Shadee Elmasry – Fear of Adversity NBF 353

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The conversation discusses the causes of depression and anxiety, including fear of failure, social media, and uncertainty. The midlife crisis is highlighted as a crisis where all the way from the future can achieve their dreams. The " Curse of the new generation" and the challenges of living in a family with children are also highlighted. The speakers emphasize trusting oneself and knowing who owns the future, while acknowledging the danger of technology and social anxiety. The conversation ends with a discussion of history and the need for everyone to be conscious of their culture.

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			similar Rahman Rahim Al hamdu
lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala
		
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			Rasulillah. The here was to be
here woman who Allah welcome
		
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			everybody to the SOFIA society,
nothing but facts live stream on a
		
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			gorgeous Tuesday sunny, warm here
in the great state of New Jersey,
		
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			where we're going to continue on
today. segment number one we're
		
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			going to talk more about this.
This book called kava, a suburb,
		
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			why Dutch? Depression, anxiety
causes and treatments.
		
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			We talked the first one he said
Fear of
		
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			was it not knowing the reality of
life, the first cause not knowing
		
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			my origins, not knowing my reality
of life. Second one fear the
		
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			future.
		
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			Fear of the future and fear of the
future he said this example of the
		
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			train right? Essentially you you
get kidnapped in the middle of the
		
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			night. You wake up on a bed on a
train.
		
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			Nobody who starts distracting you
and saying hey listen, the trees
		
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			are outside are really nice the
food they're about to serve you
		
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			really good food. They're about to
have an entertainer come and
		
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			entertain us. These questions are
irrelevant. These things are just
		
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			nothing but distractions and in
fact, the more people try to
		
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			distract you, you got to start to
imagine it's nefarious.
		
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			The more the distractions the more
nefarious it gets one of the
		
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			reasons why our religion has cast
a long shadow against lie.
		
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			Lie well low play and distraction.
Right it's a big problem. So why
		
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			are you distracting? Why don't we
get to the real core issue who put
		
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			me on this train? Where are we
going? What authority you have to
		
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			put me here all these questions
and here is where the book which
		
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			we're reading from you can get it
from NOAA it's no a books that you
		
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			probably get it from from Amazon
		
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			fear of failure in the future he
talks about
		
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			so there's the overall fear of
where is life going?
		
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			Fear of failure the future is that
the immediate future people fear
		
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			fear
		
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			To the immediate future, and this
happens to people they get this
		
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			state sometimes that overcome
with, with worries about the
		
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			immediate future.
		
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			He said this this the second cause
of fear is the fear of failure.
		
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			Fear failure can be in the
academic field in the work field
		
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			in business and trade and
agriculture. And it's all
		
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			comparison itis the disease of
comparing yourself to other
		
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			people, I love what Einstein said.
He said, If a
		
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			shark compares himself to a
pigeon, he'll never succeed. And
		
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			he's a shark versus little pigeon
walking around eating trash in the
		
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			city or whatever.
		
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			You can never compare yourself to
somebody who lived a whole
		
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			different life, born a whole
different scenario. Comparison is
		
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			the biggest source of depression
for a lot of people, which is why
		
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			social media,
		
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			magazines TV music, probably have
caused as much good as they're
		
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			used for they're probably caused
triple or quadruple the amount of
		
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			grief for people.
		
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			sadness and grief, because nobody,
you're taking like the point zero
		
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			1% of your genetic fortune.
		
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			And you're elevating it, you know,
to the highest height, and
		
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			everyone there for us to look at
that and become feel feel
		
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			insignificant about it.
		
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			Fear of failure can also be when
someone finds himself indulged in
		
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			sin, without any hope and Allah's
forgiveness. The common
		
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			denominator here is the fear of
future failure. This is the second
		
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			cause and one of men, the main
sources of psychological anxiety,
		
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			this cause needs to be explained
first. So, he said, God forbid,
		
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			Allah forbid that your heart is
devoid of faith in Allah and that
		
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			your conviction is bereft of
belief and trust in Him.
		
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			Therefore, when you're young, and
you go to school, you look at the
		
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			people around you and notice some
are successful and others fail. So
		
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			you think to yourself, will I be
from the former or the latter? If
		
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			I'm part of the failing group,
what will my life be like? How can
		
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			I build a future? How can I get
married? How can I achieve my
		
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			desires and ambitions?
		
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			If these worries constantly
surrounds you and you repeatedly
		
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			given to them,
		
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			they will eventually take root
inside of you and turn into a type
		
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			of depression and anxiety is the
cause. This is the case when your
		
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			soul is devoid of belief and trust
in Allah.
		
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			Another example would be if you
started projects in order to earn
		
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			a living. And this kind of work
involves some risk and you start
		
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			asking the same question, will I
be successful? Will I succeed?
		
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			Will I be a complete failure, etc.
		
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			Right? Well, who will tell me the
future who will tell me what is
		
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			going to happen? Because this is
so
		
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			it's
		
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			it's so
		
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			nerve racking people want to know
the future. That's why people go
		
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			to these these types of Mona
Jimmy, what are they called?
		
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			They go into that field of
superstition to find out like,
		
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			what is the future because I can't
stand this future. What I can't
		
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			stand the suspense. You can't send
the suspense because you lack
		
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			Taqwa. Right? You lucky man you
like trust in Allah. If you trust
		
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			in Allah, you should be actually
very relaxed. That's the truth.
		
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			You should actually be extremely
		
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			relaxed, if that's the case.
		
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			That is how you build a different
kind of imaginary scenario based
		
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			on Unreal fears that fill your
head and what a shades on promise.
		
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			He promises you fear.
		
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			You go with Elia. He fears the
people that he's assigned to.
		
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			He's assigned to people do you
suppose to make them afraid? So we
		
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			don't know the future, but we know
who owns the future. We know the
		
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			scriptwriter of the future, right
or wrong? That's the key. We know
		
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			who wrote the script, in the Book
of Destiny, if I know who wrote
		
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			it, that I should be relaxed,
right? Even if he has to judge
		
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			against me or against what I
desire.
		
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			Right?
		
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			At least I know, I know. It's that
that's just going to be temporary.
		
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			And in the long run, it's going to
be good. And that's what Muslims
		
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			do. We focus on who is the author
of the future. And we also focus
		
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			on who's author of the present.
		
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			So it's not all these people doing
things in the present? No, it's
		
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			Allah making them do things.
		
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			So yes, they're responsible,
legally, of course, for the cusp
		
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			of those deeds, but who's the
creator of them? That's why it's
		
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			important to know to note creation
and CASP.
		
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			Allah creates and people earn
		
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			and they're legally responsible
for what they earn. But
		
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			ultimately, the creator is Allah
Himself. And that's what gives
		
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			them awesome relief. The more you
think about Allah, you realize
		
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			everything is in his control. So
why do I need to worry even
		
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			The future I don't know which way
it's going to go. But I know the
		
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			author is Allah subhanaw taala the
future and if the future is in the
		
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			hands of a vicious person who put
it in his hands,
		
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			who put it in his hands.
		
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			When the heart is devoid of this
trust in Allah that anxiety takes
		
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			complete control.
		
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			At first, the anxiety is normal,
even though it is painful. For
		
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			example, when you return home and
try to go to bed, you'll toss and
		
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			turn it's normal sauce and turn
for a while without any sleep
		
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			because you're thinking about
something. Right? What's the end
		
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			result? Well, how's the project
gonna go? Am I gonna get hired? Am
		
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			I going to accept it?
		
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			Eventually, Allah blesses you with
sleep. This is the normal
		
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			situation for normal people who
have a little bit of anxiety. And
		
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			that's why it's actually a sunnah
to do. They could for 30 minutes
		
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			before you sleep,
		
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			some automatic calculated the
earth god or the prophet before
		
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			they slept. And they calculated it
to be about 30 minutes, if you sat
		
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			and did that for 30 minutes in
your bed before you slept, before
		
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			you lay down, just sitting upright
in your bed, you'd find yourself
		
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			sleeping a lot easier.
		
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			However, the moment you wake up,
all the stress comes back to you.
		
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			And all the anxiety comes back to
you now every time that lasts
		
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			longer and longer. Because you're
indulging these terrible thoughts,
		
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			you know that sometimes it's not
even just the dean that helps us
		
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			with there are some people with
common sense with
		
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			people with introspection, we're
not Muslims, who have recognized
		
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			this and realized it's all about
		
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			the thoughts that allow to settle
in my head.
		
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			These thoughts, and the best way
to get rid of bad thoughts is to
		
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			utter good words, to utter
positive statements.
		
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			impacts your mind when you order
them, it impacts you forget it
		
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			impacts others, but impacts you
and you start to believe that
		
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			things are going to be okay.
		
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			This is what likewise if you're
down and you just force yourself
		
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			to smile, your state changes you
state you change the state of
		
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			everyone around you, and then you
benefit from yourself and from
		
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			them to
		
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			this is well known he says the
person who constantly fears the
		
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			specter of poverty always embraces
		
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			the dreams of riches and eagerly
strives in search of wealth in
		
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			this life, if not for himself than
for his children, whom he will
		
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			leave behind when this person has
a soul devoid of trust in Allah,
		
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			and a mind lacking certainty that
Allah is the One directing the
		
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			entire universe. He ruminates the
situation with huge pains and
		
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			suffers as a result. Spectre
poverty hardly ever leaves him
		
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			alone. And that's because if you
think that you're going to attack
		
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			poverty, and you're going to
attain wealth, then clearly if
		
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			you're a rational person, you're
gonna have to admit, I have
		
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			limited powers.
		
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			And my opponents, I have finite
resources. The wealth out there is
		
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			finite when you look at it.
		
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			And my competition is many. I'm
competing against 1020 Guys, and
		
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			I'm only one guy
		
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			so my chances of success are very
little but when you when you
		
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			change your perspective, and you
ask for it and you tell yourself
		
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			who who is truly in charge. And
what did Allah ask us he asked our
		
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			body to put in the effort and our
heart not to worry. That's what
		
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			Allah says. Your body must put in
the effort and your heart must not
		
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			worry.
		
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			Shavon Oh yeah. Docomo fucker
shaytaan promises you poverty.
		
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			Poverty is not just in anything
poverty is in it not sorry, not
		
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			just in money. It's in everything.
Poverty of wealth, poverty. We
		
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			talked about the midlife crisis.
Right. We talked about the midlife
		
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			crisis. People get any they feel
that their beauty is decreasing
		
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			there. They start wondering, is
this going to be my life forever?
		
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			What do you mean forever? You only
got like 20 more years to really
		
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			live and then you're an old man
after that it's not gonna matter.
		
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			And the midlife the Muslims have a
type of midlife crisis which is
		
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			where all the second wave talks
come into play. Most people it's
		
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			like a joke right? But like, but
when when when, when when you are
		
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			married to someone it's not a joke
anymore because it affects them.
		
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			So I'm telling you so many people
they just joke about this and they
		
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			talk about it. Even somebody
recently even asked me you where's
		
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			your wedding is allowed to wear
wedding rings. Is how that's
		
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			right. I personally don't wear
when I don't wear any jewelry on
		
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			my wrists and hands because I lose
them in will do and everything
		
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			like that. Shower all this I find
them it's a headache. Right? But I
		
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			don't wear one but that does. But
I am married and I wouldn't even
		
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			contemplate the concept. You're
going to just tote completely flip
		
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			your life upside down but you're
also lived your life with with a
		
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			person for this long you're going
to throw that out where's
		
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			Your sugar
		
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			where where's your sensitivity to
the person that you're living
		
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			with? It's not just about us
ourselves. And what he's saying in
		
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			this book is that a person will
get into such a depression
		
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			that he starts to, to be
completely self centered and
		
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			worried about his own happiness.
Right? All he worried about is his
		
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			own happiness.
		
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			And he's become completely
insensitive and that's why these
		
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			guys in the midlife crisis of
depression they get these
		
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			depression and they leave
everything
		
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			the abandoned their kids, your
wife lived with you 25 years and
		
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			you're just gonna abandon that
		
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			said I've ever hooked up
		
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			forget the fact that
		
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			I mean the love in a marriage is
something that it's something that
		
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			is reproduced daily.
		
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			What's going on? Is there
alternate sounds or something?
		
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			People keep saying they hear
stuff. What is that? That's so
		
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			weird. What are what are their
sounds coming out of the computer
		
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			he's decreasing. What's going on?
		
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			With this rainbow effect in the
audio? No, like there's nothing on
		
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			our side. But I just want on
YouTube. Did you hit a button or
		
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			something? No button. We don't
have anything like that. Like in
		
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			row Did you hit a button on
anything? No.
		
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			All these people are saying what
is that sound? That was weird.
		
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			Further back Harris is saying.
		
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			I'm hearing a rainbow but what a
rainbow sound like? What is the
		
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			rainbow sound like? I don't know
what they're saying. Like it was
		
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			like,
		
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			look, it looks in your hand. If
maybe your cord is hitting
		
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			something on the road. device.
It's not touching anything right
		
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			now. Maybe before but I didn't
know we had. If that's true. That
		
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			is true. ajeeb there was a random
sound and colorful buttons. You
		
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			see these? Yeah, that sounds like
they have deaf sound sound
		
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			effects? Yeah, yeah, maybe
actually hit it. I didn't know
		
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			that. Like a twinkle star effect
or a dream effect or something.
		
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			Oh, that's what they're saying.
Like a Disney fairy tale effect.
		
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			They just Oh, yeah. Oh, that okay.
Rewind it
		
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			Listen, go back to get hit hit the
buttons. And you'll you'll hear
		
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			and see. Put the headphones on.
Just so you know what's what
		
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			such Yeah.
		
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			I mean, you put the headphones on
here. I actually don't know. Maybe
		
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			you gotta put your headphones on
because you won't hear it. We
		
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			didn't know we had that.
		
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			I mean, like maybe I accidentally
clicked it, but I did not know.
		
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			Which was
		
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			Kenneth leach was like, I thought
there's a new part of the show
		
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			yeah, so you accidentally hit that
with your mic? Probably. Probably.
		
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			Yeah, the bird chirp right here.
We'll turn it off. And there was
		
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			this one. That's that's a rainbow.
		
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			Oh, that's like a drum one. Okay,
by the way, you know that you can
		
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			insert any sound effects you want.
		
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			You can insert a stop for Allah
you can.
		
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			You can insert effect you want and
those.
		
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			You just open the software and you
drag whatever you want each button
		
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			to be.
		
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			And by the way, you see that?
		
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			All right. No, I was like a little
pause. Yeah.
		
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			So back to the point of the
midlife crisis of these guys that
		
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			have these midlife crisis and
usually you don't always see with
		
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			Muslims, right? But they become so
depressed that all they can think
		
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			about is alleviating their own
personal pain, even if that causes
		
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			a ton of people other pain and
goes and and I've sought in New
		
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			Haven. I don't know if it was
midlife crisis or what but Dr.
		
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			Jimmy Jones, he told me the whole
story that a whole generation of
		
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			guys got this second wife idea in
their heads. They all did it. And
		
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			all of them. Their families were
destroyed. He said, This is why
		
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			the message is empty. He told me
the message is that this place was
		
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			buzzing with like 567 families.
This is way back right? In the
		
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			right after 911 era, right? They
all got this in their heads. And
		
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			they all did it. And none of those
women are they they don't live
		
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			like that. Same way as we don't
live like that and destroyed all
		
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			those families. And where is your
sense? said almost said it's not
		
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			just always at the moment. Where's
your sense of
		
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			responsibility? Where's your sense
of respect? Where's your sense of
		
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			sensitivity in terms of he was
saying this about a man who wanted
		
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			just to divorce his wife
		
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			Right. And he says, Where's your
responsibility, like, where's your
		
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			there are other things besides
your own feelings.
		
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			And, and that's why marriages and
love is something that has to be
		
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			worked on, you know, we're putting
up a company for this. It's
		
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			something that has to be worked on
the what you put into it is what
		
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			you get out of it. That's
something that just develops on
		
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			its own. What's more important,
what's more valuable love or
		
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			money,
		
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			you have two options right now a
very bad marriage and a lot of
		
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			money.
		
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			And you can't change you the one
or a very good marriage and a
		
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			little bit of money.
		
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			You're going to take a lot of
money. But what are you gonna do
		
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			with the money that right?
		
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			Now, so you can't change either
one, most people say no, life will
		
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			be better. If you have love in
your home, and enough money to
		
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			live, then a lot of money, but
misery in your home. Life. So love
		
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			is more important than wealth,
wealth takes work, love also takes
		
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			work. It takes respect,
sensitivity, all these things. And
		
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			these people, when they don't put
the work into it, then all of a
		
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			sudden, that bank account of love
is empty.
		
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			You think that whatever you do
afterwards, you're just going to
		
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			recreate the same problem because
you don't know how to do it.
		
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			Right? It's not the person that
you're you have issues with. It's
		
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			you, yourself, don't know how to
produce, don't know how to produce
		
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			love from yourself and others,
there are ways that you could do
		
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			this. So they destroyed their
community with that completely.
		
