Shadee Elmasry – Mothers’ Hour, Being Mom 3

Shadee Elmasry
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The speakers discuss Subhanab's actions and their importance in creating a culture of peace and peace. They also touch on Subhanab's universal mission to create a world where everyone has the same rights, including the ability to see and experience the creation of the mother in front of them, the importance of praying for a long period of time to avoid sin, and the importance of letting children have their own time and not trying to convince them to do everything at once. They also discuss the difficulty of being a chef and how it can be difficult to deal with sick children.

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			He goes, thank you fine, you know,
thank you so much. It's like, oh
		
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			my god and thank you. Alright,
sounds good. So.
		
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			So, today Inshallah, we're going
to talk a little bit about
		
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			motherhood.
		
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			All right, about motherhood. And
how do you she is and her
		
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			importance, okay? Not just our
mothers, but us as mothers, okay?
		
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			And I'm not going to tell you
mothers is what you need to do
		
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			12345 Not today, okay? Or you need
to do this or not to do that. I
		
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			want to focus on your importance.
So the importance of your role,
		
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			okay. So when I come and tell you
this is what you have to do, you
		
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			will take it to heart and try to
really change to the better
		
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			inshallah gay when you know how
important you are, and what the
		
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			last panels have assigned you to
you something great, your beloved
		
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			to Allah subhanaw taala, the day
you'd won the title Mother, you
		
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			all put in a very, very high rank
your mother. And I would like to
		
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			start by describing what a
mother's compassion is, like, if I
		
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			were to ask you what is the
greatest title that was ever given
		
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			to anyone over the different
errors? After the prophets that
		
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			is, of course, what's the greatest
title? A general or president or
		
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			leader, a doctor, or an engineer,
father in law, son in law,
		
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			husband, or a mother? Think about
it.
		
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			Put all these titles together and
put in front of them the title
		
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			mother and see what is the dearest
title and humanity? The dear is to
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala a title that
has travelled through history. If
		
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			you think about it, the title
Doctor not say anything. How long
		
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			since has it hasn't been used? How
long has it existed for as a
		
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			terminology between us or engineer
or even a president? Which is
		
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			dear? Okay, let me tell you
something else that can make you
		
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			understand what a mother is, and
who she is to Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			wonderful Allah subhanaw taala
names, right. And it's one of the
		
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			dearest names to him. And we would
be doomed if it were not for this
		
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			name. And our lives and our
afterlife would end in a terrible
		
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			way. And there's not a surah in
the Quran unless it begins with
		
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			this name, except one. What does
that name are these names are
		
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			Rahman R. Rahim, the Beneficent,
the Most Merciful, right? This
		
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			name that we love so much, and our
destiny is tied to it right? If we
		
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			didn't have Allah subhanaw taala
drama. You know, none of us will
		
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			enter Jannah basically, because
yeah, we could do so good. But at
		
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			the end, we still enter with his
wife with his mercy with his Rama,
		
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			okay. So the Beneficent, the Most
Merciful, this name that we love
		
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			so much our destinies tied to. So
in order for us to feel this word
		
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			in this life, Allah subhanaw taala
embodies it for you in the form of
		
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			your mother in this world. So when
Allah subhanaw taala created
		
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			mercy, He divided it into how many
parts 100 parts he sent down to
		
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			earth, one part, okay, all the
drama that you see on this earth
		
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			from mothers to children and
animals, any kind of Rama that you
		
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			see on this life? Okay. Okay, I'm
sorry, let me just sweethearts,
		
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			sweetie. I'm sorry. Can you go to
the other room? Sir? Okay. Thank
		
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			you.
		
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			I'm sorry.
		
