Shadee Elmasry – A Common Atheist Fallacy – NBF 388

Shadee Elmasry
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The speakers discuss various topics related to Islam, including patient behavior, trusting parents, finding values in working women, and preserving the truth of Islam. They also touch on topics such as burying individuals in Islam-eries, avoiding double-standing, and the success of marriages and avoiding double-standing. The gray area and the importance of age when it comes to marriage are also highlighted. The success of marriages and avoiding double-standing is also discussed, along with the use of haircuts, AI, and distraction during workouts.
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Welcome everybody to the Safina Society, nothing but

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facts live stream.

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Let's start off right off the bat on

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this beautiful Thursday in the great state of

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New Jersey.

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The weather is sort of crisp, I would

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say, but sunny.

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It's that type of sweater weather.

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It's one of my favorite seasons.

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Sweater, but not jacket type of weather.

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Scarf, but not too cold.

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So let's get straight to this saying and

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Omar, why don't you fire up the poster

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for Nas's book.

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Here is one of the fallacies that atheists

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use and a lot of people fall into

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this.

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They see something bad and let me just

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read straight from the book.

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How can we deal with evil?

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A possible option as we have seen is

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to abandon belief in God or simply stop

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caring about his existence.

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Now this is not a solution.

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Why?

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Even if evil is no longer an intellectual

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problem for a denier of God, it is

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still felt.

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Meaning you didn't do anything to the evil.

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The evil is still there.

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You're still in pain.

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How did you solve your problem?

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By rejecting God just because evil exists.

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Even if you do not believe in objective

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good and evil, pain is still pain.

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Denying God only compounds the problem.

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I always give the example of Hitler.

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He is like the paragon of evil in

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our day, right?

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All right, so you denied God, you denied

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*.

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What's the result?

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The result is that Hitler got away with

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it, right?

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That's the result.

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Hitler gets away with it.

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He puts one bullet in his head, allegedly,

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which you know I'm not from the camp

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that he did.

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I'm from the camp that he went to

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Argentina.

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You know, people didn't really, or Chile even,

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look it up where are the eyewitnesses of

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his body in the casket?

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Then maybe, maybe, right?

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Guy like that, we need to toe out

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on his death.

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Anyway, regardless of that, I was about to

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say the worst thing in the world.

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Irregardless, good, regardless, slash, irrespective of that issue,

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he puts a bullet in his head and

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he got away with killing all those people

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and all the evil that he did.

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So how is that?

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How did you solve your problem?

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The believer, at least, holds that he's going

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to burn in * and he's going to

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be judged for every single murder that he

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committed.

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So he says that you still feel pain.

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That's why this is a fallacy.

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And I'm telling you, so many people, something

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bad happens, they reject God.

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The most unbearable kind of evil is when

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we suffer and we cannot find some meaning

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or redemption to it.

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Well, what is the reason and the meaning?

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Well, the meaning is that you have free

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will.

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Everyone could do what they want and that

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means good or bad.

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If you want people to do good, to

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have free will, but as soon as they

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come on the edges of evil, they get

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stopped.

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Then they don't have free will.

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You know what is at the edge of

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evil?

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Revelation and God's law.

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That's what the barrier is.

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If you don't like evil, then obey God's

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law.

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Right?

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And you won't, you'll still have hardships by

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the way.

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You just maybe won't have this terrible kind

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of evil where someone imposes themselves and makes

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everyone else's life miserable.

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But while you still have evil, pain, you'll

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still have pain.

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You didn't change that you're having pain.

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You're having pain in that you could still

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get sick.

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You still have to die.

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You're still going to get old.

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You're still going to have aches and pains.

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All the pain is the summary of it

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is why Muslims don't have an issue with

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this problem.

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We don't have a problem of evil is

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because we believe that Allah has the right,

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not only the right, he benefits us through

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painful experiences.

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God has the right to inflict or to

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inflict is not the right word, to pour

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some pain on us.

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That's how simple it is in the same

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way that a surgeon has the right to

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cause you pain.

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He's not causing you pain as an end.

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So that's not even a good way to

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put it because that's makes it sound like

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he's torturing you for fun.

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The surgeon does not cause you pain for

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fun.

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A surgeon causes you pain on the way

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to some great end result.

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Likewise, your parents cause you pain.

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Every time one of our kids says, can

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I do this?

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And I say, no, you got to study

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for your exams.

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That's pain.

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Every time he says, let me eat this.

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Not yet.

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You got to eat your dinner first before

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you eat ice cream.

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So I denied him his pleasure.

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Nas has a beautiful definition for pain in

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his book.

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He says, it's the denial of our desires.

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Nas has a great definition of evil in

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his book.

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He says, it's the denial of our desires

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in a manner that does not contribute to

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our flourishing.

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That's the definition of evil that Nas puts

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forth.

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The purely Shari'a definition of evil is

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disobedience without repentance.

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But think about this.

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The moment we say that it's the denial

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of your heart's desires without the fruition of

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yourself, without the self-benefit, without the flourishing

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of yourself.

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It's a great definition of evil because now

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the believer never suffers evil after that.

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Every single pain that we suffer from is

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for us.

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The Prophet ﷺ said, it's amazing the affair

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of the believers.

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All of it's good.

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If good happens, he thanks Allah.

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And if evil comes to him, sabr.

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He has patience.

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Well, how is patience?

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Patience is one of the greatest virtues you

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could have.

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Not patience on people's trials and tribulations.

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Once you have patience, you can literally almost

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achieve anything because anything is achievable with patience.

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Patience in waiting and patience in handling pain.

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Right now, me and you and everyone in

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this room, we can achieve perfect physical fitness.

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Not only perfect, you will be amazing in

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amazing shape and amazing looking if you have

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the patience.

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If you can handle the hunger, if you

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can handle the resistance of the push-ups

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and the sit-ups, that's all pretty much

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you need in my opinion.

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And if people want to lift weights, that's

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up to them.

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And if you can wait long enough, that's

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literally it.

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That is literally all it takes.

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You're going to exercise your five muscle groups.

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You're going to do push-ups, three different

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kinds, near, like these books, right?

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The small one, the medium one, and the

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big one.

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What's the synopsis?

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Three books, right?

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Yeah.

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So you're going to do a close push

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-up, a medium push-up, and a wide

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push-up.

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All right.

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All that's under push-ups.

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You're then going to do sit-ups or

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planks.

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You're then going to do squats.

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You're then going to do calf raises.

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And then as you get better, you get

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a book bag, you throw some weights in

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it.

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You do the push-ups with the weights.

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You do the sit-ups with a weight.

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It takes you nothing.

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It's just a weight that you have on

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the side in your house.

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And then you just, you got to learn

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to not eat so late in the night.

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Don't eat a lot.

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Keep that routine for three years.

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You will be in amazing shape.

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Problem is people don't have patience.

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People have a goal, they get distracted from

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their goal.

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Got to have patience.

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Every one of us can be a hafiz

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of Quran.

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It may take you 10 years, but you

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will be a hafiz of Quran.

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600 pages of the Quran divided by 10,

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60.

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60 divided by 300, one page every five

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days.

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One page every five days for 10 years,

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you'll be a hafiz of Quran, without really

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doing anything, without enrolling in a school.

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So let's say the average age of the

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listener out there is 28.

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By 38 you're a hafiz on nothing except

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sabr.

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That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said, when you get a tribulation, when you

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get something good, you say alhamdulillah.

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When you get a tribulation, you have patience.

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Patience is the both waiting and the ability

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to handle pain.

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Moderate amount of pain.

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Because everything is pain, even hift.

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Yeah, it's the pain of shutting the TV

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off, shutting the phone off and doing hift

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and repeating the page, etc.

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Allah is Al-Qawiy, Al-Mateen.

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Al-Mateen is that who can bear and

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handle.

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What does it mean for Allah?

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It means he creates that which is Mateen.

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Certain things can be pounded away at and

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will not break.

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That's why the Sayf al-Muhannad is a

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combination of metal and gold, iron and gold,

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and then iron again.

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That's the Indian sword that we always talk

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about, Al-Muhannad.

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It's iron and gold, back and forth.

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Iron and gold.

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If it's all iron, it's brittle.

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It hurts when you hit, but when it

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gets hit, it'll break.

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If it's gold, it won't hurt so much

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when you hit.

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But then when you take a hit, it'll

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bend because gold can bend.

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Gold can bend.

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Yeah.

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Let me leave this message real quick.

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Okay.

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Very good.

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Thank you.

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So, you see that when you reject God

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because of evil, you've done nothing.

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And evil, the only reason is that you

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don't know understand why.

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You don't understand why the pain is happening.

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And that's what children go through too.

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But because children see the good and the

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bad of their parents, they just end up

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trusting them.

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And that's really, you're getting trained from childhood.

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You're getting trained from childhood to experience pain.

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This is why I'm a proponent of serious

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parenting and fearless, courageous parenting in the truth.

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And that's not the only route that you

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go with kids.

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But think about this.

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If you are too soft with your kid,

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life itself will not be soft like you.

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You can't just let them have everything, never

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face them and say, look me in the

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eye, stop doing this, stop doing this, stop

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doing that.

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If you don't have those moments, you're not

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training them well for life.

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And then as soon as something bad happens,

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they don't know how to deal with it.

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But if you're actually a little bit more

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strict, a little bit more strict, not too

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strict to drive the kid crazy and the

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kid will run away from home.

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But when you're tough in that manner, and

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when there's something wrong, you just say, listen

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to me, I'm going to say this once

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and that's the end of it.

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And that's pretty scary.

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He's going to go on in life.

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No one else is going to talk to

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him like that.

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Right?

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Everything will be less than that.

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Everything, every hardship in the world will be

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far less than that.

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So you trained him well, didn't you?

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Maybe they're like, okay, this, they may have

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some feelings towards you at that moment, but

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all you need to do is always go

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back to Rahma and Karam as Allah does

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with us.

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One bad thing happens, 999 good things happen

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in a row.

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Like that's most people's experience in life.

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I got one bad day out of 90

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days, out of a hundred days.

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That's how Allah is.

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So that confirms us.

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Allah's taking care of me.

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I'm okay.

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Everything is fine.

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I'm in good hands.

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When something bad happens, there is a reason

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for it.

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So that trust develops.

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And that's why in the best form of

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parenting, it requires a lot of time to

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be able to create the pattern.

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Right?

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You need to, when you go on these

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phones, on these apps, you need to click

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for a while, watch a bunch of videos

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for the algorithm to learn what you like.

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In the same manner, when you're a parent,

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you need to be with your kid a

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lot so they truly know you and your

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character and your intentions inside out.

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So the moment either A, you have to

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do something that's hard for them.

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They know it's coming from a good place.

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Or B, you actually have a bad day

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and you as a parent do something wrong

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and parents can do bad things to their

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kids.

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From time to time, they get upset.

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They have a bad day.

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They take it out on their kids.

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It happens.

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Maybe it happens 0.1% of the

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time, or maybe some people more than that,

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depending how stressed out they are and how

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disciplined their nefse is.

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The kid at least knows he's just having

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a bad day.

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They know this, by the pattern of behavior.

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That's not his normal behavior.

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It doesn't take a statistician, just a simple

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matter of common sense.

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Now, someone's asking, what about for daughters?

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Yeah, probably a bit less.

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But girls, they do have some nonsense too

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and silliness that knows no bounds.

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A dad will reign it in a little

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bit, enough of the silliness.

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Then she's going to go on and be

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a respectable person, a respectable wife.

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If you just let the silliness go on,

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enough with this.

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Stop being so silly.

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There are limits here.

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Here's the thing, the beauty of it.

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No matter how you are, just the fact

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that you're a male and you're in the

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presence of your, let's say it's a daughter,

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now she knows what men are like.

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She has an idea of where the tolerance

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level is.

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Remember when I said earlier, a couple podcasts

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back, I said that it's really good every

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once in a while to not have patience

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when it's not necessary.

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If a kid's being silly and he's testing

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my patience, and I just had enough and

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I just want quiet.

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I want peace and quiet.

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I don't want to hear noise and I

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just say, enough, stop.

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Cut it out and be quiet.

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You start thinking, well, is that the merciful

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way?

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Is it the generous way?

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No, I'll tell you what that is.

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That's a very good thing to do every

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once in a while is because it gives

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them information at what regular people get sick

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of.

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What is the volume level that people outside

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the house who don't care about me, that's

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why sometimes it's good for the parent to

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think of himself.

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All right, stop talking so much.

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Is that nice?

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Maybe it's not nice, but it's very informative.

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That kid now has a piece of information

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that's very important.

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The rest of society is not going to

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be so nice to you, so he needs

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that information.

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All right, I get now what people's buttons

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are, and I guarantee you there are people

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who do not know when enough is enough.

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The reason is they must have been only

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with somebody who just tolerates and tolerates and

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tolerates and tolerates.

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They were never with somebody who their patience

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is enough and they say it, but it's

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important to say it.

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It gives them information on what is the

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end, what's the limits.

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You have something to say, Omar?

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Oh, questions.

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Do you think fathers raising daughters, should they

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expose them to the world of men oftentimes?

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Because it seems like one of major problems

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with women and men today is a lot

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of women don't realize what the world of

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men looks like.

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So it's kind of fantasizing in their head.

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That's why feminism exists.

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They think the world of men is all

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fairy tales and amazing, but that's not really

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how it is.

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It seems like from what I've seen in

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my own experience is that a lot of

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women that are very deluded are those that

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have not actually seen what it's like to

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be a man because they don't have brothers,

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for example.

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So do you think that's a strategy that

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fathers should use?

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Obviously, you want to be soft with your

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daughters compared to the sons.

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I think they're going to be exposed to

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these things.

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They're going to be exposed to when the

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dad has friends in the house.

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They're going to see that.

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Every once in a while, they're going to

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watch their dad hang out with the other

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guys.

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Every once in a while, they're going to

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see that.

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So they're not living in a fantasy.

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There was one time a guy, he got

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married and it looked all fine and good,

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but then I asked him, what is the

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status of who you're marrying?

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He said, it's the mom only.

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It's a girl and the mom.

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I'm like, no dad?

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No.

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No uncle?

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No.

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No grandfather?

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No.

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No brothers?

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No.

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I was like, good luck.

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Because where is the reference point?

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Where is the reference point?

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Where is the reference point of how this

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gender acts?

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Okay, guys in school, I don't think that

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counts.

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Maybe it does depending on how much she

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interacted with them.

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Yeah, because I look at someone like my

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mom, for example, who had many brothers and

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I compare it to someone like maybe some

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Muslim sister that is born here and she

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doesn't have brothers or something like that.

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It's a completely different world.

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Not just because of the generational difference, but

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since there were bigger families in the past

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and stuff.

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My mom knows what it's to be a

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man.

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She's very happy being a housewife.

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She knows that men do this and I

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do this.

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I love taking my daughters with me.

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I like taking my kids with me when

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they have a day off.

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Just spend the whole day with me.

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I like it just for the sake of

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it.

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I just like to be around them.

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But they get to see what the day

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is like and they get to see what

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is a day like.

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When the dad steps out of the house,

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what's his day like?

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What is he doing all day?

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You know what I was wondering about?

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Why in divorce are the laws distinct between

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men and women, husband and wife?

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If we're in a society that's moving to

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equality, so when there's a divorce, why would

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anyone take anything?

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Just take what's in your account, split what's

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in the family account and that's it, right?

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Why is there even a difference?

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Because you know that most in the non

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-Islamic world, non-Muslim community, they don't marry.

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There's no point for them to marry because

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the moment he marries, if she wants to

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get out, she takes half his stuff and

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he gets pretty much maybe nothing.

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Well, if we're in a society where we're

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going towards equality, why does that rule still

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exist in the courts?

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There's a lot of things that are inconsistent.

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There are things that are unfathomable and will

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never happen.

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If truly genders are equal, can you have

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an all-female prison guard unit in a

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male prison?

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Could you imagine that?

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Just imagine that for a minute as a

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thought experiment.

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Now we have a first woman hockey coach,

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women basketball referees, women, I don't know, assistant

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coach in football or something.

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Okay, well, that's all entertainment.

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How about in real life?

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You got a prison, the ward, all the

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guards, everyone female.

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It's not going to work.

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That is not going to work, right?

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The entire concept of feminism, this is such

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an important point, is the entire premise of

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it is over-glorification of the world of

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men.

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That's pretty much all it is.

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You're 100% right.

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It is centered around the world of men.

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Why would you want to be like that

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gender so much?

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My position is this.

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I'm traditional but flexible, right?

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I know the world's changing and you have

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to move with it, but still within the

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same tradition.

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You have a tree, the trunk never changes.

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Allah created a man and woman in a

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different way.

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Cannot tell me they're the same.

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No one will ever buy that.

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They create it in a different way.

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There are certain things that are found in

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99% of each gender, right?

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The desire to protect, the desire to nurture,

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that's not changing ever.

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Now you have the top of the tree.

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A tree, as we're seeing in these storms,

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has to be flexible.

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As you're living in the modern, the more

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modern your time is, the more chaotic really

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the time is, the more flexible you need

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to be.

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Just like a hurricane.

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We're living in a hurricane today, a moral

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hurricane.

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The norms are changing every day.

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You need to be more flexible, but you

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need to be grounded.

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That's the philosophy I believe in.

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You just suspended someone.

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What did he do?

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That's personally what I believe in.

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It's traditional, but it's flexible.

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He's got to be flexible, but he has

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to also be traditional.

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The way that Allah created males and females

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in the Shari'ah gave them certain obligations

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upon both sides, and certain expectations, and then

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certain fitrah.

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It's by the fitrah, their human nature, wants

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to do certain things.

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There's no guy who has the fitrah to

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take care of an infant, but he has

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the fitrah to defend his wife if someone

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looks at her, talks at her, something like

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that.

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I remember some guys need coaching, I'm telling

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you, because they have been so brainwashed that

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the fitrah is bad when it comes to

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male desires.

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For example, I asked one time, you're sitting

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at a restaurant and a guy flicks food

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at your wife.

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You turn around, the guy looks at you

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straight in the eye and says, yeah, I

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did it.

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What do you do?

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You know what like 99% of the

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guys would say, there's a fight right there.

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Even if I'm not winning, I got to

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put up the fight.

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At least in front of my wife, I

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got to put up a fight, even if

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I don't want to.

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You know what this guy said?

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He said, I wouldn't really do anything because

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it would be bad for Dawa.

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How bad have you been completely effaced?

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Why don't you trust your gut?

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Trust your gut and go with the fitrah.

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If not, take it by transmitted from people

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with more experience than you.

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That has to be a fight right then

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and there.

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Not thought about, not with words.

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He used actions.

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Actions are going to be repelled with actions,

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not with words.

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I've done it too.

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I've done it.

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I'm very proud of it.

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I had three fights.

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One ended up physical.

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Two, second one, I just walked in their

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direction, they went the other way.

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The third one, it was one on four

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in Baltimore.

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On one of those nice boardwalks in Maryland

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by the Oriole Stadium and stuff.

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It's a gorgeous area.

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Everyone goes there for vacation.

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These three guys made a comment, so I

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started walking in their direction, not having a

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clue what's going to go on.

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It's one on three, right?

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Four guys.

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I started walking in their direction.

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One on four.

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I had no clue, but I knew I

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had to do something.