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			And he warned he was like, of
course he knows the ruling is the
		
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			ruling. But he was like warning
severely against this, like guys
		
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			in their mid life, they always
talk about it and think it's a
		
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			light subject, but it's not a
light subject. And it's not
		
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			something that people should play
games with. And play games with
		
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			other people's lives, let alone
when you have children at your
		
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			your kids are involved and you'd
completely destroy your families
		
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			don't play here's a rule of thumb.
You don't play games and things
		
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			that are extremely serious in
life. If you get those things
		
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			down, right, you don't have to
worry about anything else. Right?
		
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			You don't have to worry about
anything else. You can be very
		
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			light hearted about everything
else in the world. If you take the
		
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			certain core things, and you just
focus on them and get them right.
		
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			The first one is your iman and
your Arcada. And the people you
		
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			surround yourself with. The second
one is your family life.
		
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			Yeah, make sure that family life
everyone is happy in that family.
		
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			And one of the I can remember I
was reading
		
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			where was I? Where were we reading
it? We would check it out here or
		
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			what? When he said that?
		
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			Oh, it was the mimetic even medic
who said
		
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			I think he said the intelligent
man is the one who makes himself
		
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			lovable to his family.
		
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			I think I think it was shaky. I
wrote a shot the wedding. Yeah, he
		
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			said even a medic said the
intelligent one. I believe he said
		
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			the real man is the one who makes
himself the most lovable person in
		
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			his house is chuck
		
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			chuck chuck Salim Orion speech
		
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			Chuck's walima at NBC. Right, huh?
		
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			You can make yourself lovable, the
prophesy sounds like give gifts,
		
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			sensitivity also, not not talking
about things you know is going to
		
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			hurt them.
		
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			Not laughing at things you know is
going to hurt them. Like
		
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			oftentimes some guys laugh about
this. I'm going to take a second
		
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			wife, like you're hurting
somebody, you may think it's
		
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			funny. And you say I'm not just a
joke. But you're it's a
		
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			sensitivity, right?
		
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			It's like a boss come and say, You
know what? How about how about
		
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			your shake? We love to you, right?
I wish you could you know, get
		
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			myself a new batch batch and what
eats? Right? What if? What if?
		
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			What if our chef said that to us?
Like, Oh, shoot? I don't know if
		
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			he's serious. Is he joking? Right?
Like, how would we like it? If a
		
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			chef said that to us? We get stuff
a whole bunch of new movies, or an
		
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			employer. He said that to you?
Right? Like I don't know. It's
		
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			just jokes. To me. It's not a
joke, right? Certain things to you
		
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			is to others as a joke to me is
not sensitivity is one way to earn
		
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			a lot of love and your family
generosity, forgiveness and all.
		
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			Ultimately, you got to give away a
lot of time.
		
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			There is an article in New York
Times The Curse of the new
		
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			generation is the amount of
success they have with their
		
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			hands.
		
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			The Curse of the new generation is
that they have so many
		
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			opportunities. There's no room for
kids. And in some cases, so much
		
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			success. There's no room for a
spouse, no room for marriage. Some
		
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			people are so good at school, they
go on from school to medical
		
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			school. They're so good and they
get offer all the fellowships, and
		
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			they get all the way up to
		
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			you know, the highest levels in
their fields, because they're so
		
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			smart. But there is such a thing
as too much of a good thing
		
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			because now those offers are
almost too good to refuse.
		
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			But the moment you accept it,
you're actually refusing marriage.
		
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			And that's what happens. And then
what happens when you invest in
		
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			those? And you're 40 years old,
and you're not married? Are you
		
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			even marriage a bull?
		
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			Honestly, you're probably your
first marriage is going to be a
		
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			dry run, that's a disaster. You're
gonna have to learn all the
		
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			lessons. Right?
		
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			You go to age, we hit age 40,
you're stuck in your ways.
		
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			Do you know how much hassle that
just a baby is going to cause to
		
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			you? Right? And you may feel like,
I can't take my foot off the
		
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			pedal.
		
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			I gotta keep going.
		
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			And
		
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			but the baby's gonna take away a
lot of your time. Do you have to
		
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			make a choice? So there is can you
pull up the New York Times article
		
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			today? Are you registered for New
York Times? Good? Why are you
		
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			registered New York Times?
		
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			You're like, 20 years old? Why
would the New York Times Are you
		
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			like mature or something? Or what?
		
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			That must be it. Right? I only
read Al Jazeera in the New York
		
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			Times. Okay. Oh, he's got a list.
So he's very mature, man. Right.
		
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			So what do you pay? What did they
pay now? $1 a month still? Or is
		
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			it $3 A month? They keep raising
the price?
		
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			Free with his college? That's good
for you. Good for you.
		
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			I don't know. Don't Ask Don't
Tell. It's haram to use a paywall
		
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			blocker, don't ask, don't tell.
I'm telling you get things right.
		
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			In your homes and your dean first,
in your dean, pick someone who's
		
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			agrees with your dean.
		
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			I'll tell you wherever Dean
doesn't matter what, but neither
		
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			of them care. Right? Where neither
of them care. If but if both of
		
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			them care, they need to be on the
right opinion in the same opinion.
		
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			Otherwise, in anything, like if
you if you're both political
		
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			people, you can't be opposed. You
care so much about certain views,
		
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			you have to have the same views,
right? Certain things. My theory,
		
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			certain things in marriage have to
be the same view. And certain
		
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			things should be opposite. The
same view, it should be in the
		
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			Corps things, right? The opposite
view should be in temperament.
		
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			Like I rush, and she thinks,
right?
		
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			Like that temperament.
		
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			I want to use intimidation, she
wants to use negotiation. Like
		
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			those things, do you make a
perfect pair and both in your kids
		
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			also get to see the spectrum. But
main views, religious views,
		
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			whatever you care about has to be
the same. You got to be in
		
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			agreement on this right? Or else
you're gonna have a clash.
		
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			You get that your dean, right. And
when you guys get married,
		
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			you got to know what to put out.
		
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			Ahead of your of marriage is only
Dean. That's it, nothing else
		
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			should be ahead of career should
not be ahead of it.
		
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			Parents, in a sense to a to an
area where if, if it's not taken
		
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			away from someone else's rights,
that's their condition. So for
		
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			example, a dad cannot say to his
son,
		
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			I need you to come and join me.
We're going on a trip. Oh, but
		
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			yeah, but my kids need me here.
Don't worry about that.
		
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			Or a wife, Oh, Dad cannot say I
need you to divorce this guy. He's
		
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			a bum complete divorce this guy or
she says to the Son, you need to
		
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			divorce this woman, or the usually
it's the mother tells her son, get
		
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			rid of this woman. There's rights
for other people. So you need to
		
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			be with them provided that it
doesn't aggress upon someone
		
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			else's rights, your job with your
family, with your parents, as as
		
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			Allah says they may have given in
Dec al Qaeda, when they reach old
		
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			age with you.
		
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			So a man who will be responsible
for his mother, father, and in the
		
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			absence of a son for his in laws
than his endless to
		
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			what is that banging out there?
Because that a kid playing or the
		
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			construction of construction? Can
you just take a peek out of this
		
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			window? Is it construction? Or I
hope?
		
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			I don't want anyone ruin that
patio. That those pavers are
		
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			gorgeous pavers, I don't want
anyone ruined? Take a look and
		
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			also shift like, yeah, you notice
that a lot of people in marriages,
		
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			the reason doesn't work out is
because they're not the same
		
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			playbook. They don't have the same
payment. That's why you need to
		
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			both be on the same page you need
to have Okay, when we have a
		
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			disagreement, yeah. Where do we go
back to? Yeah, so you see in the
		
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			modern day and age, right, you
have like this person is operating
		
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			on this framework, and the
husband's on a different
		
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			framework. So when they disagree,
it's like, how do you solve a
		
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			problem? You have to have the same
result. Meaning when there is a
		
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			question in life, where do we go
back to write the questions about
		
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			life question about right and
wrong? What's our resource? We
		
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			don't have to know the answers but
we have to know the resource. Like
		
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			this is the law book right here.
If when there's a dispute about
		
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			right and wrong is where we go,
right. And then there needs
		
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			there's some there's not going to
be in the lobby.
		
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			Like, which school are we going to
go to is not going to be in the
		
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			dean? Which specific thing are we
going to do? Which home? Are we
		
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			going to get? Which neighbors are
we going to choose to live next to
		
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			all those types of things. So now
you need a methodology. And I'm
		
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			telling you the best methodology
isn't one of the heart which is
		
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			sensitivity to the person in front
of you care more about the that
		
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			others than yourself. Right? If
you always care about yourself,
		
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			that's the abode of business.
That's the abode of the
		
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			marketplace. That's the state to
be in in the marketplace, when I
		
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			go to the market is not going to
do charity.
		
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			When you go put your resume out to
interview at a job, it's not
		
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			charity, to say, You know what?
I'm going to scratch the
		
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			interview. You take the job, no
one does that. Right. That's why
		
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			the contracts in Islam or manyatta
show or magnetic karma, maybe I
		
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			should, I'm coming for myself. And
there's nothing wrong with that.
		
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			There's nothing immoral about
that. Nothing on Islamic about
		
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			that. Maybe animal Kadoma is we're
coming together on a deal, but I'm
		
00:31:01 --> 00:31:05
			willing to forego most of what's
mine. But and I'm gonna give you
		
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			extra. That's what our shoe taught
us. Check my Bucha beep teaches
		
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			this.
		
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			In Bevin, Nika, and he says oxygen
MEB Nyan mukarram. Right. And, and
		
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			that's what's most important. So
it's not just about what is my
		
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			rights, you're gonna get your
rights, but you're not going to be
		
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			happy. There's a big difference in
getting your rights and being
		
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			happy. Right?
		
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			Allah subhana wa, tada promised
the Arabian Peninsula, that He
		
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			will fill them because of the draw
of Ibrahim. He will overflow them
		
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			with resources. Do they have the
resources or not? Yes. Are they
		
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			happy or not? Are they successful
or not? They're not successful.
		
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			Right? Yeah, they're successful
have resources that are is it an
		
00:31:50 --> 00:31:54
			improvement to their deen and the
OMA? No, it's not. So there's one
		
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			thing about getting your rights is
nothing about being happy. And
		
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			being happy in your home. It's all
about being selfless.
		
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			Anyone who's done spiritual
training,
		
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			right? Learns selflessness.
		
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			You'll be you'll be so happy
everything will come back to what
		
00:32:10 --> 00:32:13
			he mathematics said the
intelligent. Can someone find me
		
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			that quote? Find that quote about
Mr. Malik. I don't even know what
		
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			the Arabic is. Right. That's a
problem. Yeah.
		
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			So when it comes to the subject
matters, you got to be sensitive
		
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			about it. And you have to not do
what these guys do. When you see
		
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			them having their midlife crisis.
Right, going off and acting
		
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			stupid.
		
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			thrown their whole life away. Do
you got a sports car and get
		
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			you and someone half their age?
And it turns out, you know, she's
		
00:32:47 --> 00:32:48
			gonna dump them in the future
anyway.
		
00:32:51 --> 00:32:51
			I think
		
00:32:53 --> 00:32:59
			just nasiha Hetzel, Imam Malik,
literally jelly fill boot. Just
		
00:32:59 --> 00:33:01
			say that maybe someone's got an
article on it. Right?
		
00:33:03 --> 00:33:04
			Those people
		
00:33:05 --> 00:33:05
			say,
		
00:33:06 --> 00:33:10
			they never fight. Like, met two
couples who say, No, we've been
		
00:33:10 --> 00:33:13
			married for this amount of years,
and we've never fought once.
		
00:33:14 --> 00:33:15
			Only believe one of them.
		
00:33:16 --> 00:33:19
			Which one of them? Like you're
talking about? He said the Prophet
		
00:33:19 --> 00:33:22
			and said if indeed you No, no, no,
I would have been humbled. Oh, you
		
00:33:22 --> 00:33:23
			jump out in our time.
		
00:33:24 --> 00:33:26
			I don't know. They must have like,
		
00:33:28 --> 00:33:32
			you know, some kind of personality
uniqueness to them. You know,
		
00:33:32 --> 00:33:33
			that's
		
00:33:34 --> 00:33:38
			what is going on back there. I
couldn't see construction. Because
		
00:33:38 --> 00:33:38
			I didn't
		
00:33:39 --> 00:33:41
			want to be ruined. And though
those papers telling you.
		
00:33:45 --> 00:33:49
			My husband gives enough money to
his mom more than what he gives
		
00:33:49 --> 00:33:53
			me. Should I be okay with that? I
don't like this. What don't you
		
00:33:53 --> 00:33:57
			like the amount that you get? Or
that he gives his mom more because
		
00:33:57 --> 00:34:01
			we know that? The Prophet did say
when he was asked who was most
		
00:34:01 --> 00:34:04
			worthy of my goodness, he said
your mother than your mother than
		
00:34:04 --> 00:34:07
			your mother than your father. So
your questions should not be what
		
00:34:07 --> 00:34:13
			he gives his mom. Your questions
should be is his gift to me. Make
		
00:34:13 --> 00:34:16
			me happy. Right? Forget the mom.
Don't compare.
		
00:34:18 --> 00:34:21
			Don't compare? Because he has
religious responsibility towards
		
00:34:21 --> 00:34:22
			his mom.
		
00:34:23 --> 00:34:25
			We don't forget that. Okay.
		
00:34:27 --> 00:34:28
			All right. What's the other one
there?
		
00:34:33 --> 00:34:38
			Isn't the Surah Nisa it says the
default to have multiple wives if
		
00:34:38 --> 00:34:41
			you're able to do justice. Yes,
that is interpretation of some but
		
00:34:41 --> 00:34:44
			I believe it's this or more. If
you ask me. And if I look at the
		
00:34:44 --> 00:34:48
			shield around us, they always talk
about this throughout the art.
		
00:34:49 --> 00:34:53
			It's not really changing the
ruling of but it's odd. And it's
		
00:34:53 --> 00:34:53
			also
		
00:34:54 --> 00:34:58
			it's also just basic common sense.
If you're going to do are you
		
00:34:58 --> 00:35:00
			going to advise people to do
something you don't know how
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:00
			to do.
		
00:35:01 --> 00:35:04
			So that's why things come to a
standstill in certain things is
		
00:35:04 --> 00:35:08
			like nobody does it. Therefore
nobody can push other people to do
		
00:35:08 --> 00:35:12
			it. Right? We have no reference
point for this. And many people
		
00:35:12 --> 00:35:16
			ask me all the time you, when you
say this ruling, Oh, would you let
		
00:35:16 --> 00:35:19
			your daughter do it? Or would you
do it? I say no, I wouldn't, I
		
00:35:19 --> 00:35:24
			wouldn't do it. And I wouldn't let
my daughter do it. Right. And even
		
00:35:24 --> 00:35:28
			if my daughter comes to say, let's
say crazy hypothetical, though I'm
		
00:35:28 --> 00:35:31
			okay with it. You may think you're
okay with it. But we have no
		
00:35:31 --> 00:35:34
			reference point for this. I'm not
going to miss her. That's why I
		
00:35:34 --> 00:35:38
			said I don't mess around with the
most important things in life. You
		
00:35:38 --> 00:35:41
			do them and you'd be very
conservative in them. Conservative
		
00:35:41 --> 00:35:46
			meaning the way that I've seen it
work, even raising kids to the
		
00:35:46 --> 00:35:49
			best way. That's why I love Shia
Castro's answer. The best place to
		
00:35:49 --> 00:35:52
			live is the place you were born.
Because you have reference points.
		
00:35:52 --> 00:35:56
			Right? You have a history with
that. Whereas you go to somewhere
		
00:35:56 --> 00:36:00
			else. Yeah, it's it's all question
marks. You don't know what you're
		
00:36:00 --> 00:36:03
			getting. And what you know, is
always safer than what you know,
		
00:36:03 --> 00:36:07
			the main things in life are your
faith, your family and your
		
00:36:07 --> 00:36:10
			finances. ft. If you get these
things, and you treat them right
		
00:36:10 --> 00:36:12
			with Allah to Allah, you'd be safe
with everything else, you don't
		
00:36:12 --> 00:36:15
			have to worry about anything else.
After that. You're on your Eman
		
00:36:15 --> 00:36:19
			and you're up either your marriage
and your household and your
		
00:36:19 --> 00:36:20
			family.
		
00:36:22 --> 00:36:26
			And then your finances. That could
mess a person's life up. Gotta
		
00:36:26 --> 00:36:30
			have a way of earning. Right and
you got to give it time every day.
		
00:36:31 --> 00:36:33
			I'm telling you the way the of
life the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
		
00:36:33 --> 00:36:34
			gave his Sahaba
		
00:36:35 --> 00:36:38
			is very different from what we're
about to read here in the New York
		
00:36:38 --> 00:36:42
			Times where people can now go to
the moon in their careers.
		
00:36:44 --> 00:36:48
			They could do so well in their
careers. And it's tempting. It's
		
00:36:48 --> 00:36:51
			tempting to live your life trying
to be the most influential, the
		
00:36:51 --> 00:36:54
			most successful, the most
everything. But there are costs to
		
00:36:54 --> 00:37:01
			that. Sometimes I wish. No, like,
long back to the old days was
		
00:37:02 --> 00:37:04
			no worries about having to say
anything on social media or
		
00:37:04 --> 00:37:07
			anything like that. And you live a
very simple life.
		
