Shadee Elmasry – Fear of Adversity NBF 353
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similar Rahman Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala
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everybody to the SOFIA society, nothing but facts live stream on a
gorgeous Tuesday sunny, warm here in the great state of New Jersey,
where we're going to continue on today. segment number one we're
going to talk more about this. This book called kava, a suburb,
why Dutch? Depression, anxiety causes and treatments.
We talked the first one he said Fear of
was it not knowing the reality of life, the first cause not knowing
my origins, not knowing my reality of life. Second one fear the
future.
Fear of the future and fear of the future he said this example of the
train right? Essentially you you get kidnapped in the middle of the
night. You wake up on a bed on a train.
Nobody who starts distracting you and saying hey listen, the trees
are outside are really nice the food they're about to serve you
really good food. They're about to have an entertainer come and
entertain us. These questions are irrelevant. These things are just
nothing but distractions and in fact, the more people try to
distract you, you got to start to imagine it's nefarious.
The more the distractions the more nefarious it gets one of the
reasons why our religion has cast a long shadow against lie.
Lie well low play and distraction. Right it's a big problem. So why
are you distracting? Why don't we get to the real core issue who put
me on this train? Where are we going? What authority you have to
put me here all these questions and here is where the book which
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fear of failure in the future he talks about
so there's the overall fear of where is life going?
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Fear of failure the future is that the immediate future people fear
fear
To the immediate future, and this happens to people they get this
state sometimes that overcome with, with worries about the
immediate future.
He said this this the second cause of fear is the fear of failure.
Fear failure can be in the academic field in the work field
in business and trade and agriculture. And it's all
comparison itis the disease of comparing yourself to other
people, I love what Einstein said. He said, If a
shark compares himself to a pigeon, he'll never succeed. And
he's a shark versus little pigeon walking around eating trash in the
city or whatever.
You can never compare yourself to somebody who lived a whole
different life, born a whole different scenario. Comparison is
the biggest source of depression for a lot of people, which is why
social media,
magazines TV music, probably have caused as much good as they're
used for they're probably caused triple or quadruple the amount of
grief for people.
sadness and grief, because nobody, you're taking like the point zero
1% of your genetic fortune.
And you're elevating it, you know, to the highest height, and
everyone there for us to look at that and become feel feel
insignificant about it.
Fear of failure can also be when someone finds himself indulged in
sin, without any hope and Allah's forgiveness. The common
denominator here is the fear of future failure. This is the second
cause and one of men, the main sources of psychological anxiety,
this cause needs to be explained first. So, he said, God forbid,
Allah forbid that your heart is devoid of faith in Allah and that
your conviction is bereft of belief and trust in Him.
Therefore, when you're young, and you go to school, you look at the
people around you and notice some are successful and others fail. So
you think to yourself, will I be from the former or the latter? If
I'm part of the failing group, what will my life be like? How can
I build a future? How can I get married? How can I achieve my
desires and ambitions?
If these worries constantly surrounds you and you repeatedly
given to them,
they will eventually take root inside of you and turn into a type
of depression and anxiety is the cause. This is the case when your
soul is devoid of belief and trust in Allah.
Another example would be if you started projects in order to earn
a living. And this kind of work involves some risk and you start
asking the same question, will I be successful? Will I succeed?
Will I be a complete failure, etc.
Right? Well, who will tell me the future who will tell me what is
going to happen? Because this is so
it's
it's so
nerve racking people want to know the future. That's why people go
to these these types of Mona Jimmy, what are they called?
They go into that field of superstition to find out like,
what is the future because I can't stand this future. What I can't
stand the suspense. You can't send the suspense because you lack
Taqwa. Right? You lucky man you like trust in Allah. If you trust
in Allah, you should be actually very relaxed. That's the truth.
You should actually be extremely
relaxed, if that's the case.
That is how you build a different kind of imaginary scenario based
on Unreal fears that fill your head and what a shades on promise.
He promises you fear.
You go with Elia. He fears the people that he's assigned to.
He's assigned to people do you suppose to make them afraid? So we
don't know the future, but we know who owns the future. We know the
scriptwriter of the future, right or wrong? That's the key. We know
who wrote the script, in the Book of Destiny, if I know who wrote
it, that I should be relaxed, right? Even if he has to judge
against me or against what I desire.
Right?
At least I know, I know. It's that that's just going to be temporary.
And in the long run, it's going to be good. And that's what Muslims
do. We focus on who is the author of the future. And we also focus
on who's author of the present.
So it's not all these people doing things in the present? No, it's
Allah making them do things.
So yes, they're responsible, legally, of course, for the cusp
of those deeds, but who's the creator of them? That's why it's
important to know to note creation and CASP.
Allah creates and people earn
and they're legally responsible for what they earn. But
ultimately, the creator is Allah Himself. And that's what gives
them awesome relief. The more you think about Allah, you realize
everything is in his control. So why do I need to worry even
The future I don't know which way it's going to go. But I know the
author is Allah subhanaw taala the future and if the future is in the
hands of a vicious person who put it in his hands,
who put it in his hands.
When the heart is devoid of this trust in Allah that anxiety takes
complete control.
At first, the anxiety is normal, even though it is painful. For
example, when you return home and try to go to bed, you'll toss and
turn it's normal sauce and turn for a while without any sleep
because you're thinking about something. Right? What's the end
result? Well, how's the project gonna go? Am I gonna get hired? Am
I going to accept it?
Eventually, Allah blesses you with sleep. This is the normal
situation for normal people who have a little bit of anxiety. And
that's why it's actually a sunnah to do. They could for 30 minutes
before you sleep,
some automatic calculated the earth god or the prophet before
they slept. And they calculated it to be about 30 minutes, if you sat
and did that for 30 minutes in your bed before you slept, before
you lay down, just sitting upright in your bed, you'd find yourself
sleeping a lot easier.
However, the moment you wake up, all the stress comes back to you.
And all the anxiety comes back to you now every time that lasts
longer and longer. Because you're indulging these terrible thoughts,
you know that sometimes it's not even just the dean that helps us
with there are some people with common sense with
people with introspection, we're not Muslims, who have recognized
this and realized it's all about
the thoughts that allow to settle in my head.
These thoughts, and the best way to get rid of bad thoughts is to
utter good words, to utter positive statements.
impacts your mind when you order them, it impacts you forget it
impacts others, but impacts you and you start to believe that
things are going to be okay.
This is what likewise if you're down and you just force yourself
to smile, your state changes you state you change the state of
everyone around you, and then you benefit from yourself and from
them to
this is well known he says the person who constantly fears the
specter of poverty always embraces
the dreams of riches and eagerly strives in search of wealth in
this life, if not for himself than for his children, whom he will
leave behind when this person has a soul devoid of trust in Allah,
and a mind lacking certainty that Allah is the One directing the
entire universe. He ruminates the situation with huge pains and
suffers as a result. Spectre poverty hardly ever leaves him
alone. And that's because if you think that you're going to attack
poverty, and you're going to attain wealth, then clearly if
you're a rational person, you're gonna have to admit, I have
limited powers.
And my opponents, I have finite resources. The wealth out there is
finite when you look at it.
And my competition is many. I'm competing against 1020 Guys, and
I'm only one guy
so my chances of success are very little but when you when you
change your perspective, and you ask for it and you tell yourself
who who is truly in charge. And what did Allah ask us he asked our
body to put in the effort and our heart not to worry. That's what
Allah says. Your body must put in the effort and your heart must not
worry.
Shavon Oh yeah. Docomo fucker shaytaan promises you poverty.
Poverty is not just in anything poverty is in it not sorry, not
just in money. It's in everything. Poverty of wealth, poverty. We
talked about the midlife crisis. Right. We talked about the midlife
crisis. People get any they feel that their beauty is decreasing
there. They start wondering, is this going to be my life forever?
What do you mean forever? You only got like 20 more years to really
live and then you're an old man after that it's not gonna matter.
And the midlife the Muslims have a type of midlife crisis which is
where all the second wave talks come into play. Most people it's
like a joke right? But like, but when when when, when when you are
married to someone it's not a joke anymore because it affects them.
So I'm telling you so many people they just joke about this and they
talk about it. Even somebody recently even asked me you where's
your wedding is allowed to wear wedding rings. Is how that's
right. I personally don't wear when I don't wear any jewelry on
my wrists and hands because I lose them in will do and everything
like that. Shower all this I find them it's a headache. Right? But I
don't wear one but that does. But I am married and I wouldn't even
contemplate the concept. You're going to just tote completely flip
your life upside down but you're also lived your life with with a
person for this long you're going to throw that out where's
Your sugar
where where's your sensitivity to the person that you're living
with? It's not just about us ourselves. And what he's saying in
this book is that a person will get into such a depression
that he starts to, to be completely self centered and
worried about his own happiness. Right? All he worried about is his
own happiness.
And he's become completely insensitive and that's why these
guys in the midlife crisis of depression they get these
depression and they leave everything
the abandoned their kids, your wife lived with you 25 years and
you're just gonna abandon that
said I've ever hooked up
forget the fact that
I mean the love in a marriage is something that it's something that
is reproduced daily.
What's going on? Is there alternate sounds or something?
People keep saying they hear stuff. What is that? That's so
weird. What are what are their sounds coming out of the computer
he's decreasing. What's going on?
With this rainbow effect in the audio? No, like there's nothing on
our side. But I just want on YouTube. Did you hit a button or
something? No button. We don't have anything like that. Like in
row Did you hit a button on anything? No.
