Shakiel Humayun – The Best Family Man 80th Friday Sermon
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The importance of good character in Islam is discussed, including facial expressions and messages through body language. Representatives of good character are the prophet Muhammad, who is best known for his advice on managing emotions and addressing problems. The speaker emphasizes the importance of addressing individuals' emotions through protecting their bodies, but not recalling them as a time to be right or wrong. The Prophet Muhammad's approach to addressing emotions is not a time to be right or wrong, but a time to address individuals' emotions.
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Allah subhanahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahanaahuahal
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that he has taught human beings
speech.
He has taught human beings
expression,
how to express
themselves,
and there are multiple forms
of expression besides just speech.
We have facial expressions.
There are expressions and messages we send
with our eyes.
There are expressions that are done through indication.
We have the sign language.
There are expressions that are done through body
language.
All of these forms of expressions combined together
do not exist
in any being on the face on the
face of this earth except for human beings.
And when we take the sum total of
these expressions that we emanate daily or on
or on an hourly basis,
We are communicating with those around us. We
send messages through our body language. We send
messages through our facial expressions.
And Islam has come to regulate these expressions.
And these expressions when they are regulated by
Islam it's called
it's called good character.
And so so important
is this good character that the prophet Muhammad
said
The prophet Muhammad
said that I
will come to the gates of paradise on
the day of judgement
and I will seek for it to be
opened.
The gatekeeper will say, who are you?
I will say, I am Mohammed.
And then the gatekeeper will say, I have
been commanded not to open this gate for
anyone besides you, before you. So So the
prophet Muhammad
will be the first
man
to enter into paradise.
And this is because the prophet Muhammad
mastered
good character.
The prophet
mastered his character with Allah with
full submission to Allah
He mastered
his character with those around him
with
and good character such that the prophet
said,
There is nothing
that weighs
more heavy than good character on the scales
on the day of judgment.
And so we have
sometimes
regarding good character,
it's easier for us to be
good and display good character with with those
who we may not know, people who may
be strangers,
people who we may meet for the first
time
that we tend to have kindness and good
character.
And sometimes
we tend not to have the same kind
of kindness or level of kindness
or patience
with those who we see on a regular
basis.
Our family members, our community members, the tendency
is to have a shorter fuse,
to have a quick temper
or to get upset or to be less
reserved with the statements and remarks we make.
And so the challenge is to continue that
good character not just when someone is a
stranger, but also if they become a community
member or become a family member.
And the best man to demonstrate that is
the prophet Muhammad
where
reports in Sahih al Bukhari.
He said that one day the prophet Muhammad
had guests in his house.
The prophet Muhammad
is there.
His wife is there at the house and
the guests are in front of them.
Then all of a sudden,
a servant walks in,
and the servant walks with a container of
food.
Now this container of food, the servant is
bringing it from another wife of the prophet
Muhammad
So the wife
who was in front of the prophet Muhammad
sees this container of food coming from another
home, from his other wife to serve hard
guests.
She then
pushes the hand of the servant
with the container of food falls to the
ground, falls to the floor and cracks
and the food gets splattered
onto the floor.
The prophet Muhammad
is standing.
This is happening in front of the Messenger
of Allah
His wife is doing this in front of
the guests. The guests are watching.
The prophet Muhammad
what does he do?
Imagine that this happens with your spouse
in your house. What would your reaction be?
What would you say?
How would you handle this situation?
The best family man to ever walk on
this earth handles it this way. The prophet
Muhammad
then goes down to the floor,
picks up the pieces of the wood container,
puts them together,
and then goes back to the floor and
picks up the food that has been on
the floor and puts it into the container.
And while he's doing it, he says
He's saying that your mother speaking to the
guests, that your mother your mother has
your mother has
is this characteristic
of protective jealousy where a spouse feels for
another spouse. So the wife at the in
the house of the prophet Muhammad
felt
that another wife was sending food
to her home, to her guests. So the
prophet
says
explains this to the guests. And then the
prophet Muhammad
told the servant not to leave After he
finished merging the pieces
of the container together
and putting the food back into the container,
he brings a good container from that particular
home and sends it to with the servant
and says take this back to that your
house for the other wife so she can
have
a well undamaged
container.
