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Even even like sports people are like this too though, like they
get it gets to a point where like these baseball commentators are
talking about, like GLB, the percentage
that no one would ever have ever thought of and common sense.
There's only one innovative percentage that makes any sense to
me, which is on base percentage.
That's a great that's isn't that the only stuff that's really worth
anything because that's hits, plus walks plus hit by a pitch, right?
I mean, that's, that's the STAT and then everything else. Like if
you just get hitting, that doesn't take into account that the guy is
really good at getting walks, right, or jamming the pitcher so
that he gets hit by a pitch, right? It doesn't take any of that
stuff into account.
But everything else after that. They got ridiculous debts. They're
they're Total Image news. And they're trying to just sort of, I
guess justify their job. They give statistics like He's the first
person to hit a single in three road games in a row while it's
raining.
Ridiculous stats just like to keep their job or something.
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lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah and welcome to the
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Okay, today before we get to that, because hasn't not here yet.
Before we get to that, we are going to cover jolla Tada. Okay
all right. We're going to cover today another major figure in
Islamic history
Bottrop Ivins yet because I realized that we talked yesterday
or last week, last two weeks about use of even Tasha Fein. The
Easterners call them Tashfeen the Westerners call him testifying,
whatever you want to call it. I like Tashfeen right, Tasha Fein
sounds a bit weird to me. But use if you've been Tashfeen saved is
the first person who really saved by the permission of Allah Islam
and Al Andalus
but we never talked about who brought Islam to the end that was
in the first place
hmm
so for Sargon or any mashallah, excellent.
So, this person is thought up Ibn Zia and there are four characters
in this movie. Well, five, there are five characters in this movie.
Okay.
The first character is Musa Musa ibn newsflash Musa even no Sire,
is a tabby from not mistaken or a Tebbetts Evie.
I'm pretty sure it's it's heavy.
He's the governor of FDPIR
In the name of the Omega ads, he is ruling for the Omega IDs. Okay?
He's the governor of FDPIR. If the PA is not Africa as we would
understand it as like Sub Saharan Africa, but rather the Arab term
for FDP referred to Tunisia, and all the lands around it, so
Tunisia, and if you look in the Roman history, it's Carthage,
right. Carthage is the center of F of North Africa at that time. It's
not Egypt is not current, of course, Egypt is massive, right?
But Alexandria is the main city of Egypt. When people say Egypt they
mean Alexandria. There's no mention of Cairo. There's no Cairo
yet at this point.
Tunis of Cairo one is the main
Spiess in North Africa.
So Musa even Messiah is the first name that you need to know he's
the one who took the Romanian armies into North Africa and they
swept across. Now there was a stronghold in SUTA. What is the
you to say you to is at the tip there of
of Spain. So they stopped there. Because there was a strong Roman
outpost there. And they didn't they didn't bother to pass this
the Mediterranean Sea and go up into space. They just stopped
there. Okay.
What years are we talking about? The seven hundreds talking about
the seven hundreds here. Now what else happens? Everything is fine.
The Roman Visigothic people who are a mixture, they're pague. The
rulers are pagan, and the minority is Christian. At that point in
Spain, they're they're doing their thing. And the Muslims are doing
their thing. In,
in Morocco, from Morocco, down over
until character number two, gets involved. Who is that character?
Roderick is the new king of Spain. The previous king dies. And
Roderick takes over. And some people say that this was a
takeover that they did
an intentional takeover. And then the king died in the process. So
it was not like a nice crisp, clean transition. It was a nasty
transition. But Roderick is now the king of Spain. All right.
Still no big deal. Nothing's changing in the status quo. Until
you see when Allah subhanaw taala has a will for something. He
builds it up. It gets so built up that the stage is set perfectly.
So the Roderick when he takes over from the previous king, it's not a
crisp takeover. There's a lot of resentment.
And this is the year 711.
The year there all this takes places the year 711. These three
things take place. The first thing is Roderick takes over as King of
Spain, in a takeover that is not cleaned. There's a lot of
resentment towards him. Did you do it?
What's the second incident down and say you did this Roman outpost
that is blocking the Muslims from coming in? Who rules that a man by
the name of King Julian? They're all kings. They have a little
kingdom basically, right? King Julian he has a daughter named Flo
Rinda. And being all Visigothic people. He sends Flo Rinda, up
north to study in the court of King Roderick. Now Florida.
This is a movie you got to make a movie out of this. Florida
apparently is some young, beautiful lady,
a young woman
and she starts studying with Rodricks tutors, and she's in the
court and she's eating with them and people take notice. And she
apparently takes everyone's notice. Because apparently she's a
very beautiful woman, young lady
Roderick himself starts to invite him her over and start eating with
her
and eating with his tail at his table.
And then one evening,
everyone starts going away. And he says oh, I want to ask you
something you and your tutor so he brings her in her tutor
and they sit there talking. So now who's there only Roderick the
tutor and Florida.
And then what is Roderick do? He says to the tutor Okay, thank you.
I need to ask her some private questions about her father's
kingdom. So now who's alone in the room? Roderick and Florida. Then
what does he do? He rapes her
floor Florinda, flees back down the next morning she's gone. And
she flees right back to her father to Julian
and Julian is
As enraged, he loses his mind. And what does he do? Now? These are
pagans. They have no In other words, these are they're not.
They don't have there's no rivalry yet. In terms of beliefs between
the Visigothic people and the Muslims, they're just pagans.
So what does he do? What does Julian do? Julian goes down sends
an emissary down south to talk they've been Ziad character number
four, and the main character the hero thought it even Ziad is a
Berber
and he's he's working under Musa ibn who said he's basically the
assistant
he's Musa ibn no sales assistant
and he gets his messages from Tata companies yet. What's happened to
you got to see for you here, and then Hannah's got to sit here we
got Jenna so Hannah is not alone.
If you could turn on the mics, ooh, look a baby. So Allah
it's not working. Okay. We can insha Allah take a seat here. We
got to see for you here. We got John here to keep you company. So
I'm off to LA and Hasson come over here.
All right. For the moment, the folks are here for people. You
know, they're all pumped about this. Look at the comments waiting
for you guys. Hamza Hussein says I'm ready to marry me off right
now.
All right, so he's so angry at Roderick, that he wants to use
title Cuban Xia to overthrow Roderick. And he basically tells
him, I'm going to let you through.
I'm going to let you in to Spain.
You just topple Roderick. I don't care. Whatever happens. You want
to bring your religion. I don't care. You see how when Allah wants
something to happen, it's gonna happen. Right? And so Dr. kibin
Xia is basically invited into the land. And when he passes that
straight, Ryan's gonna put the picture up. When he passes that
little straight right there. Okay, you see that little strip?
