Shadee Elmasry – Ingredients of a Good Kid – NBF 421

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The importance of shaping one's appearance to fit in Islam's culture is emphasized, along with the need for strong faith in the Prophet's name and affirmations in life. The segment also touches on sharia and the loss of consciousness, as well as the use of Ozempic and its potential side effects. The speakers emphasize the importance of bathing washing clothes and removing surface, as well as the potential side effects of Ozempic and its potential side effects. They also emphasize the importance of being happy for one's parents and avoiding negative health impacts, while providing examples of how people experience negative behavior and avoid trying to take a job or job-related work.
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ya jamaat al khair never leave off your
dua ever ever ever losing hope is not
allowed not an option just keep going just
do one more day put it in and
everything is like that everything in life is
just give it one more day see what
happens you have a bad day don't make
any decisions just sleep it off don't think
about it you have a bad day your
matter is looking out of hand or out
of it's not gonna work don't think about
it leave it for the day go to
sleep distract yourself from it next day give
it another shot you may need to forget
about it for a week you may need
to forget about it for a month all
right let's get back to it later right
that's that's what you got it that that's
a way to achieve anything in life you
have a complete bombshell disaster all right you
got to just sleep it off keep living
move on then when the dust settles get
right back at it and that's how you
that's how you do it Dua
So, he received the answer to his prayer
on that day.
And that's why we make that du'a.
All right.
Go to the top one there.
Nope.
Next one.
Yeah, that one.
The question is, what is the ruling in
the Maliki school on wearing a belt over
your ihram?
Okay.
Wearing a belt in ihram for the purpose
of holding your ihram up is forbidden.
And one who does this is required to
make tawbah and pay fidya.
The only exception is if they're working such
a job that would make their izar fall
off.
The izar is the lower garment.
An example, you're unloading luggage.
So for that moment, you're up and down
from the back of the truck onto the
road, back and forth.
You can put a belt around your izar
just because you're working.
But as soon as you remove that, you're
done with that, you remove such a belt.
As for a belt that is what they
call the ihram belt, that carries your passport
or your money, maybe probably not your passport,
but your money, your ID, your what have
you.
If it's a necklace ID, you may wear
it and better off put it in your
belt.
That belt can be worn around your body
or across your chest, but it may not
be used to hold up either your top
or bottom of the ihram.
Scroll to the picture, Omar.
So you see this?
You may wear such a belt across or
over, but it should, over your belly button
or across your chest, but it shall not
be for the purpose of holding up your
ihram.
That's it.
That's how simple it is.
So that's our little fiqh discussion point.
All right.
Today we're going to talk about parents.
What is the, um, all
right.
Somebody brought this to my attention.
In the 1960s, there was a practice called
swinger Satanism.
It's basically Shaitan's method of getting the hearts
dark and basically, um, husbands and wives, they
would just like swap basically.
Guys would swap wives and it's all zina.
That zina, it's an attempt to darken the
heart so Shaitan could access your heart.
It's like a magnet.
If there's a positive and you're negative, they'll
have an attraction.
So Shaitan only attracts towards sins and najasa.
The heart that doesn't have sins in it
and the body that doesn't have najasa, that
Shaitan has a very difficult time getting to.
And if it's the opposite, then angels do
have an easy time whispering good things to
that person.
So somebody sent me this and said, please
publicize this and warn everybody.
I'm going to read it.
This is a Facebook.
A prominent imam in Chicago and another practicing
Muslim informed me.
So this is Khabar Ahad and the person
is unknown or unnamed.
That there is now a practice called chabbi
parties happening in the Muslim community.
I'm not going to say the ethnicity so
nobody thinks I'm picking on them.
Married couples come to a home.
The men put their keys in a bowl.
Women randomly put their hand in the bowl
and draw out a key.
So for example, if it's a BMW key,
she then goes and hangs out with the
owner of that car.
So it's going to be one of the
guests essentially.
That's very odd that people would do this.
But essentially, if such a thing is actually
happening.
This is a prominent Muslim sent this to
me.
Who knows how to fact check.
I'm not going to read the rest of
it, but you get the idea.
The Muslim community?
They're doing this?
I can't fathom it myself.
The Muslim community has a...
I can't fathom it myself, but you go
and look.
Okay, we're reading it, but we've also put
where it is.
We didn't say it's a fact.
We said that two people are narrating it.
Both are Majhool.
But a prominent person is sending it to
me.
Please warn everybody.
Tell them this is haram.
I guess we all know it's haram, right?
Nobody doesn't know that that's unlawful.
But just for the sake of forbidding something
that's wrong, at least we've done our part
in that.
Let's get to Birul Waladin.
What's the title of this live stream?
Some people have a question on Birul Waladin.
At what point do I not have to
obey them?
Well, put it simply.
Go by the sacred law.
If something is obligatory and they're telling you
not to do it, not only is it
permitted for you to disobey them, it's obligatory
for you to do what your Lord has
obligated and avoid and not obey them.
If they're commanding you to do something forbidden,
obviously same thing.
You're obligated to disobey them.
Not possibly.
Obligated.
All right?
You're obligated.
What about if he's telling me not to
do a sunnah?
Or, the opposite end of the spectrum, to
do something makrooh.
In that case, you try to do the
sunnah privately.
So, let's say your father comes and says,
let's go praying Fajr right now.
No sunnah for you.
I want to go back to sleep.
So, in that case, you would pray Fajr
with him and then you could make up
that sunnah after the sun's risen.
That's an example.
Brothers are saying, what chai is ajeeb?
You always say chai ajeeb.
Shay ajeeb.
A strange thing.
Shay ajeeb.
And this brother really wants to know, where
is Allah Ta'ala according to the asha
'ira?
In the aqeedah of all Muslims, we reject
something called hulool.
Hulool.
Hulool is for the creator to enter into
his creation.
Why is that?
If God entered his creation, then that is
a type of...
Does that make him more perfect?
Or less perfect?
Or nothing?
Right?
So, can you put an infinity into a
finite set?
Let's say I have a set from one
to a thousand.
Or one to a hundred billion.
Or one to...
Google.
Isn't Google a number?
Whatever a closed set, can infinity fit in
that set?
It can't go into that set.
So, al baqi, al azali, al qadeem, it
is inconceivable for the infinite to enter or
to be equal to what is finite.
And notice we say inconceivable, not impossible.
Because you're basically no longer infinite.
So, what is inconceivable is two opposite things.
Square circle is an inconceivable thing.
For the infinite, for the qadeem, and baqi,
and azali.
Infinite.
No beginning, no end.
No limits.
To now have limits, you essentially are asking,
you're negating the creator at that point.
You're negating his essential attributes.
So, we say that the creator never enters
his creation.
