Sikander Hashmi – The Power of Forgiveness KMA Friday Message

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The importance of forgiveness for Islam's system of forgiveness is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness for Allah's rights to the realm. Full accounting of one's wrongdoings and the rights of individuals and creation to be liability are also emphasized. forgiveness is a natural and necessary act, and it is crucial to avoid causing harm to others. It is also crucial to show mercy and not give aid to relatives and needy and immigrants for the cause of Allah's forgiveness. Forgiveness is tied to one's state and feelings towards others, and is crucial to empowering one's mental and emotional freedom. Forgiveness engages the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps the immune system function more efficiently and makes room for feeling good hormones.

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			May Allah,
		
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			bless you all. May Allah
		
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			keep you safe. Subhanallah, you know, every week
		
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			I look outside and I see the changing
		
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			scenery, the snow that has now melted for
		
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			the most part, almost all gone. And,
		
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			you know, some days so beautiful, sunny, not
		
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			a cloud in sight. And tonight nothing but
		
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			and today nothing but clouds and lots of
		
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			rain, subhanallah. And this is,
		
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			something that, you know, the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam, he would see the clouds. He will
		
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			make dua
		
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			That Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala makes it, you
		
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			know, beneficial and does not make it, any
		
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			harmful,
		
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			for us.
		
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			And, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us also
		
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			that this rain, this water that Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala brings from the skies, it has
		
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			it's gone. It has great, you know, purifying,
		
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			properties.
		
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			It's a pure,
		
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			purifying rain that comes from the sky. Allah
		
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			is the one who sends, and this is
		
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			Allah's system. Right? We look
		
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			at all the salt and, you know, sand,
		
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			the remnants of, snow removal, you know, the
		
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			the dirt,
		
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			that makes the snow look so gray,
		
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			and, you know, ugly to look at. It's
		
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			all getting washed away today. Right? And this
		
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			is the system of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala. So a reminder that, you
		
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			know, we live in, we are inhabitants in
		
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			the universe of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the
		
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			world of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and we
		
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			are we must all of us, all elements
		
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			of this creation, of this world, of this
		
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			universe
		
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			must abide
		
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			by the by the guidance and the commands
		
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			of Allah and
		
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			we are also no exception.
		
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			We are
		
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			17 or so days,
		
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			until Ramadan, believe it or not,
		
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			coming full circle,
		
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			compared to last year or, you know, when
		
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			you look back at last year, we're coming
		
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			full circle.
		
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			Once again at this time, before the, you
		
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			know, a couple of weeks before the month
		
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			of Ramadan, and we ask Allah
		
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			Ramadan. Ask Allah
		
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			to,
		
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			to allow us to reach the month of
		
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			Ramadan, to allow us to witness the month
		
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			of Ramadan once again.
		
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			Now one of the things my brothers and
		
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			sisters we should be asking for
		
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			and especially we will be asking Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala in Ramadan insha'Allah
		
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			is forgiveness. Right? Because, of course, Ramadan
		
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			is the month of mercy, the doors of
		
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			mercy are opened. It is the month of
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala attaining
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Now
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah, azzawajal, is indeed very
		
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			important.
		
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			And this is one of the differences between,
		
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			you know, a a a believer versus,
		
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			someone who is a hypocrite or who does
		
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			not believe. One of the key differences is
		
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			that a believer, you know, never takes the
		
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			forgiveness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for granted.
		
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			A believer does not take the mercy of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for granted for granted.
		
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			Yes. A believer will have good hopes, will
		
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			have good, you know, expectations or gonna good
		
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			hopes really to that, you know, Insha'Allah,
		
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			you know, I hope Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			will will, forgive me, but it's not something
		
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			that is taken
		
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			for granted.
		
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			So
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is
		
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			indeed very important because, you know, if Allah
		
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			were to start asking, not imagine, go through
		
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			our lives, we are all human beings. May
		
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			Allah forgive us. We we commit so many
		
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			sins.
		
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			Yeah. On a single, you know, every single
		
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			day,
		
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			even every hour, perhaps, we don't realize how
		
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			many sins we have committed.
		
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			Right? And they're all being accumulated in our
		
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			book of deeds. Right? Imagine when you go
		
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			to work or you go to school, if
		
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			your supervisor or your teacher was noting down
		
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			every single misdeed, every single mistake,
		
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			you know, every single,
		
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			you know, little shortcoming if it was all
		
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			being noted down. Of course, we know this
		
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			is not, you know, normally what happens. Maybe
		
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			if you're on probation, that would happen. But
		
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			normally, you know, people don't really, you know,
		
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			look at you with that much scrutiny.
		