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All the kids were little.

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I couldn't take Ayub with me, but ultimately

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at the end of it, luckily some other

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guys intervened.

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I noticed I'm walking towards them.

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They're walking away because they know they did

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something wrong.

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Although there's no match here.

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It's four guys and one.

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I'm walking towards them.

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They're talking.

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They're yelling.

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I'm just walking towards them, but they're also

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going backwards.

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It's like they know they don't want to

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pick this fight because they were in the

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wrong because of what they said.

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Luckily, they ended up walking into a restaurant.

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They were all white.

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The restaurant manager was black.

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I'm like, okay, I'm good because I know

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he's going to side with me.

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He did.

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The restaurant manager got in their faces.

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What are you doing?

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You're not going to be assaulting our customers

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here and all that even though I wasn't

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even a customer.

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He thought I was a customer.

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Right.

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Point being, this is how it has to

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be and it is whether you like it

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or not.

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You don't have to like it.

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No one is born into these awkward situations,

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but the male nervous system must adapt to

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it.

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The male nervous system, you must swallow it

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and force it on yourself.

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You must force it on yourself.

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Even physically, you may lose these fights.

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You're not going to act like a tough

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guy.

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You're going to go and beat these fights,

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these guys up.

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This one is not going to happen.

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This one is going to be bad, but

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it has to be done.

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That's honestly one of the things that needs

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to be talked about.

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It needs to be talked about how to

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be in those situations because you know those

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situations, you want to look at it.

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It's the right thing to do.

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Your fitra says you should do it.

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Your book says she could do it, but

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let me give you another practical thing about

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it.

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You basically will be king for the next

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year as long as that thing is remembered.

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You did your job.

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You actually did it.

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It's not just protector in name.

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You actually did it.

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You're going to be rewarded very well in

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life when you behave like that.

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I got a business idea.

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You got a business idea.

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You go hire some goons.

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I'm telling you, listen, if you're a young

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man and you just got married, go find

00:29:02 --> 00:29:03

some goons.

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Give them 50 bucks each and have them

00:29:06 --> 00:29:08

come pick on your family and you chase

00:29:08 --> 00:29:08

them away.

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Tell them that's the job.

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Put a mask on if you're worried and

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have a guy come and shake your wife's

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bag.

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I'll run and take your wife's bag.

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Exactly.

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Then run after the guy.

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Tackle him.

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Punch him in his back a little bit.

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Doesn't really hurt.

00:29:30 --> 00:29:32

Then the guy runs away and you start

00:29:32 --> 00:29:33

screaming at him and yell, don't you ever

00:29:33 --> 00:29:34

come back here.

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All of a sudden, you're going to be

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the king.

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That happens for real.

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I know when it happens for real, though.

00:29:40 --> 00:29:42

This is the Auschwitz starboard.

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I personally hold to the fact that a

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man has to do a lot of things

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that he does not want to do, that

00:29:50 --> 00:29:51

he hates to do.

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A woman should never be asked to do

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those things.

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That's our religion.

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That's traditional.

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That's our religion.

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If you look at our law, we can

00:30:03 --> 00:30:04

figure it out backwards.

00:30:05 --> 00:30:06

When we figure it out backwards, when the

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Sharia says she's born into a house, she

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doesn't have to worry about anything.

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Her dad takes care of her.

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Then she goes to her husband's house.

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From there to her husband's house, she doesn't

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have to worry about anything.

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The Sharia does not want her carrying these

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heavy burdens.

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Now she may end up carrying heavy burdens

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in life.

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Raising kids is a heavy burden.

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Being a Muslim is a heavy burden.

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Staying married is a heavy burden.

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A lot of heavy burdens, but certain burdens,

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no.

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The burden to earn money, the burden to

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protect my body, the burden to protect my

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kids physically, that's not there.

00:30:45 --> 00:30:47

That is not something that Sharia puts upon

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them.

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This is exactly why the Prophet ﷺ said

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that failed will be a people.

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What is the exact wording?

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What is the final exact wording?

00:31:03 --> 00:31:05

Allah does not give victory to a people

00:31:05 --> 00:31:07

who put their affairs on the back of

00:31:07 --> 00:31:07

a woman.

00:31:08 --> 00:31:09

Yeah, think about that.

00:31:10 --> 00:31:13

They took their affair, their obligation and put

00:31:13 --> 00:31:13

it on a woman's back.

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That is in what?

00:31:15 --> 00:31:17

In earning and protecting.

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Not in other things.

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If it doesn't entail earning and protecting, things

00:31:26 --> 00:31:27

that have risk, things that have hardship.

00:31:29 --> 00:31:31

Ruling a nation, we got to go to

00:31:31 --> 00:31:31

war.

00:31:32 --> 00:31:33

Why are you putting that on her back?

00:31:34 --> 00:31:35

Especially back in the old days, today it's

00:31:35 --> 00:31:39

just like you're not going to actually be

00:31:39 --> 00:31:40

in the war.

00:31:40 --> 00:31:42

But you still have to make the decision.

00:31:42 --> 00:31:43

You still have to rule, you still have

00:31:43 --> 00:31:43

to lead.

00:31:44 --> 00:31:46

So where there is earning, where there is

00:31:46 --> 00:31:46

protection.

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Could you imagine back in the old day

00:31:48 --> 00:31:52

a tribe comes out and the leader has

00:31:52 --> 00:31:53

got to be in the face of the

00:31:53 --> 00:31:54

army.

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You're going to put up a woman.

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Okay, whose wife are you putting up?

00:31:59 --> 00:32:00

That's someone's wife.

00:32:00 --> 00:32:02

Whose mom are you putting up?

00:32:02 --> 00:32:04

And that husband's accepting it?

00:32:04 --> 00:32:06

In his own house, if a thief were

00:32:06 --> 00:32:09

to come in, he goes, not her, in

00:32:09 --> 00:32:09

the house.

00:32:10 --> 00:32:10

How about the nation?

00:32:11 --> 00:32:12

How does it make any sense?

00:32:12 --> 00:32:13

How does it make any sense?

00:32:14 --> 00:32:16

Where it comes to earning and protecting.

00:32:17 --> 00:32:19

So that's why I said those are the

00:32:19 --> 00:32:20

traditional ways.

00:32:21 --> 00:32:22

Traditional is not even the right word.

00:32:23 --> 00:32:24

That's the sharia, that's it.

00:32:26 --> 00:32:28

But it's got to also be flexible too.

00:32:30 --> 00:32:34

In our world these days, life is not

00:32:34 --> 00:32:37

going to be like what it was for

00:32:37 --> 00:32:38

the grandparents.

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

I'm reading here some of these comments.

00:32:43 --> 00:32:45

There's an exact sketch by Matt, Rob, and

00:32:45 --> 00:32:46

Doe about this.

00:32:49 --> 00:32:50

A fake thief.

00:32:51 --> 00:32:53

Is it better for a woman who only

00:32:53 --> 00:32:54

has sisters to marry a man who only

00:32:54 --> 00:32:55

has sisters?

00:32:56 --> 00:32:59

I wouldn't go that route because you're narrowing

00:32:59 --> 00:33:01

something that's already difficult.

00:33:02 --> 00:33:11

I was recently told by somebody that Al

00:33:11 --> 00:33:20

-Habib Omar bin Hafid had actually encouraged matrimonial

00:33:20 --> 00:33:23

events as long as they're done within certain

00:33:23 --> 00:33:24

parameters.

00:33:24 --> 00:33:28

Because he sees also and realizes the degree

00:33:28 --> 00:33:29

of the fitna.

00:33:29 --> 00:33:35

This institution that the whole community rests upon

00:33:35 --> 00:33:36

needs work.

00:33:37 --> 00:33:38

It needs attention.

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

Like fiqh will not develop in a community

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

unless you have an institution that focuses on

00:33:43 --> 00:33:43

it.

00:33:44 --> 00:33:48

Let me get the exact hadith.

00:33:51 --> 00:33:54

The Ahnaf limit that hadith to the Khilafah

00:33:54 --> 00:33:54

only.

00:34:00 --> 00:34:06

A group of men, a group of people

00:34:06 --> 00:34:09

will not succeed when they put the obligations

00:34:09 --> 00:34:12

that Allah put upon them onto a woman.

00:34:14 --> 00:34:15

Thief comes out the door.

00:34:15 --> 00:34:17

Husband, wife, four kids are sitting there.

00:34:17 --> 00:34:18

What do you do?

00:34:18 --> 00:34:19

Wife, go you get it.

00:34:19 --> 00:34:20

I got the last thief.

00:34:21 --> 00:34:23

That doesn't work like that.

00:34:24 --> 00:34:25

So if that's not the case in the

00:34:25 --> 00:34:28

home, is it lawful for a man to

00:34:28 --> 00:34:31

say, I earned the last 10 years.

00:34:31 --> 00:34:32

I'm going to take a break.

00:34:33 --> 00:34:34

I'm going to relax.

00:34:34 --> 00:34:36

I'm going to not work.

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

I'm going to follow my hobbies.

00:34:39 --> 00:34:41

You work for the next 10 years and

00:34:41 --> 00:34:42

earn for our family.

00:34:42 --> 00:34:43

Is it lawful in Islam?

00:34:44 --> 00:34:47

So it's earning and it's protecting.

00:34:48 --> 00:34:50

It's not lawful in a home.

00:34:50 --> 00:34:52

Is it lawful in anything bigger than a

00:34:52 --> 00:34:52

home?

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

That's what, that's the purpose of this hadith.

00:35:04 --> 00:35:07

I got to find this thing where Habib

00:35:07 --> 00:35:15

Omar had mentioned, he had mentioned this, that

00:35:15 --> 00:35:21

he's encouraging this kind of matrimonial services because

00:35:21 --> 00:35:22

people really need help.

00:35:22 --> 00:35:24

The whole institution needs help.

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

Ultimately, this is going to be your greatest

00:35:27 --> 00:35:31

source of happiness, your greatest connection with human

00:35:31 --> 00:35:32

beings.

00:35:32 --> 00:35:38

Everything will be better when this element of

00:35:38 --> 00:35:39

your life is better.

00:35:40 --> 00:35:44

Our Maliki Fiqh teacher, I've never met him,

00:35:45 --> 00:35:47

but I always listen to his lectures.

00:35:49 --> 00:35:53

Sheikh Abdul Hamid Al Mubarak, he says, now

00:35:53 --> 00:35:56

look at all social movements from a couple

00:35:56 --> 00:35:56

of lenses.

00:35:59 --> 00:36:00

And one of those lenses is, does it

00:36:00 --> 00:36:02

increase Onusa?

00:36:03 --> 00:36:07

Does it increase people, women never getting married?

00:36:09 --> 00:36:10

Does it increase that?

00:36:10 --> 00:36:11

Is that the end result?

00:36:12 --> 00:36:14

He said, that's something that's harmful then.

00:36:14 --> 00:36:16

If that's the result, and keep in mind,

00:36:16 --> 00:36:19

Shaitan does not go and give you a

00:36:19 --> 00:36:20

bottle of poison to drink.

00:36:21 --> 00:36:23

He'll give you an entire platter of food,

00:36:25 --> 00:36:29

chicken, salad, soup, then there's apple pie.

00:36:30 --> 00:36:34

Somewhere in this platter, somewhere in this table,

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

there's going to be a little poison.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

You're going to eat the whole thing and

00:36:38 --> 00:36:39

not feel anything.

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

So you're going to say it's fine.

00:36:41 --> 00:36:42

And you eat it again and again and

00:36:42 --> 00:36:44

again until the poison rises in your system,

00:36:44 --> 00:36:45

that by the time you detect it, it's

00:36:45 --> 00:36:46

too late.

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

That's how Iblis works.

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

That's how Shaitan works.

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

Shaitan has been around for way longer than

00:36:52 --> 00:36:53

me and you.

00:36:53 --> 00:36:55

It's been around for thousands of years.

00:36:55 --> 00:36:58

That's why the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says,

00:36:58 --> 00:37:00

Shaitan is pleased to get a righteous person

00:37:00 --> 00:37:04

to move off the right track, even the

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

amount of an ant's footstep.

00:37:07 --> 00:37:09

The footstep of an ant.

00:37:09 --> 00:37:09

Why?

00:37:09 --> 00:37:11

Because he knows all he has to do

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

is repeat that another thousand times and you're

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

way off.

00:37:15 --> 00:37:15

Right?

00:37:15 --> 00:37:16

You are way off.

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

Let's look at Minna A.J. She says,

00:37:20 --> 00:37:20

Ficanomics.

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

Indeed, and most of them think that while

00:37:23 --> 00:37:26

slaving away for some greedy CEO, they are

00:37:26 --> 00:37:27

free and independent.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

And this is coming from a working woman.

00:37:33 --> 00:37:35

That's where we're saying traditional but flexible.

00:37:36 --> 00:37:41

It's that working women, it's not all, I

00:37:41 --> 00:37:43

don't think it's a complete black and white,

00:37:43 --> 00:37:44

right?

00:37:44 --> 00:37:45

Just don't work at all.

00:37:46 --> 00:37:46

Well, no.

00:37:48 --> 00:37:49

There's room for this.

00:37:50 --> 00:37:51

There is room for that.

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

But are there values there?

00:37:54 --> 00:37:55

Are the beliefs there?

00:37:55 --> 00:37:58

Are the right values and beliefs it's faith,

00:37:58 --> 00:38:01

family, and then it's finances.

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

That's the order that it has to go

00:38:04 --> 00:38:04

in.

00:38:05 --> 00:38:07

I'm telling you, this stuff needs work and

00:38:07 --> 00:38:09

to be talked about so much or else

00:38:09 --> 00:38:11

we're going to end up being just like

00:38:11 --> 00:38:13

the rest of Europe with our population declining,

00:38:14 --> 00:38:15

Masajid being empty.

00:38:16 --> 00:38:17

Assalamualaikum.

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

What's the most famous Mariki Fetwa website?

00:38:19 --> 00:38:23

Unfortunately, we are way behind on the internet

00:38:23 --> 00:38:29

and I would go to, no, there's one

00:38:29 --> 00:38:30

even stronger than that.

00:38:30 --> 00:38:34

It's Sheikh, what is it?

00:38:34 --> 00:38:35

Faqih Nafsak.

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

Faqih Nafsak.

00:38:38 --> 00:38:39

Try that website.

00:38:41 --> 00:38:44

F-A-Q-I-H-N-A-F

00:38:44 --> 00:38:45

-S-A-K.

00:38:45 --> 00:38:48

And you can now get this website translated

00:38:48 --> 00:38:49

into different languages.

00:38:51 --> 00:38:54

Faqih Nafsak is the website.

00:38:54 --> 00:38:58

It's in various languages and see if your

00:38:58 --> 00:38:59

questions are there.

00:38:59 --> 00:39:03

There are tons of, there's an English, Espanol,

00:39:03 --> 00:39:08

French, Netherlands, different languages.

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

But go to that website and learn.

00:39:11 --> 00:39:12

Faqih Nafsak.

00:39:13 --> 00:39:13

It's out of Saudi Arabia.

00:39:15 --> 00:39:19

Oh, so we never got to address this,

00:39:19 --> 00:39:20

but you know, we had that, we had

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

this one short kind of blow up about

00:39:22 --> 00:39:23

careerism and you had a lot of people

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

in the comments that were like complaining, oh,

00:39:25 --> 00:39:27

like, are we not supposed to work and

00:39:27 --> 00:39:27

things like that?

00:39:28 --> 00:39:30

But there's a difference between careerism and having

00:39:30 --> 00:39:31

a career, right?

00:39:31 --> 00:39:31

Correct.

00:39:32 --> 00:39:32

So I just wanted to.

00:39:32 --> 00:39:34

There is a big difference in careerism and

00:39:34 --> 00:39:36

having career, just like there's a big difference

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

between science and scientism.

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

Scientism is a belief system that the truth

00:39:40 --> 00:39:45

is really only accessible through demonstrative knowledge, observable

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

sensory perception, demonstrative knowledge.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:48

That's a belief system that's flawed.

00:39:50 --> 00:39:55

Science is the access of demonstrable knowledge, getting,

00:39:56 --> 00:40:00

extracting truth from demonstration, which is science, right?

00:40:00 --> 00:40:02

But it's not a philosophy.

00:40:03 --> 00:40:05

There's a difference between scientism and science.

00:40:06 --> 00:40:10

Truth comes from demonstration, which is science, from

00:40:10 --> 00:40:11

transmission and from reason.

00:40:12 --> 00:40:15

So likewise, there's a big difference between careerism

00:40:15 --> 00:40:16

and having a career.

00:40:17 --> 00:40:21

Men are also, they got issues with careerism

00:40:21 --> 00:40:24

too, probably as much as women or more.

00:40:25 --> 00:40:28

Like more men abandon their kids for careerism

00:40:28 --> 00:40:30

even than women, right?

00:40:31 --> 00:40:33

So wherever you're going to have a good

00:40:33 --> 00:40:34

family, you're going to need two people.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:36

Both of them have to believe this is

00:40:36 --> 00:40:37

an obligation.

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

No matter how busy they are, if they

00:40:39 --> 00:40:42

have that belief, they'll make it work, right?

00:40:43 --> 00:40:44

And here it is.

00:40:45 --> 00:40:48

In this economy, people need two people to

00:40:48 --> 00:40:48

work.

00:40:49 --> 00:40:50

That's not an issue, right?

00:40:50 --> 00:40:53

The issue is the belief about it.

00:40:54 --> 00:40:54

It's the belief.

00:40:55 --> 00:40:56

And that's why Alma brings up that great

00:40:56 --> 00:41:00

point of careerism versus having a career, which

00:41:00 --> 00:41:03

is why I set out earlier, you have

00:41:03 --> 00:41:04

the analogy of the tree.

00:41:04 --> 00:41:05

Certain never change.

00:41:06 --> 00:41:08

The priorities never change, but you have to

00:41:08 --> 00:41:09

be flexible with the time that you live

00:41:09 --> 00:41:11

in and not only the time, the situation.

00:41:12 --> 00:41:14

People may be in a situation even where

00:41:14 --> 00:41:18

the guy earns less than the woman.

00:41:18 --> 00:41:20

We can't put those people down.

00:41:20 --> 00:41:21

It's a situation.

00:41:21 --> 00:41:21

It happened.

00:41:22 --> 00:41:23

What can he do, right?

00:41:23 --> 00:41:25

He may be the best husband, the best

00:41:25 --> 00:41:27

dad and an imam even.

00:41:27 --> 00:41:30

That's what he went into and earned him

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

imamah with the community.

00:41:32 --> 00:41:36

She went into the medical field, so she

00:41:36 --> 00:41:37

makes more money.

00:41:38 --> 00:41:41

It could happen and we shouldn't put that

00:41:41 --> 00:41:41

down.

00:41:42 --> 00:41:43

It's the beliefs that matter.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:44

The belief.

00:41:44 --> 00:41:45

Is he asking her to do that?

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

Is he saying, you go and earn everything?

00:41:48 --> 00:41:50

Now, are you going to tell me, okay,

00:41:50 --> 00:41:52

but she may end up resenting him.

00:41:52 --> 00:41:55

That's different, but that can be fixed, but

00:41:55 --> 00:41:58

the philosophy is what matters.

