Shadee Elmasry – Cures for Enmity & Envy
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The speaker discusses the importance of acceptance of one's actions and not to avoid harming others. They suggest avoiding negative emotions towards people and finding solutions to problems. The speaker also emphasizes the need for boundaries and seeking help from others to avoid harming others.
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Should Never fear another person, you should never have rancor
towards another person because of what they have. And you don't have
no you is will never happen if you understand that it's always from
Allah and Allah has chosen this situation to happen equally. You
can dislike somebody's action if it's sinful, but you won't take it
personal, you won't say, So and so is a is a real, is a real bad
person, you know, he tripped me as I was walking into the Masjid. But
it came from Allah, and what he did was wrong, and you have the
right for that not to happen. But you don't hold it personally,
because you were going to trip anyway. And that foot was going to
come out anyway, whatever his intention was. And so it's this
deeper understanding that everything that happens in your
life is in accordance to what Allah has desired, and chosen for
you at every single moment. It frees you from associating any
kind of power to other creative beings.
It doesn't mean that they're free from the responsibility of what
they intended. Of course, they're responsible for that. So if
somebody intends to do something harmful, and they do it,
obviously, they're responsible for that on the Day of Judgment, and
even in this life.
But it's not personal, you shouldn't get upset about it in a
personal way. And this, this is really like the solution to huge
interpersonal problems that people face. Right? When you don't get
along with family or other people, or I hate that person, right?
There's no reason to hate that person, whatever they did is what
Allah would have chosen it for them to do. So just accept it,
thank Allah, that you're not in their condition and move on, and
actually make the art for them. And I think that's one of the
things that he mentioned later on. This is one of the best solutions
for when you're feeling some kind of enmity towards someone as you
make dua for them, that Allah give them good. Not all Allah make them
better, right? But increase them in every kind of good.
And, yes, so you're seeing though, if somebody has a bad intention
does something bad to another person.
And it's contrary to our natures, I know, I know, it does. So that
acceptance doesn't entail that you don't take the appropriate means
to avoid further harm.
So a good example is someone is
you have someone in your life who steals from you, you know, they're
stealing, right? They come to your home, they're gonna, they're gonna
walk out with something every single time. So you don't invite
them to your home anymore, that's perfectly fine, you should take
that means to solve that problem, right? But don't hate them for
stealing from you, you can ask for your items back to I need that
fork back. It's really, it's my favorite fork. And I just can't
eat without it. So give me my fork back. This is also correct. So
this is also an this is also you should do that, right? You can't
just let them get away with it. But what you shouldn't do is have
any hatred in your heart towards them. Just make sure that Allah
gives them good in their life. Not even all I stopped them from from
being a thief, although that's a good guy to make too. But don't
just do it, like stop them from stealing from me, because they
have bigger problems, obviously. And your anger and your hatred of
them and your, you know, real dislike, like I can't stand that
person. They always coming in my house and taking something, it's
not going to do anything for you or them and actually, it's going
to harm you.
So no, it's not just, you know, have this happy go lucky.
Whatever, it's fine. That's not That's not it, you take the means
you do it within the city, right? What's permissible, demand your
rights back,
stop inviting them to your home, but don't have any kind of
negative emotions towards them. It takes it away from being something
that's personal.
Yeah.
Yeah, well, that's, that's a whole other problem.
You're going to have to try to set some boundaries, whatever the
situation is, right? If if it's a situation that's very serious,
like sometimes people live with someone who's physically harming
them, right, you should try to seek seek the means to get out of
there as soon as possible.
One of the other keys, and I don't know if it's mentioned in this
book or not, but this is an actual, this is a truth, that you
can't fix other people. It's absolutely impossible. You can
give advice. You can talk to people and it might have an
effect, but you can't fix others. Especially not if you haven't even
fixed yourself yet, but even then, you're not fixing another person.
So don't rely on that as you're out from whatever the situation
is. And if you're stuck with them, if there's no way out, right, if
you have to be with that person. You know, seek help from Allah.
Seek every, you know, actual physical means for preventing
whatever harm has been caused. Take take, you don't have to, you
know, just sit there and take it in any regard ever.
but not making it personal makes it easier for you to address the
issues and find the solution.
So what does this word mean? Let's jump in is not a straight path, as
it's oftentimes described us. It's not a straight path. Why the
straight path? If you advance very early on in your life, you could
just stop and you could put the car in neutral because the current
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