Shadee Elmasry – Is Phone ADDICTION Secretly Ruining Your Life

Shadee Elmasry
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The importance of privacy and privacy-related activities is discussed, including the use of phones for emergencies and the importance of privacy in privacy-related activities. People waste too much time on exercises all day and hours, scrolling and wasting hours, and are not professional coaches or coaches. The algorithm knows people better than they know themselves in the same way as the nafs do, and parents should reset their happiness and achieve a phase of hard work to achieve " dissatisfaction" and "opioidSASA." The negative impact of plastic pollution on children is also discussed, including their eyesight, teeth, hair, skin, and skin.
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This usage can be regulated.

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Why we are addicted is because we don't

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regulate it.

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There's no things that all right, I'm going

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to be on social media from this hour

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to this hour.

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And at 7pm, I'm going to put it

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actually in the trunk of my car, like

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as if I buried it like a mafia

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buries a body, right?

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And, and it's not coming out.

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Your life is going to be different.

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Like, how much Twitter is enough?

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How much WhatsApp is enough?

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Like, do I have to be do my

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colleagues at work have to be able to

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call me at any time?

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The answer is no.

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Right?

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How when does this thing begin is the

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other thing I'll tell you what's the worst

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thing to start your day off on the

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wrong track is to wake up and the

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first thing is you reach for your phone.

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That's why I don't even sleep with it

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in the room.

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I consider it like a rat, a mouse,

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right?

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I don't want to sleep with it in

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the room a cockroach.

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Don't sleep within the room.

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I got my flip phone for emergencies.

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My flip is for emergencies.

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Anyone want to reach me after hours on

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emerge on the flip?

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This thing this devil is the devil of

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taking away my attention.

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It's it ruins up my schedule.

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All right, we schedule wake up.

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All right, you're gonna want to work out.

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30 minutes, just light work.

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Then I'm gonna read for then there's fetch

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pray fetch.

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Then I'll have a nice cup of coffee

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and sit with the computer and start working.

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That's the first two hours of your day

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or whatever.

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Six to eight or something like that.

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This thing will throw that off so quick.

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You won't even know what happened.

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It'll be AP 8am you did zero.

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And you feel accomplished because you answered some

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WhatsApp and you made some tweets and you

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got a call up to date on what

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who's doing what this is such a waste.

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So this thing has to be buried into

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your trunk.

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Right and use your flip phone for emergencies.

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But it's all about saying this is where

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it starts and this is where it ends.

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And that's staying ahead of the of the

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curve rather than being dictated and succumbing to

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something.

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100% like you know, I'm sure some

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people listening to this like, you know, oh,

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man, this guy just he just play exercises

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all day.

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And there's all these thoughts like, you know,

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Oh, it must be nice.

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He lives in Turkey.

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He seems to exercise all day and all

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this kind of stuff.

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And, and I understand where that comes from.

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You know, I understand where those thoughts come

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from and that kind of stuff.

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But I can't tell you how many hours

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people waste.

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And like, well, like I run a company,

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you know, I have a company that does

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other things.

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I guess I'm not a professional athlete or

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professional coach or do 114 for a living.

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This is just my side stuff.

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Like, I have real like have my job,

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my work, my company, my other things.

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I have four kids, I have a wife.

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But people waste so much time, scrolling hours

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and hours.

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And I sound like I know what I

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know is that no one's stronger than the

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algorithm.

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No one is stronger than the algorithm.

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Like, you can because what people don't understand,

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like why the phones are so addictive is

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that if you read the book hooked, you

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know, they've learned how to hack the dopamine

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response systems, like they know how to hack

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dopamine, how to make you feel good very

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quickly.

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You said nobody's stronger than who?

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The algorithm.

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I see, I see, I see.

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The algorithm is almost like a nafs in

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that it knows you better than you know

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yourself.

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Like, you know, it has a tactical advantage.

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It knows, the algorithm knows you better than

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you know yourself in the same way as

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the nafs knows you better than you know

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yourself.

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Well, you know, Shaykh, your qareen knows you

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better than you know yourself.

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Your qareen has been observing your habits.

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And that guy's been alive for how many

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thousand years, that jinn?

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And he's, you're like assignment number 5000 for

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him.

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Exactly.

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That's the algorithm.

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The algorithm is your qareen.

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Like, it's infinitely smarter than you.