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

Is he saying, go and put forth half

00:42:00 --> 00:42:01

the money?

00:42:01 --> 00:42:02

Go and put forth all the money.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

Do you know that there was a woman

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

one time, she was a real estate agent

00:42:06 --> 00:42:08

and we're sitting there.

00:42:08 --> 00:42:09

We got delayed.

00:42:09 --> 00:42:10

We're driving around with her to look at

00:42:10 --> 00:42:13

houses and she goes to us.

00:42:13 --> 00:42:16

We started chit-chatting about life because we

00:42:16 --> 00:42:17

were waiting for this other realtor to show

00:42:17 --> 00:42:18

up to show us the house.

00:42:19 --> 00:42:22

We're sitting there in the car and she

00:42:22 --> 00:42:23

says, man, I wish I could retire.

00:42:23 --> 00:42:25

She asks us, what do you do?

00:42:26 --> 00:42:29

At the time, my wife was staying home

00:42:29 --> 00:42:32

with two kids and I was working.

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

These small families, they hardly have any expenses.

00:42:36 --> 00:42:39

You make your kids happy with $5 bag

00:42:39 --> 00:42:40

of M&Ms and that's it.

00:42:41 --> 00:42:42

Life was so simple.

00:42:44 --> 00:42:47

She said, I wish I could do that.

00:42:48 --> 00:42:51

She said, it's been from the beginning of

00:42:51 --> 00:42:54

our marriage, everything is split 50-50.

00:42:55 --> 00:42:58

Even, listen to this, the birthday card.

00:42:59 --> 00:43:01

When my husband buys me a birthday card,

00:43:02 --> 00:43:04

he puts the receipt there, 50-50.

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

How insane is that?

00:43:08 --> 00:43:09

How insane is that?

00:43:11 --> 00:43:13

So it's the belief that we have to

00:43:13 --> 00:43:14

talk about.

00:43:16 --> 00:43:19

Dylan says, can you do stories of the

00:43:19 --> 00:43:22

Wali, or stories of the Awliya on Badiuzzaman

00:43:22 --> 00:43:23

Saeed Nursi?

00:43:23 --> 00:43:25

We'll have to bring Nas for that.

00:43:26 --> 00:43:28

Should the national anthem be sung and when

00:43:28 --> 00:43:30

a high-ranking person or teacher enters the

00:43:30 --> 00:43:31

classroom, we stand up?

00:43:31 --> 00:43:32

Is that sinful?

00:43:32 --> 00:43:34

No, it's okay.

00:43:37 --> 00:43:39

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one time

00:43:39 --> 00:43:44

when Saeed Saad ibn Mu'adh, I believe

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

it was, either Saad ibn Mu'adh or

00:43:47 --> 00:43:49

Saad ibn Ubadah entered, he told his people,

00:43:49 --> 00:43:50

Qumru Sayyidikum.

00:43:52 --> 00:43:55

One time, Hassan ibn Thabit stood up for

00:43:55 --> 00:43:57

the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

00:43:57 --> 00:43:58

The Prophet said, sit down.

00:43:58 --> 00:44:00

He said, I have to stand up when

00:44:00 --> 00:44:00

I see such beauty.

00:44:01 --> 00:44:02

And the Prophet let it go.

00:44:06 --> 00:44:09

What are the other questions on the marriage

00:44:09 --> 00:44:10

stuff that we just talked about?

00:44:14 --> 00:44:17

Tradition is beautiful when it is done right,

00:44:18 --> 00:44:19

and it takes a mature community.

00:44:20 --> 00:44:23

Yes, it takes us to understand what is

00:44:23 --> 00:44:25

it that we can never let go of,

00:44:25 --> 00:44:26

and what is it what we can be

00:44:26 --> 00:44:27

flexible on.

00:44:27 --> 00:44:30

And I'm telling you, it's something that's going

00:44:30 --> 00:44:33

to be done after also consulting and looking

00:44:33 --> 00:44:36

at how other pshyuch live, and how other

00:44:36 --> 00:44:37

people of knowledge live.

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

And you see that there ends up being

00:44:39 --> 00:44:40

a middle ground.

00:44:42 --> 00:44:43

Here's another question.

00:44:43 --> 00:44:46

My dad taught me how to fight, says

00:44:46 --> 00:44:48

The Last Corner, and grew up with three

00:44:48 --> 00:44:49

big brothers.

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

At school, I was not afraid to fight

00:44:51 --> 00:44:52

back with boys.

00:44:52 --> 00:44:54

Should it be avoided for girls and try

00:44:54 --> 00:44:55

to escape if possible?

00:44:55 --> 00:44:57

Yeah, I don't think that girls should.

00:44:59 --> 00:45:01

I personally don't see the benefit in it.

00:45:02 --> 00:45:05

Physically fighting, I don't see the benefit in

00:45:05 --> 00:45:05

that.

00:45:05 --> 00:45:06

I don't think that that's great.

00:45:06 --> 00:45:09

But a boy has to know how to

00:45:09 --> 00:45:09

fight.

00:45:09 --> 00:45:13

If not fight, at least not run away

00:45:13 --> 00:45:13

from a fight.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:15

I think that would be a disaster.

00:45:17 --> 00:45:19

Self-defense is one thing, but actually fighting

00:45:19 --> 00:45:19

like...

00:45:19 --> 00:45:21

Yeah, I don't think that that's...

00:45:21 --> 00:45:23

I don't think the Sharia, the way I

00:45:23 --> 00:45:25

see it, it does not call on the

00:45:25 --> 00:45:27

way that Allah created things for women to

00:45:27 --> 00:45:30

be hardened on the outside through fighting.

00:45:30 --> 00:45:32

Why else did he put men in their...

00:45:32 --> 00:45:34

where Allah put men in their lives?

00:45:35 --> 00:45:36

A man, when he goes and he gets

00:45:36 --> 00:45:38

hardened through a fight, I think he feels

00:45:38 --> 00:45:40

great about himself, right?

00:45:41 --> 00:45:42

It's just in the fitrah.

00:45:43 --> 00:45:45

And do you want a woman who knows

00:45:45 --> 00:45:46

how to fight, right?

00:45:49 --> 00:45:51

Yeah, where's she learning the fighting from?

00:45:51 --> 00:45:52

Is there an absentee dad?

00:45:52 --> 00:45:53

Is there an absentee brother?

00:45:54 --> 00:45:55

Is there an absentee male there?

00:45:57 --> 00:45:59

Or are you saying physically she's learning from

00:45:59 --> 00:45:59

a male trainer?

00:46:00 --> 00:46:00

That's another problem.

00:46:01 --> 00:46:03

But why is she fighting in the first

00:46:03 --> 00:46:03

place?

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

Has her dad put her in a vulnerable

00:46:06 --> 00:46:06

situation?

00:46:09 --> 00:46:10

I mean, learning self-defense, I guess, like

00:46:10 --> 00:46:12

someone would answer, like respond to...

00:46:12 --> 00:46:14

Learning self-defense is like a sport.

00:46:14 --> 00:46:15

It's like a sport.

00:46:16 --> 00:46:17

But you don't put someone in the situation...

00:46:17 --> 00:46:21

Why is it forbidden for a Muslim woman

00:46:21 --> 00:46:23

to be a soldier in the army?

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

Because it's going to happen by one of

00:46:26 --> 00:46:26

two things.

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

It's going to happen by a dad or

00:46:29 --> 00:46:30

a husband telling his...

00:46:30 --> 00:46:32

putting his wife in the face of an

00:46:32 --> 00:46:33

enemy.

00:46:33 --> 00:46:35

It's not lawful for you to do.

00:46:36 --> 00:46:38

Enemy of the nation or enemy inside the

00:46:38 --> 00:46:40

nation, it's not lawful for you to do.

00:46:40 --> 00:46:43

Or it's going to happen by the Khalifa

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

overriding the man and saying, I want your

00:46:46 --> 00:46:46

wife as a soldier.

00:46:47 --> 00:46:48

That's unlawful too.

00:46:49 --> 00:46:51

So that's why it's not permitted.

00:46:52 --> 00:46:53

When a lot of women say, like, I

00:46:53 --> 00:46:54

fight men and stuff, you're not really fighting

00:46:54 --> 00:46:55

men.

00:46:55 --> 00:46:56

Like you haven't actually fought a guy.

00:46:56 --> 00:46:56

Yeah.

00:46:56 --> 00:46:57

I think a lot of...

00:46:57 --> 00:46:58

I grew up with a lot of sisters,

00:46:58 --> 00:46:58

right?

00:46:59 --> 00:47:00

So a lot of women don't realize that

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

men are always holding back against women.

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

And when you actually see what it's like

00:47:04 --> 00:47:06

to fight a man, like a lot of

00:47:06 --> 00:47:07

people don't like to hear that.

00:47:07 --> 00:47:08

But let's be honest.

00:47:08 --> 00:47:10

That's why I said the example.

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

An all-male prison.

00:47:13 --> 00:47:14

Let's see it.

00:47:14 --> 00:47:14

Let's have an...

00:47:14 --> 00:47:17

Could you, you know, fathom an all-female

00:47:17 --> 00:47:18

guard, right?

00:47:19 --> 00:47:23

It's going to be mayhem within 24 hours.

00:47:31 --> 00:47:33

Victoria is saying sexual assault is real.

00:47:33 --> 00:47:34

You can't change society.

00:47:34 --> 00:47:36

There will be times where a woman has

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

to move and travel without a male.

00:47:38 --> 00:47:39

That's all true.

00:47:39 --> 00:47:40

That's where we're saying flexibility.

00:47:41 --> 00:47:42

That's a fact, right?

00:47:42 --> 00:47:45

It can happen very easily.

00:47:45 --> 00:47:47

You can imagine a Muslim woman with no

00:47:47 --> 00:47:47

men around her.

00:47:48 --> 00:47:48

What is she going to do?

00:47:48 --> 00:47:50

She's better have some pepper spray at the

00:47:50 --> 00:47:50

very least.

00:47:51 --> 00:47:52

But that's why we're saying there has to

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

be flexibility.

00:47:54 --> 00:47:56

When a sister and when a woman enters

00:47:56 --> 00:48:02

Islam, she's got no Muslim relatives around her.

00:48:02 --> 00:48:02

That's just an example.

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

How many examples are there where life takes

00:48:05 --> 00:48:07

a different course and all of a sudden

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

you have a woman, she's a single mother

00:48:09 --> 00:48:09

taking care of kids.

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

She clearly has to work and fend for

00:48:12 --> 00:48:12

herself.

00:48:14 --> 00:48:16

So those things have to be taken into

00:48:16 --> 00:48:16

account for.

00:48:16 --> 00:48:18

All the reason I'm saying this is because

00:48:18 --> 00:48:21

sometimes people take one sliver of something and

00:48:21 --> 00:48:24

expand it as if we're not cognizant of

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

all the different scenarios that could happen.

00:48:26 --> 00:48:29

And also though people of those scenarios may

00:48:29 --> 00:48:31

feel that we're not recognizing their plight, which

00:48:31 --> 00:48:34

is totally legitimate to them, but we have

00:48:34 --> 00:48:36

to recognize so that we get the full

00:48:36 --> 00:48:37

picture of this.

00:48:39 --> 00:48:43

Mujtaba says BJJ for women in moderation so

00:48:43 --> 00:48:46

it doesn't affect testosterone, right?

00:48:46 --> 00:48:52

So here is someone says, Bengal verse two

00:48:52 --> 00:48:54

says, my mother wants me to go abroad

00:48:54 --> 00:48:56

for study alone and does not want to

00:48:56 --> 00:48:57

get married.

00:48:57 --> 00:48:59

When I try to make her understand that

00:48:59 --> 00:49:02

being an unmarried girl is not permissible for

00:49:02 --> 00:49:04

me, she does not listen.

00:49:04 --> 00:49:13

So for Bengal, if you're living only with

00:49:13 --> 00:49:14

your mom and she doesn't want you to

00:49:14 --> 00:49:16

get married and there's no dad, then you

00:49:16 --> 00:49:21

can go to another male relative or go

00:49:21 --> 00:49:26

to the imam to be your wali and

00:49:26 --> 00:49:29

to conduct your marriage because it's not lawful

00:49:29 --> 00:49:31

for her also to deprive you of marriage.

00:49:32 --> 00:49:33

That's not right.

00:49:33 --> 00:49:34

You got to know your rights in Islam

00:49:34 --> 00:49:38

and culture sometimes, if not always oppresses those

00:49:38 --> 00:49:39

things.

00:49:41 --> 00:49:44

You probably brought this up before, but I've

00:49:44 --> 00:49:45

kind of been reading some of these questions

00:49:45 --> 00:49:46

and I wanted to bring up, and this

00:49:46 --> 00:49:47

is why we study logic, right?

00:49:48 --> 00:49:50

So it seems like a lot of people,

00:49:50 --> 00:49:51

and this is kind of the sign of

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

intelligence as well, a person's intelligence, is when

00:49:53 --> 00:49:55

you're able to distinguish between a general proposition

00:49:55 --> 00:49:56

and a universal proposition.

00:49:57 --> 00:49:57

Thank you.

00:49:57 --> 00:49:59

So a lot of the issues that people

00:49:59 --> 00:50:00

bring up, especially like I see in the

00:50:00 --> 00:50:01

comments, and I think this is important for

00:50:01 --> 00:50:04

everyone to realize, is, I'll bring an example,

00:50:04 --> 00:50:04

right?

00:50:04 --> 00:50:07

So let's say, like Shadi says, humans have

00:50:07 --> 00:50:09

two hands, and someone comes and complains, no,

00:50:09 --> 00:50:11

but look, my uncle has one hand.

00:50:11 --> 00:50:12

Yeah, exactly.

00:50:12 --> 00:50:14

Okay, but you have to understand the difference

00:50:14 --> 00:50:16

between a general proposition and a universal.

00:50:16 --> 00:50:16

Exactly.

00:50:16 --> 00:50:18

So when he says certain things, like when

00:50:18 --> 00:50:20

you guys hear him say certain things, you

00:50:20 --> 00:50:21

have to be able to distinguish between a

00:50:21 --> 00:50:24

general proposition, right, versus something that's universal that

00:50:24 --> 00:50:26

doesn't take exceptions, right?

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

So I see this all the time, people

00:50:28 --> 00:50:29

come and say, oh, well, this is the

00:50:29 --> 00:50:30

case, oh, look, but this woman is a

00:50:30 --> 00:50:32

boxer, and she's strong, okay, but she's the

00:50:32 --> 00:50:33

exception that proves the rule.

00:50:33 --> 00:50:33

Exactly.

00:50:33 --> 00:50:34

Right?

00:50:34 --> 00:50:37

So there's kulliyat, and then there's umoom.

00:50:38 --> 00:50:39

Yeah, yeah, muhmal and kulliyat.

00:50:39 --> 00:50:44

You have a muhmalah and a kulliyah.

00:50:44 --> 00:50:48

The kulliyah is actually universal, right?

00:50:48 --> 00:50:49

Actually universal.

00:50:51 --> 00:50:53

Everyone alive's heart is beating.

00:50:54 --> 00:50:55

That's a universal.

00:50:55 --> 00:50:57

It's absolutely 100%.

00:50:57 --> 00:50:58

It's a universal.

00:50:58 --> 00:50:59

Then there's the muhmalah.

00:50:59 --> 00:51:01

Muhmalah is a general ruling.

00:51:02 --> 00:51:05

Just generally, generally speaking, human beings walk on

00:51:05 --> 00:51:06

two feet.

00:51:06 --> 00:51:08

Of course, we're going to have somebody who

00:51:08 --> 00:51:10

was born without feet, or her feet got

00:51:10 --> 00:51:12

shot off, or is in a wheelchair.

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

But generally speaking, that's what we're saying.

00:51:15 --> 00:51:16

So I just want to bring that up,

00:51:16 --> 00:51:18

because like, there's so many wasted comments, I

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

think people put, where it's like, all the

00:51:20 --> 00:51:21

time, they're like, oh, you know, this exists,

00:51:21 --> 00:51:23

this is the, you know, we have this

00:51:23 --> 00:51:24

case, okay, but you guys need to understand,

00:51:24 --> 00:51:27

there's a general ruling, or a general proposition,

00:51:27 --> 00:51:28

and universal.

00:51:29 --> 00:51:31

I'm saying we got to go back to

00:51:31 --> 00:51:33

look at what the prophet taught us about

00:51:33 --> 00:51:36

these things, and stick to them before society,

00:51:36 --> 00:51:38

like Hurricane Milton, just wipes us off the

00:51:38 --> 00:51:38

map.

00:51:39 --> 00:51:42

And the trends of today, American society is

00:51:42 --> 00:51:45

toxic for your own spirituality, and it's toxic

00:51:45 --> 00:51:45

for your family.

00:51:46 --> 00:51:48

It may be good for your pocketbook.

00:51:48 --> 00:51:49

That's true.

00:51:49 --> 00:51:51

You can make a lot of money in

00:51:51 --> 00:51:55

America, but it's toxic for your family.

00:51:56 --> 00:51:56

Everything.

00:51:58 --> 00:51:59

Omar is getting some love from behind the

00:51:59 --> 00:51:59

camera.

00:52:00 --> 00:52:03

Dr. Dallas, McCurry swag.

00:52:04 --> 00:52:05

It's Omar, they love Omar.

00:52:06 --> 00:52:08

Hey, Dr. Dallas, you have sisters?

00:52:09 --> 00:52:10

Dr. Dollars, sorry.

00:52:11 --> 00:52:12

You got sisters?

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

We need to get him married.

00:52:14 --> 00:52:17

Halas, next year, you're graduating, right, Omar?

00:52:18 --> 00:52:19

You're a senior this year, right?

00:52:20 --> 00:52:24

You're graduating, and you're, and you're going to

00:52:24 --> 00:52:27

be, whatchamacallit, working next year, right?

00:52:27 --> 00:52:29

You're going to be ITing next year?

00:52:31 --> 00:52:32

Computer science, okay.

00:52:33 --> 00:52:34

Oh, okay, okay.

00:52:34 --> 00:52:35

You're going to be coding then next year,

00:52:36 --> 00:52:36

right?

00:52:36 --> 00:52:37

Coding from home?

00:52:38 --> 00:52:42

Does that mean that in the summertime, this

00:52:42 --> 00:52:44

is going to be your finale, and we're

00:52:44 --> 00:52:45

going to have to scoop up Zabe or

00:52:45 --> 00:52:45

something?

00:52:47 --> 00:52:49

Okay, because do you know these coding guys,

00:52:50 --> 00:52:51

do they actually work?

00:52:51 --> 00:52:53

These guys that are on laptops all the

00:52:53 --> 00:52:53

time, do they work?

00:52:53 --> 00:52:54

We have Zog in the chat right now,

00:52:54 --> 00:52:54

that's this guy.

00:52:56 --> 00:52:57

Zog is here.

00:52:57 --> 00:52:58

He's a Facebook dude.

00:52:59 --> 00:53:00

Meta, working for Meta.

00:53:01 --> 00:53:09

Let's keep looking at, let's take a look

00:53:09 --> 00:53:09

at this.

00:53:10 --> 00:53:12

Oh, this is too long.

00:53:12 --> 00:53:14

I wanted to read this post, but it's

00:53:14 --> 00:53:14

too long.

