Shadee Elmasry – Regarding Gender Segregation
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The fact is, and this is Shana mentioned that she had no color.
I've heard him say this that religious people are attracted to
religious people. That's true. So it's actually a bigger fitna for a
religious Muslim, when religious Muslim women or women who cover
women that are in a religious environment are making themselves
attractive, and vice versa. It's bigger fitna for religious women,
when a guy with a beard is also wearing like a T shirt. Is it
compatible? Right? Exactly. So if you're having men, you're not
looking at like one. Somebody that works in a strip club, like you're
disgusted by that it's actually not attracted to you if you're a
person of belief. So what you're looking for is another person I
believe. So you find the attractiveness. That's a great
point. And that's, believe it or not, my friend said to me, he in
London, we were all students living in the foetus house, right?
The Federation of Islamic students or whatever it's called Nice. So
basically, he went off, got a job, right? He graduated, got off, got
a job, his job was to be the video guy for Islamic Relief, right? So
he goes in every day, he goes in, and he takes the footage that they
capture, and he makes videos out of it. And he travels with them to
the next event that they have. And you know, Islamic Relief, does
these huge events with like the latest famous singers and what
have you. And he records the footage. So he's on site for the
event. Then he goes back to the offices in London, and cuts the
videos up and makes whatever they want for them. Right? He said, he
said, man, I'm telling you to work in an office with six young Muslim
women was far harder than going to school with non Muslim women who
are semi undressed, because like he said, they're all compatible,
he could possibly it's possible that he could really like his
parents would accept from any of it tomorrow. So he's like, to
actually focus not on that was actually harder, because you know,
that he knows that you go to second university, you know, that
there's gonna be you're never going to actually be compatible
with any of these people. Right? So there's always up you're out as
Oh, you're going down? If you're a person of a sound heart. You're
also not being attracted only to physicality, right? Of course. So
you find personalities and you find in the most attractive thing
that a person can have is belief in Allah. Yeah. Right. And so if
anybody out here is listening and going, nah, I definitely like
like, you know, half naked, non Muslim women more, you have a long
road to walk.
And even if that's your Neff speaking, when your intellect gets
involved, you actually how are you going to live right? That's out of
there. How are you gonna live with yourself? How do you live with
yourself? That's out of the question, right?
But I don't want to diverge too long now. Yeah, to answer the
question. Okay. To answer the question, the answer is as
follows. When the Quran gives us two guidelines, didn't we say this
lesson it's the two guidelines on I remember saying this recently.
On the issue of modesty, the first guideline is
Alright, hold the woman upside equal. Lower your gaze, calling me
Nina. It will Domon upside and wait for the photo jump. right
column Minetta. Y'all didn't even upside anywhere from the podium
Sunita nor he wants spirituality. You want spirituality you want to
advance spiritually. The first gate that needs to be closed, are
the eyes. Alright? It's not to say that you cannot make Toba from an
advance you can make Toba and advance in your commitment to
Allah azza wa jal, but the actual spiritual effects, the note that
comes into the heart is stolen.
Through our eyes when we look, no shot always said if Allah told you
don't look, then how are you going to mingle? Then how are you going
to touch? Right? If he told you don't look at the opposite gender,
then how are you going to mingle? So the Sharia says, if you if you
have an objective business, right with someone, right, then you
engage in that business and that's it otherwise, there should be no
looking right at the opposite gender and no mingling. The other
one is
more equally as important. The Hello, the prophets of Allah he
said.
He says,
Well, oh cannot marry Can you allemaal Quran widow, Kenneth
Maria Mabin. Tamron is a man shall never
be alone in a space with a woman. Okay? Even if he's teaching her
the Quran, even if she's Mariam, the daughter of Imran the seduta.
Right. Now, there's one exception to not cover there's no exception
to Colorado. There's one exception to mingling
which is when you have guests when you have friends if you have
neighbors if you have extended family. The Quran tells us Laguna
had a contact guru Jamia outta Kuru, which doesn't that means
there's a dinner for example, right? You invite your coworkers
to dinner you invite your neighbor to dinner here invite your
anomalous umbrella family to dinner, right? It is
it's permissible to eat dinner together, right to be sitting
eating dinner together. Just just to be clear, it's not like
you as a as a single Muslim, you're inviting three female
coworkers
so this is family for example, okay family, you invite your
families into your bite your aunt and her family and her daughters
and her sons, right and your family and your daughters and your
son's Okay. Quran is not saying do it st. Leger now Halochem. It's
like not wrong, if it's whether you eat together or you eat
separately, right? You know, like, your grandmother comes in brings
the family together, your grandfather brings a family
together, right? As they want to all sit at the same table. This is
permissible, right? According to the Quran, but still lowering the
gaze is gonna count you're not gonna sit there gazing. Alright,
so the these are the guiding guiding points to Muslims question
on gender segregation. Why do we believe in it? It's such an
important feature of prophetic culture that Yes, Prophet peace be
upon him and did it interact, right. But separation in general,
right. Separation in general was the culture. And some people say
well, they associate separation with backwardness, because the
cultures that separate today tend to have the qualities of
backwardness, poverty, ignorance, illiteracy, etc, etc, etc. And the
cultures that have the attributes of civilization, literacy, clean
streets, you know, bureaucracies, technology, they're all mixed. But
I asked you that it's just accidental. It just so happens
that these are the attributes of the civilized quote unquote,
worldly sense. Sure, but they also the cultures that mix also tend to
have the attributes of the uncivilized when it comes to marry
true. So there's fornication, there's *, there's every
type of facet, there's, there's, you know, rampant a single
pregnancy, like there's in this country. There's situations where
you have the majority of kids born and in certain communities outside
of marriage, and nobody even bats an eye. So they may have to clean
streets, but they have dirty lives.