00:37:08 --> 00:37:12
			Allah protects you from many other
things. And this way of living,
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:16
			makes a lot of people feel regret.
I can't believe that he's doing
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:17
			it. But I'm not.
		
00:37:18 --> 00:37:21
			That's not really in the end of
the day. What gives a person
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:24
			satisfaction happiness. A lot of
these people as we're going to see
		
00:37:24 --> 00:37:24
			here,
		
00:37:25 --> 00:37:29
			they're imbalanced. They're
completely imbalanced. Their
		
00:37:29 --> 00:37:33
			family lives are messed up. Their
spiritual life is filled with
		
00:37:33 --> 00:37:37
			grief. Shakira HEOS, just chit
chatting with him the other day
		
00:37:37 --> 00:37:42
			about clubs about grief and
sadness. And he said it often
		
00:37:42 --> 00:37:43
			comes with fame.
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:50
			That Allah to Allah through s Bab
usually through means through
		
00:37:50 --> 00:37:53
			errors through ASVAB through a
means brings grief to a person.
		
00:37:54 --> 00:37:58
			And he said, Hey, Father, nollie
to preserve him.
		
00:37:59 --> 00:38:04
			Because the world gets so big in
his head, and he's giving so much
		
00:38:04 --> 00:38:05
			attention to it. He forgot Allah.
		
00:38:06 --> 00:38:11
			And the way to bring you back is
to pour bitterness into your
		
00:38:11 --> 00:38:15
			heart. This is what we call pubs
and clubs. You can never escape
		
00:38:15 --> 00:38:19
			it. Even the greatest and the
kebab out of the Olia.
		
00:38:21 --> 00:38:26
			They can and they have no
mistakes. They receive cubs, the
		
00:38:26 --> 00:38:29
			Cubs comes to them without a
reason. For no reason we may get
		
00:38:29 --> 00:38:33
			received cards because we messed
up with something we fell into a
		
00:38:34 --> 00:38:38
			debt. We said something wrong that
bothered somebody we have a
		
00:38:38 --> 00:38:42
			problem at work problem at home.
So this causes pubs into a person
		
00:38:42 --> 00:38:43
			and makes that person Flee to
Allah.
		
00:38:45 --> 00:38:47
			That's the real reason behind bad
things happening.
		
00:38:48 --> 00:38:51
			But what about those people who
are coming? Their deeds are
		
00:38:51 --> 00:38:54
			perfect, their deen is perfect.
They're helpful they give to
		
00:38:54 --> 00:38:55
			people it's perfect.
		
00:38:56 --> 00:39:00
			They're big, they're often their,
their their speech is perfect,
		
00:39:00 --> 00:39:04
			doesn't go over bound doesn't
insult anybody. So there's no sub
		
00:39:05 --> 00:39:10
			to make them grief. Don't fall
into grief or have a problem. He
		
00:39:10 --> 00:39:14
			said they get it anyway, Allah
pours it without a sub pours that
		
00:39:14 --> 00:39:17
			on their hearts without a sub to
increase the return back to him.
		
00:39:19 --> 00:39:21
			So there's no escaping of these
things, but you have to understand
		
00:39:21 --> 00:39:21
			the reason.
		
00:39:23 --> 00:39:25
			They have to understand the
reasons to make us turn back to
		
00:39:25 --> 00:39:26
			him. So
		
00:39:27 --> 00:39:34
			these lifestyles are very very
illusory. It's an illusion. Let's
		
00:39:34 --> 00:39:35
			actually see what the article
says.
		
00:39:37 --> 00:39:40
			Young secular politically
progressive men, women having
		
00:39:40 --> 00:39:43
			children has become something of
an afterthought. Liberal
		
00:39:43 --> 00:39:47
			conventional wisdom encourages
people to spend their 20s on
		
00:39:47 --> 00:39:50
			journeys of professional personal
and professional self discovery of
		
00:39:50 --> 00:39:51
			self fulfillment.
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:57
			Children are treated as a bonus
round something to get only after
		
00:39:57 --> 00:40:00
			completing a long list of
achievements getting a degree for
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:03
			Jinke a satisfying a well
established career, buying a house
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:06
			cultivating the ideal romantic
partnership.
		
00:40:08 --> 00:40:11
			The standard, let me tell you
something, I talked to a chef the
		
00:40:11 --> 00:40:14
			other day, just chit chatting with
one of my colleagues.
		
00:40:15 --> 00:40:19
			He said to me, there was a huge
program in his masjid.
		
00:40:20 --> 00:40:24
			And I said how to go. Because you
were there was a how to go. He's
		
00:40:24 --> 00:40:29
			the honest truth is, I was excited
for the program. When all that
		
00:40:29 --> 00:40:31
			stuff, place was packed, 2000
people. So
		
00:40:33 --> 00:40:37
			he said, To tell you the truth, I
didn't go. Right. He said, as I
		
00:40:37 --> 00:40:40
			had accidentally promised my
daughter, I take her out on that
		
00:40:40 --> 00:40:41
			Friday night.
		
00:40:43 --> 00:40:47
			And he said, To tell you the
truth, I took her out. We hung
		
00:40:47 --> 00:40:52
			out, we stayed out late, we came
home, everyone was asleep. We took
		
00:40:52 --> 00:40:57
			out the cereal, and watch TV for
an extra half hour. And then I
		
00:40:57 --> 00:41:00
			went to set her up to sleep and I
went to sleep. He said, we said
		
00:41:00 --> 00:41:02
			we'll lie that was the most
satisfying Friday night I ever
		
00:41:02 --> 00:41:06
			had. And he's like, speaking at a
different restaurant every night.
		
00:41:06 --> 00:41:09
			You think that every week, you
think that he sits in front of two
		
00:41:09 --> 00:41:14
			3000 people every single Friday
night? If he's on his tours,
		
00:41:14 --> 00:41:18
			right? You would think that's the
most satisfying thing. He says, by
		
00:41:18 --> 00:41:21
			a lot, no. And he said nobody
knows. This is not something
		
00:41:21 --> 00:41:24
			that's ever going to be out there.
There's the most satisfying things
		
00:41:25 --> 00:41:27
			tend to be things that nobody
knows, right?
		
00:41:29 --> 00:41:33
			I'm telling you how to live, based
on these people's experience, and
		
00:41:33 --> 00:41:36
			these books and all these things
that are pointing to what is the
		
00:41:36 --> 00:41:41
			Prophetic way, and is far greater
than the Western way, the
		
00:41:41 --> 00:41:46
			individualistic way of climbing a
mountain of your career. And being
		
00:41:46 --> 00:41:47
			up there alone.
		
00:41:49 --> 00:41:51
			Yeah, people came and took
pictures of you and write articles
		
00:41:51 --> 00:41:54
			about you, then they leave. And
you stay alone.
		
00:41:55 --> 00:41:59
			And that's the problem. The
standards of readiness for family
		
00:41:59 --> 00:42:04
			says are at once. So high and so
vague that it's hardly a surprise
		
00:42:04 --> 00:42:06
			when people fail to reach them.
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:10
			Indeed, the data suggests that
people are having children later
		
00:42:10 --> 00:42:14
			than they used to, and having
fewer than they'd like, I actually
		
00:42:15 --> 00:42:17
			accidentally insulted a whole
crowd of people that I was talking
		
00:42:17 --> 00:42:21
			to the other day. And I said talks
about the only child.
		
00:42:22 --> 00:42:26
			Sometimes people have one kid,
they have two kids. And oftentimes
		
00:42:26 --> 00:42:29
			the happiness of kids is not in
one and two.
		
00:42:30 --> 00:42:34
			It's in the group. Right? It's in
the group.
		
00:42:35 --> 00:42:38
			When there's three and four, four
is maybe the best number because
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:41
			you have even numbers 2123 Someone
may be left out,
		
00:42:43 --> 00:42:48
			are you then I said I went off on
the hole. Only child's like
		
00:42:48 --> 00:42:51
			they're awkward. They have to
learn social skills. They never
		
00:42:51 --> 00:42:54
			learned how to share. But I went
off right as it went second, who
		
00:42:54 --> 00:42:56
			here is only like half the room.
		
00:42:58 --> 00:43:01
			So no offense to them. But it is
fair observations. All right.
		
00:43:03 --> 00:43:07
			For progressives wanting to have
children has also become a kind of
		
00:43:07 --> 00:43:12
			ethical imperative. Gender
equality, and female empowerment,
		
00:43:12 --> 00:43:14
			demanded that
		
00:43:15 --> 00:43:18
			women's self advancement not be
sacrificed on the altar of butter.
		
00:43:18 --> 00:43:23
			These are, this is the satanic
lie, a cheat, to cheat you out
		
00:43:23 --> 00:43:26
			from the thing that will make
person the most happy.
		
00:43:28 --> 00:43:31
			This is one of those things that
you hear people say, but you don't
		
00:43:31 --> 00:43:35
			really believe it until you live
it yourself. This is going to make
		
00:43:35 --> 00:43:37
			you the most happy. Right?
		
00:43:38 --> 00:43:42
			Why some people, when they have a
lot of big family and kids, they
		
00:43:42 --> 00:43:47
			end up not having the most success
in their career. I'll tell you the
		
00:43:47 --> 00:43:49
			number one reason they don't feel
the need to.
		
00:43:51 --> 00:43:54
			They don't. They're not driven by
demons. They're not they don't
		
00:43:54 --> 00:43:55
			feel the need
		
00:43:56 --> 00:44:00
			to have that success anymore.
Right. And when you look at a guy
		
00:44:00 --> 00:44:04
			like Steve Jobs because he was
rejected, he has such a big hole
		
00:44:04 --> 00:44:04
			in his heart.
		
00:44:05 --> 00:44:10
			That's why he was working 24 hours
a day because a huge hole in his
		
00:44:10 --> 00:44:13
			heart. When his parents gave him
up like that, and he doesn't know
		
00:44:13 --> 00:44:17
			who was real dad, mom and dad was
right. Turns out his dad was a
		
00:44:17 --> 00:44:20
			waiter at a restaurant he used to
go visit all the time.
		
00:44:21 --> 00:44:26
			Right? Imagine you discover, just
imagine the psychology of the
		
00:44:26 --> 00:44:30
			trauma of a person who discovers
in middle of his life. The waiter
		
00:44:30 --> 00:44:32
			that serves you the food right?
		
00:44:33 --> 00:44:34
			Is your debt.
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:39
			He said after that I didn't want
to talk to my dad he gave me up so
		
00:44:39 --> 00:44:41
			I wouldn't want to talk to him but
he did leave him bigger tips
		
00:44:45 --> 00:44:49
			so here I think they're telling a
lie to their they are not think
		
00:44:50 --> 00:44:54
			they're lying to people. And it's
a satanic trap. To say Tom does
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:59
			not want you to enjoy the namah of
life and children is also which
		
00:44:59 --> 00:44:59
			makes you a better person.
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:03
			Now you are a teacher whether you
like it or not, you are an imam
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:06
			whether you like it or not in
Islam, you're an Imam, whether you
		
00:45:06 --> 00:45:08
			like it or not the moment you have
kids, you're they're shaped
		
00:45:09 --> 00:45:11
			not by your words, but by your
behavior.
		
00:45:13 --> 00:45:18
			How many people that I knew who,
in the deen side of things were
		
00:45:18 --> 00:45:19
			more on the wayward side
		
00:45:23 --> 00:45:25
			but as soon as they got married
and had kids, they got to bring
		
00:45:25 --> 00:45:28
			their kids to the Quran, right?
They got to bring their kids to
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:33
			hips, and just dropping them off.
transforms them. Just dropping the
		
00:45:33 --> 00:45:36
			kid off. Right? Hey, Omar have an
idea for you.
		
00:45:37 --> 00:45:42
			Almost have an idea. The color,
the navy blue there, whatever
		
00:45:42 --> 00:45:46
			color you choose, put that behind
the hand, but put the words above
		
00:45:46 --> 00:45:46
			the hint.
		
00:45:48 --> 00:45:50
			Always becoming like a graphic
designer.
		
00:45:51 --> 00:45:53
			You see what I mean?
		
00:45:54 --> 00:45:54
			Yeah.
		
00:45:56 --> 00:45:59
			See if that works. That'll be a
cool effect. Yeah, see, he's got
		
00:45:59 --> 00:46:02
			he's got a list of layers. Yeah,
there you go.
		
00:46:04 --> 00:46:06
			It's kinda sort of kinda sorta
works.
		
00:46:07 --> 00:46:10
			But you see the idea. I was
becoming a graphic designer here.
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:15
			Securing female autonomy means
under no circumstances should a
		
00:46:15 --> 00:46:20
			woman be rushed into reproductive.
Just a reproductive decision. Why
		
00:46:20 --> 00:46:24
			are you preaching whether by an
eager partner or tone deaf chatter
		
00:46:24 --> 00:46:28
			about ticking biological clocks? I
don't think that's chatter. I
		
00:46:28 --> 00:46:31
			think that's real biological clock
ticking, that's real.
		
00:46:33 --> 00:46:36
			unreserved enthusiasm for having
children can come across as
		
00:46:36 --> 00:46:41
			essentially reactionary. Over the
past few past four years, we've
		
00:46:41 --> 00:46:44
			conducted interviews and surveys
with hundreds of young Americans
		
00:46:44 --> 00:46:48
			about their attitudes towards
having kids, these and I just
		
00:46:48 --> 00:46:55
			advise some brothers that had like
a 10 year plan. And merit getting
		
00:46:55 --> 00:46:57
			out faster across marriage was not
part of it.
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:02
			And I'm like, who fooled you, this
is going to be the best thing that
		
00:47:02 --> 00:47:04
			you do. Right? This literally is
the best thing that's going to
		
00:47:04 --> 00:47:08
			bring you the most happiness. jobs
come and go. And so money's easy
		
00:47:08 --> 00:47:10
			to make, by the way, and you want
to you want to make money, it
		
00:47:10 --> 00:47:13
			might take you a while. But I
believe if you asked me that,
		
00:47:13 --> 00:47:14
			there's sort of a universal law.
		
00:47:16 --> 00:47:20
			When it comes to money, if you
want it, and you'll do what's
		
00:47:20 --> 00:47:21
			needed
		
00:47:22 --> 00:47:24
			to make it within the Hello,
you'll get it.
		
00:47:25 --> 00:47:27
			If you go where it's at, you'll
get it.
		
00:47:29 --> 00:47:33
			Knowledge is when you learn. You
realize knowledge is it's not hard
		
00:47:33 --> 00:47:33
			to get,
		
00:47:35 --> 00:47:36
			go to the right people.
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:41
			at the, at the amount that you can
read the right books, put in the
		
00:47:41 --> 00:47:42
			right time, you will have
knowledge in 10 years, you'll be
		
00:47:42 --> 00:47:47
			knowledgeable, people be asking
you for dues, right? Same thing
		
00:47:47 --> 00:47:48
			with physical fitness.
		
00:47:49 --> 00:47:53
			All these things are not hard. But
things that involve other people
		
00:47:54 --> 00:47:57
			are far more sensitive. Because
you can't control other people the
		
00:47:57 --> 00:47:58
			way you can throw money.
		
00:47:59 --> 00:48:02
			You can't predict how they're
going to react. You can't take
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:05
			them for granted. They're far
greater of a gift
		
00:48:06 --> 00:48:10
			than any of these other things.
How many fools have you seen in
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:11
			life
		
00:48:12 --> 00:48:16
			miss out on all their kids?
childhoods?
		
00:48:18 --> 00:48:20
			They missed out on all their
children's childhoods just to make
		
00:48:20 --> 00:48:20
			money.
		
00:48:22 --> 00:48:26
			Wow, what a waste. What a waste.
Forget their Deen
		
00:48:27 --> 00:48:30
			right which they're going to
regret that as they get older, and
		
00:48:30 --> 00:48:33
			they start going to the grave that
you're gonna regret
		
00:48:36 --> 00:48:39
			it how can we take a thought of
this a summary of this whole
		
00:48:39 --> 00:48:40
			article I told you he was smart.
		
00:48:42 --> 00:48:45
			Amassing stuff has destroyed you
and killed you.
		
00:48:47 --> 00:48:51
			Over the past four years, we've
conducted interviews and surveys
		
00:48:51 --> 00:48:54
			with hundreds of young Americans
about their attitudes towards
		
00:48:54 --> 00:48:57
			having children. These
conversations revealed that the
		
00:48:57 --> 00:49:01
			success narratives of the modern
liberal life leave little room for
		
00:49:01 --> 00:49:06
			having a family. Women who want
kids often come to the realization
		
00:49:06 --> 00:49:10
			belatedly at some point in their
early 30s. The so called pandemic
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:15
			panic years. If they're lucky,
their partner if they have one
		
00:49:15 --> 00:49:17
			will fall in line. If they are
not, they face a choice of
		
00:49:17 --> 00:49:21
			returning to the dating pool,
freezing their eggs, single
		
00:49:21 --> 00:49:26
			parenting or growing up, giving up
their hope of having kids of their
		
00:49:26 --> 00:49:30
			own. So shades on wants to lead
you to this desperate decade.
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:35
			That's his goal, and the colors of
the colorful things that you can
		
00:49:35 --> 00:49:38
			do in your 20s it's an illusion
		
00:49:39 --> 00:49:45
			that he uses to get you into deep
into your 30s Without this family
		
00:49:45 --> 00:49:49
			support system that's going to
make your life good and happy and
		
00:49:49 --> 00:49:53
			better and alleviate a lot of your
anxieties that happen from outside
		
00:49:53 --> 00:49:54
			if the outside world.
		
