Shadee Elmasry – Advising Sinning Wife
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Do we approach our wife if they are sinning and not taking your
advice? You have to actually be measured about this. Maybe she's
not raised on certain things, so you have to go slow and steady,
but it has to be made clear that certain things you're not happy
about. It's more of an art than a science. Then again, if you
married her like that. Now, don't come and ask me for help. You
married her like that. You accepted that unless you said,
Let's get married, but let's make the intention that we follow all
the rules. And she says, yes, okay, fine. Now really help
yourself. First, you do the same thing with yourself. Let's go slow
and steady. Let's have some rewards connected to achievements.
And every time I do this wrong, I'm going to give $10 in Sadaqah.
And you want to make sure that you're not making people feel that
they're bad, or you want to make them feel down. You want to make
them always feel up and that you're a source of someone who
makes them feel good about themselves. So you do that more by
praising what's good than blaming what's wrong. Then again, you
can't stay silent on what's wrong. If something's wrong and it comes
up in a conversation, you say yes, hung up.