Shadee Elmasry – NBF 163 Sincerely Turning to Allah ft. Shaykh Yahya Rhodus
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam
ala Rasulillah who are early he will be here. Amen. Well welcome
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Are you watching this? They had such a great season, the Minnesota
Vikings, and they just basically showed up a dud, and a game that
should have been theirs against a team that hasn't won a playoff
game since 2011. Who knows when, but the
people from Minnesota which is medically click is one of them.
And he's a Viking and he's actually a Viking, you know that
he's actually Norwegian, and they're called the Vikings in
Minnesota because there was such a Norwegian migration there. Right.
And the charges Yeah, they charges blue a big game, but they weren't
expected to go far. But the Vikings were so good this year.
And they had the game of the year against the bills. It was such an
exciting game. And then all of a sudden they come in and against
the Giants, basically. Like how do you not take over that game? They
have many opportunities to do so. But the giant fans here in New
Jersey are extremely pumped. I'm going to really care about
football except that I do care about I love watching the
reactions of the playoffs.
Probably by tomorrow you may be you'll see some I don't know if
this was worthy of smashing TVs. You guys remember that? Smashing
TVs? Oh, you don't? Okay, so like last last minute. They miss a play
mess up and the fans were like smashed their TV and stuff like go
crazy. They go crazy. Anyway, that is what's on the mind of some
people today.
Today we have Shakira, he wrote us on segment numero
three segments we have today, we have our reading from from
students at Madej as Bevin azul, students and marriage, but I first
want to make a comment on students, some students. We're
then going to take your comments and questions a little bit that
we're going to talk to sit here here and that'll take us to the
end of today's program. And let's start with sort of newer has in it
some ads that are so important for everybody to know. The center jaw
for the subject was asked one time
about having a child want to have a child. He said make us look for
or sorry, it was hustling and bustling, hustling bustling making
stuff.
So hustle and bustle he was then
another person came and said I need to risk wealth.
So he said go make us suffer. So another man came and he said I'm
trying to buy a new house. He said make us so far. Obviously this is
over a period of time. So his students they said, I think do you
just tell everyone make a stick for her? Is that That's it he said
no. He said no, he you haven't read the Quran. Allah subhanaw
taala says for call to stop Fedora back home in Ocana Farah.
You receive the summer they call MedDRA. William did a combi unwell
and we've been in wager adelakun JANA tune wage Allah caminhada
this series of ad tells us the power of is so far, but it has to
be a lot of is too far.
It has to be a lot of Toba. So let's list the things that are
mentioned in this according to some fiddled a backhoe and now can
affect your citizen. They can withdraw. That's the first thing
it would rain on you now that rain is of course useful for the farmer
useful for the for the people who need water, but it's allegorical
to everyone else. Guys, so how is rain for example, a reward for
someone in England? Right? It's not the rain gets rain all the
time. So that rain you were to say this summer, are they committed a
summit. So the it means here that there is risk and when it says
you'll see this summer meaning it's going to come in a noble way
from above and an unexpected way.
That's the allegory here. It was sort of summer Anakin without a
whim did come be unwell. And if you want something more explicit
that it means wealth, Allah literally says he will give you
money and well
with any children
Hey John welcome Jana to Ajala common ha what is the difference
between that you can have a lot of money and a lot of kids and be
miserable. Right? But Allah says here you will get you have a Jana
many Janet, it doesn't just mean gardens because if you're someone
outside the agricultural world, you don't need a garden, right?
Janna to like your home, it could be a paradise
is not everyone's home, right? It could be a paradise.
So that you could have a lot of money, you could have a lot of
kids, but your home is not a paradise is not a place of rest.
It's not a place of happiness.
Okay, it's a place of distress it could be. So Allah says its
agenda.
Now if you have a great home and you got all these wonderful
things,
get our own, you have to keep it.
So Allah says you get an Hara rivers and the river, the idea of
the river is that it's a free rivers are free. It's not anything
that you have to pay for. Yet at the same time it comes to you
get and it nourishes your garden. So the allegory for that is that
it's a constant income.
Like a river is a constant, free food for your garden, right? It's
free feeding of your garden irrigation. Likewise, it's an
income. So um, well, a one time
and Howrah constant income, constant passive income. So this
is something that you have to always keep in mind, your citizen
or Alec can withdraw from VMware to have any wage I look. I'm Jana,
to edge Allah caminhada. Okay,
this set of ads, you should always recite from it, to keep in mind
that as long as a person is constantly in the state of
its far,
right constantly in a state of a sefar, then they will be receiving
all of these gifts. And now, I like to take this in another way.
From another perspective, from another angle. You could say why
is there a material explanation for this? And I think there is. If
you're a person of a set far,
then you're a person of humility. You're a person who believes that
there's a right way to do things the wrong way to do things, right.
And you're humble enough to recognize that, well, if that's
what you do in your spiritual life, wouldn't that trickle down
into all your other lives? If I'm always making Toba, that means I'm
recognized there's a right way to act with Allah, there's a wrong
way to act.
And for every time I do something wrong,
I repent.
If that's what you do, with your Creator, who's unseen to you,
chances are it's going to trickle down to everything else. Chances
are the mentality of a Muslim when it comes to work. He's going to
have the same legalistic 50 mindset that's going to say
there's there are necessary things to do. There are things we should
never do. There are things it's good for us to do, but it's not
the priority. And things good for us to leave off. And then there's
a lot of things in the middle. Once you take that mentality, and
that when I make a mistake in work, I gotta repent for it, I got
to make up for it.
It's it's a trickle down of that mentality of the 50 mentality of
that there's there are right ways, and wrong ways to do things. And
I'm not a fan of the new world, where people are now changing all
the rules. As soon as they start failing, they changed the rules,
right?
So now, like, as soon as people get lazy, let's say, you know, in
some sphere of life, they take something that was always
considered bad, such as an I really don't want to offend
anyone. But obesity is not good for you. Allah never made you that
way. Right? It's not good for you. But now we're turning this into
beauty. We're turning it into like, it's okay. Where it's not
even good for your heart. It's not good for anything. Point being is
that the Muslim mentality is going to be that there are rights and
wrongs, and there are levels of gray. And there's in the middle,
pure gray. That's the Hulot you do it don't do it doesn't make a
difference, right. Then there's light gray and dark gray, then
there's black and there's white. That's the gradient that we live
on our live our lives on. And if you're humble enough, you sit you
accept the system, and then you say, I can't live up to it. I felt
and then you try to live up to it, and you keep trying to live up
with it. But you don't change the system, which like reformist
Muslims, progressive Muslims and reformers. And by the way, I'm
going to, I'll talk about this another time. I've accepted a rare
invitation
to a university here in America to speak about
is Islam? Is it necessary to believe in the Prophet slice them?
That's the lecture. Right? Is it necessary to believe in the
Prophet sighs it's a law it was unknown. Or can you just hear
about him and respect him and move on with your life? That's election
giving kata yet?
Kathy, this is Kathy, there's no discussion on it. Right? You don't
discuss about the there's no methods in kata yet. There's no
method on if there's sun rise from the east or the west. So my
message, sir, not that group because they're, they're being
nice to me, that group to be honest with you, right? They want
me to hear my perspective. They're being fair. At least they're
inviting somebody right to offer the other perspective. But anyway,
set that aside, reformed Muslims, progressive Muslims, who are you
fooling?
The system is this There are known things, there are known
prohibitions, okay? Either you live up to it, or you don't, if
you don't live up to it, it's better to it's easier on your
conscious to accept that, repent to Allah subhanaw taala and try to
do better next time. Okay.
But what you don't want to do is alter the system and change the
whole religion. Who are you fooling? That's my question? How
do you sleep at night? You're not fooling anybody, or you think
you're fooling the angels are going to be duped? Are you going
to fool Allah? Or are you just fooling yourself? It's actually
just what Allah says, Okay? They try to fool the believers, they,
they try to fool Allah, they end up fooling themselves. And that's
the thing with the progressive movement. I would much rather take
bozos failures in religion, who are honest,
who just fail at the Dean all the time, but they're not trying to
alter it.
I'll take them 1000 times over a person who's
maybe halfway there, but they alter right what the dean is
supposed to be, and Kata yet are explicit things, you cannot change
the meaning of them. There is no method been this. A man once said
to me,
we really don't know what religion is, right?
We have format hubs in Islam in FIP. So why don't we have a treat
all the methods, the religions as methods, right?
The answer to it is that we have methods and opinions on texts that
are vanilla in nature, meaning they may possess possible
different meanings. The language allows for that flexibility.
We do not have methods in that which is explicit.
Right, there is no method but
there are defaults in all fields. In every field. There are
defaults, you don't discuss them. In the medical field, you need
your heart to survive. You don't discuss this, right?
You don't discuss certain basics that the heart pumps, okay, and
the lungs breathe air. And the I see in the ears here, there's no
discussion on this. There's probably tons of discussion on
other things like what's the purpose of the appendix,
right didn't even have a name for it, they call it the extra one.
That's all it is, the appendix literally means the extra thing.
So this is the concept and idea that I believe that there is a
material basis for this, rooted in this spiritual practice, that if
you live a life of is too far, then you are implying that you
believe in a right and a wrong and you submit
to the idea that you have made a mistake. And you try to rectify
your mistake, that's going to trickle down to your family life.
It's going to trickle down to your
your personal life, your business life, your education, it's going
to trickle down to everything. And you will not you'll be a person
who cannot stand to enter into any field without knowing what are the
necessities, what are the prohibitions, right? What do we
do? What do we not do? What is close to that? And then what is
totally permitted, you're gonna walk into everything with that.
Right? And then when you make a mistake, you fix it so your
worldly life should get a lot better. If you notice what is he
mentioned here? He mentions here, your your money and your family.
That's all happiness is right, your money and your family.
And in another area, he gives you a long life. Good day before it.
All right.
Where is it?
Abu Abdullah otaku out there and young black woman Dunoon became
a Muslim. Worship this Lord make Matoba Allah give you a long life.