And the creator, to have a location, will
require, in our conception of things, to have
a jismah.
It's our conception of things.
For the creator to be in a location,
he has to have a body.
Because locations, essentially, are the places of bodies.
That's what a location is, if that's what
you're asking.
So, therefore, the creator is transcendent beyond having
locations.
And his hulu is hulu al-manzilah.
His highness is the highness of his rank
as the creator.
Superiority.
Not a highness of a jismah.
And no two Muslims will disagree on the
negation of a body, or a jismah, for
the creator.
Alright, let's get back to this tafsir.
You would be recommended to hide that behavior
from your parents.
What if I can't hide it?
Such as a beard.
My beard is farid in some madhabs, and
sunnah in the other, and makrooh to shave
it in some, and haram to shave it
in some.
The shafi'iyya have the most...
They do not obligate the beard.
They hold it to be a sunnah.
And they hold shaving it to be makrooh.
So, what happens if my father were to
tell me that?
Then, as long as there is a madhab
out there, in which you can possibly fit
both, following your father and not fulfilling a
prohibition, or an obligation, then you would follow
that.
But once you become independent, then you no
longer have to follow that.
So, you're a working man.
You're a doctor and a surgeon, and your
dad just doesn't like the fact that you
have a beard.
Khalas, you're an independent man.
There's no obedience there.
So, he asked this question, because surah Luqman
is all about this.
Be grateful to Allah.
What's the difference between hamd and shukr?
Hamd is to thank the creator by praising
him.
Shukr is to be grateful for a gift
by using it in its proper location and
benefiting others by it.
That's the difference between hamd and shukr, according
to one of the scholars.
That's one of the breakdowns.
When you practice shukr, you are benefiting yourselves.
If you want the increase of a blessing,
you need to give shukr for that.
You want more money?
Give out money.
There's a lot of salihin, they say when
they're in need of money, the first thing
they do is give more money.
Go give some more sadaqah.
Is there a sister kid section if we
visit New Jersey to see NBF and we've
been listening since NBF 37?
Amazing.
So, what we can arrange, if that's the
thing, to have any some of one of
our maharam here and the sister can sit
there, or if it's some of our locals
can come, so that you're not the only
sister here.
And the studio, sometimes it's me and Omar,
sometimes it's me, Omar, and like 10 guys.
So, it depends.
And it's pretty small space, and a very
small entry too.
So, we can arrange it though.
InshaAllah, no problem.
Bring one of the maharam here and at
least you won't be all alone.
And especially if you have children, inshaAllah, maybe
we'll bring some other children here.
He continues and he says, وَإِذْ قَالَ لُقْمَانُ
لِبْنِهِ وَهُوَ يَعِظُهُ Luqman, he's giving his son
advice.
And Allah Ta'ala broadcast this advice to
the entire Ummah by placing these words in
the Quran.
يَا بُنَيَّ لَا تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ إِنَّ الشِّرْكَ لَظُلْمٌ
عَظِيمٌ So, here's a funny question people ask.
Well, it's not funny, it's a good question.
Well, is this Luqman's words first or Allah's
words first?
So for that, we have to go to
a very simple basic point of Aqidah.
There's nothing that exists at all except it
is the will of Allah Ta'ala and
it is known to Allah pre-eternally.
Then he manifests it on the tongue of
Luqman before revealing it in the Quran.
Of course, the Quran is written in the
Lawh al-Mahfuz as is the action of
Luqman.
So Allah Ta'ala manifests both words, the
same words and it could be, of course,
Luqman didn't speak Arabic.
Sayyidina Luqman spoke a different language.
So it's the Arabic, the Quran is in
Arabic and Luqman's words were this meaning in
his own language.
Alright?
But ultimately, the Aqidah of all events, every
single thing that happens is by the will
of Allah.
Therefore, Allah is never reacting to the creation.
Oh, that was a good thing.
Let me put it in the Quran.
It's not like that.
Alright?
Every single thing is by the will of
Allah known to Him from pre-eternity.
So someone may say, well then why should
I make du'a?
Well, because when you receive something after du
'a, you're receiving a lot more.
You're receiving of something.
When your du'a is answered, you're getting
something that has been predestined for you already.
But when it's preceded by du'a, you're
receiving Iman, Barakah, blessing, protection.
So you could receive a wonderful blessing, but
it comes back to haunt you.
It's bad for you.
How many nice, wonderful things turn out to
be to cause more harm and pain in
your life?
Plenty.
A lot of examples like that.
But when something comes to you preceded by
du'a, that thing that comes to you
is now enshrouded with blessing, enshrouded with, covered
with, with all sorts of protection and increase
of Iman and pleasure of Allah and many
other things.
And that's why to receive something after du
'a, yes, you would have received it either
way, but not with all the blessings.
And that's the difference.
And what is blessing?
Blessing is that, number one, this thing in
your life, this new thing in your life
actually makes you happy.
Because not everything can make you happy.
So many people make a prayer.
It doesn't make them happy.
They get what you wanted.
So what Leo Tolstoy says in Anna Karenina,
for those of you who know your literature,
one of the guys at the end of
the movie says, I made the mistake that
everyone else makes.
I thought that getting all my wishes fulfilled
would make me happy.
So we say about that, if your desires
were fulfilled without any remembrance of Allah, neither
following Sharia nor praying nor thanking Him, then
your wishes will not make you happy.
But if you attained all your goals and
dreams through submission and prayer and followed it
up by recognizing that this was from the
Creator and giving it, it's du'a, sharing
it, being thankful for it, not using it
for what's forbidden, then it is a blessing,
true blessing that will make you happy in
this life and rewarded in the next life.
That's the difference.
So it's not one or the other.
And it could be a gradient.
That's why people, when they get married, if
you get married through an unlawful means and
you're wishing for this marriage for years and
you do it through an unlawful means to
the degree that you disobeyed God in the
process, you're going to be unhappy.
That's if Allah loves you.
Because when Allah loves believers, He removes their
sins in this life before the next.
So you're going to receive it either way.
That's what people say.
What was the point of making du'a?
The point was all the blessing out of
it.
Blessing is to be happy with your ni'mah.
It's that a little bit goes a long
way.
That's the meaning of barakah.
A little bit goes a long way.
And then you need protection.
This thing could be the doorway to a
lot of hardship.
I married the woman of my dreams.
Our kids were nightmares.
Happens, right?
So you don't want anything without divine blessing.
You don't want anything without divine protection.
So this is the understanding of everything being
in the divine will.
Everything being Allah's creation.
Pringle Single says, Can we talk about how
to approach marriage, since we did mention marriage
here, for a convert woman?
Yeah, we'll talk about that.