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			Okay, so all the drama that you
see here on this earth is only one
		
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			part out of the 100 parts that
we're talking about. And he
		
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			subhanaw taala kept 99 parts till
the Day of Judgment. And then he
		
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			joins that one part to the 99 on
the day of judgment, and he
		
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			spreads it over his creation. So
can you imagine what these 99
		
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			parts are? Or this one part that
every single creation has mercy
		
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			with it towards one another? So if
we see if you see one party see
		
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			all the ramen, like how many? You
know, it's even a kitten like, you
		
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			know, trying to clean her little
you know, or a cat cleaning her
		
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			kitten or, you know, whatever, how
you always see the elephant mother
		
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			with her little baby Subhanallah
or us with our, you know, with our
		
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			little ones. And all of this from
the beginning of creation to the
		
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			Day of Judgment is just one Rama,
one piece of His mercy. So how
		
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			would within 99 parts be like,
okay, so if you want to picture or
		
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			understand even that one part,
look at your mother, or look at
		
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			yourself as a mother. It's follow
the example of Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala has mercy that he is
embodied or materialized for us to
		
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			see is someone very close to you,
through which you can see his
		
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			mercy. That's your mother, or that
is you as a mother now, and the
		
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			Prophet says this to look at her
mother carrying her baby in the
		
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			scorching heat, and she keeps
trying to shelter her baby with
		
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			her own body, not caring what
happens to herself, as long as her
		
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			baby has the sheath to protect
him. So the Prophet peace be upon
		
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			him looks at her and says to the
Companions, can you picture this
		
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			lady throwing her son in hellfire?
So the Companions replied, Oh, no
		
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			messenger of ALLAH. So he replied,
Allah subhanaw taala is more
		
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			merciful to you than that lady is
to her baby. span a lot. Your
		
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			mother is that walking mercy. You
are that walking mercy. Look at
		
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			what your mother has done with you
since you were born and try to
		
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			picture what His mercy is like
with you.
		
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			And I want to point out something
very important here. The day you
		
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			have become a mother, you have
become life proof of his mercy
		
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			Subhanallah your life proof.
That's why our doula is accepted.
		
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			No one can make dua for your child
and have those gates of heaven
		
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			open for him other than you,
because you're one of those 100
		
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			parts Subhan Allah, and Allah
subhanaw taala created a lot of
		
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			mercies right? The sun is a sign
of His mercy, water is a sign of
		
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			His mercy, the air we breathe as a
mercy. But all these mercies are
		
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			what?
		
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			Silent mercies. So he subhanaw
taala created a speaking personal
		
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			mercy for each one of us that
accompanies us night and day
		
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			through which you can be
acquainted to His Mercy subhanho
		
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			wa taala. And he subhanaw taala
prepares us as mothers in a way
		
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			that no one else can be like, not
even men. From the day you get
		
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			pregnant, the way you are set up
is a way that no other brain can
		
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			handle. For example, who would let
you anyone feed on their own
		
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			bodies sustenance and take from
their own minerals and calcium and
		
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			food to survive? And above that
you accept willingly? Where did
		
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			this mercy come from that I agree
my body will be taken from it on a
		
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			daily basis, my blood would be
taken from it and I would be happy
		
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			and willing. So from the minute
you carry that baby and tolerate
		
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			the pains and the nausea and the
contractions Subhanallah you're a
		
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			sign of His mercy, you're embodied
mercy. And that's why the Prophet
		
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			Muhammad Salah Selim says, with
the first contraction, all her
		
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			sins are forgiven. Can you imagine
you coming to give labor or to
		
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			give birth with a mountain of
sins, we all have sins. No one's
		
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			just you know, pure, unless you're
repenting on a daily basis in sha
		
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			Allah. And with that first minute,
you're honored with the title,
		
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			mother and the first contraction
hits, all your sins are forgiven.
		
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			Subhanallah never thought of that
before. And the Prophet Muhammad
		
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			wa salam says, I'd be entering the
prayer, and my intention is to
		
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			elongate prayer is beautiful. So I
hear a baby crying, I start
		
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			speeding up my prayer out of mercy
on his mother, and her compassion
		
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			towards her baby. Sounds like
		
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			the Prophet Muhammad says salam
had Giroud appreciate a greater
		
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			appreciation to the feelings of a
mother. Now do you know the story
		
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			of the Prophet saw a man peace be
upon him with the two ladies, when
		
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			he found two ladies who each had a
baby, and the wolf ate one of the
		
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			babies? And the two ladies were
screaming and crying, of course.
		