Actually, right. Can we expand it? Because the straight is what
matters? Yeah, there you go. Perfect. So you see that straight
right there. That straight when they bring their chips, it leads
to a mountain. And that mountain is what ends up being called the
mountain of todich Jebel thorup, because that's where his people
landed. And from there, the Strait is called the Strait of Jebel
thorup. And that's where we get the phrase, the Strait of
Gibraltar, it became mixed up into it into the phrase Gibraltar.
So you see here that when Allah wants something to happen, it's
gonna happen. So the first king dies,
all in the same year, the first king dies. The second king comes
in Roderick.
And now why is that? Why is that important?
Because the transition isn't perfect. And when the transition
is imperfect, the soldiers are not very loyal to Roderick, they're
still loyal to the old king.
And then Roderick rapes Florida, who is the daughter of the king of
the tip of the peninsula, the Iberian Peninsula.
Florida is the daughter of Julian Julian, then is so enraged with
Roderick that he's going to turn to these Arabs, well, they're
Berbers. And to them, it's all the same.
He's an Algerian Berber from Clemson.
And he says, come in and conquer this guy. And I want no matter
what you do, I want him dead. So Tada, Cuban Ziad. He gets
permission from Musa ibn nosair. His master is Chief basically as
general musei administrator says take 7000 and go because that's
all he could take. That's the max they had. He goes in there.
He goes up. And and, and he realizes that Rodricks got a far
bigger army.
Like, so much more. Way more people. Rodriquez. Okay.
And,
oops, let's have it done.
He's got way more people.
So what he does is he, it's some people say it's a legend. Some
people say it's true. Some people say it's false. But you know what
I say? It's true. Why do I say it's true? Because it's a great
story. We literally don't have a story without this. And the story
goes, that data driven Ziad looks at and does a scouting report.
And he realizes how massive the country is that they're about, you
know, they don't have maps in the old days. You don't know where
you're going. He let's country's massive, like the ocean border is
massive. And then he has scouts go
Look at their army come back. This army is it's not double, if not
triple, if not quadruple, it's like five times it's more than
five to 10 times the size of our army. So title Kevin's yet he just
makes a judgment call. And he realizes you're not winning this
by strategy. You're not winning this by numbers. You're not
winning this by anything. You're only winning this
by a power of faith.
And these people were not these people were geniuses sometimes we
think that persuasion and marketing was just like, from us,
right? Like the the new generation knows it. No, he realized that the
only way to capture these people is by a stirring speech and a
coup, a domineering visual.
So what he does, is in the quiet morning, he has all the people
lying all the ships next on the empty amount, all the resources
they have on the ships. Then he stands up, when the sun rises up,
get and some people said he did it when the sun was rising first
thing in the morning so that there's no chance of anything
else. And some people say this is the beautiful thing that he did it
around.
Okay, the night before. And he went in and
he gave this speech after so lots of revenue.
And as the sun is setting, okay, and the sky is turning purple.
That's when he lit up the boats. And he set fire to all shifts. So
they saw this red fire on a dark blue, purple sunset, like a
captivating image. Like how does no one hours nobody made a movie
about this yet.
It's a it's a captivating image that he had.
And he put the and if people saw this and they heard his feet and
they were just inflamed. They were on fire. And that topic went up
there and his people had such a momentum and belief in their
hearts. And tada Kebun, Ziad said, I did not call you to something
that I myself will not do. So he announced, I'll be fighting in the
front of the Army, like usually the king stands in the back, but
he wasn't a king. He was. He was a Mola Mola, like just a lower level
soldier. Asst. I mean, right. And then he came up in the ranks, so
he knows what it is, what's what it's like to be at the ground
level. When you see your leaders out there and out there in front.
It's an amazing
motivator. When you see your kings all the way in the back. You're
like waiting, I'm fighting so that he's going to take the spoils of
war, he's going to take everything I'm fighting for him. You can only
do that when you're as powerful as the Roman army. Right? When you're
so massive that it's not even right for the King to be killed.
say nobody said this. He said, Omar, you no longer go out to
fight you stay home, right because if you go down the whole empire
goes down with it. So say nobody said that. So there is
justification for that. But he wasn't that he was just a soldier
like them. That was given this assignment. So he goes out there
and they have this famous battle they face Roderick, okay. And the
famous battle, Guadalupe de Now anytime in the Spanish language
that you see gwad like Guadalupe Guadalquivir, all these quads, it
derives from the Arabic weddy. The word Wedi is a valley. So anytime
there's a dip or a valley, in the, in the,
in the geography, the Spanish will call it GWA de whatever
Guadalquivir or Guadalupe, right? Or anytime that there's so
Guadeloupe It is Wednesday, and Oba the valley of the dome, where
the cube in Arabic, so the some of the Arabic remained. So Guada, let
de what it's called now Guate, let j and is now called Cydonia. The
area in Spain is called Cydonia. That's where they met. And the
method which taka Vinci had used is to divide his troop up into
four.
Right? Divide the troop up into four, then give them in each one
of them. Each general he was a general have one. And he put three
other generals in charge of four different companies for different
groups. And he told each of them, derive your own strategy.
Right? derive your own strategy, and that you go on the east side,
but derive your own strategy. I'm going to take the South, I got my
own strategy left a West Side and north side so that he divided them
up. But there's no unified strategy. So that means that the
the Visigothic army has to come up with four different strategies,
right, they got to come up with they got to fight for different
heads. And that means like, so how's that guy going to do that?
By the time you do that the fights have over by time you think so
when you have a small army you have to outsmart your people.
Right? And so
Sometimes as there's a saying that says,
he may be the more powerful one, but you'll be the better actor. So
sometimes you have to act like you've. And he did this a lot of
times caught up in what did he put on shows? Like, literally it's
acting. When you fight, you have to act sometimes, like, how did he
do this? He would tell the people
said said, normal, send more uniforms, like shields helmets. I
don't want men, I just want shields and helmets, right. And
then he would have people sit there polishing them. And then he
would tell half the army in the middle of the battle, I want you
to go off and just change your uniform. So you come up with a
shiny helmet. Now you run back into battle, it looks like a new
group has come in. And they're like, Oh men, new fresh legs, like
fresh reinforcements. So it demoralizes the other group, it
also changes the psyche. When you're this * uniform, you
feel like this is a long battle bla bla bla. But when you change
and you look crisp, and you got it reinvigorates another thing that
could have been what he did. The night before the battle, he had
every single soldier go across, and light a little fire. So that
from far away, it looks like the army is so massive, that there's
all these fires, the encampment is so huge, and it's and then you
would have to make noise, like make a lot of noise to sound like
you are a huge group.