All these people are saying what is that sound? That was weird.
Further back Harris is saying.
I'm hearing a rainbow but what a rainbow sound like? What is the
rainbow sound like? I don't know what they're saying. Like it was
like,
look, it looks in your hand. If maybe your cord is hitting
something on the road. device. It's not touching anything right
now. Maybe before but I didn't know we had. If that's true. That
is true. ajeeb there was a random sound and colorful buttons. You
see these? Yeah, that sounds like they have deaf sound sound
effects? Yeah, yeah, maybe actually hit it. I didn't know
that. Like a twinkle star effect or a dream effect or something.
Oh, that's what they're saying. Like a Disney fairy tale effect.
They just Oh, yeah. Oh, that okay. Rewind it
Listen, go back to get hit hit the buttons. And you'll you'll hear
and see. Put the headphones on. Just so you know what's what
such Yeah.
I mean, you put the headphones on here. I actually don't know. Maybe
you gotta put your headphones on because you won't hear it. We
didn't know we had that.
I mean, like maybe I accidentally clicked it, but I did not know.
Which was
Kenneth leach was like, I thought there's a new part of the show
yeah, so you accidentally hit that with your mic? Probably. Probably.
Yeah, the bird chirp right here. We'll turn it off. And there was
this one. That's that's a rainbow.
Oh, that's like a drum one. Okay, by the way, you know that you can
insert any sound effects you want.
You can insert a stop for Allah you can.
You can insert effect you want and those.
You just open the software and you drag whatever you want each button
to be.
And by the way, you see that?
All right. No, I was like a little pause. Yeah.
So back to the point of the midlife crisis of these guys that
have these midlife crisis and usually you don't always see with
Muslims, right? But they become so depressed that all they can think
about is alleviating their own personal pain, even if that causes
a ton of people other pain and goes and and I've sought in New
Haven. I don't know if it was midlife crisis or what but Dr.
Jimmy Jones, he told me the whole story that a whole generation of
guys got this second wife idea in their heads. They all did it. And
all of them. Their families were destroyed. He said, This is why
the message is empty. He told me the message is that this place was
buzzing with like 567 families. This is way back right? In the
right after 911 era, right? They all got this in their heads. And
they all did it. And none of those women are they they don't live
like that. Same way as we don't live like that and destroyed all
those families. And where is your sense? said almost said it's not
just always at the moment. Where's your sense of
responsibility? Where's your sense of respect? Where's your sense of
sensitivity in terms of he was saying this about a man who wanted
just to divorce his wife
Right. And he says, Where's your responsibility, like, where's your
there are other things besides your own feelings.
And, and that's why marriages and love is something that has to be
worked on, you know, we're putting up a company for this. It's
something that has to be worked on the what you put into it is what
you get out of it. That's something that just develops on
its own. What's more important, what's more valuable love or
money,
you have two options right now a very bad marriage and a lot of
money.
And you can't change you the one or a very good marriage and a
little bit of money.
You're going to take a lot of money. But what are you gonna do
with the money that right?
Now, so you can't change either one, most people say no, life will
be better. If you have love in your home, and enough money to
live, then a lot of money, but misery in your home. Life. So love
is more important than wealth, wealth takes work, love also takes
work. It takes respect, sensitivity, all these things. And
these people, when they don't put the work into it, then all of a
sudden, that bank account of love is empty.
You think that whatever you do afterwards, you're just going to
recreate the same problem because you don't know how to do it.
Right? It's not the person that you're you have issues with. It's
you, yourself, don't know how to produce, don't know how to produce
love from yourself and others, there are ways that you could do
this. So they destroyed their community with that completely.
And he warned he was like, of course he knows the ruling is the
ruling. But he was like warning severely against this, like guys
in their mid life, they always talk about it and think it's a
light subject, but it's not a light subject. And it's not
something that people should play games with. And play games with
other people's lives, let alone when you have children at your
your kids are involved and you'd completely destroy your families
don't play here's a rule of thumb. You don't play games and things
that are extremely serious in life. If you get those things
down, right, you don't have to worry about anything else. Right?
You don't have to worry about anything else. You can be very
light hearted about everything else in the world. If you take the
certain core things, and you just focus on them and get them right.
The first one is your iman and your Arcada. And the people you
surround yourself with. The second one is your family life.
Yeah, make sure that family life everyone is happy in that family.
And one of the I can remember I was reading
where was I? Where were we reading it? We would check it out here or
what? When he said that?
Oh, it was the mimetic even medic who said
I think he said the intelligent man is the one who makes himself
lovable to his family.
I think I think it was shaky. I wrote a shot the wedding. Yeah, he
said even a medic said the intelligent one. I believe he said
the real man is the one who makes himself the most lovable person in
his house is chuck
chuck chuck Salim Orion speech
Chuck's walima at NBC. Right, huh?
You can make yourself lovable, the prophesy sounds like give gifts,
sensitivity also, not not talking about things you know is going to
hurt them.
Not laughing at things you know is going to hurt them. Like
oftentimes some guys laugh about this. I'm going to take a second
wife, like you're hurting somebody, you may think it's
funny. And you say I'm not just a joke. But you're it's a
sensitivity, right?
It's like a boss come and say, You know what? How about how about
your shake? We love to you, right? I wish you could you know, get
myself a new batch batch and what eats? Right? What if? What if?
What if our chef said that to us? Like, Oh, shoot? I don't know if
he's serious. Is he joking? Right? Like, how would we like it? If a
chef said that to us? We get stuff a whole bunch of new movies, or an
employer. He said that to you? Right? Like I don't know. It's
just jokes. To me. It's not a joke, right? Certain things to you
is to others as a joke to me is not sensitivity is one way to earn
a lot of love and your family generosity, forgiveness and all.
Ultimately, you got to give away a lot of time.
There is an article in New York Times The Curse of the new
generation is the amount of success they have with their
hands.
The Curse of the new generation is that they have so many
opportunities. There's no room for kids. And in some cases, so much
success. There's no room for a spouse, no room for marriage. Some
people are so good at school, they go on from school to medical
school. They're so good and they get offer all the fellowships, and
they get all the way up to
you know, the highest levels in their fields, because they're so
smart. But there is such a thing as too much of a good thing
because now those offers are almost too good to refuse.
But the moment you accept it, you're actually refusing marriage.
And that's what happens. And then what happens when you invest in
those? And you're 40 years old, and you're not married? Are you
even marriage a bull?
Honestly, you're probably your first marriage is going to be a
dry run, that's a disaster. You're gonna have to learn all the
lessons. Right?
You go to age, we hit age 40, you're stuck in your ways.
Do you know how much hassle that just a baby is going to cause to
you? Right? And you may feel like, I can't take my foot off the
pedal.
I gotta keep going.
And
but the baby's gonna take away a lot of your time. Do you have to
make a choice? So there is can you pull up the New York Times article
today? Are you registered for New York Times? Good? Why are you
registered New York Times?
You're like, 20 years old? Why would the New York Times Are you
like mature or something? Or what?
That must be it. Right? I only read Al Jazeera in the New York
Times. Okay. Oh, he's got a list. So he's very mature, man. Right.
So what do you pay? What did they pay now? $1 a month still? Or is
it $3 A month? They keep raising the price?
Free with his college? That's good for you. Good for you.
I don't know. Don't Ask Don't Tell. It's haram to use a paywall
blocker, don't ask, don't tell. I'm telling you get things right.
In your homes and your dean first, in your dean, pick someone who's
agrees with your dean.
I'll tell you wherever Dean doesn't matter what, but neither
of them care. Right? Where neither of them care. If but if both of
them care, they need to be on the right opinion in the same opinion.
Otherwise, in anything, like if you if you're both political
people, you can't be opposed. You care so much about certain views,
you have to have the same views, right? Certain things. My theory,
certain things in marriage have to be the same view. And certain
things should be opposite. The same view, it should be in the
Corps things, right? The opposite view should be in temperament.
Like I rush, and she thinks, right?
Like that temperament.
I want to use intimidation, she wants to use negotiation. Like
those things, do you make a perfect pair and both in your kids
also get to see the spectrum. But main views, religious views,
whatever you care about has to be the same. You got to be in
agreement on this right? Or else you're gonna have a clash.
You get that your dean, right. And when you guys get married,
you got to know what to put out.
Ahead of your of marriage is only Dean. That's it, nothing else
should be ahead of career should not be ahead of it.
Parents, in a sense to a to an area where if, if it's not taken
away from someone else's rights, that's their condition. So for
example, a dad cannot say to his son,
I need you to come and join me. We're going on a trip. Oh, but
yeah, but my kids need me here. Don't worry about that.
Or a wife, Oh, Dad cannot say I need you to divorce this guy. He's
a bum complete divorce this guy or she says to the Son, you need to
divorce this woman, or the usually it's the mother tells her son, get
rid of this woman. There's rights for other people. So you need to
be with them provided that it doesn't aggress upon someone
else's rights, your job with your family, with your parents, as as
Allah says they may have given in Dec al Qaeda, when they reach old
age with you.
So a man who will be responsible for his mother, father, and in the
absence of a son for his in laws than his endless to
what is that banging out there? Because that a kid playing or the
construction of construction? Can you just take a peek out of this
window? Is it construction? Or I hope?