So your health, your wealth, and your family.
And if you're good with your family, chances are you're gonna
have a lot of friends. Right? It's easier to be friends with people
than to be family members. You don't pick your family but you
pick your friends. Right? So it's so much easier to to live
If you're if your family life is good, I can't see, I can't imagine
a guy who has the patience to be with his family. He takes care of
them and doesn't have friends, right? I don't see that. So you've
got your health, your wealth, your family and your friends, what else
you need in life. And it's all because of the mentality, that
there's a right way to do things, there's a wrong way to do things.
And when I'm wrong, I admit that I'm wrong and I rectify. If you do
this everywhere in life, at every field, you're going to succeed.
And what does Allah tell us? For those who are addicted to sense,
you don't stop, you keep going.
Even if you have to prophesy centum said, even if you if you
fail 70 times in a single day.
I don't see anyone who's who fails. There's not even time to
fail 70 times in a day. So the prophets I said, I'm saying 70
times in a single day.
You go back, you don't alter what's right and what's wrong, and
you don't create some theory that justifies your behavior.
And isn't that what people do when they fail? Everyone these days is
watching the made off fix on Netflix, four part series, right?
Where the guy had a legit business, but he had this weird
thing where he just took everyone's money
and opened a side business that was totally illegal. And he never
invested the money.
And he ended up on it. You never heard of Madoff. You've never
heard of Madoff. How much pharmacy? Have you been studying?
You have? How old? Are you?
In 2008? How old? Are you?
That's what I didn't hear from Okay, you got to pass. Okay, so
2008 The whole
the entire
economy burst.
And this guy turned out he was doing a fraud for 40 years. Right,
a Ponzi scheme?
Well, what ends up happening is that he takes people's money.
And he says he's going to invest them. Well, he ends up having, you
know, some guys print fake
trades, fake trades, by going on by looking at the the trade the
market, and then printing the trade as if he had made the trade
earlier. So it always makes him look like he's profiting. So he's
running a profit. This guy's running a consistent profit for 30
years. It doesn't ever happen, right? But anyway, he gets such a
reputation. Everyone starts giving him the money, he starts living
with that money. And anyone who wants to pull out, he has plenty
of money. He just gives them money and leaves and they get to new
investor, that's what a Ponzi scheme is, there's actually no
investment happening. Okay?
It just it bugs, it's impossible for a person to do this. If
they're habituated to a belief where there's constant right and
constant wrong. And you're always repenting for Iraq.
This guy goes and he does it. And it's it's insane the way
he goes about this, because the money reached Europe. They're
giving him money from Europe.
The amount of money Take a wild guess how much money he ended up
having.
At the highest point.
30 million. What do you say?
50 billion
50 billion. How does this happen? How do you sleep at night? And
none Not a penny of these people's money is invested.
In England, did you guys hear Bernie Madoff?
You guys, I'm not even that old. What's with you people? You guys
have never heard of Bernie Madoff.
I'm not even old. Okay, Bernie Madoff is a Wall Street. It was a
not just a veteran, highly respected gold standard Wall
Street personality. That's what he was. Because he had a legitimate
business. Then in the basement, or a couple of stories down. He had
this fraud that he was running. Why was he running the fraud? I
guess he just got caught up in it. And he just couldn't get out of
it. It was the weirdest thing. The the salaries for the people who
are running the fraud was about 5 million bucks a year to run the
fraud, which is basically they come in work full time. Printing
fake
investments,
fake investments,
and then mailing them out to people.
It's like, man, if you're that good, why don't you run a legit
business? SubhanAllah.
But that's the concept. I love this concept that if you live a
life where every time you enter into something, you ask yourself
what is necessary
What's firt?
What's forbidden?
Let me get that down first, then I add a layer, what is good to do,
but not necessary, and what's bad to do, but if I fall into it, it's
not going to be the end of the world.
And then what is permitted?
When you get a job you go in that when you go to college, you go in
with that mentality, everywhere you go, you go with that
mentality. And then you go with the mentality that every time I
dip into what is forbidden, right, I gotta come back. Or else I'm
gonna get burned. Okay.
So this is the biggest fraud, biggest scam biggest Ponzi scheme
in world history.
World History, $50 billion Ponzi scheme.
He went to jail and he died and his wife killed herself.
Yeah.
His wife had zero clue that he's been doing this zero.
How do you live? How do you sleep?
Everything about this guy's life was a lie.
And I've seen you who live by this. There are necessities, there
provisions, even their nightstand. Like I spent some time in hotel
rooms which you the nightstand, will not go to sleep until he
finds everything and fixes his nightstand necessity, right?
Not gonna say who the Sheikh was, but I spent time and I said, we
just came back. We're exhausted, we're going to bed. And he won't
sleep. I said what's going on? He said,
I don't know what he had. He had usually has three things on his
nightstand. I was like, just get it in the morning. He's like, No,
it's the principal of it right? Now someone who acts like that in
the minor things, probably acts like that in his organization.
It's why they succeed.
So that's my takeaway from students.
No.
And the power of is so far that it leads you to a respectable and
honorable life, a good life. And it's too far out here meaning the
general concept of tilba and you can't make Toba if you don't know
FIP, right. That's why you have to know FIP. You can't be pious if
you don't know FIP because what is piety? Piety is saying no to my
ego, and I'm pushing it to do what God wants rather than what I want.
And Allah only asked us to do that a couple of times, right? This is
not every day that we have to fight against our knifes
unless the society actually tempts us away from that, but
the deen of Allah is easy. society may be corrupt, but the dean is
easy. But that concept, if you live that concept, he gotta be
successful. It's impossible. They're not going to be
successful.
Students and my adage
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What did he ask he asked.
Is there a punishment when is this punishment? So Alyssa Ilunga been
work
and he said Aloma in Canada the whole ad hoc woman intake of
Antara Lena Hidatsa. Minister.
How how blinded can you get?
He says
this inevitable Hadith. He says if this is true in Canada, them and
Angela, if this is true, if this Deen of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam is true for him throughout na Giada to Minnesota
bring down let it rain rocks on our head. Well, shouldn't you say
if this is true, guide us to it. Right? You see when someone gets
blinded
they will not benefit from an open check. Did not have bliss receive
an empty check from Allah subhanaw taala the bliss was expelled from
paradise.
And then he said oh hold on. I worshiped for 10,000 years where's
my compensation for 10,000 years of worship
and you're so he knows the divine system of justice. There is no bad
thing that you will suffer except you will get next patient for that
there is no good thing that you're going to do except that Allah will
give you some reward in this life for the next there's no guarantee
it's going to be in the next but you'll definitely get it either in
this life. Okay. For if you don't believe in the next life you'll
get it in this life. So all the people you know what a what a
atheist one said, Okay, what about all these? These these people who
do good things like Bill Gates? I said, Why are they doing them?
Right? They said no, they just do it for the sake of the good. I
said they don't want any reward. They said no. So then why are you
asking for one right
But what about Bill Gates and going to the afterlife and getting
no reward for it? Did he want it?
Did he ask for it? Why would you get something you don't ask for?
Likewise,
a person came to me and many and I'm answering this because it is a
theological question. A lot of people ask us ask this. There was
a woman.
She doesn't pray. She doesn't do anything in the deen. She is
essentially a zero in the deen. But she lives her whole life
raising money for cancer. She's Muslim, right. But she doesn't do
anything in the deen.
And someone said to me, do you think that this is an explanation
for all her other things that she doesn't do? I said, if she intends
it,
and she and then the person went on, do you really think that she
would be held against her that she didn't fast or pray? Because all
this stuff that she's doing? Right? And in Accra? I said, Well,
is she doing it for that reason? Why is she doing it? That is where
you're gonna get the reward from? Why do you want her to get a
reward that she herself doesn't want?
He asked her, Why is she doing it? If she says I'm doing it for the
sake of Allah, then that must, if that's true, it must trickle down
eventually, to her personal worship of Allah. Otherwise, it's
a lie.
If you're doing something for the sake of Allah, while Allah also
told you to do things in your personal life,
right? Dressed like this, pray like this fast like that. So you
can't tell me that you love Allah so much, that you're going to
travel the world raising money for cancer, and not practice. One bit
of Deen, right? That's a lie.
If it's but if she's sincere, then she will eventually
eventually, it will come back. And she will benefit. Right and she
will practice what she's supposed to. Because if she's sincere that
this is for Allah, then logically what Allah also asked me for do
this, how many youth out there, they genuinely come into the deen
they love it. But they have bad relations with their parents.
And you ask them what's going on with you? And they seem to have a
separation until they actually advance in the deen. And it
trickles down that hold on that same
purpose that you're doing all these good these things in the MSA
and you're only these classes. You're doing that for Allah will
Allah also asks you to take care of your family to to do these
mundane things that you might not want to do. It has to trickle
down. Okay? It has to trickle down if you're sincere. So that's the
concept here. It bliss. Got the he said where's the justice? Then
Allah said, Ask what you wish.
Give them a free check. Blank check.
What did the police say? What should he have said?
You had the chance. Say first thing forgive me for my sin. Don't
be angry with me again.
Let me cool down my ego that always wants to be better than
Adam. Let me be honored.
I'm not gonna say let me be better than Adam forget relativity with
the others. Let me be honored. Let me be satisfied with your reward.
He had a blank check. But Allah Tada knew that he was so blinded
and so full of hate, that he misused the check and he said, let
me be up here. Let me be invisible to the human being let me whisper
to them from birth to death.
Let me be involved in their children and their wealth. And let
me live until the day of judgment so that no human being ever lives
without me attacking them. That's what he asked for. Likewise here
another Hadith he has the same disease of the ego see, we are
creatures that have free choice jinn and humans. We can be really
irrational. And here Allahumma incana has a whole
minute indica for Antonina Hey, gelatin, oh, well, if this is
true, then let it rain sins upon us. Let it rains rocks upon us.