It's Hollywood. He even enlisted. This is how smart he was. He was
resourceful when you're not powerful, you have to be
resourceful. He enlisted the women and kids. And he said as we march
spread around and kick up dust, like Cover your faces, and kick up
dust. So that we may be this many people. But the dust book that
we're kicking up is this much. So people would think that that were
this much. So all this acting you had to do. And this is what he
what he did was break everything up, forced them to come up with
four different three different strategies and buy them and the
generals not coming up with one strategy. It allowed each general
to really feel that he had ownership over this. Because if if
I'm telling you, for example, that we're going in there, and we're
going to give up our lives, but I give you no say in it. Right? You
have no say How is that fair? So he gave those generals.
You you come up with your own strategy. Right? So Subhan Allah,
it's amazing. So they went in, they routed them and they killed
Roderick.
They killed Roderick. And after Roderick was killed, it was
basically game over for the Visigoths. Now it's just a matter
of conquering the different cities that they had. And then Musa ibn
Nuff said came back and he came back with 12,000 soldiers. And it
was just a matter of like mopping up at that point, like because
they had no central. They had defeated the Central Army of the
Visigoths. The Visigoths had no king they were trying to regroup
but by time Musa been no said can remember things happen slowly in
the olden days.
By the time we had been no said came, there was no real way for
them to regroup and stop this wave of the Muslims coming up. And then
interestingly, there are human elements to this people aren't
static people aren't like humans are humans. So the first thing is
that Musa ibn Noah said got worried. When you send it's just
like Subhanallah Salahuddin a Notre Dame. Notre Dame is the
king. He sends a lot of Dean sliding this part of the army to
go clean up some business in Egypt.
It ends up it ends up being the ruler of Egypt, right? Well, tied
up in Ziad is basically like the servant. He's like the assistant
to Musa ibn No, sir. And he ends up conquering this gorgeous
country. Because the climate there was, was much better was nicer
climate then it was less desert desert.
So he's like, wrote him a strict letter, reminding him of who he
is. Right? And this is not uncommon. God had been worried
himself.
These are Sahaba No, had immense conquer conquests. Say Nomad wrote
him a strict letter removed him from his post, because when the
general when the assistant makes massive strides, there's always a
threat of shaytaan getting in his head and saying, basically now
wait a second, break away. Do your own thing. So say no, oh my God.
He he disciplined we can say he put discipline on that end he
closed the door shaytaan by removing clutter will will lead
from the army after you conquered this massive conquest, right pull
him back. The central authority has to be strong. Likewise Musa
ibn No Say It Right startup companies he had a very strict
letter. Remember your place
but this remember your place and discipline and closer
Door shades on it goes back up. The Omega Khalifa himself, though
made Khalifa himself recalls both of them. Both of them. You're
done. Come back to Damascus. So Tara Lindsey had an MO seven No,
sir, get called back in Damascus, they get told you're on a salary
now just live, get fat and do nothing in Damascus, right?
Because basically they didn't want breakaways. We'll send our guy in
here in the in the CIA and the FBI. They say thank you so much
for everything, we'll take it from here. Right? That's what they say.
And that means basically, you're out of this picture, because we
don't want you getting too much power. There is an aspect of that
that's true for your soul.
You can get drunk on power
and get drunk on power. So that's the, that's the the important
piece of history of how dhadak had been Zia and how the Muslims got
into a Spania. And then they ruled their domains ruled there
for about 400 years,
then things collapsed, and then
the Morabito and came in and they cleaned it all up and unified it.
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that is segment numero dos. We are finally getting to the segment
you've all been waiting for.
All right, so hold pull up the mic right turn on the mics please make
now the mic has to be literally less than two fingers away from
you in order to hear okay. And
has since got his mic on so we got three mics on and right all the
mics are on I guess Ryan right. All the mics are on
and we got
let's go to the live let's because I'm gonna I want to see people's
comments. This whole thing was initiated
by echo snake juice.
That's his name. Right?
Is a brother his name is Mo snake juice. Okay, why can I see the
comments on this bed way? I need to see the comments. We're all
about comment section here. It right I'm going to need you to
read me the Instagram comments or anyone got Instagram up
Is your Instagram? Anyone?
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Where are the comments? Oh, I can see the comments here. They're
there. Yeah, but on my iPad just didn't get it so I can see the
comments, please. My resident hacker on my left, and our two
guests, and we have a baby.
All right, by the way, you got applications, right? So yes. Yeah,
new applications. There's a lot of people told me that they applied
7700 is ArcView accessible from the UK then? Yes, definitely.
It's, there's applications right. A couple applications already came
in. Yeah. And they will be matching them up. And the purpose
here is for Hannah and Hudson to talk. You guys ask the questions
that you want to ask about this. Now. We're gonna go on one mic
unless right you want to turn so Hassan could be shown here
is voice is good. Okay, well, just to show them he has a big beard
there's no funny business here. Right
All right, who wants to go first? Why don't you go first? Whose idea
was this by the way? And they both pointed at each other look at this
such MOBA to go on here on her Mashallah. All right. How do you
go first?
I think it was already an idea that was at NBC. Okay. They
already had a program that was its purpose was to help connect people
for the purpose of marriage. Good. But I guess you need resources to
dedicate
doing more events. I remember you guys used to have like, like
Ramadan. If bars for like singles. Yeah. But I just thought it would
be a better idea to have more throughout the year so that in
case people couldn't make it, there's more opportunity for
people to meet
this they gotta can't hear. Oh, what happened is the mic.
Oh, it's not
know this
can can you hear me?
Okay, so why don't just you can sit next to if you want. Yeah,
sorry to make you move.
Here. You want me to take her?
I'll take her. Okay, you're gonna be on? She's on camera. Look at
what though Melinda has gotten us already. You are such a little
glob German. Your little cat guy? No, I don't know make her cry. No,
no.
Everything's good.
Like New scary men? Yes. Unfortunately. We're gonna.
That's good. She's like, Get away from me.
All right, traveling light says what's going on? I missed this.
All right. You missed it. We're explaining to you the new
matrimonial service which we are partnering with, called malenda.
From the local arm, Masjid, our headquarters, and Hannah will now
explain to explain it job site. COMM so I mean, NBC already had an
initiative from before. But it was only like once a year. So there
used to be a single star during Ramadan.
But while
I guess, for my own personal reasons, I just wanted, you know,
a lot of my friends to get married, we always heard how
difficult it was, especially for those that are outside of school
or after college to meet, especially in like the organic
Hello manners. So we just thought, you know, the apps are great.
There's a lot of successful marriages that happen through
those as well. But we thought why not have something that's a bit
more grassroots where people can meet face to face, and NBC was a
great community where we thought it would do well. So that's why we
decided to have more events in person throughout the year. Okay,
so now,
the YouTube, this is the second operation in which you're
connecting people, right? Because if we all remember, you guys won
the Hult prize, a million dollars for a business idea that they had
a business contest that they entered into, which is run by Bill
Clinton. Right. Bill Clinton runs this operation, and maybe he
doesn't run it, but he's part of it. He presents the award. And
it's for new business ideas. And this business idea was basically
to get people to work in Pakistan. Were through rickshaws, right? Is
that what's called initially?