I don't want anyone ruin that patio. That those pavers are
gorgeous pavers, I don't want anyone ruined? Take a look and
also shift like, yeah, you notice that a lot of people in marriages,
the reason doesn't work out is because they're not the same
playbook. They don't have the same payment. That's why you need to
both be on the same page you need to have Okay, when we have a
disagreement, yeah. Where do we go back to? Yeah, so you see in the
modern day and age, right, you have like this person is operating
on this framework, and the husband's on a different
framework. So when they disagree, it's like, how do you solve a
problem? You have to have the same result. Meaning when there is a
question in life, where do we go back to write the questions about
life question about right and wrong? What's our resource? We
don't have to know the answers but we have to know the resource. Like
this is the law book right here. If when there's a dispute about
right and wrong is where we go, right. And then there needs
there's some there's not going to be in the lobby.
Like, which school are we going to go to is not going to be in the
dean? Which specific thing are we going to do? Which home? Are we
going to get? Which neighbors are we going to choose to live next to
all those types of things. So now you need a methodology. And I'm
telling you the best methodology isn't one of the heart which is
sensitivity to the person in front of you care more about the that
others than yourself. Right? If you always care about yourself,
that's the abode of business. That's the abode of the
marketplace. That's the state to be in in the marketplace, when I
go to the market is not going to do charity.
When you go put your resume out to interview at a job, it's not
charity, to say, You know what? I'm going to scratch the
interview. You take the job, no one does that. Right. That's why
the contracts in Islam or manyatta show or magnetic karma, maybe I
should, I'm coming for myself. And there's nothing wrong with that.
There's nothing immoral about that. Nothing on Islamic about
that. Maybe animal Kadoma is we're coming together on a deal, but I'm
willing to forego most of what's mine. But and I'm gonna give you
extra. That's what our shoe taught us. Check my Bucha beep teaches
this.
In Bevin, Nika, and he says oxygen MEB Nyan mukarram. Right. And, and
that's what's most important. So it's not just about what is my
rights, you're gonna get your rights, but you're not going to be
happy. There's a big difference in getting your rights and being
happy. Right?
Allah subhana wa, tada promised the Arabian Peninsula, that He
will fill them because of the draw of Ibrahim. He will overflow them
with resources. Do they have the resources or not? Yes. Are they
happy or not? Are they successful or not? They're not successful.
Right? Yeah, they're successful have resources that are is it an
improvement to their deen and the OMA? No, it's not. So there's one
thing about getting your rights is nothing about being happy. And
being happy in your home. It's all about being selfless.
Anyone who's done spiritual training,
right? Learns selflessness.
You'll be you'll be so happy everything will come back to what
he mathematics said the intelligent. Can someone find me
that quote? Find that quote about Mr. Malik. I don't even know what
the Arabic is. Right. That's a problem. Yeah.
So when it comes to the subject matters, you got to be sensitive
about it. And you have to not do what these guys do. When you see
them having their midlife crisis. Right, going off and acting
stupid.
thrown their whole life away. Do you got a sports car and get
you and someone half their age? And it turns out, you know, she's
gonna dump them in the future anyway.
I think
just nasiha Hetzel, Imam Malik, literally jelly fill boot. Just
say that maybe someone's got an article on it. Right?
Those people
say,
they never fight. Like, met two couples who say, No, we've been
married for this amount of years, and we've never fought once.
Only believe one of them.
Which one of them? Like you're talking about? He said the Prophet
and said if indeed you No, no, no, I would have been humbled. Oh, you
jump out in our time.
I don't know. They must have like,
you know, some kind of personality uniqueness to them. You know,
that's
what is going on back there. I couldn't see construction. Because
I didn't
want to be ruined. And though those papers telling you.
My husband gives enough money to his mom more than what he gives
me. Should I be okay with that? I don't like this. What don't you
like the amount that you get? Or that he gives his mom more because
we know that? The Prophet did say when he was asked who was most
worthy of my goodness, he said your mother than your mother than
your mother than your father. So your questions should not be what
he gives his mom. Your questions should be is his gift to me. Make
me happy. Right? Forget the mom. Don't compare.
Don't compare? Because he has religious responsibility towards
his mom.
We don't forget that. Okay.
All right. What's the other one there?
Isn't the Surah Nisa it says the default to have multiple wives if
you're able to do justice. Yes, that is interpretation of some but
I believe it's this or more. If you ask me. And if I look at the
shield around us, they always talk about this throughout the art.
It's not really changing the ruling of but it's odd. And it's
also
it's also just basic common sense. If you're going to do are you
going to advise people to do something you don't know how
to do.
So that's why things come to a standstill in certain things is
like nobody does it. Therefore nobody can push other people to do
it. Right? We have no reference point for this. And many people
ask me all the time you, when you say this ruling, Oh, would you let
your daughter do it? Or would you do it? I say no, I wouldn't, I
wouldn't do it. And I wouldn't let my daughter do it. Right. And even
if my daughter comes to say, let's say crazy hypothetical, though I'm
okay with it. You may think you're okay with it. But we have no
reference point for this. I'm not going to miss her. That's why I
said I don't mess around with the most important things in life. You
do them and you'd be very conservative in them. Conservative
meaning the way that I've seen it work, even raising kids to the
best way. That's why I love Shia Castro's answer. The best place to
live is the place you were born. Because you have reference points.
Right? You have a history with that. Whereas you go to somewhere
else. Yeah, it's it's all question marks. You don't know what you're
getting. And what you know, is always safer than what you know,
the main things in life are your faith, your family and your
finances. ft. If you get these things, and you treat them right
with Allah to Allah, you'd be safe with everything else, you don't
have to worry about anything else. After that. You're on your Eman
and you're up either your marriage and your household and your
family.
And then your finances. That could mess a person's life up. Gotta
have a way of earning. Right and you got to give it time every day.
I'm telling you the way the of life the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
gave his Sahaba
is very different from what we're about to read here in the New York
Times where people can now go to the moon in their careers.
They could do so well in their careers. And it's tempting. It's
tempting to live your life trying to be the most influential, the
most successful, the most everything. But there are costs to
that. Sometimes I wish. No, like, long back to the old days was
no worries about having to say anything on social media or
anything like that. And you live a very simple life.
Allah protects you from many other things. And this way of living,
makes a lot of people feel regret. I can't believe that he's doing
it. But I'm not.
That's not really in the end of the day. What gives a person
satisfaction happiness. A lot of these people as we're going to see
here,
they're imbalanced. They're completely imbalanced. Their
family lives are messed up. Their spiritual life is filled with
grief. Shakira HEOS, just chit chatting with him the other day
about clubs about grief and sadness. And he said it often
comes with fame.
That Allah to Allah through s Bab usually through means through
errors through ASVAB through a means brings grief to a person.
And he said, Hey, Father, nollie to preserve him.
Because the world gets so big in his head, and he's giving so much
attention to it. He forgot Allah.
And the way to bring you back is to pour bitterness into your
heart. This is what we call pubs and clubs. You can never escape
it. Even the greatest and the kebab out of the Olia.
They can and they have no mistakes. They receive cubs, the
Cubs comes to them without a reason. For no reason we may get
received cards because we messed up with something we fell into a
debt. We said something wrong that bothered somebody we have a
problem at work problem at home. So this causes pubs into a person
and makes that person Flee to Allah.
That's the real reason behind bad things happening.
But what about those people who are coming? Their deeds are
perfect, their deen is perfect. They're helpful they give to
people it's perfect.
They're big, they're often their, their their speech is perfect,
doesn't go over bound doesn't insult anybody. So there's no sub
to make them grief. Don't fall into grief or have a problem. He
said they get it anyway, Allah pours it without a sub pours that
on their hearts without a sub to increase the return back to him.
So there's no escaping of these things, but you have to understand
the reason.
They have to understand the reasons to make us turn back to
him. So
these lifestyles are very very illusory. It's an illusion. Let's
actually see what the article says.
Young secular politically progressive men, women having
children has become something of an afterthought. Liberal
conventional wisdom encourages people to spend their 20s on
journeys of professional personal and professional self discovery of
self fulfillment.
Children are treated as a bonus round something to get only after
completing a long list of achievements getting a degree for
Jinke a satisfying a well established career, buying a house
cultivating the ideal romantic partnership.
The standard, let me tell you something, I talked to a chef the
other day, just chit chatting with one of my colleagues.
He said to me, there was a huge program in his masjid.
And I said how to go. Because you were there was a how to go. He's
the honest truth is, I was excited for the program. When all that
stuff, place was packed, 2000 people. So
he said, To tell you the truth, I didn't go. Right. He said, as I
had accidentally promised my daughter, I take her out on that
Friday night.
And he said, To tell you the truth, I took her out. We hung
out, we stayed out late, we came home, everyone was asleep. We took
out the cereal, and watch TV for an extra half hour. And then I
went to set her up to sleep and I went to sleep. He said, we said
we'll lie that was the most satisfying Friday night I ever
had. And he's like, speaking at a different restaurant every night.
You think that every week, you think that he sits in front of two
3000 people every single Friday night? If he's on his tours,
right? You would think that's the most satisfying thing. He says, by
a lot, no. And he said nobody knows. This is not something
that's ever going to be out there. There's the most satisfying things
tend to be things that nobody knows, right?
I'm telling you how to live, based on these people's experience, and
these books and all these things that are pointing to what is the
Prophetic way, and is far greater than the Western way, the
individualistic way of climbing a mountain of your career. And being
up there alone.
Yeah, people came and took pictures of you and write articles
about you, then they leave. And you stay alone.
