Shadee Elmasry – NBF 95 Nighttime Storytelling of the Prophet
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though. If I show it to some people, I know they probably would
get onto it. Yeah, I mean, if that's their thing, that's what
they like. That's what they like.
Who am I to say? Right? All I know is that Subhan Allah.
The OMA is so vast, and there's all sorts of stuff going on. And I
guess what matters is your intent. But also, what matters is your
respect when you're going to talk about Allah his Messenger, my
daughter put on the sheet the other day, and it was a doc,
right? And the guy was referring to Allah as yet.
So
I was like, that doesn't sound right to me, right.
Like,
I don't know, like, I'm calling on you. Right? And I was like, it
doesn't sound right. Like that's not how you talk to a lot either.
So there has to be some modicum of of that respect there. I guess.
Not I guess it has to be.
So I was like, I'm not really comfortable. Exactly. With with
that.
So, all right we are on
the storytelling of the prophets of Allah when he was on them. And
I think we did Hadith on Masada before
okay, but this is a little bit more
I don't know why my mind is telling me we did this
chapter pertaining to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam that he and say that Isha and he and his other end
Okay, so maybe there are different Hadith okay, because there yeah,
there may be different Hadith so let's read them.
This Rila rochman Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala
Rasulillah while he was talking to a woman who Allah
her death Anna Ali Abdullah hajus Akbar Rana is Abu Ulus Anisha
Muruga and Ali Abdullah in Ottawa, and Ottawa and Aisha call it
jealous at the ASHA rotten rotten Fatah had what are codnor Allah
yak Dona Minh UC Berkeley as well. Jehan, Nisha.
11 women, they said We shall not keep any secrets about our family
lives. By the way, that's
just a story. Basically. You're not allowed to speak about your
privacy of your business. Right?
For college ruler, beyond it, we're talking about you're not
allowed to speak about the privacy of things that go between husband
and wife that's not appropriate for anybody else to be involved
with.
For college, Lulu Zoji la Magellan, the rest Allah ROTC
Javelin Wah, last
Pharaoh taka well as a mean for young tackle. Really good for
Arabic language.
Okay, first one says
My husband
is like meat of a useless camera. That means he's just a body with
no spirit at all. He's just flatline. Some people are created
like that. They just have no spirit. There's just no, you
wonder what's going on in your brain? Why don't you have a
spirit? Why don't you don't make fun of those people. That's how he
is he's created like that. And there's a reason for that. There
are some jobs only those types of people can do. Right? They have
the support and the patience for monotony. They've accepted the
monotony is like part of their existence. And other people.
They're like the wind, they can't sit still. So it's leave Allah's
creation to be as it is.
She said, he's also like a piece of meat, that lifeless piece of
meat on top of a mountain,
which is difficult to climb. So the road is not easy. And then
when you get there, the meat, the meat is not worth it.
So basically, not only is the man
essentially, the man is he's dull, but he's not accessible. Like
sometimes a guy could be accessible.
But he's dulled but accessible, like I can reach him any time I
can talk to him anytime. But she's saying here, not only is the man
doe, he's not accessible, can't reach him, like can't talk to him,
never wants to talk.
So that's the first woman. The second woman said,
I fear if I begin to describe his faults, there is no end to it.
If I begin I will have to mention all his inner and his out outer
faults false. So she means if she begins the amount of flaws this
man has, okay? He can't be described. He's just all
Everything about him is bad.
A few commentators have made an objection to this, that she broke
her promise, right by refusing to describe her husband. But others
said no, this is the description. The description of the husband is
that
everything bad about him, he has stinginess, dirtiness, etc.
Third woman says, My husband is a sudden up, meaning very tall. But
if I utter a word, he immediately says, Not one more word and I
utter to lock on you. In other words, I divorce you. So I stay
silent. And some people said here that tallness that she's not
praising him, right? Like what is tone this have to do with
issuing divorce at any word that she says
Since you're that tallness, in that for the Arabs was like a word
that meant that he's not, he's not bright. And it's the stereotypical
person who's extremely tall, but empty on the inside.
So that's like a stereotype that really tall people they've been
given height, but nothing is up here. Which I guess this what the
commentators, I didn't think about that. As soon as soon as she said
that, but the commentator said that, that when the Arab say this,
you word for tall, a Sunak. What it means is not just tall, but
tall and dense. There's nothing upstairs.
Okay. And also, I think it's, I actually don't believe that people
are, can have to be stay unintelligent, or dense or dumb.
Like, I personally believe everybody can be taken to a
respectable motor come have a skill, whatever the skill is, it
just may take them a little bit longer. And as for the super
excelling geniuses of life, that's just a gift. That's a gift from
Allah subhanaw taala. But everybody can reach a moto COMM A
respectable moto comm of anything. So whether it's its health,
to be like an Adonis, that's a gift from Allah, but to be like,
have good physique and good health, anybody can attain it.
Right? Like, I really believe that anybody can attain the level of
good at anything.
Okay, if they're taught properly, and they work hard at it,
but they really great gifted people, that's just something from
Allah, and you can't try to create that. So I think any of us, let's
just take a simple example. Any of us can become good readers, can
you become an amazing at an analyst, analytical
reader, whatever, that's probably, but anybody of us, any one of us
could also become a good basketball player, like you can
learn to shoot, you can practice you can learn to dribble,
etcetera. Are you going to be great? No, that's something from
Allah. But any skill that you're talking about?
Anybody can be good at it with, with practice and the right
coaching. But, so that's why when someone says someone's done,
there, I don't think anyone has to stay dumb. I really don't. If you
have a right teacher and you stick at it, you can learn the basic
rules of money tip and analysis. And that's all it is. The basic
rules of mantra and analysis a man wants Subhanallah, there was
somebody recently said, God is oppressing me, right.
So
explain to me why he's got oppressing me. So well, if you
even understood what you were saying.
The moment that you uttered the word God, that implies he owns
everything.
You can't oppress somebody who owns everything. He someone who
owns everything cannot oppress anybody, like not, it's rationally
impossible. It's an Incans, inconceivable, because he owns
everything. You can only oppress the definition of oppression, is
to take the rights of somebody else.
Nobody owns that you're owned. Everything about you is owned. You
can do what you want with you. It will never be oppression. So this
is basic month tip of when you define a word, don't contradict it
later in the sentence. Anyone can learn this stuff. So anyway, she
says, not only was a tion knocked, it's a it's a tall, but not
bright. But it's also the tallness that reflects itself badly in the
face of somebody that the face of the person is not handsome. And
this too, I think that we shouldn't over emphasize genetics,
and we should just look at cleanliness. And if a person is
can can take care of you could take care of yourself, right?
Nobody should feel trapped in anything. You could take care of
yourself, make yourself clean, but also beauty for us. There is
another node that comes down with tahajjud.
The node of tahajjud and expelling the darkness of sins. And that's
why you have we had some great shoe. And I was one time with the
Sheikh. He was very, very old. And one of the young people he was his
relative, like a grandson or something. He said well light. The
Shed is not physically handsome. But there's so much into it on his
face. I can't take my eyes off him.
I wouldn't have said that. But that's like his grandfather. So
he's saying that right? He said well over the shake is not he's
not physically handsome. Right? But he's got so much fluid on his
face. I can't take my eyes off him. And that's again, nobody is
trapped. You're not chopped. You could work hard at things. And
Allah Tada can even give beauty into a face, but it's the beauty
of newer, right, which is by 200
and staying away from since then
All right, now we go to the fourth woman.
Fourth woman said, My husband is mild mannered, like the Knights of
tea him neither cold.
Nor is there anything to ever fear of him. Okay, so that means he's
never cold. He's warm. When he comes in, he greets people greets
and smiles, etc. This is a good thing. All right. But at the same
time, he doesn't get angry. Because here's the thing, if
you're warm, you can get too hot. And to HUD means that those people
when they're happy, they're really happy and excited. But when they
get angry, they're on fire. So you got to worry about that excess of
heat in the personality. And there's an excess of coldness, the
previous wife before this mentioned, he's so cold and so
distant, right? So she's saying he's perfectly in the middle,
neither is he cold, nor does he get angry. Got
some pictures of water. So right after the stream, we water the
plants.