Okay.
Well, could JPY be Hatem on a SUTI? Color? Fiocco Lisa, Alyssa
Ilan, Colin asila to be McAfee and nobody even heard when he said
alarm in Canada the whole upcoming indica mtrr Nina hydrometer.
Minister. Oh Allah if this is true, then bring the punishment
now. You should say if this is true,
okay. If this is true,
then forgive me, then guide me to it then make me love it. If not,
maybe
he didn't want to ever marry.
And then he started reading Hadith. He sat in a circle of
Hadith
And he said, The Sheikh said in the Hadith that the Prophet SAW
Selim said, whoever chooses man Robinson materialism, and if you
think that there's something better than my son and you don't
want my son, which is marriage, eating, sleeping, living a regular
life,
those aspects of life, then you're not one of us. It doesn't mean if
you happen not to get married.
It means if you think that's better,
and you don't want this another prophet, so
even out of he was thinking about this for a while, and immediately
he came to the right answer. He said, Oh Allah, I don't want to
marry so change my heart. Let my heart be aligned with the Sunnah.
So we have to make dua for our hearts sometimes when you have
envy, when you have issues when you have these other things, when
you are competitive when you don't like the will of Allah, you can
ask Allah to alter your heart.
Students will haka.
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Carla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam literally you've never
thought him in the middle and with the nega Walla oxic one word
Limerock we're entire will help Calaca anti Subhan Allah and Allah
subhanaw taala says what are you whoo
Okay, and this hadith is not so here he says that it's not of this
is not so here but he cites it and the reason he cites it
is because it's the only thing that comes it is well known that
what I yeah well done well yeah. It said it because the prophets I
said him held his ear as his head the children well yeah, this is an
ear that hears
and you could hear test them out. Well, let's say
a summer is you hear the sounds and why you got the message.
That's a difference a summer is you're hearing the sound well, why
is you're getting the message. That's the difference. And say
nobody truly understood it with a depth unlike anybody else. But the
Hadith says oh Ali I was commanded to bring you nearer to me to never
let you be far from me and to teach you okay, and that you
should grasp what I'm saying. Okay. And it is hochland like it
is right for you or it is
dutiful for you to listen. Okay to understand that say not even every
thought.
sort of known, while cadmium is true, and let's see what the ASVAB
and Azul is from this
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kulula Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Noma Junoon. Thelma
shaytaan.
They started off saying that the prophet has mentioned noon. Well
hold on a second. How can you say on one hand his put on his poetry?
And then on other hand, he's mentioned noon. Have you ever seen
a Majnoon person produced poetry? So you're contradicting yourself
all the time? So they dropped Majnoon. Then they said he's a
shaytaan. He is connected to the jinn and he has all sorts of
connections with these shayateen
and ALLAH SubhanA, who brings Alma Entebbe, now Matera became known
we'll call him as soon mesterolone interview material.
Nicola,
Nicola Hello
Sue little column
so what does Allah need to tell the Prophet he's mentioning? It's
is this is constellation. The prophet is Allah is consoling the
Prophet not informing him that he's not mentioned. The Prophet
never thought he was mentioned. Right? But he's consoling the
Messenger of Allah he was
constantly NCLT is tafsir he's always mentioning that this is a
like constellation that he's, he has very few followers. He's being
ridiculed by his people. So Allah consoles him.
Well, I could I will know I am in Fidella elua Devi Cyanogen where
he narrates with a week senator from Iowa. Caught it's McKenna had
an accent a hooligan, the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. Magi who I hadn't met as hobby will am an early beta
de la kala bake Subhanallah we're in Nicola Allahu La Kannada. This
is amazing.
Seda is just says no button the Prophet never,
never was invited by anybody in his family. They never called him
they never asked for him except he said love bake meaning at your
service.
At your surface, he never, it says you're from Le Beatty was Hobie.
Now, by the way, what are the rules? If somebody calls you
forget calls you what if someone knocks on your door?
Which means that they also if they text you, if they email you,
you have zero obligation to answer.
Okay, zero obligation to answer the Quran says Peter Lakota, Jo,
Jo, Jo, SK Telecom. If you're told, if you knock on someone's
house, and you are told, Go back, go back. It's more pure for you.
What does it mean, it's more pure for you?
Meaning that
it humbles you're humbled. Right? You accept being rejected. Right.
And it's not that we're trying to always be people who are accept
being rejected, but or we're always accepting of these things.
But it's a it's a simple matter of humility. And it's also a matter
of if you want friends, you can't last in friendship, if you're
always burdening people. So if there's no way for me to say, I
have to have any private time, I can't do this. I have to have some
private time. So you're allowed to not answer people
simply not answer, or to tell them to go back.
It's not the time. Today, it's on the phone. Nobody should imagine
that
a person has to be answered that just because someone doesn't
answer your texts that they hate you. This is a big, like, Wiswell
that a lot of people get, oh, they now obviously, if it's months and
months and months, then it's going to be different. But in general,
you have to give people an excuse. Maybe they're busy, maybe they're
sick, maybe they're just can't do it.
I remember wondering why people cannot simply answer a message,
right.
And then you realize when you get busy in life, that you see the
message, you then see
hundreds of other messages over the week, and you totally forget
the first message. So you end up doing exactly what you wondered,
you know why people are doing it to you. So
so he always said the bake and that's you get rewarded for it,
but you're not obligated but the Prophet always answered everybody
who asked him for anything. So this is so that nobody thinks
that's the obligation. And therefore if anyone ever calls you
or talks to you, you just have to answer everything. You don't There
comes a time especially in our in the digital age where you can make
easily have over a dozen messages and a dozen missed calls a day.
Right?
You simply just you can't answer everything. Right and you simply
just put your phone off you have to ask you're gonna go crazy.
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the cool Halloween Maheen
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anyone here know what is ennemis?
Child of Zina?
Xenium this was a revelation for Abidjan. He never knew he was a
child of Zina. He went back to his mother and he asked her Am I a
child of Zina? He she said yes.
That's a proof for you that this book is from Allah. They refuse
still refused. That's how blind skinned person is. What are their
color Halloween Maheen
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dear Ruth. We'll call upon Agnes initially Shura and Maheen
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hummus is always backbiting, always backbiting.
that this is one thing now that I would have trouble getting close
to people who aren't practicing Muslims.
They backed by nothing stops him from backbiting right? If they
backed by to you though backbite against you
have mez Masha been me is always talking about other people and
causing conflict between other people. Men now a little higher.
He stops the good he doesn't like the good
meaning Islam being the first one of them. Okay.
And everything else that is not brings more doesn't. He's always
aggressing on others before they aggress on him. In the material
mindset, you probably would aggress on people before they
aggress on you. Because you know, eventually it's a dog eat dog
world from a material standpoint and there is no creator you take
that mentality.
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extremely harsh, Lee of Jaffe, there's no warmth and there's
personality, how Tolin okay. And that results because of fascia.
When you do a lot of faux Irish filthy sins, you become harsh and
you become distant and there's no warmth in your personality
anymore.
And it's constant argumentation and issues with people.
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take these take these we're going to take them and we're going to
tie them to the mountain so that they could die a slow death.
And that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says, Abuja Hill is nothing. He
has no power. He's just like the people of the garden. And the
people of the garden, where those people who the garden of suits are
Kalam was about a family that the father was very charitable but the
kids were not. And the kids after the father died, they said, Send
the poor away. We're not giving this charity anymore. We're
keeping all the money to ourselves.
Oh, shortly thereafter, a storm came and destroyed it all.
So just showing them that they have no power. So that is
is our coverage of sudut l column. And we went from adage today to a
column. And now let's turn to everybody's
comments and questions. Where are we starting
where are we starting today?
What you got right?
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workplace what is up?
If Majnoon doesn't produce poetry cannot be what Apple boys who was
called an engineering or is what is meant is clinically insane
whereas Majnoon a place was just in deep love.
Oh, no, that's allegorical Majnoon Majnoon and Leila I think he's
talking about that famous poem edge known and Leila. It's just he
was just in love with her but that was just a poem them
Yeah.
Yes. What's, what's a good number of like, do for like increase in
minimum 300 a day? Yeah.
Yeah. So mania scene
it's not it's, it is not necessary to answer the door. It's not
necessary to answer an email. It's not founded upon you, but it's
good character if you do.
Okay, so you could say sunnah. Yes. You can say sunnah. You can
say it is rewardable. If you answer people, but you are under
no obligation to answer anybody. That's actually,
of course, your parents probably the only obligation. You're
obligated to answer your parents. You're obligated to answer your
wife. You're obligated to answer your husband, and you're obligated
to answer your daughter if she needs help, and your son if he
needs help, until he can pay his own way.
Ben Sulaiman says given the conditions of Toba what is the
Medicube position on what Toba looks like tilba is in the heart
100% in the heart, and then it is all about avoiding the repetition
of that sin, whatever that sin is, but tilba is in the heart with the
regret on the tongue
with admission that we've done the wrong
with the tongue as well. In making a Safar you have to ask Allah for
forgiveness.
Many people will admit that they were wrong but they won't ask
Allah for forgiveness, they won't ask the person that they abused
for forgiveness.
So that's the second thing you have to do with your tongue. On
the whole body is to not repeat that sin again. That's the font is
on the whole body.
Can women wear trainers during Ramadan women can do not have
haram. They have in terms of clothing, they have the intent
they have haram let me rephrase that. The haram of women does not
affect their clothing, they can wear anything that is had a to
wear.
They haram of women when they make ombre and hedge has other things
such as the intention and that they do not do certain things such
as clip nail clip hair, but they do not have any clothing
requirements or prohibitions. In fact, what they do have is a
prohibition, no clothes can touch their face or their hands.
So even a woman in niqab they wear a cap and the cloth goes out like
this. It cannot touch their face.
If there are seven heavens and you're on the bottom one does that
mean you don't see the people who are higher up? So you never see
the prophets of Allah when he was salam? Yes, that's what it means.
