Suhaib Webb – Heavy Rotation- Explanation Of The 111th Chapter of the Quraan – Dealing With Family
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LW seminar Lumina shaytani R rajim Bismillah R Rahman Rahim
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala Sayyidina
Muhammad
Kadima MBE, or more saline Allah early he was at he a Jemaine, we
praise Allah subhanaw taala we send peace and blessings upon, I
believe a prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his
family, his companions, and those who follow them until the end of
time as salaam aleikum to everybody, it's nice to be here
and to see everybody hamdulillah back again, as we continue our
journey through these last few chapters of the Quran. And we
said, like, there were a number of goals we mentioned in the very
beginning. And one of them was to be able to develop like,
an intimacy with the Quran that will animate our worship, and
bring about like a sense of meaning, or spice, if you will,
to our prayers, to the things that we engage in on the regular
reach now the 111 chapter, next week, the next three weeks,
basically, I'm going to be out of town overseas, and then we will
finish the last few chapters when I returned, like around the last
week, I think our last two weeks of August, August insha, Allah so
this chapter is a second chapter it was sent.
Because of an incident, according to many that happened with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. Last week, we talked about
how one of the things that we learned is to utilize resources,
and that we should not use religion as an excuse not to work
hard, actually, you know, when we work hard, that's when we
actually, ideally, working hard leads us to uncover our
deficiencies.
That that should be the outcome. Like when I pushed myself when I
tried to do something, and I might even develop qualities of
excellence in doing it, then I realized, like the shortcomings
that I have are much more apparent to me, like why I'm not able to
completely push through, is because oh, I actually have these
deficiencies that I would have never known unless I had tried.
That's why they say that the Raji the one that has hope. And Allah
has two qualities. Number one, the one that has hope, and Allah puts
forth maximum effort.
And then in putting for that effort, it becomes apparent to
them they become sort of like their own auditor. They do
reconnaissance of themselves. They take inventory. Oh, here's
actually where I'm not as good as maybe I thought I was in my mind.
Oh, here's maybe where I need help. Or here's maybe where their
shortcomings. So they say, some teachers, that Raji the one that
has hope and God is the one that puts forth maximum effort, but
couples that with a tail off and admittance of like, Oh, here's
where my shortcomings are. So that's where the hope comes.
Because without recognition of shortcomings, what's my hope? And
so this chapter
reminds us of an incident that we talked about last week where the
prophet peace be upon him, went to spread the message, for the first
time will endure Ashleigh tickle carabin.
The Quran commands him to warn his family to warn those tribes close
to him. And when he ascends the small hill of Safa Mecca,
utilizing the best resources available, putting forth the
maximum effort of the one that has hope.
His own uncle,
Abdullah Reza,
even Abdulmutallab.
Even Hashem is the One that like brutally starts to try to attack.
So there's another lesson we learn here
that everyone has enemies,
even prophets like no one's that special.
The sixth chapter of the Quran says And We made for every prophet
I do where an enemy
because like the truth will meet adversity.
The truth will run into like its opposition.
So His own uncle after the Prophet since the small hill that maybe
some of you've been to a few then Omar or Hutch
and then he said to the people, if I were to tell you that there was
Army at the mountain, like the mountain pass coming into Mecca,
would you believe me? Yeah, absolutely. We will believe you
because character really use your capital. You have to be Amin
before you can be an OB. Like we have to be trusted before we can
be prophets prophetically in office, the office that we hold,
which is a prophetic office
So people don't trust us. They're not going to like, take religion
from someone they don't trust.
So they said absolutely like, of course. And he said, Well, I am an
atheist.
I am a warner to you
about the impending they have judgment.
And immediately his uncle responds and he was like, This is why you
called us here.
And then he began to ridicule him. Some narrations say that he began
to pelt him with stones
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and from that point onward, he and his
wife own Jamil Ben Taub, who is the sister of Abu Sophia.
She's from Benny Omiya.
Begin to wreak havoc on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam and his companions
and his fledgling community, we could think about it as like they,
you know, inhibited their religious freedoms.
And they ridiculed them publicly and slandered them. In particular,
she would put like thorns and like obstacles in the path of the
Prophet sallallahu sallam, and some of his companions.
This chapter comes about his uncle, like, imagine how difficult
it would be to like drop a mixtape dissing your uncle, you know, or
like, putting out something that like, tore your family to pieces,
because this is what this chapter does. So in many ways, this
chapter is a reminder of the fidelity of the Prophet
sallallahu. Some that even his job is to be just with everybody, even
his family, Nobody will escape. And so that's why this chapter
really embodies the verse where Allah says, You are a mercy to all
people, even your family, you are Warner, you are bringing our glad
tidings. It's not like a special group here. There's a special
group here, there's a special group here.
Everybody is responsible, who receives the message of the
messenger of allah sallallahu. It was.
Another lesson that we take from this that's important is how do we
talk to our family about our new faith?
That's the theme, another theme of the chapter that we shouldn't
neglect you know, every five minutes on Tik Tok, you see some
young person crying. You know, I just told my dad, I became Muslim.
I just told my mom, I became Muslim. You see it on social
media, people contact me regularly, or send me small clips
of people who are like really emotional. So there are a few
things we can take before we get into the chapter about how do you
share your new faith with your family.
And I'm someone who lived that. And I did it the worst way
possible. So because I did it the worst way possible. If I think
about the opposites, then there's probably going to be something
good. Because I told my parents at the Thanksgiving Day table, which
is like, that's not a good movement with my brother's future
wife, like her first time she ever visited our house. Yeah, Guess
Who's Coming to Dinner? Right? So number one is you don't have to
tell your family.
And the reason that you don't have to tell your family is that Islam
looks at everything from the perspective of harm and benefit.
Even Dawa.
So like sometimes, you may,
like see people, they're calling people to the truth, and you know,
like, what they're seeing is truthful, but it's causing a lot
of harm, like maybe the way they're saying it, or maybe you
know that that person isn't ready for that yet. It may be too
distilled.
So like when those people came to the prophets of Allah, what do you
sell them?
And
so I go, and they said to him, you know, like, we'll become Muslim.
But like, we're not going to make jihad and we're not going to pay
Sitka. And this was in Medina.
And some of the other companions became frustrated with this kind
of conditional embrace of Islam, you know, but he said like leave
them alone.
This is mentioned by Imam even cathedra will be die when you hire
like lead EMA and grow in in these people and give them time. We see
it in the beginning of the 49 chapter of the Quran when Abu Bakr
and Omar arguing in front of the Prophet peace be upon him.
