Suhaib Webb – Unlocking Communication- Key to Strong Relationships and Parenting

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A speaker discusses the importance of communication in parenting and marriage, and how it is a shame when one of them doesn't know how to communicate. They explain that communication is important for protecting young children and that they undermine their ability to create their own ideas and questions. The speaker emphasizes the need for parents to help teach children how to express themselves and regulate their emotions in order to become normal adults.

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			Usually, they don't know how to communicate with
		
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			each other.
		
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			In fact, I've seen people who don't like
		
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			each other, who get communicate effectively, and they
		
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			stay together
		
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			because communication leads to security.
		
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			And I've seen people who like each other,
		
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			but they don't know how to communicate, and
		
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			their marriage puzzle parts are interested.
		
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			It's very important to communicate,
		
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			to push in. And sometimes when we parent,
		
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			we have to be very careful. I know
		
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			for those of us who became Muslim, we're
		
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			protective parents.
		
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			We feel we have to protect.
		
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			You know, I'm the old Muslim in my
		
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			family. I have to go hard on the
		
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			paint. You know, I have to put pressure.
		
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			But what happens is we undermine
		
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			our
		
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			young adults ability
		
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			to have the necessary,
		
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			if you will, bravery
		
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			to formulate their own ideas and questions and
		
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			communicate
		
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			that allows them to become normal adults.
		
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			That's why sometimes they have the marriage crisis
		
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			in the world. We didn't teach young people
		
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			how to communicate their emotions. We just told
		
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			them it's it's it's a shame that you
		
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			talk to me. It's disrespect that you talk
		
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			No. No. No.
		
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			Let them disrespect you so they don't disrespect
		
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			others. At least they learn this is not
		
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			appropriate behavior. And you teach them and you
		
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			guide them and you talk to them. You
		
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			help them regulate their emotions.
		
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			So what I'm telling you is important, not
		
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			just in the sense of how we engage
		
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			religion in 2,024,
		
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			but how we engage each other.