So he's mild natured, natured, and he's not cutting or dull. You
don't fear to live with them. That's so important. Yeah, we see
like, some people in a house. They have to check where the guy is. Or
sometimes the mom if she if she's upstairs or he's upstairs, that
they won't go upstairs because they know he's going to pick out
something, right. That's not it's not a good thing. If you live with
somebody that every time someone comes in the room, it's like you.
What's that? Why are you wearing that today? Why don't you say
cinema like when you come in, or whatever? Everything something.
It makes your life miserable. When you wonder why they never call or
they never show up, or they don't want to be in the same room with
you. Because you make them miserable. shadier It is said that
the name of this woman is mad, bent. Abby huduma. By the way,
this is supposedly a true story, like a legend passed down as a
legend.
So
the nights of this area are always mild to him. The nighttime is a
mild, why maybe they get some kind of a breeze from somewhere. Now
the fifth woman says, When my husband comes into the house, he's
like a cheetah. When he goes out, he's a lion. And he never
investigates what happens in the house. So this woman is captcha
and the Halima are differing on this. Good. What did she mean
by a cheetah? Good. Like how is the cheetahs? So different from a
lion? Well, we know that the lion is a source of pride. The lion is
like the king. So outside the house, that's definitely praise.
You say outside the house. He's like a lion. But what does it
mean? Inside the house? Okay, does that mean inside the house? He lit
let's go of the affairs, that's most likely, right? Because
otherwise, it doesn't make sense. He's a lion outside the house
means he dominates the world of men and his colleagues and his
peers. But inside the house, he lets things go. Because the
cheetah isn't it's a wild cat, but it's a big cat. But it's not the
done. It's not the leader of the cats. Okay. And that makes more
sense because he says that inside the house, he doesn't investigate
what happens in the house. In other words, he doesn't play
Pharaoh inside the house. He's tough. He's strong and he's leader
outside the house. But inside the house, he doesn't make himself out
to be in charge of everything. In other words, he gives me my space
inside the house.
And there is a theory and Islamic.
Talk about family distribution of roles that the woman is Robert L
Manziel. She's in charge of the house. Okay, if she's at in the
house most of the time, which is the preferred preference of the
Sharia. As Allah says we're caught in a fee BeautyCon ALLAH SubhanA
wa Tada says, remain at peace in your homes. Right? I will pick up
is peace, right remain at peace in your homes as opposed to stressed
out outside the house stretched out doing this that and the other
will cut enough people up couldn't so if that's what Allah is saying
that the generally speaking inside the house is best, right?
If that's the case, and he's outside the house, because that's
also what the shittier is what the Quran
mentions regarding a man, okay.
Bhima Fidel, Allah who bought the Kumala bow, right where Allah
subhanaw taala mentions the men as
Subhan Allah
mentions the mana saying, at regional ko muna Allah Nisa.
Dima Fidel, Allah will be about the Malabar
Rachel Cohen, what does that mean? He's the one always getting up.
Oh, he's always standing. He has to supply he has to provide and
protect. So he's always outside the house, right?
And someone's gonna say, Oh, this is the ancient times. I know, it's
ancient times, right? I know things. You think I don't live in
this world. Right. And my wife doesn't live in this world. We
live in this world. But that's the general spirit of the Quranic
message. We can't deny that either. So the man is constantly
outside. So how does he have time to be aware of the affairs inside
the house? Well, most a lot of men I know that come into the house is
that they don't know where anything is. Right? They're like
strangers, why he's works all day. And she's at home all day. So
she's in charge of one a boat, and he's in charge of another boat.
And that's what
I understand from this hadith. Like he's strong, but he's a
cheetah. The cheetah is not the top of the big cat.
Food Chain. Right? The cheetah isn't dominant the way the lion
is. So outside, he dominates inside the house. He's like,
almost a little passive. Okay, so that's one interpretation of it.
Other said no, inside the house, but they still they didn't really
explain it, right? They say inside the house. He's like a cheetah.
In that he's always like sleeping. What What? Is that the reputation
of the cheetah? I don't think so. Right? I don't think so.
That that's the reputation of the cheater. So I don't really see
that the only interpretation that I see is the one that I just
mentioned that they're both praise, outside Dallas, he's like
a lion inside the house. He's accepting that someone else is
managing this abode. So he doesn't even ask. That's what says he
doesn't even investigate what happens in the house. I don't know
why.
The other is that he doesn't care. He's careless about his his home.
That's obviously blame. Because even if the we say that, this this
theory or this view that the woman is the master of the house, let's
or let's say she's the caretaker of the house, the responsibility
to hold up hold certain things is still on the husband. In other
words, sinfulness.
He's responsible, if sinfulness manifests in the house
and takes place in the house, he's responsible for that. Right? He's
sinful, if there are sins going on in the house.
So the responsibility is still on the husband.
And sometimes your husband, he's got to be the bad guy. Right?
Gotta be the bad guy and shut down. The haram do not allow the
Haram in the house. Some people say, Well, I'm afraid I don't want
to bother. I don't want them to be upset. Let's say he's got a teen
kid in the teens doing something haram, I don't want him to be
upset. Okay, you have two options here. If you shut down what is
sinful, then that forks into either the kid is a good kid,
whom you've protected from sins. If he's a good kid, then Allah
Himself will turn his heart. And he won't hate you. If he's a bad
kid, he will hate you for shutting down the haram.
In which case, if he's a bad kid, then at least you have bad kid,
and he's doing the Haram and bringing haram into the house, or
a bad kid and no haram in the house. So you're winning either
way? Right? You're winning either way. Some people I'm telling you,
and it's mentioned in suitors and curve that some parents, they are
directed by their kids. If their kid goes into the Haram, they will
go into that home. This is not a modern phenomenon. It's intuitive,
KEF way back in the time of Satan or Musa that to good believers,
they had a kid, they were both weaker personalities, then the kid
and Allah tells us that he says that he was going to go astray.
And he would take his parents astray. So it's happened
throughout history, that parents can sometimes be weaker than their
kids and be led astray by their kids or Be Led right by their
kids. Right. But what I'm saying is that think about it rationally.
If a kid is going down and doing something haram,
taking that haram away nicely, or by force, of course you want to do
something nicely. It's more efficient.
Or by force, okay.
Whichever way you're winning.
If you take it away by force, it's that's not what's going to make
him bed.
All right. You go upstairs and your kid has got the room locked,
and he's sitting on the internet for four hours. No, you gotta shut
that down. You cannot accept that. That's not a windy way to live.
Well, what do you lock in the door for why don't you come and watch
what you do watch it on the internet at the kitchen table. Why
doesn't that ever happen or
Why is it always the screen turned and earbuds?
Something fishy going on here, as the kids today call PSAs. Right?
All right, so
shut it down. If he's a good kid, you just protected him. And if
he's hates you, at the moment, if he's a good kid, Allah will turn
his heart towards you.
And his hatred will go away. If he's a bad kid,
okay, then he's not gonna be good to you anyway. So you might as
well remove the Haram from the house, because this brings
darkness into the home. So that's my philosophy on rectification,
there's nothing to lose, you have everything to gain by rectifying
whether nicely or by force. Okay. And there's a whole absurd
philosophy of gentle parenting.
Well let them get
the gentle pairing philosophy, it requires you to have
hours at a time in the day, and it requires you to only have one kid,
right? Like these gentle parent philosophies. For example, the kid
doesn't want to put his shoes on, what did they say? Let's get into
why he doesn't want to put his shoes on. Get let's get into the
motivation to Have you have you motivated him to put his shoes on
to go out of the house? Have you set it in such a way that makes
him not want to put his shoes on? I'm not even joking you this is
this is a real philosophy.
It was in the New York Times. Okay.
This is a real philosophy. And if you force him to put his shoes on
and you yell at him, put your shoes on we gotta go.
Alright, then, he may be traumatized by shoes. And he may
be in a such a certain situation where now he resents your use of
force.
What the heck wrong is was wrong with you people? Such a big, such
a basic thing. And you guys are philosophizing, okay.
On every little detail,
every little detail. He hits somebody. Why don't we discuss
why he hits somebody? Wait a second, what about the one that he
hit? Why don't we discuss maybe that person triggered something
inside of all this? We're worried about the hitter, not the one that
was hit? Right? Look it up is the most ludicrous, absurd philosophy.
