Shadee Elmasry – Curing Depression & Anxiety- An Islamic Approach

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The concept of depression and anxiety is linked to the heart and is centered in the eye. The healing with the Quran is important for healing and the relationship with Allah is centered in the eye. The speaker emphasizes the benefits of rebuilding one's love for Allah through common appreciation for actions and giving in to please Allah. The importance of gratitude and rebuilding one's love for the Americanism is also discussed.

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			Tell us something about from Sheikh Al Booty's
		
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			cures
		
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			of anxiety.
		
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			So in the book that is I think
		
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			it's well known now,
		
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			the book,
		
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			we call the translation,
		
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			depression and anxiety because they go together.
		
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			They go together. They're hand in hand. And
		
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			and every time the man mentioned in the
		
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			series, every time he mentioned
		
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			depression, he mentioned anxiety as well. And you
		
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			mentioned psychological unrest.
		
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			Mhmm.
		
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			The cure, like with depression,
		
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			is that you have to understand where anxiety
		
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			and depression and psychological unrest and whatever else
		
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			it is. Where does it reside?
		
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			Mhmm. It resides in the heart.
		
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			And your heart
		
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			is not in your hands. It's in Allah's
		
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			hands. Mhmm. So the cure
		
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			is always in every single moment to turn
		
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			to Allah.
		
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			And Allah says in it's the eye that
		
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			he quotes again and again in 13 chapter
		
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			verse 28, Allah says,
		
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			it is only by the remembrance of Allah
		
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			that the hearts
		
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			find peace and find tranquility.
		
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			So
		
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			what this boils down to is that whatever
		
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			you're anxious about,
		
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			you have to pull back from the world
		
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			itself in the sense that you cannot let
		
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			your
		
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			happiness or your sadness
		
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			be dependent on the world. Your happiness and
		
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			your sadness has to be rested in Allah.
		
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			And this is why in the book, he
		
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			gives the story of the great imam from
		
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			the from the first generations, Ibrahim in Edham,
		
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			one of the great sufis who said that
		
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			if if the kings knew the happiness that
		
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			we had, they would fight us for it.
		
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			The hallow
		
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			They would take they they would pick up
		
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			swords and fight us for it. And the
		
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			point is hourly,
		
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			you can't tell what this is. Hourly because
		
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			you see he's he's in a he's an
		
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			imposter state. He doesn't have,
		
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			a fancy house or anything,
		
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			anything that we would see as, you know,
		
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			material wealth.
		
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			But
		
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			the key here is that this person,
		
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			Ibrahim Ibrahim, Ibrahim,
		
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			with and the only I like him is
		
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			that their happiness
		
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			is centered in the Allah. Their happiness is
		
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			rooted in the Allah and the relationship with
		
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			Allah and the victor of Allah. And therefore,
		
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			it's not subject
		
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			to what's happening in the world. It's not
		
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			subject to people's praise, people's blame, people's censure,
		
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			the the visiscuities of the stock market, whatever
		
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			it is. It's rooted there with with what
		
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			law is,
		
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			and and you stay in that state.
		
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			One stays in that state by staying in
		
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			a state of dhikr, a state of remembrance
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			And
		
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			always, always, always
		
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			linking every single
		
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			instant that one is going through every single
		
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			situation one one is in, one links it
		
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			back to Allah. And this is why this
		
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			is why the messenger of Allah has given
		
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			us all these.
		
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			When you wake up in the morning, when
		
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			you go to the bathroom, when you leave
		
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			the bathroom, when you start a meal, when
		
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			you finish a meal, when you leave your
		
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			house, when you come home,
		
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			so on and so on. There's so many
		
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			duas and I've called you're supposed to say.
		
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			Why? Because you're always bringing every single that
		
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			you're doing back to Allah and remembering Allah.
		
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			And and
		
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			to take it further, because I was going
		
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			over this with some students, we do we
		
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			we just completed a course,
		
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			in the UK,
		
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			an online course called healing with the Quran,
		
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			with a good group of students,
		
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			a good, really good, high uptake.
		