00:49:56 --> 00:49:59
			That's his goal. I believe Shawn's
goal is to get you
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:02
			To be sad, you have with OLIO
		
00:50:04 --> 00:50:06
			Hello Natalie. Hola. Hola. Hola
finale what a homie has anyone
		
00:50:06 --> 00:50:10
			fear sadness? That is a goal of
Iblees.
		
00:50:12 --> 00:50:15
			In this way, the logic post logic
of postponement that has been
		
00:50:15 --> 00:50:18
			promoted by liberals and
progressives and bolstered by
		
00:50:18 --> 00:50:22
			overblown optimism about
reproductive technology, robs
		
00:50:22 --> 00:50:25
			young people of their agency who
wrote this article, how many
		
00:50:25 --> 00:50:29
			children they have, and even
whether they have them at all, is
		
00:50:29 --> 00:50:33
			increasingly a decision made for
them. By cultural conventions.
		
00:50:34 --> 00:50:38
			Yeah, it's your your brain has
manufactured to think negatively
		
00:50:38 --> 00:50:43
			about these things, because of how
many things you see in Hollywood,
		
00:50:43 --> 00:50:47
			in shows where, you know, it's a
negative, right?
		
00:50:48 --> 00:50:52
			This is not and Shakira had
mentioned in his speech that every
		
00:50:52 --> 00:50:54
			single there were prophets who
married and prophets we didn't
		
00:50:54 --> 00:50:55
			marry.
		
00:50:56 --> 00:50:59
			But the Quran does not mention any
single prophet who didn't marry
		
00:51:00 --> 00:51:04
			even Prophet Yeah, hear himself
say now here, did marry before he
		
00:51:04 --> 00:51:06
			died before he was executed he was
killed.
		
00:51:08 --> 00:51:12
			This is just not a recipe for
unhappiness, it also reflects a
		
00:51:12 --> 00:51:15
			deep confusion. There is nothing
inherently unprogressive about
		
00:51:15 --> 00:51:19
			embracing the prospect of children
even Simone de
		
00:51:20 --> 00:51:24
			Beauvoir, the philosopher who was
among the first to critique
		
00:51:24 --> 00:51:27
			reproduction and family as
instruments for the oppression of
		
00:51:27 --> 00:51:30
			women of women acknowledge that
shaping the character and
		
00:51:30 --> 00:51:33
			intellect of another human being
was the most delicate and most
		
00:51:33 --> 00:51:38
			serious undertaking of all. While
certain conservative visions of
		
00:51:38 --> 00:51:44
			family life such as Trad, wives,
and Silicon Valley pro nativism,
		
00:51:44 --> 00:51:47
			no doubt have little to offer
those on the left. Our fellow
		
00:51:47 --> 00:51:50
			progressives need to stop thinking
of having children as a
		
00:51:50 --> 00:51:53
			conservative hobbyhorse and
reclaim it for what it is a
		
00:51:53 --> 00:51:53
			fundamental human concern.
		
00:51:55 --> 00:51:59
			If the left is against children,
won't you die out?
		
00:52:01 --> 00:52:03
			The tried to take our children,
right. Yeah.
		
00:52:04 --> 00:52:05
			Yeah.
		
00:52:06 --> 00:52:10
			I don't think that women should
have a choice to stay at home and
		
00:52:10 --> 00:52:13
			raise children. Because if they
did, and too many of them would
		
00:52:13 --> 00:52:17
			take that option. She knows her
own kind.
		
00:52:19 --> 00:52:19
			That was wrong. Can
		
00:52:21 --> 00:52:25
			you have kids for how long are
they kids? Only a few years.
		
00:52:25 --> 00:52:26
			Right?
		
00:52:27 --> 00:52:32
			But career and job, that stuff is
always there. It's always there.
		
00:52:32 --> 00:52:36
			But you have kids for such a
limited amount of time. Right?
		
00:52:38 --> 00:52:41
			The family recognize a seed of
customs and traditional values has
		
00:52:41 --> 00:52:44
			long been central to appeal to the
appeal of conservatism.
		
00:52:45 --> 00:52:47
			Any people who want to destroy
		
00:52:48 --> 00:52:52
			right want to destroy any people
who want to destroy a people
		
00:52:53 --> 00:52:55
			should destroy their families
first, because then you can
		
00:52:55 --> 00:52:56
			control them easily.
		
00:52:58 --> 00:53:00
			It wasn't long ago that
Republicans and Democrats fought
		
00:53:00 --> 00:53:05
			over who could rightfully claim
the party of family values. Bill
		
00:53:05 --> 00:53:08
			Clinton, while campaigning for
president against George Bush,
		
00:53:08 --> 00:53:11
			assailed the Republican Party's
commitment to families as little
		
00:53:11 --> 00:53:12
			more than hypocrisy.
		
00:53:14 --> 00:53:17
			Where are they he asks when there
is no health care for pregnant
		
00:53:17 --> 00:53:21
			women, when too many children are
born with low birth weights.
		
00:53:23 --> 00:53:27
			But in time, the liberals and
progressives came to shy away from
		
00:53:27 --> 00:53:30
			publicly embracing the American
family as a symbol and an ideal.
		
00:53:30 --> 00:53:34
			Do these people not know how
humanity is structured?
		
00:53:35 --> 00:53:38
			People? Where do they come from?
Right? I don't think come from the
		
00:53:38 --> 00:53:43
			like, the structure of like being
against the mitochondria. Like
		
00:53:43 --> 00:53:48
			what is the structure of humanity
at large? Does it not come from
		
00:53:49 --> 00:53:53
			from this? So after Mr. Clinton
was impeached in the wake of his
		
00:53:53 --> 00:53:57
			own family values hypocrisy and
George W. Bush was elected. With
		
00:53:57 --> 00:54:01
			the help of energize evangelical
voters, family friendly rhetoric
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:05
			became anathema to liberals
perceived as phony intrusive and
		
00:54:05 --> 00:54:09
			toxic. The notable exception was
gay marriage, which they're all
		
00:54:09 --> 00:54:09
			about
		
00:54:10 --> 00:54:15
			was legalization was one with the
help of arguments that promoted
		
00:54:15 --> 00:54:18
			the virtues of families. So every
June we have to, we have to really
		
00:54:18 --> 00:54:22
			promote a lot of this because
that's going to be our reaction.
		
00:54:23 --> 00:54:26
			Let's see who wins out in 50
years, the people who embrace a
		
00:54:26 --> 00:54:29
			way of marrying the opposite
gender and having kids or those
		
00:54:29 --> 00:54:32
			who are sticking with the same
gender and dying of diseases,
		
00:54:34 --> 00:54:38
			which is the truth, a lot of
diseases. There's one even now
		
00:54:38 --> 00:54:44
			that someone sent me an article,
that sword recently, a new STD
		
00:54:45 --> 00:54:48
			that is prominent amongst gay men.
So who do you think is going to
		
00:54:48 --> 00:54:54
			win out over 50 years? The group
that has to win over converts by
		
00:54:54 --> 00:54:59
			paying Netflix and or getting
their lobbies to pay movies to
		
00:54:59 --> 00:55:00
			make sure that for
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:04
			80% of the whole operation is gay.
That group or the group that's
		
00:55:04 --> 00:55:09
			going to go marry and have four
kids each. You all should aim to
		
00:55:09 --> 00:55:13
			marry and have four kids each to
support them. For
		
00:55:14 --> 00:55:16
			two, we'll just replace you.
		
00:55:17 --> 00:55:23
			One, the third one. If you're you
got to make room for accidents.
		
00:55:24 --> 00:55:26
			Back in the day, they used to have
to make room for wars. We don't
		
00:55:26 --> 00:55:29
			have to. But you got to make room
for an accident. Maybe something
		
00:55:29 --> 00:55:33
			will happen to one kid. Maybe that
kid won't reproduce right? For
		
00:55:33 --> 00:55:35
			covered your insurance, right.
		
00:55:37 --> 00:55:42
			Today, the left proudly defends
the sacrosanct right to abortion
		
00:55:42 --> 00:55:45
			and reproductive justice while
almost entirely sidestepping the
		
00:55:45 --> 00:55:48
			question of whether having
children is a worthy project to
		
00:55:48 --> 00:55:49
			begin with.
		
00:55:50 --> 00:55:52
			The stark polarization of today's
public discourse has only
		
00:55:52 --> 00:55:56
			heightened the left's weariness of
kids, both privately and
		
00:55:56 --> 00:55:58
			politically. If you hate kids so
much, why are you taking over
		
00:55:58 --> 00:55:58
			Disney?
		
00:56:00 --> 00:56:03
			Alright, Disney should be totally
conservative. Like who is your
		
00:56:03 --> 00:56:06
			customer base? Are you people not
aware of who's showing up to these
		
00:56:06 --> 00:56:08
			things? Who shows up to Disney?
		
00:56:10 --> 00:56:12
			They should be totally
conservative. All their movies
		
00:56:12 --> 00:56:16
			should be conservative to have any
brain. Right? Think about it.
		
00:56:17 --> 00:56:20
			Teenagers, 20 year olds kids that
go to
		
00:56:21 --> 00:56:25
			you know, like Mardi Gras. They
don't go to Disney. These aren't
		
00:56:25 --> 00:56:28
			the people who like Mickey Mouse
and Donald Duck. Like they should
		
00:56:28 --> 00:56:32
			be a 100% conservative company
because that's your customer base.
		
00:56:32 --> 00:56:35
			You'd probably win over so many
people. If that was your customer
		
00:56:35 --> 00:56:39
			base. If that was your your your
focus on their business would
		
00:56:39 --> 00:56:42
			double and triple how many you
know how many miles you're not
		
00:56:42 --> 00:56:46
			going to see inside out anymore?
Because that turned out to be all
		
00:56:46 --> 00:56:49
			about LGBT now. So you don't you
out you guys don't know these kids
		
00:56:49 --> 00:56:52
			movies. But there's some of these
kids movies that
		
00:56:54 --> 00:56:58
			were popular amongst kids now they
have sequels and third 1/4 One and
		
00:56:58 --> 00:57:02
			everything. But eventually they
turned gay. They have to write to
		
00:57:02 --> 00:57:05
			get the secure the investment or
to secure the ability to get a
		
00:57:05 --> 00:57:10
			reward an award or whatever. But
then again, you're sacrificing
		
00:57:10 --> 00:57:13
			your actual customer basis. It
makes no sense.
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:18
			Eventually, yeah.
		
00:57:20 --> 00:57:22
			progressive policy defeats
		
00:57:23 --> 00:57:27
			are often met with anti needleless
grandstanding, members of the
		
00:57:27 --> 00:57:31
			ecological activist group birth
striker founded in 2018, declared
		
00:57:31 --> 00:57:34
			that they were protesting climate
inaction by refusing to have kids.
		
00:57:34 --> 00:57:39
			There's another thing too, when
Allah loads the way of a people.
		
00:57:40 --> 00:57:44
			He makes them love not having kids
as a favor for humanity.
		
00:57:45 --> 00:57:48
			Because if they had kids, they'd
increase. So you're doing us all a
		
00:57:48 --> 00:57:51
			favor, when you don't have kids?
Because if you got kids, chances
		
00:57:51 --> 00:57:54
			are he's gonna be like you 90%
chance people fall in the
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:58
			footsteps, the philosophy of their
parents 90% Only 10% change, I
		
00:57:58 --> 00:57:59
			would say, right.
		
00:58:02 --> 00:58:06
			Overall, liberal family turns out
to have liberal kids conservative
		
00:58:06 --> 00:58:09
			family, well, they have to fight
against Netflix and everything
		
00:58:09 --> 00:58:15
			else. So maybe 50%. But I believe
it's a curse on people whom Allah
		
00:58:15 --> 00:58:16
			does not want to to more of them.
		
00:58:18 --> 00:58:22
			He makes like the last curse. He
makes him not want to have kids so
		
00:58:22 --> 00:58:25
			that the earth will be free of the
likes of you when you die.
		
00:58:26 --> 00:58:30
			Whereas you know that people in
this room, if you have kids, if
		
00:58:30 --> 00:58:32
			y'all have four or four kids, it's
going to be much more people to
		
00:58:32 --> 00:58:35
			fulfill your what you believe is
right, even if you die, they'll
		
00:58:35 --> 00:58:36
			keep it going.
		
00:58:37 --> 00:58:37
			Right.
		
00:58:38 --> 00:58:42
			The following year, shortly after
proposing legislation for a green
		
00:58:42 --> 00:58:46
			New Deal, Representative AOC
broadcast progressives hesitancy
		
00:58:46 --> 00:58:50
			to reproduce in the face of
climate change to her 2.5 million
		
00:58:50 --> 00:58:53
			Instagram followers when she said
it does lead young people to have
		
00:58:53 --> 00:58:58
			a legitimate Is it okay to still
have children. The Supreme Court's
		
00:58:58 --> 00:59:01
			Dobbs decision which overturned
the constitutional right to
		
00:59:01 --> 00:59:05
			abortion in 2022, has also made
liberals and progressives more
		
00:59:05 --> 00:59:07
			uneasy with the idea of starting a
family.
		
00:59:08 --> 00:59:11
			A year after Dobbs, the
reproductive rights journalist
		
00:59:11 --> 00:59:15
			Andrea Gonzalez Ramirez wrote that
she had been constantly having
		
00:59:15 --> 00:59:20
			children in her early 30s, before
the Supreme Court's decision, to
		
00:59:20 --> 00:59:23
			put an end to all that I've never
been sure that I desire to be a
		
00:59:23 --> 00:59:27
			mom, let alone that I desire it
enough to assume the risks these
		
00:59:27 --> 00:59:31
			days over the door shut. I choose
myself. So that's a common
		
00:59:31 --> 00:59:34
			sentiment and what is going to
happen to you you will be extinct.
		
00:59:34 --> 00:59:37
			You want to know what being
extinct looks like. My
		
00:59:37 --> 00:59:38
			development, maybe have
		
00:59:39 --> 00:59:42
			100 homes 60 homes in I don't
know. It's a whole bunch of
		
00:59:42 --> 00:59:44
			streets and cul de sacs right.
		
00:59:46 --> 00:59:47
			I think there were three
		
00:59:48 --> 00:59:52
			ethnic first owners, the homes the
first owners of them were like
		
00:59:52 --> 00:59:55
			three, all the rest of the whites.
		
00:59:56 --> 00:59:58
			It's probably now the opposite now
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:04
			probably now the opposite. Every
single new owners in the last 10
		
01:00:04 --> 01:00:10
			years in this development have
been Indian, Pakistani Arabs.
		
01:00:11 --> 01:00:13
			They've been the owners, the new
buyers.
		
01:00:15 --> 01:00:19
			That's literally replacement
extinction right before your eyes.
		
01:00:24 --> 01:00:29
			Yeah, what goes up like everywhere
else? But that's not the reason
		
01:00:29 --> 01:00:30
			that the whites aren't buying,
right.
		
01:00:33 --> 01:00:36
			They're just where are they just
ask any old person from South
		
01:00:36 --> 01:00:40
			Brunswick. What was life like when
you were 30 years ago when you
		
01:00:40 --> 01:00:41
			were, you know, in the middle of
your life?
		
01:00:43 --> 01:00:48
			Don't say it was like, Americans,
all of white Americans, right? And
		
01:00:48 --> 01:00:52
			then South Brunswick slowly has
just become completely Desi.
		
01:00:52 --> 01:00:56
			Right? Edison same thing, but
touching an Edison. No different
		
01:00:56 --> 01:01:01
			gas, the old people there. What
happened? All right. So these are
		
01:01:01 --> 01:01:04
			the suburban areas. These are the
people who own homes. They own
		
01:01:04 --> 01:01:07
			four or five or three, four
bedroom homes. That means they
		
01:01:07 --> 01:01:12
			have kids. So go to the schools. I
my, my son just took the SATs out
		
01:01:12 --> 01:01:15
			of school at a public school.
That's where the testing center
		
01:01:15 --> 01:01:19
			was. I get there and it's a South
Brunswick Vikings and it has
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:25
			like a white person with blond
hair as the logo. So I was like,
		
01:01:25 --> 01:01:29
			no, they should change it to the
South Brunswick cricketers. When I
		
01:01:29 --> 01:01:33
			rolled up to drop them off. Where
the Vikings I see cricketers,
		
01:01:33 --> 01:01:33
			right.
		
01:01:35 --> 01:01:38
			People who pray cricket should be
the logo, not a Viking
		
01:01:40 --> 01:01:41
			or change it to waIking?
		
01:01:46 --> 01:01:47
			How they pronounced Viking, right.
		
01:01:48 --> 01:01:49
			Yeah.
		