You'll see them like you'll see planets and stars, but they can
come down and visit you. They can come down but you can't go up, we
would get burned.
So Sophia says, I keep telling people all the time, our phone is
in a part of my arm. And if I don't want to look at it, don't be
mad. That's so true. Right? So someone tells me there's someone
who tells me all the time and eldery says you don't answer
that's arrogance. I said it's not arrogance. There's no arrogance
here. I don't have to hold. If I'm talking to you now, right? Face to
face and I text you isn't that and I'm texting somebody else. Isn't
that rude? Yes. So therefore, why don't you assume I'm talking with
other people. That's why I don't text you back. I don't call you
back. Or I don't I don't pick up the call because I'm with other
people. That's rude. Good
If a sister unconsciously adjust her clothes and sometimes your job
is slipping, so she adjusts, would this invalidate sulla?
If it's accidental like that, with regards to rights over family, if
one family member is treated as escape go in terms of
psychological term of the psychological term. Would it be
okay to cordial to be cordial but not mingle? Yes, it's okay. It's
okay to avoid harm. You don't intend to cut off your family, but
you may intend to avoid harm that is permitted for you.
Many says, I think people have no patience because we can just
easily respond ASAP. Yeah, yeah, it's you imagine that someone
could easily respond. That's the imagination that we have. We
imagine that the person sitting there and ignoring us, but why
don't you use your imagination for probably what's more accurate?
Which is that they just not next to their phone? Right?
Or they're in a meeting, or all that other stuff. Okay, and what
about the if it's months on end, then that's different than you
know, they don't want to talk to you anymore. But we take another
approach. Well, why are you so obsessed with other people? Why
don't you find sufficiency with yourself?
Take a hike, go take a walk fly a kite. Well, what was her name?
Amelia Bedelia.
Many star says also how social media keeps going on about if
someone doesn't respond with an X time they don't want to know you
cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
I have been Yes. Does discussing someone's behavior when they're
not around count as backbiting? If there's a reason then it is not
backbiting. So for example, if teachers get together and they
talk about the behavior of a student, if employers get together
managers get together and they discuss the performance of an
employee, but it has to be restricted to that which has a
purpose.
So if they start going into that which has nothing to do with his
job, such as his appearance or his personal life, that would be
considered as backbiting
Okay.
So here he is coming at 230 inshallah. So, we're we're on
segment number two, we'll take your questions, and then we'll
move to segment number three. And if you enjoy this podcast, you go
to patreon.com forward slash Safina society, as we now start to
bring guests on inshallah more often.
Okay.
Can you speak on the Hammadi brothers? Not really, I don't
really, I didn't really research into them. Of course, they are
Moroccan. They're a family of knowledge that specializes in
Hadith. They're not medica they're not a che era. And they have
atellica. I don't know what the theory is, is it?
What branches it causes to you? Maybe? I don't know. But they are
not medically if they go against the medical method in many ways.
But and there are many. And they are scholars of Hadith. They are
they spent a lot of their efforts responding to the Wahhabis. Okay.
So they are their own thing, in my opinion, from what I've seen, that
they're not like
they haven't even declared that their Medicare just because
someone's rockin doesn't mean he's a medically Moroccan and against
the Wahhabis does not mean he's a medic. And they also they went
against the SATs in many ways. Right? So they're not limited to
that.
I don't know. I don't know if they went that far. But they're on
their own. In terms of those things, that's what I know about
them. That's what I've been told about them. I should Davies gives
you the golden rule. If they talk about you, they will talk. If they
talk to you about others, they will talk about you. Okay, man,
Nima, lega. Mnemonic, whoever doesn't mean much to you.
guarantee will do Nima about you. You're not special. Okay. You're
one day we'll be on the menu. Because in the media, it's a show
it's a desire.
I'm telling you get a community together. The first thing
is get veba out of the community. That is the first step to success.
The second thing to do if you ever want to jumpstart a group of
friends or community, get back biting out of the system. Number
two.
Learn to eat Ted's weed. There's something special
About to tweet circles it requires a lot of humility. It requires
coming to the masjid. It requires physically being there. Everything
good comes out of the tweet circles. Anytime that I felt like
the community needs a quick jumpstart started to tweet class,
right? And all especially in the summertime when the days are long.
Right, like a little bit after end of us seven o'clock, let's say all
the way till maga 815 830.
And everyone's reciting Quran people are making mistakes. It's
very humbling. And you're in the masjid doing doing this for about
an hour. And you do this like two three times a week. By the end of
the summer. You have a wonderful community, you have a wonderful
group of people.
Does going to Omaha with a group satisfy the modern requirement?
Yes.
Yes, it does.
Revert says as a revert, should I mentioned to a potential spouse
that I'm uncircumcised? No, you do not have to mention that. What you
must mention to your spouse is that which will affect the
intimacy and your ability to maintain her because what she's
getting for the deal is protection and intimacy what you're getting
from the deal is intimacy. Okay.
Or is talking about the objective physical Miserables? Nobody should
say, Oh, well, what about friendship and all this
companionship? Yes, that's all fine and good. But we're talking
about objective measurables. The objective measurable. That is the
reason that marriage exists
is intimacy.
protection, and procreation. Insofar as any of these are
threatened, and you cannot perform them, you must tell them.
So if somebody has a problem with their private parts, then you
don't have to describe the the problem. Unless it helps
understand, you simply must say, I have trouble doing trouble doing
this because I have such a such a disease. Right? If describing the
diseases necessary.
If your credit is bad, you have to tell her I was I had a lot of
credit cards. I'm out. I can never rent the house and never rent the
car. Right?
My credit is that bet she it's her right to know that she's going to
be taking care of you then. Right? That's not the deal.
Good. If she comes in, she says I have no interest in men. She has
to say that. If that's her problem, then don't get married.
Okay, you can't go and experiment on the guy. And same thing happens
with men. They may say for example, situation may come about
he's not interested in women. Hey, can you kindly plug this in? And
where's our mega charger? Our long one?
Hey, can you not meet NAB that extension cord? Right there. So
that? So that's what you have to mention when you're going to
marry? You don't have to mention, I used to have this sin. I used to
have that sin. I have this, that and the other. None of that's
important. Right? Not Not it's not important. It's not necessary for
you to describe it.
In other words, if you get if you marry somebody, let's say if a
girl marries somebody,
thank you. For girls. Wait, is it on? Let's just double check. Yes,
it is good. Thank you, for girl marry somebody who is an Indian
convert, okay. to Islam, and she thinks she's marrying an Indian
Muslim.
He never mentioned that. He's a convert. He didn't have to. Did
you ask he didn't have to write so a lot of things that in marriage
that you might want to know but it's not necessarily an obligation
to mention.
Circumcision also don't go and get circumcised in hospital it's not a
valid reason to learn to show your outfit. You want to go and get a
kit
online right?
And have and do it yourself or have your wife do it for you.
Okay.
Do they sell the kit on Amazon?
I haven't can you look it up with
Walmart
50 more minutes and still show here he arrives.
Ben Sulaiman says might be TMI what's TMI
too much information. But a brother is concerned about air
coming out of his rear end but not from the gut.
But from when he bends over. If it is not gas, it does not break we
do if it is someone who wind or air passes through
between his legs that is not written does not break we do open
it again please the Amazon page
okay,
I opened it again. fast and free delivery. What's the kit called?
Just for the sake of people out there who never got circumcised
maybe they wanted this is I remember we discussed this before,
but and people got upset that we laughed. But
here now I'm gonna I'm not gonna I'm gonna make sure and I still
have complete suture practice, get practice, on who?
Practice, practice get good. Let me read that practice kit for
suture training. Okay, no, we don't want practice we this is not
a thing you can make a mistake on. All right, keep going. Where is
the circumcision kit?
Okay, we haven't found one just in case. Yeah. And it's just I don't
know if you want to do that. Okay. Daydream of autumn. She's like I
just joined what's going on?
Okay, tell me when you find something.
Where's the next group trip? The next ombre for youth is next
December Chawla.
And it is for youth. We're only taking one bus. So it probably
won't be advertised. Except to some certain people who are from
the high school age. But we do want to have
we do we do want to have a watch and we'll call it
some other group trips to like we might go to Texas this summer.
That's on that's on the table
anything I heard
now there's there's no, why don't you check the Orthodox Jews? They
should have that?
Yeah, they have to suck the blood themselves, which is bizarre.
Yeah, that sucked about themselves. Can you talk about the
SS strangest
that says it's the quad brings rain provision. I heard people say
that meaning is literal. It is literal and allegoric. We just
talked about that. Believe it or not. I don't know if he just came
on. But if you go into the beginning of the stream, you'll
talk about it. You'll hear us talking about it. I said Davey
says I always tell my kids, they're not obligated to answer
the door. Unless it's me or the authorities.
Yeah, kids, when they're young, they don't know understand. They
run right. And then when they become of hijab age, someone rings
the doorbell. It's like an FBI raid. Right? Running hijab, right?
So you, you might not know that you have a sister, right? It Ryan
doesn't know this. But when you have a house with two, three a
job, he's in the house, and someone rings the doorbell. It's
like the FBI is an FBI raid on the house. People running, scurrying,
rolling over hiding behind couches and tables, right.
And the way that Muslims used to have their house was better. They
had a middle area that you could let everybody in as soon as they
ring the doorbell, but they still don't see the house. Okay.
And so that gives time that allows you to bring them in. Yet it gives
time for the women to go and get ready.
Waterman he talked about if not to be not married. Yet. He did get
married. He didn't want to get married at the time. He didn't
like the idea when he heard the prophets Hadith about marriage. He
said, Oh, Allah changed my heart and make me love the Sunnah. And
he did and he got married.
So Mina says, Is there any obligation so the person you
believed wronged you that they did? So how can someone ask for
forgiveness from a person or Allah for an unknown offense? Therefore,
they're innocent, really, in a sense, they can't be held
accountable if they don't know that they upset you. Because
sometimes people's upsetting you is, it's not something that they
know they did. And there was a brother, believe it or not, he
didn't he felt that I had sort of brushed him off.
