Suhaib Webb – Finding the Path Part Five The Qualities of Allah’s Friends

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The speakers discuss the importance of prioritizing time and being selfish in order to increase productivity. They share personal experiences of feeling empathy for people who juggle work and have a lot of time to do it. They also discuss the importance of forgiveness and finding a strong supportive cast. The speakers emphasize the importance of finding a stable and rewarding life, finding a strong supportive faith community, finding a strong supportive faith community, finding a stable and rewarding life, finding a strong supportive faith community, and finding a source of spiritual investment. They also discuss the importance of regular engagement in achieving success, herpeering, shepherding, and her emotions. They emphasize the importance of value and respect for time and discuss her actions and traditions.

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			Okay.
		
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			So we were reflecting over the
		
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			powerful speech that we saw last week
		
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			on the water. There's actually a book out
		
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			on that speech too. It's pretty cool. It'd
		
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			be nice if someone like, added like Islamic
		
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			stuff to it.
		
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			And noted how he talked about default mechanisms,
		
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			how people tend to, like, fall into patterns.
		
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			I talk about that a lot in relationships.
		
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			Right? Falling into,
		
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			like, patterns and not being aware of things.
		
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			And then we challenged ourselves to think about,
		
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			like, fall 5
		
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			default patterns, if possible, like maximum.
		
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			It doesn't have to be 5 that we
		
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			could try to identify throughout the week. So
		
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			does anyone have a personal reflection
		
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			or an experience that they wanna share?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So,
		
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			so yesterday,
		
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			I was at Olive Garden,
		
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			and I was picking up for me and
		
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			my siblings. They'd already ordered 1 online. I
		
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			was coming from work today, so I can
		
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			pick it up. And I get to the
		
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			counter, and there were 2 people working, taking
		
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			orders, giving out the orders that were already
		
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			done, but then they're also juggling Uber Eats
		
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			and Yelp and all this other stuff. So
		
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			I was getting really frustrated with it because
		
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			it took them 40 minutes to get me
		
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			my stuff, and it turned out that most
		
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			of it was already ready. Oh, wow. Just
		
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			because they couldn't
		
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			finish one thing through because they had to
		
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			stop and pick up an Uber Eats, a
		
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			call, or this or that that. So at
		
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			one point, I had to stop just being
		
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			frustrated that I was taking so long and
		
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			then just feel empathy for these 2 people
		
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			who are juggling the job of, like, 4
		
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			people and doing it just by themselves. Plus,
		
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			the lady was being really nice. Like, she's
		
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			Muslim, so she goes extra bread sticks and
		
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			all this stuff.
		
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			So I'm like,
		
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			have I think it helped once we started
		
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			chatting because I was there for a while.
		
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			Like, it really humanized her to me. She's
		
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			not just a person who's like not giving
		
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			me my order, but she's a person who's
		
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			really stressed because she's got a lot to
		
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			handle and it's 9 o'clock at night.
		
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			That's pretty cool.
		
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			Did anyone notice like, when you when you
		
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			did this, I I noticed this about myself
		
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			that it was always a break away from
		
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			being selfish.
		
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			Like, it tended to be, like, something really
		
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			rooted in me.
		
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			So, yeah, I like, when you said that,
		
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			it reminded me of an experience I had.
		
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			Yes, sir?
		
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			You both said that it reminded me of,
		
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			like,
		
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			a self paced experience that I was sort
		
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			of going through. So I had I was
		
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			in Philly,
		
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			and I drove down there. So I was
		
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			parking my car. And so there was a
		
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			car parked in front of me, a car
		
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			parked in front of that. So it's 3
		
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			cars. Right?
		
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			Philly is notorious too bad for, like, parking
		
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			tickets. So you gotta, like, get parking all
		
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			the time. Right? I went to go get
		
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			a parking ticket, and it was, like, have
		
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			a printout after you paid. And I went
		
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			there, and there was already a printed ticket.
		
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			It was, like, an hour or so, which
		
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			was enough time for what I was doing.
		
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			But then I thought about
		
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			the person that paid for it,
		
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			and I looked at the cars, and I
		
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			was like, there's only one car that doesn't
		
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			have a ticket on it.
		
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			And so kind of that's why I, like,
		
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			thought literally, I was like, what would Omar
		
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			and Fafal do? And I put the ticket
		
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			on it. And then as soon as that
		
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			happened, the other the 3rd person whose car
		
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			was, like, also parked there, said, like, hey,
		
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			mister.
		
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			I'm about to leave. Do you want to
		
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			throw up my ticket? And it was actually,
		
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			like, 15 minutes more That's fine. Than the
		
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			5th ticket that I had worth it. So
		
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			I would just, like you know what I
		
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			mean?
		
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			And so again, what you're saying, like, it
		
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			comes from a place of selfishness,
		
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			and we become selfless.
		
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			Yeah. We we actually receive more sometimes
		
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			by not being selfish. Right?
		
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			That's profound. Anyone else
		
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			struggle with, like, the default mechanisms? Yes, sir.
		
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			Come on. Right? Come on. Come on.
		
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			One of the things that came up in
		
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			our group is also kinda related to what
		
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			you were saying. You're talking about time and,
		
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			like, how we prioritize time.
		
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			We assume that, you know, the more things
		
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			you cut out, the more time you have
		
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			for something else.
		
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			So say, for example, you're doing self care
		
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			related things or Islamic
		
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			like, related things, And then you start to
		
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			get more work. So you think, oh, I
		
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			don't have time for that anymore. And then
		
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			as soon as you cut those things out,
		
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			all the buttock is gone from your time,
		
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			and suddenly you're super stressed. So
		
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			you think, you know, cutting out that 30
		
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			minutes of Quran reading in the morning gives
		
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			you more time for something else.
		
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			But in reality, doing that will fulfill your
		
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			time much better. So it's kind of like
		
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			what you were saying, prioritizing properly and being
		
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			less selfish will increase your somehow you'll find
		
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			a way. Yes,
		
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			sir? I found this exercise itself to be
		
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			humbling because
		
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			you can come in thinking, like, I can't
		
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			think of any default set like, settings. Or
		
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			maybe there's, like, one
		
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			One person speaks, like, okay, I have that.
		
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			Other person speaks, like, I have that too.
		
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			Then by then, you're like, wow. Like,
		
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			that makes you reflect. Right?
		
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			It can be humbling. Yeah. I mean, one
		
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			of the default settings that he kind of
		
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			alluded to is like not being vulnerable or
		
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			like
		
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			we tend to,
		
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			like all of us, not you. All of
		
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			us tend to like,
		
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			maybe I can say me, not all of
		
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			us.
		
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			We may tend to mass vulnerabilities.
		
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			But then like when we find other people
		
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			around us that are honest, we we find
		
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			the capacity to be honest with ourselves. Like,
		
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			very powerful. Right?
		
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			That's why
		
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			Right? Like, the help of God is with
		
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			the group.
		
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			And then, you know, we'll talk about something
		
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			interesting tonight that happened to the prophet, where
		
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			Allah commanded him to talk with people.
		
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			Like, it's not just like a one man
		
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			show. Like, you're commanded to engage.
		
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			So that's that's like a really good point,
		
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			man. And that's why community is central to
		
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			faith. Right?
		
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			It's very difficult. There's a hadith, the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam forbid someone to live
		
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			alone. Doesn't mean
		
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			Don't freak out. Right? But what it means
		
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			is like, unless there's a need like, you
		
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			know, zombie apocalypse, I don't know, whatever. Like
		
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			there's something happening or a time of fitna.
		
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			Right? A time of abnormality.
		
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			Like in general, we've been ordered to mix
		
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			with people.
		
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			Which is like profound. Right? And that's that's
		
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			very beautiful. Yes?
		
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			I'm sorry. Oh, she don't know the sigh
		
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			rule. My hand might be soft. Who's gonna
		
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			give her the who's gonna explain the sigh
		
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			rule, man?
		