I give you the brief summary of it
is that a convert woman would want to
have friends in the community who would act
as their family almost.
And don't think that this is new.
It's not new.
In the old times, when a person entered
Islam, he became a maula.
He became associated with one of the Arab
tribes.
Because at that point, Islam was like 100
% Arabs.
Now, like a few converts come in, but
how do they integrate into that community?
You basically get adopted.
That's what a maula is.
He's like an adoptee of a tribe.
They take care of your affairs insofar as
people are needed.
When you need other people, those are your
people.
When you need protection, if you accidentally hurt
someone and you have to pay a diya,
a financial penalty, they help you pay it.
If you want to get married, they help
you get married.
All those types of things.
So I think that we should adopt that
here.
If you convert in a community, you see
who are your friends in that community.
And there's no formal agreement to this, but
generally you go to them for help.
And they become almost akin to an adopted
family.
They become akin to your adopted family.
And they'll help you get married, help you
do everything, help you meet people, etc, etc,
etc.
All right, we continue on here with the
tafsir of Surah Luqman.
First thing, do not associate partners with Allah
for this is a severe oppression.
What is an oppression?
Am I oppressing God?
Yes, it's His right to be worshipped.
You gave that right to an idol.
Remember, Islam came on the backdrop of idolatry.
So idolatry is not just that it's multiple
gods.
Because I always tell students that, all right,
what happens if a Hindu comes and says,
all right, I got rid of all the
gods and I only worship one God, this
idol right here.
We have a store here called Padadar.
You go in there for the highly selective
daisy things like Wag Bukhari tea.
They also sell Sukkari dates, the only people
in the area.
But you go at the end of the
register and they're selling many different gods, 9
.99 a pop.
Okay, and the latest one I saw and
I couldn't believe I had to take a
picture of it The Rat God.
Yeah, I'm not kidding you.
The Rat God.
Now I have some Hindu friends or I
would say associates that I don't want to
offend.
So I'm not offending you by this.
Because I know that most American Hindus, there's
no way you're actually gonna, even if this
was like for fun, right?
You know, like even if the whole thing
is for fun, right?
Why would you put a rat?
Statue.
And if you believe it's your god, why
would you make it out of plastic and
sell it for 9.99?
I'm telling you, if it's your god, even
if it's a symbol of your god.
You know the Umar ibn al-Khattab, once
a man made a Mus'haf that was
small.
He had some Quran written on a very
small piece of paper.
Umar said, عظم كتاب الله ومن يعظم شعائر
الله Write it big.
The Quran should be big.
We should not have these little بركة مصاحف
I don't know what to do with this
now.
How do I recycle this?
Okay.
So, it doesn't make any sense.
So let's say a Hindu comes and says,
all right, I have one idol.
Can I come into the interfaith monotheistic meetings?
No, you can't.
You're not a monotheist.
Why?
Because you got the mono part right, but
not the theist part.
God is transcendent beyond the creation.
He is not a created thing.
That's the intellect tells you that.
The intellect tells you, if your God is
a thing in the world, he could not
have created the world, because that thing in
the world is subject to being composed of
matter, is subject to limitations, is subject to
gravity, is subject to created things.
So could not have created the whole thing
if the rules of creation apply to it.
If your God was a really big guy,
but that guy, he needs, he has limits.
He has subject to gravity, he's subject to
time, he's subject to place, he's subject to
location.
If he's subject to those things, how did
he create them?
If he's subject to these laws of physics,
how did he create those laws then?
So the creator cannot be, is not, it's
inconceivable, it's contradictory to deem the creator to
be subjected to the laws of creation.
Can he subject himself?
It's inconceivable too.
Can he not be himself then?
That's what you're asking.
Can God not be God?
And that would be a lowering of his
rank.
Can Michael Jordan lose to a high school
basketball team?
Oh, he's not, he can't do something.
I discovered what he can't do.
No, that you've lowered him in that case.
He's transcendent beyond creation and all of its
limitations.
So from both ways, from just the rational
way and the moral way.
The rational route is to say you're asking
if God cannot be God anymore.
By saying can he stop being transcendent and
become limited.
Secondly, the moral way we say you're asking
for him to lower himself.
That's not an impossibility in the sense of
you say, oh, a negative impossible.
Oh, he can't do it.
He's limited.
That's not a limitation I should say.
It's not a limitation when the transcendent never
lowers himself to being limited.
You see, this is the Tawheed 101.
We call this the mono part, the one
God part is Tawheed.
But the theist part to believe in the
creator of the universe, not an idol, that's
the theist part.
We call that Tenzih.
Tawheed is not the only doctrine.
When we say Tawheed, it includes Tenzih.
Tenzih is, this is what the religion came
for, to negate idolatry in its numbers and
its paganism.
The number of gods and the nature of
the God itself.
An intellect would never accept such a God
that itself is subjected to the thing that
it's purportedly created.
How?
Just logically speaking.
If he's subjected to it, how did he
create it in the first place?
Hence, the creator is transcendent and he never
enters his creation or comes in the physical
form.
And that's what the Dajjal does.
He comes in a physical form and he
tells people, I'm your God.
The second thing that Luqman orders his son
to do is establish Salah.
This is the foundations of a good kid.
You want to know the foundation of a
good kid?
We all want a good kid.
Because Zagh is really into this and he
says it makes too much sense.
He's in pain by how much sense this
makes.
Tawheed and Tenzih.
Tawheed and Tenzih.
Zagh is in pain for how much sense
this makes.
He's saying, please stop.
You're making too much sense.
And he's also reminding up at the top,
he said, don't forget your Dua was also
destined to.
Everything is destined.
Alright, that's when we talked about the Dua
before.
So if you want to have a good
kid, the ingredients of a good kid is
number one, that kid has to believe in
Allah.
And when you teach kids about Allah, you
teach them Tawheed and Tenzih.
And this makes logical sense.
Let's just go to the Indian store and
see why we are monotheists.
Does it make any sense?
Okay, the rat god is a symbol.
Symbol of what?
A huge rat?
And don't say, oh, you're talking about Hinduism,
you haven't studied it.
And I'm not going to study it.
Certain things, the moment you see one ingredient
in it, I'm not looking, I'm not studying,
and I'm not, don't tell me, don't talk
about Hinduism when you haven't studied it.
And I'm not going to study it.
What I've seen is enough.
The idolatry we've all seen is enough.
Don't now come with gymnastics telling us that,
no, there's more to it, it's symbolic, it's
really intelligent, really smart.
If it's really intelligent, why is it producing
stupidity?
I'm sorry to tell you that.
Again, not to insult any of my Hindu
associates, and I have in the community here
a couple of people I do some business
with that are Hindus.
And I don't want to insult them.
I don't insult them.