And that's the problem. The standards of readiness for family
says are at once. So high and so vague that it's hardly a surprise
when people fail to reach them.
Indeed, the data suggests that people are having children later
than they used to, and having fewer than they'd like, I actually
accidentally insulted a whole crowd of people that I was talking
to the other day. And I said talks about the only child.
Sometimes people have one kid, they have two kids. And oftentimes
the happiness of kids is not in one and two.
It's in the group. Right? It's in the group.
When there's three and four, four is maybe the best number because
you have even numbers 2123 Someone may be left out,
are you then I said I went off on the hole. Only child's like
they're awkward. They have to learn social skills. They never
learned how to share. But I went off right as it went second, who
here is only like half the room.
So no offense to them. But it is fair observations. All right.
For progressives wanting to have children has also become a kind of
ethical imperative. Gender equality, and female empowerment,
demanded that
women's self advancement not be sacrificed on the altar of butter.
These are, this is the satanic lie, a cheat, to cheat you out
from the thing that will make person the most happy.
This is one of those things that you hear people say, but you don't
really believe it until you live it yourself. This is going to make
you the most happy. Right?
Why some people, when they have a lot of big family and kids, they
end up not having the most success in their career. I'll tell you the
number one reason they don't feel the need to.
They don't. They're not driven by demons. They're not they don't
feel the need
to have that success anymore. Right. And when you look at a guy
like Steve Jobs because he was rejected, he has such a big hole
in his heart.
That's why he was working 24 hours a day because a huge hole in his
heart. When his parents gave him up like that, and he doesn't know
who was real dad, mom and dad was right. Turns out his dad was a
waiter at a restaurant he used to go visit all the time.
Right? Imagine you discover, just imagine the psychology of the
trauma of a person who discovers in middle of his life. The waiter
that serves you the food right?
Is your debt.
He said after that I didn't want to talk to my dad he gave me up so
I wouldn't want to talk to him but he did leave him bigger tips
so here I think they're telling a lie to their they are not think
they're lying to people. And it's a satanic trap. To say Tom does
not want you to enjoy the namah of life and children is also which
makes you a better person.
Now you are a teacher whether you like it or not, you are an imam
whether you like it or not in Islam, you're an Imam, whether you
like it or not the moment you have kids, you're they're shaped
not by your words, but by your behavior.
How many people that I knew who, in the deen side of things were
more on the wayward side
but as soon as they got married and had kids, they got to bring
their kids to the Quran, right? They got to bring their kids to
hips, and just dropping them off. transforms them. Just dropping the
kid off. Right? Hey, Omar have an idea for you.
Almost have an idea. The color, the navy blue there, whatever
color you choose, put that behind the hand, but put the words above
the hint.
Always becoming like a graphic designer.
You see what I mean?
Yeah.
See if that works. That'll be a cool effect. Yeah, see, he's got
he's got a list of layers. Yeah, there you go.
It's kinda sort of kinda sorta works.
But you see the idea. I was becoming a graphic designer here.
Securing female autonomy means under no circumstances should a
woman be rushed into reproductive. Just a reproductive decision. Why
are you preaching whether by an eager partner or tone deaf chatter
about ticking biological clocks? I don't think that's chatter. I
think that's real biological clock ticking, that's real.
unreserved enthusiasm for having children can come across as
essentially reactionary. Over the past few past four years, we've
conducted interviews and surveys with hundreds of young Americans
about their attitudes towards having kids, these and I just
advise some brothers that had like a 10 year plan. And merit getting
out faster across marriage was not part of it.
And I'm like, who fooled you, this is going to be the best thing that
you do. Right? This literally is the best thing that's going to
bring you the most happiness. jobs come and go. And so money's easy
to make, by the way, and you want to you want to make money, it
might take you a while. But I believe if you asked me that,
there's sort of a universal law.
When it comes to money, if you want it, and you'll do what's
needed
to make it within the Hello, you'll get it.
If you go where it's at, you'll get it.
Knowledge is when you learn. You realize knowledge is it's not hard
to get,
go to the right people.
at the, at the amount that you can read the right books, put in the
right time, you will have knowledge in 10 years, you'll be
knowledgeable, people be asking you for dues, right? Same thing
with physical fitness.
All these things are not hard. But things that involve other people
are far more sensitive. Because you can't control other people the
way you can throw money.
You can't predict how they're going to react. You can't take
them for granted. They're far greater of a gift
than any of these other things. How many fools have you seen in
life
miss out on all their kids? childhoods?
They missed out on all their children's childhoods just to make
money.
Wow, what a waste. What a waste. Forget their Deen
right which they're going to regret that as they get older, and
they start going to the grave that you're gonna regret
it how can we take a thought of this a summary of this whole
article I told you he was smart.
Amassing stuff has destroyed you and killed you.
Over the past four years, we've conducted interviews and surveys
with hundreds of young Americans about their attitudes towards
having children. These conversations revealed that the
success narratives of the modern liberal life leave little room for
having a family. Women who want kids often come to the realization
belatedly at some point in their early 30s. The so called pandemic
panic years. If they're lucky, their partner if they have one
will fall in line. If they are not, they face a choice of
returning to the dating pool, freezing their eggs, single
parenting or growing up, giving up their hope of having kids of their
own. So shades on wants to lead you to this desperate decade.
That's his goal, and the colors of the colorful things that you can
do in your 20s it's an illusion
that he uses to get you into deep into your 30s Without this family
support system that's going to make your life good and happy and
better and alleviate a lot of your anxieties that happen from outside
if the outside world.
That's his goal. I believe Shawn's goal is to get you
To be sad, you have with OLIO
Hello Natalie. Hola. Hola. Hola finale what a homie has anyone
fear sadness? That is a goal of Iblees.
In this way, the logic post logic of postponement that has been
promoted by liberals and progressives and bolstered by
overblown optimism about reproductive technology, robs
young people of their agency who wrote this article, how many
children they have, and even whether they have them at all, is
increasingly a decision made for them. By cultural conventions.
Yeah, it's your your brain has manufactured to think negatively
about these things, because of how many things you see in Hollywood,
in shows where, you know, it's a negative, right?
This is not and Shakira had mentioned in his speech that every
single there were prophets who married and prophets we didn't
marry.
But the Quran does not mention any single prophet who didn't marry
even Prophet Yeah, hear himself say now here, did marry before he
died before he was executed he was killed.
This is just not a recipe for unhappiness, it also reflects a
deep confusion. There is nothing inherently unprogressive about
embracing the prospect of children even Simone de
Beauvoir, the philosopher who was among the first to critique
reproduction and family as instruments for the oppression of
women of women acknowledge that shaping the character and
intellect of another human being was the most delicate and most
serious undertaking of all. While certain conservative visions of
family life such as Trad, wives, and Silicon Valley pro nativism,
no doubt have little to offer those on the left. Our fellow
progressives need to stop thinking of having children as a
conservative hobbyhorse and reclaim it for what it is a
fundamental human concern.
If the left is against children, won't you die out?
The tried to take our children, right. Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't think that women should have a choice to stay at home and
raise children. Because if they did, and too many of them would
take that option. She knows her own kind.
That was wrong. Can
you have kids for how long are they kids? Only a few years.
Right?
But career and job, that stuff is always there. It's always there.
But you have kids for such a limited amount of time. Right?
The family recognize a seed of customs and traditional values has
long been central to appeal to the appeal of conservatism.
Any people who want to destroy
right want to destroy any people who want to destroy a people
should destroy their families first, because then you can
control them easily.
It wasn't long ago that Republicans and Democrats fought
over who could rightfully claim the party of family values. Bill
Clinton, while campaigning for president against George Bush,
assailed the Republican Party's commitment to families as little
more than hypocrisy.
Where are they he asks when there is no health care for pregnant
women, when too many children are born with low birth weights.
But in time, the liberals and progressives came to shy away from
publicly embracing the American family as a symbol and an ideal.
Do these people not know how humanity is structured?
People? Where do they come from? Right? I don't think come from the
like, the structure of like being against the mitochondria. Like
what is the structure of humanity at large? Does it not come from
from this? So after Mr. Clinton was impeached in the wake of his
own family values hypocrisy and George W. Bush was elected. With
the help of energize evangelical voters, family friendly rhetoric
became anathema to liberals perceived as phony intrusive and
toxic. The notable exception was gay marriage, which they're all
about
was legalization was one with the help of arguments that promoted
the virtues of families. So every June we have to, we have to really
promote a lot of this because that's going to be our reaction.
Let's see who wins out in 50 years, the people who embrace a
way of marrying the opposite gender and having kids or those
who are sticking with the same gender and dying of diseases,
which is the truth, a lot of diseases. There's one even now
that someone sent me an article, that sword recently, a new STD
that is prominent amongst gay men. So who do you think is going to
win out over 50 years? The group that has to win over converts by
paying Netflix and or getting their lobbies to pay movies to
make sure that for
80% of the whole operation is gay. That group or the group that's
going to go marry and have four kids each. You all should aim to
marry and have four kids each to support them. For
two, we'll just replace you.
One, the third one. If you're you got to make room for accidents.
Back in the day, they used to have to make room for wars. We don't
have to. But you got to make room for an accident. Maybe something
will happen to one kid. Maybe that kid won't reproduce right? For
covered your insurance, right.
Today, the left proudly defends the sacrosanct right to abortion
and reproductive justice while almost entirely sidestepping the
question of whether having children is a worthy project to
begin with.
