Shadee Elmasry – Establishing Social Norms

There's just a hobby of Buddha, he had a dinner for his for the

community, basically for the locals in the area. Okay, and he

had moved to a sham, and he was living in Jerusalem, I would go to

that. And he was

basically inviting the Muslims, you know, from the local

neighborhood. And one day a man said to him, you do a lot of this

isn't this excessive? Right? I would not have that set. I would

much rather do this than spend the whole night in attic F in the

masjid. Reason being there's so much wisdom to it dinner

invitations amongst the families of the neighborhood. Don't ever

think that this is nothing, this is a huge deal, because this is

how social norms develop, okay? Like how certain certain normal

behavior, right is developed, even in a person's mind when all 50

people in the house, the moms, the dads and the children, they all

have certain norms of behavior. Okay? So you've become a culture

to certain norms. And in our society today, it's a bit crazy,

hectic, no one, there's no normal anymore. Like one author said,

everyone's weird in the New America, right? Everyone's doing

their own thing. Okay, if you want to be 30 years old, and act like a

six year olds, and wear diapers and eat cereal all day, they

actually have conferences for these types of things. So there's

no normal. So how are you going to create a normal by creating little

neighborhoods and communities where people interact socially on

a regular basis? So that normal behavior is established? Okay.

Secondly, when people need to marry, they don't just marry like

flipping a switch, you're going to look first at the people you know,

so the value of social gatherings again, leads to who will we marry

in the future? All right, who can who is suitable with whom? Who

gets along with whom? All right, and everyone sees that the

families all of this was established at the time of the

Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he used to attend such

gatherings on a regular basis