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			No. Hold on. We have a sigh rule.
		
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			Do you know about the sorry rule? I
		
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			don't. You came from the Bay Area. So
		
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			who's gonna explain the sorry rule? Who remembers
		
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			the sorry rule
		
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			from like a year ago?
		
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			Sorry, I gotta pay $5. Yeah. I sound
		
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			like that. Yeah. So you have to say
		
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			you don't you don't have to say sorry.
		
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			Like, you don't have to say sorry for
		
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			asking a question or like speaking or
		
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			Yeah. Like because like we feel like our
		
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			community has been conditioned to apologize
		
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			for sharing.
		
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			That's like crazy. Right? You know, so
		
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			please share. Sorry.
		
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			So, actually, in one of our
		
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			concept of forgiveness and
		
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			how sometimes
		
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			either you don't have to forgive or you
		
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			do have to forgive if it's based on
		
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			your own dignity.
		
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			And
		
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			I guess, like, my perspective is a little
		
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			bit different. It's like it creates
		
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			it creates, like, this
		
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			this domino effect where you're like, no. I'm
		
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			not gonna forgive. I'm not gonna forgive. This
		
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			person didn't do right to me, so I'm
		
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			just gonna move on with my life. But
		
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			it actually builds up this toxic
		
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			nature in your heart where
		
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			you start to not forgive yourself.
		
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			Wow. And then when you don't forgive yourself,
		
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			it's What do you mean by you don't
		
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			forgive yourself? For example, you start to make
		
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			excuses for yourself. Like when you judge someone
		
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			or you're annoyed. Oh. It's like, no, I'm
		
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			just annoyed. That sucks. I'm not gonna
		
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			I'm not gonna say, like I'm not gonna
		
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			feel I'm not gonna have to say sorry
		
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			to myself for thinking that way. Oh.
		
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			So,
		
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			like and I just I was thinking about
		
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			that. Like, that can actually create and, you
		
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			know,
		
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			create those default mechanisms that you may have
		
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			if you don't start to resolve them. Forgive
		
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			yourself or ask yourself why you're feeling this
		
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			way
		
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			just so often throughout your day. Mhmm. Because
		
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			there's people who hold grudges for x amount
		
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			of time,
		
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			and
		
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			those experiences can, you know,
		
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			they can create, like I said, those concepts
		
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			of judgment or why this person did something
		
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			or when they did something. And
		
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			for you yourself, you're just like, oh, well,
		
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			I don't have to forgive myself because I'm
		
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			right.
		
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			What's that that famous quote like you become
		
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			what you hate? You know what I mean?
		
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			Like you become what you despise? Like if
		
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			you're not careful,
		
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			like by
		
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			having that sense of kind of retribution, then
		
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			we
		
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			embody, like, what we
		
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			it's very powerful.
		
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			Anyone else wanna share? Yes.
		
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			Yara.
		
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			Thank you for removing my name.
		
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			So I got, this new job, and my
		
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			boss was telling me, like, walk me through
		
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			the process. And
		
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			then he says, where were you abroad? And
		
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			I said, Saudi Arabia. And he said, where?
		
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			And I said, Mecca. And he was like,
		
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			oh,
		
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			I studied about that when I was in
		
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			school. So I was like, cool. And he
		
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			was like, yeah, that's the place where, like,
		
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			people, like, you know, fall over each other
		
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			and, like, die.
		
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			And I usually would get really upset and
		
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			I would, like, say something back and I
		
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			just looked at him and was like,
		
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			no.
		
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			But that's it.
		
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			And then I left the office and I
		
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			was like, wow, that was really bad. You
		
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			should have defended your religion. And then I
		
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			was like, I got like mad at myself.
		
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			So the whole, like, train ride to Queens,
		
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			I'm like, wow, what a bad Muslim, all
		
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			these things. And then I caught myself and
		
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			I was like, maybe in the future you'll
		
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			have a chance to, like,
		
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			kind of, like, tell him what Mecca is
		
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			about without, like, being really upset over it.
		
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			So, yeah. But I wanted to please explain
		
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			so much.
		
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			And and to be Muslim in America is
		
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			to always play without a script.
		
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			You know what I mean? Like it's very
		
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			hard to be ready
		
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			for like
		
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			No seriously, like things happen really unscripted.
		
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			That, like, we see like with Ilhan. Right?
		
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			Like things happen to people
		
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			that are just unbelievable.
		
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			And then like,
		
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			our students here, I don't know if you
		
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			heard this week, we had someone who committed
		
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			suicide in one of our dorms. He wasn't
		
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			Muslim,
		
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			but, like, we have Muslim students and other
		
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			students who live in that dorm with this
		
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			person.
		
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			Like, that's unscripted. Right? Like, it's not, I
		
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			don't think we should expect ourselves to constantly
		
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			react perfectly to unscripted,
		
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			unprepared moments. So I think you did better
		
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			than I would have done.
		
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			You know what I mean? Anyone
		
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			else wanna
		
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			yes, ma'am?
		
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			Here's like a really beautiful prophetic tradition, like
		
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			don't look at people above you. But like
		
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			people who are less Look at people who
		
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			are less fortunate you than you, so that
		
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			you'll be thankful. Right?
		
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			There's a fine line between looking down on
		
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			people, and then
		
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			being merciful and empathetic and finding like
		
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			Like empathy leads to gratefulness. Right?
		
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			Feeling empathetic towards others.
		
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			That's like really that's really nice.
		
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			Anyone else before we move on?
		
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			To anything?
		
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			So, like, I think one thing I experienced
		
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			in all this is, like, I slipped out
		
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			of out of thinking about this for, like,
		
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			a few days. It kinda felt like Ramadan,
		
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			man.
		
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			I don't know if anyone had the experience
		
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			like when you stop fasting,
		
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			so you're not like, aware of yourself.
		
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			So as we get closer to Ramadan,
		
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			what I kinda had you do, is what
		
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			Al Ghazadi calls the fast of the soul.
		
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			The fast of the soul is when, like,
		
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			I'm disciplining myself internally.
		
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			Not to the point that it becomes counterproductive.
		
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			And it's and like fasting with my will.
		
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			So I'm like, checking my default mechanisms,
		
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			examining,
		
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			my emotions and how I feel.
		
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			And that takes
		
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			We didn't get into it in this text
		
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			that we're going through, but there's some things
		
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			that come before this even in our tradition,
		
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			and that's like triggers.
		
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			Like what brings about
		
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			those default mechanisms. So it like, kind of
		
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			walks us back. It's very interesting. And maybe,
		
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			in Ramadan,
		
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			we'll we'll get to that. So it's like
		
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			really good to see everybody.
		
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			Just just as a reminder, so on Tuesdays
		
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			we're actually going through
		
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			a set of traditions,
		
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			of the prophet that talk about the friends
		
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			of God.
		
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			Like, who are those people, who are the
		
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			aulia?
		
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			And we gave kind of an introduction
		
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			that these are not impossible things.
		
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			And that everyone will be held
		
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			accountable for their ability. Like, not everybody has
		
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			the same ability.
		
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			Not everybody can perform the same.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the
		
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			43rd chapter,
		
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			Like, it's not the people who dispense mercy.
		
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			Like,
		
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			ability, capability,
		
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			religious ability,
		
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			that's part of what's called our risk.
		
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			So some people are different. So like,
		
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			if you hear these things and you're like,
		
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			well I'm not doing it like that person,
		
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			but I may be doing it like in
		
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			a different way, like I can't give. I
		
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			don't have a hedge fund so I'm not
		
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			like, throwing out mass dead presidents to people.
		
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			But like, maybe I can give $5.
		
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			But like, maybe the sincerity in that
		
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			is more. And that's that's that person's recognition
		
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			of what they can do.
		