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			And one of the things that we discussed
		
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			was,
		
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			a beautiful hadith. And this is this is
		
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			what we think of the the benefits of
		
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			the the benefits of there's a beautiful hadith
		
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			in the collection of of Imam Abu Nadia.
		
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			Where the messenger of Allah
		
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			he says that everyday Allah has a sadaqah.
		
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			Allah gives gives gives a sadaqah to his
		
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			slaves.
		
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			By day and by night.
		
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			But then he said,
		
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			but there's nothing like that. Means there's no
		
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			there's nothing like
		
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			Allah
		
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			is when Allah inspires his slave to remember
		
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			him.
		
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			Mhmm. That's the greatest.
		
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			So a lot of
		
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			them. When you ponder on that, you realize
		
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			that, yes, Allah commands you
		
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			in sort of Bakrafath.
		
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			Right? Bakraf 151.
		
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			Remember me and I'll remember you, but you
		
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			don't
		
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			remember Allah
		
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			unless Allah remembered
		
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			you first.
		
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			Right? Profound. Profound. Yes. And I remember when
		
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			I was going over this hadith with some
		
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			students, they said, why aren't we just ecstatic?
		
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			Why aren't we just jumping up and down
		
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			for joy? Because you realize that every single
		
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			time you do the of Allah, it's cause
		
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			Allah's putting it in you.
		
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			So where is this thing? Where, where is
		
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			the anxiety coming from?
		
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			Where is it coming from? Where what what's,
		
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			what's the reason for it? Every, every situation
		
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			you're in,
		
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			it's a law who's pushing you to remember
		
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			him. Right? It's, you know, it's this this
		
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			famous story I always put, it's well and
		
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			certainly the new mom of multi quotes many,
		
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			many times, and I was on Instagram again
		
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			a few days ago.
		
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			You know, people looking for
		
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			cures for the heart and cures for anxiety,
		
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			And they look for signs of Allah's love.
		
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			Right? So there's the famous story where where
		
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			this lady, a servant girl in Damascus where
		
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			she would,
		
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			she would pray tahajjud.
		
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			And one night, the the master of the
		
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			house, he got up and he heard her
		
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			praying, and he heard her in Dua. She
		
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			was in Dua, like making sujood and then
		
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			she was saying, oh, Allah, by your love
		
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			for me,
		
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			grant such and such and such and such
		
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			and
		
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			such
		
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			and such. And
		
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			the master of the house, he thought this
		
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			was a bit,
		
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			presumptuous.
		
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			You know? Like, where what like, who are
		
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			you to say? Like,
		
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			doesn't mean so forth. Who do you make
		
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			who are you gonna make this claim? So
		
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			he he asked her, but afterwards
		
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			and and she and she said, well, I
		
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			know that Allah loves me because he woke
		
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			me up at this hour.
		
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			I know that Allah loves me because he
		
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			made me stand in front of him. I
		
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			know the law is I know the law
		
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			loves me because he allows me to make
		
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			these.
		
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			That's why I know the law loves
		
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			me. So we have to,
		
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			to use to use the Americanism, flip the
		
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			script.
		
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			You you have to you have to flip
		
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			it around and and see,
		
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			and see Allah's love for you in the
		
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			things that you're doing. You you you again,
		
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			you boil it down. You don't do any
		
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			action. You don't do any righteous action, any
		
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			sort of vicar, any sort of prayer, any
		
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			sort of any good deed unless Allah put
		
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			that in you. Allah facilitated that for you.
		
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			And these are signs that Allah loves you.
		
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			These are signs again, it's not just the
		
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			one of many things. But one of things
		
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			we cover is wellness course. It's in the
		
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			book. This idea of,
		
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			again, common common thing about people who have
		
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			spent many years, like, away from a law,
		
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			and then they change their ways afterwards. They
		
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			change their ways and they reform themselves. And
		
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			then Chaitan tries to mess with them and
		
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			say, you know, what's the point? You were
		
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			sitting for so many years and you're off
		
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			a path for so many years and why
		
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			would the law forgive you and so on
		
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			and so forth.
		
