsession? Maybe they'll stalk them on Facebook, on Instagram on Snapchat. That's the idea of
loving someone. What is the proof that you love Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because no
doubt if I asked Do you love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Everyone would say yes. What
are the signs that you love? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam? And how much do you know about
		

			his blessings, life sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so that you can increase in love for him. We hear
often the narrations from a Timothy, the best of you are those who are best to their families. We
hear this often the best of you or those who are best to their wives. The question is, and the idea
that we want to reflect on who you are in front of the community and online is not more important
than who you are behind closed doors with your loved ones. Who are you with your parents, with your
spouse with your children? Who are you when it comes to a situation in which you have nothing to
gain from this person? A sign that you love Allah subhana wa Tada that mercy that is public and
		

			private. Our talk in sha Allah is about the private, the public. There are many examples. One of the
sheikh mentioned the example of the young girls in Medina, they would grab the hands of the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam sidenote here, this conference today this theme is about the seal of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So every time you hear his name, you say sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, and that is a sign that you love him. sallallahu alayhi wasallam they would grab him by the
hand and they would walk him around Medina, the busiest person in the world. sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, he has an OMA to run. He has an OMA to run. And yet he showed mercy to the youngest Well,
		

			another example of his public mercy sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reported from an ESA at one time one
of the companions reported shut down there all the Allahu and he said the Prophet salallahu Alaihe
Salam prayed without with us one of the nights prayers, and he had with him and her son or Al
Hussein, his nephews. He put him down before the prayer started. And he started praying when he got
to the prostration when he got to the sujood Shuddha Radi Allahu Anhu said he took so long.
Eventually I lifted my head out of sudo to see what happened. Can you imagine this situation in the
masjid? The Imam take so long maybe the Imam left and they're making will do and you're still in
		

			sujood? You don't know. So he said I lifted my head to see where's the Prophet Sall Allahu Allah. He
was setting him he's still in sujood prostration So instead, I put my head back down and I continued
my prayer. After Salah we asked him yeah rasool Allah, what is it that he saw? What is it that
shuddered reported seeing in this hadith he saw on the back of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam,
Al Hasan or Al Hussein, basically playing on his back while he was in subdued, so they asked him we
thought you're a suit Allah, maybe something happened or maybe revelation was coming down, and the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said nothing of this kind
		

			had happened. Rather, I did not want to stop him from what he was doing. I didn't want to interrupt
his playing on the back of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while he's leading prayer. As for
his private life, there are so many beautiful examples. And the greatest way we can learn about
someone from behind the scenes is through his loved ones. And if you look at the narrations of
Shinobi along on one of the greatest legacies of Islam, the most no
		

			eligible woman in Islam, more knowledgeable as a Zuni said more knowledgeable than all of the other
wives combined. I shall be Allah one who gives us so much access behind the scenes to the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa salam
		

			and the first Hadith I want to share all share many inshallah The first is to soften your heart. So
pay very close attention to this famous narration from a testimony from Alisha, Aldo Mahana. She
said one time I noticed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in an extra cheerful mode. So I
said, Yeah rasool Allah pray for me. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lifted his hands and
prayed, oh, Allah, forgive our Isha her past sins, her future sins, the ones that are public and the
ones that are private. Look at this beautiful dua.
		

			I want to ask you a question. And with a show of hands. If you were on the receiving end, if the
Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam made this prayer for you, how many of you would be happy? I know I'd
be delighted. The prophets making this dua for us. Allahu Akbar. So I just started laughing. She
said, I laughed, until I fell into the lap of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam out of joy. And
he asked me sallallahu alayhi wa salam, O Allah Isha does my dua for you make you happy. She said,
Ya rasool Allah Who wouldn't be happy, who wanted to be happy. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, Verily, this is the dua the supplication I make for my ummah, in every prayer, Allahu
		

			Akbar. He was praying for us before we were born. His concern is for us greater than ourselves. The
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wants us to succeed more at times than we want to succeed with
the real definition of success. This is the mercy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And
sometimes people think that religiosity and getting closer to Allah subhanaw taala should cause them
to lose their smile, to become gloomy to become angry, when we know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam smiled more than anyone else, when we know that he had a sense of humor as long as it was
halal, for example, and the salary reports that one time I showed all the Allahu anha she said I
		

			cooked a meal, and I came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and so double the Allahu anha
and this meal that she had her zero as he was called, she had a share for soda for the Prophet and
for herself. So she told so to eat from it. She invited her to eat so they said no, she said eat
from it or I'm going to put it on your face.
		