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			So,
		
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			when you hear some of these things, don't
		
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			like,
		
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			get caught up in
		
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			like It's like when you watch like, you
		
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			know, your favorite athlete or actor, actress, whoever
		
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			like perform, like, we're not gonna be like
		
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			them.
		
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			Right? Very few people have that ability.
		
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			So we we mentioned the first narration actually
		
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			is the foundation of everything in this discussion,
		
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			and that is because
		
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			the foundation of a relationship with God is
		
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			based on submission and obedience.
		
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			We talked about that before.
		
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			And
		
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			there's this beautiful tradition
		
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			that is
		
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			related by our prophet where he quotes God
		
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			as saying, you know, that
		
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			Like, nobody will come close to me with
		
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			anything more that I love than what I've
		
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			obligated.
		
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			So establishing
		
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			like those foundations. We don't just see obligations
		
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			as empty commands,
		
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			we see them as as
		
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			exercising our spiritual potential and capacity.
		
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			Uncovering something about ourselves. That's why salah is
		
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			called istiftah.
		
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			The opening prayer is called istiftah, which means
		
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			I've I've gained a victory.
		
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			Because you gained a victory over yourself, man.
		
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			You prayed.
		
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			So that's why fat means like a military
		
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			victory.
		
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			Salah is called istiftah,
		
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			when you open it, the first supplication
		
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			is I've I've sought this victory, meaning through
		
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			salah
		
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			I'm gonna overcome my soul, the bad the
		
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			bad default mechanisms.
		
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			I've defeated the world around me that's maybe
		
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			keeping me from praying.
		
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			I have defeated Satan.
		
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			So,
		
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			first step is really to establish those obligations.
		
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			And then he continued, he said,
		
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			like, the person will continue to draw near
		
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			to me by doing extra good. Like, going
		
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			beyond the call.
		
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			So there's like zakat and there's charity.
		
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			And it says,
		
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			quoting God, like, until I love that person.
		
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			And when God loves you, man, you're gonna
		
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			blossom because we said the word love is
		
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			from a seed.
		
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			Egyptian are here. What's up? Alright. Now we
		
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			can relax.
		
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			I have a unique affinity. I lived in
		
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			Egypt for 7 years, man. So, if I
		
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			say something you don't understand, you're like, oh,
		
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			it's Egyptian.
		
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			But
		
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			like, hub has to grow.
		
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			So to be loved by God is to
		
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			discover your potential.
		
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			And,
		
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			and the the the narration says, so when
		
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			I love that person,
		
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			I become the hearing by which he and
		
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			she hears. Meaning, they will adhere to
		
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			the commands
		
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			and living a godly life as though they
		
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			are the actual hearing, like they're actually hearing
		
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			with God. So it's a metaphor. Right?
		
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			And I'll become the vision by which he
		
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			or she sees. We talked about that a
		
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			little bit,
		
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			last time.
		
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			And the hand by which he or she
		
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			grasps, and the legs by which he or
		
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			she walks, meaning they're not going to be
		
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			involved in evil, man. They won't use these
		
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			things for oppression or harm.
		
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			And if that person asks me,
		
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			I will give it to them, this life
		
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			or the next.
		
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			And if they seek my help, I will
		
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			aid them. And we said like, establishing the
		
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			obligations really is based on kind of 4
		
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			things. Because we have to think about spirituality
		
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			in the post modern context. That's where we
		
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			live.
		
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			Although those sound like anonyms.
		
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			1st, is we have to reformat reformat
		
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			maybe our attitude towards the obligations. Like what
		
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			were our Some people the obligations can be
		
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			triggering, man.
		
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			You know, halal and haram can become triggering
		
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			for people.
		
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			So like, taking time out to relearn
		
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			and reformat
		
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			where I may have bad experiences.
		
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			Especially related to religion.
		
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			And if I myself have, like,
		
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			if I'm mistaken also. Right? So it's not
		
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			just like a selfish
		
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			examination.
		
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			But like I mentioned, I think to you
		
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			before, I said, man, we had a a
		
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			young person that brought a Quran
		
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			to us here and asked us to take
		
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			it because they were abused by their Quran
		
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			teacher that taught them with that Quran.
		
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			It's like
		
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			healing, man.
		
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			People have had bad experiences in faith communities
		
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			and with faith leadership.
		
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			And then they blame themselves, especially if the
		
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			person is more religious than them. They blame
		
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			themselves because they think like, I'm not I'm
		
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			not towing the line. But in fact, no,
		
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			you're just being mistreated by somebody.
		
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			And that's like a really really big problem.
		
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			The second is finding a place to grow
		
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			your religious soil, man. Grow, like find a
		
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			soil to grow your religion,
		
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			to cultivate yourself.
		
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			Finding community, finding family,
		
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			a source, a strong supporting cast.
		
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			And we mentioned, like, over and over in
		
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			the Quran,
		
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			the Sahaba are called
		
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			Like, they're like a seed that's planted.
		
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			It grows, like, that soil. Right?
		
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			It's very important.
		
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			Number 3 is to surround ourselves with a
		
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			strong supporting cast. Right?
		
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			So
		
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			I'm nurturing myself in a healthy community, I
		
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			have a strong supporting cast of people
		
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			that I can be honest with.
		
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			And then understanding
		
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			devotion and worship Islamically really follows through, like,
		
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			on 4 things.
		
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			We went over this in detail, but I'm
		
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			just reviewing.
		
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			Number 1 is like an intellectual investment.
		
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			What does it mean?
		
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			So I used to teach in Oklahoma. I
		
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			used to teach 13 year olds, man. That
		
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			was fun.
		
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			So
		
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			I was I'm a I'm a convert, so
		
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			conversion, like religion is always like
		
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			an exploration.
		
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			I don't know how to explain it. Like,
		
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			there's always something new you learn. It's always
		
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			like
		
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			It's like kind of a different maybe
		
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			ways people look at religion. So I think
		
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			from conversion it's like being in a room
		
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			with no lights on, you know, like bumping
		
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			your head a few times,
		
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			pushing some people out a window for perhaps
		
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			on accident, and your zeal,
		
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			like finally figuring it out over time.
		
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			So I asked these young men because I
		
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			was interested.
		
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			I said to them like you guys are
		
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			born Muslim, it's so amazing. I can't imagine
		
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			how you look at life, you know. So
		
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			I was trying to like understand.
		
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			No, I was serious, like,
		
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			man, you guys are interesting tonight. What's going
		
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			on?
		
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			There's no Celtics jokes tonight also, by the
		
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			way. That's that's Haram. So
		
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			we're playing the Warriors, man.
		
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			They played Janaza for us.
		
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			But like So I asked them like,
		
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			what does Islam mean to you?
		
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			So they all gave me like the Sunday
		
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			school answer.
		
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			And I said, but no, what does it
		
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			like you, like what's the word? What's your
		
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			personal synonym?
		
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			And then one of them said like, I
		
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			don't like this teacher, you know? Like, it's
		
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			like making us think and stuff. Right? I
		
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			was like, no. Like, I wanna know like,
		
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			what is you What's the first thing that
		
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			comes to mind?
		
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			And and one of them he was like,
		
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			pain.
		
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			Like fear, man. Like, I'm scared, man. Like
		
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			when I'm I'm I've always been forced to
		
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			kind of practice.
		
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			Like I've never
		
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			like been enticed to practice.
		
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			So, like, that's what I meant by, like,
		
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			there's an intellectual investment that takes like this
		
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			opportunity to reflect and say like, what what
		
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			do these things actually mean
		
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			to me?
		
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			Then
		
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			the the second is, of course,
		
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			it coming into the heart and being able
		
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			to settle
		
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			in the heart over time and wrestle with
		
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			it.
		
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			And then there's the investment in the practice
		
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			of it.
		
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			So like I've I've become someone now who
		
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			who lives.
		
