Shadee Elmasry – A Common Atheist Fallacy – NBF 388
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The speakers discuss various topics related to Islam, including patient behavior, trusting parents, finding values in working women, and preserving the truth of Islam. They also touch on topics such as burying individuals in Islam-eries, avoiding double-standing, and the success of marriages and avoiding double-standing. The gray area and the importance of age when it comes to marriage are also highlighted. The success of marriages and avoiding double-standing is also discussed, along with the use of haircuts, AI, and distraction during workouts.
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Welcome everybody to the Safina Society, nothing but
facts live stream.
Let's start off right off the bat on
this beautiful Thursday in the great state of
New Jersey.
The weather is sort of crisp, I would
say, but sunny.
It's that type of sweater weather.
It's one of my favorite seasons.
Sweater, but not jacket type of weather.
Scarf, but not too cold.
So let's get straight to this saying and
Omar, why don't you fire up the poster
for Nas's book.
Here is one of the fallacies that atheists
use and a lot of people fall into
this.
They see something bad and let me just
read straight from the book.
How can we deal with evil?
A possible option as we have seen is
to abandon belief in God or simply stop
caring about his existence.
Now this is not a solution.
Why?
Even if evil is no longer an intellectual
problem for a denier of God, it is
still felt.
Meaning you didn't do anything to the evil.
The evil is still there.
You're still in pain.
How did you solve your problem?
By rejecting God just because evil exists.
Even if you do not believe in objective
good and evil, pain is still pain.
Denying God only compounds the problem.
I always give the example of Hitler.
He is like the paragon of evil in
our day, right?
All right, so you denied God, you denied
*.
What's the result?
The result is that Hitler got away with
it, right?
That's the result.
Hitler gets away with it.
He puts one bullet in his head, allegedly,
which you know I'm not from the camp
that he did.
I'm from the camp that he went to
Argentina.
You know, people didn't really, or Chile even,
look it up where are the eyewitnesses of
his body in the casket?
Then maybe, maybe, right?
Guy like that, we need to toe out
on his death.
Anyway, regardless of that, I was about to
say the worst thing in the world.
Irregardless, good, regardless, slash, irrespective of that issue,
he puts a bullet in his head and
he got away with killing all those people
and all the evil that he did.
So how is that?
How did you solve your problem?
The believer, at least, holds that he's going
to burn in * and he's going to
be judged for every single murder that he
committed.
So he says that you still feel pain.
That's why this is a fallacy.
And I'm telling you, so many people, something
bad happens, they reject God.
The most unbearable kind of evil is when
we suffer and we cannot find some meaning
or redemption to it.
Well, what is the reason and the meaning?
Well, the meaning is that you have free
will.
Everyone could do what they want and that
means good or bad.
If you want people to do good, to
have free will, but as soon as they
come on the edges of evil, they get
stopped.
Then they don't have free will.
You know what is at the edge of
evil?
Revelation and God's law.
That's what the barrier is.
If you don't like evil, then obey God's
law.
Right?
And you won't, you'll still have hardships by
the way.
You just maybe won't have this terrible kind
of evil where someone imposes themselves and makes
everyone else's life miserable.
But while you still have evil, pain, you'll
still have pain.
You didn't change that you're having pain.
You're having pain in that you could still
get sick.
You still have to die.
You're still going to get old.
You're still going to have aches and pains.
All the pain is the summary of it
is why Muslims don't have an issue with
this problem.
We don't have a problem of evil is
because we believe that Allah has the right,
not only the right, he benefits us through
painful experiences.
God has the right to inflict or to
inflict is not the right word, to pour
some pain on us.
That's how simple it is in the same
way that a surgeon has the right to
cause you pain.
He's not causing you pain as an end.
So that's not even a good way to
put it because that's makes it sound like
he's torturing you for fun.
The surgeon does not cause you pain for
fun.
A surgeon causes you pain on the way
to some great end result.
Likewise, your parents cause you pain.
Every time one of our kids says, can
I do this?
And I say, no, you got to study
for your exams.
That's pain.
Every time he says, let me eat this.
Not yet.
You got to eat your dinner first before
you eat ice cream.
So I denied him his pleasure.
Nas has a beautiful definition for pain in
his book.
He says, it's the denial of our desires.
Nas has a great definition of evil in
his book.
He says, it's the denial of our desires
in a manner that does not contribute to
our flourishing.
That's the definition of evil that Nas puts
forth.
The purely Shari'a definition of evil is
disobedience without repentance.
But think about this.
The moment we say that it's the denial
of your heart's desires without the fruition of
yourself, without the self-benefit, without the flourishing
of yourself.
It's a great definition of evil because now
the believer never suffers evil after that.
