Shadee Elmasry – Understanding The Response to Dua EP. 30 Ramadan 2024
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The speaker discusses various topics related to Islam, including the importance of not being too attached to one's partner and not wanting to be desperate. They also touch on the topic of women and desire, the importance of not wanting to be too busy with a desire, and the need to be content with one's life. The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning to be content without certain characteristics and not giving too much of one's own motivation until they receive enough help. They also mention a video about a man who wants to be "locked by" by their behavior and emphasize the importance of not giving too much of one's own motivation until they receive enough help.
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no ultimate set is that sometimes Allah may wait in his granting you
what you're seeking until all the worldly means are finished until
there are no more worldly means. Right? Why is that? It's because
so you can see that when it happens it only happened by Allah
meaning that you end up in a situation you're seeking something
you use up every single worldly means there is to attain to that,
until there's nothing left no other avenue. And you admit to
that only then does Allah grant a chi Why is that so that you know
that this was from Allah, and when you know it's from Allah, you
know, it's blessed.
Whereas if I attained it through my efforts, I may end up in a war,
like a type of self aggrandizement, a type of praising
myself and I may start to attribute the success to myself,
rather than attributing it to us what happened with Sedna, Musa
Benyus, right? He tried every single possible means, when there
are no more means that Allah said walk towards the water army behind
you water in front of you. Now, whatever happens, you're finished
waters in front of you, the armies behind you. So now when Allah
saved them, they all should see it's Allah who saved us and nobody
else. The next one is, is so that Allah subhana wa, tada can love
you. Because while you're waiting, it's a type of pain. Waiting is a
type of pain. And when Allah to Allah wills to love somebody in to
draw that object near he tests them and tests our pain. Pain is a
type of test. So to have that pain, what does it do? It elevates
your rank, pain elevates rank, if you handle it properly, if you
handle it by worshiping a lot more and being better, and seeking how
can I handle this better than it's an elevation of your rank, if you
handle it without doing any of that, but you still also don't do
bad deeds, you're just suffering, neither have you gotten better,
nor have you gotten worse. And in that case, it's a forgiveness of
your sins. And if you handle the pain, by committing sins, and not
by being patient, and obedient, then that's punishment. Okay, so
that you can know what is my situation with Allah, when he
keeps me waiting? That's pain. How do I handle pain? Okay, so it's an
opportunity to get your sins forgiven, and to elevate your
rank. The next one is, perhaps you're smug in your prayer,
perhaps you You did everything but you feel smug about the situation.
And so this wisdom says that Allah may delay the answer your prayer
so that you can attain the level of it there are that the waiting
becomes so painful, it pulls out of you a desperation into others.
Once a young man he couldn't ever get married, no woman he wanted
would ever marry. Every time he proposed to a woman. She said no.
And he sometimes would go long stretches not finding anyone who
proposed to. So he finally now started to change his tactic and
he would propose to women that he imagined he gotta be a slam dunk.
A woman for example, she's older with three kids usually type a
woman like that she's not a lot of people will propose to her one
time he even proposed to someone handicapped, that very few people
would propose to you that he proposed to them. She said no to
him to finally he stood in the last third of the night and he put
his hands up and that when you put your hands all the way up in the
air, like this guy, this is called if the head that if the head is
the most desperate of dua, and he attained the rank of editing will
borrow someone. Then few days later, after that IP T had
proposed to him a sister wanted to propose to her. He said this
lady's sister's out of my league, in her family, in her
attractiveness in her social standings. She's way out of my
league, and it happens people pass a judgment on themselves. She's
beyond my level. He said, just propose you never know she
accepted. After all, that sometimes you see a woman and you
see a man and you think Subhanallah he must have done some
good deeds. That's the only explanation right? In this case,
the man made a dua either that or she committed some sense.
Sometimes it's just like that you can avoid it too. Sometimes Allah
keeps you waiting because you have a smugness, you're never broken
and Allah wants you to be more thoughtful, more thorough
desperate in your desire and in your requests should never
hesitate to be desperate with Allah it's a good habit to get
into the next one is that it's to decrease your attachment at Tada
look, sometimes a person is way too attached to what they're
seeking he are going to ruin it number one, and it's not good for
your heart number two most importantly it's not good for your
heart too much attach into now we've been talking about da da is
always about something right? But really the end result of DA should
be nearness to Allah. So sometimes our da makes us weak we become too
attached to the created thing that we're seeking. And that's a
problem and other than not pleasing to Allah that level of
attachment so that when you finally get it if you're not cured
of that level of attachment, notice I'm saying level of
attachment in me don't believe in just come 100% detachment
otherwise 100 Dead detached from my kids. Okay, so it gets run over
and I don't shut it tear. It's not human. It's not normal. It's not
the Sunnah. So some attachment is part of life in the Quran tells
the you must love Allah and His Messenger more than these
other things. So it's admitting that we love these things. And
that a A means that we would not disobey Allah for the sake of
these things, we will not decrease our worship of Allah for the sake
of these things. So if our attachment is way too much than
when we receive this thing, we're not going to do good. We're going
to do bad with disobey Allah for the sake of preserving this thing.
Alright, so you finally get to marry the woman of your dreams.
Now you're following around like a puppy. You forget about a love
forget about striving, forget about Dawa. Forget about the
massage and that's not what Allah wants for you. That's not what's
pleasing to Allah, you can have what you're seeking in a balanced
way, in a way you haven't lost the hook of Allah and your number one
attachment remains to be Allah subhanaw taala. So this is again
to decrease and rectify your level of love of the creation so that
Allah to Allah remains to be the sole source of your attachment.