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			So I learn about prayer,
		
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			I buy into prayer,
		
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			then I pray,
		
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			like as an example.
		
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			And then the 4th is it should impact
		
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			my my character.
		
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			So it's like what's called the adeb of
		
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			Ibadah.
		
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			Like what classical scholars call, like,
		
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			the the
		
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			etiquettes of worship.
		
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			The second,
		
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			obligation after like those obligations that are related
		
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			to the things that most of us know
		
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			about, and we talked about this before, we
		
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			noted that it tends to be ignored, are
		
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			the emotional obligations. So, like, what am I
		
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			attached to?
		
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			What what like pushes my sense of total
		
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			value?
		
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			What's intrinsic to who I am?
		
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			What can move me internally?
		
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			What kind of person am I emotionally?
		
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			You know, I'm 46, so
		
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			I I I can't give anyone
		
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			advice. Right?
		
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			But there's one thing I wish I had
		
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			when I was younger that I have now.
		
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			When you're younger,
		
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			I don't know how to explain it, like,
		
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			the outer is louder than the inner.
		
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			At least at least for men. I can't
		
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			tell women how they feel.
		
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			My mother always told my father it was
		
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			the opposite, but
		
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			as you get older,
		
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			that internal voice
		
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			becomes louder and you start to realize like,
		
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			it's kind of like watching yourself in replay
		
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			because you slow down.
		
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			You're like man, I need to work on
		
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			this, or I need to think about how
		
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			I'm carrying myself, or I need to stop.
		
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			Like there's an advantage to getting older that
		
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			at least I missed maybe when I was
		
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			younger.
		
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			That the inner becomes more amplified, that voice
		
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			that tells you like, you know, you're like
		
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			really insecure and that's why you act this
		
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			way.
		
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			Or like, you know, these kind of things
		
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			make you angry.
		
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			That you're like, I was oblivious to.
		
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			And then when I look back at my
		
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			life I'm like, that's true man. Did a
		
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			lot. Right?
		
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			Try to get that now.
		
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			It's really important. It's a good quality. It
		
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			will save you inshallah a lot of trouble.
		
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			So emotional
		
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			obligations.
		
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			And we noted that in the Quran, of
		
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			course,
		
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			the prophet Muhammad is commanded to worship and
		
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			he's commanded to learn,
		
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			But he's also commanded to be merciful.
		
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			He's commanded to love.
		
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			He's commanded to forgive. He's commanded to discipline.
		
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			And he's commanded to look after people.
		
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			So one of the most interesting verses that
		
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			kind of highlights this,
		
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			that I was reflecting on, and then I
		
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			started reading,
		
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			is the a 100 and 59th verse in
		
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			the 3rd chapter. It's like really beautiful, man.
		
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			So chapter 3 verse 159.
		
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			It says,
		
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			It's like
		
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			this chapter happens after
		
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			Uhud.
		
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			Like Uhud is the catastrophe. Right?
		
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			Like everything goes wrong in this battle. Everyone
		
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			here knows what Uhud is, right? The second
		
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			battle after Badr. Badr is like successful. Nobody
		
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			thought they were gonna win.
		
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			They won.
		
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			So kind of walk into Uhud with some
		
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			bonafides, man. Like, yeah, what's up? And then
		
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			lose
		
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			and and lose, like, in a mighty way.
		
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			And then, of course,
		
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			Sayidna Muhammad, he lost his uncle.
		
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			Sayidna Hamza,
		
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			there's like a lot of loss in Uhud,
		
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			Like, a lot of things happen.
		
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			So the prophet doesn't only lose like the
		
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			battle, he loses like He loses again, and
		
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			this is the the the theme of the
		
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			seerah is that the prophet always loses supporters.
		
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			To remind him, it's Allah.
		
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			So he lost his
		
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			dad, his mom, his grandfather, his uncle.
		
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			He just loo he loses his whole city.
		
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			So he said like the sira, one of
		
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			the themes of of the prophet's life is
		
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			like, you may lose, but actually you found.
		
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			It's very like, it's not easy, man. That's
		
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			a tough one.
		
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			So,
		
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			after Uhud,
		
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			you know, you would expect the prophet to
		
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			be like,
		
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			mad man.
		
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			But he's so kind to the Sahaba man.
		
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			To the point where it's like,
		
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			it's like, wow. Like how? Like how are
		
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			you how are you nice?
		
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			Even though And they didn't listen to him.
		
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			The Quran chastises them.
		
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			But the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam, when
		
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			he
		
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			sits with them and he talks with them,
		
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			like he almost like, it's like he placates
		
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			them a little bit. So they were like
		
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			shocked.
		
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			He he holds them accountable. Right? But like,
		
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			with Rahma.
		
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			So Allah says in this verse,
		
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			It's out of God's mercy that you're merciful
		
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			to them.
		
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			So it links
		
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			this extension of prophetic Rahma
		
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			to guidance.
		
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			Right? Like when Allah says to the prophet,
		
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			you didn't throw it when you threw
		
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			it.
		
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			Allah threw it. So it's like
		
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			Like that's the meaning. I can say it
		
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			in Arabic because it's hard to say it
		
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			in English. It's like, you weren't merciful when
		
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			you were merciful, but God was merciful.
		
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			Like you're just an extension
		
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			of the mercy, And you chose to be
		
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			merciful, hamdas salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			So the the verses,
		
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			which
		
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			means by the rahmah of Allah, you are
		
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			lenient to them.
		
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			You you're
		
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			it's hard to translate the word, man. It's
		
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			like,
		
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			You're very forgiving and, like, you're kind to
		
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			them. Like you you As the prophet said,
		
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			like I am to you like your fathers.
		
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			Meaning like in mercy, not in power and
		
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			control.
		
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			And if you had been hard to them,
		
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			if you had been harsh in your heart
		
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			to them,
		
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			He didn't say He
		
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			said
		
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			He didn't say like if you spoke to
		
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			them in a harsh way.
		
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			He said no, if your heart, even your
		
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			heart would have been like man,
		
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			they would have abandoned you.
		
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			It's like talking about the Sahaba.
		
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			So then Allah says
		
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			to
		
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			them, like, forgive them.
		
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			And seek God's forgiveness for them.
		
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			And here's the interesting one, man.
		
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			Like when people screw up, this is the
		
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			last thing I would do.
		
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			And consult them.
		
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			Like what do you Like can you imagine
		
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			if you're one of those people that blew
		
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			it?
		
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			And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is commanding
		
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			the prophet to consult you?
		
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			Like
		
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			there is an emotional value in everything that's
		
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			happening in this verse.
		
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			So the verse says
		
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			you
		
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			were lenient to them
		
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			because of God's mercy.
		
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			And if you were stern and harsh hearted,
		
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			they would have fled from you. How many
		
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			times, maybe in the name of religion like,
		
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			forget harsh heartedness, we're just harsh in our
		
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			speech.
		
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			There's a time for that. It's rare, but
		
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			there's a time for that too.
		
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			Or we're harsh in our actions. Here saying,
		
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			like, internally if you would have been hard,
		
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			they would have abandoned you.
		
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			Faafu Anhum,
		
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			Afa means I have the right to be
		
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			angry, but I pardon you.
		
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			And seek Allah's forgiveness for them.
		
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			And consult them. Make shura.
		
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			And and there's really
		
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			an interesting
		
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			point about
		
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			the prophet being commanded to be empathetic and
		
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			emotionally in tune. But then even how the
		
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			verse itself builds a sense of confidence in
		
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			people that just got defeated.
		
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			Yes, ma'am?
		
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			So I've noticed that
		
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			Quran translations,
		
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			a lot of times, don't relay that emotional
		
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			factor to it. And those things just sometimes
		
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			some things like this when someone just when
		
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			you're supposed to hear, and you can see,
		
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			like
		
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			in in the in the English translation where
		
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			it just says, forgive them and then consult
		
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			them. Like, you you don't see that emotional
		
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			Yeah. Layer to it. So how can we,
		
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			when we're reading
		
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			through an English translation, start to pick up
		
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			on those emotional cues throughout the class?
		
