Shadee Elmasry – How Did Our Men Become So Weak

invention of the teenager is essentially was treating adults as

children.

And we've got this this way of sort of keeping them dependent.

And we're not really training them to become adults in this period.

Yeah. When they when they shouldn't be learning how to

become independent. We're beating them down with a stick and telling

them no, you're still kids? No, you're still kids? No, you're

still kids. And what happens is, is that's what they're learning to

be. They're learning to be children. Yeah. And so when they

leave that education system, we have this problem, where now we've

just trained an army of adult children. And you see this

everywhere you go. And you know, the saying,

there's the cycle, you know,

weak society, oh, no hard times create strong men, strong men

create good times, good times, create weak men, weak men create

hard times. And we're in that stage now, where we've got good

times, and we're making weak men. And what we mean by weak men is

childish men, get children, soft, people that can't deal with

hardship don't want anything to do with they don't know what real

problems are, so that if their phone backs up, or if it crashes,

or their internet speed slows down, they go into a panic. How am

I going to deal with this? If there's someone like we've seen

these videos, where, you know, the women are being attacked by men,

and the men in the society don't do nothing about it? They run off?

Yeah. Why is that? Because we're raising weaklings, we're raising

people that are soft, that are accustomed to leisure, to

pleasure, to a lack of sacrifice to liberty, and they don't want to

do things that might take that away from them. And if you get

injured in a fight, like your freedoms are limited, so like,

this is what people are obsessed, obsessed with right now, but it is

going to undermine itself. And if we the Muslims can stick to the

Quran and the Sunnah, if we can follow Allah's religion, Allah

will grant us success. And you could see how that trickles and

how that that will happen. And I think a lot of people, they're

becoming disenfranchised with modern Western secular liberalism,

because they're seeing this, they're seeing that this is just

nonsense, this is crap, this doesn't lead to victory, this

isn't going to get us anywhere. And in Islam, you have a victory

in this world. And in the next, if you follow it, that you're not

going to be obsessed with the highs, and you're not going to

have to suffer through the lows, that everything is going to become

a source of pleasure or a source of comfort to you, whether it's

good, whether it's bad, in hardship, as a, like a bit of

sweetness to it, when anyone who's sincere in their belief will feel

this that they know Allah is testing them, and that there is

goodness in it. Allah is forgiving my sins. Allah is purifying me

preparing you for a greater future. Yes, exactly. And you look

at the Palestinians as a perfect example of this beautiful brother,

who lost his grandchild. And like his face. So I couldn't imagine

going through what he was going through, and looking so in control

of himself, I'd have been pathetic to panel I'd have broken down in

tears. And he that was a roger that was a man who was able to

control his emotions in some of the harshest of circumstances, and

inspire millions of people around the world who were were lucky

enough to witness this man in action in an organic, natural

moment when a death of a child in his hands and

closing her eyes and kissing her smile like this is the consequence

of a man of belief of Islam, what it does to those who embody it and

who absorb its teachings into their

heart. And this is there's a amazing poem, poet who says,

Give deprivation it's do

and find intimacy with it. Because deprivation, it's like a location

that Allah put you. Right? It's like, a state that Allah puts you

in. There's a reason he put you in there. Give it its due. And you'll

see the fruit come out later on of deprivation. And I think when I

look at the things that are necessary, I don't think that

there's any motivation other than belief. Right. So getting off of

intoxicants, getting married, sacrificing all this stuff that

you could be doing, having children more sacrifice on top of

that, and then taking care of your children because some people have

children and they bounce, right? They can't take it anymore and

they leave. So I don't see that anybody can get through this

except that they have a modicum of Eman and belief that this is

what's right, and that Allah will guarantee me

that I'm not going to regret this and that I'm actually, one day

going to look back and say this was far better, far better than

living the single life. And there has to be someone that Allah puts

around you to compare against, right? So we do know people who

are living, let's say, not unmarried, because Muslims can't

go on like that. But let's say married. And then they're just

living like kids with not having kids like living like teenagers or

young adults, just criss crossing the world having a blast, right?

saving their money, all that. And it seems to me like, like they're

doing stuff that we can't do. But then again, let's fast forward in

a few years, when you're 40. And you're 50. And that doesn't look

right anymore. And it doesn't. And you've, you've seen everywhere in

the world, like what else is there to do when you hit 50? And 60?

Right? Yes, what else is there to do? Right, except share your

experience now with the next generation of kids. So who's

happier the 70 year, the 65 year old who's got five grandkids, and

four kids are the 65 year old, that's just alone with his 65 year

old spouse. Yeah, and there's, in this as a couple of other things

we can probably talk about as well, because there is an issue in

that sort of Forever Young mentality that companies have in

that, as people get older, I don't know, it's, it's, it's a horrible

thing to sort of make mentioned to draw the light too. But as people

get older, men and women develop differently and age. And I've

heard this, and this is something that women specifically have said

to me, on numerous occasions that as men get older, they become more

attractive, or they become more desirable. And as women get older,

that's they don't necessarily follow that same trajectory. And

for these, this couple that are sort of in this forever young

mentality. eventually what happens is, women hit menopause and things

like that there's all these sort of difficulties and things. And if

there's not some sort of structure there to protect them, if there's

not something there for them. In terms of children, yet, a lot. You

see this a lot, especially like in it's not in every case, there's

always exceptions to the rules. But the couples who are like, I'm

never going to have children, I'm never gonna have children. When

they get old, there's not really much joining them anymore. And so

divorce rates, especially in like,

secular environments, can be quite high as a result of this because

children are like a glue between people. Yeah, like you love

someone, not just because they're beautiful, or because they're

young, or because they're fun not because of this, but because they

are the mother of your children, that you have been bonded by

blood, that there is something special about these people now,

because of the fact that you have this connection through others

through a family. And when you get older, even if things don't work

out for whatever reason, you've got comfort and one of my favorite

though is to make for people may Allah subhanaw taala grant you,

many children and many grandchildren that will be a

sweetness in your old age that you know, even if one or two of them

are crap, there's still plenty of them that will come visit you and

spend time with you and not just pile you off into an old people's

home.