Shadee Elmasry – How Did Our Men Become So Weak
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The cycle of "weekend society" has negatively impacted teenagers, including their grandparents and parents' emotions. It is suggested that teenagers should be trained to become children and empowered to do so through their own actions. The speaker also highlights the negative impact of "weekend society" on teenagers, including loss of grandparents and parents' emotions. Society is disenfranchised and disigailized for older individuals who may not have children, and women need support and comfort in older age to maintain mental health and relationships.
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invention of the teenager is essentially was treating adults as
children.
And we've got this this way of sort of keeping them dependent.
And we're not really training them to become adults in this period.
Yeah. When they when they shouldn't be learning how to
become independent. We're beating them down with a stick and telling
them no, you're still kids? No, you're still kids? No, you're
still kids. And what happens is, is that's what they're learning to
be. They're learning to be children. Yeah. And so when they
leave that education system, we have this problem, where now we've
just trained an army of adult children. And you see this
everywhere you go. And you know, the saying,
there's the cycle, you know,
weak society, oh, no hard times create strong men, strong men
create good times, good times, create weak men, weak men create
hard times. And we're in that stage now, where we've got good
times, and we're making weak men. And what we mean by weak men is
childish men, get children, soft, people that can't deal with
hardship don't want anything to do with they don't know what real
problems are, so that if their phone backs up, or if it crashes,
or their internet speed slows down, they go into a panic. How am
I going to deal with this? If there's someone like we've seen
these videos, where, you know, the women are being attacked by men,
and the men in the society don't do nothing about it? They run off?
Yeah. Why is that? Because we're raising weaklings, we're raising
people that are soft, that are accustomed to leisure, to
pleasure, to a lack of sacrifice to liberty, and they don't want to
do things that might take that away from them. And if you get
injured in a fight, like your freedoms are limited, so like,
this is what people are obsessed, obsessed with right now, but it is
going to undermine itself. And if we the Muslims can stick to the
Quran and the Sunnah, if we can follow Allah's religion, Allah
will grant us success. And you could see how that trickles and
how that that will happen. And I think a lot of people, they're
becoming disenfranchised with modern Western secular liberalism,
because they're seeing this, they're seeing that this is just
nonsense, this is crap, this doesn't lead to victory, this
isn't going to get us anywhere. And in Islam, you have a victory
in this world. And in the next, if you follow it, that you're not
going to be obsessed with the highs, and you're not going to
have to suffer through the lows, that everything is going to become
a source of pleasure or a source of comfort to you, whether it's
good, whether it's bad, in hardship, as a, like a bit of
sweetness to it, when anyone who's sincere in their belief will feel
this that they know Allah is testing them, and that there is
goodness in it. Allah is forgiving my sins. Allah is purifying me
preparing you for a greater future. Yes, exactly. And you look
at the Palestinians as a perfect example of this beautiful brother,
who lost his grandchild. And like his face. So I couldn't imagine
going through what he was going through, and looking so in control
of himself, I'd have been pathetic to panel I'd have broken down in
tears. And he that was a roger that was a man who was able to
control his emotions in some of the harshest of circumstances, and
inspire millions of people around the world who were were lucky
enough to witness this man in action in an organic, natural
moment when a death of a child in his hands and
closing her eyes and kissing her smile like this is the consequence
of a man of belief of Islam, what it does to those who embody it and
who absorb its teachings into their
heart. And this is there's a amazing poem, poet who says,
Give deprivation it's do
and find intimacy with it. Because deprivation, it's like a location
that Allah put you. Right? It's like, a state that Allah puts you
in. There's a reason he put you in there. Give it its due. And you'll
see the fruit come out later on of deprivation. And I think when I
look at the things that are necessary, I don't think that
there's any motivation other than belief. Right. So getting off of
intoxicants, getting married, sacrificing all this stuff that
you could be doing, having children more sacrifice on top of
that, and then taking care of your children because some people have
children and they bounce, right? They can't take it anymore and
they leave. So I don't see that anybody can get through this
except that they have a modicum of Eman and belief that this is
what's right, and that Allah will guarantee me
that I'm not going to regret this and that I'm actually, one day
going to look back and say this was far better, far better than
living the single life. And there has to be someone that Allah puts
around you to compare against, right? So we do know people who
are living, let's say, not unmarried, because Muslims can't
go on like that. But let's say married. And then they're just
living like kids with not having kids like living like teenagers or
young adults, just criss crossing the world having a blast, right?
saving their money, all that. And it seems to me like, like they're
doing stuff that we can't do. But then again, let's fast forward in
a few years, when you're 40. And you're 50. And that doesn't look
right anymore. And it doesn't. And you've, you've seen everywhere in
the world, like what else is there to do when you hit 50? And 60?
Right? Yes, what else is there to do? Right, except share your
experience now with the next generation of kids. So who's
happier the 70 year, the 65 year old who's got five grandkids, and
four kids are the 65 year old, that's just alone with his 65 year
old spouse. Yeah, and there's, in this as a couple of other things
we can probably talk about as well, because there is an issue in
that sort of Forever Young mentality that companies have in
that, as people get older, I don't know, it's, it's, it's a horrible
thing to sort of make mentioned to draw the light too. But as people
get older, men and women develop differently and age. And I've
heard this, and this is something that women specifically have said
to me, on numerous occasions that as men get older, they become more
attractive, or they become more desirable. And as women get older,
that's they don't necessarily follow that same trajectory. And
for these, this couple that are sort of in this forever young
mentality. eventually what happens is, women hit menopause and things
like that there's all these sort of difficulties and things. And if
there's not some sort of structure there to protect them, if there's
not something there for them. In terms of children, yet, a lot. You
see this a lot, especially like in it's not in every case, there's
always exceptions to the rules. But the couples who are like, I'm
never going to have children, I'm never gonna have children. When
they get old, there's not really much joining them anymore. And so
divorce rates, especially in like,
secular environments, can be quite high as a result of this because
children are like a glue between people. Yeah, like you love
someone, not just because they're beautiful, or because they're
young, or because they're fun not because of this, but because they
are the mother of your children, that you have been bonded by
blood, that there is something special about these people now,
because of the fact that you have this connection through others
through a family. And when you get older, even if things don't work
out for whatever reason, you've got comfort and one of my favorite
though is to make for people may Allah subhanaw taala grant you,
many children and many grandchildren that will be a
sweetness in your old age that you know, even if one or two of them
are crap, there's still plenty of them that will come visit you and
spend time with you and not just pile you off into an old people's
home.