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			I think they should be Honestly, I think
		
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			there should be like a translation like any
		
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			like that kind of like color codes this
		
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			stuff. I don't know how it would happen.
		
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			It's like, you should feel sad here. You
		
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			You should feel happy here. You know what
		
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			I'm saying? Like, you know how to Yeah.
		
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			Like because like it's really cool. Right? Or
		
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			perhaps there's I'm sure we have some brilliant
		
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			linguists who would be able to like Yousef
		
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			Ali, man. I know people don't like his
		
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			translation because of the style of language, but
		
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			like he pulls off the emotional piece.
		
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			So like when he says, he's like, our
		
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			lord, please.
		
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			Like he caught that.
		
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			Right?
		
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			The second thing is, like, reading the sira.
		
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			So knowing the context of when all it
		
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			happens, so then that helps. And then, like,
		
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			reading tafsir in English.
		
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			But again, like,
		
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			yeah. There there's things there, and that's why
		
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			tafsir is sometimes best learned in person.
		
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			Because there's there's
		
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			Like Arabic has a a rhetoric, a a
		
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			rhetorical style.
		
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			So like
		
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			like
		
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			like without Allah's rahma, you wouldn't have been
		
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			merciful.
		
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			Like, that's what's there, you know. And also,
		
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			I think sometimes, and this is where I've
		
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			gotten in trouble, there's I think, 11 reasons
		
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			to avoid me. This may be the 12th.
		
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			And this is serious, but I think sometimes
		
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			we have to translate things in like colloquial
		
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			language.
		
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			Like people relate to that better. But
		
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			because of
		
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			a post colonial experience, the early translations of
		
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			the Quran were almost like whitewashed.
		
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			They're very, like,
		
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			Victorian.
		
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			God and God bless them. Like God bless
		
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			those people. That's doesn't mean what they did
		
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			is bad.
		
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			But, like,
		
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			there's sometimes the language is a problem even.
		
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			So I think there needs to be, like,
		
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			tough seers. And also we need people to
		
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			write tough seer for us in English.
		
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			Right? That it talks about like our life
		
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			and how that Quran
		
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			is contextualized to those experiences, and what that
		
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			means. Right? And how we apply that, and
		
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			how we think about it,
		
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			is also really important. Sorry. Abdul Rahim had
		
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			his hand up, like, a long time ago,
		
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			man. No. It's okay. I'll pass it. Fadullahqih.
		
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			No. I'm just saying there's a book called
		
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			the quran.
		
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			I'm not sure if anyone here is familiar
		
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			with it.
		
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			It's a thematic translation of the Quran.
		
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			We're one of the best English translations that
		
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			I'm afraid of the Quran. And it really
		
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			captures a lot of the emotion
		
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			and a lot of,
		
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			language
		
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			that we can relate to. Yeah. Doctor Mustafa
		
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			and I went to the same university,
		
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			and he had me, like, kinda review that.
		
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			That's a really good translation. It's called the
		
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			the
		
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			Clear Quran. It's even in paperback.
		
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			I just wish I had the Arabic. That's
		
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			it's all English. But there's a Arabic version
		
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			too, like with the Arabic English. But the
		
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			paperback one is, like, for your pocket. That's
		
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			nice.
		
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			The clear Quran. Yeah. You can read it
		
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			online for free too to make sure, like,
		
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			you feel in it. You know? Yes, sir?
		
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			When you say read the sira,
		
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			The sira,
		
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			there's a really really it's huge, but it's
		
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			a good read, man,
		
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			By doctor
		
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			Ado Salahi.
		
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			Yeah. I think it's called Muhammad Man and
		
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			Messenger.
		
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			That's a really, really nice like, it's nice,
		
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			man.
		
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			It's beautiful. So let let's let's
		
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			so I, let's, like, just unpack this verse.
		
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			We're talking about one of the obligations is
		
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			to, like, be emotionally connected and to be
		
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			caring and, like,
		
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			there's times to be angry also. Right? There's
		
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			times to be,
		
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			invested. So, in this verse where it says
		
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			because of Allah's mercy you were lenient with
		
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			them. And if you were stern or heart
		
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			stern meaning harsh hearted, they would have fled
		
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			from you.
		
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			The prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, was reminded
		
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			that his mercy is an extension of Allah's
		
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			mercy.
		
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			That without it, he would not be kind
		
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			and lenient, and that if he was harsh
		
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			hearted, he would lose his followers. And also
		
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			within that, there's this meaning that being merciful
		
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			is a blessing and a favor from Allah.
		
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			Like, you couldn't have done it without God.
		
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			And in the face of anger, he should
		
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			pardon
		
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			his companions and seek God's forgiveness for them
		
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			and consult them.
		
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			Now here's a question that I want you
		
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			guys to think about.
		
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			And there's something underneath
		
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			all of this that's really, like, really touched
		
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			me actually.
		
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			Why would Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala command the
		
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			prophet to talk to people if the prophet
		
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			is perfect?
		
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			And not only did he talk to him,
		
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			those people just lost.
		
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			Like they didn't just perform well.
		
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			And it's like the prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam,
		
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			he receives revelation.
		
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			He
		
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			doesn't make mistakes
		
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			in his religious,
		
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			you know, position as a prophet as we
		
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			talked about last year.
		
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			But like, washerah we're at home as a
		
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			order.
		
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			Means, like, you must consult them. Fil Amr
		
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			in affairs.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Like, why would the prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam
		
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			even need to consult them?
		
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			He's beyond the prophet peace out.
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			So I just like to get other people
		
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			so I'm not trying to diss you. See,
		
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			if no one else does and because then
		
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			what happens is, where's that be you're okay.
		
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			They start with you'll be the only one
		
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			that answers all the questions, man.
		
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			But it's good though.
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			Alright. Please.
		
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			The prophet is
		
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			in. So he's building their character. He's,
		
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			also, like,
		
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			this is, like, I've like, if you anyone
		
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			reads business books, some of the stuff like
		
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			that. Advice that's or the stuff that's we
		
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			find the religion that applies to business where
		
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			successful business leaders,
		
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			you're you will treat the people around them
		
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			in similar ways when they make mistakes, when
		
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			they
		
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			are in error. That's beautiful, man. That's nice.
		
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			So Morabi is someone who, like, is from
		
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			the word rub who actually builds people. Right?
		
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			The word rub means to build.
		
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			Nice. So he's like,
		
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			you know,
		
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			listening to them is a way of teaching
		
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			them.
		
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			That's one of the interpretations of the verse
		
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			actually.
		
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			It says
		
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			It's very beautiful. It says to show them,
		
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			like, even though you just screwed up, like,
		
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			I'm still listening to you, and I still
		
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			I still seek your help.
		
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			Like even if you didn't need them, like
		
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			you're modeling for them.
		
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			Right? The idea of
		
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			being like
		
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			an empathetic,
		
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			caring leader.
		
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			And you're listening to them. Right?
		
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			And that's
		
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			why one of the commentators said, Razi said,
		
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			like, this is a way to make them
		
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			love the deen.
		
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			Like, you've brought them they've appropriated the experience.
		
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			Somebody I was traveling last week with Hussam.
		
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			Everybody doesn't know Hussam, Probably follow him on
		
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			Instagram.
		
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			He's like really popular on Instagram. I had
		
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			no idea.
		
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			But he was like you know what my
		
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			favorite part of the halakah is? That's what
		
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			he's like, when we all talk to each
		
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			other and listen to each other.
		
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			Because I feel like I feel I feel
		
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			valued.
		
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			I feel engaged.
		
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			You know? So it's important.
		