The stark polarization of today's public discourse has only
heightened the left's weariness of kids, both privately and
politically. If you hate kids so much, why are you taking over
Disney?
Alright, Disney should be totally conservative. Like who is your
customer base? Are you people not aware of who's showing up to these
things? Who shows up to Disney?
They should be totally conservative. All their movies
should be conservative to have any brain. Right? Think about it.
Teenagers, 20 year olds kids that go to
you know, like Mardi Gras. They don't go to Disney. These aren't
the people who like Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck. Like they should
be a 100% conservative company because that's your customer base.
You'd probably win over so many people. If that was your customer
base. If that was your your your focus on their business would
double and triple how many you know how many miles you're not
going to see inside out anymore? Because that turned out to be all
about LGBT now. So you don't you out you guys don't know these kids
movies. But there's some of these kids movies that
were popular amongst kids now they have sequels and third 1/4 One and
everything. But eventually they turned gay. They have to write to
get the secure the investment or to secure the ability to get a
reward an award or whatever. But then again, you're sacrificing
your actual customer basis. It makes no sense.
Eventually, yeah.
progressive policy defeats
are often met with anti needleless grandstanding, members of the
ecological activist group birth striker founded in 2018, declared
that they were protesting climate inaction by refusing to have kids.
There's another thing too, when Allah loads the way of a people.
He makes them love not having kids as a favor for humanity.
Because if they had kids, they'd increase. So you're doing us all a
favor, when you don't have kids? Because if you got kids, chances
are he's gonna be like you 90% chance people fall in the
footsteps, the philosophy of their parents 90% Only 10% change, I
would say, right.
Overall, liberal family turns out to have liberal kids conservative
family, well, they have to fight against Netflix and everything
else. So maybe 50%. But I believe it's a curse on people whom Allah
does not want to to more of them.
He makes like the last curse. He makes him not want to have kids so
that the earth will be free of the likes of you when you die.
Whereas you know that people in this room, if you have kids, if
y'all have four or four kids, it's going to be much more people to
fulfill your what you believe is right, even if you die, they'll
keep it going.
Right.
The following year, shortly after proposing legislation for a green
New Deal, Representative AOC broadcast progressives hesitancy
to reproduce in the face of climate change to her 2.5 million
Instagram followers when she said it does lead young people to have
a legitimate Is it okay to still have children. The Supreme Court's
Dobbs decision which overturned the constitutional right to
abortion in 2022, has also made liberals and progressives more
uneasy with the idea of starting a family.
A year after Dobbs, the reproductive rights journalist
Andrea Gonzalez Ramirez wrote that she had been constantly having
children in her early 30s, before the Supreme Court's decision, to
put an end to all that I've never been sure that I desire to be a
mom, let alone that I desire it enough to assume the risks these
days over the door shut. I choose myself. So that's a common
sentiment and what is going to happen to you you will be extinct.
You want to know what being extinct looks like. My
development, maybe have
100 homes 60 homes in I don't know. It's a whole bunch of
streets and cul de sacs right.
I think there were three
ethnic first owners, the homes the first owners of them were like
three, all the rest of the whites.
It's probably now the opposite now
probably now the opposite. Every single new owners in the last 10
years in this development have been Indian, Pakistani Arabs.
They've been the owners, the new buyers.
That's literally replacement extinction right before your eyes.
Yeah, what goes up like everywhere else? But that's not the reason
that the whites aren't buying, right.
They're just where are they just ask any old person from South
Brunswick. What was life like when you were 30 years ago when you
were, you know, in the middle of your life?
Don't say it was like, Americans, all of white Americans, right? And
then South Brunswick slowly has just become completely Desi.
Right? Edison same thing, but touching an Edison. No different
gas, the old people there. What happened? All right. So these are
the suburban areas. These are the people who own homes. They own
four or five or three, four bedroom homes. That means they
have kids. So go to the schools. I my, my son just took the SATs out
of school at a public school. That's where the testing center
was. I get there and it's a South Brunswick Vikings and it has
like a white person with blond hair as the logo. So I was like,
no, they should change it to the South Brunswick cricketers. When I
rolled up to drop them off. Where the Vikings I see cricketers,
right.
People who pray cricket should be the logo, not a Viking
or change it to waIking?
How they pronounced Viking, right.
Yeah.
That choice is not uncommon. In a recent study, 34% of women ages 18
to 39 reported that they or someone they know had decided to
get pregnant due to concerns about managing pregnancy related medical
emergencies. That might sound like a worry about abortion access. But
the study suggests that dogs intensified ambivalence about
having children more generally. Indeed,
the women who said they were foregoing having children because
of jobs, about half lived in states where abortion rights were
still protected. It's just an it's a weird thing. I mean, you
couldn't possibly get an abortion
hundreds of years ago except through some weird techniques.
That may or may not work, probably right. I'm assuming it was the
heart. So if everyone followed what you're following here,
we wouldn't have had humanity population would have dipped a
long time ago.
It's so important to study this stuff. Because
if the prophesy Sam said, half the dean is Nikka it's half the dean.
It deserves that much attention.
We got to find him a medic saying this in most intelligent view is
the one who makes himself most beloved in the house. That's going
to be a by the way there's for as much as careerism is
oftentimes sensitivity in your home is shamed. But the hadith of
it shamed as like you're being soft, what's some of the terms
that they use for this?
What do they call it being a simp? Right? Being a simp, if it's haram
if you're permitting something haram
right, being a de youth, if you're a permissive of what is unlawful,
if you are permissive of what removes your shahada or your we
can say your your self respect
your self respect
that we can say is your is that blameworthy stuff.
thing the youth there's two definitions that I've seen for the
youth, the one who allows his wife to literally do Zina,
or the one who allows his what women to go out looking in
decently not following the Sharia outside the house. I found two
different can you look up the caboose and masala hats or
something? See what the Maliki has say about that? Do you have camo
suicides and Medicaid? I haven't here.
Call moose moose. Selahattin Malika Yeah, let me look it up for
you here get the book I want to know what the medic is in
specifics just out of curiosity
know just the women of your household that you have authority
over
your daughters so your sisters you have control over their that the
responsibility for their dad
Yeah.
But they often have a type of thing where
I don't know they're like embarrassed to have a sense of
sensitivity. But that is what's going to make your life happy.
Right? But on the on the
If you're worried about being called a day youth or being called
weak or something weak is something that permitted
permitting what is unlawful or permitting what is disrespectful
to yourself? No one's said to dishonor yourself look up
the youth with a with a debt
there was a poor guy came on a YouTube video the other day and
said guys, why are you calling me to youth? I'm not the youth right?
I'm not a youth. I'm like, why would they call this guy that you
click on the thing? Just got him and his newlywed wife in every
single video Hi we're here we're doing this and
and then you brought it upon yourself to call you a day youth
to put your this is my wife and she just got me this nice gift
Where are you broadcasting your whole personal life to firstly
Don't you worry about her I said that's number one. Number two
that that isn't that isn't right some of those guys may have
appointed and attacking you with that. That's not the way we're
supposed to live.
One can't help noting the irony and permitting the conservative
movement to alienate them from the question of whether they want to
have children so are we're so slowly go into the part that
conservatives for have kids be married and have kids. Progressive
be single.
Which is be extinct
or be extinct? Yeah. But the part is, the partisan framing of the
issue is flawed. The question of children ultimately transcends
politics and deciding whether to have children we confront a
philosophical challenge is life however imperfect, and however
challenging, however fraught with political disagreement and
disaster worth living? Is a life worth living now they're asking to
be sure having children is not the only way to address this question.
But having children remains the most basic and accessible way for
most of us to affirm the value of our lives, and that of others.
This is in part because becoming apparent represents one of the
greatest responsibilities one human being can assume for
another.
And it's also because the perpetuation of human life is the
condition of possibility. For every other thing we care about
committing oneself to long term leftist causes like economic,
environmental, racial, and social justice is more than just
compatible with embracing children and family life. It presupposes a
willingness to take personal collective responsibility for next
generation, raising, nurturing and educating those who will decide
the fate of our country and our planet. Surely, progressives, and
conservatives will give a vastly different answer to those
questions are what raising children ought to look like? Blah,
blah, blah.
Alright, that's the end of the article.
You can be about the environment and also have kids like he's
trying to, she's trying to save it. She's trying to save it for
for the progressives hats.
In the commercial, Mr. Hart doesn't have that because it gets
it's not very, it's not a
term that has rulings related to it, perhaps it's just a sinful
state, or sinful things that look it up in any other commerce.
And it can move slower. We sorry. It's not going to be a shot a term
like leak. There's no legal basis.
I don't think that yeah, exactly. I don't think there's a hokum
connected to it. There's sinfulness connected to it, but
there's no like,
chain reaction of again, that would for example, if someone
apostate it is there's a chain of outcome, your marriage will be
nullified on the spot. Inheritance nullified on the spot, all deals
with, you know, the fight on the spot, your wealth goes to the
state you're gonna get
is to Tebah for three days. And then there's a punishment. So
there's again, the youth is just like a sinful thing that you're
doing. But there aren't again immediately there. Maybe you could
say actually
it could be something that a woman could seek a separation from if
he's the youth with the daughter something like that. Right. But
look it up anyway. I want to know if it if the dominant position is
that it's the man who allows his spouse his wife to do his
daughter's to do Zina, or just going out in decently without the
requisite clothing to be worn.
Or body to be covered, I should say.
Yeah.
Let's take a quick breather while you guys look it up. Let's go to
qurbani.