Right, that you'll ever come upon. It's called gentle parenting. And
my result My thing is, I don't really I don't need to see a
philosophy of parenting. Show me the kids. Show me the kid at 15.
Show me the kid at 17. Show me the kid at 20. Right. That's all I
need to know. I don't need to see your father. I don't need to read
your philosophy in a book. Every kid is different. Show me exactly
how the kid turned out at 1517 20.
I guarantee you all those kids that come out of gentle parenting,
a bunch of spoiled brats. They're going to be photographers, right?
They're going to major in something unobjective because you
can't objectively do math, for example, and someone tells you
you're right and you're wrong. Okay? They can't be told the wrong
ever, ever. See, you know, the philosophy. The problem with this
philosophy. They don't have anything called a neffs. They
don't believe in innocent Amara. That is a biggest difference
between modern parenting philosophies and the rest of the
world
and the rest of human history
because they don't believe in something called innocent Amara.
We have innocent Amara and I can have a nine year old, eight year
old and I see the knifes that Amara right there coming up. Guess
what are you going to do? Shut it down. That's knifes a motto.
That's not you. That's a bad side of you. You could become that
right?
That's enough. Still Amara. So that's a big difference. The the
ego that commands evil. That's the biggest difference between us. And
these absurd ridiculous of parenting philosophies of gentle
parenting. I'm not going to always be gentle with you enough.
Sometimes your neffs needs to be shut down.
That's the biggest difference. We have enough set. Amara, we also
have that kids don't turn out to be good or bad just by you. It's
by tequila too. Right? You're not I'm not responsible for 100% of
how a kid turns out he has his own tequila right or wrong. Right? You
got his own taco. Yes, maybe I can. Every parent every dad, every
mom. They have bad traits. It's taco that will make you that kid
say hamdulillah they still are my parents. Regardless natal golfer,
we don't look at the bad things that they said they said or did
and
and we have tequila. Tequila is also something that grows very
young in a child. Don't think that tuck was for adults.
write that this language of deen is only for it's not.
I've actually talked to kids
11 and 12 years old,
who told me as follows they said, we used to come to the masjid as a
chore. Okay, then
something very bad happened at school. And I began to pray and
make dua and come to the masjid because I wanted to get out of
trouble.
And then I realized I like it here. So now I come to thank Allah
for getting me out of trouble. This is the essence of a bed, and
it came out of the mouth of a 12 year old. Right, and now this 12
year olds goes to the masjid on their own. So you see, religious
maturity, spiritual maturity can occur very young.
And therefore, they could also look at your parent. And they
could say that this is Allah has given me this parent is my test in
life, right? So it's not all the kid turns out good or bad. It's
not all on the parent. It's partly their own Topo. Now you got to set
them up to be able to have Taqwa. You have to teach, they have to
hear whether they're paying attention or not that there's
something called da, there's something called me bad. There is
a creator that can take care of you then once they try it, and
they really didn't take care of it. So they have Eman now. So
all these parenting techniques are mostly by people who don't believe
in enough set a motto they don't believe in Taqwa. So the toolbox
is in their philosophy is going to be completely out in the field.
And the results are out in the field. They're all going to be
some blue haired new photographers in the future. That's it.
influencers.
Next woman, she says, When my husband eats, he eats everything.
When he drinks, he drinks everything. When he sleeps, he
pulls the sheet. Like when he turns, he pulls the sheet sheet
with him.
He does not even touch me.
Right?
So it's in these words. It's prayer. It's criticism. But some
have even read praise into this. No, I don't see how there's any
praise into this. When he eats, he eats everything. When he drinks.
He doesn't leave anything. How's that praise? Now, the first one
said when he eats, he eats everything.
Meaning that he'll eat anything, whatever she puts out. No, that's
the wrong word. It's not everything, then it's anything.
Right? Meaning that
the first interpretation, I mean, someone's really trying to find an
excuse for this man. But when he eats, he eats everything, meaning
whatever I put in front of him, he's not picky, he'll eat it. No,
that's not the right word.
It's not Kulu che it'd be a shame. If he eats, he eats anything.
There's a big difference in everything and anything. So I
don't really I'm not buying that interpretation that that's praise.
Just like I'm not buying the other one, that it's it's criticism
being a cheater inside the house and not asking what happens in the
house. To me that was praise. This one is blame. When he eats, he
doesn't leave. He doesn't think about the people in his house.
Right? He doesn't think about the people in his house.
He's selfish when he eats his cell. And that's one of the worst
traits to have for people. When someone comes in. And you know, in
our cultures, I don't know how it is in other cultures. Nobody eats
the last piece. Right? There has to be a charade. We have to all
think that we don't want it. Right. There was something
interesting, like, yes, yeah, I'm saying that. Like, there was a
study about alpha male type of things. Yeah. And said that the
last piece actually says nothing about who has that characteristic.
It's actually the second to last Oh, the second to last year.
Because we already actually have a charade going on on the last
piece. So the real one is a second to last piece. You're totally
right about that. The second to last piece has taken the place of
the last piece, and everyone will think it right that they don't
want the last piece we all want the last piece. Okay, but that's
at least we have the edip to not take the last piece pass it around
for us and I'll tell you the the best person is the one who cuts it
and by the cuts out this whole charade by just like dividing it
up and saying aren't you etc, etc. Right. And there is obligation as
generosity.
Right? There is a concept of obligation as generosity. And
that's how we observe that what we consider how we view Allah's
obligations to us have a bed. So
you can be sitting with somebody, and if they offer you the last
piece, it's also not polite even to accept it. Right.
So what they do, they save you the hassle, the obligated and they'll
get upset will lie you're eating the last piece, eat it. That's an
obligation to make your life easier. He knows you want it. He
knows it's good for you
And he knows that you're going to make that you don't want it. But
he's going to obligate you. By doing that he saved your saved you
from thinking, save you from worrying. So likewise Allah to
Allah in obligating us a bad debt. He saved us from thinking of,
Should I do it or should I not know you got to do it. Right. And
it's almost like he's so once our presence in a Betta, so loves,
right and desires our presence in a Berta that he's obligated us
even with a threat. And how many times have you had a scene? Well,
in our culture, it happens all the time. A guest comes in Wallah,
you're eating this, if you don't eat it, I'm gonna get upset. It
happens all the time. In Arabic cultures.
If you don't eat this, I'm gonna get upset. It's a fake upsetness
right, it's not really going to be upset. So
So that's that the last piece
but this man, he eats everything when he drinks.
He didn't leave any for anybody else. And you know, back in the
old days, how terrible it was to have to go get water. It's not
like today, you have to go out and and pump it out or pull out the
from the well etc. All right. When he sleeps, he sleeps in his own
sheet. That means he turns with the sheet if you're sleeping with
somebody, and you need to turn you can't hold the sheet and an anchor
it with you than other verses not have a sheet.
Right? Everything about this man his bed, his eating, his drinking
his sleeping.
And there's another thing in the marital relation, which is
intimacy.
He doesn't even know that. Like he is not even like what are you
doing just eating sleeping? There's no not even intimacy.
So
the eighth a woman, my husband is soft, like a rabbit when I touch
him, and he smells like saffron.
Alright, this woman was national been to else and this was a praise
for her husband, meaning he's not harsh or ill mannered. And his
actual body is also clean, soft and smells good. He takes care of
his physical body. Good.
All right. And another narration it says he dominates other people,
but I dominate him.
My * is not due to his weakness, because he dominates
others. But it is due to his love for me and his man, his mercy for
me. He allows me to have my way with him in the house. And this
was one of the things that in Medina, the Sahaba from Mecca,
we're not used to the Sahaba of Mecca, the Mexicans in general,
they dominated their wives in the house. They were domineering over
their wives. In Medina, the men allowed their wives to dominate
the house.
And as it's like North Jersey and Central Jersey, right, the in
Mecca, a man
was in charge in his house. In Medina, he allowed his wife to be
in charge. When said no mother came to the house.
He, after some while in Medina,
he found his wife took over.