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			But the response response to that is, well,
		
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			if a law didn't love you, he wouldn't
		
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			have changed you. SubhanAllah.
		
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			If a law didn't love you, he wouldn't
		
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			have put that in you. He wouldn't have
		
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			guided you back.
		
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			So
		
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			what is what is it for us to
		
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			do? Well, you have to repay that love
		
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			with love.
		
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			You have to repay that love with love.
		
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			You can see see all these signs that
		
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			Allah loves you or repay that love with
		
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			love.
		
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			And you do that with the vic and
		
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			and you you again, you do it with
		
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			the vicar of Allah and you obey Allah.
		
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			And and that's that's what shukr is. Like
		
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			like, gratitude is a huge part of this.
		
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			Gratitude is a huge part of this. Right?
		
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			Because Allah says,
		
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			right, if you're grateful, I will increase you.
		
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			And great in gratitude. Gratitude is not just
		
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			on the tongue.
		
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			It's not just
		
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			but it is that you use every single
		
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			blessing that Allah has given you to please
		
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			him. You took every single blessing Allah has
		
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			given you to please him. So if Allah
		
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			can get to sight, well, use that to
		
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			please Allah. Use that to look at what
		
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			law is pleased with. Use use that to
		
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			look at the Quran, to look at the
		
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			books of end,
		
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			to look at the other the righteous, to
		
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			spend time with with with the right people.
		
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			Use that. Use it for that. The same
		
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			with your ears, same with your mouth, whatever
		
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			it is, whatever blessing Allah has given you.
		
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			Use that
		
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			to please Allah. Use it for Allah is
		
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			pleased with. So all all of these things,
		
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			will
		
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			remove this anxiety because you have to remember
		
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			you have to remember that it's Allah who's
		
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			control of this.
		
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			You know, human beings, we, we, we get
		
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			a bit, we get a bit too, we
		
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			get a bit too, presumptuous about our own,
		
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			our own powers, our own need or how
		
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			important we are. Right. It's like, I remember
		
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			reading about, you know, there was, there was
		
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			some, some, Aboriginal
		
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			people, and and they had this belief. They
		
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			had they had this belief that it was
		
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			their job to guide the sun through the
		
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			sky.
		
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			Mhmm. And so they wake up in the
		
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			morning and be like,
		
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			Yeah. Yeah. It's I was like, no. It's
		
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			it's the sun's gonna move
		
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			regardless of what you do. So you you
		
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			you have to, you have to submit. You
		
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			have you have you have you have to
		
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			give in. Realize. Okay. What's what's the point
		
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			of being anxious? It's not it's not it's
		
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			not gonna do anything for you. And you
		
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			also have to tell yourself. You also have
		
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			to tell yourself that
		
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			Allah knows what's good for you. Mhmm. Right?
		
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			Allah Allah knows what's you you think you
		
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			know what's good. Right? Like like, again, sort
		
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			of walk around 2/6/2/16.
		
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			Maybe you love something that's bad for you.
		
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			Maybe you dislike something that's good for you.
		
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			And you have to realize, you have to
		
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			tell yourself that when something comes up and
		
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			maybe causes you anxiety, maybe it causes you
		
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			a problem,
		
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			it makes you feel,
		
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			this this worry or this stress. You have
		
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			to tell yourself there's a wisdom behind this.
		
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			There's a wisdom behind that. And I can't
		
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			see it now, but Allah will show me
		
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			eventually. Mhmm. You tell yourself that, and it
		
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			it it just works every time. It just
		
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			works. Seriously, it just works every time. You
		
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			just tell yourself there's a reason why this
		
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			is happening.
		
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			And then you would be like, okay, there's
		
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			something I can't see, but you will see,
		
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			you will see. And you, and you'll think
		
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			a lot afterwards. Like, oh, so that's the
		
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			reason why.