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			Yes, sir.
		
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			You had your hand up?
		
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			Good. Nice.
		
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			Good.
		
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			Anyone else? Like, why why would God command
		
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			a prophet, like, talk to these people they
		
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			just lost?
		
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			So one is to model for them leadership.
		
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			That's a good point. Anyone else?
		
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			Yes, ma'am.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Yeah. Engagement and listening to people and bringing
		
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			people in to the process.
		
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			So let me just give three reasons. I'm
		
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			sorry. It's it's running late. I apologize too.
		
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			Forgive me, brothers and sisters. We're gonna say
		
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			something. So there's actually 3 really cool
		
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			discussions about this command amongst the early
		
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			early scholars. Number 1 is
		
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			like
		
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			turning back to them, talking to them, and
		
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			engaging them, and also not just speaking to
		
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			them, but bringing them in
		
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			is good for their hearts.
		
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			Like, it's good for their
		
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			It's good for their emotional states, man.
		
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			So they won't, like, allow this loss to
		
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			turn into what? Like
		
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			complete failure, man. A complete
		
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			collapse.
		
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			The second is Masha'Allah brother, I'm sorry your
		
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			name? Yed. Yed. Yed. Masha'Allah.
		
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			He said,
		
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			So he said, you know, here,
		
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			Abu Ishaq, he's a early early one of
		
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			the early early students of the Sahaba said,
		
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			like, teach them how to listen and how
		
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			to engage
		
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			and how
		
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			to bring people in
		
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			into a situation.
		
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			And the third one is really profound, man.
		
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			And that is that,
		
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			al Razi says that
		
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			when you talk with them,
		
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			you learn more about them.
		
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			Like, when you engage them, you're gonna hear
		
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			them.
		
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			When you hear them, you can serve them
		
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			better.
		
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			It's really really actually a very beautiful analysis.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Like, by listening to their struggles, like imagine
		
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			like that analysis. So, why did you leave
		
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			the mount?
		
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			You know, that guy's like, well, I saw
		
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			a camel. So you know, that guy likes
		
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			camels. You know, so you like a river.
		
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			You'll know him. So, that you'll be able
		
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			to serve him perhaps better and help him.
		
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			Maybe someone says well, and that's why you'll
		
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			notice something in the life of the prophet.
		
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			When people, alayhi salaam, when people make mistakes,
		
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			he always asks them what?
		
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			He doesn't punish them.
		
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			He doesn't just jump to punish. He says
		
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			what?
		
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			Like, why?
		
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			So for example, when Sayyidina Amar he captured
		
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			this man who was going to Mecca with
		
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			secrets that he was going to sell to
		
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			the Quraysh, and he brought him in front
		
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			of the prophet said,
		
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			like, let me cut off his head. And
		
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			the prophet said, no no no.
		
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			He's a believer. He's a believer.
		
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			And then the prophet said, why'd you do
		
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			it? He said, I have family in Mecca,
		
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			and they were threatening my family.
		
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			So the prophet
		
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			he makes excuses because he under It doesn't
		
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			mean people are We don't give everyone excuses.
		
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			Right? But I'm saying,
		
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			he has conversations with people before he comes
		
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			to conclusions.
		
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			He tries to understand why they did what
		
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			they did.
		
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			So
		
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			one of the early early,
		
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			scholars said that
		
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			is
		
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			like the prophet will learn about them.
		
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			And then he'll be more caring and more
		
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			invested in them.
		
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			It's very, like, very beautiful. If you think
		
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			about like in in
		
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			community organizing the idea of 1 on ones,
		
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			where, like, we sit, we talk, we introduce
		
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			ourselves, talk about our lives, who we are,
		
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			and we know each other.
		
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			We're gonna do that one night here Insha
		
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			Allah.
		
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			And that's why the Sahaba, they said something
		
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			like really really beautiful.
		
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			They said, They said, like I put this
		
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			on my my Facebook wall today.
		
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			They said Allah has been extremely gracious to
		
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			us in every way.
		
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			We were people who were polytheists.
		
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			And
		
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			if
		
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			like if the prophet brought the religion all
		
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			at once,
		
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			And the Quran, everything in the Quran like
		
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			at one go. It wasn't like over time
		
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			it was just like
		
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			you know, and then that's it. Like,
		
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			The whole Quran came on us, and all
		
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			the religion came on us at one
		
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			time,
		
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			then that responsibility
		
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			would have,
		
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			like,
		
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			we would not have been able to handle
		
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			it.
		
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			It would have stretched our capacity.
		
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			Islam, and we would not have accepted Islam.
		
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			He then they said,
		
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			Like, he called us to things like step
		
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			by step.
		
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			Like I worry sometimes when I see like
		
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			people who came back to Islam or even
		
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			people who've accepted Islam, and like, and people
		
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			who like giving them a 1000000 things to
		
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			do, man.
		
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			Like step by step step by step.
		
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			So he said,
		
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			the sahaba said he called us to like
		
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			a step by step process.
		
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			And when we accepted
		
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			that for example one command
		
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			And then after we accepted it we grew
		
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			to learn the sweetness of faith
		
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			to that that that that order.
		
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			And then we accepted.
		
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			And
		
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			They said like and we
		
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			we accepted
		
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			things step by step until we understood the
		
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			wisdom. And and we understood the wisdom we
		
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			tasted the sweetness.
		
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			And then we tasted the sweetness of that
		
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			thing we moved on to something else until
		
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			the religion was completed.
		
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			Until the Sharia was completed.
		
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			But
		
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			the key to that is that the prophet
		
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			he knew them.
		
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			He was invested in them.
		
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			And of course, Allah's alim and hakim. And
		
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			there's this beautiful hadith of the prophet An
		
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			Nas al Ma'aden.
		
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			You know that people are metal. Like people
		
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			are like metal.
		
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			People are like metals.
		
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			Like gold and silver.
		
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			There's actually 2 meanings to this. 1 of
		
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			course is the obvious meaning, but the other
		
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			meaning is
		
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			meaning people gonna die.
		
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			The word means gold but means
		
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			to leave.
		
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			Means silver but
		
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			means what?
		
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			Like
		
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			to leave you.
		
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			It's in the verse, we just read it.
		
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			Right? They would abandon you. So people like
		
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			gold and silver meaning, you can love people
		
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			but one day they're gonna leave you.
		
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			But the obvious meaning is that people like
		
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			silver,
		
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			and there's some and metals, and metals are
		
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			number 1 malleable, so it should be soft
		
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			with people.
		
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			You don't wanna shape them too hard.
		
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			Metals require more than just a visual test.
		
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			I did research today on metals. Very interesting.
		
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			What do you think the best way to
		
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			know the quality of a metal is?
		
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			No.
		
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			Dang, man. It's like a litany of answers,
		
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			like, it's like a Busta Rhymes song up
		
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			in here.
		
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			No
		
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			is to feel it.
		
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			The second is to use a magnet.
		
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			There's also, the 3rd best way is a
		
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			fracture test. That when a metal is broken,
		
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			it shows its best quality.
		
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			It's kind of like people.
		
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			Sometimes
		
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			when we go through it together that tells
		
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			us a lot about ourselves. Right?
		
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			And then there's the spark test.
		
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			Let's quickly talk about a few of the
		
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			narrations that we'll explain over the next week
		
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			or so,
		
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			insha'Allah, about the signs of the auliya, and
		
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			then we'll stop insha'Allah.
		
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			The 3rd, after having
		
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			established the obligations and then being emotionally invested.
		
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			Remember we talked about the hadith when the
		
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			like Allah has special
		
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			friends.
		
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			Like, who are they? What do they do?
		
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			People who love.
		
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			Sallallahu alaihi wasallam, what I tell the prophet
		
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			said to the guy, don't become angry.
		
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			What else? Don't become angry, meaning don't act
		
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			in anger,
		
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			like crazy anger.
		