And he said what happened to you? Right? What happened to the women
ever since we've come to Medina, they're trying to dominate over
us. Right? And so it's explained in the books that the Mexican
family unit was different from the Medina and family unit, the
Mexican family unit, a man dominated over his wife
bossed around and took many wives. In Medina,
you took one wife, and she was dominating dominating in those
when we say dominating,
I think that's relative to right. Not I wouldn't think of some
Netflix boss woman type of attitude like
who would love that? Right? It's not lovable. You lost your any one
would want to be with you. Right? But so just so nobody thinks that
that's what we're justifying. Right or talking about.
The ninth woman said
My husband is of a high status generous, hospitable. He has a big
house and he has a lot of ashes. He is well built strong. His home
is near the assembly.
Okay, and the.of matura meaning Council, the Senate of the tribe.
Now this woman is also mentioning praises. The first is that her
house is tall. She has like a high ceiling in her house. If you ever
been to a house with a high ceiling, it's relaxing. But you
want to be
alright with
you want to be in a house that's that's that has a nice high
ceiling and may
To feel feel that you have space and room, whereas if it's a short
apartment you feel clustered.
Secondly, he's very wealthy. And he's one of the leaders. He's in
the Senate.
Alright, secondly, he's very generous and hospitable. He always
has guests. He has travelers, he's kind to people. He's nice to those
people. All right, he's hospitable to them, He gives them a lot of
food, etc. Then he's physically imposing. He's, he's physically
domineering. Alright.
So,
in the Arabs used to consider that the right height is neither too
tall nor too short. Why? Because too tall was not bright and too
short, can be defeated.
So someone who is of the middle stature is what they consider to
be well built.
Right.
And he's always part of the decision making of the tribe. So
that's a phrase the 10th woman said, My husband is medic, and how
can I describe medic, he's more generous than all those who have
been praised.
God, he's more generous than all these people.
And he's more praiseworthy than any praise I can think of. Like,
if I can think of it, he's more than that. Wow, she really likes
him.
He owns herds of camels, and he keeps them near the house.
They don't have to go far for grazing. When the camels hear the
sounds of the middle Hunter, which is the loop. They know that their
end is near. So this woman is kept shoving automatic. And she said
her husband she's very happy with her husband's you know, there are
certain things women can do that men can't like men can't have a
hadith like this to be scandal. Right?
Which is explained thus if the camels go out to graze in the
fields, right then at that the time of hospitality, hospitality
and attending to guests has come, right? Time is wasted in hurting
in going far away and coming back. So she says that it's praiseworthy
means like, he works near the house, he doesn't have to go far
away.
The camels are not sent out to graze, but they feed in a pen.
When a visitor comes, we're able to slaughter a camel immediately
because they're all near the house.
All right.
That the Milhaud the sound of the loop, which is the flute. Now the
flute is the easiest instrument to make. Because you make it's just a
piece of wood or whatever it is. And then you cut holes in it and
you make it hollow. And then you give it like a mouthpiece. Right.
And so the loot was something that shepherds used to pass the time by
playing the loop. Because shepherding is not exactly a fun
job. You go out there and you're with animals all day. So they just
play the loop.
Okay. Some said that the loot was also something that people used to
play if there was a guests to signify to the people of the
region of the of the neighborhood that there's somebody new here,
come out and see him.
Right. So that means camels also know whenever the loop is played,
there is a guest one of us is going to die because we have to
feed the guest. So that's what she meant by that, that when the
camels hear the sounds of the loop, then they know their end is
near.
And then the last one is OMA Zara, and we read this with Ahmad I
remember Ahmad was here, right?
Ahmad was here. And we we read this one.
My husband was EVO Zara. And I'll summarize this because we actually
read it before it was out.
There was a woman she married it was Zara. She was very poor. She's
a very poor woman.
And she married and she was from a small family. So she didn't have
anything. She did not have much going for her.
This is like a tragedy by the way.
She marries Eleazar Eleazar is rich, handsome. His mother is
wonderful. He has kids from a previous marriage. They're
wonderful. His servant is wonderful. She just loves this
family. He says he made my ears way down with jewelry.
And if he made my sides full of fat, in other words, I eat a lot.
My eyes are always rested. She sleeps in when I wake up I have a
mountain of food to eat
all day. I don't have to lift a finger like she's very happy.
Okay.
His mother in law his mother now the mother in law's always viewed
as like suspiciously right like, is she gonna give me a hard time
or not? She says my
My mother in law is wonderful. Now she has stepped sons and
stepdaughters For from Him. Usually the step daughter steps on
there also there's some tension. She says they're wonderful. They
only say nice things to me. They have great hearts towards me, the
servant, the servant also sometimes they steal or they
transmit what they hear in the house. The servant is trustworthy.
She said I was living the best life.
Until one sad day. One fateful, terrible day. I was not honest,
stepped out of the house.
Any cat found a woman
and she sort of caught this woman.
Breastfeeding two twins.
Good.
All right.
So like sometimes maybe she was breastfeeding in her courtyard or
something. And he walked by and glanced at her. And what happened
to me was
poor men fell in love. caught the woman breastfeeding. Whoa, what
did I just see?
Fell? I'm not making this up. It's right here. Okay. All right. It's
right here. It's not my words. So nobody should say, Why are you
saying this?
So he came back to me, changed. And in short order.
I was divorced. And he married that woman.
I became so sad that I was lost I was, but I had become noble.
So another chief, when he realized that I was Zara has divorced me.
He took me
he married me. And I married with this man, he was a prince and a
soldier. He gave me many gifts, and he gave me food that all the
food I wanted. Okay, and he said, give your family wealth, my
wealth, my money, send food to your family. He had everything
good.
Anything that I was, I gave to me. I was that I gave to me he gave to
me and more.
Except that there was something in my heart connected to elbow Zahra
that was not connected to this man. Now this is something we have
to understand.
The prophets I said to him said, you can't control your heart. A
person could do 1000 good things for you and love you to death.
And another person could do one good thing to you and love you
decently. But where your heart turns you can't control
is something in the fitrah right? Sometimes you just you can't
control your heart the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam said,
Oh Allah do not take me to account on the turning of my heart.
Because no one his heart love said I should write more than everyone
else. But he had to be fair with his body with his wealth with his
time to all the other women. Right? So he said oh Allah do not
take me to a come by my heart. can't control my heart. Alright,
so this is what she said the prophets of Allah alayhi wa sallam
listened to this whole story.
And he said, Oh, I shall. I am to you as EVO Zara was to OMA Zara
except
that I will not divorce you know, so
there you have it with the messenger of allah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam listening to this old tale
this old tale
that
was known amongst the Arabs right and he listened it was that's
that's how they had had fun what's going on
there's something burning in the kitchen like what
the neighbors came right we'll check it out right now the
neighbors came to complain that the kitchen downstairs something's
burning. But is the fire on? Is the fire on
the
wall Ryan is gonna go check it out. And we'll see. Most of them
astrologer what does this Explain yourself on Instagram? Because
astrology is how to love problems. I smell it too. Did you turn
anything on toaster or anything?
Rise gotta go solve that problem because I smell it here and we're
on the third storey. This is it. We're on the third floor of this
of this operation.
I smell it from here. Someone's toasting something
So
it could be the other neighbor rise. Gotta get to the bottom of
it. Because
as the youth we put it these days we're not trying to burn this
place down.
Someone's someone is toasting a bagel and kept the bagel in there.
Yeah.
All right. Most of them astrologer is on Instagram. You have a love
problem. He's got a solution. He's got vacay Sharon. Sounds
suspicious. And sounds haram. Love marriage specialists get lost love
back. Yeah. Muslim astrologer. I have that set. Are you on set? Are
you a witch? What's going on here? Okay.
Let's go to the q&a today. Because we've covered our section of the
Shema in here, in which How do you want What do you want to do? You
take the Instagram, okay, but be very careful. Don't sweat too
high, you'll get out of the whole app and take them like next year.
As we'll start taking questions.
Is your mic on? We'll see when Ryan gets back.
Okay, we'll see what's going on with this kitchen because
I do smell that someone is burning the toast essentially.
H vas, this liquor counter is really good. And we could we have
three more in the store. If we want when our store our store
manager comes back. He can mail one to you. It can charge you and
Millie to.
