Shadee Elmasry – Happiness is NOT the Goal of Life

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The importance of not worshipting happiness and realizing one's sadness and grief is highlighted in a series of segments. The speaker emphasizes the importance of embracing addiction to sadness and grief and accepting and embracing a process of return to Islam, not just a process of a good or bad experience. The afterlife is a combination of suffering and desire, and people accept suffering but not their own. A person named Yousef ends up in a house due to a nightmare.

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			It's very important we don't worship happiness. Our
		
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			goal is not to always be happy. That's
		
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			not the goal of a Muslim. Your goal
		
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			is to be a good servant to Allah.
		
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			Again, your focus has to be on Allah,
		
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			not on yourself. So it's very important to
		
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			realize
		
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			constriction,
		
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			grief, sadness, upsetness
		
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			does have a place. And if Allah ordained
		
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			it for a certain reason, accept it. And
		
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			the faster you here's the trick.
		
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			The faster you come to terms that this
		
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			has a place in life. And if Allah
		
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			ordains it, don't fight it back. That is
		
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			the fastest play way route to minimize all
		
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			your sadness.
		
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			By accepting it, realizing it's part of life,
		
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			realizing it's part of god's will for us,
		
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			part of Allah's test for us, but more
		
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			than that, realizing its purpose.
		
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			Allah
		
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			said we never made them taste any punishment
		
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			except so they can return back to us.
		
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			Anytime, any grief, unhappiness,
		
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			any of that touches our hearts, we have
		
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			to realize
		
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			not to focus on the means by which
		
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			it came to us, to focus on the
		
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			source of it
		
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			and the reason. What is his reason for
		
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			for bringing this sadness and grief upon me?
		
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			I have to turn back to him.
		
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			Whenever things are too good, you become Ikarus'
		
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			wing. You fly too high and hit Ikarus
		
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			had wax wings, so he flew too close
		
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			to the sun,
		
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			and the the wings melted.
		
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			Although
		
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			the higher you go up, the colder it
		
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			gets, but just for the sake of the
		
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			story, right, they didn't know that back in
		
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			the day, right, when they wrote that story.
		
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			So they're like, he flies so far high
		
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			up and his wings melt, and he comes
		
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			crashing down. So what does Allah do? He
		
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			sends you before you get too high, he'll
		
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			send you another
		
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			tribulation to push you down a little bit.
		
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			Humble down a little bit. Come down.
		
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			This is not the abode of being so
		
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			high up and happy.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Some happiness for sure, but it's not the
		
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			abode of perfection.
		
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			If you get like that, you can make
		
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			a lot of mistakes. When people get too
		
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			high, too happy, they make mistakes.
		
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			They make terrible blunders. All of these superstar
		
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			athletes and rich people as look. When they
		
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			get too high up, they screw up. They
		
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			spend too much money. They go into debts.
		
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			The check comes
		
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			with with no coach to tell him invest
		
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			like this. Hold up.
		
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			Take 80% of that right away and put
		
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			it in something that's gonna
		
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			basically pay you for life.
		
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			Don't spend so much. Don't live so much.
		
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			That doesn't come with spiritual or financial
		
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			or
		
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			economic coaches, these checks to these people.
		
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			But they're a lesson for us. They go
		
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			straight up, and they come crashing down. So
		
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			wouldn't it have been better for someone to
		
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			say, oh, put the brakes on. Give me
		
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			that check.
		
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			Let's put 800,000
		
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			in it into an investment. You'll never work
		
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			again
		
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			at when these investments come to fruition.
		
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			You'll you'll it's not me me. You're rich,
		
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			but you will never have to worry about
		
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			money again.
		
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			Do you know there are many, many people
		
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			and I met a person. I'm not gonna
		
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			mention names.
		
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			But he told me about his relative,
		
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			that he was at one point earning
		
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			over
		
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			250, you know, $303100,000
		
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			a month
		
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			on entertainment in the entertainment business.
		
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			$300,000
		
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			a month.
		
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			Many doctors, because of their debts that they
		
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			owe, do not earn 300,000 in a year.
		
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			Remove debts, the medical school debts. Remove taxes.
		
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			Remove life expenses.
		
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			No. No. No. Before forget expenses.
		
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			Remove debts
		
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			and taxes. He did not make 300,000, and
		
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			he's a physician. Trained 8 years for this.
		
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			And this clown
		
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			entertainer
		
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			is raising 300,000 in a month.
		
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			Now this wealth is not good wealth. Right?
		
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			This is not this is not a way
		
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			that Allah wants us to earn money by
		
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			clowning around on on the Internet.
		
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			Well, fast forward
		
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			but
		
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			I don't wanna give too many details so
		
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			no one tries to guess who it is.
		
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			But fast forward,
		
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			he's broke.
		
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			The entertainment business is hard to stay up
		
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			on the wave.
		
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			That wave crashes.
		
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			That whole wave is about spending and overspending.
		
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			The money's gone.
		
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			Right? The money is gone. And a great
		
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			example of unblessed wealth, it's gone.
		
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			It's good. So and
		
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			is constriction.
		
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			It has a a role in our life.
		
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			It's to return us back to Allah. That's
		
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			it. There's no other role it has. It's
		
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			to return us back to Allah. If we
		
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			receive this constriction,
		
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			yet we go further from Allah, that's punishment.
		
