Shadee Elmasry – Bukhari Class #11 2of2

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The transcript describes a woman who wants to wear garments and pray while scraping off clothing and washing them. The discussion touches on delusion, including pressure on oil, pressure on oil, and delusion. The importance of women learning from the inside and the need for preparation for questions is emphasized. The conversation also touches on etiquette between men and women, mutual service, and the importance of beauty for personal growth.

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			Pray in it.
		
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			So once again, this hadith
narrated by
		
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			Aisha once again not really
narrating authority of the
		
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			prophesy set level, but
		
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			more or less her authority under
the understanding that she would
		
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			have done have done this over
ovulation. But it's something that
		
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			either the province I said over
instructed her to do, or that you
		
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			would have done under his
permission, one word.
		
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			She says In the beginning, we used
to, again, it
		
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			really means one of us the literal
in the Arabic, which is saying
		
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			that it was a thing that not just
her specific to her, but it was
		
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			something that became a sun. In
other words, something that was
		
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			done during the time of the
Prophet amongst the women there.
		
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			So the hate to menstruate. Once
again,
		
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			this is the mother of magic,
meaning reading something that
		
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			normally when we say, be something
not to be narrated, in the sense
		
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			to use another term, or to not say
in the presence of men and so
		
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			forth. But nevertheless, because
there's a ruling associated with
		
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			it, obviously, it's included.
		
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			And I guess a little background is
needed, without getting into too
		
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			much detail. But obviously, women
back then didn't have the modern
		
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			sanitary products that women today
have access to. And so whatever
		
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			they weren't beneath was pretty
much similar to their clothing.
		
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			And I recall some variations, that
they would wear something like a
		
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			sort of wad, like, loose pants
underneath whatever,
		
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			over garland that they had. So
		
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			more than likely, they had some
type of
		
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			not disposable, obviously, but
something that they would wear
		
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			underneath during the menstrual
time.
		
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			And I think I recall some
narrations about to that effect.
		
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			So whatever it was that they would
be wearing, it would be something
		
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			that they would remain keep
wearing and not change, most
		
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			likely not every day either.
		
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			So if a menstrual cycle is four or
567 days, whatever it might be,
		
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			then more than likely they would
be wearing that same thing
		
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			throughout that time. How do we
figure that out? Well, the fact
		
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			that she says we used to scrape
the blood off means that it had
		
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			time to dry.
		
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			So if I have time to dry that
we're talking about some days,
		
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			matter of days. And
		
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			like we said in the previous
Hadith,
		
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			blood being an exclusion is
considered to be known as Yes.
		
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			So there's actually two separate
things here, the idea of
		
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			menstruation, preventing, seen as
a man are prevented from praying
		
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			and fasting and sexual
*, that's a ruling by
		
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			itself. And how gentle often will
that and then the idea of the
		
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			garment having the gesture on it
is something separate. So the
		
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			heart of the Hadith, in other
words, the ritual purity is
		
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			associated with,
		
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			you know, the ruling of the
person, whether they're gonna pray
		
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			or not pray, that's not really
what's talked about here, which
		
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			he's talking specifically about
here is the garment the clothing
		
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			that was being worn. So once the
menstrual blood has ceased to
		
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			flow, then at this point, the
ruling is that the woman is to
		
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			make clothes and then she can
pray. So including that whatever
		
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			garbage she's wearing has to be
also free from any type any blood.
		
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			And this ruling is blood in
general is considered to be the
		
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			Jassa. So it's not specific to
menstrual blood. So if someone
		
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			were to bleed to an extent, what
they say is bigger than
		
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			it does have an ability, which is
fine. Have you ever seen a Mueller
		
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			a donkey? If you look towards the
back up one of the legs, there's
		
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			this circular patch,
		
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			they'll look at me like I'm crazy.
I've seen it next time.
		
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			Next time, make sure to look for
that. So this circular patch is
		
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			about probably the size of
		
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			half dollar or something like
that.
		