01:01:50 --> 01:01:55
			That choice is not uncommon. In a
recent study, 34% of women ages 18
		
01:01:55 --> 01:02:00
			to 39 reported that they or
someone they know had decided to
		
01:02:00 --> 01:02:03
			get pregnant due to concerns about
managing pregnancy related medical
		
01:02:03 --> 01:02:08
			emergencies. That might sound like
a worry about abortion access. But
		
01:02:08 --> 01:02:11
			the study suggests that dogs
intensified ambivalence about
		
01:02:11 --> 01:02:15
			having children more generally.
Indeed,
		
01:02:16 --> 01:02:19
			the women who said they were
foregoing having children because
		
01:02:19 --> 01:02:22
			of jobs, about half lived in
states where abortion rights were
		
01:02:22 --> 01:02:27
			still protected. It's just an it's
a weird thing. I mean, you
		
01:02:27 --> 01:02:29
			couldn't possibly get an abortion
		
01:02:30 --> 01:02:34
			hundreds of years ago except
through some weird techniques.
		
01:02:34 --> 01:02:37
			That may or may not work, probably
right. I'm assuming it was the
		
01:02:37 --> 01:02:40
			heart. So if everyone followed
what you're following here,
		
01:02:41 --> 01:02:44
			we wouldn't have had humanity
population would have dipped a
		
01:02:44 --> 01:02:45
			long time ago.
		
01:02:46 --> 01:02:48
			It's so important to study this
stuff. Because
		
01:02:49 --> 01:02:53
			if the prophesy Sam said, half the
dean is Nikka it's half the dean.
		
01:02:55 --> 01:02:57
			It deserves that much attention.
		
01:02:58 --> 01:03:01
			We got to find him a medic saying
this in most intelligent view is
		
01:03:01 --> 01:03:04
			the one who makes himself most
beloved in the house. That's going
		
01:03:04 --> 01:03:09
			to be a by the way there's for as
much as careerism is
		
01:03:10 --> 01:03:15
			oftentimes sensitivity in your
home is shamed. But the hadith of
		
01:03:15 --> 01:03:19
			it shamed as like you're being
soft, what's some of the terms
		
01:03:19 --> 01:03:20
			that they use for this?
		
01:03:22 --> 01:03:26
			What do they call it being a simp?
Right? Being a simp, if it's haram
		
01:03:27 --> 01:03:30
			if you're permitting something
haram
		
01:03:32 --> 01:03:36
			right, being a de youth, if you're
a permissive of what is unlawful,
		
01:03:37 --> 01:03:42
			if you are permissive of what
removes your shahada or your we
		
01:03:42 --> 01:03:46
			can say your your self respect
		
01:03:48 --> 01:03:49
			your self respect
		
01:03:50 --> 01:03:54
			that we can say is your is that
blameworthy stuff.
		
01:03:55 --> 01:03:59
			thing the youth there's two
definitions that I've seen for the
		
01:03:59 --> 01:04:03
			youth, the one who allows his wife
to literally do Zina,
		
01:04:04 --> 01:04:07
			or the one who allows his what
women to go out looking in
		
01:04:07 --> 01:04:12
			decently not following the Sharia
outside the house. I found two
		
01:04:12 --> 01:04:14
			different can you look up the
caboose and masala hats or
		
01:04:14 --> 01:04:16
			something? See what the Maliki has
say about that? Do you have camo
		
01:04:16 --> 01:04:18
			suicides and Medicaid? I haven't
here.
		
01:04:19 --> 01:04:22
			Call moose moose. Selahattin
Malika Yeah, let me look it up for
		
01:04:22 --> 01:04:24
			you here get the book I want to
know what the medic is in
		
01:04:24 --> 01:04:26
			specifics just out of curiosity
		
01:04:32 --> 01:04:34
			know just the women of your
household that you have authority
		
01:04:34 --> 01:04:34
			over
		
01:04:36 --> 01:04:40
			your daughters so your sisters you
have control over their that the
		
01:04:40 --> 01:04:41
			responsibility for their dad
		
01:04:43 --> 01:04:44
			Yeah.
		
01:04:46 --> 01:04:49
			But they often have a type of
thing where
		
01:04:50 --> 01:04:53
			I don't know they're like
embarrassed to have a sense of
		
01:04:53 --> 01:04:57
			sensitivity. But that is what's
going to make your life happy.
		
01:04:57 --> 01:04:59
			Right? But on the on the
		
01:05:00 --> 01:05:03
			If you're worried about being
called a day youth or being called
		
01:05:03 --> 01:05:05
			weak or something weak is
something that permitted
		
01:05:05 --> 01:05:10
			permitting what is unlawful or
permitting what is disrespectful
		
01:05:10 --> 01:05:12
			to yourself? No one's said to
dishonor yourself look up
		
01:05:14 --> 01:05:16
			the youth with a with a debt
		
01:05:17 --> 01:05:21
			there was a poor guy came on a
YouTube video the other day and
		
01:05:21 --> 01:05:24
			said guys, why are you calling me
to youth? I'm not the youth right?
		
01:05:25 --> 01:05:27
			I'm not a youth. I'm like, why
would they call this guy that you
		
01:05:28 --> 01:05:32
			click on the thing? Just got him
and his newlywed wife in every
		
01:05:32 --> 01:05:35
			single video Hi we're here we're
doing this and
		
01:05:37 --> 01:05:41
			and then you brought it upon
yourself to call you a day youth
		
01:05:41 --> 01:05:45
			to put your this is my wife and
she just got me this nice gift
		
01:05:45 --> 01:05:48
			Where are you broadcasting your
whole personal life to firstly
		
01:05:48 --> 01:05:50
			Don't you worry about her I said
that's number one. Number two
		
01:05:52 --> 01:05:54
			that that isn't that isn't right
some of those guys may have
		
01:05:54 --> 01:05:57
			appointed and attacking you with
that. That's not the way we're
		
01:05:57 --> 01:05:58
			supposed to live.
		
01:06:01 --> 01:06:04
			One can't help noting the irony
and permitting the conservative
		
01:06:04 --> 01:06:08
			movement to alienate them from the
question of whether they want to
		
01:06:08 --> 01:06:11
			have children so are we're so
slowly go into the part that
		
01:06:11 --> 01:06:16
			conservatives for have kids be
married and have kids. Progressive
		
01:06:16 --> 01:06:16
			be single.
		
01:06:18 --> 01:06:19
			Which is be extinct
		
01:06:20 --> 01:06:26
			or be extinct? Yeah. But the part
is, the partisan framing of the
		
01:06:26 --> 01:06:29
			issue is flawed. The question of
children ultimately transcends
		
01:06:29 --> 01:06:31
			politics and deciding whether to
have children we confront a
		
01:06:31 --> 01:06:35
			philosophical challenge is life
however imperfect, and however
		
01:06:35 --> 01:06:38
			challenging, however fraught with
political disagreement and
		
01:06:38 --> 01:06:42
			disaster worth living? Is a life
worth living now they're asking to
		
01:06:42 --> 01:06:46
			be sure having children is not the
only way to address this question.
		
01:06:46 --> 01:06:49
			But having children remains the
most basic and accessible way for
		
01:06:49 --> 01:06:53
			most of us to affirm the value of
our lives, and that of others.
		
01:06:53 --> 01:06:56
			This is in part because becoming
apparent represents one of the
		
01:06:56 --> 01:06:59
			greatest responsibilities one
human being can assume for
		
01:06:59 --> 01:07:00
			another.
		
01:07:01 --> 01:07:04
			And it's also because the
perpetuation of human life is the
		
01:07:04 --> 01:07:08
			condition of possibility. For
every other thing we care about
		
01:07:08 --> 01:07:11
			committing oneself to long term
leftist causes like economic,
		
01:07:11 --> 01:07:13
			environmental, racial, and social
justice is more than just
		
01:07:13 --> 01:07:17
			compatible with embracing children
and family life. It presupposes a
		
01:07:17 --> 01:07:19
			willingness to take personal
collective responsibility for next
		
01:07:19 --> 01:07:23
			generation, raising, nurturing and
educating those who will decide
		
01:07:23 --> 01:07:28
			the fate of our country and our
planet. Surely, progressives, and
		
01:07:28 --> 01:07:32
			conservatives will give a vastly
different answer to those
		
01:07:32 --> 01:07:34
			questions are what raising
children ought to look like? Blah,
		
01:07:34 --> 01:07:34
			blah, blah.
		
01:07:35 --> 01:07:37
			Alright, that's the end of the
article.
		
01:07:39 --> 01:07:44
			You can be about the environment
and also have kids like he's
		
01:07:44 --> 01:07:49
			trying to, she's trying to save
it. She's trying to save it for
		
01:07:51 --> 01:07:53
			for the progressives hats.
		
01:07:56 --> 01:07:59
			In the commercial, Mr. Hart
doesn't have that because it gets
		
01:07:59 --> 01:08:01
			it's not very, it's not a
		
01:08:03 --> 01:08:07
			term that has rulings related to
it, perhaps it's just a sinful
		
01:08:07 --> 01:08:10
			state, or sinful things that look
it up in any other commerce.
		
01:08:15 --> 01:08:19
			And it can move slower. We sorry.
It's not going to be a shot a term
		
01:08:19 --> 01:08:21
			like leak. There's no legal basis.
		
01:08:24 --> 01:08:26
			I don't think that yeah, exactly.
I don't think there's a hokum
		
01:08:26 --> 01:08:30
			connected to it. There's
sinfulness connected to it, but
		
01:08:30 --> 01:08:31
			there's no like,
		
01:08:33 --> 01:08:36
			chain reaction of again, that
would for example, if someone
		
01:08:36 --> 01:08:40
			apostate it is there's a chain of
outcome, your marriage will be
		
01:08:40 --> 01:08:44
			nullified on the spot. Inheritance
nullified on the spot, all deals
		
01:08:44 --> 01:08:46
			with, you know, the fight on the
spot, your wealth goes to the
		
01:08:47 --> 01:08:48
			state you're gonna get
		
01:08:49 --> 01:08:53
			is to Tebah for three days. And
then there's a punishment. So
		
01:08:53 --> 01:08:56
			there's again, the youth is just
like a sinful thing that you're
		
01:08:56 --> 01:09:03
			doing. But there aren't again
immediately there. Maybe you could
		
01:09:03 --> 01:09:04
			say actually
		
01:09:06 --> 01:09:09
			it could be something that a woman
could seek a separation from if
		
01:09:09 --> 01:09:13
			he's the youth with the daughter
something like that. Right. But
		
01:09:13 --> 01:09:16
			look it up anyway. I want to know
if it if the dominant position is
		
01:09:17 --> 01:09:21
			that it's the man who allows his
spouse his wife to do his
		
01:09:21 --> 01:09:28
			daughter's to do Zina, or just
going out in decently without the
		
01:09:29 --> 01:09:31
			requisite clothing to be worn.
		
01:09:32 --> 01:09:34
			Or body to be covered, I should
say.
		
01:09:39 --> 01:09:40
			Yeah.
		
01:09:44 --> 01:09:48
			Let's take a quick breather while
you guys look it up. Let's go to
		
01:09:49 --> 01:09:50
			qurbani.
		
01:09:51 --> 01:09:56
			GRT. We support GRT. As we know,
hey, Omar can ask you to increase
		
01:09:56 --> 01:09:59
			the size of that so I could read
the different nations there.
		
01:10:01 --> 01:10:06
			And then secondly, in terms of so
in terms of need dimension Syria
		
01:10:06 --> 01:10:08
			first and then Bangladesh after
		
01:10:09 --> 01:10:13
			India 130 pounds you could
slaughter a cow get on their
		
01:10:13 --> 01:10:15
			nerves for that
		
01:10:17 --> 01:10:21
			1/7 of a share is 90 130 19 pounds
Uganda,
		
01:10:24 --> 01:10:28
			Malawi, Morocco, India, Pakistan,
Rohingya,
		
01:10:29 --> 01:10:33
			Bangladesh north of Gaza, Yemen
and Syria
		
01:10:34 --> 01:10:39
			you can go to grt you can click
what you want and pay them for
		
01:10:39 --> 01:10:44
			your Kobani to go to those places
in case that for example
		
01:10:48 --> 01:10:52
			you don't have a local cow, a
local goat a local sheep.
		
01:10:53 --> 01:10:57
			So you could do it there through
GRC I'm gonna send a link in the
		
01:10:57 --> 01:10:59
			chat I'm just putting up the
screen right now. Yeah, so does
		
01:10:59 --> 01:11:03
			the GRT a website you guys know
the drill? Yeah, before we got
		
01:11:04 --> 01:11:08
			mentioned nothing so you guys get
to run those numbers up. So this
		
01:11:08 --> 01:11:13
			is just starting today. So click
and at least get us out of the the
		
01:11:13 --> 01:11:15
			zeros and the goosenecks
		
01:11:17 --> 01:11:19
			get us out of there so that we can
		
01:11:22 --> 01:11:25
			get these get these gentlemen
going I've been requesting for a
		
01:11:25 --> 01:11:29
			while as yeah to push this we
weren't able to last time but
		
01:11:30 --> 01:11:33
			inshallah before I comes around
you guys keep it up all keep it up
		
01:11:33 --> 01:11:37
			for the rest of the stream either
one of those images that you have
		
01:11:37 --> 01:11:38
			so we can
		
01:11:40 --> 01:11:41
			get it rolling
		
01:11:45 --> 01:11:46
			Muhammad anything
		
01:11:49 --> 01:11:54
			so the theme here are you happy?
It's faith family finances.
		
01:11:56 --> 01:11:59
			But all of this a very gloomy
picture. That's the point. That's
		
01:11:59 --> 01:12:02
			the point. All right. Up to you
		
01:12:06 --> 01:12:09
			we're talking about the thumbnails
you know we he makes them on the
		
01:12:09 --> 01:12:10
			spot here.
		
01:12:12 --> 01:12:16
			Why don't you try let's see what
it looks like put some uplifting
		
01:12:16 --> 01:12:19
			colors yellow color. Maybe a nice
field
		
01:12:22 --> 01:12:23
			are you happy?
		
01:12:25 --> 01:12:25
			Are you not happy?
		
01:12:28 --> 01:12:28
			Up to you.
		
01:12:33 --> 01:12:37
			My local Masjid in seventh set of
having a carnival is hosting a
		
01:12:37 --> 01:12:41
			fourth of July carnival. I emailed
them with a strongly email they no
		
01:12:41 --> 01:12:43
			response. Am I the jerk here?
		
01:12:44 --> 01:12:47
			How could they not? Maybe are they
having to eat carnival on the
		
01:12:47 --> 01:12:50
			Fourth of July? No, that would
make no no sense, right? Because
		
01:12:50 --> 01:12:53
			it's way off? No, I think it's a
fair question. Hungry Hippo.
		
01:12:54 --> 01:12:55
			That's Hungry Hippo. They're
		
01:12:57 --> 01:12:59
			fair question Hungry Hippo.
		
01:13:00 --> 01:13:05
			We're now on the open QA for the
next half hour after we covered
		
01:13:07 --> 01:13:11
			sources of happiness or Amen.
Remembrance of Allah.
		
01:13:12 --> 01:13:15
			A good family life in which your
beloved in your households in
		
01:13:15 --> 01:13:19
			which you're you will not earn
love to hear fit with your family
		
01:13:19 --> 01:13:20
			if you're not sensitive with them.
		
01:13:23 --> 01:13:26
			And oftentimes, our society's
shaming that too.
		
01:13:27 --> 01:13:30
			And really all parameters have to
look at are you permitting what's
		
01:13:30 --> 01:13:34
			unlawful? And are you humiliating
yourself? That's it, say not even
		
01:13:34 --> 01:13:36
			advertise that don't humiliate
yourself. That means don't sit
		
01:13:36 --> 01:13:38
			around a group of people and say
bad things about yourself.
		
01:13:42 --> 01:13:45
			And finances is the third thing.
This month of June, we really
		
01:13:45 --> 01:13:48
			should actually put a lot of focus
on the importance of marriage in
		
01:13:48 --> 01:13:52
			the organization that we're
starting up soon. Is was focused
		
01:13:52 --> 01:13:57
			mainly on general wellbeing of
people outside of religious
		
01:13:57 --> 01:13:58
			theology studies.
		
01:13:59 --> 01:14:02
			But we narrowed the focus down to
		
01:14:04 --> 01:14:09
			men and women learning how to be
good husbands and wives. We all
		
01:14:09 --> 01:14:11
			make mistakes, but you could still
be pretty good, right?
		
01:14:12 --> 01:14:17
			And married couples getting better
at being married. That's our
		
01:14:17 --> 01:14:21
			response to this LGBT liquid IQ
stuff is to respond with not to
		
01:14:21 --> 01:14:26
			say don't do that, but do do this.
And don't do that. Because in our
		
01:14:26 --> 01:14:29
			deen we negate and we promote
that's really what we're gonna
		
01:14:29 --> 01:14:32
			we're putting that organization
together young guy like
		
01:14:32 --> 01:14:33
			yourselves.
		