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			But we know that Allah
		
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			has debuted angels, has disputed angels
		
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			to record all of our deeds
		
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			and, everything. And Allah is well aware of
		
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			every single little thing.
		
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			Right? So every single little iota of good
		
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			and, bad of evil will be recorded and
		
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			will be visible to every person on the
		
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			day of judgment. So imagine if Allah
		
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			were to start asking us and questioning each
		
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			of us about every single shortcoming and every
		
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			single mistake of ours, we will be in
		
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			deep, deep trouble.
		
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			May Allah protect us, you know, because this
		
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			is,
		
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			going to be a huge challenge that if
		
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			Allah starts scrutinizing every single little thing, you
		
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			know, as a you know, it's it's nowhere
		
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			near,
		
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			it it's the the example, you know, does
		
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			not match at all. But just imagine, you
		
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			know, that if you get a tax tax
		
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			audit or, you know, you're crossing the border
		
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			and, they send you in for secondary inspection
		
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			and they start scrutinizing, you know, every single
		
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			little detail, every single single little thing. You
		
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			know, you can imagine how much fear and
		
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			how much trepidation and anxiety there is when
		
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			you're going through that circumstance. I imagine on
		
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			the day of judgment, if that is happening
		
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			to that level in front of Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala for every single action of your
		
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			life.
		
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			Right? So may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, forgive
		
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			us. So it is critical that we seek
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala At
		
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			the prophet
		
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			salallahu
		
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			alayhi wasalam, we learned used to do 70,
		
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			100 times a day even though Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala had protected him from sin. So
		
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			he didn't actually need it. Yet the prophet
		
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			salallahu alayhi wasalam
		
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			by way of, you know, of of of
		
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			taking,
		
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			extra, you know, of of working extra and,
		
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			you know, by way of ihsan and excellence.
		
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			And as an example for us as well,
		
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			you know, you should constantly turn to Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala in repentance and seeking forgiveness
		
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			even though he did not need it.
		
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			So this forgiveness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			seeking and obtaining forgiveness from Allah
		
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			is extremely, extremely critical for us. But also
		
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			keep in mind, my brothers and sisters,
		
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			that the forgiveness of Allah
		
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			has to do with the rights of Allah,
		
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			with Huqu'u'Allah,
		
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			the things that we are supposed to do
		
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			towards Allah
		
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			or that we owe to Allah
		
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			But there is another area of rights
		
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			that can become a liability on the day
		
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			of judgment. Right? So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			can forgive us for,
		
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			our relationship with him and our shortcomings
		
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			in our relationship with Allah, azzawajal, but then
		
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			there's this other area as well.
		
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			And the prophet tells
		
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			us then
		
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			that
		
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			that
		
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			that whoever has wronged his brother or, of
		
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			course, sister with regard to their honor or
		
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			something.
		
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			Then
		
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			let them ask for forgiveness.
		
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			Let them ask him or her for forgiveness
		
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			before the time when there will be neither
		
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			dinah nor dirham, meaning there is gonna be
		
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			no accounting in terms of wealth.
		
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			That if he has any good deeds, it
		
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			will be taken from him in proportion to
		
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			the wrong he did. And if he does
		
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			not have any good deeds, any hasanat, some
		
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			of the other person, some of the victims,
		
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			say, evil deeds will be taken and given
		
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			to him to bear. So the day of
		
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			judgment is going to be a day of
		
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			complete accounting,
		
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			and there is not it is not going
		
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			to be possible for anyone
		
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			to get away
		
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			and anyone to escape judgment on that day,
		
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			especially if they have wronged others. Right? If
		
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			they have wronged the other creations of Allah
		
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			if they have wronged their fellow human beings.
		
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			So there is the the
		
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			rights of Allah
		
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			which Allah
		
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			may decide to forgive out of his mercy,
		
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			out of his vast mercy. But then there
		
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			is also the rights of people, the rights
		
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			of the creation of Allah
		
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			that could become a huge liability.
		
