Shadee Elmasry – Muslim Scholar Responds to FaZe YourRAGE on Age of Marriage

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The age of consent and sexuality is a topic of discussion in modern society, with examples like the age of birth and the age of sexuality. The speaker suggests that parents are the only source of knowledge and that society is not accepting of the idea. The speaker discusses social norms and the way in which we judge things, including the age of 18 in our Sharia and the age of consent in Islam.

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			Today, we're gonna answer this question
		
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			by Faze Your Rage,
		
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			who is replying to Sneeko.
		
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			I'm not I don't follow this stuff, but
		
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			I know he's a Muslim. Right? So this
		
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			URAGE guy goes off on Sneeko for believing
		
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			in Islam. Sneeko says he didn't watch the
		
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			debate, claims to be Christian, but the Bible
		
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			does not specify age of consent.
		
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			Doesn't even specify the concept of consent.
		
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			Says 2 adults can get married, which I
		
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			agree with. Tell these Twitch streamers to stick
		
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			to gaming
		
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			and screaming. A whole bunch of
		
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			what do you guys know? Gen Alpha talk.
		
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			And
		
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			he's saying here, phase your rage is saying
		
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			to Sneko
		
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			I'm I'm citing these people as if I
		
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			know who I am. I don't even know
		
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			who they are, but I know Sneko is
		
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			a Muslim. So
		
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			he's saying here that I never knew I'd
		
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			be living in a world where people would
		
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			have a problem with me saying
		
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			13 year olds
		
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			shouldn't be changing their gender, and I don't
		
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			think 14 year olds should be getting married
		
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			to grown men.
		
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			We are cooked.
		
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			Let me ask you a question. Is it
		
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			emotional? Is it about the emotional well-being?
		
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			Because if you're a Christian, last I checked,
		
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			god
		
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			in your world caused Mary to be pregnant
		
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			when she was about 14. So what are
		
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			we talking about here?
		
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			She was 13, 14 years old
		
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			when this happened.
		
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			Well, what does that tell us about society
		
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			back then?
		
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			12, 13 years old. You're an adult.
		
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			You're a full fledged adult.
		
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			If a girl reached puberty in those times
		
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			at the age of 9 and 10,
		
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			puberty is not reached at the same age
		
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			for everybody.
		
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			Strength is not reached at the same age.
		
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			Go to the Amazon rainforest.
		
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			Kids are there,
		
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			hunting.
		
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			Go watch these documentaries.
		
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			Within 3 episodes, you're gonna have a little
		
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			7 year old kid crouching
		
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			with hardly any clothes on, but, he's got
		
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			a blade in his hand, and he's, like,
		
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			cutting up an animal. I'm telling you, these
		
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			maturity's different in different societies.
		
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			So but you know what's funny too?
		
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			Is any American
		
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			policing the culture of other people?
		
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			Hey. What's your problem? If they're happy with
		
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			each other, what's your issue? Whether she's 13
		
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			or 14. Here's the main question.
		
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			Why do Americans and I don't know who
		
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			this fazer rage person is, but, they all
		
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			say the same thing. All the Christians say
		
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			the same thing.
		
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			Why do they imagine themselves
		
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			to care more about little
		
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			Muslim girls or Arab girls
		
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			than their own parents,
		
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			than those kids' parents? That's the premise here.
		
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			That's the premise.
		
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			So you need to wake up a little
		
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			bit because you yourselves
		
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			are permissive of so much abuse.
		
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			Forget. Do we have we have to go
		
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			to transgender. Yeah. That's the worst form of
		
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			abuse.
		
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			That is the you're gonna go down in
		
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			history for that stuff,
		
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			for allowing these surgeries to go on and
		
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			be decided by people who are 12 13
		
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			years old.
		
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			And you're talking about the age of consent
		
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			for something that if it were to ever
		
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			happen, which it never happens, by the way.
		
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			It never happens anymore.
		
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			These very, very young
		
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			brides,
		
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			unless you're talking about one village somewhere where
		
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			everyone does it. But when it did happen
		
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			in the time of the messenger, peace be
		
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			upon him, you have that parents involved.
		
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			You have the only source of knowledge
		
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			of the age of Aisha, let me tell
		
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			you this,
		
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			is her own self.
		
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			Years later,
		
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			after the prophet, peace be upon him, in
		
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			a time where she could have said, it
		
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			was terrible. I wouldn't have wanted to do
		
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			it because the prophets had passed on. Her
		
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			parents had passed on. Pretty much her whole
		
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			that whole generation had passed away. Now she's
		
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			an adult. She's free. She's the oldest person
		
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			in her generation now.
		
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			And she could say, oh, it was a
		
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			terrible thing.
		
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			As people, when they
		
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			get abused when they're young, they grow up.
		
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			And eventually, when all the scary people die,
		
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			then they tell the truth.
		
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			So the parents are okay with it. She's
		
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			okay with it, but you have a problem.
		
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			But let me tell you something else. This
		
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			is an argument from disgust.
		
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			Never try to rationally or respond to an
		
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			argument from disgust unless you first
		
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			dispel the disgust. And how you dispel the
		
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			disgust is showing them it it shift the
		
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			emotion to their
		
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			acts of disgust.
		
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			Like, what are you guys doing?
		
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			Go to middle schools today.
		
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			Go to middle schools and tell them not
		
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			to have boyfriends and girlfriends.
		
