Shadee Elmasry – Do Everything You Can to Save Your Marriage

			It's very overwhelming when you're
like you 30 And an uncle and
		

			auntie of like 60 years old who
had been married their children
		

			they raised them together they
become adults they come to you for
		

			like medical advice or help you
know Allah bless them for their,
		

			you know the few people who are
left that have confidence in the
		

			people of knowledge. But, you
know, in some ways, not every
		

			scholar is going to be equipped to
give you what you need. Not
		

			everything your Eman is going to
be able to figure out because
		

			remember, in the beginning, we
said like don't make your marriage
		

			like based on the fifth book and
guess what we've been reading for
		

			our whole mother's education,
QuickBooks, okay.
		

			And I sit on the board of the
filial Center, which is a practice
		

			of clinical psychology based on
Islamic values. The director of
		

			the filial center brother who
Monica Shahbazi. He has a master's
		

			degrees working on his PhD in
Clinical Psychology has been
		

			practicing for years. And there's
a team of people working with him,
		

			several of which are PhDs shift
Romney's wife, Dr. Ronnie Allah,
		

			who is a Stanford qualified
psychiatrist. She also works with
		

			the filiale center as well.
They're all right now in Detroit
		

			this weekend there in Detroit,
Michigan for the Muslim
		

			mental health conference. And this
there is like a large movement for
		

			this and there are a lot of
services even fellow central
		

			provide their services remotely
through certain you know, certain
		

			certain issues that they feel that
are appropriate that they can deal
		

			with remotely through the
internet. They'll provide services
		

			brother monka Chavez he studied
studied the room with myself with
		

			Shane below and sorry with a
number of other
		

			another a number of other people
and knowledge in the Chicago area.
		

			And I would say out of our
destinies on me like eight year
		

			syllabus, he's completed pretty
near six years of it really
		

			functionally very knowledgeable
person Mashallah. And
		

			you know, people like that go get
help, don't let your marriage get
		

			trashed it's worth your time and
effort to save it you'll regret it
		

			when it's done even if even if
that even if everybody by
		

			consensus all the Imams and all of
the the counselors and your family
		

			members even if they agree that
like it had to end that it was
		

			ended for its ending is for the
bathroom still regretted. So why
		

			would you why would you do that?
Why would you think that the
		

			minute that you're the coordinator
that you know that that bond is
		

			cut, you know, each party will
will feel pain from him. So why
		

			why why put yourself through that
when you don't have to, you know,
		

			do try to try to you know, save
your marriage in any way shape or
		

			form that you can and know that
it's worth it a lot data will
		

			reward for it and if it has to
break then do so an amicable way
		

			and like we said ship on
celebrates when he breaks up a
		

			marriage and likewise Allah
subhana wa is pleased with the two
		

			people who are married with each
other and they both put in a good
		

			faith effort to get along and
they're both getting along. And I
		

			would urge people to if they're
they have a marriage that's kind
		

			of an Rocky and Iraqi state. Okay.
		

			There are marriage counselors you
can go to
		

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			a coma knee all week
		

			long, solidly was one Bye Rick
		

			Assadi
		

			Lee
		

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