Right until a third person came in and he said, By the way, I want to
we're gonna go hang out with so and so. But keep in mind, he's a
bit sensitive because he feels that you brushed him off. I was
like, I never brushed him off. He's like, Well, apparently, and
it could happen like you'd be saying set up to somebody and
someone's got their arm out and you just inched your like your
your arm just go sometimes the other person without looking at
them without realizing that you just did this rude thing. So they
I guess they have to know.
And if it's something that is subjective, though, then maybe
we're being oversensitive to. So it has to be a wrong, right?
Something offensive can go both ways. It can be like Oh, I didn't
really mean that. So you could bring it up if you want
If Salah stops you from getting burnt by the Hellfire does that
mean you can still get punished in other ways? Yes, you can get your
sins removed in different ways, sicknesses, flus, pneumonia, loss
of money getting tickets. Okay? You can have a kid who's rude to
you, a child who's not polite
daydream of autumn, if a shit if a husband and a wife divorce, is he
still a Muharram? For the period of the day? No, she should cover
in front of him. She, no, they don't. But if she should cover in
front of him, she should separate from him. But if he does anything
that would indicate that he that intimacy, it negates the divorce
right away. And it's not Zina.
It's not Zina? Can he communicate? They should communicate with a
third person? Yes.
Live on the Nile. can we reconcile between the Hadith that says no
two people love one another for the sake of Allah, or for Islam
then separated from one another, but that it was due to a sin one
of them committed?
What is the meaning of that?
And the saying that I have had which are my roots separating
husband and wife have roots and my roots does not have anything to do
with that hadith, how to tomorrow, it has to do purely with black
magic. Okay. And it is true that if two people are on the same
heart, they're friends, that means their hearts are very similar.
Then they split up is likely to be due. If they have a breakup, it's
likely because one of their hearts went down and or the other one up.
And if your heart goes up, you should take people with you. But
if your deen goes down and you start committing sins, then at
that point it must be that's the reason for the breakup probably.
Yes.
Am I able to see a potential spouse is hair before marriage?
No, you cannot. You're not allowed to.
Have a marriage proposal from a second generation convert just
like you suggested. Alhamdulillah Very good. Everything is falling
in place. I've been praying Tsikata please pray for me. So
sister Mina, we ask Allah subhana wa it's out of that he make your
path easy. I'll be in 11th and delta La Mancha. faqeer you should
repeat this dua or be in the mountains Delta la even Hiram
faqeer Alright, so very good. Dua strong, powerful to get
very strong
dua.
There's one, I have to apologize if people attack another person.
And because they have an issue within themselves, yes. Anytime
that you harm another person you have to
you do have to make it up for them. Even if it's not an apology,
you have to make it up with something better.
All right, let's see. Just name saying the Walmart is the father
of the commodities they were chef. Yeah, and some people say he was
one of the earlier and
that is very possible. Just said that they separated from the
medical method and the sad athlete doesn't mean they went into better
it just means that they're not limiting themselves to that or
they're not adhering to that they have their own beliefs. That's
what I have been told about them. I could be wrong, but I've seen
the I've seen documents like their books, where they went off so
Malik was wrong on this. And they went against the sad position and
many things
Pacio says
What's your response to those on the Salafi spectrum who say to us
so is sure we are all doing to us all at all times. To us it means
taking a means in order to make a law please with you. We are all
doing that at all times
however i which email did you send it to shortly as email?
Okay,
we sent to your Gmail
how to stop oneself from getting into discussions with shopkeepers
and dentists about what you were told not told or not told or what
has or hasn't happened.
You can I
Credit. So talking too much decrease the eye contact if you
don't want to talk too much make
it should be easy, right?
Am I allowed to ask a potential spouse to show me a picture
without hijab before marriage? No. A picture Yes, but not without a
job.
And Mina gives the correct answer to that. So does Elia ma'am, they
give the correct answer? Yes. CNR chilla is here and says, said Mr.
Equal Salam rahmatullah wa barakato.
Can we tell people the virtues of Sedna Oh yeah, yes, you met he's a
Sahabi. jellied
he is a Sahabi he's not from the veterans but he was a younger
Sahabi and he was given the by the prophet the job of being his
scribe and the scribe of the of his letters so
okay
is getting a beard implant permitted
allow item but I have seen the fact that it is permitted yes
I have I've seen the federal as permitted Yes.
I'm not on ArcView I'm just looking for an audio recording of
it of what
Oh, this must be part of a discussion a conversation they're
having I always get caught up in reading a question and it turns
out it's a conversation is having someone else at our best says fit
question if I am doing most and I do something to break my will Who
do I have to redo the list? Only the limbs of voodoo.
Okay, only the little limbs of widow, Khadija Asif Gron teachers
give you the biggest ego check yes that's why it says weed is is part
of let's like spiritual almost to ego check on the Merriam and
Hanafi phip Women can't wear artificial rings if not gold or
silver. Is she allowed to wear a dickering wire they're not allowed
to wear artificial rings. What is artificial in the first place?
Right.
I never heard that. Can Can Can you ask someone 100 feet about
that?
Okay
yeah. Hanafi fiqh, this there can't be a rule that says you can
only wear gold and silver
impossible.
Yeah.
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basic media. I wanted to ask about something you mentioned about
child custody.
Going to the father after 12 after Bulu when he reaches Buelow, he
goes is that? Is this required even when there is Divi? What's
Divi?
What is Divi? Exactly?
Yeah
it is required it all of these rules are flexible but that is the
Sunnah that the child should go the boy not the girl the boy upon
puberty go says that
but I don't know what dv is. Oh domestic violence no if he's
violent, and there's some proof that he will hurt the kid then No,
but there has to be proof right
okay
when is that what?
Oh so fuck but it's over and we're now in the nest Sofia
got
it
Oh, by the way ArcView Wednesdays we have UK times class shutter
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What's up on this camera? Yeah?
Was Zamyla can recite reciting Ciloxan Jean 100 times the last
third of the night relieves us of many, many many things.
Yes, for anything
I should Davies Okay, since we are discussing marriage, what advice
do you give to a sister who has been single for a while because
she was hurt in past marriages and is off put off from marriage? I
would say the answer to that is hosting a vanilla good opinion of
Allah and try to rationalize it statistically. Right. I was hurt
by one guy. One guy doesn't represent all guys.
I was hurt by one min try to just like rationalize it. If you were
hurt if you married 10 times and you failed 10 times. Right? Well,
that's too much. But two times, let's say and both times that guy
was bad, then at that point, is one of two things.
Either my selection process was no good.
Or, because he is bad. My selection process is no good. Or
still nonetheless. Two guys do not represent all guys. Right? So you
try to rationalize things with yourself like that. And then
ultimately ask Allah to open your heart for trust. That's the
fastest route. Oh, I'll let my heart trust somebody again. That's
the way
you ask Allah to let your heart trust somebody again. Right? And
that's the fastest route is Allah Our hearts are in Allah's hands.
Good. And we ask Allah to Allah to to change them for us.
Some people trust too easily some people just too hard or they're
too hard to trust they don't trust people. And there's reasons for
that
I'm just getting word here that wearing artificial jewelry is
permitted in NFE FIP I'm even surprised that artificial is not
even a category right? That how's that illegal category? Artificial
non gold or silver? So she's saying here is permitted
Is it ever allowed in any condition? No, it's not allowed
any condition if there's only one is that the only way for you to
live in a house is by river then yes that's permitted
good
welcome Maya Jones. Mr. Jones in the shaft a school female
circumcision is obligatory says so in reliance of the traveler. I do
not know about that. I've I've never heard that if male
circumcision is not obligatory female definitely not be
obligatory. I've never heard that and alone is best.
Case soon says what is your response to the side of the
spectrum who say to us oh the shark we answered that already. We
said no. To us. So means to love to us is the love is or sorry
sorry twisted bill earlier is presenting your your love for this
person as a deed.
It is a type of Ahmed to us soul seeking a means through actions
and we are meant to seek a means for acts as you want. If Allah
subhanaw taala
if ALLAH SubhanA which
if you want something from your Creator do something fast. Do an
action so when you love one of the Alia Allah
okay.
That's an action of the heart.
So, yes, I know a lot of mothers This is about the custody find it
difficult the idea that panning your child back to the debt is it
circumstantial, it is circumstantial, and
there are circumstances that would cause a person not to do that.
Right. Our magic is allowed to combine the prayer Yes, we are
allowed to combine when traveling when moving,
when moving to the
destination once you arrive at the destination then the majority
opinion is that we cannot combine.
I would love to be Shafi in traveler's prayers
All right, sure, yeah. Is now with us.
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.
Can you raise the volume on the TV?
Yep
you got there Mohammed
Madhava Kev ADEQ
hamdulillah how are you?
Shala How is how is everything did you have classes today?
So the classes are in session Yes. Mashallah. And what is your
schedule look like? So I just got back from tenapanor attempt over
the weekend. Oh, Lola
just
looking at a property so they do, mashallah for the school.
Potentially, Allah Akbar, Allah is afar
all like continuous now contiguous, exact same area but
not far here. Hamdulillah, masha Allah. So as as we bring you on to
the main screen here, let me do some introduction. And tell
everybody that Shakira he wrote us is only an hour from us in
Allentown, Pennsylvania, and he has a madrasa that started
literally with like two people that started back in the day with
David Kearns. And was it Sarfraz What was his name? bracha. So a
man beracha right. So they meant bracha and David Kearns and
Shakira has started this project maybe 10 years ago
SubhanAllah 10 years ago, and it has grown, mashallah grown and
grown and grown and if you any of you want to ever go, you can go
for a weekend. There are four, four or six sessions a year,
camps.