And I can guarantee you, there's no way,
there is no way this rational being in
front of me actually believes this.
It's just culture for them.
It's just culture.
And that's not to say that we're allowed
to just do anything that's culture, but for
them, I can guarantee you, they don't believe
in it.
It's just culture for them.
Okay?
It's like someone tells you, one plus one
is three.
Read this 200-page book.
Exactly.
I'm not reading a tome, a book, or
I tell you about the Trinity, what Omar
just said.
I'll tell you what Catholics will say and
what they will not say.
They'll say it has an explanation.
I guarantee you what they will not say.
It's, oh my gosh, this sets my mind
at ease.
They will never say that.
If your number one doctrine doesn't set your
mind at ease, then what will?
Right?
What will?
But go to any Muslim and says, what
is this?
There's one God.
He's not like the creation.
He did not enter into the form of
Jesus.
And I talked to him directly.
I don't need to go to a priest.
And all I had to do is, Muhammad
is the prophet.
I got to pray and fast.
And there's no church.
There's no organization I have to sign up
with.
There's no one I have to check in
with.
This is wonderful.
This sets my life at ease.
Right?
Sets my mind at ease.
Guarantee you, you will not find one priest
or Catholic theologian.
And again, I do have some Catholic associates,
more Hindus here in this area than Catholics.
And I'm not meaning to offend you guys.
You know, the more people you know, the
less you can say, because you're going to
offend somebody that you know, unfortunately.
But not one of them will say, this
doctrine sets my mind at ease.
The number of people who say that?
Zero.
But that's what they say when they read
Surah Al-Ikhlas, which negates eight kinds of
shirk and kufr.
In four, what is it?
Four ayahs?
قُلْ هُوَ اللَّهُ أَحْدَ اللَّهُ السَّمَدُ لَمْ يَرَدُ
وَلَمْ يُرَدُ وَلِمْ يَكُنَّ أَوْقُفُنَا أَحْدَ That's it.
They say, it sets my mind at ease.
It does.
All right.
What do we do then about the verses
and Ahadith that would seem to imply that
God is in the universe moving around?
Okay.
Such as the Prophet ﷺ was two bows
length away from God.
Or that God comes down to the sky
of the earth in the last third of
every night.
And he asks, who's seeking forgiveness?
Who is?
Well, in the same way that you're going
to interpret away ignorance from God.
When Allah says, who is seeking forgiveness?
Who out here needs anything?
Do you think it implies God's ignorance?
You can't say that, right?
You have to negate that.
Therefore, you must say, it is an expression
of enticing people to seek forgiveness.
God is looking to give forgiveness to people.
You think he doesn't know?
So just as you interpret that part, you
believe in it.
We believe in it.
Number one, we negate what is inconceivable for
the creator based on the creator's own words.
Based on the creator's own words.
He is Al-Alim.
He knows everything, right?
So he clearly is, that question is not
based on ignorance.
Likewise, the other part, the creator coming into
the universe is called Hulul.
We negate that.
So what does it mean?
Well, Malik said, it's an angel that comes
down or his affair that comes down or
his command that comes down.
It is something that is not the essence
of God entering the universe because that's called
Hulul and that's the Christian belief that God
entered into Jesus.
So that's how we interact with the verses
that would seem to negate the transcendence of
God beyond the universe and its creation and
its laws and everything else.
That's basically called At-Tanzeeh.
Sarful Ma'ana An-Dhahirihi.
Anything else we need to add on that,
Omar?
Yeah.
Qala.
Number two.
You teach your kid Tawheed.
You teach your kid Tawheed.
Tawheed involves Nabuwwah too.
Why does it involve Nabuwwah?
We wouldn't even know God's name without prophethood.
Risalah, prophethood, revelation is hand in hand with
belief in God.
You would not even know that.
It's amazing.
Someone says, what if I believe in God
but no prophets and I'm really good to
people, do I still go to paradise?
How do you even know paradise exists?
How do you even know what good is?
But why would you even believe that paradise
exists unless a prophet told you?
You're taking the remnants of what you know
about prophets and God and revelation.
You wouldn't even know God's name, that his
name is Allah.
You wouldn't even know what a good deed
is and you have no reason to believe
in life after death.
If you use your reason alone.
Reason is a wonderful thing but revelation is
where you're going to learn everything.
Really, revelation is...
The Muslim, once he is fully established then
he can defend his faith against the attacks
of atheists and Christians and everyone else.
Then he should really immerse himself in hadith,
in revelation, in that element of the religion,
the transmission element of the religion.
That's all you need.
And when you go to a place like
Mauritania or Yemen, they hardly do the rational
proofs.
There's no kafir out there questioning their faith.
The guy will live in Terim and die
in Hadramout, Yemen probably never seeing an atheist
in his life or a Christian in his
life.
That will throw something at him of a
doubt or anything.
He won't see it.
So what does he need that for?
They don't need it.
So when we talk about...
Here he says, يَا بُنَيَّ لَا تُشْرِك بِاللَّهِ
Learning tawheed in learning nubuwwah, all doctrines related
to prophethood, it's one and the same.
It's part of tawheed.
You cannot have learned...
Let's study tawheed and everything about Allah and
let's not know anything about the prophet.
We don't need to know.
Because the next command is salah.
How are you going to even know how
to pray without nubuwwah?
Therefore, what is the root of a successful
education in nubuwwah?
Well, the root of that is the honoring,
respecting, تعظيم النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم.
It's not just going to go straight to
love of the prophet.
No, no.
First, respect of the prophet first.
Love has to exist on respect.
You can have love and no respect.
It's true.
You can have love and no respect.
You can love a cat or a dog.
You don't respect the cat and dog, right?
You cannot have true love and تعظيم without
respect.
So respect is the most important thing.
I always have this debate with people, all
the time.
They say to me, we want kids to
love the masjid.
I say, you're making a mistake.
You want them to respect the masjid first.
You can build love on respect.
You can build love upon respect.
If there's no respect, you cannot build the
correct love.
It won't be love then if you're allowed
to disrespect something.
So respect comes first.
تعظيم الرسول How does that happen?
مجالس الحديث are to be treated like, they
should be treated with sanctity.
Cannot have مجلس الصيرة or حديث.
That is just casually, I'm sitting and, no.
مجلس الصيرة or حديث has to have respect.
Anytime the Prophet's name is mentioned, Imam Malik,
he said, Ja'far al-Sadiq used to
stop any joking that he was making and
laughter and recite the صلى الله عليه وسلم
on the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and
continue speaking about the Messenger in a respectful
manner.
So هذا تعظيم.
That's part of learning Tawheed.
Next he says, أقم الصلاة and any child,
you want to have a good kid, ingredient
number two, you make sure he prays.
