Sulaiman Moola – Become A Good Listener

			Bismillah salatu salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were banned. We are reminded
repeatedly in both Quran and Sunnah about the importance of good character. Now good character is a
very broad brush. And today I want to focus on one aspect of good character. There is a very
profound condition in Arabic which goes like this. I tend to be a to an tardif metathetical lamb
when allowed to enter sturmey lemania tikkun olam, while addable Allah to Katia manyatta. Kalam what
veka who Allah to Saudi pakula Maria tequila, Wow, this is so amazing. So tarbiyah, nurturing good
values, good morals, would reflect itself that and that metadata column, that it will teach you when
		

			to speak, there's a moment there's an opportunity when it presents then at the right time you speak
because you could be articulate, you could be skilled, you could have all the, the the necessary
ability, but it's not always palatable for you to speak. Ibrahim Rahim Allah used to say, could not
either submit a sharp attack on the Maliki bar, or use Nam In Hungary, that when we used to see a
child just speaking in front of adults, and not allowing them to first speak, give their opinion,
then we used to wonder if they will be any good for this boy in the years coming. So we're not
denying or saying that the child doesn't have an opportunity because it's a free world. It's an open
		

			world and we need to recognize and motivate and inspire everyone, but there's a moment and an
opportunity. So anyway, there'll be a good nurturing and upbringing ease and data from metadata
column that you learn to develop the timing and the ability when to speak. When a HELOC and
character, ease and destiny eliminate the column that you can become a good listener if you listen
to the person who's speaking. And that's the point I want to focus on. We live in a world today.
Sometimes people just need to offload and they know for a fact that you don't have the solution
because you haven't been through that situation. But they want to confide and they need to offload
		

			and we need to become people who can listen while our hello and destiny luminita column and o'clock
is that you listen to the person who's speaking. Right? And Adam, Adam. The third thing in these
four qualities,
		

			morals values, respect is Allah to potty amania tikkun olam. You don't get a person, you don't get a
person when he's speaking. In fact, in all my marital cases that I arbitrate in, there are some
basic in house rules that I say to the couple, the quarterly couple, then when you come to my house,
or when we have a sit down, the number one both need to accept me as a neutral arbitrator. And to
the best of my ability, I try to arbitrate between the quarterly in parties. But I say to them, when
one speaks, then let the other one respect him or her. If you're going to cut him short or cut her
short, then it's just like an argument you read at home. It's not gonna make any difference coming
		

			here in a formal setting and we want to invoke the blessings of Allah, you read that Islam and you
are fit the level of being a homer or any more I don't have admin barely handle shoes and Oh, Mr.
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			that you feel in a version from your spouse or your partner or your husband, then opt for peace. So
one of the mechanisms one of the methods one of the elementary aspects is Allah toccata when he's
speaking or she's speaking, don't interject, don't cut, let her complete his story, let him complete
his story. In fact, we know about that narration and I just have a flash of it now, where a bedwin
came to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Masjid, during the time of the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam. And he was not familiar with the etiquettes of domestic he did not understand, understand
and appreciate it. And then he decided to relieve himself he had the call of nature, and we all know
		

			about the narration. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did not rebuke him while he was relieving
himself. He sallallahu wasallam allowed him to complete his need and call of nature. And then he
told one of the companions I mean, that is taken into a very advanced level of absolute prophetic
character right this is now inconceivable for us your blemishes flawless, sublime character of the
messengers analyze them impeccable, impeccable character that leave him at the moment let him
complete his need. I'm not saying that we need to go to that level. There is a context in which it
had happened and in the messengers, a lot
		

			modestly lovingly embraced him and told him that this is the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala and
it's not a place for you to relieve yourself. All I'm saying is allow the other person to speak one
of good character is to learn how to listen. What the cow and intelligence is allowed to sedate.
akula Miyata calm and intelligence is that you don't believe everything that he's told to you. So
you know what you take it with a pinch of salt. You listen to the person you afford him the right of
speaking. And if it is a dialogue, then you engage him if it's monologue, let him say his thing. But
then you need to be wise and circumspect and intelligent to say, Wait, listen, this person is now
		

			unfortunately just blurting things. It's not supported. It's not substantiated. And don't be so
gullible. So you have tarbiyah you have o'clock, you have adept, and you have the car and
intelligence. One of the great luminaries of Islam was Arthur Vieira Rahim Allah, he was a scholar
of African origin. He was one of the distinguished teachers of Imam Abu hanifa Rahim Allah. In fact,
Imam Abu hanifa Rahim Allah said Mara, a to Africa I mean hammered when are ajumma and illuminata
that from all my teachers and tutors, I did not see anyone who was more learned
		

			who had a greater understanding of jurisprudence than my tutor Hamad. And I did not see anyone from
all my teachers who could memorize and commit to his memory more than a Ba ba ba ba. Sol magnet
kohane said Mara a to add a new reader will Allah Jalla La la la, la la una Mujahid there are only
three people that I can swear an oath for that the motive of the acquisition of the knowledge was
purely to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and one was appa he was the disciple of Abdullah Bertha de
Allahumma. He stayed in the company of Abdullah navbars Ravi Allahumma for 20 years. They say the
salient quality in the life of APA in ABA, were two things. Number one, can you please loosen? Can
		

			you please loosen? He would be silent for extended period of time, you would never see him just you
know what speaking away or just blurting away, he would be in silent mode for an extended period for
either Tekken llama whenever he would speak, then we would realize that he is enjoying divine
assistance from Allah and know who you are yet we would see that there would be divine assistance of
Allah subhanho wa Taala. But the second quality that was amazing about him can appa wouldn't mean
the Nancy Thomas who can be hired and
		

			he had this amazing ability that he could listen to a person patiently and give off the notion that
he had never heard this before. For either had death at home or had this if a scholar of Hadith
conveyed to him a Hadith, US la la, la la he while he would extend his ear, he would extend you know
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says that how can I enjoy the bounties of this world when his Seraphin
has taken the trumpet, and placed it in his mouth, right? And he has extended his ear waiting, the
signal that Allah tells him to blow the trumpet wonderful of his soul. In that verse of the Quran,
Allah refers to the blowing of the trumpet as though it has occurred, indicating that it's
		

			inevitable nature is so definite. But anyway, the word that I just extracted is Ursula extended his
ear, you know, an attentive ear. And this was the salient quality of ABA, ABA, that he would listen
attentively to the extent that it's mentioned that at times a person would come and read to him
something, and he would say that voila, I would listen to this man and give him the notion that it
is the first time I heard this wakad summit ato cabela you lead, whereas I had heard this narration
this narrative this tale before this man was born. Subhana Allah, my message in simple is Islam
impresses us on good character. good character is a broad has many branches, and one of the many
		

			branches of good character is to become a good listener. Everybody wants to become a good speaker. I
want to oratory skills I want to mesmerize the audience, I want to impress upon them, while oratory
and speaking and mesmerizing, has its benefits. Probably it's time for us to learn and imbibe these
two qualities of I thought it'd be alaba who was this the start of remember? How do you follow him
Allah, you plan to son, he would have pro long silence and he had this amazing ability to
		

			Listen to people. May Allah give us the ability that we can extend an attentive ear and just comfort
people by listening to their pain and soothing their emotions.