GRT. We support GRT. As we know, hey, Omar can ask you to increase
the size of that so I could read the different nations there.
And then secondly, in terms of so in terms of need dimension Syria
first and then Bangladesh after
India 130 pounds you could slaughter a cow get on their
nerves for that
1/7 of a share is 90 130 19 pounds Uganda,
Malawi, Morocco, India, Pakistan, Rohingya,
Bangladesh north of Gaza, Yemen and Syria
you can go to grt you can click what you want and pay them for
your Kobani to go to those places in case that for example
you don't have a local cow, a local goat a local sheep.
So you could do it there through GRC I'm gonna send a link in the
chat I'm just putting up the screen right now. Yeah, so does
the GRT a website you guys know the drill? Yeah, before we got
mentioned nothing so you guys get to run those numbers up. So this
is just starting today. So click and at least get us out of the the
zeros and the goosenecks
get us out of there so that we can
get these get these gentlemen going I've been requesting for a
while as yeah to push this we weren't able to last time but
inshallah before I comes around you guys keep it up all keep it up
for the rest of the stream either one of those images that you have
so we can
get it rolling
Muhammad anything
so the theme here are you happy? It's faith family finances.
But all of this a very gloomy picture. That's the point. That's
the point. All right. Up to you
we're talking about the thumbnails you know we he makes them on the
spot here.
Why don't you try let's see what it looks like put some uplifting
colors yellow color. Maybe a nice field
are you happy?
Are you not happy?
Up to you.
My local Masjid in seventh set of having a carnival is hosting a
fourth of July carnival. I emailed them with a strongly email they no
response. Am I the jerk here?
How could they not? Maybe are they having to eat carnival on the
Fourth of July? No, that would make no no sense, right? Because
it's way off? No, I think it's a fair question. Hungry Hippo.
That's Hungry Hippo. They're
fair question Hungry Hippo.
We're now on the open QA for the next half hour after we covered
sources of happiness or Amen. Remembrance of Allah.
A good family life in which your beloved in your households in
which you're you will not earn love to hear fit with your family
if you're not sensitive with them.
And oftentimes, our society's shaming that too.
And really all parameters have to look at are you permitting what's
unlawful? And are you humiliating yourself? That's it, say not even
advertise that don't humiliate yourself. That means don't sit
around a group of people and say bad things about yourself.
And finances is the third thing. This month of June, we really
should actually put a lot of focus on the importance of marriage in
the organization that we're starting up soon. Is was focused
mainly on general wellbeing of people outside of religious
theology studies.
But we narrowed the focus down to
men and women learning how to be good husbands and wives. We all
make mistakes, but you could still be pretty good, right?
And married couples getting better at being married. That's our
response to this LGBT liquid IQ stuff is to respond with not to
say don't do that, but do do this. And don't do that. Because in our
deen we negate and we promote that's really what we're gonna
we're putting that organization together young guy like
yourselves.
Used to take classes you need to take classes now how to be a
married man, what does it mean to be a husband? What does it mean to
be a dad? What are all this stuff mean? You all know that it's more
important than your jobs. If you had a wife and a job and I put a
gun to your head and use it lose one right now. Which one you lose
you're gonna lose your job right? Why for job?
Why for job? Why for job
Yeah, everyone here would lose their job over their wife right?
How much studies do you do for your job?
How much study how much pharmacy can you possibly study is always
studying? What is it a seven year program? No.
Six year program. It's a six year program. Its ba was basically a BA
and MA right?
It's a PharmD it's a six year program and you would give it up
out a heartbeat for a wife right?
But how much studies did you do in having a happy marriage and how to
be husband? Zero, it's not in our culture. It's not in the culture
to study these things right? It's not in the culture to to learn
how to communicate
and communication with a woman is not like communication with a man
I don't care what anyone says. Communication with your wife is
not like communication with anything else. Okay, you need to
learn this stuff needs to be taught
you got the definition of the day youth like six classical
dictionary six classical dicks. Oh honey, honey for her lovey lovey
Rotella was very vague so far he doesn't have any jealousy low min
min. He had the Hulu Allah Marathi from who enters in himself called
Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah Tala imra. Ankara jet min el Beatty while I
am now has old UEFA youth Alright, kinetic if he does stupid all
mineral Jerry
who word other early he will lay the lay you want to other early he
will if he has no shame when it comes to his wife. But I'm trying
to pinpoint it to an action.
Very odd very, very odd for you because you go to West Africa,
North Africa their behavior is very different than Iraq and
Yemen. Very different behavior.
The Scheffer, he noted that this is why he wrote he rewrote some of
the outcome.
When he moved to Egypt, what did they call it, Kadeem? multifocal
Jegede de you youth in this dictionary says Allah the love Ira
tele mediate Hola Hola, Marathi waiata haka Connemara Tahoe. Allah
vibratory reef is good.
I think this type of person who is constantly putting his wife on
Instagram and YouTube shorts and all these reels and whatever, and
he's has a young attractive wife that everyone would look out for
pleasure. Okay, not to be vulgar about it, but that's the truth.
And those call you the youth
you might be right.
On Wednesday declared you do Phil. Phil Boronia Khalid Abu Hanifa
Rahim Allah Allah and Ratan Cara jet mineral bait, you will now
have to have our youth
to Jews of Salah to qualify who Allah Akbar shahada to who Allah
Hill fatwa. So here you have cam Sharia
right? How can i lay here? Do you? Do you say yeah.
So he we don't pray behind him. And his testimony is not accepted.
So yeah, we have to say that there's audit audit involved, no
doubt about that. Right. And it's almost like you use us know that
when you see it? Yeah. You know, because that's the key. That's
the keeper on their lock screen. Keep who, even though I've called
up and
it's not actually anything that's on your phone, you should remove
your women of your family from your phone, what happens if you
lose your phone? What happens if it's unlocked? Somehow, someone I
know, do you can lock your phone, but still, I'm sure there's ways
around that. Right? And
say, for sure. It's actually really dangerous. I've seen like,
you know, with the AI and stuff going around, there's some like
women that you know, have some pictures online, it could just be
their face. And then there's some creeps online that take their face
aIot and make naked pictures of these women. Like, it doesn't take
any work. Right? Like you just go on AI it's it's not very difficult
for someone to do. It's happening like crazy.
That destroys your life,
destroys life and saying,
Well, you know, the only solution for the fix is ramp up the
technology until no pickers trustworthy.
Ramp it all up. Don't make it a skill that someone has, that a few
people have, such that most pictures are trustworthy. And then
the AI sneaks in. No ramp the technology all up to the point
that society at large recognizes no pic is trustworthy. And you
don't have to ask, is it AI? You now have to ask is it real? Right?
What's the proof that it's real? Not that What's the proof that
it's AI? Guys? I think that is a picture of someone with that.
Right? They know what's fake. Looking at that.
That's crazy.
Like, what is ruling for someone who works with the government in a
non Muslim country and cannot pray during working hours, you have to
make the effort on Allah will help you. It's one of those things,
Allah always helps the person
get to fulfill their obligatory prayer. So, in this government job
two peoples have snacks. Do they smoke too? They go to the
bathroom? Do they do anything like that? So Salam may take less time
than that.
Yep. Bassam said should we as parents counteract all these new
shades on a quest was a by going full on traditional having many
kids raising our kids to be marriageable, as young as possible
for gearing up for girls, etc. Now, I would say go with the audit
of what the successful married couples have in your in your
community, don't try to do something new. Go with the audit
of what the successful married families have in your community.
Hey, is there a link for GRT? Did you put the link up? Good. That's
That's what I believe you should do. Right? Go with the audit of
the scholars, the righteous people, the pious people, how are
they living and going about, and you don't need to swing the
pendulum all the way, because it'll swing back.
I was talking to a friend in Canada, and he said the Catholics
of Quebec were at a point where they had, they were having nine
and eight and seven kids per family, believing in the
traditional values. But those kids grew up in such a loud and crazy
household. And didn't like to see sometimes the depressed moms at
the end of the you know, in the middle of life are surrounded with
diapers and urine for the last 20 years.
And depressed sort of, and physically exhausted by all these
kids and physically, not in shape anymore. And they get depressed.
So the girls then went the opposite route, guys and girls
went the opposite route. Right? So you don't want to swing the
pendulum, you just need to click it back. And we have to take this
stuff seriously.
As serious as they take promoting their liquid IQ we should we
should promote this and be serious about it. And not take it as a
laughing matter. Not telling your daughter's the danger of hyper
focusing on higher education and delaying marriage is borderline
criminal, says Joseph. And yeah, you do a lot of things but you
have priorities. You have priorities.
There are priorities, your priorities, your faith than your
family than your finances after that.
Increased sexual freedom led to the decimation of the family which
results in a loss of family identity. And as a result, you
have individuals who are easily prey to movements and governments.
If you make dua, and someone else had a dream that happening, and
informs you of that happening, what does that mean? A lot, Adam,
it could be a true dream that it will happen for you. And Allah
knows best it could be
chocolate wallow says the problem is that some fathers push
University and career even more on daughters as a safety net, just in
case. Okay, here's something that's important, I think there is
some, there is value to those things because
an educated person, if it's the right education is always going to
be better spouse and family member in the first place. Right? It that
doesn't mean there's only one way to get educated. But
the other thing I wanted to mention is a lot of guys who are
asking
for their wives to cover 50% of everything. Like that's in it,
that's a bit of that developed in our community. So the guys
themselves are asking for that, because he wants to, you know, you
don't know get
better stuff in the house and all that stuff. You'll go on vacations
or build a bigger home, so he wants his wife to. So we have to
know that that's a sadaqa from her if she wants to. It's not
obligatory. It's not an obligation.