And Allah subhanaw taala says to them, like if you don't stop this
and Bata Ahmed Okuma and two letter Sharon, all your good is
cancelled, because Abu Bakr and Omar are first round draft picks
right? They've been Muslim for a long time, like they have little
soup of Islam. But in the same chapter two verses later, those
bedouins who just embraced Islam are yelling in front of the
prophets. How's it
In the middle of the night you now do not come in water her gerat at
federal hula Yochanan they don't know yet they're new Muslims. So
what does Allah say? Allahu Allah for Rahim
about them Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. Why? Because the level
of knowledge and understanding of Abu Bakr and Omar is much more
mature than those new Muslims. And here we take an important point
the move d deals with people differently. That's why just to
read from the book of your meth head for everybody without
thinking is a disaster. But you need to make sure that you look at
a patient you understand the patient before you just give an
answer to them. So the same sin in the fortnight chapter of the Quran
happens, raising their voices in front of the Prophet.
But the punishment is different because the people are different.
So now if you're going to share like Islam, with your family, you
need to make sure that it's gonna lead to something better. You
could also ask yourself, like if hiding it may eventually also
cause more of a problem like oh, you hid it from us for years, you
know, how can you have told us this? But that's only you can make
this decision by the way, trust yourself more than the shack
online more than you know your parents, you know your spouse, you
know your kids better than everyone else.
And we need to encourage people to make these decisions like in an
informed way they're the most informed about it.
And then we have a very important axiom Mr. Bill Maher of Bill Maher
of meaning like if you call too good it should lead to do
so when you see people going too hard on people on social media and
you want to like this is too much or like this is not going to help
people. Exactly it's common sense. Well, it's the hack Yeah, if I
make the best freakin biryani in the world and shove it in your
face you're gonna like it or if like you know we put the orange on
the rice and like serve it nicely put the syrup on the on the bus
BUSA now you're gonna like it, just shove it in your face. Well,
the same thing happens with Huck. That's why we find a lot of people
oftentimes may even be rebellious against religion, who have very
religious parents.
Because it was it was forced, it wasn't he died, it is a gift from
Hadiya. It wasn't gifted it was it was forced on them.
So when you push in and thinking about telling your parents or your
spouse, or your partner, whoever, you have to think about the optics
of the ultimate long term benefit.
And you ask Allah to give you wisdom, right? In that situation.
Number two is choose the right time to tell people.
So there's different ways you can do this, you may want to let them
know before either like by writing a letter to them, or like some
type of means of communication, letting them know, hey, there's
something really serious, I want to talk to you about so they're
not just walking in, and you're like, hey, guess what? I'm Team
crescent. It's been real peace out. That's what I did. That's not
a good thing. It like freaks them out, right? Because they get
concerned.
The second thing is, the third thing is prepare. So even
consider, like writing down a script, like, what are you going
to say?
Edit your thoughts. Don't just go with your gut telling you it's
always a disaster. But like, have some bullet points. You don't
wanna give a speech, either you don't like sitting there like
giving a talk, right? But you want to be able to hit at least four or
five key issues.
Number one is like what encouraged you to embrace Islam? Like,
they're gonna want to know?
Why did you embrace Islam? I remember my mother, the first
thing she said, how can you do this to Jesus as the first thing
she said, and the second thing she said to me was, it's just a phase.
I was just turned 20, right. She's like, it's just a phase. I was
like, No, it's not. She's like, you haven't lived long enough to
have a phase. You know, moms, moms can shut you down, right? I was
like, No, I had a small phases. But
the point is, like you need to have, you know, you don't need to
give a long speech, but you want to be able to say, you know, this
is what motivated them. My father is like, what's her name?
What's that girl's name? I was like, No, I did this regard.
Right? Like, I'm not I'm not up to something like, you know, although
that's not a problem as we talked about before, but that wasn't why
I had become Muslim. It became awesome for other reasons.
The third thing is you want to try to avoid getting into an argument
the first time
so my, my family, you know, we're like, animated understandably. So
at Thanksgiving, there's a big ham. My mom was trying to make me
eat it. I was like, I don't eat pork. And I was trying to be nice
about it. Like I don't eat pork and only pork. I should be like
I'm vegan, but it was the 90s there was no vegans yet. So I was
just like, Yeah, I don't eat pork and then my dad was like tongue
but that Mohammed garbage. I was like, I am Muslim. Like I went
full gnaws on him, like just drop the bars just animated and angry,
you know? And then that was the worst thing I probably could have
done. It took me five
Here's to fix this, like five to six years to fix the damage I did.
And that is this girl from Abilene, Texas. My fault my
brother's fiancee, he's like,
probably, you know, just never seen much in her life. And she was
just like, my god, like, you're very interesting family. You know,
it's like really interesting, you know?
But my father started going in on me, so I was just like, I've met
DDOT said this and I'm gonna DDOT said that and I'm Adidas said
this. I just started using like, any political information I had in
mind, the Bible was written by white dudes, King James wasn't
even disciple, you know, I'm going hard. And my parents were like,
will this just happen now? Like over ham, like over ham, right?
You just right? And I was like, no, no, I've been doing this for
like four years, like you never told us and that I did that,
right. So you want to choose the right time, and you want to think
about preparing them for the moment. The other thing is have
resources ready. And communities need to do a better job of this
like, so when I was an Imam, we actually had a program every twice
every month for people and their parents, or in their spouses or
their partner or whoever, who want to be Muslim. And they would take
a class together, or at least they could come and ask questions. And
honestly, sometimes we got really offensive questions, but you got
to take it to the job because you're playing chess, not checkers
here, because you have this new person, and you have their family,
or whoever in their life. So people were like, are they a
member of a cult now? Like, people would ask me this question. And I
was like, No, we're like, we're not a cult. You know, like, we're
not, don't worry, you can, you can come anytime doors are open.
There, they really had some weird ideas about who we are what we do,
there? Is my kid gonna join a terrorist organization? You know,
all kinds of crazy questions, man. Are they at the center of it was
that will they still love me, right? That you want to get to the
it's like, they still love you. They're still there for you. And
that's the last point I'll make is make sure that they know your
relationship actually can become better.
Because like, we respect our parents, we respect our family.
We're very family oriented. That's something that's like sacred for
us. It's like soprano esque. No offense, like we're very, like
invested in what family should mean to us. So I think it's good
to show them there's like a value.
And all of this. And the best example you can find in a general
way, not necessarily explicitly is this example of Prophet Ibrahim
and the 19 chapter of the Quran like verses 45 to 50. You know,
more or less as what's called a Phil kitab. Ibrahim like mentioned
the story of Abraham, how he was honest. And a prophet is part of
the abbey equity. So even the way he talks to his father, he doesn't
say yeah, it'd be He says, Yeah, but he evety is like Pooky Lili,
like like, she's ILF I Lulu. Lulu, like it's a term of love. So ever
T has that feeling. He doesn't say like, Dad, you know? No, I'm a
prophet. He's like my dear father. abiti, like a term of endearment.
So we see how he addresses his father.
The other thing that he does is he shows him the value of Islam. He
says that to me and me Melania teak. I learned something, you
know, no, he's not saying it in an arrogant way. You saying like, I'm
a prophet like Islam did something for me.
Right? Islam helped me it brought good to me. I gain something out
of it. But to be funny, so follow me.