And prayer, it can never really come by
itself.
Prayer, to pray well, always comes with a
greater environment of ذكر and دعاء.
The person who prays his obligations well, it's
someone who does all the other things.
They remember Allah outside the صلى.
They make du'a all the time.
They try to stay on wudu regularly.
So it really comes with a lot.
You can't possibly have someone who prays perfectly,
the five daily prayers, but no other remembrance
of Allah throughout the day.
It just doesn't happen.
So صلى has to be number two.
Well, how do we do that?
Well, usually it's encouragement when the kid is
small, encouragement, and then praising them if they
sit in the prayer.
And then it's making sure they actually stand
still in the prayer once they know how
to follow instructions.
And then they should be standing with their
family in prayer at age seven.
By age seven, you had all this year
to work on it, all these years to
work on it.
And the family, if they pray in جماعة,
you'll see the kids know how to pray.
That's usually how it works.
And by age seven, they should be joining
you in the prayer so that once they
hit age 10, they pray.
And usually they're going to reach بلوغ around
maybe the girls before and the boys after.
So that hitting بلوغ is not the starting
point of their prayer.
They already know how to pray well before
that.
Then when they're in middle school and high
school, their friends got to be people who
pray.
We're talking about the ingredients of a good
kid according to Sayyidina Luqman.
Actually, that should be the title of this
thing.
Can you change title in the middle of
the stream?
Oh, okay.
Friends who pray.
This is the best thing.
I was happy to see some of these
kids who actually influenced their friends to start
praying.
Some of them didn't pray.
They influenced them.
And they're good checks on their friends who
they may have upbringings that don't lend to
this.
Another kid does.
All the time.
What are you getting up and making wudu
and praying with us?
There's no way you have wudu.
It's been like five hours.
We know you, right?
We did all this.
There's no way you have wudu.
So you know how these kids are.
They don't have the same filter as adults
would.
It's good.
Get them encouraged.
Now, number three.
If the first two are done right, the
third should fall easily.
The third domino should go with it.
And that is, وَوَصَيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَلِدَيْ We advise
the human being to be about their parents.
And if you notice, what we have here
is the advice, the subject of the advice,
which is the human being, and the object
of his advice, the parents.
But it doesn't say what.
It means there's so much.
We advise you to your parents.
It really means here, everything good.
You owe your parents everything good.
وَوَصَيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَلِدَيْ And it leaves it blank.
حَمَلَتْ Now, what's one of the reasons?
Because your mother carried you.
حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَى وَهْن And this is
another description or indicator that your mother is
the one who carries you.
Even if the genetic material came from another
woman, it doesn't make a difference in Sharia.
By Islamic law, it doesn't make a difference.
The woman who carried you and whose stomach
you came out of, that's your mom.
It doesn't make a difference about the genetic
material in Islam.
وَهْنًا عَلَى وَهْن Hardship after hardship.
In the pregnancy, she's exhausted.
After the pregnancy, she's exhausted.
You could probably debate which is more exhausting,
the pregnancy or the first year after the
pregnancy.
The pregnancy, she's completely uncomfortable.
After the pregnancy, she's never sleeping, which is
worse.
A mother without help, without her mom or
other helpers, it can literally drive people crazy.
And that's why women do have what they
call postpartum depression.
And they do things that they would have
never ever done in their right mind.
That's true.
If you don't sleep well for week after
week after week, and those weeks turn into
months, and the months start stringing themselves together,
you could literally go into a la-la
land.
You'd go crazy.
Then postpartum depression, they have that.
Sometimes the moms kill their own kids.
Right?
So it's shidda ba'da shidda wa da'af
ba'da da'af.
It's nonstop, nonstop.
Hardship after hardship after hardship.
Especially if she gets pregnant again.
What they call Irish twins.
Immediately, as soon as she could hold a
baby again, she got pregnant again.
And this is another thing that drives some
women crazy, is the back to back.
So now I have two kids screaming like
this, and one kid can harm the other,
and they never sleep at the same time.
This will drive a woman bonkers.
It will drive her husband bonkers too.
So you need help.
And women who don't have that help, this
is what Allah is saying, shidda ba'da shidda,
hardship after hardship.
wa fee saaluhu fee aamein When that child
becomes no longer feeding off the mom, it's
two years.
So Allah tells us in this ayah, it's
two years of nursing.
After that, he should not nurse from the
mother's breast anymore.
He should eat and drink on his own.
anishkur lee wa leewalidayka ilayya almaseer Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala says, thank me and your
parents.
Thank me and your parents.
What's the role of the father in all
this?
He has to support all this.
She can't work while she's doing all this.
He has to support it.
And he should support her in this society
that we live in.
You're not all going to have your in
-laws and sisters and moms all around.
She may have nobody.
It may be that nuclear family, which to
me is...
It's nice in terms of the independence, but
you do need some outside help sometimes.
But let's say you don't.
In that case, she's got to pitch in
or else she's going to go crazy.
When is she going to sleep?
Sufyan ibn Uyayna says, man sallat salawat al
khams faqad shakar Allah The five prayers is
your thanks to Allah.
And whoever prays for his parents after every
salah, that's how you thank your parents.
That's Sufyan ibn Uyayna's tafsir.
Now what happens if my parents are no
good?
wa in jahadaka ala antushrika bi Allah is
telling us, if they fight you, they exert
effort to make you a pagan again.
ma laysa laka bihi ilm which has no
certainty to it.
In other words, Allah is criticizing all of
their theologies and fake beliefs as being just
imagination.
There's no certainty to it.
You're just guessing.
All these other, ilm here means yaqeen.
You see in the books of ilm, books
of knowledge, the phrase yufidul ilm means yufidul
qata, yufidul yaqeen.
It produces certainty.
So ma laysa laka bihi ilm, there's no
certainty to this.
There's guessing.
They're guessing.
fala tu'ti'humma, a command from your Lord,
do not obey them.
wa sahibhumma fid dunya ma'rufa So what
do I do if I don't obey my
parents?
Is your whole life deen?
No, there's dunya.
There's dunya.
So be a good companion in the dunya.
Do worldly things with your parents.
Leave off religious discussion.
Do worldly things with your parents.
Some people enter Islam and they're so full
of zeal.
That's all there is in their life.
So when you deal with non-believing parents,
you don't want to put them in such
a situation that would actually make them disbelieve.
You want them to put them in a
situation where they're observing you, but they're not
actually on the defensive, they're not feeling awkward
about it, because that may lead them to
proactively deny you and your new religion.
So he says here, sahibhumma fid dunya ma
'rufa Be a good companion in worldly things.
You eat together.
You have old bonding things that you used
to do together.
You shouldn't cut those things off.