Initially it was that and then it kind of shifted to a
More like carpooling. Okay, but the theme was to expand where
workers can travel to for work. Yeah. So that they can get more
opportunities for work and consistently get to work. That's
connecting people, you see a theme in your lives here. So that was
the first thing and you guys won a big award for that? Well, now
you're, you're also connecting people, isn't it? Right. And by
having this massive online pool now of people
being able to apply online, you have a bigger pool of people who
can connect. Alright, so what Hana says that they have these
programs, I'll elaborate for us on the nature of for the on liners,
the nature of how the process works, because and eliminate for
us what it what it's not, and why you eliminated certain ideas, and
why you chose certain ideas. To give an example like, you don't
scroll through pictures like Tinder on this now. Okay, so
explain to us why you eliminated some ideas, and why you kept some
ideas, I guess, because just like Hassan and I running it, so we
don't have like a whole, you know, team? Or do you want to make it as
simple as possible? Yeah, I guess it's simple, something that we can
manage on our own. But I guess the way more that runs is twofold. So
we have anyone that wants to register for more that you have to
submit your own profile. So there's a Google Forms. And you
let us know a little about yourself your spirituality, about,
you know, your maybe a little bit about your career and what you do
and your interests, hobbies. And then you also have a separate part
of the form that asks what you're interested in, or like your
potential spouse, that you would be interested in what that person
would look like, who they would be what you would ideally like their
interest, hobbies, spirituality to look like as well. So once you
submit that form, we do try our best to connect people on the back
end via email. So if we're looking through the database, and
primarily it's myself, I feel like husband doesn't really look at it.
But you know, I guess also for privacy reasons, I feel like it's
better for women, especially since a lot of sisters are submitting
profiles, as well as men, but I, myself looked through it, and we
tried to connect people that we think would have, you know,
whatever, whether it's based off of their interests, or their
spirituality, or their career goals, etc, we do try to connect
them via email. So we'll just be like, Hey, if you're interested,
we have a potential match for you. If they agree, then we connect
them via email, and then they take it from there. Like we don't care
about part two, I guess. Yeah, part two, you can't do you can't
manage all these peoples. Yes, it's a little bit. And then the
second part of what that is the in person events that we have. So
that we try to do, whether it's every month, every other month, as
much, whatever I guess we can manage. And those usually there's
some type of activities so that people can kind of, you know, in a
less awkward way get to know one another. We do also have like the
straight ups like speed networking, you could say, because
some people do like that. So we try to mix up the events, we try
to have different activities and different styles of events,
because we know people like different things. And then that
way people can meet one another, we encourage them to kind of
exchange information in person. If they don't feel comfortable, then
we will connect them via email after the event. But I feel like
the events are a lot more easier for us because it's hard for us to
know exactly what you're looking for. Because it's not just your
career goals. It's not just your spirituality, it's not just what
the person looks like. There's a lot of other things that people
are looking for. So it's honestly best if you just come out to the
events that we host, which we are having one on October 15
mrcgp, which is in Princeton Alhamdulillah. both the male and
female registration spots are open. I mean, sorry, full, so we
have each, so 30 of each 30 of each. But we I think we're going
to open it up and trolla Two more. So around 9pm We were thinking
about opening up the link so that we can have maybe 10 or 15 more
brothers and sisters from both sides to register because there
was a lot of demand. And then we did receive a lot of interest in
having age ranges that are a little more age ranges, I guess or
difference in age ranges. So in Sharla we're thinking about
opening up and having more events that have different age ranges and
challah like November and December. Okay good. We already
have someone who do we contact How do we do this? Go to MBI C dot
orgy. Backslash SMA what the Ryan's going to put it right now.
In the
they put it in right now on the in the chat. Now. Let me ask you what
makes give me an example of a bad application.
Like an application that you can't work with, what does it say? Yes.
So the way that the Google Forms is and of course we need, we
would, we're open to suggestions. We're open to everyone's feedback.
This is literally just, you know, us doing it, and managing it as
best as we think we can, with our time.
But we left the Google Forms pretty open ended, because we
didn't want to be able to have, you know, 5060 questions or an
effort to take forever for people to fill out. And then also we left
to open and that people can just add as much as they want to.
I guess for us, the best form would or the best registration
would look like someone who actually put time into filling out
the form. You know, usually, we see registrations that are like,
Hi, I'm this male. I'm x years old, and I like basketball. Yeah,
there's no no, yeah, there's like 1000 Other people have the same
thing. Exactly. So I think if people take some time to fill out
the form and add as much as they can, that would help us in best
connecting them to people that we think would be a good match. Okay,
very good. So it's to be as detailed as possible in your in
your form. And someone here, m says, pro tip for the singletons
be open and honest in your profile. This is not a time to be
shy or hold back. Alright, so people should not fluff up your
application? Because if you do, you're really misleading people.
Right? You're misleading. Just say, put your politics down, put
your religious preference up, put your family's politics down,
because that has an impact to like, what if you're, you know,
people don't want to or don't want to be associated with that type of
thing. So you got to put as much information as possible. Let's
take a look at what some people are saying. Glob jam and you just
got a gift from the homasote. She gives you a gift look little in
the green there gift for glob Jarman.
Alright, let's see.
Snake juice says you can just have identifiers that automatically
match persons of interest, or you have a bigger pool and then those
who have similarities that condenses to a smaller pool, then
you can give them access to choose the other continue matching for
them. The latter sounds more difficult. Because if you get a
lot of applications, then you're going to need some it. Right?
Yeah, to sort of actually where you have that stuff trying. We're
in the process and chala of working with a brother in the
community who wanted to offer his skills to help us kind of make a
proper database, I guess. Yeah, it will help us filter it
automatically. So yeah, we're trying to like I guess, shift it
from Google Forms to something that will help automate it and
make it easier. At least it automates like the interests, and
then whatever has like a 70% automate, that that's what you
look at. So you'd have to look at every single one. Please, pigeon
says, Okay should not just help out or
oh, sorry, this was I thought played pigeon was an app. Because
it sounds like one of those apps, right? I thought he was talking
about an app. All right, but
so there was Islamic Society of Connecticut, Islamic Center of
Connecticut.
Looks like a simple application. But you're just sharing that if
you want to look at another application. It's there. All
right, let's now turn to Hessen asking you another question. Tell
us about your success.
This success story of my wife, do you have any success stories?
Apparently, we don't really do.
