Shadee Elmasry – What to Look for in a Husband
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The speaker discusses the importance of checking the deen of a person, including their appearance, relationship status, and deifications. They also mention the importance of providing personal information to avoid being criticized by others. The deen is determined by their appearance and relationship status, and is seen as a regular Muslim practice.
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Prophet
said, if a man comes to you and
you accept his character and his deen, his
character is determined by asking people about him
who have lived with him, traded with him,
bought and sold with him, worked with him,
or traveled with him. Assessing the character of
a man is not going to the masjid
and asking the imam. He is the worst
one to know. Why? Because everyone's on their
best behavior in the masjid. But when you
live with someone, when you buy and sell
with somebody, when you travel with somebody, you
see them in their true colors. So ask
people who did those three things with them.
That's his character. What about his deen? His
deen, you can say yes in the masjid.
Does he show up? Yeah. His reputation is
that he is a regular Muslim like everybody
else. He prays and fasts and he pays
his zakah, and we never see him smoking,
drinking, or going out with women or anything
like that. The third thing is the asked
the man himself, can you provide? Because that's
his religious obligation. So part of checking on
his deen is checking on if he can
provide. And then also, the has to like
him too. We may not like him as
a family. He doesn't talk. He doesn't laugh.
He doesn't have a personality. But that should
not be the sole reason.