01:14:35 --> 01:14:38
			Used to take classes you need to
take classes now how to be a
		
01:14:38 --> 01:14:41
			married man, what does it mean to
be a husband? What does it mean to
		
01:14:41 --> 01:14:45
			be a dad? What are all this stuff
mean? You all know that it's more
		
01:14:45 --> 01:14:48
			important than your jobs. If you
had a wife and a job and I put a
		
01:14:48 --> 01:14:51
			gun to your head and use it lose
one right now. Which one you lose
		
01:14:54 --> 01:14:56
			you're gonna lose your job right?
Why for job?
		
01:14:57 --> 01:14:59
			Why for job? Why for job
		
01:15:00 --> 01:15:03
			Yeah, everyone here would lose
their job over their wife right?
		
01:15:04 --> 01:15:06
			How much studies do you do for
your job?
		
01:15:09 --> 01:15:13
			How much study how much pharmacy
can you possibly study is always
		
01:15:13 --> 01:15:15
			studying? What is it a seven year
program? No.
		
01:15:17 --> 01:15:21
			Six year program. It's a six year
program. Its ba was basically a BA
		
01:15:21 --> 01:15:23
			and MA right?
		
01:15:25 --> 01:15:29
			It's a PharmD it's a six year
program and you would give it up
		
01:15:29 --> 01:15:31
			out a heartbeat for a wife right?
		
01:15:33 --> 01:15:36
			But how much studies did you do in
having a happy marriage and how to
		
01:15:36 --> 01:15:41
			be husband? Zero, it's not in our
culture. It's not in the culture
		
01:15:41 --> 01:15:46
			to study these things right? It's
not in the culture to to learn
		
01:15:47 --> 01:15:48
			how to communicate
		
01:15:49 --> 01:15:52
			and communication with a woman is
not like communication with a man
		
01:15:52 --> 01:15:55
			I don't care what anyone says.
Communication with your wife is
		
01:15:55 --> 01:15:59
			not like communication with
anything else. Okay, you need to
		
01:15:59 --> 01:16:01
			learn this stuff needs to be
taught
		
01:16:04 --> 01:16:06
			you got the definition of the day
youth like six classical
		
01:16:06 --> 01:16:11
			dictionary six classical dicks. Oh
honey, honey for her lovey lovey
		
01:16:11 --> 01:16:16
			Rotella was very vague so far he
doesn't have any jealousy low min
		
01:16:16 --> 01:16:19
			min. He had the Hulu Allah Marathi
from who enters in himself called
		
01:16:19 --> 01:16:25
			Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah Tala imra.
Ankara jet min el Beatty while I
		
01:16:25 --> 01:16:30
			am now has old UEFA youth Alright,
kinetic if he does stupid all
		
01:16:33 --> 01:16:34
			mineral Jerry
		
01:16:35 --> 01:16:39
			who word other early he will lay
the lay you want to other early he
		
01:16:39 --> 01:16:44
			will if he has no shame when it
comes to his wife. But I'm trying
		
01:16:44 --> 01:16:45
			to pinpoint it to an action.
		
01:16:47 --> 01:16:50
			Very odd very, very odd for you
because you go to West Africa,
		
01:16:50 --> 01:16:53
			North Africa their behavior is
very different than Iraq and
		
01:16:53 --> 01:16:55
			Yemen. Very different behavior.
		
01:16:57 --> 01:17:00
			The Scheffer, he noted that this
is why he wrote he rewrote some of
		
01:17:00 --> 01:17:00
			the outcome.
		
01:17:02 --> 01:17:05
			When he moved to Egypt, what did
they call it, Kadeem? multifocal
		
01:17:05 --> 01:17:11
			Jegede de you youth in this
dictionary says Allah the love Ira
		
01:17:11 --> 01:17:15
			tele mediate Hola Hola, Marathi
waiata haka Connemara Tahoe. Allah
		
01:17:15 --> 01:17:17
			vibratory reef is good.
		
01:17:18 --> 01:17:22
			I think this type of person who is
constantly putting his wife on
		
01:17:22 --> 01:17:27
			Instagram and YouTube shorts and
all these reels and whatever, and
		
01:17:27 --> 01:17:31
			he's has a young attractive wife
that everyone would look out for
		
01:17:31 --> 01:17:34
			pleasure. Okay, not to be vulgar
about it, but that's the truth.
		
01:17:35 --> 01:17:37
			And those call you the youth
		
01:17:39 --> 01:17:41
			you might be right.
		
01:17:43 --> 01:17:48
			On Wednesday declared you do Phil.
Phil Boronia Khalid Abu Hanifa
		
01:17:48 --> 01:17:51
			Rahim Allah Allah and Ratan Cara
jet mineral bait, you will now
		
01:17:51 --> 01:17:53
			have to have our youth
		
01:17:54 --> 01:17:58
			to Jews of Salah to qualify who
Allah Akbar shahada to who Allah
		
01:17:58 --> 01:18:00
			Hill fatwa. So here you have cam
Sharia
		
01:18:02 --> 01:18:05
			right? How can i lay here? Do you?
Do you say yeah.
		
01:18:06 --> 01:18:12
			So he we don't pray behind him.
And his testimony is not accepted.
		
01:18:13 --> 01:18:16
			So yeah, we have to say that
there's audit audit involved, no
		
01:18:16 --> 01:18:20
			doubt about that. Right. And it's
almost like you use us know that
		
01:18:20 --> 01:18:24
			when you see it? Yeah. You know,
because that's the key. That's
		
01:18:26 --> 01:18:30
			the keeper on their lock screen.
Keep who, even though I've called
		
01:18:30 --> 01:18:30
			up and
		
01:18:32 --> 01:18:36
			it's not actually anything that's
on your phone, you should remove
		
01:18:36 --> 01:18:39
			your women of your family from
your phone, what happens if you
		
01:18:39 --> 01:18:42
			lose your phone? What happens if
it's unlocked? Somehow, someone I
		
01:18:42 --> 01:18:46
			know, do you can lock your phone,
but still, I'm sure there's ways
		
01:18:46 --> 01:18:48
			around that. Right? And
		
01:18:50 --> 01:18:54
			say, for sure. It's actually
really dangerous. I've seen like,
		
01:18:54 --> 01:18:57
			you know, with the AI and stuff
going around, there's some like
		
01:18:57 --> 01:18:59
			women that you know, have some
pictures online, it could just be
		
01:18:59 --> 01:19:03
			their face. And then there's some
creeps online that take their face
		
01:19:03 --> 01:19:07
			aIot and make naked pictures of
these women. Like, it doesn't take
		
01:19:07 --> 01:19:10
			any work. Right? Like you just go
on AI it's it's not very difficult
		
01:19:10 --> 01:19:13
			for someone to do. It's happening
like crazy.
		
01:19:14 --> 01:19:15
			That destroys your life,
		
01:19:16 --> 01:19:17
			destroys life and saying,
		
01:19:18 --> 01:19:23
			Well, you know, the only solution
for the fix is ramp up the
		
01:19:23 --> 01:19:25
			technology until no pickers
trustworthy.
		
01:19:26 --> 01:19:32
			Ramp it all up. Don't make it a
skill that someone has, that a few
		
01:19:32 --> 01:19:36
			people have, such that most
pictures are trustworthy. And then
		
01:19:36 --> 01:19:40
			the AI sneaks in. No ramp the
technology all up to the point
		
01:19:40 --> 01:19:45
			that society at large recognizes
no pic is trustworthy. And you
		
01:19:45 --> 01:19:48
			don't have to ask, is it AI? You
now have to ask is it real? Right?
		
01:19:48 --> 01:19:51
			What's the proof that it's real?
Not that What's the proof that
		
01:19:51 --> 01:19:55
			it's AI? Guys? I think that is a
picture of someone with that.
		
01:19:55 --> 01:19:58
			Right? They know what's fake.
Looking at that.
		
01:19:59 --> 01:19:59
			That's crazy.
		
01:20:00 --> 01:20:03
			Like, what is ruling for someone
who works with the government in a
		
01:20:03 --> 01:20:07
			non Muslim country and cannot pray
during working hours, you have to
		
01:20:07 --> 01:20:10
			make the effort on Allah will help
you. It's one of those things,
		
01:20:10 --> 01:20:11
			Allah always helps the person
		
01:20:13 --> 01:20:17
			get to fulfill their obligatory
prayer. So, in this government job
		
01:20:17 --> 01:20:20
			two peoples have snacks. Do they
smoke too? They go to the
		
01:20:20 --> 01:20:25
			bathroom? Do they do anything like
that? So Salam may take less time
		
01:20:25 --> 01:20:25
			than that.
		
01:20:29 --> 01:20:33
			Yep. Bassam said should we as
parents counteract all these new
		
01:20:33 --> 01:20:36
			shades on a quest was a by going
full on traditional having many
		
01:20:36 --> 01:20:39
			kids raising our kids to be
marriageable, as young as possible
		
01:20:39 --> 01:20:43
			for gearing up for girls, etc.
Now, I would say go with the audit
		
01:20:43 --> 01:20:45
			of what the successful married
couples have in your in your
		
01:20:45 --> 01:20:49
			community, don't try to do
something new. Go with the audit
		
01:20:49 --> 01:20:52
			of what the successful married
families have in your community.
		
01:20:53 --> 01:20:57
			Hey, is there a link for GRT? Did
you put the link up? Good. That's
		
01:20:57 --> 01:21:01
			That's what I believe you should
do. Right? Go with the audit of
		
01:21:01 --> 01:21:03
			the scholars, the righteous
people, the pious people, how are
		
01:21:03 --> 01:21:07
			they living and going about, and
you don't need to swing the
		
01:21:07 --> 01:21:09
			pendulum all the way, because
it'll swing back.
		
01:21:10 --> 01:21:15
			I was talking to a friend in
Canada, and he said the Catholics
		
01:21:15 --> 01:21:20
			of Quebec were at a point where
they had, they were having nine
		
01:21:20 --> 01:21:23
			and eight and seven kids per
family, believing in the
		
01:21:23 --> 01:21:28
			traditional values. But those kids
grew up in such a loud and crazy
		
01:21:28 --> 01:21:33
			household. And didn't like to see
sometimes the depressed moms at
		
01:21:33 --> 01:21:35
			the end of the you know, in the
middle of life are surrounded with
		
01:21:35 --> 01:21:37
			diapers and urine for the last 20
years.
		
01:21:39 --> 01:21:43
			And depressed sort of, and
physically exhausted by all these
		
01:21:43 --> 01:21:48
			kids and physically, not in shape
anymore. And they get depressed.
		
01:21:48 --> 01:21:51
			So the girls then went the
opposite route, guys and girls
		
01:21:51 --> 01:21:55
			went the opposite route. Right? So
you don't want to swing the
		
01:21:55 --> 01:21:58
			pendulum, you just need to click
it back. And we have to take this
		
01:21:58 --> 01:21:59
			stuff seriously.
		
01:22:01 --> 01:22:03
			As serious as they take promoting
their liquid IQ we should we
		
01:22:03 --> 01:22:07
			should promote this and be serious
about it. And not take it as a
		
01:22:07 --> 01:22:11
			laughing matter. Not telling your
daughter's the danger of hyper
		
01:22:11 --> 01:22:14
			focusing on higher education and
delaying marriage is borderline
		
01:22:14 --> 01:22:19
			criminal, says Joseph. And yeah,
you do a lot of things but you
		
01:22:19 --> 01:22:21
			have priorities. You have
priorities.
		
01:22:22 --> 01:22:25
			There are priorities, your
priorities, your faith than your
		
01:22:25 --> 01:22:27
			family than your finances after
that.
		
01:22:29 --> 01:22:31
			Increased sexual freedom led to
the decimation of the family which
		
01:22:31 --> 01:22:34
			results in a loss of family
identity. And as a result, you
		
01:22:34 --> 01:22:38
			have individuals who are easily
prey to movements and governments.
		
01:22:40 --> 01:22:43
			If you make dua, and someone else
had a dream that happening, and
		
01:22:43 --> 01:22:46
			informs you of that happening,
what does that mean? A lot, Adam,
		
01:22:46 --> 01:22:49
			it could be a true dream that it
will happen for you. And Allah
		
01:22:49 --> 01:22:50
			knows best it could be
		
01:22:51 --> 01:22:55
			chocolate wallow says the problem
is that some fathers push
		
01:22:55 --> 01:22:58
			University and career even more on
daughters as a safety net, just in
		
01:22:58 --> 01:23:04
			case. Okay, here's something
that's important, I think there is
		
01:23:04 --> 01:23:07
			some, there is value to those
things because
		
01:23:09 --> 01:23:13
			an educated person, if it's the
right education is always going to
		
01:23:13 --> 01:23:18
			be better spouse and family member
in the first place. Right? It that
		
01:23:18 --> 01:23:20
			doesn't mean there's only one way
to get educated. But
		
01:23:22 --> 01:23:25
			the other thing I wanted to
mention is a lot of guys who are
		
01:23:25 --> 01:23:25
			asking
		
01:23:28 --> 01:23:31
			for their wives to cover 50% of
everything. Like that's in it,
		
01:23:31 --> 01:23:35
			that's a bit of that developed in
our community. So the guys
		
01:23:35 --> 01:23:39
			themselves are asking for that,
because he wants to, you know, you
		
01:23:39 --> 01:23:39
			don't know get
		
01:23:41 --> 01:23:44
			better stuff in the house and all
that stuff. You'll go on vacations
		
01:23:44 --> 01:23:47
			or build a bigger home, so he
wants his wife to. So we have to
		
01:23:47 --> 01:23:51
			know that that's a sadaqa from her
if she wants to. It's not
		
01:23:51 --> 01:23:53
			obligatory. It's not an
obligation.
		
01:23:55 --> 01:23:59
			You seen what is the question?
What is it was confused as to why
		
01:24:00 --> 01:24:03
			there was there is like an issue
in the community with people
		
01:24:03 --> 01:24:04
			finding.
		
01:24:06 --> 01:24:09
			Like how's it possible, but like
the number of Muslims
		
01:24:14 --> 01:24:17
			it is a good question. If there's
so many Muslims around why is it
		
01:24:17 --> 01:24:19
			so hard for people to get married?
		
01:24:20 --> 01:24:23
			I think people are very picky. The
egos are very high. I think
		
01:24:24 --> 01:24:27
			they're like very, very picky. And
		
01:24:28 --> 01:24:35
			when you have an ability to, you
know, order your your your your
		
01:24:35 --> 01:24:39
			cappuccino or your your drink or
your frappe with five layers of
		
01:24:39 --> 01:24:42
			choices, right and they get one
wrong.
		
01:24:43 --> 01:24:46
			You return the drink, right? And
		
01:24:47 --> 01:24:50
			in the past, you had three
choices.
		
01:24:51 --> 01:24:56
			Right? You could have it with
milk, or without milk with sugar
		
01:24:56 --> 01:25:00
			or without sugar. So for black no
sugar, black with sugar
		
01:25:00 --> 01:25:03
			cream, no sugar, cream and sugar
in four choices that was it.
		
01:25:04 --> 01:25:08
			Right? Hard to get it wrong. But
now people have like, so many
		
01:25:08 --> 01:25:13
			layers of choices. What kind of
milk? Have enough oat milk,
		
01:25:13 --> 01:25:16
			regular milk, skim milk, almond
milk?
		
01:25:19 --> 01:25:23
			Or coffee shops. Right? And I
don't want espresso. Just I don't
		
01:25:23 --> 01:25:23
			know what to do
		
01:25:25 --> 01:25:26
			before they put in their system
and be like,
		
01:25:27 --> 01:25:30
			just the espresso. Yeah.
		
01:25:32 --> 01:25:36
			And then and then I'll be like, or
I'll just order the drip coffee.
		
01:25:36 --> 01:25:39
			They'll be like, do you want room
for me? It'll be like, No, I just
		
01:25:39 --> 01:25:43
			want Yep. Too many choices. They
can't even understand that.
		
01:25:45 --> 01:25:47
			Some of that just want the law.
Yeah.
		
01:25:49 --> 01:25:52
			That represents like, it's
basically representative of that
		
01:25:52 --> 01:25:56
			in the in the older times, you
would have whatever you wherever
		
01:25:56 --> 01:25:58
			you live right in your village or
whatever in your city. Probably
		
01:25:58 --> 01:26:01
			gonna marry some girl that you
know from like childhood, there's
		
01:26:01 --> 01:26:03
			not many choices, and you're gonna
be picky because you don't have
		
01:26:03 --> 01:26:06
			any choices. She doesn't have many
choices. You don't have many
		
01:26:06 --> 01:26:10
			choices. And that eliminates all
the those those questions in your
		
01:26:10 --> 01:26:13
			head. And you go and you make it
you make it work, you become
		
01:26:13 --> 01:26:15
			happy. Sometimes too many choices
is no good.
		
01:26:18 --> 01:26:22
			Both are both sides are picky. I
would assume I can, you know.
		
01:26:25 --> 01:26:29
			Yeah. It's like, yeah, you haven't
really felt like you knew it.
		