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			Right? A barrier for a person from entering
		
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			into paradise even. Imagine, if they lose all
		
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			of their good deeds. Right? The prophet has
		
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			told us about the person who is bankrupt,
		
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			who is truly bankrupt. This person who comes
		
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			in with prayers, with fasting, with Hajj, with
		
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			zakat, with salah, with all these good deeds,
		
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			you know, and you get the impression. It's
		
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			not input, you know, written explicitly be implicitly,
		
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			but the feeling that this person's coming in
		
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			feeling pretty confident. Right? Feeling pretty good about
		
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			themselves that, you know, I've done all these
		
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			goods all these good deeds, you know, and
		
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			feeling a little bit, you know, feeling a
		
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			bit good about themselves. And then, subhanallah, there's
		
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			a long lineup of people who are claiming
		
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			their rights from this person on the day
		
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			of judgment.
		
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			And every single person is heard, and every
		
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			single person is given something from this person's
		
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			good deeds until they have nothing left. But
		
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			it is the day of full accounting, and
		
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			now you he can't declare or she can't
		
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			declare bankruptcy like they do in this world
		
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			and say, okay. I have no more good
		
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			deeds left. I have nothing to give. No.
		
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			Then the sins start being put onto this
		
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			person instead. So the victim starts shedding their
		
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			sins and their sins are transferred. The burden
		
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			of their sins is transferred to this person
		
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			until this person has no good deeds left
		
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			and they're only drowning in the evil deeds
		
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			and the judgment is then made based on
		
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			that situation.
		
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			So the advice of Allah
		
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			protect us and forgive us. So my brothers
		
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			and sisters, the advice of the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam is that clear up,
		
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			settle your disagreements and your claims in this
		
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			life.
		
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			Clear up and settle disagreements and claims in
		
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			this life. Do not leave it for the
		
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			akhirah because in the akhirah, in the court
		
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			of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it is going
		
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			to be a much, much much more serious
		
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			affair. So try to clear it up, seek
		
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			forgiveness, figure things out in this world, do
		
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			not leave it for the hereafter. Why? Because
		
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			you don't want it to become a liability
		
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			and you don't want to end up being
		
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			bankrupt. Now we must remember my brothers and
		
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			sisters that the person who the wrong was
		
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			committed towards, the victim,
		
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			they are not obliged
		
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			to forgive.
		
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			They are not obliged to forgive or accept
		
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			an apology. You know, sometimes you go into
		
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			a situation, you know, husband and wife, relatives,
		
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			or whichever situation, and a person is apologizing
		
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			saying, I'm apologizing, so why are you not
		
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			accepting my apology?
		
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			I I apologize to you. I'm so sorry.
		
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			Why are you not accepting?
		
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			So no. We can they're not. Yeah. Yes.
		
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			There's great encouragement which we will talk about,
		
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			but they're not compelled.
		
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			The victim is not compelled to have to
		
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			accept the apology or to have to forgive
		
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			someone. But, of course, there is great great
		
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			encouragement. Now there was an incident,
		
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			that occurred regarding Aisha radiAllahu anha,
		
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			and there was a a severe a great
		
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			slander that was made against her referred to
		
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			as the incident of Al Ift and Allah
		
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			refers to this in the Quran.
		
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			And, a, a companion
		
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			who was a distant relative,
		
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			or I shouldn't say very distant, but he
		
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			was a relative of the
		
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			mister
		
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			was a relative of Abu Bakr and, of
		
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			course, Aisha
		
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			has the daughter of Abu Bakr
		
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			sent down revelation
		
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			confirming the innocence of Aisha
		
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			who was a great,
		
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			malicious slander against her. Nothing had occurred, but
		
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			someone had seen something and they had assumed
		
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			the worst when they shouldn't have, and they
		
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			did not believe her claims of innocence. And
		
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			the people who, you know, were hypocrites, who
		
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			who who had malicious intent, they have gone
		
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			about spreading this rumor or spreading this slander
		
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			against the Aisha radiAllahu anha even to the
		
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			point that, you know, it's spread quite a
		
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			bit and even the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			was, you know, somewhat neutral on this issue.
		
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			And then Allah
		
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			sent down revelation
		
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			confirming the innocence of Aisha
		
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			Now remember, Abu Bakr
		
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			had been spending on mistak
		
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			because he was his relative and he was
		
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			needy. He was poor. So he would be
		
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			giving him
		
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			Right? Who is, you know, indulged in a
		
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			you know, in in in, in behavior, which
		
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			is hurtful, which is deeply, severely hurtful to
		
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			your daughter,
		
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			who is very close to you. So Abu
		
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			Bakr, radiAllahu anhu, was very upset, and he
		
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			said, by Allah, I shall never spend anything
		
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			on mista again after what he said about
		
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			Aisha. What did he say? He said, by
		
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			Allah, I shall never spend anything on mista
		
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			again after what he said about his daughter
		
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			Aisha
		
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			Then Allah
		
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			revealed these,
		
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			words, revealed this verse.
		
