Suhaib Webb – Unlocking Freedom- Navigating Muslim Parenting Challenges as an Adult
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The speaker discusses the difficulties of parents being Muslim during the pandemic and how it can lead to chaos and negative behavior. They suggest finding balance between being authentic and not causing chaos, and advising parents to be careful with their behavior. The speaker also mentions a lecture and a follow-up to the beginning of the lecture.
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And then secondly, it's like, parents are hard,
man.
You know, especially, what I've noticed is with
people that are born Muslim, it's even more
difficult because their parents are like, I was
born Muslim, like, you know, we had a
Sheikh al-Islam in our family 400 years
ago.
And like me, it's easy.
My parents are not Muslims.
I'm like, yeah, I'm even Muslim.
Right, so they can't really tell me about
Islam.
So, that takes time and there may be
a point where you're just like, you know
what?
Let's tell him to be a Muslim too.
Like you're not in charge of them.
And that's hard for parents to realize too,
once their children are adults.
What, you know, you can't force them.
You can encourage them.
I'm going to shut, I'm going to cut
them off.
What if you cut them off?
Who are they going to be exposed to
now?
Like, like you can't, that's not a healthy
thing either.
They're going to look for a supporting structure
somewhere else.
Like that's just going to happen.
So, you've got to be wise, man, and
measure it in a way where you affirm,
because I know how this plays, like, especially
as a woman.
It's very important that you make your own
decisions and you're not being forced to do
something.
You know what I'm sort of getting at?
At the same time, you want to do
that in a way that doesn't destroy your
relationships.
So, I think finding the unique balance between
being the authentic you without creating chaos, but
also not letting people feel that they can
manipulate you, manipulate you, manipulate you, even if
it's your family, right?
So, over time, you want to build enough,
kind of like the horse that's just born
trying to stand, you know, kind of like
wobbly, and you want to be like this.
If anyone else has any thoughts, I mean,
I'm just thinking of it in my own
perspective, but these are very real issues.
Religiosity sometimes can be seen as a threat,
and then also you want to take it,
you want to make sure you're in touch
with scholars, scholarship.
You may hear something that may be wrong.
Someone may tell you something.
Thank you so much, Habibti.
Someone may tell you something's wrong.
So, you want to be very careful with
kind of how you push into your family.
You know, I have a rule, even with
my non-Muslim family, like I'm just Will,
man.
I don't do anything crazy.
I don't do anything wrong, but I'm not
like there in that space and that way.
And that actually allowed them to start to
ask me more questions than when I was
like overtly sort of Islamic.
They felt more safe.
So, then they started to ask questions.
Yes, Sarah.
As-salamu alaykum.
One follow-up to the beginning of this
lecture.