Hoopoe says it's sometimes more complicated than this. Remember
the pronouns in the comment section. We don't always know what
you're talking about. But because we're not reading it live, some
kids have difficulty making friends, if they're already made
friends online, then taking away the Internet access cuts off their
social life. This is
in reference to what I said about
like shutting off the internet. Of course, there are always
exceptions, never imagined that and this is one of the the
points in any discourse. There's exceptions to every rule. So yes,
there are always exceptions. Fw Do we know anything about the
formative years of the messenger between seven and his teenage
years? Yes, we do know some things. We know that the prophets
of Allah who it was salam, he he was not he was protected by a lot
either from going to indecent places.
And we know that one time his friends had invited him to a party
and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was maybe a
youth. Well, he was a youth. And he went but not knowing something
Haram is going to happen at that party, whatever it was singers,
something indecent. And Allah Tata caused him to fall asleep and miss
the party. We know that we know that he used to accompany his
uncle to trade. So he would learn and he would help. We know that he
was a shepherd.
We know that he used to oftentimes go up to the mountains and
contemplate even as a youth and we know that Abu Bakr Siddiq was his
friend. And we know that facut O'Mahony the daughter of Abu Talib
was also his friends before that there was Shetty about genders. He
was best friends with his cousin fifita Omani
okay. So much so that he wanted to marry her but I will talk about
already secured her engagement to somebody else.
All right.
Any questions on instance so far?
Yes, what is
better, what's better to say hamdulillah or to say stick for
allistic far superior the according to amendment had dead
the superior of God are La ilaha illAllah. Al is still listed for a
salam ala Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then hand in that
order. All right, right we what's the verdict? What was going on?
All right, check the rooms in the basement to see if it's anything
because the kitchen counter was a gas leak or something. It smells
like a toaster.
Is anyone in the basement? The tenants? I smell to hear. Maybe
the guys out there are selling something and that's what we smell
the workers outside.
So maybe it's maybe someone in the basement left something on?
Okay, I'm gonna keep talking. I'll check the rooms in the basement.
Okay, all right. We'll do it. Yeah, yeah.
It should be. Right. It's gonna go check the basement
where I
We have tenants we collect rent.
I can't collect jersey, so I collect rent. All right, next
question.
Can you recommend a local
Oh H vac a local Muslim H vac? Yeah, I can. Coach Tim, send me a
text on the side and I'll send you the H vac guy who who did this for
us.
What are the differences between the med hubs says i Why i Bros.
The differences between the med hubs in a nutshell
has to do with their
categorization of the Sunnah. So, for example,
Abu Hanifa he categorizes a sunnah between the Hadith are widely
spread or the hadith is had they're treated differently. Their
use in law is different. Matic also agreed with that and he also
has Ahmed al in Medina, he's considered it more towards the
what was the scholars of Medina agreed upon or what was publicly
done in Medina, at the time of the prophets, at the time of the first
three generations, the chef aka
they don't view that they don't separate between the head. And the
non ahead ahead means only came down from one or two Sahaba the
ham buddies, they really limit analogy and they prefer lesser
strong Hadith. It's right over analogy. And they also don't
separate between the differences between the sahaba. So if one
Sahaba did a and another sabe did B they won't choose they'll say
both is sunnah. So there is different that's just in a
nutshell some of the differences. Next question.
That's true. Yes.
Sue Sue says, Can I wear a Vivienne Westwood necklace? I
don't know if Vivienne Westwood is but or who she is.
Okay, but so I can't answer the question like what's up with the
Vivian is there an agenda in their their necklaces? Like how would
there be an adjustment in their neck was like what's the big deal
with a Vivienne Westwood necklace? So,
next
the best way to share money with spirit can you say it in your in
your heart
the code is very vast it can be done.
It could be done
silently could be done aloud. Now it is said that the beginner
should do his allowed Okay. Should do is the could aloud why is that
because he's already prone to distraction. So by doing it out
loud, you filling here your senses, you should read it. So
your eyes see it, say it so your tongue is moving. Hear it. So your
senses are all covered. Right and the best of the could is to me
upon wudu facing the Qibla
and no distractions.
So that's the best. And then as a person later on, he may do it
silently and still be able to focus then that's fine too. In
public it will be in your head or it'll be
just whispered which is fine.
Matt Hamza says can you listen to the Quran while driving or doing a
task? While driving? Yes and doing a mindless task Yes, mindless task
not a task that your mind can't focus on both because it will put
Al Quran for STEM Yoda wants to do. If the Quran is recited then
listen and pay attention. So Quran is not like other of God or
nasheeds that you can not pay attention. You have to pay
attention.
So you can do a mindless task cutting celery stuffing Mashi Yes,
but
alright, Vivienne Westwood has a cross on her image design.
Like on purpose or is it a plus sign?
I guess we're gonna have to look up so this so called Vivienne
Westwood
here we go with some Hold on. Let me get this animal lion
Yeah, it looks like one of those royal crosses, like the kings of
Europe, so I guess I wouldn't wear that
I wouldn't pay money to wear a cross. Even if it's like a royal
cross. So there's a lot of other
designers that you could wear their clothes. What's the verdict
dry?
That's terrible. It seems like it's coming from.
Yeah.
That means we have to get the H Fatcow.
First
Yeah.
All right.
All right. Why is sadaqa impermissible to give to the bait
says I mean, who told you that? Oh, to ll bait, not to the bait l
bait because our sadaqa is the filth of our wealth. It's a
purification of our wealth. That's why nimitta says, Is it okay to
recite students in Bukhara for a particular intention? Yes. Or any
Quran? And the Quran?
And can it be recited sitting in one sitting or split up throughout
the day? Either one?
To hit a home or a person should read
the biographies of the Imams and choose a methodology Hey, right.
Could we put that up from yesterday? If you have it? Real
quick, I want to go over this again. This is so important, the
right way to do things, the right way to think the right way to do
something. Okay.
Is you got to pick a methodology of doing it first.
What's the methodology by which you're going to do something?
Then you plug in all the information, then you accept the
results. That's the right way to know Allah's Will for you. Okay,
that's the right way to do science. It's a logical method,
not just a scientific method. It's a logical method,
pick a methodology. How are we going to go about understanding
Allah's word, we pick a methodology, then all of the
Hadith, and yet the ultimate examine them,
they almost put it through that methodology, then you get a
result, you accept that result, however it is, whatever that
result is, you accept it.
Now, the wrong methodology to do things is flipped, you already
predetermined your result.
You already know what you want, right?
And then you, you search the information that ahaadeeth the ads
that suit your results. And you look for a methodology and you
cook up a methodology that will produce that results.
So the wrong way to do things flips it, get, it puts the result,
it pre determines the result. You see this what the graph looks like
now, you it pre determines the result, then you look for that
hadith, and you look for the evidence that serves your results.
And then you cook up a methodology that serves that result. And
that's why we don't pick and that's why it's a corrupt approach
to pick and choose from the opinions because you're growing
your wins you're howa of your knifes, and you're never having to
have Taco because tuck what is that?
All right, I believe this methodology, we're going to put in
all the ads and the data. And by the way, we're not going to do
this on them. I have already done it.
We then get a result and you say, Oh, I don't like this result.
Where's the tequila? You already decided upon a methodology? Yes or
no? You accept all the information yes or no? That makes up the
results. Okay. Except the results that's Taqwa discipline. And it's
predictable. Okay, it's not a Islamic life based on all of my
whims. That's the big difference.
Right now, are we saying that those people who do that pick and
choose their FIP?
Are they like, what is it unacceptable? It's unacceptable as
a methodology. Yes, it's unacceptable. Individually,
they're a bad debt and their actions may end up being correct.
But just because something is correct in its result, does not
mean it's correct in its method, nor will it produce tequila. It's
not going to produce tequila like this.
It's going to produce a strengthening of my desire that
anything I desire, I could actually look up in the books and
I'm so skilled at using my brain to serve my desires. That's not
the way things are done. Regarding the will of Allah. That's the way
things are done if you want to run a company, I want to be a
millionaire. Okay, fine, go sell hangers that that fail to sell
mugs that fail
Find the one result is there. And you can find a million different
ways to go about it that's good for you and your own diets and
dunya. But when it comes to the word of Allah subhana wa Tada
that's not the right way to go about things.