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			That's what we call punishment.
		
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			Punishment is that a bad thing happens to
		
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			you and Allah does not love you.
		
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			He wants he does not love you. So
		
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			you bad things happen and I don't get
		
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			closer to god,
		
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			nor do I stay the same. I get
		
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			further.
		
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			If
		
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			a bad thing happens
		
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			and I just I neither get further nor
		
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			closer is purification.
		
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			I'm just suffering.
		
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			Neither am I getting better in Islam,
		
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			like doing better deeds,
		
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			nor am I doing worse deeds.
		
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			So what what do I consider that now?
		
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			I consider we the scholars say that is
		
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			purification.
		
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			And that is like when you see somebody
		
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			who gets sick,
		
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			but his status never changes. Like, his religious
		
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			deeds, his perspective, nothing changes. He's, like, very
		
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			sick, and he's just watching TV. Still watching
		
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			the same old games and TV all day.
		
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			Hold on. You're really sick. Why don't you
		
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			why you reflect about death? Nah.
		
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			I'm not in the mood for that. Okay.
		
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			So you know what? But you're praying. Yeah.
		
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			He's praying. Five times a day. I'll pray
		
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			my 5 times a day. I fast Ramadan.
		
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			I don't lie. I don't do these things.
		
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			Right? So but he's not getting better. I'm
		
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			not into the mood for spirituality right now.
		
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			I just wanna sit and so we say
		
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			that's purification.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Now a person
		
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			has the same suffering,
		
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			but he's so it's so bitter to him.
		
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			The TV is nothing means anything anymore. Shut
		
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			it all off.
		
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			Bring me book of death and afterlife and
		
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			read to me. So now woah. You weren't
		
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			like this before.
		
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			All of a sudden, you wanna talk about
		
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			the afterlife since when? Some people like that
		
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			in your family, like, what's up with him?
		
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			Right?
		
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			You're all of a sudden, you're in the
		
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			dean now, and he is. And you're like,
		
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			woah. He's changing.
		
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			That means that is a that is a
		
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			hardship that Allah elevated him through. So that's
		
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			how you know. Am I being punished? Am
		
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			I being purified? Or am I being
		
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			elevated?
		
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			So if you are being elevated
		
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			through tribulation, it's called,
		
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			a good test,
		
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			good suffering. This suffering made me better, and
		
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			that's how we know the difference.
		
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			So
		
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			we are a people who accept when bad
		
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			the bad comes to us. We are not
		
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			worshipers of happiness,
		
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			of bust. And the reason ibn Atha, when
		
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			he says that Allah gives you sometimes he
		
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			gives you happiness and sometimes he gives you
		
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			constriction
		
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			so that you are not a worshiper of
		
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			either one. Don't worship either one.
		
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			Sayedna Yusuf alaihi salam, he has a wonderful
		
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			idyllic childhood.
		
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			He is the
		
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			11th out of
		
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			11 siblings, then he had Binyamin the 12th.
		
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			Young one younger sibling, baby,
		
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			and 11 and 10 older siblings, and he's
		
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			the most handsome of all of them, most
		
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			beautiful boy of all of them, most beloved.
		
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			Right. Now Yousef, what happens? I mean, he
		
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			goes from this wonderful life,
		
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			then in one day, he has a nightmare
		
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			of a day. They take him out. He
		
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			thinks he's gonna go play. All of a
		
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			sudden, I'm in the well. Think about that.
		
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			That's like a shock. We're going out. We're
		
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			having a good time with my brothers. It's
		
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			not like I'm with strangers, and I'm expecting
		
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			something bad. No. I'm with my brothers, and
		
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			all of a sudden, they throw me in
		
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			the well.
		
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			And then from the well, he ends up
		
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			going through very you you have to imagine.
		
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			This is not a happy time. He gets
		
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			sold from one merchant to another, to a
		
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			traveler, to finally he's in the marketplace of
		
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			Egypt.
		
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			Like, this is terrible. Terrible month that he
		
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			must have lived. Probably it was a month.
		
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			Right? You can imagine maybe it was a
		
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			month or a few weeks. And then he
		
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			ends up suddenly
		
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			in this gorgeous house.
		
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			So the ups and downs of prophet Yousef's
		
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			life
		
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			are meant to teach us that you are
		
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			not a slave
		
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			of happiness,
		
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			neither cubbed nor bust. If happiness and good
		
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			times come, you must accept it because some
		
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			people are the reverse.
		
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			If they live their whole life in bad
		
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			situations,
		
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			they're uncomfortable
		
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			with good times.
		
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			And even in the good time, in they
		
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			they they feel uncomfortable, they have to think
		
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			of something bad that could possibly happen because
		
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			that's what I'm comfortable with
		
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			and the opposite. Other other kids, the opposite.
		
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			Other kid grew up, everything is perfect.
		
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			And even when something objectively terrible is happening,
		
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			he's gotta find something fun about it. Now
		
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			that other person's probably better off
		
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			in in in the moment.
		
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			The unhappy person's probably better off in security
		
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			of the future. They're more stable. They never
		
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			get too excited about any they never get
		
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			too happy about anything, but you just don't
		
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			mind might not want to be around them.
		
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			They're Debbie Downers all the time. Right? The
		
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			other one, you wanna be around them, but
		
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			this guy, you can't trust him with anything.
		
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			Right?