You shouldn't cut those things off.
Brother wants to go study and he comes
back and he doesn't do the things he
used to do with his dad.
That may cause your dad to hate the
dean now.
So you should do those things.
Go to ballgames?
Yeah, go to ballgames.
You just came from this sacred experience, studying
and doing all these wonderful things.
Now you're going to go to Yankee Stadium?
Yeah?
If that's what your dad does, nothing wrong
with that.
Now you make the intention to create a
bond with your dad and keep that bond
up.
Or with your mom, you used to watch
movies.
Lifetime.
Remember that channel?
That was brutal.
That channel was brutal.
Lifetime, it's movies for basically depressed women.
Now that channel was brutal.
I wonder what happened to that channel.
Terrible movies.
The worst.
But if that's what your mom's watching, make
the intention.
As long as it's not doing something haram.
That's the key.
Good living.
Live nicely with them.
Be pleasant in the house.
I know it's hard for people with their
parents because parents and kids are always at
each other's throat a lot of times, I
should say.
Follow in religion.
Whoever is obedient to me.
Follow them.
Be like them.
You need friends.
Step number four.
Ingredient number four to having a good kid.
Good religious mentors or role models.
Follow those and that's going to be the
prophet in the first generation and the sahabah
in the second generation and the scholars of
the tabi'in in the third generation and
so on and so forth.
So that's ingredient number four.
We can say ingredient number four.
Number five is the remembrance of death and
this is very maturing to young people to
attend funerals, to attend janazahs.
I see it.
The young shabab, high school, middle school, college,
they attend a couple janazahs.
They attend a couple funerals.
Start thinking.
They start thinking, right?
They start contemplating.
Life is short.
It's going to be us one day.
Especially if one of their friends dies.
Especially a young person dies.
Recently we had a young person, miskeen.
Allah give him jannah.
They stayed up until fajr.
They were tired on the way back.
They had an accident.
One lived and one died.
I'm more afraid for the one who lived.
How is he going to live with himself
after this?
How are his parents going to live with
themselves?
Poor kid stayed up all the way until
fajr.
These are wonderful kids doing wonderful things.
You would want sons like that.
But they got sleepy after fajr and he
crashed.
He crashed his car.
Poor kid died.
But inshallah, what was his last deed?
Think about that.
Salat al-fajr in jama'ah.
After a night of itikaf.
This is a death the parents should be...
They should...
Those parents need to be consoling the kid
who did it.
Because those parents...
Your son just passed his test and he's
going to go to jannah.
Inshallah ta'ala we say that out of
dhan, not yaqeen.
Allah knows.
But we can say it out of dhan.
Out of speculation.
Out of hoping too.
It's a hope.
To those parents.
You should be celebrated.
Obviously you must have done something good to
have such a good kid.
That Allah ta'ala chooses him.
The last deed you're going to do is
itikaf in the masjid.
Then you're going to pray fajr in jama
'ah.
Then you're going to go to jannah after
that.
And when we say jannah, obviously there has
to be resurrection.
But in the barzakh, there's a jannah.
The barzakh could be a place of...
Like a small garden of paradise.
It's amazing.
You feel bad for the driver.
That may be a kafarah for the rest
of his life.
He's going to carry that weight for the
rest of his life.
But really...
I don't want to say he shouldn't.
Right?
But really think about it.
It's not...
A very great thing happened if you look
from the otherworldly perspective.
I know it's always easier to say it
when it's not you.
If it's not your kid, it's easy to
analyze things like that.
Of course.
But we have to also...
What is the point of...
To give people sabr by reminding them.
Where did your kid go?
Would you rather him keep living and then
jannah and nar are 50-50?
Because now he's got to have the trials
of life.
Or would you rather right now...
You get a ticket, you go straight to
jannah right now.
And you don't get to live the rest
of your life.
Why would you want to care about the
rest of this life?
This life has nothing to offer if you
go to jannah.
In comparison.
Right?
In comparison, you're not missing out on anything.
You're missing out on a bunch of headache.
That's what you're missing out on.
A bunch of headache.
And trials and tribulations and all that.
If I was to see those parents...
That's the consolation that you give them.
And I'm sure they know better than this.
They're the ones who went through it.
But the remembrance of death is something that...
It should not be hidden.
It shouldn't be hidden from kids.
What is death for us in the first
place?
It's of the body, not of the ruh.
The ruh, it continues to live.
With its intellect, with its self-identity.
What did the scholars...
How did the scholars deduce what the ruh
is?
Well, as I said, they deduced by the
absence of...
By seeing what is absent of when a
person dies.
What is absent when a person dies?
Firstly, their body goes cold.
Therefore, they deduced that the ruh has warmth.
The body becomes dry and it dries out
completely.
Therefore, they deduced that it has moisture.
Hence, they said, if we could say anything
about the soul, maybe we could say it's
a warm vapor.
That infuses the whole body.
Well, what does that warm vapor contain?
What is lost when a person dies?
The selfhood is lost.
The selfhood.
If I bring you...
If James dies and I bring you the
body of James, do you refer to it
as the body or as James?
It's the body, right?
In all cultures, we don't refer to the
body as James.
We refer to the body as the body.
The jutha in Arabic.
Or the body.
Or the carcass.
Not a carcass.
Carcass for animals, right?
So, we don't refer to the body as
James.
Therefore, the selfhood of the person.
What else is with the selfhood?
If I was to take the brain out
and plug it in somewhere else, or take
the heart and put it into someone else,
does that person become James?
No.
So, the consciousness.
Does that person now...
If I was to take that brain and
put it into somebody else or hook it
up to a computer, will all the memories
download?
Of course not.
Nothing.
That's just a bunch of fat.
After a person dies, the brain is just
a bunch of fat.
Isn't the brain made of fat?
Last I checked, it's made of type of
fat.
You can look that up.
So, the memories, the consciousness, the thought, all
of that is of the soul.
I got it right.
The brain is primarily made of fat.
60% of the compensation.
What is this?
Right, Omar?
So, So, So, another thing is that, what
about kids who are mentally ill?
A boy who's...
What about them?
Their soul is intact, but the mechanism by
which the selfhood, memory, thought, consciousness could potentially
express itself is broken.
So, when that person dies, their soul is
not a disabled soul.
They're not mentally disabled.
Only their physical brain was, or their physical
nervous system was, or what have you.
So, therefore, it couldn't translate.
Same thing.
If I have a camera and I'm recording
this, and I'm able to watch it on
the screen, and someone comes and breaks, throws
a rock at the screen, and so you
start seeing a pixelated image, a shattered image,
that's not what's recording.
The recording is going to be just fine.
It's only this mechanism by which I'm seeing
the recording that's broken.