Every single pain that we suffer from is
for us.
The Prophet ï·º said, it's amazing the affair
of the believers.
All of it's good.
If good happens, he thanks Allah.
And if evil comes to him, sabr.
He has patience.
Well, how is patience?
Patience is one of the greatest virtues you
could have.
Not patience on people's trials and tribulations.
Once you have patience, you can literally almost
achieve anything because anything is achievable with patience.
Patience in waiting and patience in handling pain.
Right now, me and you and everyone in
this room, we can achieve perfect physical fitness.
Not only perfect, you will be amazing in
amazing shape and amazing looking if you have
the patience.
If you can handle the hunger, if you
can handle the resistance of the push-ups
and the sit-ups, that's all pretty much
you need in my opinion.
And if people want to lift weights, that's
up to them.
And if you can wait long enough, that's
literally it.
That is literally all it takes.
You're going to exercise your five muscle groups.
You're going to do push-ups, three different
kinds, near, like these books, right?
The small one, the medium one, and the
big one.
What's the synopsis?
Three books, right?
Yeah.
So you're going to do a close push
-up, a medium push-up, and a wide
push-up.
All right.
All that's under push-ups.
You're then going to do sit-ups or
planks.
You're then going to do squats.
You're then going to do calf raises.
And then as you get better, you get
a book bag, you throw some weights in
it.
You do the push-ups with the weights.
You do the sit-ups with a weight.
It takes you nothing.
It's just a weight that you have on
the side in your house.
And then you just, you got to learn
to not eat so late in the night.
Don't eat a lot.
Keep that routine for three years.
You will be in amazing shape.
Problem is people don't have patience.
People have a goal, they get distracted from
their goal.
Got to have patience.
Every one of us can be a hafiz
of Quran.
It may take you 10 years, but you
will be a hafiz of Quran.
600 pages of the Quran divided by 10,
60.
60 divided by 300, one page every five
days.
One page every five days for 10 years,
you'll be a hafiz of Quran, without really
doing anything, without enrolling in a school.
So let's say the average age of the
listener out there is 28.
By 38 you're a hafiz on nothing except
sabr.
That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, when you get a tribulation, when you
get something good, you say alhamdulillah.
When you get a tribulation, you have patience.
Patience is the both waiting and the ability
to handle pain.
Moderate amount of pain.
Because everything is pain, even hift.
Yeah, it's the pain of shutting the TV
off, shutting the phone off and doing hift
and repeating the page, etc.
Allah is Al-Qawiy, Al-Mateen.
Al-Mateen is that who can bear and
handle.
What does it mean for Allah?
It means he creates that which is Mateen.
Certain things can be pounded away at and
will not break.
That's why the Sayf al-Muhannad is a
combination of metal and gold, iron and gold,
and then iron again.
That's the Indian sword that we always talk
about, Al-Muhannad.
It's iron and gold, back and forth.
Iron and gold.
If it's all iron, it's brittle.
It hurts when you hit, but when it
gets hit, it'll break.
If it's gold, it won't hurt so much
when you hit.
But then when you take a hit, it'll
bend because gold can bend.
Gold can bend.
Yeah.
Let me leave this message real quick.
Okay.
Very good.
Thank you.
So, you see that when you reject God
because of evil, you've done nothing.
And evil, the only reason is that you
don't know understand why.
You don't understand why the pain is happening.
And that's what children go through too.
But because children see the good and the
bad of their parents, they just end up
trusting them.
And that's really, you're getting trained from childhood.
You're getting trained from childhood to experience pain.
This is why I'm a proponent of serious
parenting and fearless, courageous parenting in the truth.
And that's not the only route that you
go with kids.
But think about this.
If you are too soft with your kid,
life itself will not be soft like you.
You can't just let them have everything, never
face them and say, look me in the
eye, stop doing this, stop doing this, stop
doing that.
If you don't have those moments, you're not
training them well for life.
And then as soon as something bad happens,
they don't know how to deal with it.
But if you're actually a little bit more
strict, a little bit more strict, not too
strict to drive the kid crazy and the
kid will run away from home.
But when you're tough in that manner, and
when there's something wrong, you just say, listen
to me, I'm going to say this once
and that's the end of it.
And that's pretty scary.
He's going to go on in life.
No one else is going to talk to
him like that.
Right?
Everything will be less than that.
Everything, every hardship in the world will be
far less than that.
So you trained him well, didn't you?
Maybe they're like, okay, this, they may have
some feelings towards you at that moment, but
all you need to do is always go
back to Rahma and Karam as Allah does
with us.
One bad thing happens, 999 good things happen
in a row.
Like that's most people's experience in life.
I got one bad day out of 90
days, out of a hundred days.