This is how the prophet Muhammad
dealt with this incident.
An amazing family man, an example for all
of us.
We noticed that the prophet of Muhammad
said
and he didn't say
or He said to the guests, your mother
has this protective jealousy. She's being protective. Your
mother is being protective.
He did not say my wife is being
protective.
And this is to remind the guests who
are watching this incident,
the status of his wife that they are
actually your mothers.
The prophet Muhammad
also didn't say,
He said,
He didn't say your mother is being protective
in the Arabic language. You can flip the
verb and put it first in English. It
may not it does not make sense, but
the prophet
literally saying
that she's being protective
using the word protective upfront
so that people will understand
the reason why she did what she did.
The Prophet
is presenting
to the guests an excuse
for her. The Prophet
is preventing her from being embarrassed
or shamed in front of his guests.
And so the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
here teaches us that sometimes
we have to address the underlying
emotion
and not someone's statement or someone's action. We
see that the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam,
he went down to pick up the food.
He did not speak to Aisha
He did not say to her why did
you push the hand of the servant? Why
did you crack this container?
Why did you
throw the food on the floor?
Don't you see that our guests are right
in front of us? He did not say
a single word of any of those words
to his wife alaihis salatu wa sallam. But
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam because he understood
that he's not going to address her actions.
He's not going to address her statements
because at times we need to address
the emotion of the individual
and that's not a time to be logical.
This is not a time to be right
or wrong, but this is a time to
address her emotions. So the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam in addressing her emotion went to
the ground,
picked up the containers,
picked up the pieces,
picked up the food, and that was a
message to his wife
that he is now protecting her from being
embarrassed and also giving her a moment to
reflect on what she did. And that's because
the prophet Muhammad
understood
and realized that fixing a broken container
is easier than fixing a broken heart. So
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
showed no harshness,
did not break our heart at this moment,
did not say look you messed up the
food, look you have embarrassed us in front
of our guests. But the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam focused his attention
on presenting excuse to his guests and rectifying
the situation.
And this is from
the wisdoms of the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam and how a great family man he
was. The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam started to
rectify the situation where the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam then held back the servant and told
the servant not to go back because
the prophet
did not want this matter to escalate.
Imagine if the servant went back with a
broken container. What would that other wife feel?
What would she think? And it would cause
a greater problem. So as spouses, it's upon
us to make sure that if an incident
happens we should think for a moment. Am
I going to address
this my spouse's statement? Am I going to
address my spouse's action or am I going
to address my spouse's emotion? And when I'm
addressing my spouse's emotion, what can I do
to make sure ensure
that this doesn't escalate?
Imagine something like this happening in someone's household.
It could lead to
a lot of argument. It could lead to
insults. It could even lead to be the
foundation and basis for divorce. But the prophet
Muhammad stopped
the servant from leaving and made sure he
left with a good pot to return to
the other wife.
And so my dear brothers and sisters,
sometimes we have an understanding of piety and
righteousness that is so unhuman that didn't even
exist in the time with the prophet Muhammad
and his companions.
As we see, we have one of the
best of believers here, the wife of the
prophet Muhammad
and in some narrations it mentions it was
Aisha
but yet people can make actions like these
and yet the prophet Muhammad
would make excuses for them. So the idea
that we have the standard of righteousness that
no one can ever make a mistake, that
no one can ever show their emotion,
that no one can ever be in a
situation where they may be embarrassed. This never
even existed in the time of the prophet
Muhammad or
in the time of the companions and is
foreign to Islam. Rather, Islam allows us to
be human,
allows us to show emotion and a lot
and then gives us the guidance in how
these emotions should be handled. So Allah subhanahu,
the prophet Muhammad
had showed us how he reacted and how
these expressions that we make through our body,
through our faces, through our statements, through our
speech
should be managed and handled and that is
because the prophet Muhammad
is the best family man to walk on
the face of this earth. I ask Allah
to enable us to learn and follow from
the temperament of the prophet Muhammad
and to make our houses to be a
place of comfort and happiness and to make
them to be paradises on the face of
this earth.