			Now most people would assume like soda probably said yes, this is I should I should only along on a
serious with this matter. She said no. What do you think I should did? She put it on her face. So
she's putting this food on sodas face and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is laughing. The
Prophet Celeste them gives his share to soda and says put it on her face if you want. She takes and
what does she do? She puts on an audacious face. The Prophet signs and he was laughing. He's easy
going as long as things are not prohibited and excessive. The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam then
heard Omar's voice outside and he was saying Oh, Abdullah Abdullah. So he thought Salallahu Alaihe
		

			Salam Romana is about to walk in. So they were afraid as she was reporting that he would walk in. So
he said wash your face is meaning before Irma comes. She said since that day, my fear of Omar my
respect and offer him the Haber the dignity of the prestige of Omar continued because of the respect
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam towards the long run. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was romantic. And he expressed his love for his wives salAllahu alayhi salam and his family
and his companions and his community and for us as well. I shall the Allah Juan has she said even
when I was menstruating, I would at times be drinking from a cup and the Prophet would take it and
		

			drink from the same place to show his love for me. And Buhari reports from our shall the Allahu
anha. She said at times, even when I was menstruating, the Prophet salallahu Salam would sit in my
lap and recite the Quran, you would lie down and recite the Quran sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he
expressed his love very openly to you should not be alone on her to his family, to his community,
and to us as well. And I'll ask you this question. How many of you hear when you have a family
member who's upset with you? Or like something's wrong, they're upset at something they're
irritated. You can tell there's like a microexpression there's something going on? How many of you
		

			here can identify in your family when somebody's upset and they're not saying it? I hope most
people, right otherwise we'll have some gaps in our communication and relationships. And Buhari
reports, from eyeshadow, the Lohana she said that the Prophet sallallahu sallam said to me once, oh,
Aisha, I know when you're happy with me, and I know when you're displeased. She said how the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when you're pleased with me, you swear by saying by the Lord of
Muhammad, and when you're upset, you say I swear by the Lord of Ibrahim Allah He said
		

			And she said, yeah rasool Allah You're right. I don't mention your name when I'm upset.
		

			He knew her emotional intelligence, a phrase that was coined less than 2030 years ago, the Prophet
salallahu Arsenal Excel that it's like nobody else know your family know when they're upset, pay
attention to their feelings, have some empathy and sympathy towards others. As the Prophet salallahu
Alaihe Salam did as Isha said he used to serve his family when he was at home. And when it was time
for prayer, he would leave. He used to mend his own clothes, he used to milk the sheep himself. Sall
Allahu Allahu wa salam, and he was not a critical person. You know, there are always examples.
Perhaps somebody here might think of an example, in which there's a person in the house or a
		

			relative or a neighbor, a person who's always critical and negative, always judging, always pushing
people away. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was never this type of critical person. People
love to be around him. Even those who committed sins because we all commit sins. They love to be
around the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He should not be alone, Juana and Abu Raider and
others reported he never complained about food. He never criticized something he didn't like he
would remain silent if he didn't like something, or he would eat from it if he was pleased with it.
sallallahu alayhi wa salam and the famous narration from Al Bukhari from honorable arsenal, the
		

			Allah one. He asked him, you know, suit Allah who is the most beloved person to?
		

			He thought it would be him. You heard from the previous shoe. You heard the narration, the idea that
the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam loved you so much, was so considerate of you. You thought you
were his best friend. Right? So I'm asks in front of everyone. You are Rasul Allah, who is the most
beloved person to you? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Aisha Radi Allahu Ana.
		

			So I'm thinks maybe because I asked, and I didn't specify. So he says the Rasul Allah, I mean from
the men. He says her father, I Booba. Kobe lon, he said, and then whom he said, and then Omar, he
said, I stopped asking, worrying that maybe I'll be at the end of this list.
		

