Suhaib Webb – Unlocking Freedom- Navigating Muslim Parenting Challenges as an Adult

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The speaker discusses the difficulties of parents being Muslim during the pandemic and how it can lead to chaos and negative behavior. They suggest finding balance between being authentic and not causing chaos, and advising parents to be careful with their behavior. The speaker also mentions a lecture and a follow-up to the beginning of the lecture.

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			And then secondly, it's like, parents are hard,
		
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			man.
		
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			You know, especially, what I've noticed is with
		
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			people that are born Muslim, it's even more
		
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			difficult because their parents are like, I was
		
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			born Muslim, like, you know, we had a
		
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			Sheikh al-Islam in our family 400 years
		
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			ago.
		
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			And like me, it's easy.
		
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			My parents are not Muslims.
		
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			I'm like, yeah, I'm even Muslim.
		
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			Right, so they can't really tell me about
		
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			Islam.
		
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			So, that takes time and there may be
		
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			a point where you're just like, you know
		
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			what?
		
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			Let's tell him to be a Muslim too.
		
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			Like you're not in charge of them.
		
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			And that's hard for parents to realize too,
		
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			once their children are adults.
		
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			What, you know, you can't force them.
		
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			You can encourage them.
		
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			I'm going to shut, I'm going to cut
		
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			them off.
		
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			What if you cut them off?
		
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			Who are they going to be exposed to
		
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			now?
		
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			Like, like you can't, that's not a healthy
		
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			thing either.
		
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			They're going to look for a supporting structure
		
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			somewhere else.
		
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			Like that's just going to happen.
		
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			So, you've got to be wise, man, and
		
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			measure it in a way where you affirm,
		
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			because I know how this plays, like, especially
		
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			as a woman.
		
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			It's very important that you make your own
		
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			decisions and you're not being forced to do
		
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			something.
		
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			You know what I'm sort of getting at?
		
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			At the same time, you want to do
		
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			that in a way that doesn't destroy your
		
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			relationships.
		
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			So, I think finding the unique balance between
		
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			being the authentic you without creating chaos, but
		
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			also not letting people feel that they can
		
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			manipulate you, manipulate you, manipulate you, even if
		
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			it's your family, right?
		
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			So, over time, you want to build enough,
		
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			kind of like the horse that's just born
		
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			trying to stand, you know, kind of like
		
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			wobbly, and you want to be like this.
		
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			If anyone else has any thoughts, I mean,
		
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			I'm just thinking of it in my own
		
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			perspective, but these are very real issues.
		
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			Religiosity sometimes can be seen as a threat,
		
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			and then also you want to take it,
		
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			you want to make sure you're in touch
		
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			with scholars, scholarship.
		
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			You may hear something that may be wrong.
		
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			Someone may tell you something.
		
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			Thank you so much, Habibti.
		
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			Someone may tell you something's wrong.
		
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			So, you want to be very careful with
		
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			kind of how you push into your family.
		
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			You know, I have a rule, even with
		
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			my non-Muslim family, like I'm just Will,
		
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			man.
		
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			I don't do anything crazy.
		
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			I don't do anything wrong, but I'm not
		
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			like there in that space and that way.
		
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			And that actually allowed them to start to
		
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			ask me more questions than when I was
		
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			like overtly sort of Islamic.
		
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			They felt more safe.
		
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			So, then they started to ask questions.
		
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			Yes, Sarah.
		
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			As-salamu alaykum.
		
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			One follow-up to the beginning of this
		
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			lecture.