Shafayat Mohamed – FOLLOWING THE SUNNAH OF GETTING MARRIED

Shafayat Mohamed
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The speaker discusses the historical backstory of Islam, including the creation of Adam, the marriage of Adam, and the marriage of Adam to his wife. They also discuss the statistics of children born out of marriage and the high prevalence of children born in America. The speaker warns against praying for happiness and suggests that people should focus on thanking God for their own happiness and success.

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			Just to show you how far away we
		
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			are going from Surat al Mustaqim, human beings.
		
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			When Allah
		
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			created the world
		
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			and then he created Adam
		
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			Well, Adam,
		
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			and he taught Adam
		
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			Do you recall what is one of the
		
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			first thing he did?
		
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			What was one of the first thing he
		
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			did?
		
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			Well, there are many things he did. Right?
		
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			But one of the first thing he did
		
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			for
		
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			Adam
		
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			Allah.
		
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			He created He
		
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			created a wife for him. And that's a
		
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			long
		
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			story, which I don't have the time to
		
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			get into. Sometimes I do it in a
		
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			wedding.
		
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			One day if Allah give me the hiday,
		
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			I'll do it in the jummah.
		
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			So he created a wife for him.
		
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			He gave him
		
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			that spouse,
		
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			and he married them, Adam
		
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			and Hawa
		
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			See how interesting?
		
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			Who did that? Allah.
		
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			The creator, the halic of insan.
		
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			The creator of human beings.
		
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			He established marriage.
		
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			And if you go into the Quran in
		
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			Surah Rum chapter 30 verse 21 and time
		
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			doesn't permit me to go into it, which
		
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			he speaks about and from from amongst my
		
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			sign, the
		
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			that he has created your spouse so you
		
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			could find peace.
		
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			And he has created love,
		
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			and he established rahma,
		
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			peace,
		
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			love,
		
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			mercy.
		
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			Three things that we don't see amongst people
		
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			nowadays.
		
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			We show peace,
		
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			tranquility,
		
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			love, and mercy.
		
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			And he created this wife, Adam
		
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			What? The wife. Marriage.
		
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			So as soon as he created Adam,
		
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			when he taught him, it was about a
		
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			wife and marriage.
		
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			Today, do you know what is the statistics
		
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			of marriage?
		
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			You know in America, go check it out.
		
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			A lot of you are university graduates.
		
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			Over 40%
		
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			of children
		
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			born in America
		
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			are born out of marriage.
		
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			That is 10%
		
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			short of the 50%
		
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			of people.
		
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			What is that telling us?
		
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			Human beings, how far we are going away
		
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			from what god established for human beings. And
		
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			I'm not talking about building a masjid here.
		
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			I'm not talking about giving charity and building
		
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			a book, buying a book. I'm not talking
		
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			about building a school. I'm talking about people's
		
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			own happiness.
		
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			Our own happiness.
		
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			Where we find sakinah, peace,
		
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			love,
		
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			mercy. As Allah says, He has established this
		
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			for husband and wife, and He has established
		
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			marriage, so husband and wife can come together,
		
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			have peace, love, harmony, home, family, community,
		
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			society, a happy world.
		
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			And over 40%
		
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			of children are born in America out of
		
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			marriage.
		
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			That is a sickening thing.
		
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			And do you know Muslims are following very
		
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			very
		
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			fast? Contrary to the sunnah and the Quran?
		
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			You see how? It doesn't matter sisters, you
		
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			wear hijab
		
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			and a tight jeans, I don't know what
		
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			you're trying to prove, but anyhow, brothers you're
		
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			growing a long beard, but you're not setting
		
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			up the lifestyle according to Quran and sunnah.
		
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			You're praying salah, but we're not living according
		
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			to Quran.
		
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			What are we running behind? You're praying salah?
		
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			You're running behind the dunya?
		
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			Our own happiness? Woman, children, family?
		
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			Do you know Iceland?
		
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			Iceland
		
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			has
		
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			the
		
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			highest statistics of children
		
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			born out of I mean, out of marriage.
		
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			Approximately
		
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			67 to 70%
		
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			of the children born in Iceland.
		
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			And I I when I thought the people
		
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			were not marrying, I thought it's because the
		
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			place is too cold.
		
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			But then I realized they're making more children,
		
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			but out of marriage. So maybe,
		
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			you know, we live in a sad world.
		
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			Over 2 thirds of the population
		
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			having I mean, of children born out of
		
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			marriage,
		
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			what God has written.
		
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			You would check the Bible, you check the
		
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			Torah, you check the Psalms, you check the
		
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			Gita, you check all the religious scriptures.
		
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			How God has designed man
		
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			and woman
		
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			and put us together, and how to live
		
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			for our benefit, for our happiness, for our
		
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			success, for love and peace and harmony,
		
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			and that we're not even doing right, whether
		
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			it's for our own peace and desire and
		
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			happiness.
		
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			What else we gonna do right?
		
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			We a lot of us, I tell you,
		
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			we pray only because we want to know.
		
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			We don't pray because we thank Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala. It's because we want more from
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Go check the statistics. Over 2 thirds?
		
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			Do you know what was the marriage the
		
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			the age
		
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			bracket of marriage in the United States of
		
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			America
		
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			30, 40 years ago?
		
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			1918, 1920
		
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			years. Most of the people used to get
		
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			married at that age.
		
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			What?
		
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			18, 1920.
		
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			You remember that was to be the Muslim
		
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			master also?
		
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			16, 17, 18?
		
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			Now the statistics of the United States of
		
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			America of marriage is not 28, 29, 30.
		
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			What's really going on with people? You're marrying
		
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			after you live half of your life? Then
		
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			you got 30 more years for 60?
		
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			We going
		
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			mad?
		
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			Is something wrong with human beings? They don't
		
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			even know how to live?
		
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			How to enjoy our happiness that God has
		
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			created for us? So if we cannot enjoy
		
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			the virtues and the happiness that God created
		
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			for us in the Quran, the bible, and
		
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			the Torah, and the scriptures. And I say
		
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			this to all human beings.
		
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			I tell everybody this.
		
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			We are far away from the path that
		
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			God has really designed for us. A lot
		
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			of us are very selfish. It's only about
		
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			going to mosque and we don't pray because
		
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			we don't want to go to *, and
		
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			we want to ask for more money and
		
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			more success and more business. It's about thanking
		
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			Allah because we're not even prepared to enjoy
		
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			our own life the way God says to
		
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			enjoy.
		
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			And that's a serious statistics. And the sad
		
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			thing is that Muslim families are also following
		
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			that in the hope of dunya, in the
		
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			love for the dunya. I gotta do it.