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			What's the difference? Right?
		
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			Marriage, at least the parents involved, society's involved,
		
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			everyone's involved. It's permanent.
		
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			So phase your age. Go write put a
		
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			post out. 14 year olds cannot have boyfriends
		
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			and girlfriends.
		
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			Okay. He did say a grown grown men.
		
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			So
		
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			immature men
		
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			is okay.
		
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			So you'd rather a 13 year old be
		
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			dating a 16 year old as opposed
		
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			to marriage
		
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			with another adult?
		
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			Your math is not adding up. Your whole
		
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			thing is not adding up. Amiksa says,
		
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			early age marriage in olden days was accepted.
		
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			Older Muslim men, even in this day, marry
		
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			very young.
		
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			Girls, should this be allowed? Let me tell
		
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			you the the criteria. What does a god
		
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			allow? What god allows requires the file. Is
		
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			the body capable of receiving marriage? Number 1.
		
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			Number 2, do the parents allow for this?
		
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			Because they in our worldview, parents will care
		
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			more about their kids
		
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			than white liberal Americans and Christians and evangelicals.
		
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			Evangelicals imagine themselves to care so much more
		
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			about all of our kids than those kids'
		
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			parents.
		
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			That's the premise here. So the parents are
		
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			accepting of it. They're happy with it. They're
		
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			proud of it. They're publicizing
		
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			it. Well, that means
		
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			they got friends too. Right?
		
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			Like, you wouldn't do something where all your
		
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			friends were like, what is he doing with
		
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			this kid?
		
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			You wouldn't do
		
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			that. Everyone would think twice about this. So
		
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			if I'm gonna go this route hold on
		
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			a second. I got we got a dinner
		
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			invitation next week. What are people gonna say?
		
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			So the whole society was accepting of it.
		
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			That's how that whole society lives. Just like
		
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			your society lives, you will let your daughter
		
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			sleep around and the dad cannot say a
		
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			word.
		
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			That's your society.
		
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			You raised a girl for 13, 14 years
		
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			old. She walks out with a boy. You
		
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			ask her, where are you going and who
		
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			are you going with? She flips out. You're
		
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			not allowed to ask her. She tells you
		
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			off after you raised her the all this
		
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			time,
		
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			and she goes out with a stranger with
		
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			pimples on his face
		
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			that you don't even know, and that stranger
		
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			is accessing her body all night. And you
		
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			have to accept that. So that's your society.
		
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			You've all accepted that, and you've been
		
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			taught to accept this through Netflix and otherwise.
		
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			Every dad is an idiot in every show
		
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			and every movie
		
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			and every commercial.
		
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			So that's your society. Their society,
		
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			they had different norms than you did. Who
		
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			are you to say just from a secular
		
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			perspective, who are you to say
		
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			that the entire society
		
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			doesn't know what they're doing? Just as you
		
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			wouldn't want someone to say that to you.
		
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			I'm not saying that that's my. That's not
		
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			the way we judge things, but that's how
		
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			you judge things.
		
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			You judge things as a liberal. Hold on.
		
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			We all agree to this. This is all
		
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			good. This is the way we wanna live.
		
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			K? If a if a 13 year old
		
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			girl has a, boyfriend who I don't know
		
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			who he is and I can't ask, that's
		
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			a that's Khalaf. That's how it is.
		
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			If you ask a question, your wife will
		
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			give you a dirty look. That's how it's
		
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			portrayed, and that's how it is in so
		
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			many homes.
		
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			But in our Sharia, in our religion,
		
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			we operate by social norms. We do. What?
		
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			But which social norms? Social norms of practicing
		
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			in good Muslims, not social norms of the
		
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			whole society.
		
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			The practice, the social norms of Muslims
		
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			in what is a social norm, first of
		
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			all? What is
		
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			is in a matter in which there's no
		
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			religious
		
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			commandment,
		
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			no clarity in
		
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			no
		
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			explicit judgment from god and his prophet
		
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			or from the scholars, then we all sit
		
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			around and and, essentially,
		
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			through our informal
		
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			interactions,
		
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			we make a judgment
		
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			on if this thing is good or bad,
		
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			and then it becomes a custom
		
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			so that
		
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			people don't enter into an experiment
		
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			with their families
		
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			in life and have no recourse.
		
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			They have no recourse. There's no one around
		
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			to ask.
		
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			And so is all based upon what we
		
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			all judge to be good and correct. Close
		
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			is
		
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			What close is acceptable
		
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			to walk around it? It's
		
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			Not gonna find it in the Quran or
		
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			the sunnah, these these basic details. Yes. We
		
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			know what to cover of our body and
		
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			how to cover it, but which which garment?
		
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			No.
		
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			What clothes to wear, etcetera.
		
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			What is the age of consent in Islam?
		
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			Age, it's not about age. It's physical health.
		
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			So Bedoche says, yeah, 18th is done. Who's
		
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			who the heck said 18? Right? I'll tell
		
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			you where 18 came from. It came from
		
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			the
		
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			about kids
		
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			who didn't reach puberty
		
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			due to some illness or something
		
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			or some physical abnormality that they didn't reach
		
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			puberty. So at what point do we consider
		
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			them
		
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			mature agents
		
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			responsible
		
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			for their actions?
		
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			Imam Malik assigned the age of 18. I
		
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			think Abu Hanifa assigned the age of 15,
		
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			but don't quote me on that.