That's how Allah is.
So that confirms us.
Allah's taking care of me.
I'm okay.
Everything is fine.
I'm in good hands.
When something bad happens, there is a reason
for it.
So that trust develops.
And that's why in the best form of
parenting, it requires a lot of time to
be able to create the pattern.
Right?
You need to, when you go on these
phones, on these apps, you need to click
for a while, watch a bunch of videos
for the algorithm to learn what you like.
In the same manner, when you're a parent,
you need to be with your kid a
lot so they truly know you and your
character and your intentions inside out.
So the moment either A, you have to
do something that's hard for them.
They know it's coming from a good place.
Or B, you actually have a bad day
and you as a parent do something wrong
and parents can do bad things to their
kids.
From time to time, they get upset.
They have a bad day.
They take it out on their kids.
It happens.
Maybe it happens 0.1% of the
time, or maybe some people more than that,
depending how stressed out they are and how
disciplined their nefse is.
The kid at least knows he's just having
a bad day.
They know this, by the pattern of behavior.
That's not his normal behavior.
It doesn't take a statistician, just a simple
matter of common sense.
Now, someone's asking, what about for daughters?
Yeah, probably a bit less.
But girls, they do have some nonsense too
and silliness that knows no bounds.
A dad will reign it in a little
bit, enough of the silliness.
Then she's going to go on and be
a respectable person, a respectable wife.
If you just let the silliness go on,
enough with this.
Stop being so silly.
There are limits here.
Here's the thing, the beauty of it.
No matter how you are, just the fact
that you're a male and you're in the
presence of your, let's say it's a daughter,
now she knows what men are like.
She has an idea of where the tolerance
level is.
Remember when I said earlier, a couple podcasts
back, I said that it's really good every
once in a while to not have patience
when it's not necessary.
If a kid's being silly and he's testing
my patience, and I just had enough and
I just want quiet.
I want peace and quiet.
I don't want to hear noise and I
just say, enough, stop.
Cut it out and be quiet.
You start thinking, well, is that the merciful
way?
Is it the generous way?
No, I'll tell you what that is.
That's a very good thing to do every
once in a while is because it gives
them information at what regular people get sick
of.
What is the volume level that people outside
the house who don't care about me, that's
why sometimes it's good for the parent to
think of himself.
All right, stop talking so much.
Is that nice?
Maybe it's not nice, but it's very informative.
That kid now has a piece of information
that's very important.
The rest of society is not going to
be so nice to you, so he needs
that information.
All right, I get now what people's buttons
are, and I guarantee you there are people
who do not know when enough is enough.
The reason is they must have been only
with somebody who just tolerates and tolerates and
tolerates and tolerates.
They were never with somebody who their patience
is enough and they say it, but it's
important to say it.
It gives them information on what is the
end, what's the limits.
You have something to say, Omar?
Oh, questions.
Do you think fathers raising daughters, should they
expose them to the world of men oftentimes?
Because it seems like one of major problems
with women and men today is a lot
of women don't realize what the world of
men looks like.
So it's kind of fantasizing in their head.
That's why feminism exists.
They think the world of men is all
fairy tales and amazing, but that's not really
how it is.
It seems like from what I've seen in
my own experience is that a lot of
women that are very deluded are those that
have not actually seen what it's like to
be a man because they don't have brothers,
for example.
So do you think that's a strategy that
fathers should use?
Obviously, you want to be soft with your
daughters compared to the sons.
I think they're going to be exposed to
these things.
They're going to be exposed to when the
dad has friends in the house.
They're going to see that.
Every once in a while, they're going to
watch their dad hang out with the other
guys.
Every once in a while, they're going to
see that.
So they're not living in a fantasy.
There was one time a guy, he got
married and it looked all fine and good,
but then I asked him, what is the
status of who you're marrying?
He said, it's the mom only.
It's a girl and the mom.
I'm like, no dad?
No.
No uncle?
No.
No grandfather?
No.
No brothers?
No.
I was like, good luck.
Because where is the reference point?
Where is the reference point?
Where is the reference point of how this
gender acts?
Okay, guys in school, I don't think that
counts.
Maybe it does depending on how much she
interacted with them.
Yeah, because I look at someone like my
mom, for example, who had many brothers and
I compare it to someone like maybe some
Muslim sister that is born here and she
doesn't have brothers or something like that.
It's a completely different world.
Not just because of the generational difference, but
since there were bigger families in the past
and stuff.
My mom knows what it's to be a
man.
She's very happy being a housewife.
She knows that men do this and I
do this.
I love taking my daughters with me.
I like taking my kids with me when
they have a day off.
Just spend the whole day with me.
I like it just for the sake of
it.
I just like to be around them.
