Suhaib Webb – HIkam Four Stop Overplanning

Means give yourself a break.

Give yourself

give yourself an opportunity to, like,

to breathe.

To breathe.

Give your spirit

a

break.

He says,

and this is how you can see it

relates to the 4th. He says, give yourself

a break

from constantly

thinking about what happened in the past.

So

my passionate

hem

my passionate drive

did not materialize

in the throughout my life.

I I I asked myself why? Why didn't

God do this? Why this? Why that? Why

this? Why this? Why this? God hates me.

Blah blah blah blah blah blah.

Or the opposite, God did this for me.

I'm so great. I'm so amazing. How many

people have we seen, you know, who think

they have a special relationship with God, and

that special relationship

causes them to fall into a state of

delusion, where they begin to harm people and

harm themselves.

Don't think too much about the past. When

we think about the past, there is an

eda for that, and that is number 1,

if things were difficult, we ask Allah forgive

us Allah give us patience. And if we

think about successes that happened in the past,

Alhamdulillah,

Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah,

SubhanAllah.

So

we we we greet the past not with

not in a way that destroys us and

wrecks us and causes anxiety

and stress,

but we meet it with dhikr and fiqh

for Allah.

And what he's getting at here in this

5th hikm

is anxiety.

And anxiety is a monster, man,

and depression. And we know that if these

are clinical needs is perfectly acceptable.

One time a person came to me and

she said the imam told her, he wasn't

an imam, actually was like a content provider.

Provider. We have a lot of people out

there giving content that have no training, and

you can find them how I trace them

is I see that the bodies they've left

in the way of bad answers

and bad advice

and bad treatment.

Whereas if perhaps she had gone to a

qualified imam, maybe the answer would have been

different.

But subhanAllah, she said to me, she went

to a content provider and asked that person

like why am I suffering through depression and

she was told because your iman is weak.

I told her go back to that person,

cut him in the face. And as he

starts to bleed, say, hey, man. You're bleeding

because your iman is weak. Does that hurt?

Well, you hurt because your iman is is

is weak. This This is nonsense. It has

nothing to do with the iman.

Has nothing to do with iman. So if

it's clinical, you Ibarit Tataawi, the prophet said,

Oh, servants of Allah, seek remedies.

It's okay to go and try to find

help, man. It's okay to go to therapy.

There's nothing wrong with that. Alhamdulillah.

So he says, arikhnasakamina

tadbiri, but here he means when it's not

reaching a state where it's, you know,

becoming counterproductive

and it's wrestling me from functioning as a

person. What he means here is like the

normal kind of struggles we have sometimes with

thinking about the past. He says give yourself

a break from that.

Because what?

What was established for you?

What was furnished for you? What was given

to you to help you function in life?

On your behalf.

You can have done it for yourself anyways.

So one thing we can think about is

if you go back and you realize like

there's no way I could have done any

of this. There's no way that I had

any real control over this. This is from

a superior power. So I take it to

Allah, and at that moment, I greet

difficulties and precede failures

with a trust in Allah's wisdom and knowledge,

and I greet, perceive success

with sugar. That's why the prophet

said,

I'm amazed at the affair of the believer.

Both the the affairs of the believer are

always good. If he or she is inflicted

with a hardship, they're patient. That's good for

them. And if they are blessed, they are

thankful, and that's good for them. So, masha'Allah,

the 4th 5th hikm, we want to look

at them together.

Your your competitive passions cannot pierce the fortress

of Qadr.

And then

give yourself a break from thinking about the

past. Don't let it cause you to fall

into depression or giving a hope up hope

in Allah.

Because what was established for you on your

behalf,

You couldn't have done it for yourself.