So one thing I heard from Shiva has in the middle, he's a great
Indian scholar who died years ago, was like how Abraham when he
talked to his father? He seems like there's value in this for me.
Like it's made me a better son. It's made me a better person made
me a better human being. It's not just a Muslim.
I always appreciate the line. Um, that generation Tupac, you muslim
now, no more dope game. Right? I always loved that line. Because
I'm like, actually, I know people who that was their life.
They were most of my best friend. The day before. Like the night he
became Muslim. He pulls out a big 20 bag of weed in his pocket.
We're in the restroom and that masala he's like, man, you think
we can just like I was like, No, bro. Like, you're Muslim. Now, no
more dope game. And he flushed it down the toilet. We cried off
real. But like,
everybody has their own challenges.
First chocolate tie. But the point was like he, I've seen that
transformation. And that's something we have to be very
careful. I talk about like the neoliberal and neoconservative.
I'm, I'm orthodox left on or whatever that means. But when we
allow political nomenclature to sort of replace in certain areas
to contours of theological nomenclature, we have no Malcolm
left.
We just have a cold place with no redemption.
Whereas here, you know, even with his own father, after all he did
to him.
You know, he shows him there's like value in this man. Like, I'm
a better son. I'm a better person. It's located me
differently. So important. I remember when I did really well,
my senior year in college, and my mother was like, it's because he
memorizes that Qur'an. The Qur'an has helped his mind, you know, so
she was able, I was like, it's right to find some value. Because
oftentimes, you want to remember this, especially if you're new
Muslim. It's not the allergy that your parents want, or your spouse
wants, or your partner wants, they just want to see you better.
So sometimes seeing you better is the greatest sort of motivation
for them to appreciate and accept you than just telling them like,
you know, we believe 20 thinks about God, he thinks about
profits, we believe in heaven and *, like that. Not that isn't
maybe not what they my mother did not care about that stuff.
But my mother did come to me and say, You're Hello, your family
goes to my church. But you go to the mosque. It's crazy. The mosque
I grew up in is across the street from my parents church, like less
than half a mile away, you can see almost see them then that time.
And she told me about you go to the mosque, but you treat me
better than the people go to my church. Like that's what you want.
You want to show value
doesn't just need to be like empty words.
The last thing you need a strong supporting group to help you man.
So it's good to be around fellow New Muslims, because they're going
to share stories with you, they're going to share best practices with
you.
You're going to need some support. And the last sorry, is you got to
be patient man.
It's a long road look at it as a process, not an event. Conversion
is the event. But the life of a Muslim as a process as the
constant commitment to becoming better.
So I worried people look at Islam as events, I'm gonna go to this
conference and be like the greatest Muslim in the world. No,
you're not gonna go to OMA, like, fix my marriage and all my kids.
You might, you might have like a platonic shift here in it.
But like it's a process as long as it took you to mess things up. It
usually takes you to fix it or even longer.
And stop following these young people online or old people online
who seem to be morally compromised. And I'll just leave
it at that. The secret marriages, the temporary marriages, what does
that have to do with Dawa? Everyone knows that what it is? Go
to the bar bro, not to minbar.
Like, why? Why are you using the mimbar for that? No, honestly,
right? You're going to be a player be a player where players go
but just because you have your handsome or your whatever, and you
got some nice filters and you can tell some stories about Dean
that's an Amana Allah subhanaw taala will punish you for this.
And we're seeing now unfortunately, with a younger
generation Z.
A lot of messages like now weekly about some shenanigans and then
you ask like, Does the person have any training? No, but they just
sound cool.
Like, Mike, I'm gonna go to a cardiologist who sounds cool,
right? I'm not gonna go to a trainer who sounds cool, like be
someone of discernment. But especially when you're a new
Muslim I remember you just ready to take it from anybody. And we
trust all Muslims. I think I told you guys the story. My first
Ramadan you know, I went every night for Iftar was by my
university cross street from my mother's church. Go there have
Iftar spices food I ever had in my life. Al Hamdulillah broke me in
the first year Kima and aliou parotta and chicken Karachi. And
it was just like after the first week it was a rat man. And
I remember after eat, I came to the masjid on from Maghrib the day
after eat and no one was there.
And I said to myself, Oh, they must have gone to the other
mosque.
Like how innocent I was, oh everyone they must be praying to
somewhere else today like they're not here. They went to a different
message then I realized it's just me bro. So we have sort of an
unhealthy I think when people before they become awesome,
someone should talk with them and help that like Muslims or people.
Right, but have realistic expectations of people.
So the Prophet in this section, he dealing with family members who
are some of his greatest enemies, and they ridiculed Him. They tried
to limit his ability to practice religion publicly, as well as even
privately and they harassed him not only verbally but physically.
So it begins and this surah is Harshman. I'm just gonna let you
know. It's harsh. You may lose it in translation. Tibet to be a
heavy water, tap by means a lack to be destroyed.
They say Sheva tabber about no offense, anyone's just language. A
very young woman is Shabba an old woman who's about to die they say
10
Abba from the same word in her life.
So if you speak Arabic, I'm not gonna say it, but you know what
that word means in slang? Right? So it's up to Bettiah. That means
destroyed it's in the past tense. So we've talked about this so many
times who remembers why the past tenses used to show what?
hookah remember who's been coming? Yeah.
The past tense is used to show like,
it's already done, man. Because Abu Lahab still there.
Like, imagine someone telling you, it's over for you in the past
tense. Like, I'm here. No, I'm good. No, no, God said you're
done.
So that's the vibe Tibet here. They're made their hands of Abby
Lahab. Why his hands because this is something we should think
about. If we use any part of our body for wrong, we may be held
accountable for Allah protect us.
And he used his hands to throw stones at the messenger of allah
sallallahu sallam.
And also, there's an opinion that usually when people do harm, it's
interesting now if think about what's going on in the world,
like, usually it's their hand and their speech.
As well the Hadith of the Prophet he said, you know, the Muslim is
the one who protects others from his hand or his tongue doesn't
mean you can go kick people. But what's usually used to hurt people
is our communication or our hands.
So Tibet to det be that had been his name was Abdullah, Rosa,
slaver. verza, who was one of the gods that they used to worship.
There's three opinions about his name number one is he had like
really really bright red hair
and they also say like he had a very shiny face not like Nord,
like wow, you know, just like sort of like a shea butter shine maybe
wasn't like real.
And he so they called him Abu Lahab that's one opinion. So
people that was his nickname was Abdullah hub, like as a as a way
to recognize his unique look.
The other opinion
is that Ebola have actually there's there's the Ebola because
this is a possessive was Kamala homophony
which is used at time to show something is integral to who you
are.
Like Abdullah, constantly the servant of God, Baitullah the
masjid is the house of Gods always the house of God. So Ebola hub,
like, he's always gonna be the father of fire, meaning *. So
here, it's like, it's a pejorative.
