Shadee Elmasry – Regarding Gender Segregation

The fact is, and this is Shana mentioned that she had no color.

I've heard him say this that religious people are attracted to

religious people. That's true. So it's actually a bigger fitna for a

religious Muslim, when religious Muslim women or women who cover

women that are in a religious environment are making themselves

attractive, and vice versa. It's bigger fitna for religious women,

when a guy with a beard is also wearing like a T shirt. Is it

compatible? Right? Exactly. So if you're having men, you're not

looking at like one. Somebody that works in a strip club, like you're

disgusted by that it's actually not attracted to you if you're a

person of belief. So what you're looking for is another person I

believe. So you find the attractiveness. That's a great

point. And that's, believe it or not, my friend said to me, he in

London, we were all students living in the foetus house, right?

The Federation of Islamic students or whatever it's called Nice. So

basically, he went off, got a job, right? He graduated, got off, got

a job, his job was to be the video guy for Islamic Relief, right? So

he goes in every day, he goes in, and he takes the footage that they

capture, and he makes videos out of it. And he travels with them to

the next event that they have. And you know, Islamic Relief, does

these huge events with like the latest famous singers and what

have you. And he records the footage. So he's on site for the

event. Then he goes back to the offices in London, and cuts the

videos up and makes whatever they want for them. Right? He said, he

said, man, I'm telling you to work in an office with six young Muslim

women was far harder than going to school with non Muslim women who

are semi undressed, because like he said, they're all compatible,

he could possibly it's possible that he could really like his

parents would accept from any of it tomorrow. So he's like, to

actually focus not on that was actually harder, because you know,

that he knows that you go to second university, you know, that

there's gonna be you're never going to actually be compatible

with any of these people. Right? So there's always up you're out as

Oh, you're going down? If you're a person of a sound heart. You're

also not being attracted only to physicality, right? Of course. So

you find personalities and you find in the most attractive thing

that a person can have is belief in Allah. Yeah. Right. And so if

anybody out here is listening and going, nah, I definitely like

like, you know, half naked, non Muslim women more, you have a long

road to walk.

And even if that's your Neff speaking, when your intellect gets

involved, you actually how are you going to live right? That's out of

there. How are you gonna live with yourself? How do you live with

yourself? That's out of the question, right?

But I don't want to diverge too long now. Yeah, to answer the

question. Okay. To answer the question, the answer is as

follows. When the Quran gives us two guidelines, didn't we say this

lesson it's the two guidelines on I remember saying this recently.

On the issue of modesty, the first guideline is

Alright, hold the woman upside equal. Lower your gaze, calling me

Nina. It will Domon upside and wait for the photo jump. right

column Minetta. Y'all didn't even upside anywhere from the podium

Sunita nor he wants spirituality. You want spirituality you want to

advance spiritually. The first gate that needs to be closed, are

the eyes. Alright? It's not to say that you cannot make Toba from an

advance you can make Toba and advance in your commitment to

Allah azza wa jal, but the actual spiritual effects, the note that

comes into the heart is stolen.

Through our eyes when we look, no shot always said if Allah told you

don't look, then how are you going to mingle? Then how are you going

to touch? Right? If he told you don't look at the opposite gender,

then how are you going to mingle? So the Sharia says, if you if you

have an objective business, right with someone, right, then you

engage in that business and that's it otherwise, there should be no

looking right at the opposite gender and no mingling. The other

one is

more equally as important. The Hello, the prophets of Allah he

said.

He says,

Well, oh cannot marry Can you allemaal Quran widow, Kenneth

Maria Mabin. Tamron is a man shall never

be alone in a space with a woman. Okay? Even if he's teaching her

the Quran, even if she's Mariam, the daughter of Imran the seduta.

Right. Now, there's one exception to not cover there's no exception

to Colorado. There's one exception to mingling

which is when you have guests when you have friends if you have

neighbors if you have extended family. The Quran tells us Laguna

had a contact guru Jamia outta Kuru, which doesn't that means

there's a dinner for example, right? You invite your coworkers

to dinner you invite your neighbor to dinner here invite your

anomalous umbrella family to dinner, right? It is

it's permissible to eat dinner together, right to be sitting

eating dinner together. Just just to be clear, it's not like

you as a as a single Muslim, you're inviting three female

coworkers

so this is family for example, okay family, you invite your

families into your bite your aunt and her family and her daughters

and her sons, right and your family and your daughters and your

son's Okay. Quran is not saying do it st. Leger now Halochem. It's

like not wrong, if it's whether you eat together or you eat

separately, right? You know, like, your grandmother comes in brings

the family together, your grandfather brings a family

together, right? As they want to all sit at the same table. This is

permissible, right? According to the Quran, but still lowering the

gaze is gonna count you're not gonna sit there gazing. Alright,

so the these are the guiding guiding points to Muslims question

on gender segregation. Why do we believe in it? It's such an

important feature of prophetic culture that Yes, Prophet peace be

upon him and did it interact, right. But separation in general,

right. Separation in general was the culture. And some people say

well, they associate separation with backwardness, because the

cultures that separate today tend to have the qualities of

backwardness, poverty, ignorance, illiteracy, etc, etc, etc. And the

cultures that have the attributes of civilization, literacy, clean

streets, you know, bureaucracies, technology, they're all mixed. But

I asked you that it's just accidental. It just so happens

that these are the attributes of the civilized quote unquote,

worldly sense. Sure, but they also the cultures that mix also tend to

have the attributes of the uncivilized when it comes to marry

true. So there's fornication, there's *, there's every

type of facet, there's, there's, you know, rampant a single

pregnancy, like there's in this country. There's situations where

you have the majority of kids born and in certain communities outside

of marriage, and nobody even bats an eye. So they may have to clean

streets, but they have dirty lives.