00:53:17 --> 00:53:18

All right, you want to do a rapid

00:53:18 --> 00:53:19

fire QA now?

00:53:24 --> 00:53:24

To what?

00:53:27 --> 00:53:29

Yeah, we only talked about atheism for like

00:53:29 --> 00:53:36

two seconds, but we did talk about, we

00:53:36 --> 00:53:41

did make mention of the fallacy, the atheist

00:53:41 --> 00:53:48

fallacy that abandoning God because bad things happen,

00:53:49 --> 00:53:50

it does not change your life.

00:53:50 --> 00:53:53

Bad things will still happen, and in fact,

00:53:53 --> 00:53:55

worse things will still happen, right?

00:53:55 --> 00:53:59

And the solution for that for us is

00:53:59 --> 00:54:00

very simple.

00:54:01 --> 00:54:05

God has the right, and he improves us

00:54:05 --> 00:54:05

through pain.

00:54:07 --> 00:54:08

That's how we look at it.

00:54:08 --> 00:54:10

We as a believer, as a Muslim, someone

00:54:10 --> 00:54:13

submitted to Allah, this is how we look

00:54:13 --> 00:54:13

at it.

00:54:15 --> 00:54:19

Allah Ta'ala improves us through painful things

00:54:19 --> 00:54:25

that happen to us, and he stops us

00:54:25 --> 00:54:30

from doing bad things through pain, and he

00:54:30 --> 00:54:32

may punish us through pain.

00:54:33 --> 00:54:35

So, what is the issue here?

00:54:35 --> 00:54:37

There's literally no issue.

00:54:37 --> 00:54:40

RR says, well, first of all, John is

00:54:40 --> 00:54:41

asking about Jummah.

00:54:41 --> 00:54:44

I'll be at Jummah next week, tomorrow, but

00:54:44 --> 00:54:45

I may not give the khutbah.

00:54:45 --> 00:54:47

We may have a guest khatib because Miftah

00:54:47 --> 00:54:48

Institute is in town.

00:54:49 --> 00:54:51

They're going to be doing a whole bunch

00:54:51 --> 00:54:54

of, you know, they got a big event

00:54:54 --> 00:54:55

lined up, and they have shuyukh.

00:54:56 --> 00:54:57

I don't want to say a bunch of

00:54:57 --> 00:54:58

shuyukh because that's not polite.

00:54:58 --> 00:55:00

They have a number of imams in town,

00:55:00 --> 00:55:02

and we're going to be hosting some of

00:55:02 --> 00:55:02

them.

00:55:06 --> 00:55:08

Salam from the Maldives, please visit.

00:55:09 --> 00:55:10

Yeah, as long as you cover the tab.

00:55:11 --> 00:55:14

Maldives, you know how expensive honeymoons in the

00:55:14 --> 00:55:15

Maldives are?

00:55:15 --> 00:55:16

My friend went on a honeymoon in the

00:55:16 --> 00:55:18

Maldives and regretted it.

00:55:18 --> 00:55:20

Maldives is the prettiest island in the world

00:55:20 --> 00:55:21

right now.

00:55:21 --> 00:55:22

You've been there?

00:55:25 --> 00:55:25

Yeah.

00:55:26 --> 00:55:30

Minister of Foreign Affairs at the UN, and

00:55:30 --> 00:55:31

he took you there.

00:55:32 --> 00:55:33

He invited you there.

00:55:33 --> 00:55:35

Maldives is one of the prettiest islands in

00:55:35 --> 00:55:37

the world, if not the prettiest, next to

00:55:37 --> 00:55:38

Hawaii.

00:55:38 --> 00:55:40

But it's also the, you're going to pay

00:55:40 --> 00:55:41

a pretty penny as well.

00:55:43 --> 00:55:44

Yeah, let's do Q&A.

00:55:45 --> 00:55:47

Let's go to RR says, yesterday you asked,

00:55:48 --> 00:55:49

you talked about isaal thawab.

00:55:50 --> 00:55:52

What is isaal thawab?

00:55:52 --> 00:55:55

Isaal thawab is that you do a good

00:55:55 --> 00:55:58

deed, and you pray to Allah to donate

00:55:58 --> 00:56:01

that, the reward of that good deed to

00:56:01 --> 00:56:01

somebody else.

00:56:04 --> 00:56:07

So you do, you recite Surah Yasin, for

00:56:07 --> 00:56:08

example, or you give charity to the poor,

00:56:08 --> 00:56:09

for example.

00:56:12 --> 00:56:14

Before or after, it doesn't matter.

00:56:15 --> 00:56:19

That thawab, thawab means the reward, is yours.

00:56:19 --> 00:56:22

Now you may intend it to somebody else.

00:56:23 --> 00:56:25

Do you have to make the intention beforehand?

00:56:25 --> 00:56:25

No, you don't.

00:56:26 --> 00:56:28

Just like when I earn money, I have

00:56:28 --> 00:56:30

a gig, I earn money.

00:56:30 --> 00:56:32

I don't have to make the intention of

00:56:32 --> 00:56:34

how I'm going to use this money, right?

00:56:35 --> 00:56:36

After I get the check, I said, okay,

00:56:36 --> 00:56:37

I'll give some to you.

00:56:38 --> 00:56:43

So before or after you do the deed,

00:56:44 --> 00:56:47

you say, oh Allah, I have donated the

00:56:47 --> 00:56:52

reward of this recitation or this charity to

00:56:52 --> 00:56:53

so and so.

00:56:54 --> 00:56:58

Mufti Azeemuddin said that he has direct experience

00:56:58 --> 00:57:01

that it softens people's hearts, and he's seen

00:57:01 --> 00:57:02

it himself.

00:57:03 --> 00:57:06

He had two students, two brothers, who their

00:57:06 --> 00:57:09

parents didn't want them studying at Dar Es

00:57:09 --> 00:57:10

Salaam in Chicago.

00:57:11 --> 00:57:12

So he said, do isalat thawab for them,

00:57:13 --> 00:57:15

and he did.

00:57:15 --> 00:57:18

They did, recited Surah Yasin, Surah Ar Rahman,

00:57:18 --> 00:57:21

and then very over time, period of time,

00:57:21 --> 00:57:23

their hearts softened, right?

00:57:24 --> 00:57:25

And they accepted it.

00:57:26 --> 00:57:28

SMM is from Sweden.

00:57:28 --> 00:57:30

As-salamu alaykum, wa alaykum as-salam.

00:57:30 --> 00:57:32

Can you explain the station of al-fana

00:57:32 --> 00:57:35

in the spiritual journey?

00:57:36 --> 00:57:39

Not properly because you would have to been

00:57:39 --> 00:57:41

through that experience, but I could just tell

00:57:41 --> 00:57:44

you the definition of fana is that someone

00:57:44 --> 00:57:47

is so engulfed or their attention, their heart

00:57:47 --> 00:57:50

is so attached to something that that's all

00:57:50 --> 00:57:50

they see.

00:57:53 --> 00:57:56

How to address when little boy hits little

00:57:56 --> 00:57:57

girl siblings?

00:57:57 --> 00:57:58

Oh, you're going to be in trouble.

00:57:58 --> 00:57:59

Can't do that.

00:58:00 --> 00:58:01

You're going to be in trouble.

00:58:01 --> 00:58:01

Go to timeout.

00:58:01 --> 00:58:02

Go to the corner.

00:58:03 --> 00:58:04

Put your head in the corner.

00:58:04 --> 00:58:05

Put your face in the corner.

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

People still do timeout?

00:58:10 --> 00:58:11

You got to do timeout.

00:58:11 --> 00:58:14

You'll put your face in the corner, right?

00:58:17 --> 00:58:23

Qisas is optional, maybe not, but and then

00:58:23 --> 00:58:24

you have to apologize and give your sister

00:58:24 --> 00:58:26

a hug, you know, the regular parenting stuff,

00:58:27 --> 00:58:28

the usual stuff.

00:58:33 --> 00:58:35

Asking related to this, do you still get

00:58:35 --> 00:58:36

rewarded if you do Isaah al-Thawab?

00:58:37 --> 00:58:39

You get rewarded a hundred percent, a hundred

00:58:39 --> 00:58:39

percent.

00:58:40 --> 00:58:41

All right, I'm going to start with the

00:58:41 --> 00:58:42

rapid fire.

00:58:42 --> 00:58:42

Go ahead.

00:58:42 --> 00:58:43

That's a cheat code.

00:58:43 --> 00:58:45

You just get other people.

00:58:45 --> 00:58:45

That's true.

00:58:46 --> 00:58:46

Yeah, that's true.

00:58:47 --> 00:58:48

Let me scroll up, actually.

00:58:49 --> 00:58:49

We had a super chat.

00:58:49 --> 00:58:50

I don't know if you read this.

00:58:50 --> 00:58:51

I actually know you already read this.

00:58:53 --> 00:58:56

OK, what is the position of the Maghrib?

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

Did the Prophet see Allah on the Mi

00:58:58 --> 00:58:58

'raj?

00:59:03 --> 00:59:10

Allah is seen in the next life, not

00:59:10 --> 00:59:10

in this life.

00:59:12 --> 00:59:13

Do you think Muslim couples should get legally

00:59:13 --> 00:59:16

married, particularly in traditional families?

00:59:16 --> 00:59:20

Yes, you should get legally married because that's

00:59:20 --> 00:59:24

how you can ensure your rights that way.

00:59:26 --> 00:59:29

And it's binding in Masajid.

00:59:29 --> 00:59:33

They don't do weddings in Masajid without having

00:59:33 --> 00:59:38

to be civilly certified.

00:59:40 --> 00:59:40

Next question.

00:59:41 --> 00:59:42

What is the status of a non-Muslim

00:59:42 --> 00:59:43

in the afterlife who was on a journey

00:59:43 --> 00:59:45

to learn Islam, left his old faith and

00:59:45 --> 00:59:47

was in the process of seeking guidance with

00:59:47 --> 00:59:48

a pure heart, but he died suddenly?

00:59:50 --> 00:59:51

Repeat the question again, please.

00:59:51 --> 00:59:52

So what is the status, basically, like a

00:59:52 --> 00:59:53

non-Muslim?

00:59:54 --> 00:59:55

What is their status in the afterlife?

00:59:56 --> 00:59:58

They're on a journey to learning Islam and

00:59:58 --> 00:59:59

they left their old faith and they were

00:59:59 --> 01:00:01

in the process of seeking guidance with a

01:00:01 --> 01:00:03

pure heart, I guess intention, but they died

01:00:03 --> 01:00:05

during that, like while they were searching.

01:00:05 --> 01:00:06

Searching for the truth.

01:00:06 --> 01:00:07

We see Allah.

01:00:07 --> 01:00:08

I don't know about that, to be honest

01:00:08 --> 01:00:08

with you.

01:00:10 --> 01:00:12

We leave those matters to Allah, but they

01:00:12 --> 01:00:13

would not be buried with the, with the,

01:00:13 --> 01:00:15

they won't be buried with the Muslims.

01:00:18 --> 01:00:19

What is your position on Ziyarah?

01:00:20 --> 01:00:21

Are you looking at the Prophet's hair?

01:00:24 --> 01:00:26

First of all, when people say they have

01:00:26 --> 01:00:28

the Prophet's hair, like what's the proof of

01:00:28 --> 01:00:28

that?

01:00:28 --> 01:00:30

I'm sure many people get very skeptical about

01:00:30 --> 01:00:33

that, but I mean, what is the loss?

01:00:33 --> 01:00:36

Even if you were to believe it, this

01:00:36 --> 01:00:39

is the Prophet's hair, that's a permissible belief.

01:00:40 --> 01:00:42

If you believe that the source is sound,

01:00:42 --> 01:00:44

is it an obligatory belief?

01:00:44 --> 01:00:45

I don't think you can say, we can

01:00:45 --> 01:00:47

ever say it's wajib to believe that that

01:00:47 --> 01:00:49

specific relic is from the Prophet's life.

01:00:49 --> 01:00:51

It's not wajib to believe that.

01:00:52 --> 01:00:54

It would probably be forbidden to call someone

01:00:54 --> 01:00:56

a liar, right?

01:00:57 --> 01:01:00

And whether you look, and looking at a

01:01:00 --> 01:01:03

hair is permitted, right?

01:01:03 --> 01:01:05

Looking at anything is, looking at a hair

01:01:05 --> 01:01:06

is permitted.

01:01:06 --> 01:01:08

So, at the very least, you're doing something

01:01:08 --> 01:01:08

permitted.

01:01:11 --> 01:01:15

Okay, next question is, any plans for Scotland?

01:01:15 --> 01:01:16

Scotland?

01:01:17 --> 01:01:19

Actually, probably the runner up for this, some,

01:01:19 --> 01:01:23

this spring, you know, this, this spring international

01:01:23 --> 01:01:24

trip I was doing is Guyana.

01:01:25 --> 01:01:27

That's the runner up, that's the, not the

01:01:27 --> 01:01:30

runner up, the, in the lead right now,

01:01:30 --> 01:01:31

it's Guyana.

01:01:32 --> 01:01:35

Yeah, for the summer trip, which is not

01:01:35 --> 01:01:37

really that far, but still should be interesting.

01:01:41 --> 01:01:42

How do I answer a Ghamidi supporter who

01:01:42 --> 01:01:44

answers his lack of endorsement from other scholars

01:01:44 --> 01:01:46

and authority by saying, you know, Abu Hanifa

01:01:46 --> 01:01:47

didn't have this either?

01:01:47 --> 01:01:48

Is this true?

01:01:48 --> 01:01:50

No, Abu Hanifa had so much support.

01:01:51 --> 01:01:55

Let me actually answer the question of, why

01:01:55 --> 01:01:59

isn't it possible in Islam that a minority

01:01:59 --> 01:02:02

got the truth correct and the majority got

01:02:02 --> 01:02:04

the truth wrong?

01:02:05 --> 01:02:07

So, the answer to that is, that is

01:02:07 --> 01:02:10

possible in all fields of life, except Islam.

01:02:11 --> 01:02:14

And that's out of belief, because Allah subhanahu

01:02:14 --> 01:02:18

wa ta'ala says, we have revealed this

01:02:18 --> 01:02:19

dhikr.

01:02:21 --> 01:02:23

And we are the ones who preserve it.

01:02:25 --> 01:02:26

We are preserving it.

01:02:27 --> 01:02:31

So, all of the subjects of Islam are

01:02:31 --> 01:02:31

preserved.

01:02:32 --> 01:02:34

Arabic is preserved, because without Arabic, you can't

01:02:34 --> 01:02:36

memorize, you can't know the meaning of the

01:02:36 --> 01:02:36

Quran.

01:02:37 --> 01:02:43

Vocabulary is preserved, because without vocabulary, you wouldn't

01:02:43 --> 01:02:43

have that.

01:02:44 --> 01:02:45

All the knowledges of Islam.

01:02:46 --> 01:02:47

So, Allah is preserving the truth.

01:02:48 --> 01:02:50

Well, what is the value of preserving the

01:02:50 --> 01:02:50

truth?

01:02:50 --> 01:02:53

So, we can follow it, not preserve it,

01:02:53 --> 01:02:55

and then cover it up with falsehood, and

01:02:55 --> 01:02:57

make it 1% of the ummah.

01:02:57 --> 01:02:59

But we also have ahadith.

01:02:59 --> 01:03:01

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked

01:03:01 --> 01:03:03

many times about, what do we do in

01:03:03 --> 01:03:04

the end of time?

01:03:04 --> 01:03:06

He said, follow my sunnah, who will be

01:03:06 --> 01:03:06

on it?

01:03:06 --> 01:03:07

Al-jamaa.

01:03:08 --> 01:03:12

So, the Prophet foretold that the majority will

01:03:12 --> 01:03:13

always be upon the truth.

01:03:13 --> 01:03:14

Which majority?

01:03:15 --> 01:03:17

A, scholars.

01:03:18 --> 01:03:20

The majority here is talking about scholars, it's

01:03:20 --> 01:03:21

not talking about regular people.

01:03:21 --> 01:03:26

And B, across history, and across the landmass

01:03:26 --> 01:03:27

of the ummah.

01:03:27 --> 01:03:29

Because obviously, if I go to Iran, the

01:03:29 --> 01:03:30

majority is not on the truth.

01:03:30 --> 01:03:33

I can go to any city, and the

01:03:33 --> 01:03:35

majority is astray.

01:03:36 --> 01:03:40

So, when we say jamaa, it's the historical

01:03:40 --> 01:03:43

scholarship of the ummah, across the whole ummah,

01:03:43 --> 01:03:44

is the jamaa.

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

In this context, that's the jamaa.

01:03:48 --> 01:03:52

When people are upon that truth, in general,

01:03:52 --> 01:03:53

we should stick to them.

01:03:55 --> 01:03:56

Alright, so what's the third hadith?

01:03:57 --> 01:04:00

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, ummati

01:04:00 --> 01:04:01

la tajtami'a la dalala.

01:04:02 --> 01:04:04

My ummah will not come together on a

01:04:04 --> 01:04:05

misguidance.

01:04:05 --> 01:04:08

Again, localized ummahs can do that.

01:04:08 --> 01:04:10

Otherwise, you wouldn't have sects.

01:04:10 --> 01:04:12

So, the whole nation of Iran is on

01:04:12 --> 01:04:16

a whole dalala, that we believe is, we

01:04:16 --> 01:04:17

know is a dalala.

01:04:18 --> 01:04:19

So, what we mean by that is, again,

01:04:19 --> 01:04:24

the historically, the scholars of Islam will not

01:04:24 --> 01:04:26

agree to a dalala.

01:04:27 --> 01:04:28

Simple as that.

01:04:29 --> 01:04:30

So, it looks like we got a good

01:04:30 --> 01:04:30

amount of questions.

01:04:30 --> 01:04:31

Alright, let's hear them.

01:04:31 --> 01:04:33

So, let me try to go through them.

01:04:33 --> 01:04:34

Shaykh, can you please give me advice on

01:04:34 --> 01:04:35

my sister?

01:04:35 --> 01:04:36

She disrespects my parents and seems to be

01:04:36 --> 01:04:37

going further away from Islam.

01:04:39 --> 01:04:40

Oh, that's rough.

01:04:40 --> 01:04:41

Omar, while we're answering these questions, can you

01:04:41 --> 01:04:43

fire up the WhatsApp pics I sent you?

01:04:43 --> 01:04:44

Yeah.

01:04:45 --> 01:04:47

Oh, pizza's here from Fahd.

01:04:47 --> 01:04:48

So, next question.

01:04:51 --> 01:04:53

Oh, about the sister, subhanAllah.

01:04:53 --> 01:04:58

Well, I think you got to try to

01:04:58 --> 01:05:00

struggle with your sibling.

01:05:01 --> 01:05:03

I think siblings will tolerate each other a

01:05:03 --> 01:05:04

little bit more than regular other people.

01:05:05 --> 01:05:06

You have to struggle with them.

01:05:06 --> 01:05:09

You don't want them to continue on this

01:05:09 --> 01:05:09

path.

01:05:09 --> 01:05:11

So, you shouldn't let them as much as

01:05:11 --> 01:05:12

possible.

01:05:12 --> 01:05:14

You need to keep them in your orbit,

01:05:15 --> 01:05:15

keep them in your company.