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			So one of the ladies said, this
baby is mine. And the other said,
		
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			No, it's my baby. The wolf ate
your baby. And they started
		
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			arguing. So they went to profit
though with Alehissalaam. And he
		
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			just did the baby was the older
ladies. So Prophet Solomon was
		
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			passing by, and he asked him,
what's wrong? So they told him
		
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			what happened? So he replied, What
scenes today man replied, saying
		
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			what? There's absolutely no
problem. We will bring a knife and
		
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			slit the baby in half. And each
one of you can get a half. Bring a
		
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			knife quickly. One of the lady
screams No, may Allah have mercy
		
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			on you. He's her son, I'm lying.
So the man replied, he's your son.
		
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			So the man knew that this
compassion would come out only
		
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			from a mother SubhanAllah. And he
wrote that the baby belongs to the
		
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			younger lady who said that the son
is not mine. Because she's so
		
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			scared. You're so worried about
her own sense of analog and
		
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			reversal of the crank comes down
about the same what the for her
		
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			net has to lay man, we made under
Sloman understand the compassion
		
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			of a mother SubhanAllah. That's
how he understood he knew that the
		
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			one that would really fear for the
death of her son was the one who's
		
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			going to speak out not the other
one. Okay, just about having a
		
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			child. You are very dear to Allah.
subhanho wa taala. And that's why
		
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			the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim
says about a mother raising her
		
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			child, she has the reward of the
one who is praying all night,
		
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			while fasting. Let her as you saw
him, I'll call him. So all the
		
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			carrying and the whining, and the
waking up 100 times during the
		
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			nights, and the lack of sleep that
we talk about is like you are
		
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			fasting all day, and praying all
nights panela How many children do
		
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			you have?
		
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			Yes, to? How many years? Have you
gone through this with each one of
		
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			them? Now sit down and calculate.
Do you see where Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala has put you you're caring
for your children and raising them
		
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			is fasting and praying all night?
Can you imagine? Which person can
		
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			fast and pray for four or five
years consecutively who can get up
		
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			every single day for five years or
four years? Can you tell me about
		
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			one person other than the Prophet
Muhammad says hello. Even when he
		
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			used to fast he used to fast one
day and break his fast one day are
		
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			used to fast Mondays and Thursdays
but fasting every day and getting
		
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			up every day in the middle of the
night to do Kremlin. Who gets that
		
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			reward? Subhan Allah motherhood,
something honored in the Quran
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala says What's
that oh Heiner Illa Omar Musa and
		
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			order a for either 50 Allah He for
Alfie phillium saying what? So we
		
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			sent this inspiration to the
mother of Moses saying, Suckle him
		
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			or nurse him
		
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			And then once you hear about him
cast him were into the river,
		
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			right? But if you think about it,
why was the you know, the scene of
		
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			nursing even mentioned or
described in the grand? Isn't the
		
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			main theme here when we're talking
about the serie of frown is what
		
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			if you're afraid to throw him into
the river? Right? Wasn't that the
		
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			whole concept if you're worried
about your son throw him. But why
		
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			was the other phrase even stated,
because this scene Subhanallah
		
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			this great shot had to be
mentioned in the Quran, the scene
		
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			of the mother nursing her child
Subhanallah something if you think
		
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			about it, the whole story is
talking about you know, seeing the
		
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			frown and how he saw you know, he
knew that somebody was going to
		
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			come in to overtake him and so he
decided to kill all the boys, you
		
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			know, and then say, you know, an
omen Musa had a boy so why would
		
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			you know a middle of this is like
doing okay, nurse the baby, but
		
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			then if you're afraid for him,
throw him into the river
		
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			Subhanallah you think about it
because it's showing you how great
		
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			what you're doing is okay. And why
all of this because you
		
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			impersonate has mercy on earth
against us, as we said in the
		
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			beginning. And because of you,
humanity can sit and picture what
		
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			the other 99 parts of Mercy of
Allah subhanaw taala would be like
		
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			we were just thinking during the
beginning of Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			has 100 mercies and he only sent
down one part, all the mercy that
		
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			we see on this earth is out of
this one part. And it was embodied
		
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			to us in the form of a mother in
front of you or your mother's
		
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			cannula. So you'd be able to
picture what the other 99 parts
		
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			are of Allah Smita that he is
going to show us on the Day of
		
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			Judgment in sha Allah.
		