A human home the letter Bananaman salatu, salam, ala shuffelin,
India, even Mussolini. So you didn't ever have you been able to
fit in our union and Mohammed, voila, this is my
success story from Rwanda, though. Yeah, the one that we heard from
most recently, Sammy told us that there were two people who attended
one of the events we hosted in Ramadan, and there inshallah
getting married in January. That's great. And they heard of each
other exclusively through this program. Yeah. And by the way, I
talked to shikigami about this program. Like I talked to him
about your concerns like on the on site. Now, the aligners don't need
to worry about the on site, because they're not on there from
not here. So I don't want to go too much into that. But I talked
to him. He said people really like this situation.
In the in the community now is like dire on the subject. So he
said he praised the work. And he said, you know, if people are
saying something about like,
the nature of the environment, having men and women there, but he
said as long as there's an Islamic ethos around it, a Muslim
environment, everyone's on that behavior. He said that that's
really what matters. And she could Bootsy said that too, about other
things like she could Bootsy released efectiva and
Go on making movies,
let alone some that's like making him he said that Making movies is
now part of life. And if a Muslims listen to make a movie, then
they're acting even. Then as long as the invert the directors are
Muslim and everyone is observing an Islamic etiquette. Chicken
Bootsy said that about making a film, right? This is far more
important than making a movie. Right? This is completing half of
people's Deen. So
another comment here is saying, like one sister said that she
would want a third person on email. So Can she request that in
her application that if you ever match me up, then I want you I
don't want a guy emailing me myself. I want like, let's say my
dad on the email. So you could put that in the comment or something?
Right? Yeah, right, right. Now, the third, the third person on the
email is the moment the team. So we're, we're on every email
exchange that you have. Okay. But once you decide to take it
forward, let's say we email an application of two people to each
other. We email the application of the sister to the brother and the
brother to the sister, they both say yes. Now we've connected them
via email. Now, if they want to take it forward, they choose how
to take it. Okay, good, right. The sister may say I want my dad to be
involved, the brother may say, I want my mom to be involved, so on
and so forth. Good. Now, here's the question I'm sure a lot of
people are asking, but they're not want to ask it to be embarrassed,
but I'm gonna ask for them.
What, at what point? And do you at all include a picture in the
profile? What do you do? Okay, so if the, when you send a initial
profile, you're sending a photo and the bio data. When you fill
out the form the mobile application? Yeah, you are
uploading pictures of yourself. So you're choosing what's going to be
shared with others. It's only shared contingent upon someone
agreeing that they want to pursue a conversation with you. Okay, so
not everyone can see your pictures. And before we send out
emails, even if you've uploaded pictures, a lot of times we will
ask you if you want to edit or update those pictures, if you
don't feel comfortable sharing a certain thing. This time may have
passed may have passed or you may have changed, right you. Let's say
for example, a sister is not does not didn't wear hijab before, and
now she does. Obviously she's going to change her pictures.
Yeah, same thing with niqab. So you're going to do what you got to
do. I actually have never dealt with the niqab issue yet? So yeah.
If she's not convinced, if that's the only picture she has, then
there's no point and you could send the picture at all. But
here's another question. Somebody says, why would you not just share
the Google Sheet of all the sisters with all the men? And vice
versa? Right? I personally have an answer to this, but I want to hear
your answer. My answer is, okay, I'm gonna go at it a different, a
little bit different angle, when you go to certain restaurants. And
their menu is seven pages long. How confusing? Does that make it
for you? And what does that say about the quality of the
restaurant? Usually, most of the time, if you have thrown
everything at the wall, if you have too many options, your brain
gets confused. Yeah. So even when we match, for example, when we
match people, it's one at a time because if you go up there and
look at everyone who's on the database, you're going to start
comparing people to each other. And that's not right, either.
Yeah, you need to take one application one suitor at a time,
take them for face value. I actually remember something that
you were telling me, you know, before I had gotten married,
you're explaining to me and some of the other brothers,
specifically in regards to looks, for example, right? Even if, you
know, like, if if their pictures were displayed, or something of
that nature, if someone is, you know, you have like some sort of
internal rating system in your head and you say, you know, you
know, this person is a seven and that person is an eight and
whatever, it becomes very problematic for you. Right?
Because beauty should not be something that you are being
comparative with others about beauty is something when you're
specifically looking for marriage, there's just one question that you
need to ask yourself. Yeah, a male and a female both need to ask
themselves are is that person beautiful enough? That I would
like to procreate with them? To be you know, frank about it? It's a
yes or no, it's it's a binary answer. Simplified. It's not no,
that person's a seven, but that they have x going for them and
they have y going for them. Yeah, it's not like that. You should be
you know, it's it's for look specifically it's a yes or no
answer. Then you look at everything else on a on a scale
right there. Their deen is on a scale, obviously. And the last
thing you should be doing is comparing people's profiles. When
they have their dean sort of listed out there shouldn't be
comparing it to others. You should be comparing it to yourself,
really
Do you have to deal with them on a on a daily basis? Yeah. And if you
know, you say, well, this sister, mashallah she wakes up for 200.
And that sisters application, she prays five times a day, but she
doesn't really do 200. You know, if you're praying three times a
day, it doesn't really matter. You got to look at yourself, right and
what you have to offer and what they have to offer individually, I
also feel that this method, there's more care into it, right?
Whereas if you're just letting people scroll by themselves,
it also it's almost like, especially if the pictures there,
II totally just becomes a place that anyone's just gonna go into
look at people's faces, right.
And also, it may encourage people to be way more shy. If your
profile is public, they're going to be way more shy about saying
the truth. I also think it just becomes like overwhelming, like,
I've heard from friends and family who have used like, online,
like, applications like MS match and stuff.
Which I have no problem. Like, I think they're great. I know so
many people that have gotten married off of it, but it just
becomes overwhelming at a point. You're just like scrolling. Left
and right. It's pointless. Yeah. So I think in terms of that, it's
a little overwhelming. So that's one reason why we don't share
them. And then also for privacy reasons, like, especially for the
sisters, like, I think if you are writing, like in one of the
sections of the forum, we asked you know where you work, because
that's an important thing, especially to know where where our
brother works, like a good job or not. So if you know, we're putting
up like the forums, and it's like, oh, like, this person that
anonymous, but they work here and they look like, you know, like,
this is what they're interested in, it could be easy for you to
like, kind of figure out who it is, especially if they're within
your community. So also for privacy reasons. Question here, I
VT Zed is question. Can you edit your app afterwards? Yeah, so you
can, like there's not really like a way on the Google forums, but
you can always email them or the team and be like, Hey, I'd like to
edit this, you know, this portion of my form, whether it be the
picture or you know, anything else, and then we can update on
the back. Okay, good. Or I guess you can, they could just fill in,
you know, my name edited. Fill in and whole new. Yeah, yeah, I
didn't see the application. Is it really long? It's not that long. I
don't think it's obviously it takes a little bit of time, but
it's not like really, really long. Okay, good. Next question here.