Next one is very interesting. He said that perhaps your DUA is
already answered, but it just hasn't borne fruit yet. So you ask
Allah Tada for a successful business, perhaps you already are
doing that business, but it just may take 10 years in order for it
to come into fruition. So you may be alright let me get rid of this
business and find another business business not working. Let me find
another business and you keep failing at those other businesses
are and nothing's coming up. When in reality you have the business
that's going to have your opening but it just hasn't come yet. The
next wisdom they say is that waiting is a form of a bad into
our own Faraji a bad or the Prophet sallallahu sallam said
waiting for relief is in fact, a type of worship and one of the
Hadith about when does Allah laugh as Allah laughs at the abt who is
waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting, and finally the night
right before Allah's Will is going to come to him, he gives up it
says the Allah to Allah laughs at this app through he was like
minutes one day away from waiting and he finally just gave up that
Allah grants him what he was looking at, he shouldn't give up.
But this is just one case that Allah is describing here but into
the odd will Faraj is an act of a bad at waiting is an act of about
a wise act of a better because it shows faith. I believe I don't see
it but I believe and is it the first sign of a believer you'll be
doing a bit of hype is to believe what you don't see. I don't see
the Promise of Allah Allah promised me but I don't see it.
I'm gonna hold on to that promise. Remember Prophet Musa and Haroon?
40 years waiting and 40 years not seeing one sign of anything that
would take down the ground. Did he see a big weapons shipment
companies right now? Did he see it frowns army collapse? No. Did he
see another enemy come to destroy for nothing? Yes, there were the
nine plagues, the nine signs but it didn't decrease the power of
Fatone nor increase the power of the peninsula. I didn't see any
sign that this is going to happen yet. One day it happened. So
antiviral Faraji a bad also are good theater Rila learning to be
content. This is something I always think about what happens
when I do get it. Maybe I'm going to go and become the same old,
whiny, unhappy person anyway, how many times that happened in your
life the moment I get this new house that's it I'm going to be
happy I'm going to be content alright, you get the new house in
two weeks, he forgot that a cinema house you're back to your old same
whiny self you marry this person is the person that I want to marry
my whole life is going to be perfect. Now, after three weeks
you're fighting. Now after three weeks is like you're walking
across each other in pjs and you look terrible. All of a sudden all
the mystique is gone and all the flowers gone. You're back to being
discontented. So how about perhaps the delay is to teach you a lesson
on how to be content without it as Chef he said if you learn to be
content without something then you can enjoy it. But if you can't be
content without it, then you're going to be its slave you will be
the slave of that thing. If you cannot be content without it so be
content without it doesn't mean I don't want it doesn't mean I'm
detached from it but it's a different skill. It's a skill of
the heart learn to be content so that with or without this thing,
I'm good I'm not going to collapse I'm not going to have a crisis
this delay is for you not against you so you can learn how to be
content next is more and more legit. Allah to Allah loves them
when a judge of His slaves and you love this thing so much that you
will pray for hours and hours and hours to Allah for it. But what
happens if Allah gives it to you? No more Salah no more Munna jets
no more intimate prayer and supplication so that Allah Tada
would love to delay this job for you so that you can have more
manager to the point that when a job becomes part of your life,
even when near DA is answered, you're going to continue in the
same state of manager. Now your Eman is here. You now you received
your gift, your demand doesn't drop you keep your Eman at the
same level. And in fact it increases so that this took
training it took you you're not having what you what you want, and
still keeping up those prayers. Then when you have it. You'll
still keep up the gratitude as opposed to you prayed very well
you got it right away. Now all of a sudden you're gonna stop. That's
the benefit of delaying the job. Next is they said host Nova nebula
learning to have a good opinion of Allah because many people their
ego acts up and they get mischievious and they start
saying, Oh Allah is torturing me. He's playing games with me. He's
me.
Kimi wait while this waiting? Why can't I just be treated like an
adult? You're dealing with Allah subhanaw taala. So you have to
have hosts no one, you have to have a good opinion of Allah,
everything that Allah does for the obedient servant of Allah for his
believing servant is for his own good. So now you have to
extrapolate these. That's what we're doing here. extrapolate all
this goodness. Next I'm going to quote gelada Gina Rumi, I very
rarely quote who may have to read a lot of his books, but this one
is amazing. Joe Dean Rumi says there was a man praying and
praying to Allah subhanaw taala. He said, Oh Allah, every time I
call upon your name, you don't answer me. Where is my answer? He
hears the voice. He says, oh my servant. My answer is every time
you say the word Allah, meaning, just the fact that you are praying
for something means you are in the job, Oh Allah, you are in the good
graces of Allah, he wouldn't let you call upon his name, if you are
in his good graces. And in fact, your calling and your DUA is
better for you even than what you're going to be given. So a
person should imagine and should have the Sakina to know as long as
I continue in this draw that I am in the good graces of Allah,
anyone in the good grace of Allah eventually he will be generous to
him. And lastly, so that you never get bored is extremely important,
extremely important feature of a Muslims life is you never get
bored. So you made dua for a reason. But Allah wants to elevate
your motivation and elevate you're motivated by not granting you your
your wish until you learn that Da is something that you should get
used to never leaving off with the same intensity whether he gives
you or doesn't give you when he gives you an after he gives you
and this is the way of that if enough into the IRA fina biller
they, they live long enough to know that and to experience that
our dua will not just be arrest upon the motivation of desire nor
rest upon the motivation of fear but rather will be for the sake of
Allah alone. It's panic Allah homo Byham decrescendo Allah in in
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