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			And let not those
		
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			of virtue among you and wealth swear not
		
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			to give aid to the relatives and the
		
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			needy and the immigrants for the cause of
		
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			Allah.
		
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			And let them pardon and overlook.
		
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			Would you not like that Allah should forgive
		
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			you?
		
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			And Allah is forgiving
		
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			and merciful. So Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu after
		
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			hearing this verse and this was the beauty
		
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			of the sahabah radiAllahu anhu. When they heard
		
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			a command of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, even
		
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			if it was not specific to them. In
		
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			this case, it was specific to Allah radiAllahu
		
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			anhu. That even if it was not specific,
		
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			they would always put it upon themselves.
		
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			They would always put it upon themselves
		
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			to say, okay, how does this apply to
		
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			me? So as the verse was revealed, that
		
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			said, yes, indeed by Allah, I would like
		
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			Allah to forgive me.
		
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			Asking, would you not like that Allah should
		
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			forgive you? So,
		
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			yes, by Allah, I would like Allah to
		
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			forgive me. I would like Allah to forgive
		
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			me. So he resumed
		
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			spending on mister even though he had spread
		
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			this malicious lie, the slander of the so
		
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			he resumed spending on mister as he used
		
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			to do and he said by Allah, I
		
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			shall never deprive him of it. So even
		
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			though he had missedah had done something which
		
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			was so, hurtful to Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu,
		
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			and of course, Raisha radiAllahu anhu, the wife
		
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			of the prophets of allahu alayhi wasallam. Yet,
		
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			Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu, you know, took this
		
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			warning that was or this this this guidance
		
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			that was in this verse, and he said
		
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			I will never stop spending upon him again.
		
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			Now Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
		
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			tells
		
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			us that from the, from the qualities of
		
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			the people of Taqwa, the people of piety
		
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			and the fear of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			Allah
		
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			says,
		
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			That they are those who donate in prosperity
		
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			and adversity.
		
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			There are those
		
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			They donate.
		
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			They give in charity in prosperity
		
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			and in adversity.
		
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			What else do they do? They control their
		
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			anger and
		
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			they pardon others.
		
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			And they are forgiving, or they have a
		
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			hardening attitude towards people. And Allah
		
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			loves the good doers. And, of course, we
		
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			find the greatest example of forgiveness and amnesty
		
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			and pardon in human history with the conquest
		
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			of Makkah.
		
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			And so much, you know, pain
		
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			and suffering
		
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			had been committed, you know, by the hands
		
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			of those who were conquered, right, by the
		
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			prophet
		
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			by the believers,
		
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			yet there was general amnesty,
		
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			no retribution or revenge against pretty much all
		
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			of those people except for a few exceptions.
		
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			Apart from those, you know, there was
		
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			pretty much general amnesty, no retribution, no revenge,
		
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			and it was so unexpected that the people
		
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			of Maktoum even are afraid.
		
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			The people of Maktoum were afraid because they've
		
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			they knew what they had done.
		
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			They knew what they had done to the
		
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			prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. They knew what
		
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			they had done to the Muslims and to
		
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			the believers, and therefore they were afraid that
		
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			what is gonna happen to us now. Right?
		
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			And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam replied
		
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			in the same way that Yusuf alaihi wa
		
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			sallam replied and said that
		
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			Right? There is no blame against you today.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			has thus taught us.
		
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			Show mercy and you will be shown mercy.
		
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			Forgive and Allah
		
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			will forgive you.
		
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			Very beautiful, very, very simple, you know, hadith,
		
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			very profound in terms of what we learn
		
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			and what we're supposed to do, very difficult
		
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			perhaps to act upon at times. But, again,
		
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			show mercy and you'll be shown mercy. Forgive
		
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			and Allah will forgive you. What does this
		
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			tell us? That the way we respond to
		
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			people, the way we behave with people, we
		
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			can expect that Allah has been to deal
		
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			with us in the same way. Right? So
		
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			if we have mercy towards people, Allah
		
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			will show us mercy. If we forgive people,
		
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			Allah
		
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			will forgive us, inshallah.
		
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			Now Ibni Khidhan
		
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			he said that what is required of the
		
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			wise man
		
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			if his brother and, of course, this goes
		
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			for sister as well,
		
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			a wise person, that what is required of
		
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			the wise man is if his brother apologizes
		
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			to him for a previous offense or shortcoming
		
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			is to accept his apology
		
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			and regard him as being like one who
		
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			did not commit any error.
		