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It knows a lot more than, it's probably

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listening to us, you know.

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And so, what you said was, is exactly

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right.

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Like, no one's stronger.

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Like, that's why you physically have to put

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it away.

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Like, even when I'm doing a training class,

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like in my professional capacity, I have to

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tell the people to put the phones away

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from their eyesight because I am fighting something

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that's just...

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You can't win.

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You cannot win.

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And most people have this in their families.

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When their families, there's certain times that it's

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time to be together.

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The phone can't be in sight.

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Like, you just cannot stop except for reaching

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for it.

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And if I'm not reaching for it, I'm

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thinking about not reaching for it.

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I'm telling you, it's, again, I don't know

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what we're doing to our kids between the

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phone, energy drinks, the food that we're feeding

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them.

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Well, that's why they're all screwed up.

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They have so many issues.

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Their teeth are crooked, their eyesight's crooked, their

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hair is frayed, they don't sleep right, their

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skin doesn't look good.

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We're producing a whole generation of screwed up

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kids.

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It's not our fault in 100%, but there's

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a lot that we could do.

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Like, I'm really worried about microplastics, but what

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are you going to do about it, right?

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But this stuff we can do something about.

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Yeah, yeah, exactly.

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I mean, there is stuff, but the problem

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is, even as parents, our attention is so

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fixated on these things.

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We're not paying attention to these kids.

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It takes a lot of attention of us

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as parents to go and monitor what they're

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doing.

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I gave my son his first smartphone when

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he was 17.

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You know how hard that is?

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That's like going to war.

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Because his friend started getting him when he

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was 12.

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Now I'm dealing with my daughter who's 16,

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and it's just so much easier to say,

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fine, just, you know.

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And let me tell you something else, too,

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is that when it comes to these devices,

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besides all the parents, there are controls on

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Apple.

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Apple's trying to win over parents, and they

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have a lot of ways to control it.

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But the other thing is that, again, it's

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got to be handed in at some point.

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I put mine away on a good day.

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When it's a good day, I put mine

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away, and I control it.

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If I don't control it, it's a bad

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day, right?

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It's literally a bad day.

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The whole day is spun out of control,

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so I missed the workout, missed this.

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Now I'm just like...

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And then you can get yourself embroiled if

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you're undisciplined talking to people online.

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You step on some mines and stuff, right?

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Because think about what you said.

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You had a bad day, and so you

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want to feel good.

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You want dopamine.

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The easiest way to feel good...

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Because humans want to avoid feeling bad.

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That's why the makers of these phones and

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apps know.

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We don't want to feel bad.

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We don't want to feel uncomfortable with being

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bored in the bathroom.

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So they know that.

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We can't even handle the discomfort of the

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boredom of going to the bathroom.

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Crazy, crazy, man.

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It's crazy.

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Crazy.

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We can't go to the bathroom without these

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things anymore.

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We didn't grow up that way.

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We grew up, you and I, without these

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things.

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There was such a thing as boredom.

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Yeah, such a thing as boredom.

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It's the end of boredom.

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Yeah.

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The end of boredom is a very weird

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feeling because I distinctly remember Sunday evenings, there's

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nothing going.

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And you are just bored out of your

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mind all of Sunday afternoon.

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And you're, in a sense, a bit depressed

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by it.

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And that's a part of life.

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But then the next thing, what you did

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is that you reset.

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Because now you can enjoy the next thing.

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And the next thing can be a big

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deal again.

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Why can it be a big deal?

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Because you went down a hill, now you

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can go up a hill.

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Now the next hill that appears has meaning

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to you.

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You can feel something.

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Now we have a situation where no one

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is ever bored.

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So the hill just has to keep going

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up.

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There's nothing that excites anyone anymore because you're

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always up, never go down.

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There was, if you understand happiness in this

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world, when something great happens to you, when

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you're at a height of happiness, don't try

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to keep it going.

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You have to accept yourself to now have

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a phase of hard work and no results

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and boredom and nothing great is happening.

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That's what I call resetting.

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You have to reset.

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And if you just want to be happy,

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happy, happy, that's like sugar, sugar, sugar, you're

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going to get diabetes.

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And spiritual diabetes is you cannot no longer

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see right from wrong.

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All you want to do is gouge upon

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happiness.

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Which is the surefire way to misery and

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