Same thing with the children, or people who
are majnoon, or they lose their memory, they
get hit on the head, they're insane, they're
disabled mentally.
Only the jihaz, the mechanism that expresses the
ruh, is faulty.
The ruh itself is not faulty.
So, that's good news for someone who has
mentally disabled, mentally ill.
When you treat them, and they don't know
how they're being treated, be careful of that.
They could be shown that on the Day
of Judgment, and they will be totally fine
people on the Day of Judgment, immediately, as
soon as they die.
As soon as they die, everything is going
to be fine with that person, the moment
he is free from the body.
So, death for us is to be taught
properly.
It's merely the transfer of the ruh from
this abode to the next abode, which is
either very nice for you, or very bad
for you, depending on how you were in
this abode.
When you graduate college, and one guy studied
accounting, and another guy studied 15th century French
art, and you graduate, the next day, who's
going to be better off?
Who has more prospects that's going to have
a better year after graduation?
No doubt about it, the guy who studied
accounting.
He can go get a job at KPMG,
or one of these places, and he'll have
an income.
That income will build another thing, which is
probably maybe an apartment, a car, a marriage.
What about the guy who studied French art?
What's he going to do?
Not much prospects.
Same thing, you live well in this life,
you die, you're going to have wonderful prospects
in the future, in the barzakh, rewards, amazing
things.
The recitation of Quran, the reward of reciting
Quran, comes to you as a person, and
you're like, who's this wonderful person, keeping me
company in the grave.
I'm your Quran.
Another person, what are you?
I'm your fasting.
It's wonderful, keeping me company here.
Okay.
The ruh has no age.
Bodies have age.
Bodies have age.
And hence, when we get placed into a
body on Yawm al-Qiyamah, it's the age
of 33.
Meaning the perfect age.
You're young, but not immature.
The perfect age of the body.
So ruh do not have ages to them.
So I always, when you see old people,
you have to give them these reminders too.
To be given these reminders too.
That, it's going to be good for them.
This rotten old body, that's giving you all
these aches and pains, it's leaving you.
You're leaving it.
Don't worry about it.
So dhikr al-mawt, for youth.
Because once you plant it in the heart,
when the soil is still fresh, it could
settle.
We're going to close here.
We'll do some Q&A, and then we'll
talk about more things said in Luqman, ingredients.
The next ingredient, which we're not going to
talk about now, we'll talk about later, is
that Allah has knowledge of all things.
That ingredient, and Allah alim.
We all know he's alim, but do we
think about it all the time?
And remember it all the time?
All right.
What is the ruling cleaning electronics, such as
phones and earphones, if it had contact with
a dog?
Says Albert Rick.
Albert Rick, it depends on the school of
thought.
Because the four madhabs, one of their points
of difference is the ruling on the dog's
saliva.
It's only the Madakhi school that holds that
the Prophet's commandment regarding dog saliva is for
health purposes, not purity versus najasa.
So you must wash it and scrub out
the saliva.
In particular, if he licks your bowl.
For example, he licked my jeans.
My jeans are not going to come near
my mouth, ever.
He licked my shoes.
The Prophet's Hadith is if your dog licks
your bowl that you eat out of.
So particularly for hygiene in what may enter
your mouth.
That is what the Prophet said to clean.
Seven times once with dirt is a kinaya.
It's not put it in the washing machine,
then take it out, put it back in,
then take it out, put it back in.
No.
It's scrub it hard.
There should be soap.
There should be something rough, rough side of
a sponge, etc.
That's in the Madakhi school.
In the other madhab, they do deem it
najas, and therefore you need to purify it.
Now how do I purify it without water
because it's an electronic item?
My dog licks my iPad.
What do I do?
So tahara, purification can occur through something dry
as well.
Istijmar.
Istijmar.
Istijmar is, they used to use stones to
clean themselves in the old days to remove
the najas off of them.
Omar, tell me how is tahara attained in
the Hanafi school?
With dry, with wet, and with fire.
Correct?
With pure water or with fire.
Correct?
So therefore, it suffices you to simply dry
your laptop or your iPad or your phone
with something dry.
Because if you use something wet, you ruin
your phone.
What is the ruling on taking weight loss
drugs like Ozempic?
They work by reducing your appetite.
And some try to get it prescribed before
Ramadan.
I can't tell you because I don't know
the side effects.
Omar, why don't you look up the side
effects of Ozempic?
Yeah, this is the big deal these days.
Ozempic side effects.
Nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, stomach pain, constipation, upset stomach,
heartburn, burping, gas, bloating, loss of appetite.
Well, that's the purpose, not the side effects.
Runny nose, sore throat, stomach flu.
It doesn't tell us what percentage.
Tiredness, low blood sugar.
Who knows what else is in here.
Kidney disease.
Ozempic is approved by the FDA for reducing
kidney disease.
Ozempic is the big deal these days.
However, stomach or gastrointestinal side effects are common
but mild.
And they clear up in a few weeks
in most people.
And it will not interfere with long-term
treatment.
The most common one is nausea.
15-20% of all people got nauseous
after taking Ozempic.
These side effects occurred at rates higher than
the placebo treated groups.
Stomach side effects occur early in the treatment.
Ozempic face.
Interesting.
Is a term used to describe the noticeable
facial changes.
Whoa.
What kind of facial changes?
Like Conor McGregor's new face?
Full of steroids?
These changes are not a specific side effect
but rather a result of weight loss.
What are some of the more serious side
effects that happen in less people but they're
more serious?
Inflammation of the pancreas, vision changes, low blood
sugar, kidney problems, allergic reactions.
Get emergency medical help if you have any
allergic reaction, dizziness, etc.
Man.
I don't know how I feel about these
things.
Remember I said yesterday I like the stuff
that has one ingredient.
I don't know about all these drugs.
But.
Trial and error.
Let's see all the people doing it first
and then we'll see what happens.
Yeah.
My husband divorced me and ended in Eid.
Can I still make dua to reunite with
him?
I can't give up on dua.
What's the end point of dua?
Well.
Your mic was on right?
So sister if you're in that situation you
also could be proactive.
So you can possibly.
No let me say something.
You can be proactive but you don't also
want to be someone who runs after her
husband.
I guarantee you it's not going to work.
I don't think it's going to work.
Unless he's a really nice soft guy who
would be touched by that.
You got to be the judge of that.
But he may also have the opposite reaction.
So you need to, you can possibly take
you could possibly take advice on how to
take action in getting him back.
Okay.
Tran says you make dua for 10 million
why don't you get it?
You make dua for 10 million dollars you
have to act upon it.
Let me ask you a question.
The reason you're not getting it is because
you haven't acted upon it.
Well what's the action upon it?
Well let me ask you a question.