And show me any island that supported that predetermined the
result then look for the muscles. And also, the shoes are the texts,
the Hadith and the verses, and the also is the methodology.
So for every Mehsana so on socks, I'm humbly on food amalaki on
travelers prayer I'm Shafi
on will do, I'm Hanafy because you can have will do by without having
an attention, you won't get the reward, but it's valid will do on
financial on Ribba fringe Hanafy because there's some fringe Hana
fees that have some odd views on river. Right? What else is there
that people like?
On how they're, um Cheveley.
On on marriage, Allah Hedy, because there's a crazy variety
opinion where the Quran says, marrying twos and threes and
fours. So what are the Hadees? Do? They said Two? And three more?
That's five and four more, that's nine. So you can have nine wives?
How crazy is that view? Right?
Hambly on socks, you gotta be humbly on socks, Shafi on beard, I
could shave it all off, I want to write some side effect. So all
this is is no way to practice a religion. This is a way that if
you went to any rational person, they said, you're just playing
games. Yeah, you might be each one might be valid, but you're playing
games. There is something that is HAC. But the method and the and
the result is not good.
Next, is her mic on?
All right speaker. What should a Muslim do if it reaches the age of
40?
If a Muslim reaches the age of 40, they should wonder and they should
examine their deeds. If their deeds are upright, good news to
him. If he has sins, not good, because it's just gonna get harder
to get off these sins. So work hard to do whatever you can to get
off your sins, and
to get onto the right path. All right, we can
look at some of these other questions here saying marriage by
virtual online and online a virtual marriage online, it is
valid. But there is one thing that is a necessity, like what's the
necessity, that necessity is the identities, right? How to ensure
the identity of the person that's on the camera is the person that
you're dealing with. So if that can be
ensured somehow, then a virtual Nikka is valid. But by the way,
you don't even need an iPhone, just to tell you.
So you can get a local map villain and the virtual person maroon is
the one who conducts the marriage. It's not even necessary.
We can call the split screen now. It's not even necessary.
If a man says by merit, I have married you to me, past tense,
he's got to say it in the past and I have married you to me. And she
says, I have accepted your marriage.
They're married in two witnesses. They're married
the dowry they could figure it out later. Okay. And if they dispute
on it, then she gets the average of her friends, whatever her local
people of her status would get, she gets up.
Okay.
That's how it works. That's how simple it is. And if she was
previously married, she needs only Yes. But if she didn't have a Will
he if she was previously married is valid.
Even if she didn't have she wasn't previously married. The contract
of the marriage is valid. But the consummation requires the Willie.
Sorry, the witnesses. She needs a Willie in America, the machine is
already the witnesses aren't necessary for the contract of the
marriage. The witnesses are necessary before consummation.
So
marriage is a lot easier than what people think.
But yes, so the short end of it is yes, it can be done virtually, as
long as the identities of the two people are
are insured. Gigi is asking about
what was Gigi asking about?
Fate of non Muslims who have not received the message therefore
given
next
is this
still value and decode and which one mind wants wanders but you
still say it repeatedly why while the heart isn't fully present,
present present? Yes it is it is there is value to it because
you're practicing, it takes a while
to be able to focus your heart on Allah subhanaw taala because Allah
as he's, he's unseen to us. So you have to use your mind. Good and
you have to use your heart. So it will take time so there is value
in keep trying and failing, but there is less value if you don't
put the effort so you can just do it all the time and you're letting
yourself go on your phone. Then there's less effort involved, so
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I mean, says what is the meaning behind Imam Malik when he was
asked about the Qibla and the cover of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa salam Malik was asked, If I'm standing in front of the
grave of the messenger salAllahu alayhi wa salam, and I'm making
dua, do I face the prophet or do I turn my back to the Prophet and
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podcast, the live stream as well. Are you allowed to take out a
mortgage for your first home? If your family gets too big? Well,
there you should use the Sharia at least the ones where the
externally the contract is valid by the Sharia, you should use
those. And for those people who have like six kids, no one will
rent to you. Because people don't want to rent for six kids. They're
going to destroy the house. And for that some people have given
federal for that. But that is a federal not a ruling. Okay.
There's a big difference. Federal you have to get it for you
specifically.
Right. So there may be room for that. Shake a answer my question,
please. All right, let's go up to shake a
and see what the question was. First of all,
all right. shakez just a letter S Oh, there it is. All right.
Confused on differentiating true dreams versus nefs dreams. If you
if it seems if you think of something a lot, and it comes in a
dream. It is classified as
from the neffs. Yes. It's just from your thoughts. If you think
about for example, if you're
let's say you're deprived of eating something. Let's say the
doctor says you can no longer eat shrimp
and you used to love shrimp. You made dream of shrimp that is not a
dream that is from the heavens. That's just from your neffs it's
just from your mind. There's nothing good or bad about it.
But naturally you always think of what you're making dua for
Wonderful question. Wonderful question. Okay.
If a dream about what you've been thinking about, but it is from
Allah subhanaw taala, it will come in a symbolic form that you would
have never thought about. That's the whole reason why dreams come
as symbols
is for you to separate
between your own thoughts and a true dream. So a symbolic dream
from Allah to Allah direct comes in symbols that you don't even
understand. Then someone says, No, this means this and that. Okay, so
that's the meaning of
why ye dream true dreams come symbolically to separate for you.
So you know, this was not from me, because I don't even know what
this symbols mean. Right?
What versus the dream that is from the neffs it is exactly what you
were thinking about. So that's the difference.
If a man keeps himself clean shaven does he accrue since in the
three month hubs? Yes, it is wedge up to have something of a beard,
at the very least what the society would call a beard. And if I'm not
mistaken, the chef a mouth holds the beer to be a sunnah.
So I don't know what their ruling is on someone who perpetually
leaves off pseudonym waka. Because in the Hanafi, and medical schools
perpetually leaving off a pseudonym, aka for no reason is a
defect in your deen sinful for the 100 Thieves but a defect in your
deen. So someone who refuses never prays with just like on purpose,
never prays what's
next?
How? How important is it for a Muslim to visit a OXA? Can we
prioritize it over and Kamala repeat? How important is it for a
Muslim to visit? OXA can we prioritize it over and Ramona
ombre is first Dominus is pseudonym aka once in your
lifetime, whereas visiting an upset is not.
So soon ombre comes first. Prioritize first. What happens if
you lie about a dream says susu that Allah will not give you true
dreams again in his major sin, the prophets of Allah who it was
suddenly even mentioned it. Next subject.
Actually, let me read here and Jim Shahzad. He's 43 years old. He's a
father of three. And Lee lives in London. It's 8pm here, man, it's
one of those hot days. I love England in the summertime, when
it's hot. When it's warm. I mean, when the sun is out,
everyone's out.
And those days, it's like, nine o'clock. maguet
right. Not gonna be as late in the summertime. You fast one of those
days. You really earned it. Right? You fast one of those hot summer
days of of England.
You really earned it. He says
it's one of the hottest days in recorded history. And we went for
a nice long two hour walk listening to the podcast best part
of the day. That's wonderful. That's what we want to hear.
That's what we want to hear. Moab says many women can't tolerate
contraceptives. Is it halal for a man to get a vasectomy?
No, it is not halal to take a permanent solution to
contraception. It can only be a temporary solution. On top of
that, the only reason that that may be permissible is if the woman
will have a danger to her body. Like if she gets has a baby again,
she's gonna have massive bleeding and rupturing, then that is the
only reason that's again fatwah for her case only.
Okay, now, can the man get that? I don't think so. Well, what happens
if he ends up having to marry another woman?
Right. So the woman may get that now the man not to get also to
graphic here. But there is the old way of doing things, which is
called coitus. interruptus the Latin you can go look that up.
It's called a dazzle in Arabic, which means
basically, you come out, you pull out and you spill your seed else
outside of the body.
Okay.
So Eva one, if you are inspired to keep making dua about a certain
subject. That's wonderful. Should you continue pursuing that
subject? Yes. You pursue it and you keep praying for it.