			You know, when we talk about expressing love, I want you to think of the people in your life, the
closest people to not the friends that come and go, not the classmates that come and go, not the co
workers that come and go, but the family that stays until they return to Allah, I want you to
reflect right now, how often do you express your love for them? And I don't mean by simple acts of
appreciation, or acts of service, how often do you directly and explicitly say, I love you, or I
appreciate you, to your parents, your spouse, your children? How often do we see this? In fact, can
you all take out your smartphones, I know like 99% of you have smartphones, even like two, three and
		

			four year olds, mashallah, if you're not already playing Candy Crush or fortnight, take out your
phone
		

			in about 30 seconds. I'm not going to make fun of iPhone today in about 30 seconds.
		

			I want you to text a loved one, I love you, or I appreciate you. That's all you have to write.
		

			And then put your phone on silent because they're gonna think something's wrong and you're dying,
and they're gonna start calling.
		

			And I don't say that as a joke that happened. Alhamdulillah by the way, I'm teaching another
institute class in sha Allah, about self development, unlocking who you are. One of the activities
we do in class is with regards to sending a letter from the grave to our loved ones. And this
letter, the idea behind this letter is that you're expressing how you actually feel because you
think it's too late.
		

			And the idea behind this is what we should not wait until it's too late to express love for our
loved ones. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam taught us this and exemplify this in his life.
		

			And the reality is when we think about love for your loved ones, it becomes a shock to some people.
So for example, in one of my classes, somebody said they texted their mom, I love you. She started
calling like, Are you dying? What's happening? The funniest response was this last weekend in
Denmark. Somebody said one of the sisters she said, I started asking what responses did you get? She
said, My mom said bring milk when you come home.
		

			We should express explicitly our love for the people in our lives while our hearts still beat.
Because the reality is when we think about death, the reminder of death should cause us to live a
life of mercy. The reminder of death should cause us to live a life of mercy. The reminder of death
should cause us to live a life of mercy and we ask Allah subhanaw taala to increase us in mercy.
Alright should all be alone one who said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never beat any
woman never beat any servants never laid his hand on anyone other than for the
		

			sake of Allah subhana wa Tada in the battles. She said he never ever took revenge on behalf of
himself. The greatest test of your character is how you respond when harm comes your way. How you
respond when somebody does something that displeases you. That's the test of your character. And AB
Rajab Rahim Allah. He says that's the pinnacle of the test, and the sum of one's character, that
when somebody wrongs you, your family wrongs you or community member wrongs you a non Muslim wrongs
you and Islamophobia wrongs you. The way you respond is a reflection of your character. And your
character is a reflection of your relationship with Allah, your love for Allah and your love for His
		

			Messenger salAllahu alayhi wasallam what destroys a lot of relationships and families and
organizations and communities is the ego and the pride that arises. When you are wronged and you
want to react on behalf of yourself. You want revenge on behalf of yourself or you refuse with your
spouse, your parents you refuse to put your ego aside. And so the relationship deteriorates further,
and the shaitan preys on this. He finds this moment of vulnerability and tries to erode this
relationship. Ego is a destructive component to so many relationships. And we ask Allah subhanho wa
Taala to protect our hearts from that.
		

			It was reported that it shouldn't be Allahu Allah was asked about the character of the Prophet
salAllahu alayhi wasallam she said Do you recite the Quran? The companion recited Of course. She
said his character was the Quran. Now we hear this often but the question is when you recite the
Quran or listen to it, or even study its Tafseer how much of it are you intending to convert,
transform and translate into your morality? Because this source of morality is coming from Allah
subhanaw taala the source of all goodness and burgle. Rahim is coming from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada.
And there is no society that can improve morally except through the morality taught to us from the
		