Here, he's catching it, like, we're not going to so we have
Shamy him because in their time, the Konya, which is dislike father
of mother of sort of usage was often used as a way of praising
someone. So you'd be like Apple safe, you know, father of the
sword, right? But he's Abu Lahab father and fiery father of *,
right. So it's a way of sort of
lowering his standards, if you will, and attacking him. The other
is interesting, a Razzie says that, you know, Allah is teaching
us like it's not good to mention Shere Khan. So Tibet tea that
Abdullah rose like it's not nice Abdullah Riza so Abdullah instead
of saying Abdullah is slave a ver is this false god. Allah subhanaw
taala said Abdullah hub like out of edit out of etiquette
but here we see something restricted the first verse right
Tibet to
be EULA Have you what hap there's another character but here there
be left being with sukoon on that will Jaffa and Madani Tibet same
meaning Tibet here,
we do a tap, or Lahab as you read it, but painted something funny,
right and funny. If we think about making fun of him because of who
he was, but sort of scary for us also, that his hands are
destroyed. What tab and then at the end of the verse is like and
destroyed. But there's no object
as if to say, his hands and everything.
Why are his hands mentioned in a specific way and here we can think
about abusers who use their hands. Do you not fear Allah subhana wa
Taala that your hands will be punished you will be punished for
how you use your hands how you treated people.
But maybe also someone said oh only his hands are going to be
destroyed. What?
And here the object is not mentioned to show everything.
You can use this to praise someone you can use this to attack someone
in Arabic to hide the object. For example, now what dakara bucola
malerkotla is one Malka laka
On our corner, your Lord has not left you nor does he hate this is
a hate you because Allah will never say he hates the Prophet
even to teach Subhan Allah. So here we see the MACOM of the
Prophet salallahu Salam, the status of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam Mayor what? Dhaka Okay, you want to book our
malerkotla Don't say colloca. So sometimes it's used to show like
something nice, but in this case to bet here the villa view where
tab a tab cushy,
nothing's gonna escape. Everything will be held accountable.
There's a poem, I don't want to make it too complicated old Arabic
poem he says just jazz any jazz Allahu shelterlogic ze Giselle
Keylab
was at work at
this guy. He was in a poetic battle with some person maybe back
in the desert in the days and he said he awarded me means like, the
poem that he made to attack him He rewarded me with that poem, he's,
of course this is like bravado. May Allah reward him with the
worst of His rewards the rewards of the Howling Dog and did he
translate literally what the island he thought hola Kula che,
meaning allow reward him with all evil, everything bad.
So here, the same thing and this sort of verse Tibet to
be la heaven. What a cushy.
We learned like you know,
to be respectful with the sacred
to respect the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and
that's why think about we said earlier with our non Muslim
friends or family whoever partners we embrace Islam. It's wise not to
put them in a position where they say something bad about Allah, bad
about the Messenger of Allah maybe that will bring misguidance to
their heart man. What at the symbol livina Yeah, they're older
men do Nila very Subala I don't be ready in Quran says Don't insult
their gods because they will insult Allah they insult Allah
it's worse for them. But keep them closer hamdulillah
Masha Allah now and Hamid Oh, who am I? So maybe somebody asked what
happened to Ebola hub? You know, always people always ask what
happened to the cause he kind of disappears after brother because
he died after brother seven days after the Battle of butter, he
died. He died of a plague.
And his death was harsh man. You know,
they abandoned him for three days because they were worried that
people of Mecca that whatever you had was contagious. So he died
alone. And they actually had to pay some poor people to bury him.
And you know, of course he had decomposed. He had a son Urdhva,
who also used to attack the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, he was so harsh on the Messenger of Allah, that the
Prophet made to us Salat Allahu Allah, he killed them in cul de
sac. So it's like, this is not your interfaith sort of stuff,
man. It's like May Allah subhanaw taala send one of his dogs to
attack him.
And then we learned something right? People ask all the time,
like I get this question can I make dua for or against?
Like people write in mama Behati we don't have 12 years to study
Behati here but if we did, there's a great
secret of the of the Hadees text that in his headings are sort of
allusions to his his points for the Hadith like what's the wisdom
about this hadith? Why did I put this hadith here? Well, the
chapter title is giving you like a secret. So if you go to Sahadi
you'll find that chapter making dua against the disbelievers. So
like if you look at that chapter, close the book hulless I remember
my my fifth year as a Muslim there was a man leading totally and I
understood Arabic then hamdulillah from our teacher from West Africa
who taught me and so he was making this dua against disbelievers I'm
like man my family brawling I have family out here he's like you know
sin stones on them and reign of fire and my man was going too hard
it was the 90s before 911 Do I was hot right? So I actually said
because I'm of the position you can talk and I said oh hey dad
home
or guide them like Subhanallah Ramana he didn't he didn't destroy
them or Salon de mujer Ottoman Sergio who home like a home well
hospital oh me
so your guide them and my mom. Right then afterwards he's like,
Well, I am so sorry man. Like I ain't from here. I was like, bro
like that dua bro like I get it you upset Hey, handle your
business. I don't know what's going on at home. Hey, God bless
man. But
you can also make dua for them. So in Guwahati as the section praying
against then right after that, the next chapter is what praying for
for
praying for those people, for
enemies or attacking you, disbelievers. You name it.
So we see the balance. But actually Ebola had son Earth but
he was eaten by a lion. That actually happened on the way to
Shem. He
was on one of the
business trips we talked about in Soto Quraysh. And if Tara Sue
acid,
he was eaten by lions, so Ebola he died, you know,
seven days after Bugaloo say around seven days after brother,
his wife we'll talk about in a second, there's different
narrations of how she died. But his son died in Mecca in the
Meccan period. He was eaten by a lion We ask Allah Tada blavia And
give us mahatma.
He says man, Elena and Homer Lou, who am I Kassab? This Mac could
have a number of meanings number one Mac could mean something like
no Mirtha L two.
I didn't do that. But also Matt has a meaning of wonder why mad
Dada come on Korea. Here Matt doesn't mean if he means it's our
job to be an East
one that dot our command center DC? Marcus Alim Monica society
here. Right? You can use matt to mean something like wow. So here
we have two opinions. Number one is Matt and Matt, and I'm whomever
who America says that his wealth and what he earns will not avail
him.
And there's different narrations as to why those who say this is
the meaning is the number one is he what he used to say that, you
know, if if I go to *, I'll buy my way out.
If I go to *, my sons will get me out of *. So my other non
human who are my cousin.
So here cuz it means his kids like what what, you know, his
offspring, so his wealth and his offspring will not available.
That's one interpretation. The other interpretation is, is rooted
in the fact that some historians say he inherited his wealth from
his father. Like he wasn't wealthy. So his man his wealth is
from his dad. And after that he was a businessman cuspal His
earnings. So whatever you inherited, and whatever he earned,
is not going to help.
The other meaning is the same but it's like, like, what of his
wealth and what of his earnings will help him like it's impossible
to add Juppe nothing will save him from whatever Allah has decreed.