How many people do you know have 10
million dollars sitting in their bank account?
Let me tell you if you're a Muslim
if you're an American Muslim there are guys
in your masajid who have that.
No problem.
10 million dollars not even a lot of
money.
According to some people.
It's not.
If a person makes 20 million a year
how do you think we have billionaires in
the community?
Which we do.
If a guy's got 100 million dollars how
do you think he gets that?
It's 10 million a month.
He spends a whole bunch of money each
month.
10 million a year income.
So Tran my question to you is did
you do what it takes?
Did you get a mentor who has 10
million dollars who can show you the route?
To show you the way.
And did you listen to him?
Your duat for 10 million dollars must be
coupled with action.
And the action is go to the people
who have achieved what you're trying to achieve
find the right one who will give you
time and will train you and do what
he says.
Or she.
Could be a she.
Please do ask my question from I'm very
sad and depressed despite doing dhikr and everything.
Don't ignore it.
My question is long.
The answer is that dhikr is not the
only thing that would remove a person from
depression.
You may possibly do a lot of dhikr
but also negate it by bad habits that
will negate your dhikr.
Just to give you one thing that makes
people sad and depressed is what we talked
about yesterday your sleep is off.
So let me ask you young men do
you stay up really late and then sleep
in?
This is the number one source of depression.
In my opinion.
Do you eat a bunch of junk or
do you eat good food?
Do you go to the masjid and hang
out with people and say assalamualaikum and smile
at people?
Try this.
Go into the sun.
Go into nature.
Go to the masjid and smile at people
say assalamualaikum.
See someone miskeen?
Put $20 in his hands.
Go out to any restaurant that you go
to and the guy who does the dish
washing and the guy who is picking up
the dishes do you think he makes good
money?
He doesn't make good money.
Go to that type of person and slip
him $20 $15, $10, $5.
Listen if a guy came and put $5
on my table I would be happy right?
I can go and burn it on some
food that I would otherwise not have purchased
or something or a snack or something like
that.
Anything that makes someone happy right?
So don't belittle even $5.
Guaranteed if you're behaving like this not just
dhikr you have to do these other things.
What's your status with your parents?
Do you know that dhikr is you could
take the dhikr and throw it in the
garbage if you're making your parents unhappy.
If you made hajj yet you ignored your
parents take your ibadah and throw it in
the garbage.
This is what the prophet tells us.
Man worships Allah all day at the end
of the day he came and he made
his mother frown.
Allah took all his ibadah and negated it.
Turned it into bad deeds.
Who are you worshipping?
If you're going to behave like that when
he commanded you to something more important.
Dhikr is nafila.
Obeying goodness of parents is fard.
I can't see how a person would remain
depressed if he sleeps well.
Go be good to his parents.
Go to the masjid and say salam alaikum
and smile at people.
You don't have to shake hands even.
Wave.
Not even wave, a salam alaikum smile.
That's it.
Two or three people.
Go to a nearest restaurant or someone collecting
trash.
Slip five dollars in his hands.
Eat healthy food.
Get some sun.
You will not be depressed.
So it's just not dhikr alone that is
needed.
Okay.
Allah says do not covet something in which
Allah has made some of you superior to
others but you said no dua is impossible.
How do I reconcile these two?
So that means don't covet that specific thing.
Okay.
So and be happy for that person.
So let's hypothetically say your peer, your colleague,
he got a head of a division job,
head of the department of surgery and you
did not get that and you're working a
lower level medical job.
So do not covet that specific job.
Say Alhamdulillah, let him be happy.
Let him have it.
Covet something similar to that.
Don't try to take it away from him.
And you can say someday I want that
job.
But I don't want him to lose it.
That's the key.
That's how you bring the two together.
You don't want him to lose it.
I don't want to take it away off
his plate.
Even if I want that same job someday.
Yeah I want that some but in a
lawful way.
Not by hasad of this guy.
A lot of good questions here.
I think tomorrow we're going to have to
do the bulk of it has to be
Q&A because there's a lot of good
questions here.
How can a convert have forbearance with his
parents while still protecting his wife from their
behavior?
Yeah you can keep your wife distant from
them.
That's okay.
To be distant from somebody who's abusing you
is lawful.
It's okay.
And they hurt her.
Subtly.
They don't have to be in the same
presence all the time.
Your wife doesn't have to be in your
parents' presence all the time.
She has to be nice to them, polite
to them but she doesn't have to be
stuck to them.
She doesn't have to be there all the
time.
You do, maybe.
You owe more to your parents than them.
None of my dua gets answered.
How do you know that?
It hasn't come yet.
Maybe you have to have sabr.
So I stop doing dua.
That's why it doesn't get answered.
And it says, I'm a woman.
Okay.
Remember the Prophet said Dua will be answered
as long as you don't rush it.
What is rushing it, O Messenger of Allah?
Saying, I tried and it didn't work out.
So the sister Yad Yadhood needs some support.
She needs a domestic mindset.
And you need a word of saying positive
things.
I can guarantee you when you speak positively
did not Allah say Yes.
When Allah blesses you with something speak about
the good.
Even if it's not there yet.
Now this future is going to be amazing.
This organization is going to be amazing.
This job is going to be amazing.
This next year is going to be amazing.
You have to speak with that.
In your mind it's a dua.
Right.
You got to speak like that.
It's one of the meaning.
And you cannot stop.
But it's holistic.
There's a lot of things involved.
And just rewind a few minutes of the
things that I mentioned.
Do I need to have a comprehension of
seerah before studying Islamic sciences?
Well, aqidah and fiqh should be studied.
You don't delay aqidah and fiqh because you
haven't read a lot of seerah.
Can we pray maghrib at home in order
to break our fast with our family?
Yeah, no problem.
But praying maghrib in the masjid is better.
But if your family cook the food and
it's going to get cold?
How do I refute the person's statement?
What the guy told me above?
This is the last question we'll do.
Abdul Quddus, he said the answer to moral
good via don't do unto others what you
wouldn't want done unto you.
Ah, that's easy because someone says, okay, I
don't mind if you do it to me.
I don't mind if you do it to
me.
The communists believed they had a morality.
And they want people.
They want the communist state to take their
property and distribute it according to communism.
They want that.
And the capitalist mentality is the total opposite.
So, you're going to have a clash.
Guaranteed clash.
Ladies and gentlemen, a lot of good questions.
I wish I could take all of them.
But we got to run.
Subhanak Allahumma wa bihamdik.
Nishadun la ilaha illa anta.
Nastaghfiruk wa natubu ilayk.
Wal asr.
Inna al-insana la fee khusr illa allatheena
amanu wa aminu as-salihat wa tawassu bil
-haq wa tawassu bil-sabr.
Wassalamu alaykum.