Shadee Elmasry – Cures for Enmity & Envy

Should Never fear another person, you should never have rancor

towards another person because of what they have. And you don't have

no you is will never happen if you understand that it's always from

Allah and Allah has chosen this situation to happen equally. You

can dislike somebody's action if it's sinful, but you won't take it

personal, you won't say, So and so is a is a real, is a real bad

person, you know, he tripped me as I was walking into the Masjid. But

it came from Allah, and what he did was wrong, and you have the

right for that not to happen. But you don't hold it personally,

because you were going to trip anyway. And that foot was going to

come out anyway, whatever his intention was. And so it's this

deeper understanding that everything that happens in your

life is in accordance to what Allah has desired, and chosen for

you at every single moment. It frees you from associating any

kind of power to other creative beings.

It doesn't mean that they're free from the responsibility of what

they intended. Of course, they're responsible for that. So if

somebody intends to do something harmful, and they do it,

obviously, they're responsible for that on the Day of Judgment, and

even in this life.

But it's not personal, you shouldn't get upset about it in a

personal way. And this, this is really like the solution to huge

interpersonal problems that people face. Right? When you don't get

along with family or other people, or I hate that person, right?

There's no reason to hate that person, whatever they did is what

Allah would have chosen it for them to do. So just accept it,

thank Allah, that you're not in their condition and move on, and

actually make the art for them. And I think that's one of the

things that he mentioned later on. This is one of the best solutions

for when you're feeling some kind of enmity towards someone as you

make dua for them, that Allah give them good. Not all Allah make them

better, right? But increase them in every kind of good.

And, yes, so you're seeing though, if somebody has a bad intention

does something bad to another person.

And it's contrary to our natures, I know, I know, it does. So that

acceptance doesn't entail that you don't take the appropriate means

to avoid further harm.

So a good example is someone is

you have someone in your life who steals from you, you know, they're

stealing, right? They come to your home, they're gonna, they're gonna

walk out with something every single time. So you don't invite

them to your home anymore, that's perfectly fine, you should take

that means to solve that problem, right? But don't hate them for

stealing from you, you can ask for your items back to I need that

fork back. It's really, it's my favorite fork. And I just can't

eat without it. So give me my fork back. This is also correct. So

this is also an this is also you should do that, right? You can't

just let them get away with it. But what you shouldn't do is have

any hatred in your heart towards them. Just make sure that Allah

gives them good in their life. Not even all I stopped them from from

being a thief, although that's a good guy to make too. But don't

just do it, like stop them from stealing from me, because they

have bigger problems, obviously. And your anger and your hatred of

them and your, you know, real dislike, like I can't stand that

person. They always coming in my house and taking something, it's

not going to do anything for you or them and actually, it's going

to harm you.

So no, it's not just, you know, have this happy go lucky.

Whatever, it's fine. That's not That's not it, you take the means

you do it within the city, right? What's permissible, demand your

rights back,

stop inviting them to your home, but don't have any kind of

negative emotions towards them. It takes it away from being something

that's personal.

Yeah.

Yeah, well, that's, that's a whole other problem.

You're going to have to try to set some boundaries, whatever the

situation is, right? If if it's a situation that's very serious,

like sometimes people live with someone who's physically harming

them, right, you should try to seek seek the means to get out of

there as soon as possible.

One of the other keys, and I don't know if it's mentioned in this

book or not, but this is an actual, this is a truth, that you

can't fix other people. It's absolutely impossible. You can

give advice. You can talk to people and it might have an

effect, but you can't fix others. Especially not if you haven't even

fixed yourself yet, but even then, you're not fixing another person.

So don't rely on that as you're out from whatever the situation

is. And if you're stuck with them, if there's no way out, right, if

you have to be with that person. You know, seek help from Allah.

Seek every, you know, actual physical means for preventing

whatever harm has been caused. Take take, you don't have to, you

know, just sit there and take it in any regard ever.

but not making it personal makes it easier for you to address the

issues and find the solution.

So what does this word mean? Let's jump in is not a straight path, as

it's oftentimes described us. It's not a straight path. Why the

straight path? If you advance very early on in your life, you could

just stop and you could put the car in neutral because the current

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