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			Like what's a half dollar
		
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			but the half that used to be just
about that size. So if the blood
		
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			extends beyond that much, that is
considered to be too much. And
		
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			once you'd have to clean it from
from their clothing, or having
		
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			another pair of clothing to wear
and not pray with something that
		
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			has that much blood not so small
amount of blood, you know, someone
		
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			who paper cut on their hand or
something like that. That's
		
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			It's not enough to necessitate to
think about, you know, Washington
		
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			or something like that. So it's
not a specific thing to menstrual
		
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			blood per se, but it came in the
Hadith talking about menstrual
		
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			blood.
		
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			So she would first scrape it off,
as we said, so if you have a dried
		
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			state, again, this is not specific
to blood. But anything, if a state
		
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			that is dried, then the better way
to do it is to scrape it off. So
		
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			as because if you wet it, as we
said, then it will just break
		
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			more. So to be scraped off, like
she did here, all day long. And
		
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			then
		
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			from the home, and I said any, and
then sprinkle over the rest of the
		
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			garments. And you might say, Well,
why did she do that? Right?
		
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			Because if she seemed the stain,
she washes scripsit off wash,
		
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			okay, there might still be
remnants of this thing. But as we
		
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			said, from the previous Hadith,
that's not a problem. That's okay.
		
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			Well, why don't you sprinkle on
the rest.
		
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			A medic takes this to mean that
		
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			when there is a possibility that
some of the logistical been the
		
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			rest of the garment, but you don't
see it.
		
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			Right, you don't see the stain
itself, so there's nothing to
		
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			wash, but you have a suspicion
that it might have come on the
		
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			rest of the garment, then you
another which is the sprinkling of
		
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			water, which means you're not
touching the clothing with your
		
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			hand and washing like this. That's
called washing. But your hand is
		
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			wet. And you do this.
		
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			Right? That's called sprinkle,
right?
		
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			Yes, sprinkled over the rest of
the area where there may have been
		
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			suspected. So that's actually what
we call.
		
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			There's no particular reason that
that may actually, it's not going
		
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			to clean anything, right if
there's a stain, but the idea
		
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			behind it is, because there may be
some element of doubt, then this
		
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			is a means by which to alleviate
that doubt, and then sprinkle the
		
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			rest of it. And again, that's not
specific to menstrual blood or any
		
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			blood but any stain. So it's
actually quite interesting, when
		
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			you read the fence about the idea
of stains and doubts, I don't want
		
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			to get too much into it now. But
it can actually be done in a
		
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			charge that has all of the
possibilities. But one of the
		
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			possibilities being that if you
are
		
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			unsure if your garment was stained
with something to Jessa, but you
		
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			know that there was an agenda
there, but you're not sure if it
		
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			got on that part of a garment,
then it wouldn't be sprinkled,
		
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			this is different than there was
no digit set to begin with. And
		
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			there's no sign of nudges. So
never fell on you never came on
		
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			nor DC aside, then you're not to
do anything. Because that would be
		
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			delusion. Right. And that would be
you know, going into the whole OCD
		
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			thing we talked about earlier.
What some people unfortunately
		
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			have had this issue like the man
who was walking with Ahmad on the
		
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			line and then some waterfalls from
the rooftops. And then the man
		
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			said looks normal. So you know, we
think we should clean that off.
		
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			Father who thought about which is
like walking King walking stick,
		
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			he held it down in a threatening
manner like, you know, it's like
		
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			what we did today like slap him.
You didn't slap him like that was
		
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			metaphorically wanted to slap him
like what he's talking about.
		
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			There's no reason to think that
water falling from some hole is
		
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			going to have anything I'm gonna
just sit in it. So why putting
		
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			this type of delusional thinking
into people's minds again, that's
		
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			different than a legitimate doubt
which is considered a gin
		
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			modality. Something fell I mean it
just and I'm not sure where it
		
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			fell Exactly. In that I can't see
the stain in this case sprinkle. I
		
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			see the stain I wash it off the
rest of it. Well, I have some
		
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			doubt I sprinkle it. So this is
the issue that it's referred to
		
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			hear.
		