01:26:29 --> 01:26:32
			Yeah, yeah, that's true. I think
also the families if they know
		
01:26:32 --> 01:26:36
			each other, it's a lot easier. And
aunt suggests a nephew to
		
01:26:36 --> 01:26:39
			whatever. That's usually how the
old world used to work. And in a
		
01:26:39 --> 01:26:40
			world where
		
01:26:42 --> 01:26:44
			if you have neighborhood masajid
		
01:26:46 --> 01:26:49
			you might chances might be better.
Yeah, you know, neighborhood
		
01:26:49 --> 01:26:52
			Masjid. I think also like, there
is an aspect of like, the safety
		
01:26:52 --> 01:26:55
			net. Yeah. So you know what that
person's about? You've seen like,
		
01:26:55 --> 01:26:58
			in the older days, you know, their
family? Yeah, there's no hidden
		
01:26:58 --> 01:27:01
			games or tricks. I think today
it's like, you know, people can
		
01:27:01 --> 01:27:04
			move around so quick, right? Like
someone's you know, someone maybe
		
01:27:04 --> 01:27:07
			like this person hasn't been in
the communities came here last
		
01:27:07 --> 01:27:09
			year. Right. And you don't know
what it's about. So you guys a lot
		
01:27:09 --> 01:27:12
			of like, exactly. You know, if
you're in a community, why would
		
01:27:12 --> 01:27:14
			you marry someone who's a newbie?
		
01:27:16 --> 01:27:18
			Some people are also scared of
that as well. Choice and I think
		
01:27:18 --> 01:27:19
			that's
		
01:27:20 --> 01:27:21
			like, committing to that.
		
01:27:26 --> 01:27:30
			All right, here's another one. He
says how do I get out of slippery
		
01:27:30 --> 01:27:35
			slope of fearing what is unseen,
unknown and what's to come? Such
		
01:27:35 --> 01:27:38
			as gin, fear of conflict, black
magic, fear of persecution,
		
01:27:38 --> 01:27:39
			torture and death.
		
01:27:45 --> 01:27:47
			Fear of conflict is an important
chapter that's coming up in this
		
01:27:47 --> 01:27:50
			book. But if we're fear of
conflict,
		
01:27:51 --> 01:27:55
			all of these fears you can remove
them from your heart by the
		
01:27:55 --> 01:27:59
			decoder via Rahmani r Rahim. Don't
forget who's in charge. That's it.
		
01:28:00 --> 01:28:03
			These things are not autonomous
things that can attack you. There
		
01:28:03 --> 01:28:08
			are only means by which Allah
tests people. So yeah, yeah,
		
01:28:08 --> 01:28:13
			Rahmani Raheem, is that the Quran
should say for that. Melody says,
		
01:28:14 --> 01:28:18
			modernity plays a major role in
decision of marriage among many
		
01:28:18 --> 01:28:21
			religious and non religious
groups, what's acceptable in a
		
01:28:21 --> 01:28:23
			society and what's not new.
		
01:28:24 --> 01:28:28
			And what is has modernity fared
have they produced beautiful,
		
01:28:28 --> 01:28:32
			nice, young, small villages with?
Everyone's happy? No.
		
01:28:33 --> 01:28:36
			They produce huge cities where
everyone's a stranger and they
		
01:28:36 --> 01:28:37
			become weirder every generation.
		
01:28:41 --> 01:28:45
			Just talking about, you know,
these modern approaches towards
		
01:28:45 --> 01:28:49
			family and that whole, the whole
modern world has success in many
		
01:28:49 --> 01:28:52
			things. But how to nurture a
family and a community and a
		
01:28:52 --> 01:28:56
			neighborhood is not one of them.
Right? That's that's a fair
		
01:28:56 --> 01:28:58
			assessment. modernity has done
amazing things in medicine,
		
01:28:59 --> 01:29:03
			amazing things in communication,
amazing things in the spread of
		
01:29:03 --> 01:29:07
			information and knowledge. But one
thing it hasn't done is improved
		
01:29:07 --> 01:29:12
			people's family lives. Everybody
goes, talks about the old days
		
01:29:12 --> 01:29:14
			when they want to talk about
family. Nobody talks about the old
		
01:29:14 --> 01:29:19
			days in medicine, because you did
good in medicine. Right? You talk
		
01:29:19 --> 01:29:22
			about it like in the negative
sense, man. In the old days, you
		
01:29:22 --> 01:29:25
			have to be awake when you get your
teeth pulled out, right? Today.
		
01:29:25 --> 01:29:27
			Boom. Novocaine What is it
Novocaine?
		
01:29:29 --> 01:29:31
			lidocaine. What is Novocaine?
		
01:29:34 --> 01:29:35
			That's something else. So
		
01:29:39 --> 01:29:42
			back to the old days, like way
back the medical attention was
		
01:29:42 --> 01:29:44
			terrible right now. It's great.
		
01:29:46 --> 01:29:50
			No, yeah. Sometimes, you know, the
medical attention was terrible
		
01:29:50 --> 01:29:54
			back in the day. Now. It's great.
So these common tropes that people
		
01:29:54 --> 01:29:58
			say all the time, there's a reason
for it, because it's true. Right?
		
01:29:58 --> 01:29:59
			As a matter of key that goes to
the bar
		
01:30:00 --> 01:30:02
			As the investor should I perform
group thinker that comes after the
		
01:30:02 --> 01:30:06
			farts with them? Yes do it with
them no problem are we allowed to
		
01:30:06 --> 01:30:08
			pay other people to make cash for
us while we're still alive
		
01:30:16 --> 01:30:18
			so they meant to do an Elia of
Sham video please yes inshallah
		
01:30:18 --> 01:30:19
			we'll be
		
01:30:22 --> 01:30:25
			can we consider a HUD Hadith
interpleader yes we can consider
		
01:30:25 --> 01:30:30
			them but if there is a much
awaited on the same subject we go
		
01:30:30 --> 01:30:31
			with the module watch.
		
01:30:33 --> 01:30:36
			The ahead does not supply an
exception to the mortality
		
01:30:37 --> 01:30:41
			is knowledge part of it is
anything that you benefit is part
		
01:30:41 --> 01:30:43
			of your disk either halal or haram
		
01:30:48 --> 01:30:51
			pen six or seven says I've seen in
the last 70 years in Chicago as
		
01:30:51 --> 01:30:55
			well talking about the
replacement. Right? If you have
		
01:30:55 --> 01:30:59
			observed a way of living that does
not prioritize marriage and
		
01:30:59 --> 01:31:00
			children
		
01:31:01 --> 01:31:04
			and you've come to believe that
it's corny and tacky because
		
01:31:04 --> 01:31:07
			that's what society has made you
believe and manufactured that in
		
01:31:07 --> 01:31:11
			your head you will go extinct it's
just a fact of life
		
01:31:28 --> 01:31:30
			yeah, so what's your opinion on
		
01:31:32 --> 01:31:33
			marriage
		
01:31:35 --> 01:31:38
			temporarily is okay. delay for
studies? Yeah, temporarily.
		
01:31:39 --> 01:31:40
			Yeah.
		
01:31:43 --> 01:31:49
			age wise Yeah, mid 20s Yeah, go to
the Instagram see if there's any
		
01:31:49 --> 01:31:51
			questions there because someone
said go to Instagram
		
01:31:53 --> 01:31:56
			should Muslims wage economic war
against the adverse West
		
01:31:57 --> 01:32:01
			that's something for these
governments there forget war
		
01:32:01 --> 01:32:04
			they're mimicking them and running
		
01:32:06 --> 01:32:07
			to them and
		
01:32:08 --> 01:32:12
			trying to do exactly live exactly
as they do. Is it okay to have a
		
01:32:12 --> 01:32:16
			preference as Osman for a wife who
does not work or is that
		
01:32:16 --> 01:32:17
			controlling? No, there's nothing
wrong with that.
		
01:32:20 --> 01:32:22
			Controlling is different
controlling has nothing to do with
		
01:32:22 --> 01:32:25
			working or not working controlling
is it's a personality trait.
		
01:32:26 --> 01:32:28
			Whether she works or doesn't work.
		
01:32:30 --> 01:32:33
			Controlling is different but if he
if you want to marry someone who
		
01:32:33 --> 01:32:35
			doesn't work then many people have
done something wrong with them.
		
01:32:37 --> 01:32:40
			When should a newly married couple
be looking to try for children
		
01:32:41 --> 01:32:43
			everyone's going to be different
destined your situation? For
		
01:32:43 --> 01:32:46
			example, if you're studying
abroad, maybe better idea when you
		
01:32:46 --> 01:32:49
			come back? Let's go to those big
questions there those long
		
01:32:49 --> 01:32:51
			questions on Instagram real quick
before we have to go.
		
01:32:54 --> 01:32:57
			Does a son with a non Muslim mom
refuses to dress the Muslim
		
01:32:57 --> 01:33:01
			standard? In public? The youth?
No, he's not.
		
01:33:03 --> 01:33:05
			first of the year, you don't you
don't have to.
		
01:33:07 --> 01:33:10
			You don't order your mom around in
the first place, even if she was a
		
01:33:10 --> 01:33:13
			Muslim. And Allah doesn't ask you
about that. What Allah ask you
		
01:33:13 --> 01:33:18
			about is your spouse, your wife
and daughter. So Allah will ask
		
01:33:18 --> 01:33:18
			you about them.
		
01:33:20 --> 01:33:23
			Can you give us a list of books
you recommend reading English and
		
01:33:23 --> 01:33:27
			Arabic books? Okay, we'll go
through through books and other
		
01:33:27 --> 01:33:27
			time.
		
01:33:28 --> 01:33:32
			Okay, also, is it okay? We read
that one
		
01:33:37 --> 01:33:39
			what is the definition of indecent
we go by the Sharia?
		
01:33:41 --> 01:33:44
			And even within the Sharia, like
within the audit,
		
01:33:45 --> 01:33:50
			there could be something sinful,
but the society wouldn't deem it
		
01:33:50 --> 01:33:53
			as indecent. Even the Muslims
right.
		
01:33:55 --> 01:33:57
			Let's take the some of the biggest
countries Muslim countries
		
01:33:57 --> 01:33:59
			Nigeria, Indonesia
		
01:34:02 --> 01:34:07
			Malaysia, Egypt, Pakistan. There
is we have the rules of Islam. No
		
01:34:07 --> 01:34:11
			doubt about that. And we have
there's the Tabata which by the
		
01:34:11 --> 01:34:15
			Sharia is even just showing your
hair is to bridge by shittier.
		
01:34:16 --> 01:34:21
			But that society overall will not
deem that indecent because there's
		
01:34:21 --> 01:34:26
			so much of it. Indecent would now
be come like in the Artifex
		
01:34:26 --> 01:34:27
			society
		
01:34:28 --> 01:34:33
			be far worse than that. And that's
a sign of a bad oath. Yeah. That's
		
01:34:33 --> 01:34:38
			a sign of a bad oath. Right. So so
a person it's fathomable say,
		
01:34:38 --> 01:34:41
			someone who is not wearing hijab,
but no one would describe her as
		
01:34:41 --> 01:34:44
			indecent. But that's an accusation
on the,
		
01:34:45 --> 01:34:50
			on the society that we have now a
lower measure than the bare
		
01:34:50 --> 01:34:51
			minimum that Allah put for us.
		
01:34:53 --> 01:34:56
			Everybody turns around and
whispers when they see a man
		
01:34:56 --> 01:34:59
			walking with his wife, Subhan
Allah and filling their cup
		
01:35:00 --> 01:35:00
			Subhan Allah
		
01:35:05 --> 01:35:08
			is it's in the power of Allah to
forgive this believers who
		
01:35:08 --> 01:35:12
			rejected the message of Islam on
the day of judgment or is it
		
01:35:12 --> 01:35:14
			impossible since Allah revealed
the Quran that they will go to
		
01:35:14 --> 01:35:17
			*? So this answer to this
question is that
		
01:35:18 --> 01:35:24
			ark Ark Auckland, it is possible
for Allah to forgive anybody read
		
01:35:24 --> 01:35:25
			by by his
		
01:35:26 --> 01:35:31
			there's no inconsistency in that,
however, short run by what he's
		
01:35:31 --> 01:35:34
			told us, it is impossible. He told
us
		
01:35:36 --> 01:35:39
			he told us something that he will
not save will have is in the
		
01:35:39 --> 01:35:40
			hellfire.
		
01:35:42 --> 01:35:46
			So by Sharia, because he told us
this now we can say it's
		
01:35:46 --> 01:35:51
			impossible. Because Allah has
promises in the Quran. And his
		
01:35:51 --> 01:35:55
			explicit statements like that in
the Quran will not be will not be
		
01:35:55 --> 01:35:59
			changed. If we believe them to be
changed, then at that point, we
		
01:35:59 --> 01:36:00
			wouldn't trust anything.
		
01:36:14 --> 01:36:15
			Final questions
		
01:36:23 --> 01:36:27
			what do you say? thing that 99% of
my family still doesn't talk to me
		
01:36:27 --> 01:36:29
			and they don't want to see me
either because I'm Muslim. This
		
01:36:29 --> 01:36:31
			has been going on for 33 years
now. How should I How should I
		
01:36:31 --> 01:36:35
			treat them? The Hello nakaji I
think that you could keep sending
		
01:36:35 --> 01:36:36
			lobs
		
01:36:37 --> 01:36:41
			like to test if they're willing to
talk or not, and be and be friends
		
01:36:41 --> 01:36:42
			again.
		
01:36:49 --> 01:36:52
			Why sometimes sons or daughters of
righteous people go astray.
		
01:36:53 --> 01:36:57
			Because your judgment of righteous
is limited to what you see them in
		
01:36:57 --> 01:36:58
			doing in public.
		
01:37:00 --> 01:37:04
			And is limited to the outside. So
the phrase righteousness use
		
01:37:04 --> 01:37:07
			purely Khademi Montessori approach
the phrase righteous here
		
01:37:08 --> 01:37:12
			does not necessitate righteous and
it does not state complete someone
		
01:37:12 --> 01:37:14
			can be very righteous in himself.
		
01:37:15 --> 01:37:16
			But he doesn't know how to raise
		
01:37:17 --> 01:37:20
			how many people they pray every
salon in the masjid but hold on
		
01:37:20 --> 01:37:23
			there at every event of the
Masjid. But what does that mean?
		
01:37:23 --> 01:37:24
			They're not at home.
		
01:37:26 --> 01:37:29
			They're not at home. So you don't
know what you could do? And I know
		
01:37:31 --> 01:37:34
			do we need to touch Anita would do
to touch books that contain
		
01:37:34 --> 01:37:37
			Quranic verses? And the answer to
that is
		
01:37:38 --> 01:37:42
			no. If it is a must have the
majority of it is Quran then yes.
		
01:37:46 --> 01:37:51
			So Sophia, and I hope I answered
your question on taking a hard hat
		
01:37:51 --> 01:37:55
			Ethan talk to you. Yes, they can
be they are enacted as the
		
01:37:55 --> 01:38:01
			Foroohar of Arcada that if someone
were to go against to disbelieve
		
01:38:01 --> 01:38:02
			that he won't become a Kaffir.
		
01:38:04 --> 01:38:05
			And he may be a moped.
		
01:38:06 --> 01:38:10
			But he won't be a Kaffir. And if
that hadith has at odds with what
		
01:38:10 --> 01:38:13
			is multilateral mutawatir we go to
Mottola
		
01:38:14 --> 01:38:18
			and we just suspend the ahaadeeth
we suspend the meaning the
		
01:38:18 --> 01:38:20
			implication of it we don't
suspend. We don't deny that it's
		
01:38:20 --> 01:38:24
			here. We don't deny that the
prophesy centum said it, but we
		
01:38:24 --> 01:38:28
			suspend our understanding of its
implication. And it will make our
		
01:38:28 --> 01:38:33
			Updata to be the what's more to
the head do not supply a an
		
01:38:33 --> 01:38:34
			exception to them whatsoever.
		
01:38:36 --> 01:38:39
			Okay, so now clarify something
people are asking about the
		
01:38:39 --> 01:38:43
			donations. So if you go over here,
right here, it's on the screen. It
		
01:38:43 --> 01:38:46
			says after you donate, you can
type in where you intend your
		
01:38:46 --> 01:38:50
			donation we attended intended for
whether it's a small animal, large
		
01:38:50 --> 01:38:55
			animal would country, stuff like
that. A couple of people were
		
01:38:55 --> 01:38:55
			asking me
		
01:38:57 --> 01:38:58
			that's a question you said.
		
01:38:59 --> 01:39:03
			What did they ask? There's asking,
like, how do I specify like, you
		
01:39:03 --> 01:39:06
			know, like when I donate where do
I? Oh, I don't know. Don't click
		
01:39:06 --> 01:39:09
			the donate button doesn't give it.
I just mentioned that right now.
		
01:39:09 --> 01:39:11
			Once you donate it has like you
can read it right here two steps,
		
01:39:11 --> 01:39:14
			right? Good. Click it clicked on
it. Let's just see what it says.
		
01:39:15 --> 01:39:20
			I mean, once you donate, then it
has a common bucks. Oh, good. Then
		
01:39:20 --> 01:39:22
			after that, you can specify
whatever you want. Very good.
		