01:05:17 --> 01:05:21

The next question is, comments definitely indicate marriage

01:05:21 --> 01:05:22

is a hot topic and a solution is

01:05:22 --> 01:05:22

needed.

01:05:23 --> 01:05:25

We all need that therapy because the Western

01:05:25 --> 01:05:27

culture is a trap and a mental downfall.

01:05:27 --> 01:05:28

Yeah, that's more of a comment.

01:05:29 --> 01:05:30

Okay, next one.

01:05:31 --> 01:05:32

Can you explain the station of Al-Fanadar,

01:05:32 --> 01:05:34

when he reaches during his spiritual journey?

01:05:34 --> 01:05:36

I talked about that already.

01:05:36 --> 01:05:36

Oh, you mentioned that, okay.

01:05:37 --> 01:05:37

Yeah.

01:05:37 --> 01:05:38

Shaykh, what is your favorite surah?

01:05:42 --> 01:05:45

Surah Alam Nashrah, because it takes hardship and

01:05:45 --> 01:05:47

transforms it into ease.

01:05:48 --> 01:05:50

And people are always in hardship, right?

01:05:50 --> 01:05:52

And so, when you're in hardship, you go

01:05:52 --> 01:05:52

to Alam Nashrah.

01:05:54 --> 01:05:55

Who's your favorite reciter?

01:05:57 --> 01:06:00

I can't say I have one favorite reciter,

01:06:00 --> 01:06:00

to be honest.

01:06:00 --> 01:06:05

I like Muhammad Adil Al-Kalbani, controversial person

01:06:05 --> 01:06:08

out of Saudi, but his recitation is so

01:06:08 --> 01:06:08

good.

01:06:08 --> 01:06:09

It's pretty soothing.

01:06:12 --> 01:06:14

No, I never heard his recitation.

01:06:19 --> 01:06:23

Next question is, can you elaborate the relationship

01:06:23 --> 01:06:25

between the Aqal, the Qalb, and the Hawa?

01:06:27 --> 01:06:30

The heart is, there's a lot of different

01:06:30 --> 01:06:31

definitions of the heart, but some people say

01:06:31 --> 01:06:34

it's what carries everything, what holds everything.

01:06:35 --> 01:06:39

Your Hawa is your desires, your whimsical desires.

01:06:40 --> 01:06:43

There's the Shahwa, Al-Nafs, and there's Hawa

01:06:43 --> 01:06:43

Al-Nafs.

01:06:44 --> 01:06:47

The Shahwat have never changed since the dawn

01:06:47 --> 01:06:47

of time.

01:06:48 --> 01:06:52

Like sexual desires, desire of laziness, desire for

01:06:52 --> 01:06:55

power, all those desires have never changed and

01:06:55 --> 01:06:55

will never change.

01:06:56 --> 01:07:00

All those Shahwat that all human beings have,

01:07:02 --> 01:07:05

they have benefits.

01:07:06 --> 01:07:07

You actually have to have them.

01:07:08 --> 01:07:10

Life will not continue without them.

01:07:11 --> 01:07:15

They're like electricity, gas, fire, water in your

01:07:15 --> 01:07:16

home.

01:07:16 --> 01:07:19

If you notice these things, you have to

01:07:19 --> 01:07:20

have them in your home, right?

01:07:20 --> 01:07:22

But you also have to have them tightly

01:07:22 --> 01:07:23

controlled.

01:07:23 --> 01:07:25

If you have a leak, what happens?

01:07:25 --> 01:07:26

It's a disaster.

01:07:26 --> 01:07:29

If the gas leaks, you'll be dead in

01:07:29 --> 01:07:31

a few hours.

01:07:31 --> 01:07:33

If fire gets out of control, you're in

01:07:33 --> 01:07:34

big trouble.

01:07:35 --> 01:07:38

If the electricity is out of control, you're

01:07:38 --> 01:07:39

in big trouble.

01:07:39 --> 01:07:42

So the Shahwat, the desires of the Nafs,

01:07:45 --> 01:07:48

the desires of the Nafs are just like

01:07:48 --> 01:07:50

these vital important things.

01:07:50 --> 01:07:53

If people didn't have sexual desires, you wouldn't

01:07:53 --> 01:07:55

have children, you wouldn't have marriage, you wouldn't

01:07:55 --> 01:07:56

have a human species.

01:07:56 --> 01:07:59

If you didn't love food, you'd die.

01:08:00 --> 01:08:01

If you didn't have a little bit of

01:08:01 --> 01:08:04

greed, you wouldn't want to go to work

01:08:04 --> 01:08:06

and make money and start businesses.

01:08:07 --> 01:08:14

So these Shahwat really need to exist, but

01:08:14 --> 01:08:15

they need to be controlled.

01:08:16 --> 01:08:18

When they're controlled, they only bring good.

01:08:19 --> 01:08:22

When they're out of control, they're all destruction.

01:08:24 --> 01:08:26

So now the Hawa Nafs is a different

01:08:26 --> 01:08:27

thing.

01:08:27 --> 01:08:30

Hawa is not a beneficial desire.

01:08:31 --> 01:08:32

It's whimsical.

01:08:32 --> 01:08:37

It could be lawful or unlawful, and it's

01:08:37 --> 01:08:38

not something that's static.

01:08:39 --> 01:08:41

So the trends of today are not going

01:08:41 --> 01:08:43

to be like the trends of the 1980s.

01:08:44 --> 01:08:47

Hawa is like trends of the wind.

01:08:47 --> 01:08:49

They come, they get really strong, and then

01:08:49 --> 01:08:49

they disappear.

01:08:50 --> 01:08:52

So in the 70s, everyone likes to wear

01:08:52 --> 01:08:52

bell bottoms.

01:08:52 --> 01:08:53

These are Hawa.

01:08:54 --> 01:08:56

And what are the philosophical trends of the

01:08:56 --> 01:08:56

70s?

01:08:56 --> 01:08:57

Who knows, whatever they are.

01:08:58 --> 01:09:00

Then there are philosophical trends today.

01:09:01 --> 01:09:03

Well, there's transgenderism today that didn't exist back

01:09:03 --> 01:09:03

then.

01:09:04 --> 01:09:06

You go to the 70s, and those kids

01:09:06 --> 01:09:09

are the most corrupt hippie in the world.

01:09:10 --> 01:09:12

All free * and drugs, but you tell

01:09:12 --> 01:09:14

him, let's dress up like a woman.

01:09:16 --> 01:09:17

Or you chop your * off.

01:09:18 --> 01:09:19

They'll be disgusted.

01:09:26 --> 01:09:28

Well, it can corrupt your natural desires for

01:09:28 --> 01:09:29

sure.

01:09:30 --> 01:09:31

All messed up now.

01:09:32 --> 01:09:35

But the whimsical, the Hawa Nafs, it never

01:09:35 --> 01:09:37

repeats itself in a sense.

01:09:37 --> 01:09:39

It's always unique to every generation, and it

01:09:39 --> 01:09:41

doesn't have an intrinsic benefit.

01:09:41 --> 01:09:45

We could say sexual desire has an intrinsic

01:09:45 --> 01:09:46

benefit.

01:09:47 --> 01:09:48

It will produce more humans.

01:09:49 --> 01:09:51

It could be out of control and be

01:09:51 --> 01:09:53

crazy and cause all sorts of diseases and

01:09:53 --> 01:09:55

children out of wedlock and all that.

01:09:56 --> 01:09:59

But the Hawa Nafs doesn't have an intrinsic

01:09:59 --> 01:09:59

benefit.

01:10:00 --> 01:10:02

And that's the Shahwa and the Hawa.

01:10:02 --> 01:10:05

Well, the Aql is what keeps these in

01:10:05 --> 01:10:06

order.

01:10:06 --> 01:10:07

The Aql.

01:10:07 --> 01:10:09

And the heart has a role.

01:10:09 --> 01:10:12

If we define the heart as that which

01:10:12 --> 01:10:18

connects or can connect to the unseen, because

01:10:18 --> 01:10:21

through remembrance of Allah, the heart is affected

01:10:21 --> 01:10:23

and the heart can calm the desires.

01:10:24 --> 01:10:27

Once you become conscious of Allah, your desires

01:10:27 --> 01:10:29

will be easy to control.

01:10:30 --> 01:10:31

So that's the answer to that question.

01:10:31 --> 01:10:33

I know we're supposed to be on rapid

01:10:33 --> 01:10:35

fire, but let's look at this picture.

01:10:35 --> 01:10:38

I told you guys, we're really...

01:10:38 --> 01:10:39

A couple of things at Safina Saidi, and

01:10:39 --> 01:10:41

I'm personally getting very interested in.

01:10:41 --> 01:10:44

We got to pay attention to the marriage

01:10:44 --> 01:10:47

situation, but we also have to take care

01:10:47 --> 01:10:49

of ourselves physically.

01:10:50 --> 01:10:52

Physical fitness is part of marriage.

01:10:53 --> 01:10:55

It makes you better off, probably.

01:10:55 --> 01:10:57

Your wife will like you a bit more,

01:10:57 --> 01:11:00

maybe, if you're physically fit, and vice versa

01:11:00 --> 01:11:00

too.

01:11:00 --> 01:11:05

So that's me and that's Hassan, who runs

01:11:05 --> 01:11:08

Prophetic Living, and that's Mustafa B.

01:11:11 --> 01:11:12

There's Hassan right there.

01:11:12 --> 01:11:14

Yeah, that's Hassan right there.

01:11:16 --> 01:11:19

And so these are the brothers that took

01:11:19 --> 01:11:20

part in the race.

01:11:20 --> 01:11:21

It wasn't a race.

01:11:21 --> 01:11:22

It was a run.

01:11:23 --> 01:11:24

I'd lie if I said that I ran

01:11:24 --> 01:11:24

the whole thing.

01:11:24 --> 01:11:25

I walked a little bit.

01:11:26 --> 01:11:27

Or a lot.

01:11:27 --> 01:11:32

But I did do the 5K, and then

01:11:32 --> 01:11:33

there was a whole bunch of people who

01:11:33 --> 01:11:34

did it.

01:11:34 --> 01:11:36

Go to the next picture, and that's a

01:11:36 --> 01:11:38

lot of the kids who did it.

01:11:38 --> 01:11:39

That's just the children.

01:11:39 --> 01:11:42

The children had their own run, and we're

01:11:42 --> 01:11:43

going to keep...

01:11:43 --> 01:11:44

I think we want to do that.

01:11:46 --> 01:11:47

We want to do this here.

01:11:48 --> 01:11:49

We want to do this.

01:11:50 --> 01:11:52

114 is an organization that focuses on Hifz

01:11:52 --> 01:11:58

al-Quran and running races, or running, getting

01:11:58 --> 01:12:00

physically fit.

01:12:01 --> 01:12:03

Empirical Miracle says there are two voices coming

01:12:03 --> 01:12:04

in for some reason.

01:12:05 --> 01:12:05

There's a delay.

01:12:09 --> 01:12:10

Double audio.

01:12:16 --> 01:12:17

Ali Ahmed.

01:12:17 --> 01:12:19

Oh, maybe one of the other mics is

01:12:19 --> 01:12:19

on.

01:12:19 --> 01:12:20

That's why.

01:12:23 --> 01:12:27

Ali Ahmed, your dream means exactly what you

01:12:27 --> 01:12:27

see.

01:12:28 --> 01:12:28

That's it.

01:12:30 --> 01:12:35

Rendad says, if you will major sin after

01:12:35 --> 01:12:39

marriage, should you disclose your habits before marriage?

01:12:39 --> 01:12:42

Is it worse to condemn them by not

01:12:42 --> 01:12:45

telling them, or worse to expose your sins

01:12:45 --> 01:12:46

but be fair to them?

01:12:48 --> 01:12:49

Okay.

01:12:49 --> 01:12:52

Let's say a man, he's a serial womanizer.

01:12:53 --> 01:12:55

You should only marry a woman from that

01:12:55 --> 01:12:55

world.

01:12:56 --> 01:12:59

Go to the club world and marry a

01:12:59 --> 01:13:01

penitent woman from there.

01:13:01 --> 01:13:02

She'll understand.

01:13:03 --> 01:13:05

But don't come and marry the purest woman

01:13:05 --> 01:13:08

in the town that if a brother says,

01:13:08 --> 01:13:11

she says, because you won't relate.

01:13:12 --> 01:13:15

Your little slip up is a tidal wave

01:13:15 --> 01:13:18

in her pure world.

01:13:19 --> 01:13:21

She will never understand that.

01:13:22 --> 01:13:28

So, you should marry someone who has the

01:13:28 --> 01:13:33

same background as you.

01:13:37 --> 01:13:39

But I wouldn't do either of what you're

01:13:39 --> 01:13:39

saying.

01:13:40 --> 01:13:42

You're saying, should I tell her?

01:13:43 --> 01:13:45

I'm sort of a recovering womanizer.

01:13:46 --> 01:13:48

Or should I hide it?

01:13:49 --> 01:13:52

And then every time we walk in the

01:13:52 --> 01:13:54

streets, some woman says, hey, how are you?

01:13:54 --> 01:13:55

I haven't heard from you in a long

01:13:55 --> 01:13:55

time.

01:13:56 --> 01:13:57

All right.

01:13:59 --> 01:14:01

You forgot your watch in my apartment.

01:14:02 --> 01:14:03

That's going to be a disaster too.

01:14:04 --> 01:14:05

So, neither of those.

01:14:13 --> 01:14:14

Yes.

01:14:17 --> 01:14:17

Okay.

01:14:20 --> 01:14:22

Someone was asking a lot of questions.

01:14:22 --> 01:14:23

All right.

01:14:23 --> 01:14:24

Let me take this question while you're at

01:14:24 --> 01:14:25

it because this is close.

01:14:25 --> 01:14:28

Does that apply to brothers dealing with *

01:14:28 --> 01:14:29

addiction?

01:14:30 --> 01:14:33

No, you should not say that to people

01:14:33 --> 01:14:35

that you have this addiction.

01:14:38 --> 01:14:39

It was not.

01:14:39 --> 01:14:40

You should not say that to people if

01:14:40 --> 01:14:40

you have that.

01:14:40 --> 01:14:41

You should fight that.

01:14:42 --> 01:14:43

You have to fight that.

01:14:44 --> 01:14:47

And that doesn't have the application of the

01:14:47 --> 01:14:47

previous one.

01:14:48 --> 01:14:50

Because the club scene and the sleeping around

01:14:50 --> 01:14:52

scene, they know where to find each other.

01:14:53 --> 01:14:53

Right?

01:14:53 --> 01:14:55

And you can find a Muslima who's lived

01:14:55 --> 01:14:57

that life just like you and marry her.

01:14:57 --> 01:14:59

But you don't know where the * scene.

01:14:59 --> 01:15:01

There is no * scene to say that

01:15:01 --> 01:15:03

I'm going to find another sister who's addicted

01:15:03 --> 01:15:04

just like me.

01:15:05 --> 01:15:07

You don't know that.

01:15:07 --> 01:15:08

So, I would just fight that.

01:15:10 --> 01:15:12

Someone's asking, does Islam tell us why this

01:15:12 --> 01:15:13

whole *, heaven system and the test of

01:15:13 --> 01:15:15

life and everything of this was put in

01:15:15 --> 01:15:15

place?

01:15:15 --> 01:15:16

Or do we prefer silence as Allah does

01:15:16 --> 01:15:17

what he pleases?

01:15:17 --> 01:15:19

Why is the system of heaven and *

01:15:19 --> 01:15:19

put in place?

01:15:19 --> 01:15:20

It's a gift for us.

01:15:22 --> 01:15:23

It's a gift.

01:15:24 --> 01:15:25

It's a gift.

01:15:25 --> 01:15:28

The only way to accept the gift is

01:15:28 --> 01:15:32

to face the test because paradise must be

01:15:32 --> 01:15:32

earned.

01:15:32 --> 01:15:35

It's one of those good things you cannot

01:15:35 --> 01:15:36

enjoy except by earning it.

01:15:38 --> 01:15:39

It must be earned.

01:15:40 --> 01:15:41

And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

01:15:42 --> 01:15:44

that this life is like a banquet.

01:15:46 --> 01:15:49

And a man goes and he invites everyone

01:15:49 --> 01:15:52

to a huge banquet for free.

01:15:53 --> 01:15:57

Whoever accepts, eats from the banquet.

01:15:58 --> 01:16:00

And whoever rejects it, stays hungry.

01:16:01 --> 01:16:04

So, you either accept it or you don't

01:16:04 --> 01:16:04

accept it.

01:16:05 --> 01:16:07

If you don't accept an invitation from the

01:16:07 --> 01:16:09

king, that is a crime.

01:16:09 --> 01:16:12

If the king comes and says, I have

01:16:12 --> 01:16:14

a bag of a million dollars for you.

01:16:15 --> 01:16:16

Nah, I'm good.

01:16:16 --> 01:16:17

I'll stay poor.

01:16:17 --> 01:16:18

That's a crime.

01:16:18 --> 01:16:20

That is a wonderful thing that's being done

01:16:20 --> 01:16:21

for you here.

01:16:21 --> 01:16:24

Same thing, God is offering you paradise, but

01:16:24 --> 01:16:24

you got to pay the price.

01:16:25 --> 01:16:27

You got to go through the test.

01:16:28 --> 01:16:29

And he made the choice for you.

01:16:30 --> 01:16:31

But it looks like that.

01:16:31 --> 01:16:34

In fact, the Quran tells us that we

01:16:34 --> 01:16:35

chose to accept it.

01:16:35 --> 01:16:37

Because many people say, I didn't consent to

01:16:37 --> 01:16:38

this life.

01:16:38 --> 01:16:40

I didn't consent to being tested.

01:16:40 --> 01:16:41

Yes, you did.

01:16:41 --> 01:16:42

You just don't remember it.

01:16:44 --> 01:16:45

That's a transmitted proof.

01:16:46 --> 01:16:46

We believe that.

01:16:46 --> 01:16:47

They're not going to believe that.

01:16:47 --> 01:16:49

That's not a proof that I can display

01:16:49 --> 01:16:51

to them from reason or demonstration.

01:16:51 --> 01:16:52

It's only from transmission.

01:16:52 --> 01:16:56

The Quran says, the mountains rejected it, the

01:16:56 --> 01:17:00

heavens rejected it, the earth rejected it, but

01:17:00 --> 01:17:02

the human being accepted it.

01:17:03 --> 01:17:08

The human being accepted the test, the amanah,

01:17:08 --> 01:17:09

consciousness, free will.

01:17:10 --> 01:17:12

If we pass this test, we get eternal

01:17:12 --> 01:17:13

reward.

01:17:14 --> 01:17:15

And if we fail it, you get eternal

01:17:15 --> 01:17:16

punishment.

01:17:17 --> 01:17:19

So many people are afraid to say you

01:17:19 --> 01:17:19

get eternal punishment.

01:17:22 --> 01:17:25

You disrespected the infinite God.

01:17:26 --> 01:17:28

You disrespected the infinite.

01:17:28 --> 01:17:29

The punishment will be eternal.

01:17:30 --> 01:17:31

That's the idea.

01:17:39 --> 01:17:43

Someone's saying, is anxiety a sign of weak

01:17:43 --> 01:17:44

a man or holding a low opinion of

01:17:44 --> 01:17:46

Allah, but having anxiety itself can push you

01:17:46 --> 01:17:47

to do excessive?