But they get to see what the day
is like and they get to see what
is a day like.
When the dad steps out of the house,
what's his day like?
What is he doing all day?
You know what I was wondering about?
Why in divorce are the laws distinct between
men and women, husband and wife?
If we're in a society that's moving to
equality, so when there's a divorce, why would
anyone take anything?
Just take what's in your account, split what's
in the family account and that's it, right?
Why is there even a difference?
Because you know that most in the non
-Islamic world, non-Muslim community, they don't marry.
There's no point for them to marry because
the moment he marries, if she wants to
get out, she takes half his stuff and
he gets pretty much maybe nothing.
Well, if we're in a society where we're
going towards equality, why does that rule still
exist in the courts?
There's a lot of things that are inconsistent.
There are things that are unfathomable and will
never happen.
If truly genders are equal, can you have
an all-female prison guard unit in a
male prison?
Could you imagine that?
Just imagine that for a minute as a
thought experiment.
Now we have a first woman hockey coach,
women basketball referees, women, I don't know, assistant
coach in football or something.
Okay, well, that's all entertainment.
How about in real life?
You got a prison, the ward, all the
guards, everyone female.
It's not going to work.
That is not going to work, right?
The entire concept of feminism, this is such
an important point, is the entire premise of
it is over-glorification of the world of
men.
That's pretty much all it is.
You're 100% right.
It is centered around the world of men.
Why would you want to be like that
gender so much?
My position is this.
I'm traditional but flexible, right?
I know the world's changing and you have
to move with it, but still within the
same tradition.
You have a tree, the trunk never changes.
Allah created a man and woman in a
different way.
Cannot tell me they're the same.
No one will ever buy that.
They create it in a different way.
There are certain things that are found in
99% of each gender, right?
The desire to protect, the desire to nurture,
that's not changing ever.
Now you have the top of the tree.
A tree, as we're seeing in these storms,
has to be flexible.
As you're living in the modern, the more
modern your time is, the more chaotic really
the time is, the more flexible you need
to be.
Just like a hurricane.
We're living in a hurricane today, a moral
hurricane.
The norms are changing every day.
You need to be more flexible, but you
need to be grounded.
That's the philosophy I believe in.
You just suspended someone.
What did he do?
That's personally what I believe in.
It's traditional, but it's flexible.
He's got to be flexible, but he has
to also be traditional.
The way that Allah created males and females
in the Shari'ah gave them certain obligations
upon both sides, and certain expectations, and then
certain fitrah.
It's by the fitrah, their human nature, wants
to do certain things.
There's no guy who has the fitrah to
take care of an infant, but he has
the fitrah to defend his wife if someone
looks at her, talks at her, something like
that.
I remember some guys need coaching, I'm telling
you, because they have been so brainwashed that
the fitrah is bad when it comes to
male desires.
For example, I asked one time, you're sitting
at a restaurant and a guy flicks food
at your wife.
You turn around, the guy looks at you
straight in the eye and says, yeah, I
did it.
What do you do?
You know what like 99% of the
guys would say, there's a fight right there.
Even if I'm not winning, I got to
put up the fight.
At least in front of my wife, I
got to put up a fight, even if
I don't want to.
You know what this guy said?
He said, I wouldn't really do anything because
it would be bad for Dawa.
How bad have you been completely effaced?
Why don't you trust your gut?
Trust your gut and go with the fitrah.
If not, take it by transmitted from people
with more experience than you.
That has to be a fight right then
and there.
Not thought about, not with words.
He used actions.
Actions are going to be repelled with actions,
not with words.
I've done it too.
I've done it.
I'm very proud of it.
I had three fights.
One ended up physical.
Two, second one, I just walked in their
direction, they went the other way.
The third one, it was one on four
in Baltimore.
On one of those nice boardwalks in Maryland
by the Oriole Stadium and stuff.
It's a gorgeous area.
Everyone goes there for vacation.
These three guys made a comment, so I
started walking in their direction, not having a
clue what's going to go on.
It's one on three, right?
Four guys.
I started walking in their direction.
One on four.
I had no clue, but I knew I
had to do something.
All the kids were little.
I couldn't take Ayub with me, but ultimately
at the end of it, luckily some other
guys intervened.
I noticed I'm walking towards them.
They're walking away because they know they did
something wrong.
Although there's no match here.
It's four guys and one.
I'm walking towards them.
They're talking.
They're yelling.
I'm just walking towards them, but they're also
going backwards.
It's like they know they don't want to
pick this fight because they were in the
wrong because of what they said.
Luckily, they ended up walking into a restaurant.
They were all white.
The restaurant manager was black.
I'm like, okay, I'm good because I know
he's going to side with me.
He did.