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			The third is to live a life of
		
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			remembrance.
		
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			One of my teachers used to say, Sheikh
		
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			Abdulrahman,
		
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			either you're remembering God or you remember something
		
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			else. I was like, man, that's tough, man.
		
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			Only you can do that.
		
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			But there is this beautiful narration that
		
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			Allah Meaning
		
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			that
		
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			indeed
		
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			my close friends from amongst my servants and
		
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			those who I love from creation are those
		
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			who are remembered because of my remembrance. Meaning,
		
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			when people see them they remember
		
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			Allah.
		
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			And Allah says in this hadith, quote from
		
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			the prophet, and I am remembered when people
		
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			talk about
		
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			them as well. Like they're known for being
		
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			people who remember Allah.
		
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			They make zikr.
		
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			Another narration of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam,
		
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			he was asked, man auliaullah,
		
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			like who are those people close to Allah,
		
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			the friends of Allah.
		
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			It's people that when people see them, they
		
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			remember Allah.
		
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			They remind people of Allah
		
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			in their actions, and then because they're engaged
		
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			in remembering,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			And, of course, the best thing to say
		
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			as far as is
		
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			this beautiful statement of the prophet.
		
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			Like the best thing to say out of
		
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			all the dhikrs if people don't have time
		
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			to memorize a lot of stuff or read
		
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			a lot of Quran,
		
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			say
		
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			The next thing, and we'll stop here, is
		
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			because added is when as we go through
		
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			the qualities of these people,
		
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			for example, there's a quality about how they
		
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			deal with trauma. It's not perfect, but they
		
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			deal with it.
		
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			There's also what are called the
		
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			the Muamalat
		
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			of
		
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			of these people. Like, how do they act?
		
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			As far as a spiritual strategy,
		
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			what are steps that they engage in in
		
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			their lives
		
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			to achieve these things? And we talked about
		
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			these being constant, not like once.
		
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			They're called the manazil.
		
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			The manazil of the tzadik, the stations of
		
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			the seeker.
		
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			Like what are little like
		
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			things I should be aware of that help
		
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			me think about
		
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			my
		
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			relationship with Allah?
		
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			The first one that we already talked about
		
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			was being woke.
		
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			Where he said, subhanallah, our tradition
		
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			1300 years ago,
		
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			sorry, 1,100
		
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			years ago,
		
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			one of the great scholars he wrote it
		
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			this book called, Manazal
		
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			Asayirim.
		
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			The stations of the travelers, like we're all
		
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			traveling back to death, to God.
		
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			And one of the stations, the first station
		
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			he mentioned that a person has to stop
		
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			at is being woke.
		
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			Said everybody is asleep.
		
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			Everyone's asleep or dead until they wake up.
		
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			Meaning like they wake up spiritually.
		
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			The second, and then we're gonna stop
		
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			after being awakened. And remember we talked about
		
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			like tests, trials, success being means of guidance
		
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			and how that's a manifestation of God's love
		
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			in our life? The idea of interventions.
		
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			This is on on the YouTube, it's on
		
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			the on the series of lectures. It's up
		
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			there. It's posted.
		
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			We talked about like the power of divine
		
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			intervention.
		
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			Whether it's through loss or gain,
		
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			it doesn't have to be even a binary,
		
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			but, like, dynamic
		
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			engagement and interference
		
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			can sometimes turn us back to Allah,
		
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			and wake us up.
		
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			The second, and this is where we'll stop,
		
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			is being a shepherd.
		
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			All the prophets we believe were like shepherds
		
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			in one way or another.
		
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			Shepherding a riaia.
		
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			So the second
		
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			station after Al Yaqaba,
		
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			being woke,
		
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			is then guarding something.
		
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			Taking care of something.
		
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			And
		
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			I'm just gonna mention it, and then we'll
		
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			build on it next week Insha'Allah.
		
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			The sheikh, he says, Allah says,
		
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			In the end of Shaul Hadid,
		
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			Allah talks about the people who came after
		
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			Satan Satan Isa, Satan Jesus.
		
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			Sounds strange. And they, like
		
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			And they changed the religion that he he
		
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			left them.
		
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			They didn't shepherd it.
		
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			As they should have.
		
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			So the sheikh, he says that
		
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			is to, like, really really look after and
		
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			protect something.
		
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			And here's where we'll mention it. It's really
		
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			cool, and I want you to think about
		
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			this as you go through the week. Like,
		
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			what do you shepherd, man? What do I
		
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			shepherd?
		
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			What is the most constant website I go
		
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			to? Celtics.com.
		
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			That tells me a lot about like,
		
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			what I shepherd.
		
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			You know? Hypothetically,
		
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			of course. But like,
		
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			what is the first thing I look at
		
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			on my phone? That tells you what you're
		
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			shepherding.
		
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			And that's not always bad. That could that
		
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			could be good there. Right?
		
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			But if it's stuff that's like trivial or
		
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			like,
		
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			not important, then that's where I need to
		
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			start Marie Kondoing my iman.
		
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			So the first he says, is
		
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			that you shepherd your worship.
		
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			You shepherd your
		
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			good.
		
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			Shepherding, we'll talk about why that's a powerful
		
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			metaphor, so it's like a flock that I'm
		
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			guiding.
		
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			There's a lot of investment in guiding a
		
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			flock, man. So my actions are like those
		
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			little innocent lambs
		
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			that I have to guide through like all
		
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			the on the way to middle earth.
		
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			That's riayah.
		
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			So like, if I if if I'm gonna
		
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			do riayah tul fajr, I'm not gonna stay
		
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			up till like 3 binge watching, you know,
		
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			true detective or something.
		
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			I gotta wake up, man. So that's riayatul
		
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			fajr.
		
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			The second, and that also includes my relationships
		
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			with people.
		
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			The second he said
		
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			is
		
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			is I shepherd my emotional states.
		
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			We kind of did that last week. Right?
		
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			I look after
		
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			my contentment. What makes me angry?
		
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			What are those triggers? So the first
		
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			right is my faith and my practice.
		
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			I shepherd it.
		
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			In my relationships like my family, for example.
		
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			The third second,
		
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			is I'm shepherding my emotions.
		
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			Who do I hate and why? Who do
		
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			I love and why?
		
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			What are my attachments?
		
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			What brings
		
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			me value?
		
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			And the last, oh man,
		
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			is to shepherd our time.
		
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			How how do I I look after my
		
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			time?
		
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			So
		
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			we'll start next week on that,
		
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			and then we'll move on to other traditions
		
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			about
		
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			the friends of Allah.
		
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			So the friends of Allah is like hadith,
		
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			are mentioning these qualities that all of us
		
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			can do, like very simple.
		
00:55:48 --> 00:55:51
			We mentioned last year, Imam Ibn Josi,
		
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			he mentioned like all these kind of things
		
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			should always be balanced. Like no one should
		
00:55:55 --> 00:55:56
			go to one extreme or the other.
		
00:55:57 --> 00:55:57
			Right?
		
00:56:00 --> 00:56:01
			Like we should give charity but not to
		
00:56:01 --> 00:56:02
			the point where I'm coming to you. Can
		
00:56:02 --> 00:56:04
			you give me charity now?
		
00:56:04 --> 00:56:06
			Like it's in Quran, like that's an extreme.
		
00:56:07 --> 00:56:07
			Like,
		
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			but the other is like, I don't give
		
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			anything. I'm a miser, so in the middle
		
00:56:13 --> 00:56:15
			it's like responsible giving.
		
00:56:15 --> 00:56:17
			So everything here is in that pattern of
		
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			moderation.
		
00:56:18 --> 00:56:19
			And moderation
		
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			as lived by the prophet, or
		
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			and also supported by the custom of where
		
00:56:24 --> 00:56:25
			you are.
		
