Shadee Elmasry – Advising Sinning Wife

Shadee Elmasry
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The speaker advises the customer to be measured and steady in their approach to their wife, as it is important to avoid causing negative consequences. The customer is warned to not ask for help unless they feel that their wife is doing well, and to focus on their own achievements rather than blending their words with others. The goal is to make the customer feel good about themselves and not be silent on what's good.

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			Do we approach our wife if they
are sinning and not taking your
		
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			advice? You have to actually be
measured about this. Maybe she's
		
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			not raised on certain things, so
you have to go slow and steady,
		
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			but it has to be made clear that
certain things you're not happy
		
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			about. It's more of an art than a
science. Then again, if you
		
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			married her like that. Now, don't
come and ask me for help. You
		
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			married her like that. You
accepted that unless you said,
		
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			Let's get married, but let's make
the intention that we follow all
		
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			the rules. And she says, yes,
okay, fine. Now really help
		
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			yourself. First, you do the same
thing with yourself. Let's go slow
		
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			and steady. Let's have some
rewards connected to achievements.
		
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			And every time I do this wrong,
I'm going to give $10 in Sadaqah.
		
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			And you want to make sure that
you're not making people feel that
		
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			they're bad, or you want to make
them feel down. You want to make
		
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			them always feel up and that
you're a source of someone who
		
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			makes them feel good about
themselves. So you do that more by
		
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			praising what's good than blaming
what's wrong. Then again, you
		
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			can't stay silent on what's wrong.
If something's wrong and it comes
		
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			up in a conversation, you say yes,
hung up.