01:39:22 --> 01:39:25
			We're at 153 Not bad. out of
10,000
		
01:39:27 --> 01:39:31
			Alexander says what's your advice
for me as a new revert on anti
		
01:39:31 --> 01:39:35
			Islamic household and working at a
work that doesn't recognize break
		
01:39:35 --> 01:39:38
			time for Salam struggling to make
my five daily prayers. This is
		
01:39:38 --> 01:39:41
			Charla gonna be your biggest
struggle and Allah will help you
		
01:39:41 --> 01:39:44
			trust me. It takes time, some time
but Allah will help you and one of
		
01:39:44 --> 01:39:47
			those things that conventional
wisdom Allah always helps people
		
01:39:47 --> 01:39:51
			pray on time. If you put the
effort Allah will help you. But
		
01:39:51 --> 01:39:55
			put the effort. Talk to the boss
say listen, I'm going to cut from
		
01:39:55 --> 01:39:58
			my lunch break but I'm going to
need another coffee break and I
		
01:39:58 --> 01:39:58
			need to
		
01:40:00 --> 01:40:03
			very small space to put my rug out
and say my prayers Allah will help
		
01:40:03 --> 01:40:03
			you
		
01:40:05 --> 01:40:08
			say I'm in your home. You go
upstairs lock the door and pray
		
01:40:09 --> 01:40:09
			things like that.
		
01:40:10 --> 01:40:13
			Go up to what hadith is that
person asking about scroll down?
		
01:40:14 --> 01:40:14
			What is that?
		
01:40:18 --> 01:40:19
			What is the Hadith in the first
place?
		
01:40:23 --> 01:40:24
			What's more blood
		
01:40:25 --> 01:40:25
			flow?
		
01:40:29 --> 01:40:30
			Then freeing
		
01:40:33 --> 01:40:35
			what Zina Shudra
		
01:40:38 --> 01:40:44
			Khalid Abu Hurayrah Lian OMA to be
sold in visa vie de la. habra, LA
		
01:40:44 --> 01:40:50
			and outer koala is Zinnia chin.
That's Abu Hurayrah saying so what
		
01:40:50 --> 01:40:53
			are we worried about that for
Cisco to Sahabi?
		
01:40:58 --> 01:41:00
			Okay, let's read the whole Hadith
here says
		
01:41:01 --> 01:41:04
			collaborator Carlos Rosenstein was
in a shard with Salah
		
01:41:06 --> 01:41:10
			shadow Thalassa can be in his
suffering, not in his sin. Right
		
01:41:10 --> 01:41:15
			and in his anger and his reaction
to society. Right. That could be
		
01:41:16 --> 01:41:21
			one. This is this is a defeat. We
let's face it mallet if telefone
		
01:41:21 --> 01:41:25
			now Sophie the other column for
the hubba boddam Illa Anna Delica
		
01:41:25 --> 01:41:31
			in the major furor Julian behind
he cannot was most most Sulaiman
		
01:41:31 --> 01:41:36
			Beshara or call Ah, so first if
it's a Mad Men the prophesy Sam
		
01:41:36 --> 01:41:39
			said the son of two people who
committed to the child of two
		
01:41:39 --> 01:41:42
			people commit Zina was the worst
of them. Well, Zina, the son of
		
01:41:42 --> 01:41:46
			the adultery is the worst of the
first it man is that he was
		
01:41:46 --> 01:41:50
			talking about a specific person
right that that man that will be
		
01:41:50 --> 01:41:53
			committed as in this is their kid
he grew up he's the he's we were
		
01:41:53 --> 01:41:56
			actually worse than his parents.
That's one possible meaning for
		
01:41:56 --> 01:41:58
			that. Have you got
		
01:41:59 --> 01:42:02
			what call about them in the Masada
what to do Zina Sharon minute
		
01:42:02 --> 01:42:06
			Wally de Healy Annelle had DACA
NuCalm Allah Hema FET Hakuna loco
		
01:42:06 --> 01:42:10
			but I'm here salaam wa the female
Mala Hila did emails now be Hume
		
01:42:10 --> 01:42:16
			if Adolphe Zulu be here wakad
abdulrazaq even Jura have another
		
01:42:16 --> 01:42:21
			Karim kala cannibal wallet Abu
what are the Zina? You CSIRO and
		
01:42:21 --> 01:42:24
			Yama Rabinovich Allah Allah is and
and Felco Luna Hua Raju, su
		
01:42:24 --> 01:42:28
			Yasuda, la Salam SallAllahu Sallam
who was Shell Rotella so, I again
		
01:42:28 --> 01:42:33
			he emphasizes that it is specific
of a specific person. Okay
		
01:42:36 --> 01:42:40
			for how well a nurse who
unweathered shadow Sarah.
		
01:42:42 --> 01:42:49
			And in this XML, he's saying that
the Father is who the Prophet was
		
01:42:49 --> 01:42:54
			talking about, right? But the
people then mistook it and
		
01:42:54 --> 01:43:00
			transmitted it as the son. It's
Eboo wala de Zina Shudra the
		
01:43:00 --> 01:43:04
			father of that boy of Zina is the
worst of the three that's what the
		
01:43:04 --> 01:43:05
			prophet met. Okay.
		
01:43:06 --> 01:43:08
			specific person
		
01:43:10 --> 01:43:14
			kind of normal either. Akela does
Zina shadow Tara Sakalava who are
		
01:43:14 --> 01:43:19
			colloidal silica. So here the
proof of that is that when people
		
01:43:19 --> 01:43:22
			mistakenly said the son
		
01:43:23 --> 01:43:27
			of Zina is the worst of the three,
when the Prophet had met the
		
01:43:27 --> 01:43:31
			father of the son of Zen is the
worst of the three if an almighty
		
01:43:31 --> 01:43:35
			used to correct them by saying
he's the best of the three
		
01:43:37 --> 01:43:39
			this is a great example of a
hadith that can be completely
		
01:43:39 --> 01:43:40
			misunderstood.
		
01:43:41 --> 01:43:46
			And a katavi said her that Allah
the to a well who Abdul Karim Omro
		
01:43:46 --> 01:43:50
			mother noon Luthra Masato it's all
funny.
		
01:43:51 --> 01:43:55
			Well, lady, Jaya Phil Hadith in
the MaHA Wallah Xena shadow fella.
		
01:43:56 --> 01:44:00
			He says know what actually has
been transmitted the son of Zina
		
01:44:00 --> 01:44:03
			is the worst of the three for
Hawala, makalah Rasulullah
		
01:44:03 --> 01:44:08
			sallallahu. Bajo el el me and who
shot with ratha Aslan, Juan Soren
		
01:44:08 --> 01:44:11
			when asked when were molded, so he
is the worst of the three in
		
01:44:11 --> 01:44:16
			certain aspects in his birth and
his lineage and how he came about
		
01:44:16 --> 01:44:20
			to be with that he can know who
the common man is Zanny was Zania
		
01:44:21 --> 01:44:25
			will hold a metal club eighth. So
the nature of how he was born is
		
01:44:25 --> 01:44:28
			the worst of the three. Not saying
about his characters, specifically
		
01:44:28 --> 01:44:29
			how he was born.
		
01:44:33 --> 01:44:38
			Filet mignon, low manual and US
Euro Delica hub to fee by de boo
		
01:44:38 --> 01:44:44
			Fiol roti fare Milou Allah Cherie
widow Illa hoopty. So he says it's
		
01:44:44 --> 01:44:48
			possible that the circumstances of
your birth impact the way you live
		
01:44:48 --> 01:44:52
			in your behavior. It's possible.
He said no human, it's not.
		
01:44:54 --> 01:44:59
			You're not safe from that possibly
being the case. So it's your mill.
		
01:44:59 --> 01:44:59
			It can be
		
01:45:00 --> 01:45:03
			He understood to mean that because
of the circumstances of your
		
01:45:03 --> 01:45:07
			birth, and that is they call it
metal Club Youth. That sperm is
		
01:45:07 --> 01:45:12
			filthy, that fluid is filthy,
saying that that may influence a
		
01:45:12 --> 01:45:13
			person's behavior in the future.
		
01:45:15 --> 01:45:17
			Call it to Allah Fucus Sati Miriam
		
01:45:19 --> 01:45:23
			and Allah Tada said about medium
that people said about Meccan Abu
		
01:45:23 --> 01:45:27
			Kimbra so when mechanical Mokuba
met him, how could you have be
		
01:45:27 --> 01:45:31
			pregnant without a husband? Your
father was not bad and your mother
		
01:45:31 --> 01:45:36
			was not immoral? Meaning the
people connected good birth to
		
01:45:36 --> 01:45:41
			good kids. Marriage, birth through
marriage, good behavior,
		
01:45:42 --> 01:45:45
			therefore, bad birth bad behavior.
		
01:45:46 --> 01:45:50
			And so Allah's mentioning it
confirming that line of thinking
		
01:45:51 --> 01:45:55
			fuck although be facades, mostly
other facades and for a while, or
		
01:45:55 --> 01:46:00
			Rui and Abdullah ethnomedicinal us
fear Kohli. He will occur the vara
		
01:46:00 --> 01:46:04
			anally Johanna McCarthy Era
mineralogy annual NC and the whole
		
01:46:04 --> 01:46:09
			kala wala Zina Mandara region we
have created for Paradise for
		
01:46:09 --> 01:46:14
			hellfire, many men and women
Jinlun humans, and he said the
		
01:46:14 --> 01:46:19
			child of Zina one of them one side
even Jubeir Clara what to do Zina
		
01:46:20 --> 01:46:24
			the only Jahannam during the
Johanna created for Johanna,
		
01:46:25 --> 01:46:28
			of course that's that's done
because not all of what it is in
		
01:46:28 --> 01:46:33
			as I can apply to a nor can you
know, right. Nor can you know, and
		
01:46:33 --> 01:46:37
			he may be yes created for that.
But he changed he overrode that
		
01:46:38 --> 01:46:39
			with his deeds
		
01:46:41 --> 01:46:45
			are gonna wonder because I will
have to love you and Abby Hanifa
		
01:46:45 --> 01:46:50
			and the men will learn and for
Wajid the Hawala Xena can Allahu
		
01:46:50 --> 01:46:54
			Anirudh doble this has to do with
the old days of slavery. You buy
		
01:46:54 --> 01:46:57
			slaves turns out to be son of
Zina, you can return him for a
		
01:46:57 --> 01:47:00
			microchip now Omar and no
hydrocele artha as for almost
		
01:47:00 --> 01:47:05
			saying he No he's the best of the
three for in them Oh Joe. Allah is
		
01:47:05 --> 01:47:10
			low for them below the Bashara
Wiley dal who for Ohio minimum
		
01:47:10 --> 01:47:15
			liberal at him in them be him. So
why does even almost said no no,
		
01:47:15 --> 01:47:18
			don't say that son of Zina is the
worst of the three he's the best
		
01:47:18 --> 01:47:22
			of the three. Why? Because of the
two of committed Zina the one has
		
01:47:22 --> 01:47:26
			to completely innocent of that,
right? He's innocent of it. Well,
		
01:47:26 --> 01:47:32
			Phil Milstead rocky mentary Ottawa
Kala Bhairava. Aisha Abba Herrera
		
01:47:32 --> 01:47:36
			yo Carlo yaku in Rasulullah
sallallahu Sallam Carla what are
		
01:47:36 --> 01:47:40
			those in a shot with ratha? It
reached out Isha from Ottawa that
		
01:47:40 --> 01:47:45
			Abu Harada says the Son of Zina is
the worst of the three for Carla
		
01:47:45 --> 01:47:50
			throw him Allah Hurayrah someone
for sh ibutton may Allah have
		
01:47:50 --> 01:47:54
			mercy on a Buddha he heard wrong,
so he tries to eat so he answered
		
01:47:54 --> 01:47:58
			wrong. lamea Kunal Hadith Allah
the Hadith has nothing to do with
		
01:47:58 --> 01:48:03
			this. She says, No McKenna Raju
luminol. Munna 15, there was a
		
01:48:03 --> 01:48:04
			specific hypocrite.
		
01:48:06 --> 01:48:10
			They use use the Rasulullah
sallallahu Sallam that he used to
		
01:48:10 --> 01:48:13
			harm the Prophet peace be upon
him. So the messenger SallAllahu
		
01:48:13 --> 01:48:17
			sallam said, many otherone men
Fulani who will take care of so
		
01:48:17 --> 01:48:22
			and so for me. Okay. For Akela
they said, O Messenger of Allah in
		
01:48:22 --> 01:48:27
			the Houma. Melby he well Zina with
all that he does.
		
01:48:29 --> 01:48:33
			He's the son of Zina, with all
that harm he does to you. Maybe he
		
01:48:33 --> 01:48:37
			want to do Zina, for calahorra the
prophesy seven He's the worst.
		
01:48:38 --> 01:48:41
			He's the worst of the three. The
adults are the adulterous and him
		
01:48:42 --> 01:48:43
			the fornicator the fornicator and
him
		
01:48:45 --> 01:48:48
			so again, it goes back to know the
Prophet was speaking of a specific
		
01:48:48 --> 01:48:53
			person, okay, well lo to Allah
Cool. Well as it was written was
		
01:48:53 --> 01:48:57
			Raka and Allah says, No one
carries the sin of another person.
		
01:48:58 --> 01:49:02
			Right if you Sunil by half demon
30 plus age of pneumonia, even
		
01:49:02 --> 01:49:06
			side Aquila her death and it's so
funny and sad, sad and now
		
01:49:06 --> 01:49:07
			Rasulullah sallallahu was
		
01:49:08 --> 01:49:12
			in them Corolla. While it was Zina
shared with the lethally and Abba
		
01:49:12 --> 01:49:17
			way he has lemme Well, I'm used to
them who he says because this
		
01:49:17 --> 01:49:20
			hypocrite used to harm the Prophet
peace be upon him, his mom and dad
		
01:49:20 --> 01:49:24
			entered Islam, and he did it. So
the prophesy Sam said he's the
		
01:49:24 --> 01:49:24
			worst of the three.
		
01:49:25 --> 01:49:28
			Right even though yes, it's known
that they committed Zina.
		
01:49:29 --> 01:49:33
			And they produced this boy but
he's worse because otherwise what
		
01:49:33 --> 01:49:36
			even almost said would be correct.
He's most innocent. And they're
		
01:49:36 --> 01:49:36
			guilty
		
01:49:42 --> 01:49:45
			he was, that's why you might not
know.
		
01:49:47 --> 01:49:51
			Carl by hopefully we'll have the
morsel with the most net Akhmad
		
01:49:51 --> 01:49:56
			methodically Ibrahim Abner Aubade
Ibni Roy Farah and I shall call it
		
01:49:56 --> 01:49:59
			philosophy allah sallallahu Sallam
what to do Zina showed with ratha
		
01:49:59 --> 01:49:59
			either Camila
		
01:50:00 --> 01:50:05
			Jamelia boy. Another narration
from Aisha says the Son of Zina is
		
01:50:05 --> 01:50:09
			worse of the three if he acts like
his parents, because his parents
		
01:50:09 --> 01:50:13
			were born pure, but they made a
mistake. Now you're born impure,
		
01:50:13 --> 01:50:17
			and you made a mistake. So you
have double the issues with the
		
01:50:17 --> 01:50:18
			margin with Baba Ronnie.
		
01:50:19 --> 01:50:24
			Men have either of nobis Marfan
with low fee soon and will be
		
01:50:24 --> 01:50:27
			happy. And it has any color in
them, I assume. Yeah. Well, Xena
		
01:50:27 --> 01:50:31
			showed with Philadelphia and Omaha
Carlat low less than a beak
		
01:50:31 --> 01:50:35
			allottee to da la, who, for
Catella for Sowmya showed with the
		
01:50:35 --> 01:50:40
			letter. All right. So here's
another story about it is that
		
01:50:40 --> 01:50:45
			there was three there was three
people, a mom and a dad, and or a
		
01:50:45 --> 01:50:50
			man and a woman, and the son of
adultery, fornication. So one day,
		
01:50:51 --> 01:50:54
			the mother said to her son, you
are actually not the son of the
		
01:50:54 --> 01:50:57
			man that people think you are.
You're not the son of my husband
		
01:50:57 --> 01:51:00
			here. You're actually the son of
another man sorry to point to you
		
01:51:01 --> 01:51:02
			who committed fornication
		
01:51:03 --> 01:51:08
			so he killed her. And what's worse
is in a murder so for that reason,
		
01:51:08 --> 01:51:11
			the prophesy centum said the son
of sin is worse than is the worst
		
01:51:11 --> 01:51:13
			of the three because he committed
murder whereas the other ones
		
01:51:13 --> 01:51:15
			committed. What's his book from?
		
01:51:20 --> 01:51:24
			Send me screenshots from here
onwards. Yeah.
		
01:51:25 --> 01:51:28
			We can't do the vicar because I
have to run and take someone
		
01:51:28 --> 01:51:31
			somewhere Subhanak Allahu mo Byham
dick, that shadow and
		
01:51:32 --> 01:51:35
			Isla Illa antenna stuff we're
gonna do like, well, actually in
		
01:51:35 --> 01:51:39
			that in Santa Fe, of course.
Illallah the phenomenon Minnesota
		
01:51:39 --> 01:51:42
			hot water was super hot Courtois.
So Sabra was Santa Monica.
		
01:52:26 --> 01:52:26
			God
		
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			God