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			Don't have any questions about
		
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			so we'll finish off with this
heavy from the 23 Once again, my
		
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			genre now is
		
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			for the fields of soccer.
		
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			But
		
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			from the inland ws or syllabus for
out on the big I'll call it a
		
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			water
		
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			to have to have a spot to have
imagined even that nice on
		
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			ourselves.
		
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			I shall know that woman from the
unsought which would be people
		
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			from earlier Medina said to the
Roberto I said Um How should I
		
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			wash after menstruation? He said
take a perfume cloth and make will
		
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			do with it.
		
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			I wouldn't have translated like
that.
		
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			Because your will is most likely
in the linguistic sense not in the
		
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			not like me
		
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			He will sell so I will translate
that as ticket for a new cloth and
		
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			wash with it.
		
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			Then the prophesy seven became
shy, kind of a clumsy translation
		
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			there. But yeah, the asteria
		
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			became sure
		
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			let's leave it at that.
		
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			So we turned this face away. So I
took her
		
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			and explained to her what
departments I said
		
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			the prophets I send another Hadith
he praises the women of the unsub,
		
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			specifically, where he said the
only Nam and he sat down and then
		
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			saw
		
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			alerting me. Hey, I wouldn't I
mean, the faculty in Oklahoma
		
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			how great are the women have not
sought that their modesty did not
		
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			prevent them from learning their
Deen. And
		
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			you find this as kind of a little
sort of a pattern, a theme amongst
		
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			the Sahaba that you have the very
senior companions like Ahmad Abu
		
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			Bakr, and Ali, and so forth, who
knew the prophets are settling
		
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			from Becca, and we're less apt to
ask questions directly of him.
		
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			Sorry. And then you had others who
are newer, many of them from
		
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			yesterday or Medina, who kind of
were not shy to do so. So the
		
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			prophets have said he was praising
them in that regard.
		
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			The other one, the famous one the
		
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			only thing
		
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			where the privatize hadn't prayed
a prayer, and then it seemed like
		
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			you didn't pray before, like Isaac
prayed to me instead. So earlier,
		
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			they need and he literally his
nickname was the man of the two
		
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			arms, because he said his arms
belong.
		
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			He said,
		
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			our customers to sell oil. So let
me this evening, as the prayer
		
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			been shortened, or did you forget
		
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			prophesize said Kulu, daddy
Columbia. He said none of that
		
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			happened. And then he thought
about it for a minute. And he
		
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			realized that he may have left a
lock on it. So he went back to it.
		
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			But in that gathering, were some
of the singers, The Hobbit, almost
		
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			a walk off, man. I mean, they
didn't ask. But it's really again,
		
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			you know, these and then it became
like a thing. Like, it's always
		
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			good to have someone like
affiliating with you. Because
		
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			they're the people will ask
questions, when others may be, you
		
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			know,
		
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			striving to do so. This is a
scenario so found in the circles
		
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			of knowledge, for example, a
madman, and there would be people
		
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			would come from far away. And they
would ask the questions that his
		
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			close confidants want to ask, but
they were looking for an alpha
		
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			basket. And they're happy that
someone else from the outside is
		
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			asking those questions. So here,
one of the women of unsolved she
		
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			was very direct.
		
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			So she is asking about washing
after menstruation. And not this
		
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			is not who can't be will do.
Because will is the same. From
		
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			whether it's after menstruation
or, you know, mostly whether it's
		
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			from after sexual relations or
after Smith, ceasing of menstrual
		
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			blood center is no difference in
how you go about doing it. So
		
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			she's asking something that's more
along the lines of specifically
		
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			with her,
		
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			you know, with her private area,
and what to do and how to watch
		
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			that.
		