01:17:47 --> 01:17:48

Repeat it again.

01:17:48 --> 01:17:50

Is anxiety a sign of weak a man

01:17:50 --> 01:17:51

or holding a low opinion of Allah, but

01:17:51 --> 01:17:53

having anxiety itself can push you to do

01:17:53 --> 01:17:54

excessive?

01:18:01 --> 01:18:03

I think anxiety should be treated medically too.

01:18:05 --> 01:18:10

I think you should not discard treatment, but

01:18:10 --> 01:18:13

you should also keep spiritual treatment, which is

01:18:13 --> 01:18:13

dhikrillah.

01:18:15 --> 01:18:18

I think anxiety has to do with your

01:18:18 --> 01:18:18

attention.

01:18:18 --> 01:18:20

Where are you directing your attention?

01:18:20 --> 01:18:22

Are you directing your attention to the bad

01:18:22 --> 01:18:24

things that are happening in life or the

01:18:24 --> 01:18:25

uncertainties that are happening in life?

01:18:25 --> 01:18:29

Or are you directing your attention to in

01:18:29 --> 01:18:31

whose hands is my life?

01:18:31 --> 01:18:34

The Prophet ﷺ used to say, the one

01:18:34 --> 01:18:37

in whose soul is my hands, in whose

01:18:37 --> 01:18:38

hands is my soul.

01:18:42 --> 01:18:43

I'm in Allah's hands.

01:18:44 --> 01:18:45

My soul is in Allah's hands.

01:18:45 --> 01:18:46

Our affair is in Allah's hands.

01:18:48 --> 01:18:49

So, we're in good hands.

01:18:50 --> 01:18:52

If you keep thinking about that, your anxiety

01:18:52 --> 01:18:52

should go down.

01:18:53 --> 01:18:55

Someone's asking advice to we're not feeling nihilistic.

01:18:57 --> 01:19:01

How do you, feeling nihilistic?

01:19:03 --> 01:19:05

The definition of nihilism being like nothing has

01:19:05 --> 01:19:06

a point?

01:19:06 --> 01:19:07

Yeah, like purposeless.

01:19:07 --> 01:19:08

We are too busy asking questions.

01:19:08 --> 01:19:09

We're too busy as Muslims to think that

01:19:09 --> 01:19:11

life has no point because we're being literally

01:19:11 --> 01:19:12

driven to *.

01:19:13 --> 01:19:13

Imagine that.

01:19:13 --> 01:19:15

You're not going to feel nihilistic anymore.

01:19:16 --> 01:19:17

You have a serious purpose now to avoid

01:19:17 --> 01:19:18

this punishment.

01:19:20 --> 01:19:22

And that's one of the reasons * exists,

01:19:22 --> 01:19:23

is to cut out the choice in the

01:19:23 --> 01:19:24

matter.

01:19:24 --> 01:19:26

If I have a matter that there's a

01:19:26 --> 01:19:30

wonderful banquet or I can stay home, I

01:19:30 --> 01:19:31

actually, that's a choice.

01:19:31 --> 01:19:33

I could sit up sitting on my couch.

01:19:33 --> 01:19:35

I can order out Uber Eats.

01:19:36 --> 01:19:37

I can order some Indian food.

01:19:38 --> 01:19:39

Some Desi food.

01:19:40 --> 01:19:42

I can order ice cream after that.

01:19:42 --> 01:19:44

Maybe if I'm really in a wacky mood,

01:19:44 --> 01:19:47

I'll order Faluda.

01:19:49 --> 01:19:50

Like a sixth grade recipe.

01:19:50 --> 01:19:52

Let's put the vermicelli with the ice cream

01:19:52 --> 01:19:53

with the jello.

01:19:53 --> 01:19:54

Sixth grader made this, right?

01:19:55 --> 01:19:55

It's good though.

01:19:56 --> 01:19:57

That's the problem.

01:19:57 --> 01:19:59

You start realizing that I actually like this

01:19:59 --> 01:19:59

stuff, right?

01:19:59 --> 01:20:01

But I tell them to hold the jello.

01:20:01 --> 01:20:02

The jello is going too far.

01:20:03 --> 01:20:05

You put vermicelli with ice cream with I

01:20:05 --> 01:20:05

don't know what.

01:20:06 --> 01:20:07

I can get all that.

01:20:08 --> 01:20:09

What's with the jello?

01:20:09 --> 01:20:10

I've never eaten the jello.

01:20:10 --> 01:20:11

It's a third grade recipe.

01:20:11 --> 01:20:12

I'm telling you.

01:20:12 --> 01:20:12

I think that's new because I've never eaten

01:20:12 --> 01:20:13

the jello.

01:20:13 --> 01:20:14

Oh, they put the jello in.

01:20:14 --> 01:20:16

I say hold the jello, right?

01:20:16 --> 01:20:17

I'm not that silly.

01:20:18 --> 01:20:19

I'm not in that silly of a mood.

01:20:19 --> 01:20:21

But I could sit at home and I'll

01:20:21 --> 01:20:22

have a great time.

01:20:23 --> 01:20:25

Or I can get dressed and I can

01:20:25 --> 01:20:26

go to the party.

01:20:26 --> 01:20:27

I have a choice.

01:20:28 --> 01:20:29

Allah took the choice out of it.

01:20:30 --> 01:20:33

You go to the party or some thugs

01:20:33 --> 01:20:34

are going to come and beat you up.

01:20:35 --> 01:20:36

All right, I don't have no choice now.

01:20:36 --> 01:20:37

I'll go to the party, right?

01:20:37 --> 01:20:40

I think hellfire is a wonderful thing.

01:20:41 --> 01:20:43

It takes the choice out of my mind,

01:20:43 --> 01:20:43

right?

01:20:47 --> 01:20:48

So, that's how we look at it.

01:20:49 --> 01:20:49

What was the other question?

01:20:50 --> 01:20:51

I mean, we have a bunch more.

01:20:54 --> 01:20:56

Do I want to say in the prayer

01:20:56 --> 01:20:56

to the right?

01:20:58 --> 01:20:58

Yes, we do.

01:21:00 --> 01:21:03

And if there's someone to the left, you

01:21:03 --> 01:21:03

say it to the left.

01:21:03 --> 01:21:05

If there's an imam, you say it in

01:21:05 --> 01:21:05

the middle.

01:21:05 --> 01:21:07

So, you have potentially three Taslim.

01:21:07 --> 01:21:09

As-salamu alaykum removes you from the salah.

01:21:10 --> 01:21:10

That's it.

01:21:13 --> 01:21:16

Is it permissible to purchase a cat?

01:21:17 --> 01:21:19

Is it permissible to purchase a cat?

01:21:25 --> 01:21:27

It's makrooh to trap the cat.

01:21:29 --> 01:21:31

You're not going to be sinful for buying

01:21:31 --> 01:21:31

it.

01:21:32 --> 01:21:34

But the trapping of the cat is makrooh

01:21:34 --> 01:21:36

to the degree that the cat suffers.

01:21:36 --> 01:21:39

If the cat's living a fine life with

01:21:39 --> 01:21:41

you, then it's only lightly discouraged.

01:21:46 --> 01:21:47

Empirical miracles.

01:21:49 --> 01:21:52

Why saying imams don't care about convert women?

01:21:53 --> 01:21:55

I don't think that imams should get so

01:21:55 --> 01:21:56

heavily involved with convert women.

01:21:57 --> 01:21:59

Other women should get involved with convert women.

01:22:01 --> 01:22:02

That's really how it should be.

01:22:03 --> 01:22:05

The sisters have to be involved in the

01:22:05 --> 01:22:06

life of the other sisters.

01:22:10 --> 01:22:12

Okay, I'm going to try to go more

01:22:12 --> 01:22:12

down.

01:22:13 --> 01:22:14

Rendad, which is worse?

01:22:15 --> 01:22:17

If you will choose one, are they equally

01:22:17 --> 01:22:18

as bad?

01:22:20 --> 01:22:23

I guess you would have to say to

01:22:23 --> 01:22:24

the wali.

01:22:25 --> 01:22:27

You know, tell your daughter, I did have

01:22:27 --> 01:22:28

a little bit of a past.

01:22:29 --> 01:22:30

If you have to go that route.

01:22:31 --> 01:22:32

Let's say you're in the middle of the

01:22:32 --> 01:22:32

talks.

01:22:32 --> 01:22:33

It's too late now.

01:22:33 --> 01:22:34

We're going to get married.

01:22:34 --> 01:22:34

All right, fine.

01:22:35 --> 01:22:37

You have to disclose, I think, to the

01:22:37 --> 01:22:37

wali.

01:22:38 --> 01:22:40

I little did some things in the past

01:22:40 --> 01:22:41

that was not good.

01:22:41 --> 01:22:43

That's better than ghish.

01:22:45 --> 01:22:46

Because you're penitent, right?

01:22:47 --> 01:22:48

So you're not disclosing your sins.

01:22:48 --> 01:22:50

You're disclosing that I have a past that

01:22:50 --> 01:22:50

may come up.

01:22:51 --> 01:22:53

And he may say, okay, well, I need

01:22:53 --> 01:22:54

you to get tested for STDs.

01:22:57 --> 01:22:58

That's a fair request.

01:23:03 --> 01:23:05

If someone repented for major sins in this

01:23:05 --> 01:23:06

life, will they still face punishment in the

01:23:06 --> 01:23:06

grave?

01:23:08 --> 01:23:09

If someone did what?

01:23:09 --> 01:23:09

Repented?

01:23:10 --> 01:23:11

If they repented from major sins?

01:23:12 --> 01:23:13

No, inshallah, if he repented from major sins,

01:23:13 --> 01:23:14

inshallah, he will not be punished.

01:23:15 --> 01:23:16

What about without a wali?

01:23:16 --> 01:23:20

Converts, for example, an imam can ask that

01:23:20 --> 01:23:20

for the woman.

01:23:21 --> 01:23:23

An imam should go to the other brothers

01:23:23 --> 01:23:27

in the community and see who will act

01:23:27 --> 01:23:27

as the wali.

01:23:28 --> 01:23:29

The wali is important.

01:23:29 --> 01:23:32

The wali's job is to do a background

01:23:32 --> 01:23:35

check on the husband, to protect the woman's

01:23:35 --> 01:23:39

rights in the negotiation of the mahr, to

01:23:39 --> 01:23:42

have all the tough talks that are needed

01:23:42 --> 01:23:44

in the negotiation before marriage.

01:23:45 --> 01:23:47

And then after marriage, if she has problems

01:23:47 --> 01:23:50

or she's being abused, she doesn't have a

01:23:50 --> 01:23:51

dad to go to, she has to go

01:23:51 --> 01:23:51

to that wali.

01:23:52 --> 01:23:54

Every masjid should assign that.

01:23:56 --> 01:23:58

Every masjid should assign a wali for a

01:23:58 --> 01:24:00

convert sister to have.

01:24:01 --> 01:24:02

Are you deficient if you recite Quran daily

01:24:02 --> 01:24:04

as dhikr, but don't do other dhikr very

01:24:04 --> 01:24:05

much?

01:24:05 --> 01:24:05

Of course not.

01:24:05 --> 01:24:07

You're not deficient if you recite Quran, but

01:24:07 --> 01:24:08

not other dhikr.

01:24:09 --> 01:24:09

Of course not.

01:24:10 --> 01:24:12

If a Muslim man wanted to get married,

01:24:12 --> 01:24:13

is he allowed to see the hair?

01:24:14 --> 01:24:15

If not, what do they do to make

01:24:15 --> 01:24:16

sure they're attracted?

01:24:17 --> 01:24:19

What do you do to make sure you're

01:24:19 --> 01:24:21

attracted to a woman if you can't see

01:24:21 --> 01:24:21

her hair?

01:24:23 --> 01:24:24

You don't get that right.

01:24:25 --> 01:24:26

The face and the hands.

01:24:27 --> 01:24:29

The face will tell you what they look

01:24:29 --> 01:24:31

like and the hands will tell you a

01:24:31 --> 01:24:34

little bit of what their body is like.

01:24:37 --> 01:24:38

Rounded, very skinny.

01:24:39 --> 01:24:41

That's what our ulama say.

01:24:41 --> 01:24:44

The face shows the appearance, but you don't

01:24:44 --> 01:24:44

get to see the hair.

01:24:45 --> 01:24:46

Sorry to tell you that.

01:24:46 --> 01:24:47

I mean, you mentioned this a few times.

01:24:48 --> 01:24:49

We're so picky nowadays where we can pick

01:24:49 --> 01:24:52

our Starbucks latte, like what's in the milk.

01:24:52 --> 01:24:52

That's true.

01:24:53 --> 01:24:54

It's not Build-A-Bear, right?

01:24:54 --> 01:24:55

If you're attracted, it's fine.

01:24:55 --> 01:24:57

Bro, she's not seeing your chest.

01:24:58 --> 01:25:00

You want her to measure your forearm?

01:25:00 --> 01:25:00

Exactly.

01:25:00 --> 01:25:03

She's not seeing the things that she's going

01:25:03 --> 01:25:03

to enjoy from you.

01:25:04 --> 01:25:04

Right?

01:25:05 --> 01:25:06

It's either yes or no.

01:25:06 --> 01:25:07

Like, you don't need...

01:25:07 --> 01:25:07

It's not Build-A-Bear.

01:25:07 --> 01:25:08

Yeah.

01:25:09 --> 01:25:12

Yeah, Candace Owens had a post the other

01:25:12 --> 01:25:12

day.

01:25:12 --> 01:25:13

She said, why did our grandparents not get

01:25:13 --> 01:25:14

divorced?

01:25:14 --> 01:25:17

They're not scrolling through images of women all

01:25:17 --> 01:25:17

day.

01:25:18 --> 01:25:20

The guy gets to see one woman in

01:25:20 --> 01:25:20

his whole life.

01:25:22 --> 01:25:24

It's not directed to the questioner.

01:25:24 --> 01:25:26

Yeah, that wasn't directed, but I'm just saying

01:25:26 --> 01:25:26

in general.

01:25:27 --> 01:25:28

Next question.

01:25:29 --> 01:25:31

A friend of mine is actively engaged in

01:25:31 --> 01:25:31

zina.

01:25:31 --> 01:25:32

My question is, how do I deal with

01:25:32 --> 01:25:32

this?

01:25:32 --> 01:25:35

He keeps asking me if Sharia police is

01:25:35 --> 01:25:36

going to knock on his door if he

01:25:36 --> 01:25:37

comes to my country alone.

01:25:37 --> 01:25:38

Am I being an accomplice?

01:25:39 --> 01:25:39

What?

01:25:40 --> 01:25:42

Guys actively engage in zina.

01:25:43 --> 01:25:44

He keeps asking me if Sharia police is

01:25:44 --> 01:25:46

going to knock on his door if he

01:25:46 --> 01:25:47

comes to my country.

01:25:48 --> 01:25:49

Tell him, yeah.

01:25:50 --> 01:25:51

Scare him off.

01:25:52 --> 01:25:53

Scare him off.

01:25:56 --> 01:25:56

You can...

01:25:58 --> 01:26:01

Someone who's sowing corruption in the land, like

01:26:01 --> 01:26:03

sleeping around with the women of the country,

01:26:04 --> 01:26:06

you cannot let him stay at your house

01:26:06 --> 01:26:08

and guard him and protect him and help

01:26:08 --> 01:26:11

him because he's going to go and spread

01:26:11 --> 01:26:12

this facade all over the earth.

01:26:13 --> 01:26:14

Keep going.

01:26:14 --> 01:26:16

Can we dedicate an umrah for our dead

01:26:16 --> 01:26:18

grandparents even though they didn't pray their salat

01:26:18 --> 01:26:18

regularly?

01:26:20 --> 01:26:21

Say again.

01:26:21 --> 01:26:23

Can we dedicate an umrah for our dead

01:26:23 --> 01:26:25

grandparents even if they didn't pray salat regularly?

01:26:25 --> 01:26:27

You can, but you have to do your

01:26:27 --> 01:26:28

umrah first.

01:26:31 --> 01:26:34

Is jinn catching like Sheikh Ben Halima popularized

01:26:34 --> 01:26:34

aloud?

01:26:35 --> 01:26:35

I don't know who that is, but...

01:26:35 --> 01:26:36

No, I don't know anything about that.

01:26:36 --> 01:26:37

I think there's a lot of...

01:26:37 --> 01:26:38

Don't get involved with jinn.

01:26:39 --> 01:26:42

Stay far, far, far, far away from jinn.

01:26:43 --> 01:26:45

Can we accept the belief that the Prophet

01:26:45 --> 01:26:47

ﷺ has the ability to attend certain majalis

01:26:47 --> 01:26:48

and sit on a chair over there?

01:26:48 --> 01:26:49

That's just a question that's going to get

01:26:49 --> 01:26:51

us involved in some massive debate.

01:26:51 --> 01:26:52

I'm not going to answer that.

01:26:53 --> 01:26:54

I do have a belief about that, but

01:26:54 --> 01:26:55

I'm not going to go into that.

01:26:55 --> 01:27:01

You know, someone recently said that certain questions

01:27:01 --> 01:27:02

may be asked innocently and you answer them

01:27:02 --> 01:27:06

innocently, but it sparks a fitnah.

01:27:06 --> 01:27:07

And so therefore, we're not going to answer

01:27:07 --> 01:27:10

any of those masa'il that are just

01:27:10 --> 01:27:11

going to go back and forth between groups.

01:27:12 --> 01:27:14

And that's not an offense to anybody who's

01:27:14 --> 01:27:15

asking the question.

01:27:15 --> 01:27:17

Feel free to ask any other question.

01:27:20 --> 01:27:21

You have a question?

01:27:21 --> 01:27:21

Go ahead.

01:27:22 --> 01:27:23

Is it good to make dua or adhkar

01:27:23 --> 01:27:26

to increase rizq and barakah?

01:27:26 --> 01:27:26

Istighfar.

01:27:26 --> 01:27:28

Istighfar increases rizq.

01:27:32 --> 01:27:33

All right, rapid fire.

01:27:33 --> 01:27:34

Keep going.

01:27:34 --> 01:27:37

All right, someone's asking, is there a downside

01:27:37 --> 01:27:38

to marrying someone who has a lot of

01:27:38 --> 01:27:38

brothers?

01:27:39 --> 01:27:39

A lot of brothers over there?

01:27:40 --> 01:27:40

No.

01:27:40 --> 01:27:41

Same way, a woman who has mostly women

01:27:41 --> 01:27:42

or more sons?

01:27:42 --> 01:27:44

No, I'm not going to...

01:27:44 --> 01:27:45

We shouldn't make that a barrier.

01:27:46 --> 01:27:47

A woman who has a lot of brothers

01:27:47 --> 01:27:49

or a guy who has a lot of

01:27:49 --> 01:27:52

sisters or vice versa, there is marriage as

01:27:52 --> 01:27:54

difficult as is and nobody should add those

01:27:54 --> 01:27:55

extra barriers.

01:27:56 --> 01:27:57

If I read the sahih of Ibn Abi

01:27:57 --> 01:27:59

Zayd from Madakithub, is that sufficient to practice

01:27:59 --> 01:27:59

fan?