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			What is required of the wise man? If
		
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			his brother apologizes to him for a previous
		
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			offense or something
		
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			or or shortcoming, it is to accept his
		
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			apology and regard regard him as being like
		
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			one who did not commit any error. Because
		
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			if someone
		
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			offers his excuses to him
		
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			and he does not accept that because if
		
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			someone is apologizing,
		
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			someone is saying, I'm sorry. I made a
		
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			shortcoming. Please forgive me. So he says, if
		
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			he does not accept that, I fear that
		
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			he will not come to the prophet
		
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			at the cistern in the hereafter.
		
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			Right? That is something that the per a
		
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			person who is not accepting an apology may
		
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			be deprived of. Forgive
		
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			us all. Now my brothers and sisters, the
		
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			reality is is that
		
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			the vast majority of grudges
		
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			the vast majority of grudges are over petty
		
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			things
		
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			over
		
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			petty things, disagreements.
		
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			Some words were exchanged.
		
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			Maybe there are different temperaments. People have different
		
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			personalities, different temperaments. You know, they they work
		
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			the wrong way. There are perhaps some misunderstandings
		
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			because not everyone communicates in the same way.
		
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			Right? And especially when we are online, especially
		
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			when we're communicating
		
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			digitally,
		
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			right, and we're not able to see people,
		
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			like, you're not using video, then it is
		
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			easier to misunderstand because you're not able to
		
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			read a person's
		
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			body language. Okay? So
		
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			these things are natural. This is part of
		
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			human nature that there are going to be
		
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			disagreements. Someone is gonna say something we, you
		
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			know, got disappointed. We didn't think they should
		
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			have said it. You know, they did something,
		
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			this and that. Right? So this happens throughout
		
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			life, throughout the world.
		
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			And, yes,
		
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			it may have been hurtful. So it's not
		
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			to say that it was something good that
		
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			happened, but, yes, it it very likely was
		
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			hurtful. Maybe it was wrong. But at the
		
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			end of the day, there's not a major
		
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			or serious deprivation of rights.
		
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			There's not a major or a serious deprivation
		
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			of rights. It's not like a crime was
		
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			committed or, you know, there was a major
		
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			infringement on a person's life or, you know,
		
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			injury to their to their body or to
		
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			their property or anything of that sort. So
		
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			these types of disagreements of brothers and sisters,
		
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			they are natural. They should not last. Yes.
		
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			You know, you were disappointed. You were offended.
		
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			Okay? But after some time, it should be
		
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			buried. And as the prophet told us that,
		
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			you know, it should not last
		
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			more than 3 days, right, between brothers. So
		
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			at least the exchange at least okay. You
		
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			don't have to be their best friend again.
		
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			They're noticing that you have to be exactly
		
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			as you were before, but you should try
		
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			to overlook and move on after 3 days
		
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			or by 3 days. Now sometimes it can
		
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			be something that is much greater. Right? So
		
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			it's a serious infringement on rights. There is
		
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			pain. There is injury. There is loss. You
		
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			know, there is a crime that has been
		
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			committed, especially if it was violent or, you
		
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			know, there's severe abuse that has occurred.
		
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			And in those situations, you know, it very
		
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			well may not be easy. Right? But the
		
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			Quran, Allah in the Quran uses multiple terms
		
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			for forgiveness,
		
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			and the two most notable ones
		
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			are
		
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			Right? And Surat Ali Imran and Surat Anur,
		
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			Surat Anur, Surat Anur, Surat Anur, and Allah
		
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			refers to Maaf.
		
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			And we also find Saf. Right?
		
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			So Saf and Surat Anur, as we discussed,
		
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			and Surat Anur as well. Now Al Afu
		
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			means to forgive.
		
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			K. Simply
		
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			to forgive.
		
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			And Al Saf is
		
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			to forgive and forget. Okay. To put it
		
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			simply. So one is to forgive. The other
		
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			is to forgive and forget.
		
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			So the first one,
		
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			which is to forgive, is the minimum.
		
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			While the second one, the which is
		
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			the, to forgive and forget,
		
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			that is the higher and more noblier type
		
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			of forgiveness.
		
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			So when we talk about forgiveness, the bare
		
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			minimum that we're talking about is to forgive.
		
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			Okay? It's to say, okay. Yes. It happened.
		
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			Okay. Let's move on. Or, yes, I will
		
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			remember that, but, okay, I've forgiven you. It's
		
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			just the bare minimum. And the soft is
		
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			the higher level.
		