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			So something very quite direct,
right, that you think that's like,
		
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			even the commercials on TV, they
don't say it like that, they kind
		
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			of
		
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			know how the flowers
		
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			you don't know what the
commercials about but you somehow
		
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			you figure out the last thing it
says you know, anyway
		
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			so he told her for the filter, and
the filter is a perfumed cloth. So
		
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			here, perfume cloth, we're not
talking about
		
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			what's needed to be done to wash
the menstrual blood because once
		
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			it stops flowing, then the woman
still was like she does any other
		
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			time. And there's no stipulation
for perfume cloth. So this is kind
		
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			of something extra. So she was
asking some of the more specific
		
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			the idea that there might be some
type of smell that she wanted to
		
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			deal with. And so she's asking him
about that. How do I how do I wash
		
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			that? What should I do?
		
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			So he was very specific indirect
as well. So take this perfume
		
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			cloth for the well done he said so
here's the water it's not the will
		
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			do have the prayer on the water
translated thought that not make
		
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			me proud you make will do with a
cloth that's perfumed like this.
		
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			That's not what he's talking about
at all.
		
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			So however, it's clear that she
made
		
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			They have not understood either,
right? Because he told her if I
		
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			thought they said, if somebody
said to miss Dahlia, there's
		
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			something that happened here
that's not included. Namely, she
		
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			probably said, like, what do you
what do you mean? I don't
		
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			understand that. What do you mean?
Like, what was it?
		
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			You know, he used to use this
cloth and apply it directly to the
		
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			area. That's what he's saying. But
that's what what he wanted her to
		
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			understand. So he didn't want to
start yet at this point came, he
		
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			made the ruling clear in this
regard. But however, for him to be
		
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			any more explicit would have been
kind of outside of the area of
		
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			etiquette at this point. But who
was standing there at the same
		
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			time?
		
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			Say that?
		
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			So she said to her for gender. So
I took her I put her next to me to
		
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			have him angry, that I showed her
what he's talking about.
		
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			Then I shall know what he's
talking to me this hadith,
		
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			especially that last part is Yanni
I would use that as the biggest
		
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			kind of proof that he whatever you
want to call it, that there must
		
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			be
		
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			competent group of women teaching
other women. No question about it.
		
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			It's it's unequivocal right here.
completely clear. Right? There are
		
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			certain things that only another
woman can explain to another
		
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			woman. And then a man no matter
how much they know, I studied the
		
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			book of menstruation all that, but
completely remains a theoretical
		
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			thing for me. I don't I don't have
an image of it. I can't picture
		
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			it. I don't know. So there has to
be women who can do that. And
		
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			because I issue a lot, a lot that
was in this picture, she was in
		
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			the scenario, she was able to do
that.
		
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			And number two, the privatize LM
allowed it.
		
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			Right. And she didn't ask him for
his permission. She knew what he
		
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			was talking about. She understood.
So she didn't take the initiative.
		
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			Right. So that means women don't
have to get permission for men to
		
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			do that.
		
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			You don't need permission from men
to do that. So hard being a
		
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			qualified for dia herself. And in
the presence of a prophesy said,
		
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			even though he is the master
teacher, so to speak, but
		
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			nevertheless, she didn't feel that
she couldn't show this woman from
		
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			outside exactly what the Prophet
saw someone was talking about, and
		
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			showed her directly. What, what
was intended. So having women
		
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			scholars is it's vital. It's a
loss of some sort of, not that
		
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			many anymore.
		
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			There's nothing wrong if they're
teaching both sexes
		
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			is Isha, obviously, narrates this
hadith, and there are men whenever
		
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			it is from her. How do you think
that transactions are inspired?
		
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			They heard her voice and she
narrated to them. So she did have
		
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			groups of men coming and learning
from her. And
		
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			you'll find it in many of the
annals of many of the automat how
		
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			they had these scholarly
relationships with, with women who
		
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			were their teachers, whether you
had the shade cloth.
		