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			Now I want to point something else
now a different idea
		
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			is a little bit weird, but just
bear with me. And that is
		
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			basically your the lap of this
life. Okay, what does that mean?
		
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			So Allah subhanaw taala created
what Adam and Eve with his own
		
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			hands, he says, What call a bliss
meme and a haka and test to the
		
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			Lima holiday to be at the bliss,
what has prevented you from bowing
		
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			down to what I have created with
my own hands? So Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala created you what? with his
own hands, okay, then Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala, destined for the
family to be with his command, and
		
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			through with the continuity of
what of reproduction or creation
		
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			on Earth, see the family again, or
the importance of family again
		
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			here, and then he appointed the
mother, because what you know,
		
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			because what he does, I'm sorry,
your point, and then he appointed
		
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			the mother, because what, what
does the father do, basically? Or
		
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			what is the job of the Father? You
know, he, he all his job is to
		
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			place what the sperm in the
mother's uterus, right? That's it,
		
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			that's his whole job. But you're
the mother, you're the laboratory
		
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			or the workshop of the life,
you're carrying the responsibility
		
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			of the continuation of humanity?
Subhanallah if you think about it,
		
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			do you understand the magnitude of
the mission assigned to that last
		
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			panel to Allah, the permanence of
this Earth depends on you as a
		
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			mother, you are very dear to Allah
subhanaw taala. And that's why
		
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			every month you have to go through
ovulation and hormones and pains
		
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			and cramping. It's the mission of
creation going in you every single
		
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			month Subhanallah it's such a huge
thing. If you think about it, the
		
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			mission of creation is taking
place in you. You're like a moving
		
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			lab, if you think about it really
spa, because the menstrual cycle
		
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			can be looked upon very
differently now, Southern impurity
		
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			and don't touch her like some
people, you know, or backwards
		
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			back home. They're like, Oh, don't
touch her, you know, and you have
		
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			this concept. So now Subhanallah
and that's why the Prophet
		
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			Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, when
he moved to Medina, he found the
		
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			Jews of Medina saying what? The
river lady has her menstrual
		
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			cycle, and she touches anything it
becomes what impure, that's what
		
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			they're understanding what was
sorry. So he wanted to change this
		
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			concept. And he would recite the
Qur'an in his lap when she had her
		
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			menstrual cycle, and to convey a
clear message to us, and when she
		
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			had her menstrual cycle, and she
would drink from a cup, he would
		
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			look for the place where she put
her lips on, and he would drink
		
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			from the same spot that she would
drank from right SubhanAllah. And
		
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			once he asked his wife almost
selama to hand him something. And
		
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			she replied, but I'm impure. You
know, I'm not praying. So he
		
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			replied, salallahu Salam, and is
the impurity in your hands. You
		
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			are pure. It's a part of the
mission that you're assigned to
		
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			Subhan Allah. And that's why Allah
subhanaw taala when he says
		
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			Nakazato Deen, like they're
lacking religion. He can never
		
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			mean what most people impose these
days. And that is you lack
		
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			religion, you don't have a proper
religion. No. It means you have
		
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			less days of worshipping, less
fasting and less praying, not a
		
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			negative lacking off as people say
Nakazato ocular, like they have a
		
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			lack of brain and religion, you
know, have some people convey
		
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			that. So why don't we pray and
fast because Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			has assigned to you a universal
mission. And in front of it, he
		
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			removed a mission of legitimacy
and mission of praying and fasting
		
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			because Allah subhanaw taala is
just an if he assigns you
		
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			something he has to enlighten
another burden off from you
		
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			Subhanallah and at the end,
everybody ends up caring much the
		
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			same, both genders men and woman,
okay, and actually Subhanallah you
		
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			have more rights than the men do
you know by His justice and by
		
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			honoring you to do this mission
Subhan Allah so those who say
		
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			Islam has oppressed woman I'll
tell them what Here you go.
		