What is the average age range? Of? Oh, I mean, there's people that
are like, as young as 17. And as old as like, you know, 50
something. So there's a good amount.
For those sorts. Adrian's? Yeah, yeah. All right, let's then
see, with this plagues, pigeon is saying that a lot of merit or
services, there's some aspect about it.
There's an aspect about it that is not
wholesome. And that's the scrolling through pictures thing
like that. But at that point, like,
you're, you're promoting people to actually not lower their gaze,
right. But with this, someone's telling you that we looked at your
profile, and this person matches you. Right. So there's no this
chopping through people, which is totally taking you away from
marriage into just past temptations and desires and
looking. Yeah, so I think that this technique is the most
wholesome and Hello, that it's ever going to be. Yeah, I think it
depends on intention to a lot of people that are on apps don't have
the, the intention of wanting to marry right away. So we would hope
also that on whoever's filling out the mod, the form is actually
ready to get married. The people on those apps, it's their
intention is one thing. And then even if they come with their good
intention, you got all these guys and girls, your intention will
change just by scrolling through and looking through. Okay.
Let's take a look here, says here that
eHarmony is another app. They're talking about all these different
apps.
And they have a Muslim section. Right? So I guess it's a non
Islamic website that has a Muslim section.
And now some people are talking about where they're from. Right.
So now, here's another question now that you got an online
audience. I guess they're gonna write where they are. There's a
section where they wear that and where they want to live as married
as a married couple. I think that's important. Because someone
may say they're from Calgary, or they're from London, right? But
that doesn't necessarily mean that they're limited to those places.
So are you going to now put a section where which asks, like,
where are you willing to live? Yeah, we have a section on the
form that's asking you if you're willing to like relocate, to
relocate. That's good, because I'm sure that some of these people
from England
They might actually end up meeting by zoom first because they're out
of England.
And people out of America. So there you have Canadians.
Shima em from Canada. All right. All right, right. What do you have
on Instagram? Because I can't see this?
How do they get in contact with the team? What's the email
address? Besides the website? Is there an email address? It's more
[email protected]. All right, my what? at mbyc dot orgy?
That's a website you want to go to?
All right, how about Facebook? Okay. Do you recommend people
putting their actual names? What if you get an application with a
pseudonym? What would you do?
Yeah, I mean, that's happened before, too. I think people have
put like, their middle name or something like that, which is
fine, if you want to for privacy reasons. So
but I guess, you know, after they get connected, I'm, I would hope
that they would share their real name. Because once you get
connected,
you have to really share your ID. Right? Yeah. Do you require an ID?
Like, because there could be a complete cut fishing operation?
Yeah. I mean, we've had an experience before where we had to
add like something about,
you know, like a criminal background, let's say, so. Yeah,
yes, I remember that. Yeah. So that's good publicity for more
than probably the number two after this.
So yeah, I guess that's really, because that's a really important
thing that that criminal background check, medical
background check. Yeah, you because think about this from an
aspect of not liability, you're not liable for anything, but just
the perception of it. A guy lies on these things. And he's got like
five STDs.
And he lied about it, he or he just didn't disclose it, then he's
dealing with that sister. So those sisters also have to be savvy,
about, you know what to ask about. Because some people really are
naive, they're really nice. They don't realize that in anything
where you're at risk, the person in front of you is guilty until
proven innocent, not the other way around the prophets I sent him
said, guard yourselves with suit oven. So when I have an interest,
and I'm vulnerable, I'm opening up a vulnerability for myself, then
you're all guilty until proven innocent, like what someone
applying for a job to be a roommate to be your husband or
wife. So as a suggestion, there may be a nice guide, right? That
you could send with the email to the person that if you're gonna go
about this, and to talk to this person, you really need to ask the
situation because you don't ask people, if you've committed sins,
you're not allowed to ask that. But if you have an STD, that you
can transmit that to me that I have the 100%, right to ask you
and to see proof, not just ask to see proof of your medical report.
And the first time I saw this was in New Haven, Connecticut, when
75% of the masjid population were the population that came out of a
jail. Right? And Dr. Jimmy Jones, may Allah bless him.
When he would do marriages, I came up to these two people want to get
married, he's like, whoa, I'm gonna just marry people like this.
You This is not the people from the Islamic the Muslim families
who you know, for, for for for 10 years. These are all people who I
know their backgrounds, we have to have a full medical report your ID
to know that this is not a doctored report. Right? And we
need to know your your status, so that if you're on probation, she
has to know that. And then fourthly,
your, I'm telling you this is some people really get messed up on
this, your credit rating, because your credit rating, the if his
credit rating is bad, and he could be a son of nice people.
But he's got a terrible credit rating. And as a result of that,
she has to rent the apartment in her name. Yeah. And that's a big
problem. Right? Because he's like deficient, you're supposed to be
the caretaker. So if your credit report, right, is is down is bad.
That affects her. So you're allowed to not only you're
allowed, you're obligated.
The Willy Willy of a woman is obligated to ask all these
questions, because that could harm his daughter. And right now,
before the marriage, what are you? You're the column here. That means
you have to protect her you have to guard her, right from ever
getting involved with it with another person. She's going to now
go into protection of that guy. Does that guy have any of these
issues? And I'm telling you, a lot of people they think marriage is
like posting a van have a good opinion, blah, blah, blah. You
don't have a good opinion of someone who you owe
When your vulnerabilities to. So I think that's something really
important. I think like we asked like more like the baseline
questions, I don't know if I would add, like, what's your credit
score? I think that you don't have to add that. I think you should
you do be complicated if you add that. Yeah. But when you send this
anything to men or women, both sides, like, you should tell them,
you need to ask these things. Yeah, that's actually why we were
thinking about having whether it be like a, like an online stream
like this, or an in person, event where you or anyone else in the
community who's learned and has knowledge to kind of explain how,
you know, courtship can go and yeah, what type of questions to
ask, like you're saying and how to go about it. I feel like I said, I
don't have the knowledge to like, do that, or include that in the
form. So it would be really beneficial for people in the
community to have, you know, a session like this to learn from
and to present, I have an idea. So why don't we do that? We can have
a mullet online session. Right? Right, where you email all the
mods, the people, we talked about this? We talked about this. We,
it's then recorded, we take questions and answers. It's then
recorded, and you could link the video. Yeah, that's right. And
that will be like the official, like piece of advice. All right
piece of advice for people that when you go into this, this is the
right way to do things. And also, this is the wrong way to do
things. And I'm telling you, a lot of people they, they maybe they
just don't know better, they just totally get sucked into the
romance element of things. Right? And then
there's, there's actually no objective
action going on here.
