Shadee Elmasry – Making People Feel Left Out

And also there's another type of justice or spying that occurs. And

that is you're sitting in the masjid or at a house or something,

and you hear two people talking, and you intentionally, you know,

stay put and keep listening. And you hope maybe you'll get some

information, maybe we'll get some juicy details of what's going on.

This is a type of to justice or spying that is prohibited. Now,

mind you that we have in our religion,

etiquette and manners on how to talk in public and how to talk in

private. When you are in public. If you're in any public room, you

should not be speaking of private matters, because you should expect

that anyone can show up and just join the table, sit on the table,

and sit with you guys. Okay, and enter the conversation. Now, if

you say if you all get silent, as soon as someone walks in, have you

ever had that experience, you're sitting with a group of guys,

okay, you're sitting with a group of guys or what have you. And then

all of a sudden, someone shows up or you you show up, and then all

of a sudden everyone goes silent, and it gets really awkward. Well,

this is highly, highly discouraged, and it bad manners.

And it's called this is even counts as other an ever any hurt

feeling of a Muslim, okay, is considered a minor sin. So even if

it's that minor, literally. So if you're in public, you should not

be engaging in a private conversation. If you want to

engage in a private conversation, you have to make it clear that

it's private by going somewhere else, far away from people.

Because anytime you have a private conversation in the midst of

people in a large group, the large group will naturally think that

something's odd is happening or like you're talking about them.

Likewise, if there are a group of people that speak a language, and

not everyone else does, those two people should not

talk should not speak in that language, or else everyone else

will think they're talking about them. Okay? Especially if there's

three people and two people all of a sudden break out in order to

what I mean, I see this all the time. I'm like, What do you have,

you know, o'clock at all? Okay, I'm going to start learning what

to do. Okay, in that case, so don't do this. And Arabs do it

too. Alright. Not like everyone does it right, that you start

talking in this in your own language, and you're leaving a

third person out and why do we have to say this because in

America, you get five Muslims, you're gonna have three or four

nationalities right there, right? You get four or five Muslims and

you're gonna have different nationalities even you might get

all Americans but they have their own little cultures subcultures

within being American. And if you're in a small group, you

should not we should be cognizant of making anyone feel left out.

Okay? Being anyone feel left out and if we're doing this

accidentally May Allah forgive us.