Shadee Elmasry – MUST TRY- Doing This for 30 Mins Will Change Your Life
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The spiritual elements of Islam include individuals achieving spiritual clarity of heart and a "hasn't been met" attitude. Backing on negative impacts of staying alone and traveling to different countries on one's spiritual well-being. Being involved in a situation where a child is missing and abandoning them is emphasized. Being involved in a situation where a child is exposed to certain things and is not just a social person, but a family member, and being a successful person is emphasized.
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Something very important for our spiritual element to
ourselves and it's something that will lead us
to ma'rifah, which is coming to know
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and that is
being alone.
As many sheikhs say, the khalwat and uzla
for us today is 30-40 minutes by
yourself doing munajah, doing dhikrillah, or even just
not having a device.
Like we reach that level at this point.
Just being in the fitrah, being in nature,
etc.
Let's see what he says here.
The people of safwah, clarity of heart, is
that they have khalwah.
They have a time where they get to
clear their head and remind themselves of their
relationship with Allah, that I'm a abd of
Allah and I'm going to meet Allah, I'm
going to die.
All the affairs of the ummah, all the
affairs of my family, I'm leaving it.
One of the signs that a person is
going to be drawn near to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala is he finds himself suddenly
in a lot of alone time.
This happens to many people.
Even the worst of people, how they just
become good, forget ma'rifah, just from bad
to good, they go to jail.
Mike Tyson was one of those and he
did enter Islam in jail.
Just because you see in his real life,
you don't see Islam, does not mean he's
not a Muslim.
I can get you many guys from our
countries, they see no Islam in his life.
So some people are connected to the good
and to the truth by some hair, but
you don't see any other Islam in them.
But Mike Tyson's story is that he says
that being in jail was the only thing
that could have ever made him think about
something else besides himself and his desires.
And Malcolm X is the same story.
I think he spent seven years in jail,
but in those seven years he was reformed
in such a way he could never have
been reformed in that way outside of jail.
And for us, we could do that too.
If you spend 30 straight days and you
take out a set time of the day
and you sit alone with your mashaf, book
of adhkar, just munajah between you and Allah
about your goals in life, your desires, and
make du'a and spend it like that,
you'll see a huge difference.
It's 30 minutes a day.
In the beginning, usually, as Imam al-Haddad
said, when Allah wills good for somebody, he
forces it upon them.
A person, for example, may get a job
far away, may go to jail, may get
sick, may move just enough to be away
from what he calls here abna'i jinti,
meaning his peers, because we're always competing with
our peers, whether we know it or not,
like it or not, even if it's good
and halal and like we're trying to measure
up, oh, you're studying this book, I'm going
to study that.
Oh, that guy opened a business?
All right, I'm going to open a business
too.
We're always living like that, right?
So in order to clear your head of
all these things, sometimes it's not you who
gets sick, it's a family member who gets
sick that disallows you from leaving the house.
Family member gets cancer, no one's leaving the
house.
There's no such thing as parties, wedding, you're
not going to any of these things.
Funeral, maybe.
So that is a type of qabd of
the whole family that will make start thinking
of deeper things in life.
A death in the family is kafa bil
mawti maw'ithah, Prophet ﷺ said.
It's enough of death as a lesson.
If death isn't your maw'ithah, nothing will
help you.
He says here, at the beginning, you need
to leave your peers.
This is also one of the wisdoms of
ar-rihla fi tala bil-'ilm, to travel seeking
knowledge is because when you leave, everyone who
knows you, they can't busy you.
So when you travel, your aunt can't invite
you, your grandma can't invite you, friends can't
have a party.
When you're living here, you have to do
all that stuff.
You have to be extremely social and you
get good deeds with that.
It's not bad.
You get good deeds doing those things.
But when you travel, you can't do any
of those things.
And he says here, at the end of
one's journey, now you have been worshipping Allah
for 30 and 40 and 50 years, doing
all sorts of good deeds here, there and
everywhere, of all types.
You visiting the sikh, mujahidah, everything.