A weekend retreat and then one family summer retreat. Good is
there as five five weekend retreats and one family summer
retreat. So you can go out there and you can spend a weekend in
Allentown, Pennsylvania. And study under Sharia here and see
mocassins read that recite the old rod and do all these things. For
weekends. A rollin what Friday, and then
you'll leave Sunday night. And it's a great way to spend your
weekend all the people who spend weekends doing, you know other
things, you should include this into your weekend. And you can get
all this information at Al Makossa dot o RG at mocassin being spelled
ALM a Q A si d dot o RG and you can get onto their email list. And
you could fly out there, take a flight you and your wife or you by
yourself, take a flight out there and
take one of these weekend retreats. If you are watching on
Instagram, hop over to YouTube so you can see show his face
otherwise you're just gonna see the split between us. Because
Instagram only gives the long angle like that. So hop over to
the Safina society YouTube channel to begin and to begin this
interview and to watch Shakira here and learn something from him.
The first thing I want to ask you if you're here is I want you to
tell us the latest atmaca acid.
What's the latest that you want people to know?
Mr. Miller salatu salam ala Rasulillah My idea was to have you
on Manuela first of all, thank you for inviting us your beloved to
the soul and may Allah Allah keep us
and all the people around you and mbyc in New Brunswick area and
that all the people following you online are very blessed to have
you and to benefit from you and may Allah try to keep us together
and bless those who work together and assist one another in thought,
you know,
the latest at Enma classes so mashallah Tabata cola.
You know, it's
in this whole process of trying to serve the Ummah of our Prophet
Mohammed Salah liason, one of the most impactful things that our
teacher said, Hi, Omar had said, as at the very least, that all of
us should meet a lot with is making the intention, making the
intention to establish this beam throughout the earth if how Medina
he Fujimi Adi and then to disseminate the sunnah of our
Prophet slicin amongst all people, well, National Center to meet the
VA Fujimi Halki. And when you think about the grand nature of
that statement, and of course, it's by way of intention, and
obviously that oftentimes, as you very well know, our circle of
influence is very different than our circle of concern. But this is
the concern that our teachers want us to have a universal concern for
all of humanity, Muslim and non Muslim law.
And then even beyond that, for the animal kingdom, and then taking
care of nature and the natural resources that a loss of penance
has given us. And so on one hand is that you don't like to get into
scope creep. And you start with something very small and very
focused and the heart of hearts of what we're doing relates to the
full time seminary believing, first and foremost, this is the
single most important thing that we need moving forward as Muslims
in any place in the world, and anytime, but especially in our
context, United States of America, a program that can that route, the
prophetic inheritance in the hearts of individuals, and then
they can carry on the tradition, all of the statistics that we talk
about in the 50 75 million Muslims that might be in this country, and
that 3040 years, none of that means anything, if we do not be
transfer this religious heritage to the upcoming generation, so the
heart of what we're doing is that full time program. And of course,
you'd have to begin very small, and that requires an enormous
amount of work. And it's not low hanging fruit. It's not fruit that
harvest in the first two years or even three years. I'm hoping that
in the next 50 years, we can at least have planted the seeds. And
I really mean,
because you're ultimately dealing with very big issues. What does it
mean, to hang on to tradition in the modern world? That what does
it mean to that establish a seminary in light of a world of
sucker materialism and the very quick accelerating rate of change,
and all of these other very big topics, if we're going to really
do what we need to do, we need to get this right and to build very
soft, solid foundations that are not going to blow away with the
wind, as the changing circumstances continue to strike
us so that that's the heart of what we're doing. And then the
latest right now that I've really been thinking about, as I've
started to realize, in addition to the in person community, which are
those that are studying full time with us, and those who have moved
to the area to benefit from some other services, is in the
increasing imperative of taking care of an online, international
community. And the more you travel, the more that you find
that little initiatives that are people are doing, I'm sure that
you experienced the same thing with your podcasts that with that,
and things like you're doing to argue that it literally is the
lifeline for some people.
That, you know, obviously the foundation is in person
instruction, and sitting at the feet of scholars from but this is
a band aid, that is an important thing that you and I do in our
teachers don't speak of it as this is something we should do. It's
your job, we must, it is a religious obligation to use all
modern means of communication, to help people throughout the world.
And one of the greatest proofs is me, I remember one of our friends
saying that he had a student one time in an online class in Tel
Aviv, Israel,
to become Muslim, and had in his classes
that in when his parents couldn't have found out or else they who
knows what they would have done to him. So you start to realize, and
that honestly heavy this really created a lot of you know, heavy
feeling of responsibility.
Sometimes you know that you try to just take enough rest to get by
just in order to give yourself fully to the community. But the
more we realize this the degree of responsibility, it really isn't
International, and even in places like Egypt, in places like Saudi
Arabia, they're increasingly looking to people that speak the
language of our time, not just English, but the frame in which
the deen is presented from people that have been trained in the West
is that increasingly that there's a new responsibility on upon our
shoulders. So that's really the latest in my mind is trying to put
that together how to really create an online community. And to the
extent possible, replicate the experience of the in person, that
local community online and to channel people from that once they
get interested in wants something from a and then move along to BCDE
F and down the line where they can have more sustained opportunities
to deepen their faith and to draw near to Allah. That's a long
winded answer. But no, that's it's a great answer. And now that you
brought up the line, I wanted to ask that it's easy to comprehend
the concept of taking a class online and talking to the teacher
you can get the answers that you're looking for
through the online communication through WhatsApp or what have you.
But the spiritual feeling or the environment of a bad and vicar is
really hard to replicate online. So what would you what is your
advice to somebody who
Is whose Lifeline is through the web is an online community, what
rep.
Routine should they have in terms of a bed and vicar so that they
could have that nourishment as well? Sure, may Allah bless you.
I would say that the first thing is, you make your home, your
apartment, the room in which you live, wherever it is that you live
a sacred space, make sure you have a special designated price place
for prayer. And if you have a home, dedicate a room, if you can,
that if you don't have a home, designate a space within an
existing room, where you go to pray, where you go to be in a
state of solitude where you go, and you can face the Qibla. And
you can remember your Lord subhanho wa Taala try to replicate
what people are doing in prayer spaces and in sacred spaces like
XhoI, and so forth, somewhere in your home, I guess that would be a
starting point. And make sure that you have regular litanies wherever
they are, if you have a particular weird litany that you recite, make
sure that you recite that in the morning, in the evening. And in
addition to something like the prophetic and vocations that the
Prophet left behind something like a weird little TIF, which takes
roughly 10 minutes in the morning, 10 minutes in the evening, try to
also have time that you spend with the book of Allah to add at least
10 minutes, give it to the book of Allah Tada however much you can
mean, and sending subtle Watts upon our Prophet sallallahu
sallam, and then it's still far at certain times during the day and a
lot more can be said there. But I guess that to me would be a
starting point. And then secondly, try to be around the very best
people possible in your locale. companionship is key. And if
there's no one to be around, take the companionship of the Olia. And
this could be a second point or even a third point. By reading
their biographies. We need to connect the community to the
biographies of the great Oleana saints and Obama, who came before
us and now we could give you a list of 10 to 1213 books that
could be read. And that would take you several years to probably get
through them. Unless you are an avid reader. I would say these are
three that very strong points and then use your free time well.
Instead of going to a Roomba or Koza mal or wherever that spend
your free time that going to visit people revive this concept of
regular which was traditionally done for sacred knowledge for
learning but also for sarpa for companionship being around people.
We learn the story of seeing this Alinea to study that trap all the
way to buzzer from where he was thrown to ask a question. And the
question was can the heart prostrate he was told he traveled
away from where he was from to stir all the way to Missouri, to
ask a particular scholar that might be able to give him the
answer. And the only other thing I'll say there is
there's a lot of opportunities now to connect to gatherings online.
And one of the benefits of being in the gardens of the righteous is
that they can if you will spiritualize technology. So your
art teachers have you have to harder at Mr. Coffee used to say
in the day of cassette tapes. He said the one who listens to a
recording of my gathering, as if they're in the gathering it's upon
Allah, or teacher CD have almost says the same thing regularly is
that the one who follows online it's as if they are in that gap.
In other words, normally, there's a degree there's a separation of
reality through the medium of TV through the medium of online
whatever it there's a degree of separation. But for the Olia when
they say that Allah has given them the ability to spiritualize
technology, you will get the same portion. And this is the important
thing is that you feeling it is not a prerequisite.
You might not but you will get the same portion. Those are just a few
things, I'm sure. Other good things you wouldn't be able to add
as well having. Now you mentioned biographies, and you mentioned
Have you ever called there's a cough? And that leads me to my
third question, which is share with our audience. Something that
sticks out in your mind. Something unique that sticks out in your
mind
about shake up they'll call that happy about the recovery so cough
or somebody somebody else but he came to my mind recently, since we
were in Jeddah and met with his one of his top students have been
Mohammed is a cough. So you I'm sure you've met him a number of
times, and that probably was not speaking at that time. But you
still may have and he wasn't speaking to people at the time.
Probably since tooth 1998 I think he wasn't really speaking much but
Maybe you had some experiences there that you want to share.
So when I can take this back to
when I first met Dr. Mustafa wedowee, may Allah Allah preserve
him.
That very blessed soul who's done so much work and service for the
home of our prophets of Allah I sent him I met him at his home in
Madina Munawwara and he had a picture of having matured and had
had dad on his wall because that's his teacher and primary teacher.
And I was with Dr. Ouma photo, Abdullah in 1999. She had came
from Sham I was sitting in Syria at that time to perform to visit
the prothesis and perform in medicine. And as we're sitting at
Dr. Omar looks at the picture of heavy abdomen and he says that
when I was with heavy back Med, I imagined that were I to have been
with the Prophet satellites and that's how it would have been upon
you and for me, that really
that to me, really summarizes the experience of being with Have you
ever to have been will say to have Obama I mean, I didn't meet Have
you heard the stories you hear about having a bath Med and so
many of the other Habib Habib, Zayn been soulmate and a long list
of others is that there's something along with the other
great inheritors of the Prophet Muhammad sai center from sad, they
need what Hassanein and then from the other debate, there's many
great inheritors, that you get glimpses of that reality. And I
remember have your ID in the molded in Wimberley when at a time
when there wasn't too many modes where Florida had ever Hema, Hola,
and put on a mode in 2006 in Wembley, and have your ID spoke
before having. And I remember sitting very close to them. And
have you ever looked at him? And he said in a ledger, Khalid Amir,
Tara, yes, Phil, Cara? In other words, take your time, because he
felt that it might just be quickly to show up to his share.