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			But both are not obligatory as mentioned
		
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			earlier. Right? As we discussed earlier, they are
		
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			not obligatory upon a victim.
		
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			So a a a push person who wishes
		
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			to forgive
		
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			a person who has wronged them has 2
		
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			choices, right, either to forgive only
		
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			or to forgive and forget.
		
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			Right? To forgive and forget would mean that,
		
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			you know, they would forgive every forgive everything,
		
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			forget everything, and go back to as they
		
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			were before. Right? Go back to normal, reset,
		
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			you know, go back to the default, and
		
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			go back to the holder. To forgive,
		
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			the person forgives, say, okay. I have no
		
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			claim against
		
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			you. Okay. I've forgiven that, but, you know,
		
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			I still I'm not ready to go back
		
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			to how we were before. So there should
		
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			not be any stigma. I should not try
		
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			to, you know, look down upon anyone who
		
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			chooses to forgive only because perhaps a person
		
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			is not yet able already to forgive and
		
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			forget.
		
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			K. Maybe they're able to forgive from their
		
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			love, but maybe they're not able to forget
		
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			because the trauma or the, you know, the
		
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			experience was so hurtful, was so difficult for
		
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			them that they're not there yet. They're not
		
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			able to forget.
		
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			But Allah
		
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			tells us that
		
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			Whoever endures patiently
		
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			and forgives, the surely this surely this is
		
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			a resolve to aspire to. So it's from
		
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			Azmul Umar. So meaning, it is something, you
		
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			know, which is at a higher level. It
		
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			is something which requires,
		
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			some effort and,
		
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			requires resolve.
		
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			Now one of the things,
		
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			you know, also that we learn from the
		
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			Quran, Allah
		
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			tells us what
		
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			is the reward or the recompense of an
		
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			evil deed is its equivalent.
		
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			Okay? So when a person in Islamic justice,
		
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			right, there are kind of according to the
		
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			rules of Islam, if a person has been
		
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			wronged, right, has been hurt, they have the
		
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			right to claim retribution,
		
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			right, to respond in the same way because
		
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			But Allah
		
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			along with that says,
		
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			but whoever pardons and seeks
		
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			reconciliation,
		
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			then their reward is with Allah.
		
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			He certainly does not like the wrongdoers.
		
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			Mashei Hassadi
		
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			he said that stating
		
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			that the reward of the one who forgives
		
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			because in this ayah, what did Allah say?
		
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			Allah says,
		
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			meaning that the reward is with Allah for
		
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			who? The person who pardons and seeks reconciliation.
		
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			So sheikh Hassadi says that stating that the
		
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			reward of the one who forgives is due
		
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			from Allah
		
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			motivates him to forgive
		
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			and to treat as he wants Allah to
		
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			treat him.
		
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			Just as he wants Allah to forgive him,
		
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			he should forgive others. And just as he
		
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			wants Allah to pardon him, he should pardon
		
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			others for the reward is of the same
		
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			nature as the deed. Right? So when a
		
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			person does a good deed, the reward from
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is of the same
		
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			type, of the same nature, or, you know,
		
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			somehow related to
		
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			the deed. So forgiving others will lead insha'Allah
		
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			to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			forgiving us.
		
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			Now
		
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			the forgiveness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala may
		
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			sometimes even, you know, be very well tied
		
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			to our forgiveness of others
		
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			and the purifying of our hearts towards them
		
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			by letting go of our grudges.
		
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			Now how sad would it be for a
		
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			person? Can you imagine?
		
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			Who held and harbored malice in their heart,
		
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			who harbored grudges in their heart through their
		
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			lives.
		
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			And, you know, they were regularly offended. They
		
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			were very sensitive. They didn't forgive people.
		
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			Right? Yet in their life, they asked Allah
		
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			for forgiveness.
		
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			And on the day of judgment, they realized
		
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			that Allah
		
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			forgiveness has been withheld for them from them
		
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			or has been, you know,
		
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			has has, has been constrained
		
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			or not given to them in the same
		
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			degree as it would have otherwise
		
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			because they were not forgiving towards others. And
		
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			this is particularly what I what I mean
		
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			is about people who are you know, those
		
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			situations where there's no serious wrong that has
		
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			been committed, but it was just some offense.
		
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			Right? If something happened, you know, that we
		
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			didn't like, or maybe our ego was hurt,
		
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			or maybe there was just something that went
		
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			against our taste and we took it as
		
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			a grudge and we kept that grudge and
		
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			that malice in our heart. The prophet
		
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			tells us and this is a Sahih narration.
		