There is an opinion and I don't want to make it too philosophical,
but I think it's important because you may hear it a lot.
And that is that some people say this chapter is a proof of Prophet
because Abu Lahab could have just said a shadow Allah ilaha illallah
wa shadow and the Mohammed and Abdullah rasuluh this chapter is a
lie. Because the next verses so Yesler now run that Allah he will
be burned in a fire that's blazing. He could have just said
like Leila hella.
And he would have got esse is not true, I believe. So Mr. Manasseh.
He is a great Hanafi scholar from Santa Monica and he was one of the
great, great thinkers of Islam. He said that that's impossible,
because Allah is not going to Command someone to disbelieve and
command someone to believe at the same time.
I love you Kelly FUBU, Khufu, verbal Eman finesse, saliva can
say to someone like believe disbelief, disbelief, believe. And
hear he makes a very important point
that like to declare someone a non Muslim like, outright, right? It's
not easy.
And Abu Lahab perhaps thought that these simple mistakes, right not,
you know, are not as egregious as they appear to me.
But he said, this has nothing to do with like, you know, him being
commanded to be disbeliever or No, no, he could have believed that
for last month, Allah had willed him to believe he could have
believed.
So the next verses say, Yes, this scene usually it means seen means
like in the future zoodle means like in the future, sometime next
few days, I'm going to visit you will, but in mama hurry to use a
great scholar and he was hilarious to your mama. He wrote a four
volume book just of poetry that has every word of the Koran, just
to teach you how to use it. And it's funny stories. Like hilarious
stuff. He was from Iraq, so he had like a great sense of humor. Very
funny, but he's using Quranic words to teach
He also wrote a very important book I teach it at my school
Mahato era it's a poem about like the language he has a section he
says one of the roles of seen is not just to mean the future but
also a threat this will happen
like if you don't stop this is going to happen. So while the burn
Nick will punish you could also mean the opposite. So a TN Nick
I'm gonna give you so scene has a meaning of a word well worried.
A threat and a promise depending on the context here Sales Law.
Also, yes, let depending how you read it, means he,
he's in trouble.
So not just will, he's threatened with this.
With what now?
If you look at it the word not It's like a It's indefinite. We
talked about this a lot. It doesn't say say Yesler and Nowra
says say US law. Now, Ron. Why? Because like we said a few times
earlier. The indefinite noun is often used to show that something
cannot be limited. And depending on context, that means either it's
an incredible threat or an incredible promise.
So the Prophet Mohammed Salah Hollywood Salama, wanna also NACA
you let our rock matter or rapnet time
or a ton, we did not send you as the mercy. We did not send you as
a mercy because the mercy of the Prophet SAW Allah what He was
Solomon is limitless.
It's like nice. And when Allah talks about the Quran, it is a nor
a Shiva it says no, Ron Shiva own who done he always uses what's
called Nikita Nikita means the indefinite A. But in Arabic, you
lose something sort of an English two pixels change. Because you use
sometimes the indefinite Arabic to show it's unlimited or ambiguity.
So the Quran is known why it's infinite light, you find your
light, I find my light in the Quran.
It's Shiva, it's a healing that they're healing because it's
healing potential is limitless. It can heal doubts, it can heal
desires, it can to heal intellectual issues, it can heal
problems with my faith, it can heal weakness in a bad shift.
And the prophet is raw Ma.
Because we all experienced the beauty of the prophets
personality, suna character, we're all touched by it in different
ways.
alayhi salatu salam but here say elsewhere now on there already at
that time like they were new muscles but they knew what *
was. But as it doesn't say a Nara
the fire says no run.
And this is a threat.
To show like this punishment is indescribable. Unimaginable now
Allah make it easy for everybody that Allah hub and again the word
love that lab also another clearer to show like it's a fire which is
on fire. I talked to you about this before. Like sometimes the
same word is used in different ways to show emphasis Arabic is a
language of emphasis.
So for example in salt the note norrona I don't know light on
light, light on light, like infinite light.
So here the fire is not just to fire it's a blazing fire
it says what to who?
And his wife
something interesting here as a side note, because we have a
little extra time. If you're a lawyer, you might like this. You
mama Sheffy was asked Are there any verses in the Quran that
showed the validity of a marriage between
non Muslims
hypothet hypothetical law because there was a time when the Sharia
was rockin it so hard they could do hypothetical law now we're
catching up like it's all ketchup right this kind of kind of
following what's going on? What's Bitcoin okay this like right and
that's the state also of the broader Muslim world we've been we
see now what happened today in Lebanon it like Subhanallah like,
we have so many challenges. I don't like blaming Muslims for our
problems, man. This is hard to deal with. I lived in the Muslim
world for years. It's a very I don't like it when people here
blame people overseas go live there man. Right go if you're so
big and bad, go over there and do like some egg libertarian lecture
on democracy and like the equalization of the economy and
you know, social stratification. We will never see you again.
We'll see how brave you are buddy. I mean after I gave this speech
last week here people offstage are like I don't know if you should
have said that man. I don't know if you should give him that talk
at the protest here. I was like, why not?
Like so you know, it's easy, but Muslims are incredibly resilient
beautiful people like the stuff we've been through. So incredible
I look in Bangladesh man 170 people with no electricity or no
internet. You know, I talked to last week we did a live young man
from Bangladesh came on he was like they killed 1500 people so
far I shot I saw them shoot a 14 year old. You're like man, and
we're here arguing about like what samosas and you know, like what's
for Iftar mean? It's not fair.
So ask Allah Tala live here.
But say Oslo now and tele Hub One Bora to Mr. Musharraf. He said the
evidence for this is Allah says one more or two who the wife of
ALLAH. So ALLAH, if you think about it, it's interesting. Imam
Shafi uses inference. He says Allah said that that's the wife of
Ebola him so that means their marriage is valid in front of who?
find God.
So that's an evidence here you see the brilliance of Shafi, he's in
front of the law, he's not behind the law, the law is like in front,
right? So he goes and extrapolates one or two who I am Zota to who
his wife Allah calls the wife of Abu Lahab Omen, Jamila his wife,
that means their marriage is valid. It's like a cool thing. You
also said what one would have to figure out and said the wife of
her own.
So just a side note to show you some time scholars, it's cool how
they take stuff from Quran, you know, but the wife of Abu Lahab
also was problem, man, a big problem. She was very difficult to
ant of the Messenger of Allah. And many of us know, it's like I said
before, when you're a new Muslim, and people are like, yeah, so your
parents Muslims, like if you ask me this again? Or is your brother
Muslim? Yes. Like these are the most difficult people to bring
Islam to.
Right? Unfortunately, people think, Oh, that'd be the easiest.
So sometimes kinfolk can be like the most difficult people you have
to deal with. And this is what happens with the profit. Most of
the profits are tested by the family.