You seen what is the question? What is it was confused as to why
there was there is like an issue in the community with people
finding.
Like how's it possible, but like the number of Muslims
it is a good question. If there's so many Muslims around why is it
so hard for people to get married?
I think people are very picky. The egos are very high. I think
they're like very, very picky. And
when you have an ability to, you know, order your your your your
cappuccino or your your drink or your frappe with five layers of
choices, right and they get one wrong.
You return the drink, right? And
in the past, you had three choices.
Right? You could have it with milk, or without milk with sugar
or without sugar. So for black no sugar, black with sugar
cream, no sugar, cream and sugar in four choices that was it.
Right? Hard to get it wrong. But now people have like, so many
layers of choices. What kind of milk? Have enough oat milk,
regular milk, skim milk, almond milk?
Or coffee shops. Right? And I don't want espresso. Just I don't
know what to do
before they put in their system and be like,
just the espresso. Yeah.
And then and then I'll be like, or I'll just order the drip coffee.
They'll be like, do you want room for me? It'll be like, No, I just
want Yep. Too many choices. They can't even understand that.
Some of that just want the law. Yeah.
That represents like, it's basically representative of that
in the in the older times, you would have whatever you wherever
you live right in your village or whatever in your city. Probably
gonna marry some girl that you know from like childhood, there's
not many choices, and you're gonna be picky because you don't have
any choices. She doesn't have many choices. You don't have many
choices. And that eliminates all the those those questions in your
head. And you go and you make it you make it work, you become
happy. Sometimes too many choices is no good.
Both are both sides are picky. I would assume I can, you know.
Yeah. It's like, yeah, you haven't really felt like you knew it.
Yeah, yeah, that's true. I think also the families if they know
each other, it's a lot easier. And aunt suggests a nephew to
whatever. That's usually how the old world used to work. And in a
world where
if you have neighborhood masajid
you might chances might be better. Yeah, you know, neighborhood
Masjid. I think also like, there is an aspect of like, the safety
net. Yeah. So you know what that person's about? You've seen like,
in the older days, you know, their family? Yeah, there's no hidden
games or tricks. I think today it's like, you know, people can
move around so quick, right? Like someone's you know, someone maybe
like this person hasn't been in the communities came here last
year. Right. And you don't know what it's about. So you guys a lot
of like, exactly. You know, if you're in a community, why would
you marry someone who's a newbie?
Some people are also scared of that as well. Choice and I think
that's
like, committing to that.
All right, here's another one. He says how do I get out of slippery
slope of fearing what is unseen, unknown and what's to come? Such
as gin, fear of conflict, black magic, fear of persecution,
torture and death.
Fear of conflict is an important chapter that's coming up in this
book. But if we're fear of conflict,
all of these fears you can remove them from your heart by the
decoder via Rahmani r Rahim. Don't forget who's in charge. That's it.
These things are not autonomous things that can attack you. There
are only means by which Allah tests people. So yeah, yeah,
Rahmani Raheem, is that the Quran should say for that. Melody says,
modernity plays a major role in decision of marriage among many
religious and non religious groups, what's acceptable in a
society and what's not new.
And what is has modernity fared have they produced beautiful,
nice, young, small villages with? Everyone's happy? No.
They produce huge cities where everyone's a stranger and they
become weirder every generation.
Just talking about, you know, these modern approaches towards
family and that whole, the whole modern world has success in many
things. But how to nurture a family and a community and a
neighborhood is not one of them. Right? That's that's a fair
assessment. modernity has done amazing things in medicine,
amazing things in communication, amazing things in the spread of
information and knowledge. But one thing it hasn't done is improved
people's family lives. Everybody goes, talks about the old days
when they want to talk about family. Nobody talks about the old
days in medicine, because you did good in medicine. Right? You talk
about it like in the negative sense, man. In the old days, you
have to be awake when you get your teeth pulled out, right? Today.
Boom. Novocaine What is it Novocaine?
lidocaine. What is Novocaine?
That's something else. So
back to the old days, like way back the medical attention was
terrible right now. It's great.
No, yeah. Sometimes, you know, the medical attention was terrible
back in the day. Now. It's great. So these common tropes that people
say all the time, there's a reason for it, because it's true. Right?
As a matter of key that goes to the bar
As the investor should I perform group thinker that comes after the
farts with them? Yes do it with them no problem are we allowed to
pay other people to make cash for us while we're still alive
so they meant to do an Elia of Sham video please yes inshallah
we'll be
can we consider a HUD Hadith interpleader yes we can consider
them but if there is a much awaited on the same subject we go
with the module watch.
The ahead does not supply an exception to the mortality
is knowledge part of it is anything that you benefit is part
of your disk either halal or haram
pen six or seven says I've seen in the last 70 years in Chicago as
well talking about the replacement. Right? If you have
observed a way of living that does not prioritize marriage and
children
and you've come to believe that it's corny and tacky because
that's what society has made you believe and manufactured that in
your head you will go extinct it's just a fact of life
yeah, so what's your opinion on
marriage
temporarily is okay. delay for studies? Yeah, temporarily.
Yeah.
age wise Yeah, mid 20s Yeah, go to the Instagram see if there's any
questions there because someone said go to Instagram
should Muslims wage economic war against the adverse West
that's something for these governments there forget war
they're mimicking them and running
to them and
trying to do exactly live exactly as they do. Is it okay to have a
preference as Osman for a wife who does not work or is that
controlling? No, there's nothing wrong with that.
Controlling is different controlling has nothing to do with
working or not working controlling is it's a personality trait.
Whether she works or doesn't work.
Controlling is different but if he if you want to marry someone who
doesn't work then many people have done something wrong with them.
When should a newly married couple be looking to try for children
everyone's going to be different destined your situation? For
example, if you're studying abroad, maybe better idea when you
come back? Let's go to those big questions there those long
questions on Instagram real quick before we have to go.
Does a son with a non Muslim mom refuses to dress the Muslim
standard? In public? The youth? No, he's not.
first of the year, you don't you don't have to.
You don't order your mom around in the first place, even if she was a
Muslim. And Allah doesn't ask you about that. What Allah ask you
about is your spouse, your wife and daughter. So Allah will ask
you about them.
Can you give us a list of books you recommend reading English and
Arabic books? Okay, we'll go through through books and other
time.
Okay, also, is it okay? We read that one
what is the definition of indecent we go by the Sharia?
And even within the Sharia, like within the audit,
there could be something sinful, but the society wouldn't deem it
as indecent. Even the Muslims right.
Let's take the some of the biggest countries Muslim countries
Nigeria, Indonesia
Malaysia, Egypt, Pakistan. There is we have the rules of Islam. No
doubt about that. And we have there's the Tabata which by the
Sharia is even just showing your hair is to bridge by shittier.
But that society overall will not deem that indecent because there's
so much of it. Indecent would now be come like in the Artifex
society
be far worse than that. And that's a sign of a bad oath. Yeah. That's
a sign of a bad oath. Right. So so a person it's fathomable say,
someone who is not wearing hijab, but no one would describe her as
indecent. But that's an accusation on the,
on the society that we have now a lower measure than the bare
minimum that Allah put for us.
Everybody turns around and whispers when they see a man
walking with his wife, Subhan Allah and filling their cup
Subhan Allah
is it's in the power of Allah to forgive this believers who
rejected the message of Islam on the day of judgment or is it
impossible since Allah revealed the Quran that they will go to
*? So this answer to this question is that
ark Ark Auckland, it is possible for Allah to forgive anybody read
by by his
there's no inconsistency in that, however, short run by what he's
told us, it is impossible. He told us
he told us something that he will not save will have is in the
hellfire.
So by Sharia, because he told us this now we can say it's
impossible. Because Allah has promises in the Quran. And his
explicit statements like that in the Quran will not be will not be
changed. If we believe them to be changed, then at that point, we
wouldn't trust anything.
Final questions
what do you say? thing that 99% of my family still doesn't talk to me
and they don't want to see me either because I'm Muslim. This
has been going on for 33 years now. How should I How should I
treat them? The Hello nakaji I think that you could keep sending
lobs
like to test if they're willing to talk or not, and be and be friends
again.
Why sometimes sons or daughters of righteous people go astray.
Because your judgment of righteous is limited to what you see them in
doing in public.
And is limited to the outside. So the phrase righteousness use
purely Khademi Montessori approach the phrase righteous here
does not necessitate righteous and it does not state complete someone
can be very righteous in himself.
But he doesn't know how to raise
how many people they pray every salon in the masjid but hold on
there at every event of the Masjid. But what does that mean?
They're not at home.
They're not at home. So you don't know what you could do? And I know
do we need to touch Anita would do to touch books that contain
Quranic verses? And the answer to that is
no. If it is a must have the majority of it is Quran then yes.
So Sophia, and I hope I answered your question on taking a hard hat
Ethan talk to you. Yes, they can be they are enacted as the
Foroohar of Arcada that if someone were to go against to disbelieve
that he won't become a Kaffir.
And he may be a moped.
But he won't be a Kaffir. And if that hadith has at odds with what
is multilateral mutawatir we go to Mottola
and we just suspend the ahaadeeth we suspend the meaning the
implication of it we don't suspend. We don't deny that it's
here. We don't deny that the prophesy centum said it, but we
suspend our understanding of its implication. And it will make our
Updata to be the what's more to the head do not supply a an
exception to them whatsoever.