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			So he
		
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			I think that's that's a very
poignant Hadith for that. Also, I
		
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			think, to point out that hear,
		
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			the ruling here is not an
obligatory one, no one said that
		
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			it was. So it's merely the realm
of recommended, and there is some
		
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			discussion about for this person,
why wish why perfume thing? Who is
		
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			that for? Is that possibly for a
husband, if there was a husband
		
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			involved, or if she didn't have a
husband, then could it be merely
		
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			for herself. So there's both
opinions both ways about that. But
		
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			the idea is that
		
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			part of the etiquette of the
Muslim is to, you know, to like
		
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			cleanliness and above ultimately
men,
		
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			even to have smells that are
		
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			you know, are offensive to to
remove them. This is a theme in
		
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			this one, for example, not coming
to the masjid smelling the plugins
		
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			and gardening, it's not specific
to onions and garlic, it's any
		
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			smell. So could be smoking of
cigarettes, it could be sweat,
		
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			could be any of those things, any
type of smell that you bring into
		
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			the house of horrors and all that
it could be offensive to others.
		
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			It's either haram to do so. And to
be honest, it's not specific to
		
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			the house of a lot either anywhere
you go where you going to interact
		
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			with people. Right? And that
includes interacting with the
		
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			spouse, even the people of your
household. So there was this level
		
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			of etiquette between spouses that
you know,
		
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			I was to say it but the kind of
attitude of, you know, I'm home I
		
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			can just let it all hang out. My
wife doesn't care. You know, I
		
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			just came in sweaty from the gym
and I sit there on the kitchen
		
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			table for a while just
		
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			sweating. And that's all right.
She wasn't like giving me a hug
		
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			anyway. And
		
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			that's not really, we can't say
that's from the etiquette of the
		
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			Sahaba, or the prophets. So to
say, you know, I'm sure he said in
		
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			the beginning with using Xena to
command the Masjid. So Xena the
		
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			idea of Xena of beauty, and
beautifying things, right? That's
		
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			important. So constantly. And
beautification of things can be
		
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			things that you look at things
that you hear things that you
		
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			smell. And so it's quite important
that even especially the people
		
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			that are in a household, that
people will try to do that. So the
		
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			idea of this, you know, doesn't
matter how you appear for your
		
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			spouse, I can't find a good
reference for that. In fact, I
		
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			found the opposite. The Prophet
SAW, I sent them heat, for
		
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			example, he told men don't, when
you're traveling, and you're
		
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			coming back, don't knock on your
families in the middle of the
		
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			night. Don't surprise them.
		
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			Some might say, well, you know, we
might find somebody there. No,
		
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			that's not what he's talking
about. He don't surprise me that
		
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			she's not prepared to receive you.
And so you may see something that
		
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			you may dislike, you know, she may
not be prepared to maybe look at a
		
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			camp, that type of thing. And
keeping the marital relationship
		
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			intact, is important. All right.
		
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			Interestingly enough, I haven't
seen the Hadith with the opposite
		
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			reference, even though it's kind
of understood, namely that, you
		
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			know, the woman should go see the
man when he's not in a position to
		
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			receive her. But I think that goes
back to the idea, the difference
		
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			between males and females is that
men are more much more visually
		
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			oriented.
		
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			And so they will associate things
more visually. So how the woman
		
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			appears in terms of her
attractiveness, how she looks,
		
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			what she's wearing, that type of
thing, has probably more of a
		
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			greater effect, than vice versa.
Not saying that women don't like
		
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			to see men, you know, all sweaty
and that type of thing. But for
		
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			men, it's kind of, I'm going to
tell them the secret, it's like a
		
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			big deal. To see, it can it can
change the mood completely from
		
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			like, happy to be home to be like.
		
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			But it's true.
		