As she comes closer, Don't test me. Most of the profits are tested
by their families. Whoever gave her this sugar. She's going to
spend the night with you. hamdulillah tonight, you have a
lot of fun with this. Exactly. So one more or two who his wife, her
marital hottub
Hamill, Mr. Carey
her murder. There's two ways to read this. Awesome. Who you read,
you can just remember awesome Imam, the awesome Imam with
Iranian
who is mad at Tel hottub why it's an object of a verb that's not
mentioned. And the verb is like,
may she be debased? May she be cursed?
Right, may she be belittled.
So that's why in half's if you read this chapter, it's actually
better to say it like this, say alpha now I'm taller, have one
more or two who have Hemera telehealth you should stop there
shall one day we'll have a class and look at but here it's better
to stop because one Murata two goes back to he will be in fire
and his wife will be in fire.
Cursed is she carrying
her having marital health of this word.
The other way to read it is one more or two who had Mariela to ill
health up with Dominic Fattah her mother to her Murata from the
seventh Akira at
the difference doesn't really change. It's just it's an emphasis
on the fact like this is her and his wife and she carries Hopper
like pieces of wood.
Some scholars they said there's different differences of opinion
about Hamada or Hamada, to hottap That's why some of the Sufi they
say is good if you make tawassul as Imam and so he mentions with
the prophets that Allah is um some of those ancient people they used
to make like oh Allah asked you buy the honor of the Prophet and
curse ohm Jamil and they will actually put a hammer that'll
happen in their tawassul against against the wife of Abu Lahab and
then ask Allah subhanaw taala for something as an as mentioned by
Imam thank you by Imam Anna Sufi.
But there are two or three opinions about what it means ham
metal hottub, carrying wood Hopper like pieces of wood,
like almost like Mesquite, wood, wood that burns
Easily.
Number one is that she would put these kinds of pieces of wood in
front of thorns in front of the prophets path in the morning or in
some of the doorways of himself or some of his companions, she would
harass them.
That's why you shouldn't get down to see Islamophobes Carla's
Escalade to give them out Ah hamara Takata
the second meaning is that she also was a slander
and that she would say incredibly bad things about the Prophet
sallallahu sedima about his companions about their allies
about people in the community and about people in general she was
known to have like dissent solid we say like tough tongue. And so
the Arabs used to say in ancient Arabic, somebody who does this
kind of talk is like someone who, you know, ignites fire in the
hearts of people.
So how mad at her mother to hottub she's a fire starter man.
So be careful people out there starting you know fitna between
people making up stories slandering people not we already
talked about when it's allowed to talk about people so we're not
talking about all the time but in general right, just to create
trouble
it's not acceptable yesterday I opened up Facebook which is always
a bad idea.
There's a very old Muslim man I know he's about 80 years old man
he came became Muslim in the nation.
Is this really long?
Post like I haven't seen that kind of post is like 2004 on Facebook,
you know, I was like, Hey, brother wrote it in Linux weekly article.
And it's basically like defending himself against somebody who like
said something about him actually know this man to be like a very,
like good person throughout 40 3040 years.
I just felt sorry for him like why are you having to do this?
I don't even know who it is. But someone's saying things about me
and I feel like I have to clear the air and clear the air but like
I felt like that's how my that'll help
you start fires when people Fiji dia habit only missin. G does her
Nick haberl is a rope. Good. This is a person who used to her and
her husband both thought like our wealth were they're big into that
or money we got going on, you know, where this family with
tremendous wealth. Wealth was used by them. We talked about this and
sort of homage to look down on people social stratification,
economic stratification. So she was someone who was known to wear
like, nice jewelry.
So just as Abu Lahab is sort of like a nickname, which is the
opposite of what he wanted to be right it's not a it's not a nice
nickname. Then instead of being like gold and jewelry, internet
Fiji D her habit Omi method method is anything that you can sort of
like,
turn and sort of, you know, like, almost like, happens to our power
chords all the time.
becomes very curly. something valuable is not something nice,
there's something expensive. So Fiji via hablado main method, she
will have like, says a rope and the translation, but it can be
anything.
Some said would. So she's not gonna be wearing nice jewelry in
*, she's not going to be styling and profiling.
She's going to have the lowest of the low.
We take a quick lesson as we finish from this chapter, that you
know, people are going to be rewarded or punished according to
what they have and how they use it. We talked about this in the
last chapter.
That's why we say ear canal Buddha Wait, yeah, kind of stain, like
help us to use what you've given us for what's right and then
so we'll stop here, we'll take a few minutes, some questions and
sha Allah forgive me have an event at nine o'clock, so I have to
handle that as well. But I don't like to rush out I actually really
enjoy our time together. Well hamdulillah ask Allah to forgive
me for any shortcomings. And we will see you also, again, at the
end in the end of August. And then after that, I think we're going to
start a series like on contemporary issues
that will ask you guys to choose like, what are the things you want
to talk about? What are the things you want to unpack and we'll take
it from there. But if there's any questions or comments, feel free
to to ask now.
Or Salalah
Yes, ma'am.
Considering because, like, you know, this was one of the shortest
ones so it's one of the first that I got right but it's always one of
the ones that I struggled with, like, understanding what should I
be taking away from this message? So I'm really glad we're talking
about it. And I'm just wondering, like, we know, we only had so many
critics and people who were asked him in our community so like, Why
do you think
this way and it's such a like, sharp, critical message. Yeah.
Yeah, I've always thought about that there was I mentioned it in
the beginning, I heard something one time from a teacher that to
show the fidelity, oh man, what's going on here now, to show the
fidelity of the Prophet salallahu sound like His own uncle like of
all people that could have been sort of put on blast and attacked.
So if he weren't to hide or try, if there was any nepotism or
anything, it would definitely be with his family. So one of the
fruit of it is to show like his sincerity, you know, even in the
face of his own family, and we know and salt and he said, Thank
you so much. So beautiful. Wallace has Kurokawa amenable Christy
Shahadat, like stand and truth while forsaken, whether against
yourself or your own children.
So here we see. I mean, if you are around the prophet, and you're
like, man, even his uncle doesn't escape. Kelly, okay, I need to be
I need to take this seriously. And then I think also just the level
of vitriol at that moment in time that his uncle was engaged in was
wasn't simple. He encouraged people to harm him. He was willing
to pay people to harm him. He was lobbying to try to I mean, it
wasn't just making fun of him verbally, right? There was a lot
there to try to harm the prophets, Allah Allah when he was on
this man
I'm kind of confused. Is it okay to make law against people like
non Muslims or for
depends on the context like Prophet Musa. He makes a good
question. Thanks for asking because it gets confusing, right?
That's why Bahati mentioned is both when it's good, when it's not
good.
So like when
hammer to fail comes from Yemen, or dosi when it comes to Mecca,
and he says to the prophesy sudden, like I just made dua, that
Allah will curse my entire village and press like no why. Why would
you do that? He's like, let's make dua and so he said, I made
supplication with the prophet and the prophet Oh Lord, guide those
or Allah bring Islam to dos.