He says now, at that level of being
a senior, being an elder in the ummah,
and in ibadah, he says, after all that,
now it is his time to sit alone
with Allah.
Because he's just so busy, right?
In your middle of life, you're so busy.
You have to live a social life to
support your brothers and sisters.
You cannot afford, probably most of us, to
just disappear.
It wouldn't even be appropriate.
Imagine a brother, a guy, he's a student
of knowledge, and he has a younger brother
who doesn't pray.
You have to do dawah.
You have to pull him in slowly.
It may take a long time, but you
got to pull him in.
You have to.
Now once you have children, you can't go
off leaving them and abandoning them.
That is your first assignment.
That's your assignment that Allah is going to
ask you about.
Allah is not going to ask you about
anybody else.
He's going to ask you about your kids.
So now you have to be involved with
them.
Now dawah cannot be, alright, let me sit
down and let me just teach you.
No, you have to have, there has to
be a reason for them to love you.
They have to love you first.
Then you don't have to talk.
Beyond basic lessons, you don't have to talk.
They will follow in your footsteps if they
love you.
How do you get a kid to love
you?
There are different techniques.
There are different ways.
Meaning, you're going to be loved when you're
on their wavelength first.
You have to first be on their wavelength
if you want to take them somewhere else.
And that's, suddenly that's going to mean engaging
in a whole bunch of youthful, no.
Children's play, then youth will still want to
do things like go to soccer and stuff
like that.
You're going to do that stuff.
You have no choice.
Right?
You have to have, a kid has to
have a normal healthy childhood and you've got
to be part of that.
Kid has to have a normal healthy childhood
based on his customs around him.
That's what you had.
And you turned out okay.
Because when you have a normal childhood, everything
is basics of life are taken care of.
That's when you can think of higher order
thinking.
Like taqwa, like deen, like these other things.
You want it.
It's something you want to do.
But it started off, no one jammed it
down your throat and also no one took
away something from you that everyone else had
to make you like desire that more than
anything else.
Because Imam al-Haddad warned against that.
Imam al-Haddad warned a man who kept
bringing his son to all the classes.
And he said, doesn't the boy want to
play with the other kids?
He said, I want him to be a
sheikh.
I want to bring him to classes.
Imam al-Haddad warned him.
He said, if you do that, he's going
to think about playing all the time.
When he grows up, he'll play.
Because he was robbed of it in his
childhood.
So fill him, his belly with that now.
Fill him with that now until he gets
bored of that.
At the very least, he said, khalas, I
did my thing.
And so many of us youth, we reach
a point like that.
It's like sleepovers, playing all day, basketball, video
games, going out to eat with the friends.
Like, I did all that.
I don't need to do it anymore.
You reach that point.
And that's the healthy way to do things.
Raising a decent kid, it happens one dentist
appointment at a time, one math homework at
a time, one little play session with children
at a time.
And you just add those up over the
course of 15 years.
Then hopefully you end up with a child
who doesn't want to disappoint you.
Even better, you end up with a child
who wants what you're doing.
They see you serving your parents.
What do you think they're going to do
when they grow up?
They see you serving your parents because there
comes a bridge time where you're serving old
parents and raising young kids.
That's the best.
Because they see that.
Oh my gosh, it's serving them, then taking
us to practice.
They become very appreciative and they follow in
the same footsteps.
And that's why if you have a chance
to do Bidadi-Wadidane, keep in mind that's
your reward.
That's not your job.
That's not a sacrifice you're making.
That literally is your reward.
Imagine you gave some guy, here's $100,000
in coins.
I need you to now count it out,
take it to the bank, deposit it, take
the money now, open a debit card, open
a bank account, and shift it over into
crypto or whatever investment or whatever is a
powerful investment at the time.
You got to do it all.
Does that work?
Now, the person who, oh my gosh, the
guy gave me $100,000, but it's in
coins and singles.
I got to count it now.
I'm like, are you thankless?
You're not right in the head.
We'd all say that.
Here's $100,000, you should be counting them
happily.
And then going to the bank account with
a smile on your face, everything you do,
you're the beneficiary.
This is free money here that's coming to
you.
The same thing.