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			One almost 100 Salah give this
role to men, you know if it was
		
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			such a such an important thing and
you think to yourself that you
		
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			have this mission in
		
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			New every single month it's a
workshop of humanity creation,
		
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			Khalifa loving visor, it's almost
$100 Earth, then why did he give
		
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			it to man? Or why did he say that
there were, you know, they don't
		
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			they lack religion, they don't,
it's lacking of the time of your
		
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			worshipping, because you have
something more important to do, or
		
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			something just as important to do.
		
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			And it's your duty to instill this
in your idea and your daughters as
		
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			they grow, that they're very dear
to Allah subhanaw taala. And they
		
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			have to learn how to honor that by
protecting and preserving
		
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			themselves Subhanallah and also to
instill it in our sons as they
		
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			grow, how to honor the mission
that is assigned to the people who
		
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			are going to become their better
house and child or their other
		
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			halves, and never to trespass
through limits and dealing with
		
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			girls, you know how to honor that
spawn a lot, okay. And subhanAllah
		
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			a girl from when she's little, she
gets prepared and loaded with that
		
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			compassion till she grows. And one
day becomes what a mother and
		
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			that's why psychiatrists explain
to you why a little girl, you
		
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			know, a girl Sorry, gets so
engrossed and, you know, playing
		
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			with a doll, and she wants to
dress her up, and she wants to,
		
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			you know, feed her and bathe her
and put her to sleep Subhanallah
		
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			she's being prepared. And there
was this trend going on in the
		
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			states around the 60s,
subhanAllah, you know, there's no
		
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			difference. Men and women are the
same. And what's the problem with
		
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			men staying home and woman going
to work and let them embrace the
		
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			woman, the kids, you know, and all
this pressure from all the
		
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			different women's organizations,
and we need liberation and woman
		
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			doesn't have, you know, have her
rights, and she's oppressed and
		
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			this and that, to the extent that
they started actually forcing toy
		
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			stores here in the States, to no
longer have aisles designated
		
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			specifically for boys and aisles
for girls, because that's called,
		
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			you know, differentiating between
genders, which shouldn't be done.
		
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			And they kept pushing on this idea
until toy company see they lost
		
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			millions of dollars, because the
kids would go, the boys would go
		
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			and it's just so confusing for
them. Subhan Allah and the girls
		
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			the same thing, until modern
science proved that the actions of
		
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			the embryo of a female inside the
uterus is different from that of a
		
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			male Subhan Allah. And then
articles started being published
		
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			to correct the idea that they're
not the same, there's a difference
		
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			or Allah subhanaw taala would have
just one had one gender, why is
		
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			there a man and why is there a
woman Subhanallah and then things
		
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			started going back to normal
again. And that's why you know,
		
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			you go to Toys R Us, you have
hamdullah girls, if you have a
		
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			voice, if you have, you know,
toddlers eyes, or whatever it is,
		
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			it's makes it even easier, you
know? So why did Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala give mothers all this
ability to have compassion,
		
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			because if you think about it,
without this compassion, this
		
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			whole world will be doomed.
Because if you picture a baby
		
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			being born, and there is no such
thing as a mother to care for him,
		
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			you gave birth, in between your
hands is a little piece of flesh,
		
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			that totally depends on you.
		
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			They don't know anything other
than you, okay? They know nothing
		
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			in this world. Now imagine if you
had no compassion or mercy in your
		
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			heart,
		
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			what's going to happen? What could
have happened to humanity, not
		
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			just your baby, through the most
important part of humanity, you
		
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			have to understand that you are
the most important of humanity,
		
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			you have such a huge role assigned
to it, but I was unable to handle
		
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			the existence of humanity depends
on you on your compassion as a
		
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			mother Subhanallah it depends on
you. And this compassion when you
		
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			show to your kids Subhan Allah, it
fills their hearts and then they
		
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			show back to you again, believe
me, sometimes we feel like you
		
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			know, we're always just kind for
always giving our kids the power,
		
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			they go through their phases,
whether they're little when they
		
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			have their tantrums, or they're
going through their teenage years,
		
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			and they're having their you know,
their emotional, you know, roller
		
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			coaster, you know, so Subhanallah
eventually, it does eventually
		
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			kick in Subhan Allah because they,
they can't, you can basically you
		
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			can plant roses and then have you
know, onions coming out. If you
		
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			plant roses, you'll have roses, if
you plan, you know, onions, you
		
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			find onions SubhanAllah. So
whatever you keep putting in them.
		