But then here right with the son of Avila, have you make dua
against him Musa makes to Allah and the seventh chapter of the
Quran against Iran. So it's contextual. Because sometimes
making dua against people is therapeutic men. And sometimes
that's all you may have. I may have nothing else.
Right? I may have nothing but my supplication. You can't take that
from me. We saw that with our sister in Chicago with the boiling
water when she prayed to God to protect her from that man. That's
all she had.
So sometimes the prayer is all you have that's all we have, like in
our own tradition, that prayer of the oppressed do I now see all
right, the DA the people are oppressed just as we have the DA
to guide people. Is it a naive way of looking in terms of hoping that
people are not pursuing them or for instance, like to pass on to a
lot of people
that Israel people understand like where they're coming from?
I know it's contextual but there's nothing in no
Absolutely there's nothing within the Sharia to say that
Palestinians are by any means to be blamed for making against
design a psychopath there's
nothing
so we have that balance.
Just like the Muslims who make dua against their leaders, we have
people to oh don't make do against your leaders. Really.
The there are times where you can make dog against your leader times
you shouldn't make it's a it's personal choices, religious
liberty. So we shouldn't like tell anyone like yeah, you're you're
wrong, you're rightly people own their da
we don't need it to be that like intrusive,
or Magdoff which makes it because it's from your heart like if
you're feeling it, I'm feeling it that's what Allah has guided me to
pray for. So in sha Allah there's good in it
and we don't say something is restricted to prophets unless it's
clearly restricted to the prophets like for example marrying more
than for women's like very clear is only for the process never
marry again so I'm very clear on for everyone knows that but it's
never end things ambiguous. We have to be careful not you but
people say oh, that's only for profit. Okay, prove it.
Because the default in all sorts of luck is that wherever the
province did is for us to do
unless it's clearly stated we can
or it's only for us and they can
Yes, sir.
wisdom behind the extremities, tumbles.
And Hamza, you know Hamza is you know, always thought about this
kind of back to assist
This question, you know, that's family man. The prophets family is
very much family, right, Ali Salam, like there's the good,
there's the bad, there's the middle. There's The Quietus.
There's the aggressive person, I always find it remarkable that
what's beautiful about prophets is that the lifes weren't ideal.
If the lights were ideal, then we wouldn't really respect like, we
would respect them. But it wouldn't be so awe inspiring, but
the fact that their lives are like our lives like chaotic, I always
find it funny. You go to conferences and people like
thought Ideal Muslim family, like where do you get where's that?
Adam son killed his brother? No, his son left Islam use of got sold
on eBay by his brothers. Right? Like, I'm just saying, like,
where's the Ideal Muslim family in any of the stories of the
prophets. So there why you tell him listen to be like this. What
we should teach people is how to deal with a fractured dunya that's
built to let you down.
Not to and this is very modernist, right? Like, you know, it's very
Jordan jumping from the free throw line. Right? Everything the
world's great, everything has to be perfect. No, the worlds we try.
Of course, we don't give up. But the world is a place of difficulty
and imbalance and hardship.
Ups and downs and you know, the process, I'm his family.
It's like, I like my family, man. So interesting.
And so I always thought that like the sort of
thing, just add, just keep going. It's amazing.
Like that right now. Right? I gotta be daddy right now. So like,
that's life. And I also worry if we're at religious seminaries,
we're not preparing religious educators for life.
So they go into a community that's very much in flux all the time.
They're not going to be ready for that.
So I think also, in some ways, his family members are preparing him
for what's waiting. Outside of his family, you're gonna find great
enemies, great supporters, great lovers, great haters, you're gonna
find hypocrites, you're gonna find everything.
So I think it's just a natural outcome of modeling real, real
public work.
Take few more questions.
Don't Pilates? Yes, ma'am. Yes. Okay. I don't know if I know how
to work with questions. So just bear with me. But I really
appreciated what you said about acknowledgement of difference in
situations in the beginning. And I think I tried to.
Like there's tension when eating something become more religious or
like how that's perceived to your family. And I was wondering if
there are metrics you can use when there's something that's been fun,
for example, work a job for brain.
And that is not perceived positively within a community or
whether it's like you're interested.
If there's ways in which you can make, do you consider physical
safety, emotional safety
standards, I think I'd have a hard time when I'm weighing something
that I thought would impact Nokia or what I consider to be.
Yeah.
You're not the first to sort of mentioned this, right?
I've even seen it among spouses.
Somebody gets more religious than the other. So it's important to
try to grow together as best we can.
Communication sort of like where are you? Where am I? So it's not
like, oh, I watch this YouTube video. And I'm like, shuffling
Islam. That person is watching Game of Thrones, you're arguing
about what's the throne of God?
I guess, two very different dynamics, right, it's going to
create problems. So communication, I think, anything that's going to
create, like more damage, that
you're not going to that person is not going to be able to handle
then that has to be dosed. So like, for example, stuff like
physical abuse.
My concern when I became Muslim was financial, I'll get kicked out
of my house.
Right, that was just freshman and sophomore in college or something,
right? Terrified, right, like so I had to dose and Muslims will tell
you like, oh, no, you go hard. Okay, go give me a job. You'll
give me a house. No, like then leave people don't own right. So I
think you have to negotiate. You have to negotiate it in a way
until you have enough power where you can make certain decisions and
it doesn't have that negative impact. So you want to see it like
Harm, benefit, Harm, benefit the harms here in the benefits here. I
want to slowly get to where
it's like not here No. Should be like this. Right? Here's the
benefit. Here's the harm
for yourself first and
And then you know what I mean? Is if it's like harm benefit,
it's not a smart move.
So I would suggest taking time and then secondly is like parents are
hard man, you know, especially what I've noticed with people that
are born Muslim is even more difficult because the parents like
I was born Muslim, like, you know, we had a shareholder Islam on our
family 40 years ago. And, like me, it's easy. My parents are not
Muslims. I'm like, Yeah, even Muslim, right, so they can't
really tell me about Islam.
So that takes time. And there may be a point where he just like, you
know, what, let's start a Hindu. And we'll say to, like, you're not
in charge of them. And that's hard for parents to realize, too, once
their children are adults, what you know, you can't force them,
you can encourage them, I'm gonna shut I'm gonna cut them off, or
you can cut them off, or they're gonna be exposed to now like,
like, you can't, that's not a healthy thing. Either, they're
gonna look for a supporting structure somewhere else, like,
that's just gonna happen. So you've got to be wise man and
measure it in a way where you affirm because I know how this
plays like, especially as a woman,
it's very important that you make your own decisions, and you're not
being forced to do something. And you know what I'm sort of getting
at.
At the same time, you want to do that in a way that doesn't destroy
your relationships. So I think finding the unique balance between
being the authentic you
without creating chaos, but also not letting people feel that they
can manipulate you manipulate you manipulate you, even if it's your
family.
Right, so over time, you want to build enough, kind of like the
horse that's just born trying to stand kind of like wobbly, you
want to be like this.