The restaurant manager got in their faces.
What are you doing?
You're not going to be assaulting our customers
here and all that even though I wasn't
even a customer.
He thought I was a customer.
Right.
Point being, this is how it has to
be and it is whether you like it
or not.
You don't have to like it.
No one is born into these awkward situations,
but the male nervous system must adapt to
it.
The male nervous system, you must swallow it
and force it on yourself.
You must force it on yourself.
Even physically, you may lose these fights.
You're not going to act like a tough
guy.
You're going to go and beat these fights,
these guys up.
This one is not going to happen.
This one is going to be bad, but
it has to be done.
That's honestly one of the things that needs
to be talked about.
It needs to be talked about how to
be in those situations because you know those
situations, you want to look at it.
It's the right thing to do.
Your fitra says you should do it.
Your book says she could do it, but
let me give you another practical thing about
it.
You basically will be king for the next
year as long as that thing is remembered.
You did your job.
You actually did it.
It's not just protector in name.
You actually did it.
You're going to be rewarded very well in
life when you behave like that.
I got a business idea.
You got a business idea.
You go hire some goons.
I'm telling you, listen, if you're a young
man and you just got married, go find
some goons.
Give them 50 bucks each and have them
come pick on your family and you chase
them away.
Tell them that's the job.
Put a mask on if you're worried and
have a guy come and shake your wife's
bag.
I'll run and take your wife's bag.
Exactly.
Then run after the guy.
Tackle him.
Punch him in his back a little bit.
Doesn't really hurt.
Then the guy runs away and you start
screaming at him and yell, don't you ever
come back here.
All of a sudden, you're going to be
the king.
That happens for real.
I know when it happens for real, though.
This is the Auschwitz starboard.
I personally hold to the fact that a
man has to do a lot of things
that he does not want to do, that
he hates to do.
A woman should never be asked to do
those things.
That's our religion.
That's traditional.
That's our religion.
If you look at our law, we can
figure it out backwards.
When we figure it out backwards, when the
Sharia says she's born into a house, she
doesn't have to worry about anything.
Her dad takes care of her.
Then she goes to her husband's house.
From there to her husband's house, she doesn't
have to worry about anything.
The Sharia does not want her carrying these
heavy burdens.
Now she may end up carrying heavy burdens
in life.
Raising kids is a heavy burden.
Being a Muslim is a heavy burden.
Staying married is a heavy burden.
A lot of heavy burdens, but certain burdens,
no.
The burden to earn money, the burden to
protect my body, the burden to protect my
kids physically, that's not there.
That is not something that Sharia puts upon
them.
This is exactly why the Prophet ï·º said
that failed will be a people.
What is the exact wording?
What is the final exact wording?
Allah does not give victory to a people
who put their affairs on the back of
a woman.
Yeah, think about that.
They took their affair, their obligation and put
it on a woman's back.
That is in what?
In earning and protecting.
Not in other things.
If it doesn't entail earning and protecting, things
that have risk, things that have hardship.
Ruling a nation, we got to go to
war.
Why are you putting that on her back?
Especially back in the old days, today it's
just like you're not going to actually be
in the war.
But you still have to make the decision.
You still have to rule, you still have
to lead.
So where there is earning, where there is
protection.
Could you imagine back in the old day
a tribe comes out and the leader has
got to be in the face of the
army.
You're going to put up a woman.
Okay, whose wife are you putting up?
That's someone's wife.
Whose mom are you putting up?
And that husband's accepting it?
In his own house, if a thief were
to come in, he goes, not her, in
the house.
How about the nation?
How does it make any sense?
How does it make any sense?
Where it comes to earning and protecting.
So that's why I said those are the
traditional ways.
Traditional is not even the right word.
That's the sharia, that's it.
But it's got to also be flexible too.
In our world these days, life is not
going to be like what it was for
the grandparents.
I'm reading here some of these comments.
There's an exact sketch by Matt, Rob, and
Doe about this.
A fake thief.
Is it better for a woman who only
has sisters to marry a man who only
has sisters?
I wouldn't go that route because you're narrowing
something that's already difficult.
I was recently told by somebody that Al
-Habib Omar bin Hafid had actually encouraged matrimonial
events as long as they're done within certain
parameters.
Because he sees also and realizes the degree
of the fitna.
This institution that the whole community rests upon
needs work.
It needs attention.
Like fiqh will not develop in a community
unless you have an institution that focuses on
it.
Let me get the exact hadith.
The Ahnaf limit that hadith to the Khilafah
only.
A group of men, a group of people
will not succeed when they put the obligations
that Allah put upon them onto a woman.
Thief comes out the door.
Husband, wife, four kids are sitting there.
What do you do?
Wife, go you get it.