This, okay, it happened. I'm just I'm used to it. This is nothing.
That we laugh my Jenna and I were at an airport the other day, this
past summer. And there was a family. That was
a couple so stressed out this husband and wife, they're like
pulling their hair out, we look at what's the cause? They had one
kid, right? What are you stressed out about? You got one kid is not
stress. Just wait until you got other issues. So
it's so important that people not get caught up on the romantic side
of things. And that's the purpose of sometimes that third party or
that we'll leave that as the objective questions. And I'm
telling you, here's another thing.
colloid says, can we as parents watch this livestream? Yeah, I
think it should be public, right? Like, we'll advertise it to the
more than two people, right? And then we'll have it. It'll be here,
they could just log into their YouTube, or their Instagram or
whatever, and ask the questions on YouTube.
Or we can have an anonymous
form that they could send out questions, and then that will be
part of my What does official and why don't we do that? I guess. I
don't know about the timing. But why don't we do that? During when
I'm here ready for a stream? Sure. So it'll double up that way. We
don't have to come in a second time.
And then it would also be even great if you could suggest
resources for people who are in the process of talking. Yeah. So
whether it be, you know, good things that they can read, or even
people in the community that they can talk to. I feel like Austin
and I took premarital counseling. And even though we knew each other
really well, it was still something that was beneficial for
us. So even if there's people in the community that you would
suggest I would I need to I want to rename it coaching, right? Like
counseling is like something's wrong with me. Yeah, we have a
problem. The framing of it, right, is that we're on a cliff. And
we're about to fall off a cliff. But it should be called Marriage
coaching, right? Because to be well coached,
to be well coached is something that
it's praiseworthy, right? Like we're coached we know we're doing
so what should be rebranded as marriage coaching, because if
there's marriage coaching, anyone would show up to that problems are
no problems, but once you call it counseling, you're any guy with
any sense of pride, and I'm not going to this nonsense, right?
Unless it's a threat of divorce. That's it. I'm not getting
counseled by anybody. That's what that's what nine any point one
with pride is gonna say that. So can you come up with a list of
questions that you want addressed for Melinda?
We'll put up the graphics. So it will be in my what the branded
video. And then it will be something that we can take all
these q&a, we'll do it.
Let's say, maybe next Thursday or something, give me time to look at
the questions and think and then we'll come up with
reading. If you have reading. Can you also in that email, send me
the cutout screenshot of the books that you recommend people read.
And then we can put them up one at a time. And we could put the zoom,
the Amazon links on these books. If there are any online playlists,
we'll come up with that. And that'll be a great resource
because I
It's amazing how people can be very old and very seasoned in many
things. They know how to make money. They know how to work. They
know how to climb the career ladder. But personally, it's a
train wreck. Right? And it's just something that right.
It's something
it's unique people just
all right, a Coomassie is saying that our camera quality is
bleached today, right? Is that what's going on with that? Is that
me or is that?
Too sensitive? I come as a you just got called too sensitive.
Maybe it's this light, but this latest? It's a camera setting.
Okay, we'll fix that later.
All right, so premarital marriage coaching is what people got to
take. All right, I think we've covered everything. What else do
we got here?
Anything else?
All right. So that's it for today. Some people are saying are saying
that they want you to put in personality tests, which is pretty
funny, I guess. Like the what is it? Briggs? Meyer. Yeah. That and
if you are at GP or f ing, whatever.
I think just just to clarify. Yeah, we're just here to connect
people on a surface. Like we're gonna look at their surface level
information. Yeah, we're gonna see if we think it's suitable. And
then you're gonna have the conversation from there. You're
gonna do more? Yeah, the whole point of even okay, we don't have
to call it premarital counseling. Yeah, what do people do in
premarital counseling? There was a big conversation that's still
ongoing in our community, at least in Central Jersey, between NBRC
iCj ncgp, all the masajid around the area, that they wanted to have
this thing with a shoe are not gonna do marriages until someone
does premarital counseling with someone. Right? So but the idea
is, what do you go through in those sessions? You go through
what does privacy mean, in marriage, you go through what does
intimacy mean in marriage? You go through what else? Yeah. And you
go through what our financial responsibilities in marriage like
these are all conversations that people should be having. But don't
think to have all the time. The idea I remember when when we did
it with with Chaplain Caeser was, you know, you're going to set the
standard right now of how you deal with conflict and how you deal
with certain issues. Right now when it's all good. Yeah. Because
then when times get bad, you want to have some framework to lead
them. You're not going to create it then in there. Right? Who
should get involved in your problems? And who's your referee?
Yeah. and at what time? Do you even need a referee? Right? Most
of the time, problems should be resolved between you two. Right?
True, who should know about your problems? Things like that? Yeah.
It's important, I think, I think that's totally important. In any
two businesses that come together, and they have a deal. They always
put a clause of what happens if things go sour. And it's just
like, they're mature enough to realize that, it's silly to say,
Oh, I don't even want to talk about that. It's just silly. You
got to talk about that. But let me say something else, too. I view
marriage as three phases.
Right?
Sorry, four phases, immediate attraction.
Immediately, like, just within? That's just the basic ballpark,
right? No, like immediate, like not, but not not marriage, getting
to getting married, right? immediate attraction, like, you
see. I'm saying for example, age is the same look is similar,
right, like, so. Someone could have a lot of politics and
religion and geography and social class and ethnicity the same. But
if there's 15 years apart, right, it's dead in on on arrival. So
immediate attraction is simply to say, Would I ever even consider
this person? Right? So it's the broadest range? Would I ever even?
It's a snapshot. The second phase, is vision of life.
Do we share a vision of life and that is, what are the three or
four things that are absolutely non negotiable? Right? Like, for
example, we fall out of Sona. That's a non negotiable, right?
We live in the United States, we plan to live in United States or
something like
these things that are non negotiable. And that should also
not take too long.
After that, is the mission I'm doing it like a business plan,
right. Mission Statement, vision statement, mission statement,
mission statement is how do we want to execute this? Right? If we
say that we want our kids to be raised as most well how in a
private school in a homeschooling like how, now for what I see and
then and then third thing, the fourth thing sorry, is the
details. Okay, which is now
We're gonna get engaged, where do we gonna live? What apartment are
we gonna live in? Those are the absolute details. So I look at his
attraction, vision statement, mission statement, and then the
details, execution. That's all pre marriage, that's all pre marriage,
right. So, execution stage happens during engagement, if you have
attraction, and your vision of life is and religion is the same,
and you the mission statement is how to execute the vision which
can be negotiated, right, we can negotiate that we can discuss that
then we come to an agreement on those things, then you get
engaged, and then you fulfill the details. So what I see that my
what is, is the first two phases that immediate attraction, and and
the vision of life is identical, like you guys, your non
negotiables are all the same. Yes, right. Now, when we introduce you
to each other, you guys got to take over the mission statement
after that, like, how are you planning to execute that? Okay.