			Creator through His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And I want you to think about this
crucial moment that we are in as Muslims in that perhaps Allahu Allah and 4050, maybe 60 years from
now. And if you look at the research centers, you'll see that perhaps sooner, perhaps in less than
50 years, Islam will be the largest religion in the world. But it's not only about quantity. It's
not about quantity. It is about the quality of how much mercy we are showcasing and exemplifying to
the world. It's about what we are learning from the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and showing
society we have the keys, we have the light for the darkness as we're going through, we have the
		

			keys to relieve you of these ills, these problems, whether they are affecting minorities, or they
are affecting people at the highest levels, or they are affecting people locally or globally around
the world. So it is about the quality. We don't want to think only about ourselves and our families.
What are you leaving behind for your family, your children? What are you leaving behind? 500 years
down the road? What are you leaving behind 1000 years down the road? Because we are all every single
one of us. We are all playing a role in this oma in this world and expressing that mercy of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to the world around us. And we hear often wanna also nakka Illa
		

			Rahmatullah Amin. You are not sent O Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam except as a mercy to
mankind to the worlds we ask Allah to allow us to act upon this Allama Amin.
		

			What can we do that is practical. What can we do that is very pragmatic. The first thing we can all
do is to continuously learn more about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and by this a very
practical advice. If you have never studied the Sierra before the life of the prophet from beginning
to end, even if it is summarized, I urge you to set this as a goal right now. And if you intend
sincerely right now and you put a reminder in your phone, Inshallah, you will follow up by the will
of Allah subhana wa Tada and realize something amazing about studying the Seto. Most people think
you study it because you love the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam, and that is partially true. But a
		

			byproduct of studying the Sierra is that your love for him will increase as well. sallallahu alayhi
wasallam I'll give you an example. A few years ago, we had a revert in Lansing, Michigan, who once
he became Muslim, we gave him three books. So a basic book about Islam, a basic book about prayer.
And the third book I gave him was the Summarized Syrah when the moon splits a very famous Sita
summary.
		

			I saw him after six months and I asked him how everything was going. He said, I finished the first
two books. I couldn't finish the last one. I was surprised because that was the easiest of the
three. So I said what's the reason you couldn't finish the zero book? He said I got more than
halfway through it, but
		

			I fell in love so much with Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam, I didn't want to get to the
end of the book. I didn't want to reach the moment in which he dies, salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he
ended up finishing at Hamdulillah. And he said, I broke down in tears when I finished it, studying
the CETA will increase you in love, in mercy and in compassion. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to
increase us in these number two, if you love the Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa salam, and you want to
practically exemplify this, then imitate him, emulate his life, that is a sign that you love him.
That is a sign that you truly appreciate his message for you. And the work that he put in so that
		

			you and I today could say La Ilaha illa Allah. So whether you were a Muslim your entire life, or
whether you have become Muslim today. The reality is the more you love the prophets of allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the more you will love to emulate his life and to emulate his life. We
go back to the first point we have to learn about him. How can I know more about the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam, whether through a book or a video series or a program in your community,
take every measure and every means to get closer to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The
third is that we are always referencing him and pray to be with him. So Allah Allahu alayhi wa
		

			sallam. Think of the DUA that you make, especially especially in moments of increased acceptance.
For example, the last 10 nights of Ramadan, for example, the odd nights, the last odd nights of
Ramadan, for example, the Day of Arafah or when you go to Ramadan, or Hajj, or between the oven and
the karma, or when you wake up at night to pray in the last third of the nights, when you make those
dua that you really want for your exams for your school for your life for Jana. Consider adding the
DUA in there every single time. Oh, Allah grants me the companionship of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa salam, that is a sign that you love him and reference him often. And we ask Allah subhanaw
		

			taala to grant all of us and our loved ones and our descendants, the companionship with a Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the highest levels of Jannah. The last point that I will add to this,
if you love the Prophet, sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam, and you want to take anything from this
conference today, then spread his message and his mercy to the world around you, to your family, to
your friends, to the people you care about, and the people you don't know. A single smile and a
single Salam could make a difference. And we ask Allah subhana wa Tada to allow all of us to benefit
from what we hear. We ask Allah subhana wa Tada to grant us companionship with the Prophet sal
		

			Allahu Allah, he would send him the highest levels of Jannah We ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive
all of our sins, the past and the present in the future. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive
us for the sins that are public and the ones that are private. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to guide
us and guide others through us. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless this gathering and as he
united us here today to reunite us all in the highest levels of Jana was SallAllahu Miranda Muhammad
while early he was a Marine was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
		

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