For anyone else has any thoughts. I mean, I'm just thinking of it my
own perspective. But
these are very real issues. Religiosity sometimes can be
seen as a threat. And also you want to take it, you want to make
sure you're in touch with scholars scholarship, you may hear
something that may be wrong, someone may tell you something,
thank you so much, Habib T, someone may tell you something's
wrong. So you want to be very careful with kind of how you push
into your family.
You know, I have a rule, even my non Muslim family, like, I'm just
Willman
I don't do anything crazy. I don't do anything wrong, but I'm not
like they're in that space in that way. And that actually allowed
them to start to ask me more questions than when I was like,
overtly sort of Islamic.
They felt more safe. So then they start to ask questions.
Yes, Sarah.
One, follow up to the beginning of this lecture, you talked about the
quality of the Roger being as someone who recognizes their own
deficiencies, and that ties into like, the capacity to have hope.
Can you tie that together? For me? I didn't really understand it.
Yeah, because the first condition of the logic is someone who, who
actually tries to the best of their ability. And my own
experience is when I've very rarely done this, when I push
myself to my full potential, then my actual shortcomings, real
shortcomings become more apparent to me than the delusion of like,
yeah, man, in my mind, I'm doing it in my mind. I'm doing it right.
So what I've noticed that like, when I really push myself, then
I'm able to make an honest assessment of things I need to
work on. And then that leads to real hope. Yeah, Allah, I need
your help from this. Like, these are these shortcomings I really
have. It's not delusion. Because we know we live in a world where
most people just dream and talk about what they want to do. They
don't push themselves.
I love what Malcolm said. Malcolm said, How many people in the
streets could be like CEOs and mathematicians that opportunity,
right? But how many people also could be something if they
actually push themselves a little bit?
But that uncomfortability most people are scared to
push into.
I think a good quote is like, I think it was Jordan or someone.
They asked like, how would you how did you think 22,000 point shots
he made or something I forgot. Sorry, to give this example, but I
think it fits in there. Like how did you how did you make like
22,000 shots? Like I missed 200,000 shots. So I was like, in
that effort, my true shortcomings came out. You know? So that's,
that's why they say like, the one that has hope is the person like
yeah, I'm really trying to be as good as I can. I'm putting myself
into position to be a better person, like you're talking about
now. But like, there may be limitations beyond Me too.
Right? So but I know I'm putting my that becomes honest now. Like I
put forth my best effort, but my family's or my boss or whoever is
like they're an impediment to this, my spouse, whatever. Right?
So now, I have to trust in Allah about this. Almost like Equitana
processes uncle like he does
As his best he does everything he does by law says laser laser
alaka. Who down you can guide him? So who do you Who does he now
hoping to guide? Allah.
So the irony of putting forth effort and trying really hard is
we are then able to honestly assess where our true shortcomings
are. And then that's where we put hope, rightfully so. Because I
know I can't do this. Because I tried my best, like, I'm limited.
And if it's something realistic, or it's not like I'm going to get
a vertical jump to Saturn or some weird stuff like that, I leave my
hotel and I keep trying to make Can you
see what I'm saying? So the hope comes with effort. That's why the
last verse of the 18th chapter of the Quran says, For the uncanny
your Giulia Arabi, whoever hopes in meaning ALLAH fell Yama then
work.
Not failure to ml not dream,
Eva,
but let them work.
Yes, ma'am.
question like,
is that
when the uncle and his wife was abusive? And like?
How does one day like in today's environment when people use our
profit? And like, Sure, we can make the wildlife
or like, Get off, of course.
But some, some countries or some areas like the screen?
You use a restaurant?
How does like if it's one on one, how do you do.
But if it's like in terms of policy or
anything at work, you need to go to HR, right? Something work
related, you want to take it to HR, you don't need to take it on
the jaw, because we take it on the jaw all the time, man.
Especially after 911 We kind of got conditioned.
It's okay. I mean, I've even been in interfaith gatherings where
they're like, oh, they make terrorist jokes. I'm like, What
the heck man like about us?
So I think like in those situations, you should use the
administrative scaffolding, if it's not going to create more
trouble for you. Because we know jobs can be if he thinks, oh, wow,
this was this. Did you write that?
So that's one. Number two is if it's like someone who's really
close to me, I'm going to check them in a way depending on who
they are. Just to say like, Are you really my friend? Like, are
you really, because that hurts me? Like that really hurts me that
damages our relationship? This is a non negotiable for me. And
yeah, you kind of screwed up. I mean, honestly, you know, then
there's the people outside online on Reddit, you know, these people
are just trolls me. I just like block block block block. After
last Wednesday, I blocked like, 5000 people hamdulillah after a
speech,
block block block, you know, I don't have time for it. I don't
like to give people my energy man. Especially as you're older. I
don't have
you know what I mean? Like, I can't even negotiate that here.
Right after? No, I'm saying it's a beautiful thing. Like, my kids can
come and talk to me here. I want it like that. So,
you know, I just don't want those people to be in my orbit.
And they're making a fool out of themselves. Right, then overseas,
I think there has to be much more stringent sort of a process of
like, how things are happening, because oftentimes, the person
hasn't even done anything or said anything. It's not based on
certainty. It's not based on any adjudication. It's just chaos,
right? No, there has to be some like process for this. Right? It
wasn't just like, Yeah, someone we heard someone did this. So they're
in trouble. No, like,
and unfortunately, the system of Islam is not necessarily in play
in these places post colonial society.
Islam since 1955, really in Egypt, when the Sharia court was
destroyed Valldemossa
you don't have like, the I'm not talking about other countries, but
specifically places that I know. You don't have the sophistication
of adjudication that you had before. So it became kind of like
a free for all right, law is left in the hands of people.
Where before like if you go to Cairo, the most majestic building
was the Sharia court like till now.
Doesn't mean I don't want to romanticize it doesn't mean it was
perfect. Doesn't mean everything was great. There's always things
need to be fixed. But there was is
there was a sense of honor there was a system. I mean, just like if
you you know there's a few PhDs done by people at Georgetown on
like, even just a record keeping of these courts, like these were
not there's not chaos wasn't the office with Dwight. Me. It was
like, they kept like very meticulous. That's the sign of a
functioning system. Right everything from the most mundane
like somebody's orchard
That's trampled on by a donkey to, like serious political crime. You
know, things you have like in Palestine in particular. There's a
professor Judith, I forgot her last name in Georgetown. She has
like where like Bedouin Palestinian women were like, I
don't want you to do it on the Hanafi madhhab. I want you to do
it on the hem buddy method to the judge. He's like, can you read
they're like No, but I know the law. Wow. Like what kind of sort
of familiarity they had with like their own rights as women pre
industrial age
that they could argue for comparative law a comparative
legal decision. Even they couldn't read or write.
You change you
it was bought a coffee come since that means definitely is time to
go because that's a sleep close. Well, sal Allahu wa salam ala
Sayyidina Muhammad of Santa Monica.