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			The prophet said
		
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			that,
		
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			Right? And Sahih and,
		
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			as,
		
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			written in Sahih
		
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			that Allah looks
		
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			down at his creation on the middle night
		
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			of Shaaban, right, which is coming up.
		
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			And, so the this was Shaaban will be
		
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			on Monday, inshaAllah, so Sunday night. So Allah
		
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			looks down at his creation on the middle
		
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			night of Shaaban,
		
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			and he forgives all of his creatures
		
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			except for a mushlik, an idolater,
		
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			or one harboring malice. A mushahin, one who
		
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			has kept malice, grudges inside of their hearts.
		
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			So, again, we find this this idea that
		
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			or this, you know, this teaching that the
		
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			forgiveness of Allah
		
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			is tied to our state and our feelings
		
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			towards others. May Allah purify our hearts. Now
		
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			benefits the benefits of forgiving and letting go
		
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			are not just spiritual, but they're physical and
		
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			mental as well. And, subhanallah, once again, we
		
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			find the link between
		
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			the guidance of Allah, his messenger
		
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			and research showing its impact upon us
		
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			physically
		
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			and mentally.
		
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			So,
		
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			you know, I was reading a research, you
		
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			know, a a a a piece, an article,
		
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			right, where they're talking about forgiveness, the impacts
		
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			of forgiveness.
		
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			And this is a licensed, psychotherapist who says
		
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			that when we hold on to grudges and
		
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			resentment,
		
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			it's like drinking poison. What is it like?
		
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			It's like drinking poison. When we hold on
		
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			to grudges and resentment,
		
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			it's like drinking poison and expecting the other
		
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			person will get sick.
		
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			It's like drinking poison and expecting that the
		
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			other person to get sick.
		
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			She goes on and says it causes us
		
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			to carry negative tense energy in our biology.
		
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			Living in a chronic state of tension
		
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			disables your body's repair mechanisms,
		
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			increasing inflammation
		
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			and the stress hormone cortisol in the body,
		
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			she explained.
		
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			Forgiveness
		
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			engages
		
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			the parasympathetic
		
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			nervous system, which helps your immune system function
		
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			more efficiently
		
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			and makes room for feel good hormones.
		
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			If you're attempted to dwell on an offense,
		
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			remind yourself
		
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			what you are doing to your body
		
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			when you run the scenario in your mind
		
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			again. Your brain doesn't know what is real
		
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			and what is imagined.
		
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			When you replay in your mind an experience
		
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			you had some time ago, 6 months ago,
		
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			your body reacts as if you're having the
		
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			same experience over and over again.
		
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			She says realize that unforgiveness
		
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			increases your pain.
		
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			In, in mindfulness practice, what do they do?
		
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			They use an arrow analogy to explain grudges.
		
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			The first arrow that hurt us is the
		
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			offense. That was the first arrow that hurt
		
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			us.
		
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			The second arrow that wounds us is our
		
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			self imposed suffering.
		
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			We can pile these negative emotions on ourselves
		
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			and make them much worse by holding on
		
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			to resentment.
		
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			And then in the end, she says that
		
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			some people misunderstand forgiveness as condoning bad behavior,
		
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			but, really,
		
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			forgiveness is the path to our mental and
		
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			emotional freedom.
		
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			We no longer have to hold ourselves in
		
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			bondage
		
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			based on what someone else did to us.
		
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			So once again, we find
		
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			psychological, mental, emotional benefits
		
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			of forgiveness,
		
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			and this is linked to, of course, clearly
		
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			what we're talking about the guidance of Allah's
		
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			messenger, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And I'll end with
		
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			this hadith of the prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
		
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			The prophet said that charity does not decrease
		
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			wealth.
		
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			No one forgives another except that Allah increases
		
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			their honor, and no one humbles themselves for
		
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			the sake of Allah except that Allah raises
		
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			their status. So let us make a'a, my
		
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			brothers and sisters.
		
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			Muhammad.
		
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			Will Allah please protect us from all types
		
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			of wrongdoing and sins.
		
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			Will Allah please ease the pain of those
		
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			who have been wronged, who are victims and
		
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			who are suffering, You Rabbil Alameen.
		