01:28:00 --> 01:28:01

Ibn Abi Zayd?

01:28:01 --> 01:28:01

Yeah.

01:28:02 --> 01:28:04

You can study that, but I would recommend

01:28:04 --> 01:28:06

you try to get one of the commentaries.

01:28:06 --> 01:28:08

But that could last the person pretty much

01:28:08 --> 01:28:11

80% of the masa'il that they're

01:28:11 --> 01:28:12

going to see in regular life.

01:28:13 --> 01:28:16

They clearly won't be able to answer a

01:28:16 --> 01:28:18

lot of masa'il, but that is enough

01:28:18 --> 01:28:21

to live regular life, yes.

01:28:21 --> 01:28:23

What's the ideal age to marry for both

01:28:23 --> 01:28:23

genders?

01:28:25 --> 01:28:27

The ideal age to marry?

01:28:28 --> 01:28:30

I don't think there's one set ideal, but

01:28:30 --> 01:28:33

I think from after college, you can get

01:28:33 --> 01:28:35

married even during college possibly.

01:28:36 --> 01:28:38

And then I would say that, but after

01:28:38 --> 01:28:39

college is the norm for us.

01:28:40 --> 01:28:43

And then I see that the brothers for

01:28:43 --> 01:28:47

four years after college, after that period of

01:28:47 --> 01:28:50

time, the window starts getting very slim for

01:28:50 --> 01:28:53

them because they're no longer in positions where

01:28:53 --> 01:28:55

they can meet people and they're at that

01:28:55 --> 01:28:59

odd age where they're neither seeing a lot

01:28:59 --> 01:29:01

of people and most of their friends may

01:29:01 --> 01:29:02

be getting married.

01:29:04 --> 01:29:04

It's an odd age.

01:29:05 --> 01:29:07

The window starts to close pretty quickly if

01:29:07 --> 01:29:08

you ask me.

01:29:09 --> 01:29:10

Salam alaikum, Dr. Shady.

01:29:10 --> 01:29:12

Would you mind doing an event in Syracuse?

01:29:13 --> 01:29:14

Syracuse, New York?

01:29:14 --> 01:29:15

Syracuse, New York, yeah.

01:29:16 --> 01:29:17

Is this abroad from NJ or from a

01:29:17 --> 01:29:17

lot of time away?

01:29:19 --> 01:29:21

I'm not traveling a lot these days to

01:29:21 --> 01:29:22

be quite honest.

01:29:22 --> 01:29:24

We have a lot of launches to do.

01:29:25 --> 01:29:26

If a person talks in front of a

01:29:26 --> 01:29:28

grave thinking that his or her relative can

01:29:28 --> 01:29:30

hear him or her just to share or

01:29:30 --> 01:29:32

getting relief from grief of losing them, is

01:29:32 --> 01:29:32

it okay?

01:29:35 --> 01:29:37

Like if someone, I guess he's saying like,

01:29:37 --> 01:29:39

they believe that the person in the grave

01:29:39 --> 01:29:41

can hear them as a way to relieve

01:29:41 --> 01:29:42

themselves.

01:29:42 --> 01:29:43

Oh, you're allowed to talk to someone in

01:29:43 --> 01:29:44

the grave.

01:29:44 --> 01:29:45

I know someone just said that that's shirk,

01:29:45 --> 01:29:46

but that's ridiculous.

01:29:47 --> 01:29:49

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talked to

01:29:49 --> 01:29:52

the kuffar, challenging them.

01:29:52 --> 01:29:53

And they're going to say maybe, oh, that

01:29:53 --> 01:29:54

was only for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

01:29:54 --> 01:29:54

sallam.

01:29:55 --> 01:29:57

But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

01:29:57 --> 01:30:00

to the Sahabi, I think it was Zubair

01:30:00 --> 01:30:05

ibn al-Awwam, the dead hear us just

01:30:05 --> 01:30:06

as you hear me.

01:30:07 --> 01:30:10

So the saying that that is just for

01:30:10 --> 01:30:12

the Prophet is just a saying.

01:30:12 --> 01:30:14

It's a qawl, maybe that has validity and

01:30:14 --> 01:30:15

maybe not.

01:30:15 --> 01:30:18

But maybe many said it, maybe not.

01:30:18 --> 01:30:21

But for sure that simply speaking to someone

01:30:21 --> 01:30:22

in the grave is lawful.

01:30:23 --> 01:30:24

It's not shirk.

01:30:24 --> 01:30:26

I'll tell you again, what is shirk?

01:30:26 --> 01:30:30

To ask anybody what only Allah can give.

01:30:30 --> 01:30:31

Forgive all my sins.

01:30:33 --> 01:30:34

Create something from nothing.

01:30:35 --> 01:30:39

Or number two, to believe that anybody you

01:30:39 --> 01:30:42

ask has power, has true power to create

01:30:42 --> 01:30:43

something from nothing.

01:30:44 --> 01:30:45

We don't believe in any of that, right?

01:30:45 --> 01:30:47

Those two, if you do though, that's shirk.

01:30:48 --> 01:30:50

And by the way, he didn't say to

01:30:50 --> 01:30:51

ask them anything.

01:30:52 --> 01:30:54

He said to talk to them.

01:30:54 --> 01:31:00

There is no sinfulness in doing that, let

01:31:00 --> 01:31:00

alone shirk.

01:31:07 --> 01:31:11

Do we not say, assalamu alaykum, daara qawmin

01:31:11 --> 01:31:12

mu'mineen.

01:31:13 --> 01:31:15

Antumu assabiqun, wanahnu allahiqun.

01:31:16 --> 01:31:16

Right?

01:31:18 --> 01:31:20

You say, peace be upon you, oh abode

01:31:20 --> 01:31:21

of the deceased.

01:31:21 --> 01:31:23

When you go to the graveyard, that's what

01:31:23 --> 01:31:23

you say.

01:31:23 --> 01:31:24

Home of the dead.

01:31:27 --> 01:31:30

Someone's saying, what should someone do if he

01:31:30 --> 01:31:32

works in banking slash finance but now has

01:31:32 --> 01:31:33

large financial obligations?

01:31:34 --> 01:31:35

It says, do I not answer so long

01:31:35 --> 01:31:36

as he works in this industry?

01:31:36 --> 01:31:39

Yeah, if you're working and your earning every

01:31:39 --> 01:31:44

day is unlawful, your do I is not

01:31:44 --> 01:31:44

answered.

01:31:45 --> 01:31:47

You disobey Allah every single day.

01:31:48 --> 01:31:51

In your eating and in your earning, don't

01:31:51 --> 01:31:52

go and ask him questions.

01:31:52 --> 01:31:54

Don't go and ask him requests.

01:31:55 --> 01:31:55

They'll be rejected.

01:31:58 --> 01:32:03

Banking and financing, if that specific act that

01:32:03 --> 01:32:06

he does every day is unlawful, then yes,

01:32:07 --> 01:32:11

your wealth is unlawful and your dua will

01:32:11 --> 01:32:12

not be accepted.

01:32:12 --> 01:32:14

What is Khilafah now saying?

01:32:18 --> 01:32:19

What is he saying?

01:32:21 --> 01:32:22

What's going on here?

01:32:22 --> 01:32:23

I haven't, I've been reading these questions so

01:32:23 --> 01:32:26

it's like, what the heck?

01:32:27 --> 01:32:28

Oh my god, I've been, caught me lacking.

01:32:30 --> 01:32:31

Usually I'm quick with the bands but you

01:32:31 --> 01:32:32

know, I'm reading the questions.

01:32:32 --> 01:32:34

I mean, he's saying a lot of things

01:32:34 --> 01:32:34

here.

01:32:36 --> 01:32:37

All right, next.

01:32:38 --> 01:32:39

Shahjeeb.

01:32:39 --> 01:32:39

You're on your computer.

01:32:41 --> 01:32:42

Where's the khilafah?

01:32:46 --> 01:32:48

Ruling on overeating, highly discouraged.

01:32:49 --> 01:32:50

What does a black heart mean in a

01:32:50 --> 01:32:50

dream?

01:32:53 --> 01:32:55

But maybe something not good but Allah knows

01:32:55 --> 01:32:56

best.

01:33:03 --> 01:33:05

Couple more questions before we wrap up for

01:33:05 --> 01:33:05

the week.

01:33:05 --> 01:33:07

Does mentally insane not held accountable?

01:33:08 --> 01:33:11

Someone who cannot do tamiz, cannot know his

01:33:11 --> 01:33:12

right from left, top from bottom.

01:33:13 --> 01:33:14

No sharia applies to him.

01:33:14 --> 01:33:18

He's not obligatory upon, not obligated to do

01:33:18 --> 01:33:18

anything.

01:33:19 --> 01:33:21

Harris Ahmed is upset.

01:33:22 --> 01:33:23

Why aren't you answering me?

01:33:25 --> 01:33:27

Don't get upset and send those kind of

01:33:27 --> 01:33:27

messages.

01:33:27 --> 01:33:29

Just put the question again because now I

01:33:29 --> 01:33:30

got to scroll up.

01:33:31 --> 01:33:32

Walmart's got to scroll up.

01:33:32 --> 01:33:33

That's what I always say, like if you

01:33:33 --> 01:33:34

need, if you want your question to be

01:33:34 --> 01:33:34

answered.

01:33:34 --> 01:33:34

Yeah.

01:33:35 --> 01:33:36

Don't just say why you don't want to

01:33:36 --> 01:33:37

answer me or scroll up.

01:33:37 --> 01:33:38

Send it one more time.

01:33:39 --> 01:33:40

But let's see.

01:33:45 --> 01:33:47

If a person, I know we re-read

01:33:47 --> 01:33:47

that.

01:33:47 --> 01:33:50

Is synthetic farming food production permissible as it's

01:33:50 --> 01:33:51

grown in unnatural conditions?

01:33:53 --> 01:33:55

Synthetic farming is not impermissible.

01:33:55 --> 01:33:56

No, if it's not unhealthy.

01:33:59 --> 01:34:01

How does a Muslim convert handle organizing funerals

01:34:01 --> 01:34:02

for disbeliever parents?

01:34:03 --> 01:34:05

Non-Muslim is just buried in a normal

01:34:05 --> 01:34:09

way without the sunnah of ghusl and wrapping

01:34:09 --> 01:34:09

and salah.

01:34:09 --> 01:34:11

You just bury him in a normal way.

01:34:12 --> 01:34:12

Yeah.

01:34:12 --> 01:34:15

So you may still wrap the person, have

01:34:15 --> 01:34:19

a casket and just bury the person, but

01:34:19 --> 01:34:21

there will be no ghusl.

01:34:22 --> 01:34:24

Nor will there be janazah nor any dua.

01:34:25 --> 01:34:26

Is it allowed to pray in a room

01:34:26 --> 01:34:28

with idols in a multi-faith room?

01:34:30 --> 01:34:33

We should either cover the idol or face

01:34:33 --> 01:34:34

the opposite direction.

01:34:35 --> 01:34:36

It's like one of those multi-faith rooms

01:34:36 --> 01:34:39

where they have maybe a Hindu section.

01:34:40 --> 01:34:45

So you can cover the idols or face

01:34:45 --> 01:34:46

the opposite direction.

01:34:46 --> 01:34:48

When we speak about Allah and say fi

01:34:48 --> 01:34:49

haqqihi, how can we translate this properly?

01:34:49 --> 01:34:56

Fi haqqihi, I would prefer, for example, what

01:34:56 --> 01:34:57

do you mean fi haqqihi?

01:34:57 --> 01:34:58

In his right, I guess.

01:34:58 --> 01:34:59

Yeah.

01:34:59 --> 01:35:01

Allah has rights in his rights.

01:35:01 --> 01:35:01

Yeah.

01:35:01 --> 01:35:03

I think we talked the other day about

01:35:03 --> 01:35:08

Abu Hanifa, Sayyidina Imam Abu Hanifa, he disliked

01:35:08 --> 01:35:11

for someone to say fi haqqi fulan because

01:35:11 --> 01:35:13

it gives the image that Allah owes somebody

01:35:13 --> 01:35:14

something.

01:35:15 --> 01:35:19

And they could say, you can say some

01:35:19 --> 01:35:22

other wording that doesn't give the impression that

01:35:22 --> 01:35:25

Allah owes somebody something.

01:35:25 --> 01:35:27

Are we allowed to say istighfar during workout

01:35:27 --> 01:35:28

even though we aren't fully focused?

01:35:31 --> 01:35:31

Repeat that.

01:35:31 --> 01:35:33

Are we allowed to say istighfar during our

01:35:33 --> 01:35:35

workouts even though we aren't focused?

01:35:35 --> 01:35:36

Yes, you can make istighfar while you're jogging,

01:35:37 --> 01:35:37

working out.

01:35:38 --> 01:35:39

Here's a question says, as a convert, my

01:35:39 --> 01:35:41

family can bury me normally.

01:35:42 --> 01:35:45

Then if you're the Muslim, then a Muslim

01:35:45 --> 01:35:47

needs to bury you in an Islamic manner,

01:35:47 --> 01:35:52

in a Muslim graveyard with ghust, with kafan,

01:35:53 --> 01:35:55

shrouding, with salatul janazah.

01:35:56 --> 01:35:57

Is make-up haram and why is it

01:35:57 --> 01:35:58

haram?

01:35:58 --> 01:36:00

Make-up is unlawful.

01:36:01 --> 01:36:04

Zina in general is unlawful.

01:36:04 --> 01:36:06

Zina is what would make someone attracted to

01:36:06 --> 01:36:07

look at somebody.

01:36:08 --> 01:36:11

And that's unlawful in front of other men.

01:36:11 --> 01:36:14

It's lawful in front of your direct immediate

01:36:14 --> 01:36:16

family and husband, of course.

01:36:17 --> 01:36:19

Thoughts on tibbun nebawi?

01:36:19 --> 01:36:20

Tibbun nebawi is wonderful.

01:36:21 --> 01:36:23

I wouldn't say that we should ignore regular

01:36:23 --> 01:36:24

medicine.

01:36:26 --> 01:36:28

Yes, and then he said my mom has

01:36:28 --> 01:36:30

back pain and is confusing prophetic medicine with

01:36:30 --> 01:36:31

these homeopathic grifters.

01:36:32 --> 01:36:34

You mean you don't want her doing reiki

01:36:34 --> 01:36:34

and stuff?

01:36:35 --> 01:36:40

But tibbun nebawi, there are only a few

01:36:40 --> 01:36:45

medicines that the Prophet ﷺ specifically gave and

01:36:45 --> 01:36:47

you could do those but you don't have

01:36:47 --> 01:36:49

to ignore conventional medicine.

01:36:51 --> 01:36:53

Someone's asking where to seek marriage when there's

01:36:53 --> 01:36:54

no local community or family?

01:36:54 --> 01:36:56

Are there any recommended services?

01:37:00 --> 01:37:03

That's why I'm telling you we're getting into

01:37:03 --> 01:37:05

this more and more because people are having

01:37:05 --> 01:37:07

trouble finding husbands and wives.

01:37:09 --> 01:37:11

So we're working on this.

01:37:11 --> 01:37:14

We are really dedicated to this now.

01:37:15 --> 01:37:19

Cupping is definitely one of the tibbun nebawi,

01:37:19 --> 01:37:20

part of tibbun nebawi.

01:37:20 --> 01:37:23

The Prophet ﷺ talks about cupping and wet

01:37:23 --> 01:37:26

cupping is something the Prophet ﷺ did regularly.

01:37:27 --> 01:37:28

So we should do that.

01:37:29 --> 01:37:31

Maybe McCurry Swag, your mom could do that

01:37:31 --> 01:37:32

for her back pain.

01:37:33 --> 01:37:35

How someone should give advice to sister or

01:37:35 --> 01:37:37

family that wears makeup and leaves hijab?

01:37:42 --> 01:37:44

You have to just advise them I guess

01:37:44 --> 01:37:46

nicely but maybe the women better off to

01:37:46 --> 01:37:47

advise that if they're going to get sensitive

01:37:47 --> 01:37:48

about it.

01:37:54 --> 01:37:57

It's all a struggle of trying to bring

01:37:57 --> 01:37:59

our family members into good environments so that

01:37:59 --> 01:38:00

we don't have to talk directly because keep

01:38:00 --> 01:38:02

in mind you have this relationship for a

01:38:02 --> 01:38:03

long term.

01:38:03 --> 01:38:03

It's long term.

01:38:03 --> 01:38:07

So you have to try to bring them

01:38:07 --> 01:38:11

into a good environment and they can hear

01:38:11 --> 01:38:11

messages from there.

01:38:15 --> 01:38:16

Brother, we're not scared of you Khilafah.

01:38:17 --> 01:38:18

You're an internet warrior.

01:38:18 --> 01:38:20

You wouldn't say that to anyone's face.

01:38:21 --> 01:38:22

These people are very comfortable online.

01:38:23 --> 01:38:24

They won't say anything in person.

01:38:25 --> 01:38:28

Anyways, any advice for people who are scared

01:38:28 --> 01:38:29

to get married because they've seen so many

01:38:29 --> 01:38:30

failed marriages around them?

01:38:30 --> 01:38:32

Scared to get married, see too many failed

01:38:32 --> 01:38:33

marriages around them?

01:38:34 --> 01:38:35

Well, why don't you start looking at the

01:38:35 --> 01:38:36

successful marriages?

01:38:38 --> 01:38:39

It's where you put your attention.

01:38:39 --> 01:38:42

Put your attention to the successful marriages.

01:38:43 --> 01:38:44

There's a lot of them.

01:38:44 --> 01:38:46

A lot of successful marriages.

01:38:48 --> 01:38:51

It used to be like 99% in

01:38:51 --> 01:38:52

the old days.

01:38:52 --> 01:38:55

Well, maybe not but it felt like that,

01:38:55 --> 01:38:56

right?

01:38:56 --> 01:38:57

It felt like that.

01:38:57 --> 01:39:00

That's the point that when I was young

01:39:00 --> 01:39:02

when somebody in the class said that their

01:39:02 --> 01:39:05

parents were divorced, we didn't know what that

01:39:05 --> 01:39:06

even was.

01:39:06 --> 01:39:09

That was like so rare to see.

01:39:12 --> 01:39:15

So, look at the successful ones.

01:39:17 --> 01:39:19

What is Iblis' goal?

01:39:19 --> 01:39:25

Should we abstain from Hollywood movies and TV

01:39:25 --> 01:39:25

shows?

01:39:26 --> 01:39:27

Well, I'll tell you this.

01:39:27 --> 01:39:30

99% of their goal is to destroy

01:39:30 --> 01:39:33

people's akhlaq.

01:39:34 --> 01:39:36

If not their goal, that's the result.

01:39:37 --> 01:39:38

Probably not their goal is to make money

01:39:38 --> 01:39:44

but it's to destroy akhlaq for sure.

01:39:45 --> 01:39:48

If you don't abstain from them altogether, you

01:39:48 --> 01:39:49

keep that in the back of your mind

01:39:50 --> 01:39:52

and always know that we're not immune to

01:39:52 --> 01:39:54

subconscious thoughts and ideas.

01:39:56 --> 01:39:59

Shirkan says, is it shirk to believe Allah

01:39:59 --> 01:40:02

created laws of attraction?