I got the last thief.
That doesn't work like that.
So if that's not the case in the
home, is it lawful for a man to
say, I earned the last 10 years.
I'm going to take a break.
I'm going to relax.
I'm going to not work.
I'm going to follow my hobbies.
You work for the next 10 years and
earn for our family.
Is it lawful in Islam?
So it's earning and it's protecting.
It's not lawful in a home.
Is it lawful in anything bigger than a
home?
That's what, that's the purpose of this hadith.
I got to find this thing where Habib
Omar had mentioned, he had mentioned this, that
he's encouraging this kind of matrimonial services because
people really need help.
The whole institution needs help.
Ultimately, this is going to be your greatest
source of happiness, your greatest connection with human
beings.
Everything will be better when this element of
your life is better.
Our Maliki Fiqh teacher, I've never met him,
but I always listen to his lectures.
Sheikh Abdul Hamid Al Mubarak, he says, now
look at all social movements from a couple
of lenses.
And one of those lenses is, does it
increase Onusa?
Does it increase people, women never getting married?
Does it increase that?
Is that the end result?
He said, that's something that's harmful then.
If that's the result, and keep in mind,
Shaitan does not go and give you a
bottle of poison to drink.
He'll give you an entire platter of food,
chicken, salad, soup, then there's apple pie.
Somewhere in this platter, somewhere in this table,
there's going to be a little poison.
You're going to eat the whole thing and
not feel anything.
So you're going to say it's fine.
And you eat it again and again and
again until the poison rises in your system,
that by the time you detect it, it's
too late.
That's how Iblis works.
That's how Shaitan works.
Shaitan has been around for way longer than
me and you.
It's been around for thousands of years.
That's why the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says,
Shaitan is pleased to get a righteous person
to move off the right track, even the
amount of an ant's footstep.
The footstep of an ant.
Why?
Because he knows all he has to do
is repeat that another thousand times and you're
way off.
Right?
You are way off.
Let's look at Minna A.J. She says,
Ficanomics.
Indeed, and most of them think that while
slaving away for some greedy CEO, they are
free and independent.
And this is coming from a working woman.
That's where we're saying traditional but flexible.
It's that working women, it's not all, I
don't think it's a complete black and white,
right?
Just don't work at all.
Well, no.
There's room for this.
There is room for that.
But are there values there?
Are the beliefs there?
Are the right values and beliefs it's faith,
family, and then it's finances.
That's the order that it has to go
in.
I'm telling you, this stuff needs work and
to be talked about so much or else
we're going to end up being just like
the rest of Europe with our population declining,
Masajid being empty.
Assalamualaikum.
What's the most famous Mariki Fetwa website?
Unfortunately, we are way behind on the internet
and I would go to, no, there's one
even stronger than that.
It's Sheikh, what is it?
Faqih Nafsak.
Faqih Nafsak.
Try that website.
F-A-Q-I-H-N-A-F
-S-A-K.
And you can now get this website translated
into different languages.
Faqih Nafsak is the website.
It's in various languages and see if your
questions are there.
There are tons of, there's an English, Espanol,
French, Netherlands, different languages.
But go to that website and learn.
Faqih Nafsak.
It's out of Saudi Arabia.
Oh, so we never got to address this,
but you know, we had that, we had
this one short kind of blow up about
careerism and you had a lot of people
in the comments that were like complaining, oh,
like, are we not supposed to work and
things like that?
But there's a difference between careerism and having
a career, right?
Correct.
So I just wanted to.
There is a big difference in careerism and
having career, just like there's a big difference
between science and scientism.
Scientism is a belief system that the truth
is really only accessible through demonstrative knowledge, observable
sensory perception, demonstrative knowledge.
That's a belief system that's flawed.
Science is the access of demonstrable knowledge, getting,
extracting truth from demonstration, which is science, right?
But it's not a philosophy.
There's a difference between scientism and science.
Truth comes from demonstration, which is science, from
transmission and from reason.
So likewise, there's a big difference between careerism
and having a career.
Men are also, they got issues with careerism
too, probably as much as women or more.
Like more men abandon their kids for careerism
even than women, right?
So wherever you're going to have a good
family, you're going to need two people.
Both of them have to believe this is
an obligation.
No matter how busy they are, if they
have that belief, they'll make it work, right?
And here it is.
In this economy, people need two people to
work.
That's not an issue, right?
The issue is the belief about it.
It's the belief.
And that's why Alma brings up that great
point of careerism versus having a career, which
is why I set out earlier, you have
the analogy of the tree.
Certain never change.
The priorities never change, but you have to
be flexible with the time that you live
in and not only the time, the situation.
People may be in a situation even where
the guy earns less than the woman.