00:56:26 --> 00:56:28
			So again, the areas of Shep So we
		
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			read these hadith, and then we talk about
		
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			the actual
		
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			stations
		
00:56:33 --> 00:56:34
			intellectually that we should be like working on
		
00:56:34 --> 00:56:37
			to strategize how we live. So the first
		
00:56:37 --> 00:56:38
			was awakenings
		
00:56:38 --> 00:56:40
			in divine intervention.
		
00:56:41 --> 00:56:44
			That helps us understand trauma, pain, to a
		
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			certain degree,
		
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			success.
		
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			And the second is shepherding.
		
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			In order for me to shepherd something, I
		
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			have to what?
		
00:56:54 --> 00:56:55
			I have to value it.
		
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			So there's a lot in that word that
		
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			we'll unpack. And in the sheikh, and Ibraham
		
00:57:00 --> 00:57:02
			wrote about this brilliantly as well.
		
00:57:03 --> 00:57:04
			Ibn Khayyim actually explained this book in in
		
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			3 volumes.
		
00:57:06 --> 00:57:09
			But the first is I shepherd my faith,
		
00:57:09 --> 00:57:10
			my practice, and
		
00:57:11 --> 00:57:11
			my relationships.
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:19
			The second
		
00:57:22 --> 00:57:25
			my inner emotional psychological
		
00:57:25 --> 00:57:25
			states.
		
00:57:27 --> 00:57:29
			It's okay to struggle with this, man. Why
		
00:57:29 --> 00:57:31
			would you call it shepherding? Because it may
		
00:57:31 --> 00:57:34
			be very well, a struggle, like, we talked
		
00:57:34 --> 00:57:36
			about this before. No one's expected to be
		
00:57:36 --> 00:57:36
			perfect.
		
00:57:37 --> 00:57:38
			Right?
		
00:57:38 --> 00:57:40
			And then the last one is riyatul
		
00:57:40 --> 00:57:41
			alqat.
		
00:57:42 --> 00:57:43
			Like, how do I look after my time?
		
00:57:44 --> 00:57:46
			What's in what's really important?
		
00:57:47 --> 00:57:50
			What takes away my time for me?
		
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			We'll stop here.
		
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			It's nice to see everybody. Are there any
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:56
			du'a requests that we have? I know a
		
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			lot of students ask us to pray for
		
00:57:58 --> 00:57:59
			them, especially we have students
		
00:57:59 --> 00:58:01
			We actually have a sister that was the
		
00:58:01 --> 00:58:02
			RN.
		
00:58:02 --> 00:58:04
			Not RN, but
		
00:58:04 --> 00:58:07
			the the dorm the dorm person.
		
00:58:08 --> 00:58:09
			She was there
		
00:58:10 --> 00:58:10
			that
		
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			night. So we pray for her sister. Allah,
		
00:58:13 --> 00:58:14
			make it easy for her.
		
00:58:14 --> 00:58:16
			And then we have a number of students
		
00:58:16 --> 00:58:18
			who lived actually in the dorm where the
		
00:58:18 --> 00:58:18
			young person,
		
00:58:19 --> 00:58:19
			committed suicide.
		
00:58:20 --> 00:58:22
			So we ask a lot to help all
		
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			those people that were there. You know? His
		
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			family as well.
		
00:58:26 --> 00:58:28
			Yes, sir. There's an Egyptian brother,
		
00:58:29 --> 00:58:30
			from Canada
		
00:58:31 --> 00:58:33
			who was wrongfully detained in Egypt.
		
00:58:34 --> 00:58:35
			He is in prison right now.
		
00:58:36 --> 00:58:36
			Spalla.
		
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			No accusation. Nothing.
		
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			And,
		
00:58:40 --> 00:58:43
			his family's checking up on him. He was
		
00:58:43 --> 00:58:45
			kidnapped for 3 days by the government,
		
00:58:45 --> 00:58:48
			and he's, he's a bit Canadian business engineer,
		
00:58:49 --> 00:58:51
			and he's sleeping on the concrete board in
		
00:58:51 --> 00:58:53
			the Egypt in Egypt winter right now.
		
00:58:54 --> 00:58:55
			So we just make an offer and he
		
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			can come back to the Philippines.
		
00:58:58 --> 00:58:58
			Yeah. So,
		
00:58:59 --> 00:59:01
			I mean, there's a lot of Egyptians that
		
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			I know also.
		
00:59:03 --> 00:59:04
			Brothers mentioned
		
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			brother who's from Canada, who's been detained
		
00:59:07 --> 00:59:08
			in Egypt.
		
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			I ask Allah to make it easy for
		
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			him. We know, like, the daughter of Shep
		
00:59:14 --> 00:59:15
			Khaledawi and her husband
		
00:59:16 --> 00:59:18
			are detained, like, they're older people, and they're
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:19
			almost in their sixties.
		
00:59:20 --> 00:59:21
			I had an American brother when I was
		
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			in Ezehar that was captured,
		
00:59:23 --> 00:59:25
			but I'm an adoa.
		
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			And he they didn't believe he was American
		
00:59:30 --> 00:59:31
			because he's from Afghanistan.
		
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			So you're really crazy. So they have this
		
00:59:33 --> 00:59:35
			thing thing called Ithbato Gencia. I don't know
		
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			if anyone knows about it. They have to
		
00:59:36 --> 00:59:38
			like prove where you're from. He's like, but
		
00:59:38 --> 00:59:40
			you're not America, you're Egypt. It's like, well,
		
00:59:40 --> 00:59:42
			I have to prove I'm American in Egypt.
		
00:59:44 --> 00:59:45
			But then they began to ask him about
		
00:59:45 --> 00:59:47
			all the Islamic workers in America. It was
		
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			really weird.
		
00:59:48 --> 00:59:50
			And then he said, I heard people being
		
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			electrocuted.
		
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			It's like, I could smell human flesh.
		
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			So it's like, we're our tax dollars
		
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			Right?
		
00:59:58 --> 01:00:01
			People attacking Ilhan, what Ilhan is speaking about
		
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			is like the influence of countries, foreign countries
		
01:00:03 --> 01:00:06
			in general in our system. This example, man,
		
01:00:06 --> 01:00:07
			we give so much money to Egypt.
		
01:00:08 --> 01:00:09
			They ain't giving us to the Egyptians.
		
01:00:11 --> 01:00:13
			I lived in Egypt for 7 years.
		
01:00:13 --> 01:00:15
			You know, there was no, there was no
		
01:00:15 --> 01:00:16
			trickle down economics.
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:20
			No Reagan or Margaret Thatcher rocking the US
		
01:00:20 --> 01:00:22
			dollars, man, down to Egyptian society.
		
01:00:23 --> 01:00:24
			Right?
		
01:00:26 --> 01:00:27
			So those are the things we need to
		
01:00:27 --> 01:00:28
			think about as we move forward politically
		
01:00:29 --> 01:00:31
			to be much more strategic, and may Allah
		
01:00:31 --> 01:00:33
			subhanahu wa ta'ala help the Egyptians, man. I
		
01:00:33 --> 01:00:34
			miss
		
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			him.
		
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			SubhanAllah.
		
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			Any
		
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			other
		
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			dua
		
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			requests
		
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			insha'Allah
		
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			before
		
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			we?
		
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			So
		
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			may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala answered the duas
		
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			of anyone that was too intimidated
		
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			to say what their du'a request was.
		
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			If you're like, Amin.
		
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			No no one say Amin. Right? And may
		
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			Allah, Insha Allah,
		
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			help everyone to return home safely and feel
		
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			a sense of value,
		
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			try to meet someone you've never met before
		
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			maybe on the way out. Gonna pray. I
		
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			see Muhammad is here, so he's gonna lead
		
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			us,
		
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			inshallah and with his, I don't know what
		
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			voice he's gonna do tonight,
		
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			but he does, like, all the famous