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			Will Allah open our hearts to forgiveness and
		
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			to humility, You Rabbil Alameen. Will Allah please
		
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			forgive us for all of our minor and
		
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			major sins. Oh Allah please make us those
		
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			who are forgiven and who forgive others as
		
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			well, You Rabbil Alameen. Oh, Allah. Please give
		
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			us the strength and the courage to overlook
		
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			offenses that have been caused to us. Oh,
		
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			Allah. The wrong that has been caused to
		
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			us by others. Oh, Allah. Please give us
		
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			the strength to overlook those and to forgive
		
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			others.
		
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			Oh, Allah. Please purify our hearts
		
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			of all types of grudges and malice and
		
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			disbeliefs and incorrect beliefs and hypocrisy
		
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			and unlawful desires.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please fill our hearts with the
		
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			light of iman, with the strength of taqwa,
		
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			with love for you, your book, and your
		
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			beloved
		
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			Oh, Allah, please purify our hearts and our
		
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			minds, especially in these 2 weeks, in these
		
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			few days before the month of Ramadan. Oh,
		
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			Allah, please make us those who are pure
		
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			so that we can enter your the the
		
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			blessed month in a in a pure state.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please envelope us all in your
		
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			unseen protection, You Rabbal Alameen. Oh, Allah, please
		
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			cure all of those who are ill, who
		
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			are facing hardships and struggles with regards to
		
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			their health and their bodies, You Rabbal Alameen.
		
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			Oh, Allah, our brothers and sisters, oh, Allah,
		
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			our children with physical disabilities, mental health challenges,
		
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			oh, Allah, please make it easy for them
		
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			and their families, You Rabbalameen.
		
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			Oh, Allah, please reward their loved ones for
		
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			all of their efforts and sacrifices, You Rabbalameen.
		
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			Oh Allah, our elder sister was living constantly
		
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			in pain and weakness and all of our
		
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			elders, oh Allah, peace grant them strength and
		
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			relief, You, oh Allah,
		
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			peace grant them protection and a long life
		
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			of happiness with iman, You,
		
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			Oh, Allah, our brother and sister who are
		
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			living in with long term pain and injuries,
		
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			oh, Allah, please make their lives easy for
		
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			them, You, Allah,
		
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			for anyone for whom their day to day
		
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			life is a struggle, oh, Allah, please remove
		
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			their struggles,
		
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			Oh, Allah, our elder pioneers, our other brothers
		
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			and sisters who are ill, facing cancer, COVID
		
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			19, other illnesses,
		
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			oh, Allah, they are going through hardship and
		
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			pain. Oh, Allah, their family members and friends
		
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			are are are are are in anxiety and
		
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			concern. Oh, Allah, please cure them and grant
		
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			them all relief, You Rabbal Alameen. Oh, Allah,
		
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			all of those who are in hospitals right
		
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			now, oh, Allah, all of those who are
		
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			bedridden right now, oh, Allah, all of those
		
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			who are not able to join us because
		
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			of illness, oh, Allah, please cure them and
		
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			protect them, oh, Allah, Oh, Allah. Oh, Allah.
		
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			We ask you to
		
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			remove the trials and hardships from the lives
		
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			of all of our brothers and sisters in
		
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			faith and vanity.
		
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			Oh, Allah. Please grant them the strength to
		
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			succeed through these trials and tribulations.
		
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			Oh, Allah, all of the homes who have
		
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			family problems and issues, oh, Allah, disagreements and
		
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			challenges within spouses and children and their parents
		
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			and other relatives, between business partners, between friends,
		
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			between neighbors. Oh, Allah, please remove all of
		
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			those struggles and disagreements.
		
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			So starting tonight, we'll be, starting a new
		
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			special series,
		
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			which is, a TransCanada
		
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			Ramadan Interactive Online Lectures. What does that mean?
		
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			It means that we have scholars, imams, teachers
		
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			from across Canada joining us, 1 session at
		
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			a time because we know about Zoom fatigue.
		
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			We don't wanna have long conferences through the
		
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			whole day you're sitting in front of your
		
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			computer. So we'll have short sessions
		
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			throughout. So starting tonight, the first lecture is
		
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			at 8 PM tonight
		
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			and the imam of
		
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			the Islamic Center of Kingston,
		
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			will be joining us
		
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			to talk about, the prophets of the Ramadan
		
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			of the prophet
		
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			and of the pious.
		
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			And it's interactive, so it's on Zoom. You
		
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			can join on Zoom where you can watch.
		
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			But if you're on Zoom, you can ask
		
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			questions, and it will be interactive,
		
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			you know, interview style.
		
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			So please join us for that at 8
		
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			PM tonight.