Shake Hey, can you please include the second part of my question
right under the first
you
This weekend, why not? Example If I see a rink, cake indicated
marriage or how like the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam saw so
peace with Aisha Radi Allahu Anna but naturally you may think of a
particular woman you might want to marry Oh Sheikh A is a man how to
know that shaky was a woman
all this time
Allahu Allah, it is basically more of this dream symbols are
the scholars they they know what these symbols are like milk for
example, is a very popular one relating to marriage. Okay, a
praying in someone's house. That means there's a connection between
you in that house some in some way in the future. There's different
symbols like that. So you have to search in your society, in your
community. I mean, for a
dream interpreter and see if they have if they can tell you if that
dream is a true dream or not. What do you think of Sayed Mohammad
asked us
I'm not familiar who is Satan Natividad does I know
can you ask Chifa from a person at his janazah
we can ask a lot to make him intercede for you. Why not?
What can we do with Quran that is worn out you can bury it or burn
it? Can a female wipe over her hijab at work? Look? Maybe in the
Hanafi school humbly school?
Do you sin if you dye your hair black for the man mcru For the
woman is hello for the men though it's
because it makes people think you're a lot younger than you are.
If non Muslim who never hear about Islam are forgiven. Why do we give
anyone dower that's an obligation upon us. It's their Huck. It's
their right.
It is their right and its obligation upon us and also life
without Islam as there's a lot of moral questions and spiritual
questions that they may be suffering right now, without the
truth so it is an obligation upon us.
Next
how should we make dua the melcombe of Sedna eight Sedna
Ayoub and sorry evil Ansari in Turkey okay when you when you have
that you the chance to visit the grave of a boy you will Ansari in
Turkey yeah and it There's nothing specific different you go you said
Salam aleikum Docomo Munin insha Allah the Kamala code, and then
you make dua for the deceased and you make dua for yourself and for
the OMA
it's my SS ruling on men wearing rings, necklaces and bracelets in
the Maliki school all of that is haram except for one ring that is
less than what's the what's the the price of it right? To to
to Durham's worth
can't remember the actual weight it's a weight
it's actual weight and only one silver ring.
Silver maximum meaning it could be anything else would be plastic, it
could be less than that not non gold ring, let's say non gold
ring. Okay, that's all a man is allowed to wear.
And other methods they may have cut out here discouragement, but
jewelry is genuinely the man is not made to be ordained and
dainty, etc. He's not made for that
the women are made to be beautiful
in our religion that's how we choose to perform gender and the
language of today's woke guests
okay that's how we that's what we believe about gender so we have no
apologies for that. Yes
Can Can a man wear like a rubber band or something over
like as a bracelet he can if he if he's using stuff he can wear it?
For example a man can can have for example a
throw his tools around his neck, a rubber band or misbehave around
his that's not jewelry, that's his carrying something that's
acceptable. But if it's jewelry, then no
no, if he's putting it on as jewelry then no
What does using a prayer mat invalidate Salah in the magic your
method does not. When does he say?
When does using your prayer mat? If there's an address on it.
The thickness you start
by being Makrooh to use it to take it one that wasn't there and put
it there. It's better to use the earth in front of you to use the
Earth. Yeah, but even that has exceptions. For example, if
someone's gonna get fungus, infection, then he can use a map
because there's been masters that have been really unclean and it's
not the Earth. Earth is clean right? But fungal infection
because magic himself used to put down a cloth so that his forehead
doesn't get marked up. So for the protection of the forehead
it is permitted to protect the forehead
Sophia
has questions
are sweets with gelatin from cows permissible
gelatin of the cow
based upon istikhara if it had applies to it, some scholars apply
that and some don't
beef gelatin marshmallows
but and how is the gelatin extracted?
Would be grateful for an answer to questions? One, two and three. Oh,
she's got another heck she numbers are questions now. Sophia says as
an adult child. Do you have to do anything possible to keep your
elderly parent alive when they suffer from Alzheimer's? No, you
do not have to keep them plugged in.
You don't have to keep them plugged in. Like so you're not
obligated to keep someone on a machine. You can pull the plug
it's totally valid. You're not obligated to have to do that.
They lose consciousness so you take him to the hospital to get
reanimated
as a it's recommended or Halal to do that it's not obligatory to
keep somebody alive who was on the verge of death okay all
right. Well you pull it up that masala on the mats
yeah
this was the website Yeah, he didn't pay for he didn't pay it.
So I think we'll buy this was like my home. I'm gonna buy it. We
should just but
it's the second time he didn't pay. And the first time he said
Oh, thank you. I forgot to pay my bill. I said listen, if you're
paying your bills to the website company, I'll just buy it for you.
He's a nice brother. He came visited here with
me. No, no, no.
He's a convert brother. He married to an Egyptian Yes. Speaker
What is ish what is issue with the problem with the way
okay, Fred was saying it's the fossa.
Same
people right while you pull that together, let's answer segments.
Can you perform ombre on a long layover? Yes. are you obligated to
complete Amara if you make the intention and you state of haram?
Yes, you're obligated to complete it.
Once you begin an intent any sooner you're obligated to finish
it. Nimra. What about different cheeses made from rennet? Yes. You
may eat that. What is your view on enzyme of non xebia Cow's cheese?
I think that rennet we answered that question is How big
is halal? Or is it say Halal on the packaging? They're talking
about something else.
Sophia, I only see one question of yours. I don't see questions two
and three.
Best way to memorize Quran by Dino palavra is read it 15 times.
Read it 15 times then without looking at it.
Try to recite it yourself 15 times do that twice a day and only do
four or five hours a day.
That's it.
Okay, is that only a medical method for dying black hair for
women. Women are allowed to dye their hair any color accepts a
color that is known for for suck, like the blue and pink haired woke
types. That will be my crew because people might think you're
woke and then you won't get any marriage proposals. Right? But and
people might think ill of you, but they're allowed to
dye their hair any color men can dye their hair also any color same
rule applies unless it's a color that is specific for facade for
surplus people who are like, odd or strange some way or they
represent something forbidden for us.
We're also discouraged from dyeing our hair black because it is
it deceives people the people think you're a lot younger
Alright, expand that screen right? This is this is a translation.
Okay expand the screen.
So we can read that. Alright and the magic key method reading from
an estimate we have is this what is after your asthma we this is so
my prostrating on luxurious garments, rugs or things like
that. So it's that's it's based upon the luxury element of things
and cut. There is no harm in prostrating on ordinary mats.
There you go. Okay. Nevertheless prostrating on the earth is
better. Okay, stay away from the above stated. So on the earth,
your local Masjid rug is not the earth, right?
These rugs are not clean. I'm telling you. People just walked on
that place where you're making sujood and he was in the bathroom
making wudu barefoot in the bathroom and put on slippers.
Allah knows how many people put on those slippers. I'm not getting
involved with that. I don't want I'm saying this because it
happened to me before.
And I had like a slash here.
That I just could not get off my forehead for years. So I'm not
going that route again in life of having a fungal infection. Just
the thought of it is disgusting. Fungus from some guy's foot. Now
it's on the rug. And now it's on your head. The earth is different.
It's better to make sujood on the earth.
Okay, but the rotten old rugs of some of these masajid in a vacuum
the mustard.
there and some people they walk in the bathroom of the masjid
barefoot.
No, thank you.
But the luxurious rug is what's my crew?
Putting down some luxury like you're some king that can't
prostrate on the floor like everyone else. And now there's
heated heated rugs for fetch. Are you smoking? You're not some king.
Let me just tell you that. And the softs because your forehead is so
precious. Have any can't get his forehead. No put some some clean
surface on but doesn't have to be some soft thing because you're so
soft and precious children also said this doesn't include like
massages, getting nice rugs like they should get nice rugs in the
community is not the individual for it's not for an individual so
it's permitted for a master to get a nice rug because it's honoring
the house of Allah subhanaw taala
What about a rug for someone with arthritis? Yes, there's always
exceptions. If you have arthritis, you may end up praying sitting
down in the first place.
Next, Oh Prince Matthew gaming is affirming here. Well I prayed in
Mecca without a rug, I ended up with a fungal infection on his
head. I don't want some someone's foot fungus on my head. There's
limits everything speak.
What should we do? Passing by Christian cemetery when you pass
by a Christian cemetery? Well, you know, some people say absolutely
not good news for you hellfire. But I actually have to check if
that's something that's a Sunday for us to say or is that something
that I just heard someone once narrate as a hadith that they used
to say?