And there's a million different ways, and that's all up to
negotiation. Right? And then engagement is also something
people think is haram.
But it's not, it's extremely important. Because engagement is
where you start seeing the person's family, extended family.
What if you realize that guys related to Jeffrey Dahmer, right?
You got to pull up, right? What if you realize that the guy's got
he's like bipolar? Like he's such a sunny and happy guy. Yeah, but
every five months, he just dips for three weeks.
I don't want to get in my involved in this right. So to me,
engagement is a continued formal visits over and over and over and
over, where more layers of the onion are peeled from this person
and this family.
But of course, you we have another engagement like your your
operation. Yeah. Right. That's up to you and their parents and all
that. Yeah. So you guys are
immediate attraction, and then vision of life? All what are the
non negotiables things you will never ever ever marry a person who
has any of these attributes, or marry a person that will ask you
to let go of these attributes? Right? And most of that, it's got
to be on like one hand. You can't have 50,000 You can't have 25 non
negotiables. Right. A non negotiable is something that is
divorce would happen. Like imagine you were married? If a non
negotiables broken you divorce on the spot? Yeah. Right. So like
that. So and then mission is where most people, the negotiation
happens. All right, folks. We are complete. We are done with this.
We've covered everything.
We don't have any questions, Facebook.
Let's see on Facebook. If there are any questions, the now so
called the meta business suite with their logo here. Not to be
honest with you not exactly the most impressive logo in the whole
world. But whatever. It was that matter. You know, there
Okay, right. Anything from Facebook?
No access yet. Okay.
Yeah, they just redid their app and had to redo it and I can't get
in. And also for some reason our what is up Hey, aren't you it? Me?
Yeah. Ish. Are you it? business, your business it? This phone is
not letting me in on this Wi Fi, every other Wi Fi it works. But
not this one.
Your laptop is there annoying as heck, how much stuff is connected
to the Wi Fi?
123. And that's by Ethernet cable. And it shouldn't be a bandwidth
issue. All right, so
Inshallah, you're going to send me a file? What is it that you want
to be said about how to go about the second phase, or the third
phase of your personal discussions with each other, and anything
else, and any books and links that you guys want to include? And this
will be Inshallah, something you send out to? You're going to send
this all out and show it to more people. And they could, they're
probably going to be at work, but they could log in to YouTube at
that hour.
And they will, they could ask the questions at that hour. And if
not, they can ask follow up questions, which will answer later
on, and then we could strip that video, put it onto the mbyc
Youtube and that'll be in my wedding video. That's on the mbyc
YouTube channel that you can link up to every anyone who you who you
send like a marriage thing to. Alright, watch this video so you
can know what rights you have. And yes
CJ CJ
Got a
geographic limitation or no? I mean, it would be nice like.
Okay.
And I know a lot of our events have
copy that. So the answer is
I mean, the request was, what you said was, if you're a community
leader, where you are, they're looking to partner up, my word is
looking to partner up to increase the pool. Because as we said,
people I think, are willing to move from America search and
relocate. Right? So if you're willing to partner up, if you're a
community leader, right, then you need, you can contact Melinda. And
they'll, they'll make some kind of arrangements with you. And they'll
talk and we'll make things happen. What constitutes being ready for
marriage, man and woman? Well,
we'll discuss that in the video too, because we'll give you a
concrete answer. It's pretty simple.
readiness for marriage has a objective answer, and a subjective
one, which has a gradient.
There's the simple matter that you can as a man, physically and
financially care for somebody. Right? That's objective, I can
tell you right now off the bat by looking at your bank statements,
right in your income statements. If you're physically if you're
financially and physically now physically, I could look at your
health, right? If you're able to protect somebody, if you're able
to live with live with somebody and be intimate with them, what is
subjective and requires maybe some coaching and maybe some references
is your, your emotional maturity. And the biggest thing for this is
selfishness. If you're somebody who grew up all alone, and Mama
makes you breakfast every day and lunch, and she mops up after you
and she cleans up to you some of these Arab moms the way they don't
over their son, like he's some prints, and there are a bunch of
bumps, right? It's not just moms, the Desi can do it too. Yeah.
Okay. And the kid is an absolute useless, okay. And yet the mom
treats him like the king do a Prince of Persia, and Aladdin. So
that person is not ready. That person is going to be selfish,
right? Selfishness kills marriages. That's how simple it
is. You don't know how to share. You don't know how to do anything.
The fool who I always thought was one of the biggest celebrities in
America who had his heads screwed on right Tom Brady, who'd like
never drunk driving, he's never like on drugs. He never done
anything stupid. And he turns out, he's such a football addict. He's
about to lose his marriage because of this because he unretired
himself after agreeing to retiring, right, but he's so
addicted. And I was like, What's going on with this guy? I thought
he had his head screwed on right? It's all about selfishness, right?
And selfishness and sharing. I knew he was off when he when he
unretired when he when he kissed his kids on the lips. Oh.
I cannot believe this guy is trading in a silly one season
where by the way, you're all injured. You're probably going to
have a losing season. Right? Unless he just digs down and
disproves everybody, but he's gonna have a losing season. Right?
And you're going to trade away your kids emotional stability,
your whole life. Divorce is one of the worst things in the world.
Most of them are not Muslim who cares? Yes, I have to say well, he
is listening and he said even hit him hard when he said Prince of
Persia
by the way, will lead is the official Prince of Persia with a
capital P and a capital to capital peace, and will lead now that he
brought himself up he truly is principles that you think that he
came out of a movie of Narnia or something where he's Prince of
Persia, and he's out there working. Well. I'm not gonna say
more details, but he's out west northwest. Oh, he's here for
visiting only for a visit. But he's not moving back. Right. Okay.
He's here for a visit. He's a very eligible bachelor.
He this guy, Mashallah. He's got a great job out.
Northwest United States and he's going to try to come back to New
Jersey, but he's a very eligible bachelor. He's half parents. He's
originally Persian, but Pakistani also mixed into his his cultural
heritage. So the Desi Ian can can apply. Right? How old is Prince of
Persia?
was like 22. Right? Is he open to marry non Arabs? Sure, sure. He
is, I mean, non Desi. I'm sure he is. Right.
What else?
I think Prince of Persia, you know, I'm gonna fill out an
application for him. Right? Principles. So all right, folks,
thank you all very much. Just Kamala Harris Subhanak Allahu
mobie hum decrescendo in La Ilaha. illa Anta the stock
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make sure that you set your alarms for tahajjud and bring your
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