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			One day, Joel is going to come
out, you just have to have the
		
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			patience and you Subhanallah and
you have to always give it with a
		
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			compassion. And you'll see later
on how the Prophet Muhammad sai
		
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			Salam, whenever he came to
instruct the child, or give them
		
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			any kind of piece of advice, it
was always with either a rub on
		
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			the shoulder or on the head or a
little pat. You know, you'd be
		
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			selling them something instructing
them it would be in a way while he
		
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			was worth being compassionate.
Because if I come and tell you go
		
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			put away your clothes, I was like
okay, honey, can you please go
		
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			away put away your clothes. I'm
gonna touch the panel not as
		
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			doesn't miracles if you yourself
if you're you know, your child
		
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			comes in hugs you or your husband
comes in Pat's you, versus when he
		
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			comes and tells you something just
like that. The perception of it is
		
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			very different to you, right,
wrong. Cipolla, you take in a very
		
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			different way. And the same thing
with our kids. And we have to be
		
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			very careful with that. Try to
give a lot of compassion, just
		
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			make dua that Allah subhanaw taala
gives you the ability to have that
		
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			compassion because we get tired we
get it's it's very difficult. It's
		
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			very difficult. You know, we have
this cycle of vicious cycle of
		
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			life. It's not just that it's a
vicious cycle of life. You want to
		
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			get home, you want to make sure
their homework is done, you make
		
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			sure that they pray, you want to
make sure that their cars are
		
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			ready for the next day you make
sure that dinner is ready or to
		
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			make sure that their clothes are
on or your clothes are on and it's
		
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			you know everything is clean
before you go to sleep. So if it's
		
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			like let's call it schools elite,
you're rushing, rushing, rushing,
		
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			and then this one's looking back
on this one and this is taking her
		
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			time I don't know doing what or
this one's having a tantrum and
		
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			not listening. And at the end, you
find yourself your voice is this
		
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			big Subhanallah I mean, it happens
to all of us, but you just have to
		
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			keep breathing
		
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			I'm thinking to yourself, you know
what, just take the time kids need
		
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			the time, they really do. And I'm
saying this to myself before you,
		
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			you know, we need to just step
back and take a deep breath, you
		
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			know, it's not the kids fault that
they have to do this, and this and
		
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			this, and that, you know, and it's
not nice to have the child always
		
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			in that pressured atmosphere,
which always ends up happening,
		
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			you know, with all our demands of
life. It's not really, there's, if
		
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			you think about it, you want them
to have to stand by that and you
		
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			want them to have this done, but
it's not what they really need,
		
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			necessarily. But it's because with
this is what we need to do,
		
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			because you need to put them to
that because you want to have time
		
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			to do this and this and that. And
subhanAllah you they end up being
		
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			like, crushed, crushed, crushed,
crushed. So how are they going to
		
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			have this compassion back for us
if we don't give them that
		
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			compassion? So you have to step
back and really try try to go back
		
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			home and do today? Not even try,
try? Try give them a hug.
		
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			I know, finisher, I believe Matt
did the same thing on the phone. I
		
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			haven't seen them yet. But I did
the same thing. But you know, we
		
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			just have to really try to, you
know, take take a step back
		
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			because it doesn't make any good,
the more stress we put Subhanallah
		
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			it just feels more negative energy
in the home, it doesn't do any
		
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			good.
		
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			They do they do and they feel like
they're being pushed and shoved
		
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			around and you know, you know, I
know they have to learn how to
		
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			have to manage their time, but I
think it's just make a lot of diet
		
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			and just, you know, patients just
patients make the heart for
		
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			yourself and for them, you know,
make dua for yourself to Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala because your
patience and compassion, you know
		
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			with them, because that's what
they need. They need patience,
		
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			time compassion, and then miracles
works upon launch Allah inshallah.
		