Take your time, basically. So have you already started speaking and
he said that he was connected to have you ever recorded from the
earliest time but he didn't study the Shemitah a little bit later.
And he later mean in his late teens. And he said when he started
to read the description of the Shema,
every description that he was reading, he'd already seen it
first and humbled to others. He knew the shemail through having a
father before he read in the book. And this is the thing that true
people love the grandson of Habib Ahmed and said, Oh, my Bahama had
dead. You met when he was here visiting every time that he speaks
of a principle of the deen. Yes, Tish had Yanni. Immediately he
mentioned a story that's connected to something he's seen from his
teacher.
A lot of people don't have that CD. Like, it's like read something
in a book, but they don't have an experience that they've witnessed
firsthand. And if a picture is worth 1000 words, then what about
an in person experience was one of the oh, that's worth a million
words. It's like I'm heavy. I want to say is it the Towanda of his
primary shape before he went to bed when he was very young, the
son of heavy it went yeah, have you Muhammad mad we've been she
had, he said, just watching him. And seeing his humility was better
than reading books for 20 years. It's a benefit in more in that
moment. And to me a story that encapsulates the spirit no end on
this. Is that, have you I didn't write since at one time he went
with having a partner to a wedding. And as they're leaving
the wedding, the host as you should walks that have you ever
father, who's his honored guest out? And have you ever thought it
was older at that time. So to get into the car, he braced himself
with his hand, putting it that on the top of the car as he gets in.
It's dark, the host doesn't see it as a driver in front of you. It is
in the back. So they're not noticing either. But they the host
closes the door. He doesn't realize that he's closed the door
and have you ever caught his hand
in excruciating pain. Somehow, I just said he continues to talk to
him a little bit and have the habit of harder, didn't even show
that he was in pain. So they pulled away that he asked him to
pull over and then he turns around and he says it can you please open
the door. So have the door in his hand had been lodged in the door
jamb, unbelievable. wounded and so forth. He didn't you say anything?
His response was? Is it were he to have known that he closed the
door? We would have felt so bad he never would have forgiven
themselves somehow a lot of them. Okay. My God and the point is like
what kind of mercy is in the heart of an individual like that? Yeah,
and Yvonne is more concerned about that hurting the feelings of
someone when he has every right to cause
more concerned about hurting the feelings of a believer, then we're
concerned is to commit CO for to do something that is from the
Cabal
that let alone the things that aren't I mean, these are the true
people of Islam. And when you're around them, your heart comes to
life in people that represent the teachings of our prophets, I send
them and I am a full conviction if we can tap into that, and yet
reflect the least degree of that in our societies is that our
people are going to enter into this Deen inevitably like you
cannot be exposed to the true sun of the prophesy centum in resist
it unless you're Kapha.
So that you consciously than I otherwise,
how could you ever
is when I was meeting with the students have her be able to call
them this time around? One of them told me that he was not much of
classes and sessions as much as he was in the hikma of regular
people, which was surprising to me. I did not I did not expect to
hear that. But he said that one of the things that have evolved or
other Sokoloff was unique in was that he was always in the service
of seeking what what are the needs of people, because if people's
needs are met, then they cannot sort of rise up to have the
calmness of heart. Yes to do a bad No, he was a great scholar. He was
a great scholar. He even read Shakespeare in translation
actually wrote a picture poem about Shakespeare in Arabic, he
was a great scholar. And that in many heirloom, they say he studied
500 books with his father had given him an outdoorsman who was a
student of high value, how he
could have taught at the highest level, but that was his way. And
there's another story that they mentioned the one time he was
gifted 1 million Saudi riyals by a businessman, which is what is that
like roughly $300,000 or something like that. So that after ASA, he
gets in the car, and he tells his driver take me here, he takes him,
he passes some money to somebody, he says, take me here, deliver
this to someone. So take me here, from officer all the way until
that into the night. And then after they said that he held the
bag up, side down. And he said Allahumma fish had SubhanAllah.
There when, and he passed out every single rial, and that
there's so many meanings there. His obviously is young law is
detachment from the world, which is a given, but to your point, he
knew the people. He knew who they were, and he went and traveled and
drove around the streets of Jeddah he knew who the people in need
were. And if you weren't been in their service and connected to
them, and you think when was the last time you went actually gave
someone's the cat like hand in hand?
Like, you know, how did I know that you have that center now that
you're, you know, where you're feeding people in? Like, we just
have to we have to be close to our people Muslim or non Muslim or
like our neighbors, and we need to revive that sooner. But yeah, that
is definitely one of the things that you speak about having a
father who was very close to the people and in their service, and
you hear these other amazing stories of going to people's homes
and helping people with their problems and rectifying between
people and people who that were trying to get residency and have a
problem didn't weren't able to do so. And, you know, starting people
up Yanni in business, and you remember. So Dr. Shadi nice for
all of you who don't know so I'm gonna expose you a little bit
here, sir. We both got married in 2002. And we both ended up somehow
in Northern Virginia.
At Jeffrey's trip to the US in 2002. And we ended up staying in
the same house in the basement. It was it was one of our friends
house and city and Egyptian brother. And he was getting ready
to get married. I was getting ready to get married. And
that on one evening, we were waiting to visit Have you been
waiting to go in and meet him? So after did you go first, and I go
first? I can't remember. I think you went first. So I think I went
first. Yeah. And when I went in, you came out and you said you're
up next and then you went in. So when I went in that Have You Ever
Have you Addy, that gave me $1,000 To get married to me is that when
I got married? This is what have you. I'm gonna call it a did for
me. So this is what they did for me. And then you went in same and
it was yours 1000s
of hands on love.
These are people 100 rooms they don't ask for
that trip having fun.
that we visited, it was like 25 days, I don't even know how many
states. He paid for everything.
commendations, everybody's tickets that must have 30,000 Plus,
it gives people money after that.
And subhanAllah these are the two CD.
Now, you that actually you give me the perfect lead to the next
question, which is the last question that I want to ask, then
we're gonna have three, two or three questions from our audience
who are very excited about asking you a question. But when we talk
about service and the needs of people, one of the biggest needs
that we see all the time, and especially on our stream here is
the world today is separated people and we have a lot of mixed
cultures and ethnicities, and people are having a very hard time
getting married. So you have experience with this in your
community with the Shabaab
Have you come upon a formula that is really going to be the biggest
helper for people to tie the knot.
Um, theoretically, I think there's things that we can discuss that
would help.
But I think all of us first and foremost must realize the nature
of growing up in the modern world, is teaching you everything other
than what you need to actually be successful in any relationship
somehow.
And that's really the first point of departure is you have to
recognize that the modern world is teaching you to be selfish and
egotistical. It's teaching you to that be lazy, and to waste your
time is teaching you to focus on things that are not important.
It's teaching you to have instant gratification, and not know the
blessings of patience, and so forth. So like, and on and on and
on and on. So that's the first point of departure is we have to
recognize that. And I think that as that people are in, in
responsible for communities, and then trying to that, that lead a
discourse of benefit for Muslims, wherever they might be, we have to
recognize that we need to create training grounds for and then let
Allah I didn't get to the gender thing, that's a whole yellow
teeth. That's a huge can of worms. But in the you know, dissolving of
traditional gender roles, is it in the thick of all this mess is that
people need to be trained, and we can't make any assumptions
whatsoever. The people even know the smallest things that we take
for granted in terms of what are needed for relationships, there
needs to be training ground, or men and women to learn what it
means to truly be a man and a woman and to be a partner. And I
really am almost on the
I really think that it's almost not far time, but close, that we
need to have several training sessions before anyone gets
married,
is that they need to know. And those sessions aren't enough,
because it's about how you are but at least it's a it's a starting
point. And then there's I think a lot of things that need to be
discussed in there in terms of gender roles in terms of the idea
of responsibility, and then also to in terms of understanding
temperaments, understanding that people are different. And
sometimes you think one thing, but it's just their temperament. And
the reality is something else, and really facilitating this for
people. And I'm also a proponent of teaching younger people to be
more responsible early. I'm not a proponent of postponing marriage,
there's too many harms. And it wants that we know what's
happening physiologically to both men and women. At an age we know
what they're doing. We cannot turn a blind eye that's ridiculous, and
extremely harmful. And we have to do what we can do to that
facilitate in a healthy, balanced and responsible way. That people
getting married earlier. And it's much better to get married and to
get divorced, even if there's children in a halau fashion. And
to that open up the door for haram early on which let's not act like
this is not happening. You all know very well, what people are
doing, not in high school in middle school.
And if we turn a blind eye to it, it's totally irresponsible. And
we're gonna have to meet a lot and if we didn't try our best to do
something about it, the repercussions are going to be
severe. So having said all of that, that I think there's a lot
of things that need to be done. I like kind of start there, but
there's many more things that can be mentioned there. And societies
A teaching everybody to own their sexuality in every possible way
except through marriage. But if you had a high schooler, who too
high school was getting married, it would probably be a scandal in
the public school. But every other possible thing is up for grabs.
And we have to celebrate that. But then you have daycares at high
school, a local high school here, they have you they have a daycare,
high school, right? Because high school girls need to study, and
they're watching their kids. Wow. Like you have daycares at high
schools in many places. And you're telling us to like, not get
married? I mean, it's insane. It's a clear agenda. And now,
with that, thank you for taking these questions. And for giving us
this time, I'm going to take two or three questions
from the audience here.