We can't put those people down.
It's a situation.
It happened.
What can he do, right?
He may be the best husband, the best
dad and an imam even.
That's what he went into and earned him
imamah with the community.
She went into the medical field, so she
makes more money.
It could happen and we shouldn't put that
down.
It's the beliefs that matter.
The belief.
Is he asking her to do that?
Is he saying, you go and earn everything?
Now, are you going to tell me, okay,
but she may end up resenting him.
That's different, but that can be fixed, but
the philosophy is what matters.
Is he saying, go and put forth half
the money?
Go and put forth all the money.
Do you know that there was a woman
one time, she was a real estate agent
and we're sitting there.
We got delayed.
We're driving around with her to look at
houses and she goes to us.
We started chit-chatting about life because we
were waiting for this other realtor to show
up to show us the house.
We're sitting there in the car and she
says, man, I wish I could retire.
She asks us, what do you do?
At the time, my wife was staying home
with two kids and I was working.
These small families, they hardly have any expenses.
You make your kids happy with $5 bag
of M&Ms and that's it.
Life was so simple.
She said, I wish I could do that.
She said, it's been from the beginning of
our marriage, everything is split 50-50.
Even, listen to this, the birthday card.
When my husband buys me a birthday card,
he puts the receipt there, 50-50.
How insane is that?
How insane is that?
So it's the belief that we have to
talk about.
Dylan says, can you do stories of the
Wali, or stories of the Awliya on Badiuzzaman
Saeed Nursi?
We'll have to bring Nas for that.
Should the national anthem be sung and when
a high-ranking person or teacher enters the
classroom, we stand up?
Is that sinful?
No, it's okay.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one time
when Saeed Saad ibn Mu'adh, I believe
it was, either Saad ibn Mu'adh or
Saad ibn Ubadah entered, he told his people,
Qumru Sayyidikum.
One time, Hassan ibn Thabit stood up for
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
The Prophet said, sit down.
He said, I have to stand up when
I see such beauty.
And the Prophet let it go.
What are the other questions on the marriage
stuff that we just talked about?
Tradition is beautiful when it is done right,
and it takes a mature community.
Yes, it takes us to understand what is
it that we can never let go of,
and what is it what we can be
flexible on.
And I'm telling you, it's something that's going
to be done after also consulting and looking
at how other pshyuch live, and how other
people of knowledge live.
And you see that there ends up being
a middle ground.
Here's another question.
My dad taught me how to fight, says
The Last Corner, and grew up with three
big brothers.
At school, I was not afraid to fight
back with boys.
Should it be avoided for girls and try
to escape if possible?
Yeah, I don't think that girls should.
I personally don't see the benefit in it.
Physically fighting, I don't see the benefit in
that.
I don't think that that's great.
But a boy has to know how to
fight.
If not fight, at least not run away
from a fight.
I think that would be a disaster.
Self-defense is one thing, but actually fighting
like...
Yeah, I don't think that that's...
I don't think the Sharia, the way I
see it, it does not call on the
way that Allah created things for women to
be hardened on the outside through fighting.
Why else did he put men in their...
where Allah put men in their lives?
A man, when he goes and he gets
hardened through a fight, I think he feels
great about himself, right?
It's just in the fitrah.
And do you want a woman who knows
how to fight, right?
Yeah, where's she learning the fighting from?
Is there an absentee dad?
Is there an absentee brother?
Is there an absentee male there?
Or are you saying physically she's learning from
a male trainer?
That's another problem.
But why is she fighting in the first
place?
Has her dad put her in a vulnerable
situation?
I mean, learning self-defense, I guess, like
someone would answer, like respond to...
Learning self-defense is like a sport.
It's like a sport.
But you don't put someone in the situation...
Why is it forbidden for a Muslim woman
to be a soldier in the army?
Because it's going to happen by one of
two things.
It's going to happen by a dad or
a husband telling his...
putting his wife in the face of an
enemy.
It's not lawful for you to do.
Enemy of the nation or enemy inside the
nation, it's not lawful for you to do.
Or it's going to happen by the Khalifa
overriding the man and saying, I want your
wife as a soldier.
That's unlawful too.
So that's why it's not permitted.
When a lot of women say, like, I
fight men and stuff, you're not really fighting
men.
Like you haven't actually fought a guy.
Yeah.
I think a lot of...
I grew up with a lot of sisters,
right?
So a lot of women don't realize that
men are always holding back against women.
And when you actually see what it's like
to fight a man, like a lot of
people don't like to hear that.
But let's be honest.
That's why I said the example.
An all-male prison.
Let's see it.
Let's have an...
Could you, you know, fathom an all-female
guard, right?
It's going to be mayhem within 24 hours.