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			Alright, so
		
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			and then if you think about it
from the first minute, Subhan,
		
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			Allah, Allah subhanaw taala grants
you the ability to decode your
		
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			baby's first cry, the father was
standing there not knowing what to
		
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			do. And I'm sure all of you
remember when you first had your
		
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			children. And you very calmly say,
no, no, he just needs to change or
		
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			he needs to burp. Oh, no, he needs
to nap. or something's hurting.
		
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			He's just probably his ear. He's
pleased when pulling away, it's
		
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			probably his ear, or whatever it
is, okay. And you can get the most
		
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			patient man on earth, I'm telling
you and wake him up out of his
		
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			sleep three times. All right, with
because the baby's crying. What's
		
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			what's going to happen the first
time like, okay, he'll go. Second
		
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			time, we'll go with a half and
then the third and like, Okay,
		
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			your child is not raised. Here's
your child. And then he goes, and
		
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			we're bunks outside on the couch.
I was like, I don't have to deal
		
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			with you. You don't know how to
raise the baby like the baby is
		
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			even today's Euro, you know, two
days old, you know, but they don't
		
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			have Subhan Allah Allah didn't
give them it's not about it's not
		
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			something as a dad about them,
it's just, they were not created
		
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			with that patient's not created
Subhanallah is that it's not
		
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			there's not they were not created
with it. So basically, Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala has this heavenly
secret in you, it's created with
		
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			you a secret that last panel to
Allah placed in you that no man
		
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			can explain or imitate. It's just
that that's the way it is. It's
		
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			not something that we chose to be
like. Or we say, Oh, we were
		
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			better than you in this or that is
just the way it was Panasonic
		
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			created us. And if you look at
men,
		
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			any man in general, they can only
focus on one mission at a time
		
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			meaning what, there's a man who's
a teacher, there's a man who's a
		
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			driver, or man who's a doctor, or
a man who's a professor, or a
		
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			tailor, or a chef, whatever. But
there is no man that can be all
		
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			these things at the same time to
look around you, these you won't
		
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			find them maybe rare one or two.
But the norm, the way I lost my
		
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			way is that a man can be focused
on one mission at a time. But you
		
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			as a mother by lost part of Dallas
will. And by that secret that he
		
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			put on you, you can accomplish all
these things at the same time. You
		
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			are the teacher through the Arabic
teacher, and the English teacher,
		
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			and the math and the science if
you have to. You're a great
		
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			doctor, Assistant. Your
pediatrician gives you
		
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			instructions, you go back home and
you follow every single
		
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			instruction without the slightest
mistake. You're a chef. Great
		
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			Chef, hopefully well, I'm not I'm
not gonna say I'm not a good chef,
		
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			but I cook. Okay, you're a
laundromat. You're a tailor,
		
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			you're a driver, you're a
professor in raising and
		
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			understanding the psychology of
your child. And agree trustor if
		
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			someone comes and tries to touch
your child's you turn into that
		
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			beast that could you know knock
down 10 Min Subhanallah What are
		
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			you
		
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			SubhanAllah? Think about it. What
are you? You are the secret of his
		
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			mercy on this earth on this earth?
Sorry. That's what you are. Do you
		
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			understand now? Why the reward of
the fasting praying all night?
		
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			Because you can do all these
things at the same time? How many
		
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			of you do it's like you can
multitask? Can't you? Every mother
		
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			I have seen on Earth can multi
chicken be doing a million things
		
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			she's she's cooking while she put
the first third of the laundry in
		
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			the you know, in the whatever. And
she's I don't know, you know, the
		
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			vacuum is running out of nowhere
and her son is she's following his
		
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			homework and preparing the lunches
for the next day. You can do a
		
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			million things at the same time.
And thinking in your head, what
		
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			you're gonna be planning for the
next day for the kids from
		
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			whatever activities and what
they're wearing and what's ready,
		
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			what's not ready a million things
that you can be doing at the same
		