Let's see what we have here. Put out your questions that you that
you have for Sophia here. You may not have had a chance to talk to
Sophia here before. So please put a question out for us.
So one last thing I did want me, one of the secrets of marriage is
that if people can develop the maturity, that going into the
marriage, they know it's not going to be easy.
They see that difficulty, or difficulties that will arise in
marriage as a means to grow spiritually. If someone can go in
with that, I think that that is the the level of mindset, yeah,
and that really is a type of growth mindset. That's, that's,
that's a game changer like that will change things for people,
that's going to change everything. And also, we have to revive in our
community, I think our community will get stronger, and we can grow
bigger, if we bring back the concept of blaming ourselves.
And enough's as a model. And we should add to enough self
awareness. And we should blame ourselves as opposed to there's a
whole nother culture out there, of making yourself celebrating that
you are have been a victim. And that where's the discourse that
maybe I was, I contributed to this problem. I could actually become a
victim and I pick the fight. Right? I could come up to someone
to a gang of a guy's of 10 Guys, call them all a name, then get
beaten up. And then take all the pictures and show everyone how I
got beat up only telling half the story. Like where did an eye
contribute possibly to getting oppressed? Right? So it's not
blaming the victim, but victims, it has less and less meaning as
time goes on. Not every victim is actually what they claim to be.
Right? Not every claim is a reflection of the reality. So a
lot of there's a lot of fake victims, and there are a lot of
Yes, true victims. But you never asked. Is it possible that a
string of people have harmed you, and you had nothing to do? It's a
coincidence. So that element of blaming ourselves is also
extremely important. Yeah, in short of the cases where there is
clear abuse, the best relationships are those that on
both sides, you strive to give them their rights and beyond and
show SN in don't seek your rights. They strive to give you your
rights as a baseline but treat you with their son and never demand
their rights when you have that. So that's a different question
here from Virginia is what is one thing that accelerates your
closeness to Allah? And we can couple that with a question from
Khadija Alma. How does somebody find a guide in the matter of
spirituality?
So
the first is, she outed only at the cruel law.
emblem, the quintessential sign of we lie of being close to Allah to
Allah is to remember him, every one remembers often the one whom
he or she loves, or that which he or she loves. And the sign that we
love Allah is that we remember him often all of us have to bring
vicar of Allah to Allah into our lives. The greatest way to
withstand the onslaught of the Dalek world in which we live, is
to build meaning and substance in your heart by remembering ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada. We're not going to be able to endure loneliness in
the grave until we learn how to remember Allah Tada in solitude
and cultivate that intimacy in their members of the in the
meanings of remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala when we're alone,
bring the curse of Allah subhanaw taala into your life and the way
that you do that is to make the five daily prayers the pivot of
your day. Recite the prophetic invocations in the morning in the
evening, what are known as the edited a while
There's prayers and vocations we have from the time that you wake
up until the time you go to bed at night. That is the first degree to
be from the decade and a lock Athena was accurate, the male and
females who remember a lot out often and then add to that slowly
and sustainably over time and inshallah to honor that will help
you immensely. As for the second thing. So what was the second one?
How do you find a guide in the matter of spirituality, foundation
of finding a guide spiritually in the spiritual path is desiring
closeness to Allah. So first of all, the whole reason we take a
guide is to draw near to Allah Tada, beyond the politics of
different totok. Beyond that, the spectacle beyond all of that, and
that sometimes some of the negative tendencies that comes
from people that have specific spiritual paths, we have to get
beyond all of that the whole reason you take a guide, is
because you want to refine your character, polish your heart and
John near to Allah subhanho wa Tada. And when that starts to
develop in your heart, and again, the way that you do that is to
that bring about in it? Yeah, I want to join you to Jana, I want
to come to know you. And the scholars didn't say, a Sadhak the
one who was sincere will find his shift at his doorstep. Subhan
Allah and up the doors. So take means outwardly that visit, Olia,
visit righteous people, ask people didn't ask around and then look
into it. But it's a trust when you connect to a particular t pick
particular teacher or a particular way. Make sure that is what fits
you and you will know just as you know, in relation to the woman
that you want to marry like, or a woman, the man that she wants to
marry? How do you know that that was the right one? You tend to
know? How do you know that that house was the right house? You
tend to know? How do you know that that jacket was when you wanted to
buy something you'd like, you'll know that your heart level when
you find the right person. As long as the outward things check, then
benefit from them. And that put into practice their particular way
of rearing you in sha Allah Tada, the doors were open Benina just
like a O'Hara. And one last question is, we start off but we
taper off and we forget what is the way that a person especially
if in the online community that may not have a masjid may not have
a physical person, we start off doing something whether it's of
God or classes or otherwise, and we taper off. And we find
ourselves all of a sudden we're not doing it anymore. So what is
your advice to someone to stay on the consistent? So if we frame
this, this is what entropy is the natural state of things to move
into a state of disarray. If you don't clean your house, it's going
to get dirty. And the only way to fight spiritual entropy, which is
the natural state that we've been given because of we're made of
clay and we're made of spirit that clay is always going to go down to
the earth. If you are not constantly fighting against that,
that activating the power of the roar. I know that sounds like
pseudo spirituality, but it's real by way of spiritual struggle,
Mujahidin well living Jaha do fina, those who strive for our
sake, Lana de novo Noosaville, we will surely guide them to our
ways, the secret there is spiritual struggle. How do we
practically that embark upon a path of spiritual struggle,
spiritual struggle, have a religious program a structure to
your life, plan out what you want your ideal day to look like, like
in a balanced way, something that you can do in on a normal day,
don't do too much. Otherwise, you're going to burn out, do
something structured your day. And again, around the five day prayers
and some of the things that I mentioned, structure your day, and
then force yourself to stick to what it is that you set out to do.
And the struggle that you put in is what you always have to come
back. But then we have these ideal times like Ramadan. Ramadan is the
ideal time yearly think it like think of it like this, I'm going
to reset and get back to doing what I was doing and actually more
Juma is the ideal way to do that on a weekly basis, that the
nighttime and preferably before Fajr if not before you go to bed
is a way to reset on a daily basis. And then from time to time
you're just going to lose your spiritual aspiration. This is
where perform O'Meara if you have the finances to do so.
Get out of your environment, go to a program, go visit someone
righteous, and how can you if you kind of do this, then you'll get
back and the most important thing is to every time we fall down and
even if we make a major mistake, dust yourself off and keep going.
But recognize too is that when we grow we don't necessarily grow
exponentially like this. We tend to grow like this and then we
plateau if
You put the work in continuously when you plateau, you're not going
to have another that type session. So sometimes you think that you're
not growing, but you really are into that next stage, you have to
get through that, that monotony that you're feeling oftentimes
from that doing the same thing over and over again, which is not
really what you're asking. But that's another dimension, that's
important to know.
I always feel that just like the Earth needs to settle. When you
plant something or you build a foundation, they put the concrete
out, they usually have to leave certain stilts in the concrete,
they have to leave that for about two weeks for it to really be
strong, then they could build up on top of that. Likewise, when we
have these journeys, you sometimes go up like this, but you have to
end up going in this plateau. That's where everything's
settling. And that level is becoming your new reality. If you
always went up, you'd probably you could go insane. If you constantly
went just up and up and up, and up and up, you'd never adjust. And
you could never settle down. So it seems that that plateau part is so
important. And that's what they call sometimes they say that
history crawls, and then it leaps. And then it crawls. And in a new
reality, that's the new reality, then it leaps again, and a major
change, but then there has to settle down and it has to become
the new reality that we're all accustomed to. So great answers
and great benefit for everybody here. People have been looking
forward to this, and I've told people that we would eventually
bring you on. So thank you so much for coming on. And inshallah is
not the last time we will have you on in the lights out again in the
future. If you would honor us with that.
And maybe the next time around, we'll be when we finished all of
our renovations here, and we have the whole mocassin crew come and
visit. Then Then we could do something small again, a Chola.
You have a new location that you all purchase. That's where you
are. Yeah, we're in the third floor. Nice. Yeah, we're in the
third floor. We have people live in the second floor. The soup
kitchen is in the first floor.
And the classes take place between the second first and third.
And that's in the heart of New Brunswick, right downtown. Right
in the heart. Yeah, right in the middle of the city. So hamdulillah
so we have hamdulillah both so none of the Sunon have the
beautiful rural environment, which is very peaceful. And then this
one here where it's pretty hectic and helter skelter so and
hamdulillah the community can enjoy both. And I'm glad we have
both you can't just have um, the two hands are always better than
one so we have you around. That was one of the things that made me
become Muslim me before Subhanallah I was thinking about
that. I was a little bit into Rasta foreigners and we wanted to
go and have our hasn't grow dreadlocks and live on a farm in
Jamaica. Oh my gosh.
One of the things may become Muslim is that when I read that
Islam was the dean of FITARA. And it just clicked for me. Like with
this game, you could live in the middle of New York sitting on the
21st floor of some building, which is as far as possible as you could
be from like a normal lifestyle that have a natural and beautiful
as a life as could possibly be. And we are a little bit out there.
But this thing has to be everywhere. And we have everything
you need in it to have little oases and beautiful microclimate
submitted.
We're very blessed in the area to have Shakira hidden nearby only
about an hour five minutes away. So again, go to ADMA kasa.org.
Find out when is the next trip. Take the weekend down, come from
England from wherever you are, take the weekend out and maybe
take more than that. And then you could visit both you can come and
visit us in New Jersey you could go to the mocassin retreat that
you can benefit from insha Allah to Allah and
again, thank you so much for coming and taking your time out. I
make dua for mocassins to continue growing and for us to continue
working together and being in our each other so about May Allah
Allah put us in the Sahaba until the day that we meet our Lord
Subhan Allah Who Moby Dick shadow Allah Allah Allah antenna software
going into where they quote us in Santa Fe or host Illa leadin no
slide whatsoever whatsoever so a sub was salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah.
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