Shadee Elmasry – The DANGERS of Shaykh-Student Relationship

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			You, hey, I need you to watch out
or or forget that. Let's say, take
		

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			care of my money for a few
minutes. Here's a bag of gold.
		

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			You're like, Oh my gosh. This is a
disaster. This is a disaster. This
		

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			is not fun, right? This is an
Amana for my most beloved person
		

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			that I want him to love me so much
and I love him already, right?
		

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			You're gonna be like, counting
down the minutes by when he takes
		

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			his money back. That's in Amana.
		

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			That's how teachers should, should
treat their students. Allah sent
		

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			this AB to me, maybe to teach him
something good. Maybe I want to
		

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			discharge this relationship Okay,
as soon as possible, so that Allah
		

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			is pleased with me. Omar ibn
Khattab said, I wish that Allah
		

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			would take me on the khalafa My
Account, nothing for me, nothing
		

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			against me. And he expanded the
Ummah so much we the Ummah owes
		

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			him so much, right? He did so
much. But his, his intent was, I
		

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			hope I have nothing against me.
That's it. Even have no no throw
		

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			up, but no sins, no Hasan at no
sins, no good deeds, no bad deeds.
		

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			I think you should do that with
your kids, with all relationship
		

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			Allah sending your way, you have
to treat that your kids. What do
		

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			you mean, your kids? It's Allah's
creation that he caused to come
		

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			and only used your physical DNA to
make their physical body. But the
		

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			nefs is from Allah a whole
different human being, right?
		

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			Every single kid that a person has
in their family, it's a whole
		

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			different human being, completely.
Being, completely. Only thing is
		

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			that your half of your DNA was
used to make their physical body,
		

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			which will turn to dust, and then
Allah charges you. You have to
		

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			feed them. You got to care for
them. Give them a good childhood,
		

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			educate them. In the deen, there's
a big, huge Amana, you know what
		

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			else? When you treat kids, it's
very easy to bully them around and
		

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			smack them around. And sometimes
they deserve it. Let me rephrase,
		

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			most times they deserve right? But
what holds you back? Imagine in
		

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			your mind the resurrection, and
the tables are flipped. Now.
		

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			You're no longer the superior.
You're the same age. You don't
		

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			have as many good deeds, and he
has a lot of good deeds. You would
		

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			love to say, Son, I need some of
your good deeds, but now it's not
		

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			son anymore. You're you and you
him are the Yes, you are father
		

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			and son, but you're equals. Now he
owes you nothing in the in the Day
		

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			of Judgment, nobody owes anybody
anything. The obligations are
		

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			done. He can turn his back on you.
So we also have spiritual
		

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			trainers. It's called a Murabbi.
We're not talking about that
		

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			because that's a different level.
We're talking about talking about
		

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			the one who's just teaching his a
person, the Dean Tajweed, Akita
		

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			fiqh. You don't have the right to
tell them, just trust me, because
		

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			he's there to learn verifiable
information. But when you're
		

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			learning verifiable information of
Quran and Hadith, you don't say,
		

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			trust me, this is the ruling.
Trust me. No, here. He is a
		

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			student of verifiable, verifiable
information. Therefore he has the
		

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			right to know what the information
is. And why is that the case?
		

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			However, he the teacher has the
right to say, I will tell you, but
		

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			not now when we get to that
chapter. Because likewise, the
		

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			teacher has the right to say when
things are going to be said. Many
		

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			students will say, Okay, what's
the obligation of Salah? Oh, is
		

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			this sunnah or not? Hold on, stop.
We'll get to the chapter on sunnah
		

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			later, right? There's obligations
of Salah today, sunnah later. So
		

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			the teacher must educate on what
it is and why it is, but he
		

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			doesn't have to do it at your
timing. He can say, we're going to
		

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			get to that at the later chapter,
because otherwise we have chaos in
		

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			the classroom. The halakah becomes
a chaos. It's very important to
		

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			know the difference between these
things and Allah subhanahu wa.
		

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			When Ibrahim asked questions, he
answered them. It's not from a
		

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			type of Taqwa to have no knowledge
about why I'm doing what I'm
		

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			doing, right? No, that's not what
that's not what it is i.