01:40:03 --> 01:40:05

First of all, we do not know with

01:40:05 --> 01:40:09

any certainty that our thoughts can attract anything.

01:40:10 --> 01:40:14

However, the fact that, let's say you do

01:40:14 --> 01:40:16

believe in something that's pseudoscience.

01:40:17 --> 01:40:20

Hypothetically, let's position it as pseudoscience.

01:40:20 --> 01:40:22

Pseudoscience being a belief that I have that

01:40:22 --> 01:40:25

is not backed by demonstration but it's a

01:40:25 --> 01:40:25

hunch.

01:40:26 --> 01:40:28

Is that a fair assessment of pseudoscience, Omar?

01:40:30 --> 01:40:32

Pseudoscience is like a belief that I have

01:40:33 --> 01:40:37

that is not backed by actual scientific experimentation.

01:40:37 --> 01:40:39

That's a good definition, right?

01:40:40 --> 01:40:42

But you attribute it to Allah subhanahu wa

01:40:42 --> 01:40:44

ta'ala, you've removed yourself from shirk.

01:40:45 --> 01:40:47

But you cannot state this as a fact.

01:40:47 --> 01:40:49

You could just say it's a hunch that

01:40:49 --> 01:40:49

I have.

01:40:50 --> 01:40:51

Maximum, it's a hunch.

01:40:52 --> 01:40:54

We all have hunches in life.

01:40:54 --> 01:40:59

We see correlations and we attribute causation.

01:40:59 --> 01:41:01

We may be right, we may be wrong.

01:41:02 --> 01:41:04

We may be right or wrong.

01:41:04 --> 01:41:05

We can't ever really say.

01:41:06 --> 01:41:08

So that's where it's in the gray area.

01:41:10 --> 01:41:12

As long as a person believes that that

01:41:12 --> 01:41:14

sabab is created by Allah in the first

01:41:14 --> 01:41:18

place, then you're far from shirk at that

01:41:18 --> 01:41:18

point.

01:41:19 --> 01:41:22

Working for defense forces of your country, Haram

01:41:22 --> 01:41:24

or Halal, namely programming websites.

01:41:24 --> 01:41:26

Working for the army, the military of your

01:41:26 --> 01:41:32

country is unlawful if they engage or have

01:41:32 --> 01:41:35

a likelihood to engage in an oppressive war.

01:41:36 --> 01:41:39

But if you're in a country like, let's

01:41:39 --> 01:41:41

say, Guyana, maybe one third of the country

01:41:41 --> 01:41:44

of Guyana is Muslim and now their president

01:41:44 --> 01:41:48

is Muslim, maybe more than one third maybe.

01:41:48 --> 01:41:49

Maybe half of them are Muslim.

01:41:53 --> 01:41:57

Working for the army with no sign that

01:41:57 --> 01:41:59

they're going to do an oppressive, engage in

01:41:59 --> 01:42:01

an oppressive war, then we can't say that

01:42:01 --> 01:42:02

that's unlawful, no.

01:42:03 --> 01:42:05

Thank you, Mr. Curry Swag.

01:42:06 --> 01:42:08

Mr. Curry Swag has started the Omar Fan

01:42:08 --> 01:42:08

Club.

01:42:13 --> 01:42:17

Should we take into account when considering someone

01:42:17 --> 01:42:18

for marriage if a man is a lot

01:42:18 --> 01:42:19

older but not married?

01:42:20 --> 01:42:23

You can take age into account, yeah.

01:42:24 --> 01:42:25

Nothing wrong with taking age into account.

01:42:25 --> 01:42:26

It's what you like.

01:42:27 --> 01:42:29

If you have an issue marrying somebody who's

01:42:29 --> 01:42:31

a certain number of years older than you,

01:42:31 --> 01:42:33

then it's no different than not liking how

01:42:33 --> 01:42:38

he looks or not liking where he plans

01:42:38 --> 01:42:38

to live.

01:42:38 --> 01:42:41

Those things that are essential for you.

01:42:41 --> 01:42:46

There are only a few absolute, like we're

01:42:46 --> 01:42:48

not even in non-starters, I call them.

01:42:48 --> 01:42:50

We're not even having a discussion.

01:42:51 --> 01:42:52

There are only a few.

01:42:56 --> 01:42:59

Idols in direction of Qibla in multi-faith

01:42:59 --> 01:42:59

room.

01:43:00 --> 01:43:02

You have to cover it with a blanket

01:43:02 --> 01:43:04

or with a shawl or something.

01:43:04 --> 01:43:06

If you can't cover it, then I think

01:43:06 --> 01:43:07

you'd have to pray somewhere else.

01:43:10 --> 01:43:12

Also, this guy, he keeps coming back with

01:43:12 --> 01:43:13

a new account and spamming.

01:43:13 --> 01:43:14

Yeah, is he obsessed?

01:43:14 --> 01:43:16

We're not scared of your question or whatever.

01:43:17 --> 01:43:19

He wants me to say something racist.

01:43:19 --> 01:43:20

That's what it is.

01:43:20 --> 01:43:22

No, he's saying something about dinner or something

01:43:22 --> 01:43:23

crazy.

01:43:23 --> 01:43:25

But if you ask the question genuinely, there's

01:43:25 --> 01:43:26

no point in answering.

01:43:26 --> 01:43:28

You're just being disrespectful.

01:43:30 --> 01:43:33

Using haram to gather attention for a potential

01:43:33 --> 01:43:34

hadal intent.

01:43:34 --> 01:43:35

I'm a content creator and use music.

01:43:36 --> 01:43:37

Sufis in India adopted music for dawah.

01:43:37 --> 01:43:38

Thoughts, Yashif?

01:43:40 --> 01:43:42

It's a gray area for sure, 100%.

01:43:43 --> 01:43:45

I can't say yes.

01:43:46 --> 01:43:49

But he's saying, using haram to gather attention

01:43:49 --> 01:43:50

for a potential hadal intent.

01:43:52 --> 01:43:54

It's a shady area.

01:43:54 --> 01:43:55

Ask some other muftis.

01:43:58 --> 01:44:00

If husband's family is non-Muslim, must wife

01:44:00 --> 01:44:02

be covered in front of husband's father and

01:44:02 --> 01:44:02

mother?

01:44:04 --> 01:44:04

No.

01:44:05 --> 01:44:09

Your father-in-law is forbidden for you

01:44:09 --> 01:44:10

to marry forever.

01:44:10 --> 01:44:14

And you may reveal your hair in front

01:44:14 --> 01:44:15

of him, even if he's not a Muslim.

01:44:17 --> 01:44:18

Is chess haram?

01:44:18 --> 01:44:19

Is chess haram?

01:44:19 --> 01:44:22

Poor Ali Ahmed has been asking this for

01:44:22 --> 01:44:23

ages now.

01:44:24 --> 01:44:25

Chess is not forbidden.

01:44:26 --> 01:44:26

No.

01:44:28 --> 01:44:28

Okay.

01:44:29 --> 01:44:30

Can you remove or smash idols in a

01:44:30 --> 01:44:31

multi-faith room?

01:44:33 --> 01:44:35

Can you remove or smash these idols?

01:44:35 --> 01:44:37

Well, you're going to face a fine, that's

01:44:37 --> 01:44:37

for sure.

01:44:39 --> 01:44:42

So it's not necessarily our property.

01:44:42 --> 01:44:44

So I don't think following the sunnah of

01:44:44 --> 01:44:47

Ibrahim alayhis salaam, the Prophet was in Mecca

01:44:47 --> 01:44:49

and he never did that when it wasn't

01:44:49 --> 01:44:49

his property.

01:44:49 --> 01:44:51

So that's one of the cases where the

01:44:51 --> 01:44:55

Prophet's sunnah differs from the Prophet Ibrahim's sunnah.

01:44:55 --> 01:44:58

The Prophet alayhis salaam co-existed with these

01:44:58 --> 01:45:01

idols, hating it in his heart and speaking

01:45:01 --> 01:45:02

out against it with his tongue.

01:45:02 --> 01:45:05

But he didn't use his hands until he

01:45:05 --> 01:45:07

had the legal right to do so.

01:45:07 --> 01:45:10

So the answer to that would be no.

01:45:11 --> 01:45:12

We can't go and make multi-faith rooms

01:45:12 --> 01:45:14

and break the idols.

01:45:15 --> 01:45:18

Someone's saying TV shows slash YouTube recs for

01:45:18 --> 01:45:19

toddlers?

01:45:20 --> 01:45:22

I don't like any TV for kids, to

01:45:22 --> 01:45:22

be honest with you.

01:45:22 --> 01:45:25

I took that from my friend who's a

01:45:25 --> 01:45:27

psychologist, I'm sorry, a psychiatrist.

01:45:28 --> 01:45:30

And he said, the phone, the iPad, the

01:45:30 --> 01:45:33

TV, in that order, are not good for

01:45:33 --> 01:45:34

the development of a kid's brain.

01:45:35 --> 01:45:37

And oh, he's asked me, what do I

01:45:37 --> 01:45:37

recommend?

01:45:38 --> 01:45:39

No, I don't know what I recommend, but

01:45:39 --> 01:45:44

I definitely know that, oh, what's that, what's

01:45:44 --> 01:45:44

that one channel?

01:45:46 --> 01:45:50

Cocoa Melon, they've rigged it where your kid

01:45:50 --> 01:45:51

will be an addict within the first time.

01:45:52 --> 01:45:53

The colors are so bright and it keeps

01:45:53 --> 01:45:54

splicing.

01:45:54 --> 01:45:56

All the kids are addicted to that, so

01:45:56 --> 01:45:56

don't go that route.

01:45:57 --> 01:45:58

Is there a certain, I mean, I don't

01:45:58 --> 01:46:00

even, I would question if there's such a

01:46:00 --> 01:46:01

thing as a good TV show for kids,

01:46:01 --> 01:46:03

because the idea of a good TV show

01:46:03 --> 01:46:04

lies in the plot and the message, right?

01:46:04 --> 01:46:06

But kids, like, are they able to...

01:46:06 --> 01:46:09

The medium, the medium is not good for

01:46:09 --> 01:46:12

their brain, not good for their eyes, and

01:46:12 --> 01:46:13

then who's the teacher is the other question.

01:46:14 --> 01:46:16

But there is, for example, let's say you

01:46:16 --> 01:46:17

have, you're gonna, kids are gonna watch cartoons.

01:46:18 --> 01:46:19

What was that one called that...

01:46:19 --> 01:46:20

Omar and Hannah?

01:46:20 --> 01:46:22

No, not Omar and Hannah's one, one, but

01:46:22 --> 01:46:24

there was that other, there was that BrailleVie

01:46:24 --> 01:46:24

one.

01:46:26 --> 01:46:28

There was a, there was a BrailleVie channel,

01:46:28 --> 01:46:30

all the kids walk around with green turbines.

01:46:30 --> 01:46:31

And it was good.

01:46:31 --> 01:46:33

There was like Sira, different stories.

01:46:34 --> 01:46:36

So at least it's something good.

01:46:36 --> 01:46:37

And it's on YouTube.

01:46:43 --> 01:46:45

Can women cut the front of their hair?

01:46:46 --> 01:46:46

Yes.

01:46:47 --> 01:46:49

What the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, well,

01:46:50 --> 01:46:51

I can't even, I don't want to say

01:46:51 --> 01:46:54

if there's a hadith about this, but I

01:46:54 --> 01:46:57

do know that in the, when they talk

01:46:57 --> 01:46:59

about the hair length of a woman, just

01:46:59 --> 01:47:02

as it's discouraged for a man to mimic

01:47:02 --> 01:47:03

a woman, it's discouraged for a woman to

01:47:03 --> 01:47:06

mimic a man and have a male, a

01:47:06 --> 01:47:08

predominantly male type of haircut.

01:47:08 --> 01:47:10

Just discouraged because it takes away from the

01:47:10 --> 01:47:12

beauty of a woman and it's in her

01:47:12 --> 01:47:12

hair.

01:47:13 --> 01:47:15

So, but that has to do with the

01:47:15 --> 01:47:17

back, not the front.

01:47:17 --> 01:47:19

We got two things.

01:47:19 --> 01:47:21

John Cher, our man, Dr. John Cher.

01:47:21 --> 01:47:23

He's saying LED screen is bad.

01:47:23 --> 01:47:24

Dopamine surge is catastrophic.

01:47:25 --> 01:47:26

Screen time limits and back to old school

01:47:26 --> 01:47:27

ways of learning.

01:47:27 --> 01:47:28

Totally agree.

01:47:28 --> 01:47:28

Thank you, doctor.

01:47:28 --> 01:47:29

Totally.

01:47:29 --> 01:47:34

I'm very suspicious of everything that's in the

01:47:34 --> 01:47:35

modern times.

01:47:35 --> 01:47:36

It's not good for our brains, not good

01:47:36 --> 01:47:36

for our bodies.

01:47:36 --> 01:47:39

And then someone's asking on that topic of

01:47:39 --> 01:47:41

women's hair is, what's the logic between covering

01:47:41 --> 01:47:41

women's hair?

01:47:42 --> 01:47:43

Not only in Islam, but all of the

01:47:43 --> 01:47:45

Abrahamic religions, one way or another encourage for

01:47:45 --> 01:47:46

women to hide their hair.

01:47:46 --> 01:47:47

That's true, yeah.

01:47:47 --> 01:47:48

In front of other people.

01:47:48 --> 01:47:49

Well, what's the default?

01:47:49 --> 01:47:51

The default is that a woman is not

01:47:51 --> 01:47:52

in front of these other guys.

01:47:53 --> 01:47:54

That's the default.

01:47:55 --> 01:47:57

So, sure, her going in front of these

01:47:57 --> 01:47:58

other guys is like a rukhsa.

01:47:59 --> 01:48:00

It's like an exception in the first place.

01:48:01 --> 01:48:04

And those other guys, it's just a command

01:48:04 --> 01:48:04

from Allah.

01:48:05 --> 01:48:06

They don't have the right to see this.

01:48:06 --> 01:48:09

They don't have the right to see that

01:48:09 --> 01:48:09

hair.

01:48:10 --> 01:48:11

It's not their right.

01:48:11 --> 01:48:12

Simple as that.

01:48:13 --> 01:48:16

And that's why all these previous religions have

01:48:16 --> 01:48:18

some form of hijab or others.

01:48:20 --> 01:48:22

Someone's asking, can you pray jama'at?

01:48:22 --> 01:48:24

It's related to what you asked before.

01:48:24 --> 01:48:25

Pray jama'at in front of idols?

01:48:25 --> 01:48:26

Can't move or cover or pray on my

01:48:26 --> 01:48:27

own without idols?

01:48:28 --> 01:48:31

Nah, khalas, if the idols are impossible to

01:48:31 --> 01:48:33

cover or not pray in front of, then

01:48:33 --> 01:48:33

go somewhere else.

01:48:33 --> 01:48:35

Don't pray in the direction of the idol.

01:48:35 --> 01:48:37

How to control your nafs without a controlling

01:48:37 --> 01:48:37

you.

01:48:37 --> 01:48:39

Sometimes going too hard is the opposite effect.

01:48:39 --> 01:48:44

Yeah, sometimes trying to fight your ego too

01:48:44 --> 01:48:46

much or your desires too much, you're actually

01:48:46 --> 01:48:48

going to create the opposite effect.

01:48:48 --> 01:48:49

So what you need is distraction.

01:48:50 --> 01:48:51

Distract your nafs.

01:48:51 --> 01:48:55

So when your desires are strong going one

01:48:55 --> 01:48:57

way, the solution isn't going to go the

01:48:57 --> 01:48:58

opposite way.

01:48:58 --> 01:49:00

The solution is try to distract it from

01:49:00 --> 01:49:00

something else.

01:49:00 --> 01:49:03

Go hang out with your friends.

01:49:05 --> 01:49:08

That'll distract you from indulging in the desires

01:49:08 --> 01:49:09

of your ego.

01:49:10 --> 01:49:11

All right, we gotta run.

01:49:11 --> 01:49:12

Last question from Omar.

01:49:15 --> 01:49:16

Let's pick a good one.

01:49:16 --> 01:49:18

I mean, a lot of people are...

01:49:19 --> 01:49:20

Yeah, this one I guess.

01:49:20 --> 01:49:21

How do you avert your gaze when women

01:49:21 --> 01:49:23

now dress in professional settings like they used

01:49:23 --> 01:49:24

to only dress in nightclubs, etc?

01:49:25 --> 01:49:28

There's no solution to this nonsense, to be

01:49:28 --> 01:49:29

honest with you.

01:49:29 --> 01:49:31

Our society today, there's no solution to this.

01:49:32 --> 01:49:33

You just try to lower your gaze as

01:49:33 --> 01:49:33

much as possible.

01:49:34 --> 01:49:36

It's like walking through the jungle with a

01:49:36 --> 01:49:37

white thobe.

01:49:37 --> 01:49:38

How do you keep it clean?

01:49:39 --> 01:49:40

You're not keeping it clean.

01:49:41 --> 01:49:44

You try as much as you can and

01:49:44 --> 01:49:44

that's it.

01:49:44 --> 01:49:46

You make istighfar and tawbah and make wudu

01:49:46 --> 01:49:48

and try to lower your gaze.

01:49:49 --> 01:49:54

But other than that, I don't have anything

01:49:54 --> 01:49:54

to say.

01:49:54 --> 01:49:55

I had a thought with this stuff.

01:49:56 --> 01:49:57

I'm not advocating this because it's just like

01:49:57 --> 01:49:57

an idea.

01:49:58 --> 01:49:59

But it can end up in like some

01:49:59 --> 01:50:02

black mirror kind of situation perhaps.

01:50:02 --> 01:50:04

You know those glasses that people wear?

01:50:05 --> 01:50:07

So what if you take AI and you

01:50:07 --> 01:50:09

have it programmed so that it filters...

01:50:09 --> 01:50:10

That's awesome.

01:50:10 --> 01:50:14

It filters everything you see and hijabifies it.

01:50:14 --> 01:50:15

That would be insane.

01:50:15 --> 01:50:16

I mean, they could lead to like...

01:50:17 --> 01:50:19

That solves the problem right there.

01:50:19 --> 01:50:21

But like you wear it and it detects

01:50:21 --> 01:50:21

any woman.

01:50:21 --> 01:50:22

100%.

01:50:22 --> 01:50:23

And it covers every hijab.

01:50:23 --> 01:50:23

Yeah.

01:50:24 --> 01:50:25

What about that?

01:50:26 --> 01:50:26

Azag?

01:50:28 --> 01:50:29

You hear that?

01:50:30 --> 01:50:31

You programmers out there?

01:50:32 --> 01:50:33

Yeah.

01:50:34 --> 01:50:35

Call it Oculus.

01:50:36 --> 01:50:36

Ock.

01:50:37 --> 01:50:38

A-K-H.

01:50:40 --> 01:50:41

All right, folks.

01:50:41 --> 01:50:44

Thank you very much for giving us a

01:50:44 --> 01:50:45

chance to talk to you all today.

01:50:46 --> 01:50:47

A lot of nice questions.

01:50:48 --> 01:50:53

A lot of good suggestions.

01:50:53 --> 01:50:54

A lot of good comments.

01:50:54 --> 01:50:55

Thank you all very much.

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