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			time you're listening to their
arguments and correcting them, you
		
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			know, or trying to tell them you
know, this is the way to deal with
		
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			this with this is what you should
be doing. Subhanallah How can you
		
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			think about it? It's almost kind
of odd to have this ability to
		
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			make you have that mercy in you so
people can see what mercy is and
		
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			then they can picture His mercy
subhanaw taala
		
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			and so, another story that I would
want to share with you there was a
		
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			mother and
		
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			Her son was diagnosed with
something was very, very like he
		
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			was in intensive care. But no
visitors were allowed. No
		
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			touching. Now, if you come and
tell a father, you know, you can't
		
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			touch your son, you know, it's
different when he told the mother,
		
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			you can't touch your son when
they're sick. So this mother was
		
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			literally she was going crazy, she
was going insane. Like, how can
		
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			how can I not touch my son like my
son is ill. And if she touches
		
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			him, she's gonna get sick herself,
you know. So she sat thinking
		
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			should be standing behind the
glass watching her son for hours
		
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			and hours, and she wants to
communicate with him. So Pamela in
		
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			any sense, until she came up with
an idea, and she bought a torch,
		
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			two torches. And what they did was
they totally sanitized it, and
		
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			they gave it to the boy inside the
nurses. And she held one from
		
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			outside, and she would keep
flickering the light to him, and
		
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			he would flicker the light to
heart and playing together
		
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			Subhanallah just so that they
would have, she would have that
		
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			feeling that I'm actually
communicating with my son, like,
		
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			I'm not really touching him, but
the light that we're both holding
		
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			Subhanallah are touching each
other Subhan Allah Hamdulillah he
		
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			got fuel, fully cured after that,
but just something that I thought
		
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			was very, you know, very sweet.
And there was another like recent,
		
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			you know, some reason it's
something over the times that all
		
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			children you know, how they come
now tell you, you know, baby, you
		
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			shouldn't hold the baby, you're
going to get him used to being
		
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			carried and let them cry
themselves to sleep and whatever.
		
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			They've come now that kids who are
raised without being held and
		
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			touched are kids that grow up to
be definitely depressed.
		
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			Subhanallah and that's why I can I
can relate to the Prophet Muhammad
		
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			sigh Salam, how every time you
would instruct a child, it would
		
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			be what he's holding him patting
him or rubbing him on his head
		
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			Subhanallah because he knew the
effects of me just telling you
		
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			something versus me doing it when
I'm touching, you know, I'm saying
		
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			is power. So that's, you know,
basically so if you think about
		
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			it, you know, how do you do all
these things? Please sit and think
		
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			about it. Doesn't make any sense.
Sometimes people ask me, you know,
		
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			how are you teaching? I was like,
don't ask me it just happens. I
		
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			have no idea. Don't ask because if
I sit and think about it and write
		
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			it you're gonna think okay, this
is insane Subhan Allah but Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala because he will for
the continuity of humanity to
		
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			depend on you. Therefore he you
know he gave you or he granted you
		
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			the ability to perform all these
tasks at the same time. Again,
		
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			because you embody his mercy on
this earth's power.
		
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			So that's it for today. questions
please. Ideas sharing something?
		
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			I was thinking something like how
does she do when you put your
		
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			sketches Michelle on Facebook? Oh,
these were all these are before I
		
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			had kids
		
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			that was from the days of the
college don't worry
		
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			Oh, you saw my drawing stuff? Oh,
yeah. Yeah, I'm teaching
		
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			I I'm trying to cut back I'm
trying actually to cut back on
		
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			everything a lot because because I
really want to spend more time
		
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			with my kids. I just feel very
Yeah, I feel very lean. I mean
		
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			I feel like very
		
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			it's not fair to them. Like
they're not going to need me as
		
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			much later they will need me in
other ways. But now you know, I
		
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			just feel like they need this time
Jana you know, so I'm trying to
		
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			cut back on as please. Yes,
please. I'm trying to cut back as
		
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			many things as I can,
unfortunately, but I'm telling
		
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			when they grow a bit older chat a
long shot long shot.
		
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			I feel bad