I remember a
imam from East Orange.
He said, I taught my daughter when she passes by the graves of the
non believers to say, Absolutely not absolutely not good news for
you hellfire. So I have to check if that's actually something
that's so new for us. I've never heard that or read it in the
books, but I also haven't researched it. So I'll look it up
again. Maybe there have a basis and maybe not. So I can't answer
that. Why Why don't you look it up for us?
Prince Matthew gaming wants people to know that no, is not a fungal
infection, but a cut on his forehead. So there must have been
something sharp on his forehead.
Okay, Nimra M star. What was your question?
What about rugs for those with arthritis? Yes, we answered that.
Oh, Sophia says, How do you react to relatives gossiping, you try to
make up an excuse that doesn't make it look like you're so pious.
And they're not because they're gonna make fun of you for that.
And it's also not nice, but just make up an excuse. Right? make up
an excuse and the cell phone is a great thing to make up excuses. So
make up some excuse and just distract yourself from it.
As Salah at the BIA the benefits of a solid Allahumma salli ala
Sayyidina Muhammad and Bill glooby What the wha wha fear of journey
was here when Saudi Arabia and the Yemenis added work either will go
to Ottawa he will either so that's a wonderful Salah on the prophet
that
It is said that it is who says it 300 times will experience shift,
you'll experience a
something of a healing.
Next
How do you use the ring? When it's on your ring finger? Wouldn't it
be awkward to touch this? No, you take it off when you use it. You
take this off and you could put it like here. And you could use it
like that. You take it off
are you allowed to eat raw snails?
The snail is an aquatic creature. You can eat it, even if you find
it dead.
Because this snail is an aquatic creature. Right. So however you
find the snail raw, dead or alive, you may eat it.
However you want to eat it because it is an aquatic creature. What
are your other obligations tourists with respect to sibling
ties?
The general keeping in touch that's it?
Can a ginger like a red haired person duck dye their color henna?
It's natural to them.
So someone who has orange hair.
Now if we said that dyeing your hair black is misleading, because
it's or it's more cruel because it misleads people make you think
you're young. Well, what if you don't have black hair? Well,
that's a great question. Of course, that was a hadith for the
Arabs, right? So what about the Irish person using henna?
Then people think they're really young.
That's a good question. And I will have to ask about that. If we
operate with PS on that. The question is, are we operating with
PS
on that, and such that if you're a blonde guy, than dyeing your hair
blonde will become a guru. If you're a brown haired guy dyeing
your hair brown would become a will ask the shake about that.
Take that. Yeah. Oh, and then put that bynner obihiro bynner.
Alright, couple more questions before we head off. Yes.
I had a dream of talking to Mufti Taqi Usmani but I don't remember
much about it. What BNF stream?
Hello, Adam. I can't tell you right here.
How do we exercise sobor, says Nabil until dua is accepted. You
simply close your eyes and visualize yourself in front of the
gate of Allah subhanaw taala.
Repeating to Allah, O Allah, your messenger of peace be upon him
said we will be answered as long as we don't leave off our dot.
Here I am obeying the messenger. And I'm waiting. If you have the
power to wait, and you know how to bide your time.
It's quite a lot. It's really one of the important skills in life is
to know how to always What does Allah say? He praises Satan and
Musa says Lebra who had a blockage Mr. Bohannon, they happen I will
not stop until I reach until I meet arrive at the area of the two
oceans. Good even if I have to wait up a lifetime lover or a
blogger Majima Bahrain on the haka, even if I have to travel for
life for an eon so we have to learn how to wait and how to how
to enjoy the waiting to because it's Ed is a bed waiting for the
answer is a bed.
Bilal says and he plans to visit the UK. Well, we got to visit the
UK now that half of the people here from the UK was this this is
advantageous to them because it's evening time for UK. All right,
next question.
Advice for feeling like you're always chasing things in life and
things never come easy to you. The mentality is no good. That
mentality is no good.
Things never come easy to you there. I'm sure there's a lot of
things that came easy. I'm sure there's a lot of people who have
it worse. So I would highly recommend that.
Not going to answer that question. Rather go revise your mentality
have a more positive mentality.
For example, do you see a lot of people don't see.
You'd have to work you didn't do anything to see. You didn't do
anything to think you didn't do anything to do or don't do those
basic things, but some people do. They can't see.
Okay, all that stuff.
Me Armen. Daffy Duck says for the question of animal rennet, would
it still be valid for animals like pigs?
Hello.
I can't imagine that it cannot be no
difference between chef and Hanafy mathematical methods mainly is on
the solitary chain, Teddy's and I'm an alien Medina. Those are the
two major differences.
And it'll take a while to explain that now.
Okay.
Till I hit a homerun I have one question but it never gets
answered. Just put the question. Right, put repeat the question and
because it may just get lost, but I did answer your question about
which method? I didn't answer that with.
Any advice on finding a ship, go study with different youth until
one settles with your heart and you find that you're benefiting
most?
Next?
If you have a deadly disease, like cancer, but refuse therapy,
because of its side effects, knowing you'll die sooner Is this
okay? Who was what? who answered? Who asked that question? What's
the name? Muhammad Manam.
If a person refused to take medicine for cancer
number one, what is let's look at the broad picture. What's the
ruling on taking medicine in the Sharia some methods say
recommended some say permitted. Okay. Now Halal is different from
wise. So it is they have not done something haram
if someone refused, could you keep scrolling? Because so I can see
that question Mohammed bin? What was an Instagram? So if somebody
refuses to take medicine, they have not committed
a sin
have not committed a sin.
All right, but
exactly. Yeah, there's that but we have to look at something else.
Does this person have dependents that they will just be leaving
abandoning? Right?
Yeah, there must be a consequence to that you're going to leave your
daughter to be abandoned, you're gonna leave your son to be
abandoned. You're gonna leave your husband, wife, mother, without any
help.
Because you did something that you may be responsible for those
consequences.
So that action one action of yours may be valid.
But you may be responsible for those consequences. And I can only
see that somebody would do that if they have no dependents. Nobody
was responsible for can a Muslim woman remove her hijab in front of
a non Muslim woman? The answer is yes.
Can you do a session on Jin? Jawad, give a hug? How's it going?
Can you explain Salah Camella Judo Nadia we're going to be doing a
video on each one of these jolla
can we give salam when entering the garden after Muhammad as this
place can be occupied by the Jin
wat garden? Yes, you can give Saddam anywhere. Salam aleikum.
When you wake up, says Shahir ages you should wash hands nose and
mouth. You should wash. Yes, those three things hands the prophesy
centum said nose and mouth immediately is what the Prophet
used to
cover. Wash when he wakes up. Cognito says Do women and nomadic
men have to cover their feet the top of the feet not the bottom of
the feet?
Is it Well Jim for women to cover their face in the Shafi method and
the humbly method only.
But not in the Maliki method. Unless there is fitna fit that
means people will look at her people will abuse her brother
ooga panda I'm signing for a TD Bank checking account.
Is it good? I don't know, which is the best bank. As somebody who
knows about banking, I really don't know. Next question.
Follow up on above, please comment on the fic of generally rejecting
medical treatment, knowing it may be may bring more harm, harm, harm
to you or take your wife any examples in sunnah. Now, the
general ruling as the ultimate set is you're not you're never
obligated to take medicine but that doesn't mean you will not be
held accountable for the consequences. That means I got
four or 56789 10 dependents right?
They rely upon me.
I can't abandon them willingly knowingly. So I'm sitting here
dying. And I know I'm about to abandon these dependents. So I'm
not obligated at this moment to take care of myself. That's the
video with the upset
because there have found no obligate no pneus directly
obligated me to take medicine. However, I will be responsible for
abandoning these these creatures.
I've abandoned them
Right. That's the problem.
And I may be responsible for that.
Cognitive says Can I wear perfume with alcohol in the medical
pneumatic Amantha blood but in other methods, yes. And even in
the medical methods, the Mauritanians permitted it.
The shanaka permitted that
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So the women want to be Hanafy in the summertime when it comes to
sandals.
But Medicare require the tarp to be covered. Does that come along
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to us than his most beloved say Dale Carnegie said in a Muhammad
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rahmatullah wa barakato.
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