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			So remember that the Shinya is
addressing things, the way they
		
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			are not the way they think, like
we think, so human nature is human
		
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			nature, and, you know, the male,
whatever, ego
		
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			male, whatever, is what it is. And
so it's going to be, you know, the
		
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			shooting is addressing that. So, I
don't see it as kind of knock
		
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			against women or anything, it's
quite the opposite, right? Because
		
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			it's giving them idea, yeah, I
need to, it's perfectly okay and
		
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			permissible to, to try to maintain
that amount of relationship in the
		
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			best way possible. And if that
means that, you know, there's a
		
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			little extended effort in how they
prepare one another, for the other
		
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			spouse, like it not necessarily
said, I like to act as a
		
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			zoonotic disease, I like to be
nice and smell nice and look nice
		
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			for her like, she would I like for
her to do the same for me.
		
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			So again, it's the that
relationship of the other of how
		
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			you view the other, in effect,
serving them to some extent,
		
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			right, because you are serving,
what would be what would make them
		
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			happy, or would not be offensive
to them, it's really a service to
		
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			others. Again, it's important that
we remove ourselves this whole
		
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			idea of service and seeing as it
being a sign of inferiority, or in
		
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			our tradition, that it doesn't
have that connotation with it. So
		
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			the husband serves the wife, the
wife serves the husband, this
		
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			mutual idea of mutual service. And
that idea ritual service goes back
		
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			to the idea of
		
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			more emphasis on fulfillment of
obligations to others, than to
		
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			seek the fulfillment of one's own
rights. Because the fulfillment of
		
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			your right is really the
fulfillment of the others
		
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			obligation, which technically you
don't have a lot of control over.
		
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			What what you do have control over
is the fulfillment of their
		
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			obligation. So we're always taught
to secure others rights by
		
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			fulfilling your obligations. You
don't find too much. Urging of
		
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			seeking your rights in fact, in
the Quran is quite the opposite.
		
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			In the Quran, we are encouraged to
relinquish rights to let mistakes
		
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			past and let things slide when we
have trouble the top one. Right.
		
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			So to let things pardon people is
closer to talk what then to have
		
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			this stubborn insistence upon, you
know, fulfillment of, of rights.
		
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			Hello, so I think we'll
		
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			stop there.
		
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			Let's clarify because if I read
this without really understanding
		
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			it
		
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			I would assume that was that is
not part of what is required as
		
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			part of us right? No.
		
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			This is not part of the most this
is like after listening
		
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			and secondly I was in the
impression women should not wear
		
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			perfume so is this like just
because she's solving a particular
		
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			problem well it's perfume that's
kind of an that would not be
		
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			it's not something that can be
smelled outside
		
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			that's true for females I know the
assumption here is this type of
		
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			perfumed cloth is not going to be
something that can be smelled
		
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			outside of the area itself so
		
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			guys
		
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			you're not touching
		
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			it
		
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			continue next week
		
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			we have some new stuff
		
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			it's not
		
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			just the Netherlands in London
		
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			yeah it's easy to be able to fall
		
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			down and the candidates are gone
or somebody's going to come in
		
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			as rain
		
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			right
		
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			I'm just about
		
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			to
		
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			see what's going on
		
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			one day that
		
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			I have
		
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			to study
		
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			this chapter
		
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			we shall
		
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			see
		
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			you just heard that
		
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			no home
		
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			oh my
		
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			goodness you
		
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			memorization so
		
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			the last
		
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			part of
		
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			studies
		
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			so when there's a motion
		
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			to translate
		
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			yeah
		
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			some personal more harsh
conditions or
		
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			more cards
		
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			right
		
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			it make more
		
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			sense
		
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			to say
		
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			well long
		
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			as a chemical fabric is
		
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			dominant government can go to
		
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			war
		
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			pasta
		
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			check
		
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			I
		
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			don't
		
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			want to
		
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			I don't have to but I also
		
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			have you know been getting like
		
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			very interesting
		
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			to me
		
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			yeah somebody