Okay, so now clarify something people are asking about the
donations. So if you go over here, right here, it's on the screen. It
says after you donate, you can type in where you intend your
donation we attended intended for whether it's a small animal, large
animal would country, stuff like that. A couple of people were
asking me
that's a question you said.
What did they ask? There's asking, like, how do I specify like, you
know, like when I donate where do I? Oh, I don't know. Don't click
the donate button doesn't give it. I just mentioned that right now.
Once you donate it has like you can read it right here two steps,
right? Good. Click it clicked on it. Let's just see what it says.
I mean, once you donate, then it has a common bucks. Oh, good. Then
after that, you can specify whatever you want. Very good.
We're at 153 Not bad. out of 10,000
Alexander says what's your advice for me as a new revert on anti
Islamic household and working at a work that doesn't recognize break
time for Salam struggling to make my five daily prayers. This is
Charla gonna be your biggest struggle and Allah will help you
trust me. It takes time, some time but Allah will help you and one of
those things that conventional wisdom Allah always helps people
pray on time. If you put the effort Allah will help you. But
put the effort. Talk to the boss say listen, I'm going to cut from
my lunch break but I'm going to need another coffee break and I
need to
very small space to put my rug out and say my prayers Allah will help
you
say I'm in your home. You go upstairs lock the door and pray
things like that.
Go up to what hadith is that person asking about scroll down?
What is that?
What is the Hadith in the first place?
What's more blood
flow?
Then freeing
what Zina Shudra
Khalid Abu Hurayrah Lian OMA to be sold in visa vie de la. habra, LA
and outer koala is Zinnia chin. That's Abu Hurayrah saying so what
are we worried about that for Cisco to Sahabi?
Okay, let's read the whole Hadith here says
collaborator Carlos Rosenstein was in a shard with Salah
shadow Thalassa can be in his suffering, not in his sin. Right
and in his anger and his reaction to society. Right. That could be
one. This is this is a defeat. We let's face it mallet if telefone
now Sophie the other column for the hubba boddam Illa Anna Delica
in the major furor Julian behind he cannot was most most Sulaiman
Beshara or call Ah, so first if it's a Mad Men the prophesy Sam
said the son of two people who committed to the child of two
people commit Zina was the worst of them. Well, Zina, the son of
the adultery is the worst of the first it man is that he was
talking about a specific person right that that man that will be
committed as in this is their kid he grew up he's the he's we were
actually worse than his parents. That's one possible meaning for
that. Have you got
what call about them in the Masada what to do Zina Sharon minute
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but I'm here salaam wa the female Mala Hila did emails now be Hume
if Adolphe Zulu be here wakad abdulrazaq even Jura have another
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Yama Rabinovich Allah Allah is and and Felco Luna Hua Raju, su
Yasuda, la Salam SallAllahu Sallam who was Shell Rotella so, I again
he emphasizes that it is specific of a specific person. Okay
for how well a nurse who unweathered shadow Sarah.
And in this XML, he's saying that the Father is who the Prophet was
talking about, right? But the people then mistook it and
transmitted it as the son. It's Eboo wala de Zina Shudra the
father of that boy of Zina is the worst of the three that's what the
prophet met. Okay.
specific person
kind of normal either. Akela does Zina shadow Tara Sakalava who are
colloidal silica. So here the proof of that is that when people
mistakenly said the son
of Zina is the worst of the three, when the Prophet had met the
father of the son of Zen is the worst of the three if an almighty
used to correct them by saying he's the best of the three
this is a great example of a hadith that can be completely
misunderstood.
And a katavi said her that Allah the to a well who Abdul Karim Omro
mother noon Luthra Masato it's all funny.
Well, lady, Jaya Phil Hadith in the MaHA Wallah Xena shadow fella.
He says know what actually has been transmitted the son of Zina
is the worst of the three for Hawala, makalah Rasulullah
sallallahu. Bajo el el me and who shot with ratha Aslan, Juan Soren
when asked when were molded, so he is the worst of the three in
certain aspects in his birth and his lineage and how he came about
to be with that he can know who the common man is Zanny was Zania
will hold a metal club eighth. So the nature of how he was born is
the worst of the three. Not saying about his characters, specifically
how he was born.
Filet mignon, low manual and US Euro Delica hub to fee by de boo
Fiol roti fare Milou Allah Cherie widow Illa hoopty. So he says it's
possible that the circumstances of your birth impact the way you live
in your behavior. It's possible. He said no human, it's not.
You're not safe from that possibly being the case. So it's your mill.
It can be
He understood to mean that because of the circumstances of your
birth, and that is they call it metal Club Youth. That sperm is
filthy, that fluid is filthy, saying that that may influence a
person's behavior in the future.
Call it to Allah Fucus Sati Miriam
and Allah Tada said about medium that people said about Meccan Abu
Kimbra so when mechanical Mokuba met him, how could you have be
pregnant without a husband? Your father was not bad and your mother
was not immoral? Meaning the people connected good birth to
good kids. Marriage, birth through marriage, good behavior,
therefore, bad birth bad behavior.
And so Allah's mentioning it confirming that line of thinking
fuck although be facades, mostly other facades and for a while, or
Rui and Abdullah ethnomedicinal us fear Kohli. He will occur the vara
anally Johanna McCarthy Era mineralogy annual NC and the whole
kala wala Zina Mandara region we have created for Paradise for
hellfire, many men and women Jinlun humans, and he said the
child of Zina one of them one side even Jubeir Clara what to do Zina
the only Jahannam during the Johanna created for Johanna,
of course that's that's done because not all of what it is in
as I can apply to a nor can you know, right. Nor can you know, and
he may be yes created for that. But he changed he overrode that
with his deeds
are gonna wonder because I will have to love you and Abby Hanifa
and the men will learn and for Wajid the Hawala Xena can Allahu
Anirudh doble this has to do with the old days of slavery. You buy
slaves turns out to be son of Zina, you can return him for a
microchip now Omar and no hydrocele artha as for almost
saying he No he's the best of the three for in them Oh Joe. Allah is
low for them below the Bashara Wiley dal who for Ohio minimum
liberal at him in them be him. So why does even almost said no no,
don't say that son of Zina is the worst of the three he's the best
of the three. Why? Because of the two of committed Zina the one has
to completely innocent of that, right? He's innocent of it. Well,
Phil Milstead rocky mentary Ottawa Kala Bhairava. Aisha Abba Herrera
yo Carlo yaku in Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Carla what are
those in a shot with ratha? It reached out Isha from Ottawa that
Abu Harada says the Son of Zina is the worst of the three for Carla
throw him Allah Hurayrah someone for sh ibutton may Allah have
mercy on a Buddha he heard wrong, so he tries to eat so he answered
wrong. lamea Kunal Hadith Allah the Hadith has nothing to do with
this. She says, No McKenna Raju luminol. Munna 15, there was a
specific hypocrite.
They use use the Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam that he used to
harm the Prophet peace be upon him. So the messenger SallAllahu
sallam said, many otherone men Fulani who will take care of so
and so for me. Okay. For Akela they said, O Messenger of Allah in
the Houma. Melby he well Zina with all that he does.
He's the son of Zina, with all that harm he does to you. Maybe he
want to do Zina, for calahorra the prophesy seven He's the worst.
He's the worst of the three. The adults are the adulterous and him
the fornicator the fornicator and him
so again, it goes back to know the Prophet was speaking of a specific
person, okay, well lo to Allah Cool. Well as it was written was
Raka and Allah says, No one carries the sin of another person.
Right if you Sunil by half demon 30 plus age of pneumonia, even
side Aquila her death and it's so funny and sad, sad and now
Rasulullah sallallahu was
in them Corolla. While it was Zina shared with the lethally and Abba
way he has lemme Well, I'm used to them who he says because this
hypocrite used to harm the Prophet peace be upon him, his mom and dad
entered Islam, and he did it. So the prophesy Sam said he's the
worst of the three.
Right even though yes, it's known that they committed Zina.
And they produced this boy but he's worse because otherwise what
even almost said would be correct. He's most innocent. And they're
guilty
he was, that's why you might not know.
Carl by hopefully we'll have the morsel with the most net Akhmad
methodically Ibrahim Abner Aubade Ibni Roy Farah and I shall call it
philosophy allah sallallahu Sallam what to do Zina showed with ratha
either Camila
Jamelia boy. Another narration from Aisha says the Son of Zina is
worse of the three if he acts like his parents, because his parents
were born pure, but they made a mistake. Now you're born impure,
and you made a mistake. So you have double the issues with the
margin with Baba Ronnie.
Men have either of nobis Marfan with low fee soon and will be
happy. And it has any color in them, I assume. Yeah. Well, Xena
showed with Philadelphia and Omaha Carlat low less than a beak
allottee to da la, who, for Catella for Sowmya showed with the
letter. All right. So here's another story about it is that
there was three there was three people, a mom and a dad, and or a
man and a woman, and the son of adultery, fornication. So one day,
the mother said to her son, you are actually not the son of the
man that people think you are. You're not the son of my husband
here. You're actually the son of another man sorry to point to you
who committed fornication
so he killed her. And what's worse is in a murder so for that reason,
the prophesy centum said the son of sin is worse than is the worst
of the three because he committed murder whereas the other ones
committed. What's his book from?
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