Victoria is saying sexual assault is real.
You can't change society.
There will be times where a woman has
to move and travel without a male.
That's all true.
That's where we're saying flexibility.
That's a fact, right?
It can happen very easily.
You can imagine a Muslim woman with no
men around her.
What is she going to do?
She's better have some pepper spray at the
very least.
But that's why we're saying there has to
be flexibility.
When a sister and when a woman enters
Islam, she's got no Muslim relatives around her.
That's just an example.
How many examples are there where life takes
a different course and all of a sudden
you have a woman, she's a single mother
taking care of kids.
She clearly has to work and fend for
herself.
So those things have to be taken into
account for.
All the reason I'm saying this is because
sometimes people take one sliver of something and
expand it as if we're not cognizant of
all the different scenarios that could happen.
And also though people of those scenarios may
feel that we're not recognizing their plight, which
is totally legitimate to them, but we have
to recognize so that we get the full
picture of this.
Mujtaba says BJJ for women in moderation so
it doesn't affect testosterone, right?
So here is someone says, Bengal verse two
says, my mother wants me to go abroad
for study alone and does not want to
get married.
When I try to make her understand that
being an unmarried girl is not permissible for
me, she does not listen.
So for Bengal, if you're living only with
your mom and she doesn't want you to
get married and there's no dad, then you
can go to another male relative or go
to the imam to be your wali and
to conduct your marriage because it's not lawful
for her also to deprive you of marriage.
That's not right.
You got to know your rights in Islam
and culture sometimes, if not always oppresses those
things.
You probably brought this up before, but I've
kind of been reading some of these questions
and I wanted to bring up, and this
is why we study logic, right?
So it seems like a lot of people,
and this is kind of the sign of
intelligence as well, a person's intelligence, is when
you're able to distinguish between a general proposition
and a universal proposition.
Thank you.
So a lot of the issues that people
bring up, especially like I see in the
comments, and I think this is important for
everyone to realize, is, I'll bring an example,
right?
So let's say, like Shadi says, humans have
two hands, and someone comes and complains, no,
but look, my uncle has one hand.
Yeah, exactly.
Okay, but you have to understand the difference
between a general proposition and a universal.
Exactly.
So when he says certain things, like when
you guys hear him say certain things, you
have to be able to distinguish between a
general proposition, right, versus something that's universal that
doesn't take exceptions, right?
So I see this all the time, people
come and say, oh, well, this is the
case, oh, look, but this woman is a
boxer, and she's strong, okay, but she's the
exception that proves the rule.
Exactly.
Right?
So there's kulliyat, and then there's umoom.
Yeah, yeah, muhmal and kulliyat.
You have a muhmalah and a kulliyah.
The kulliyah is actually universal, right?
Actually universal.
Everyone alive's heart is beating.
That's a universal.
It's absolutely 100%.
It's a universal.
Then there's the muhmalah.
Muhmalah is a general ruling.
Just generally, generally speaking, human beings walk on
two feet.
Of course, we're going to have somebody who
was born without feet, or her feet got
shot off, or is in a wheelchair.
But generally speaking, that's what we're saying.
So I just want to bring that up,
because like, there's so many wasted comments, I
think people put, where it's like, all the
time, they're like, oh, you know, this exists,
this is the, you know, we have this
case, okay, but you guys need to understand,
there's a general ruling, or a general proposition,
and universal.
I'm saying we got to go back to
look at what the prophet taught us about
these things, and stick to them before society,
like Hurricane Milton, just wipes us off the
map.
And the trends of today, American society is
toxic for your own spirituality, and it's toxic
for your family.
It may be good for your pocketbook.
That's true.
You can make a lot of money in
America, but it's toxic for your family.
Everything.
Omar is getting some love from behind the
camera.
Dr. Dallas, McCurry swag.
It's Omar, they love Omar.
Hey, Dr. Dallas, you have sisters?
Dr. Dollars, sorry.
You got sisters?
We need to get him married.
Halas, next year, you're graduating, right, Omar?
You're a senior this year, right?
You're graduating, and you're, and you're going to
be, whatchamacallit, working next year, right?
You're going to be ITing next year?
Computer science, okay.
Oh, okay, okay.
You're going to be coding then next year,
right?
Coding from home?
Does that mean that in the summertime, this
is going to be your finale, and we're
going to have to scoop up Zabe or
something?
Okay, because do you know these coding guys,
do they actually work?
These guys that are on laptops all the
time, do they work?
We have Zog in the chat right now,
that's this guy.
Zog is here.
He's a Facebook dude.
Meta, working for Meta.
Let's keep looking at, let's take a look
at this.
Oh, this is too long.
I wanted to read this post, but it's
too long.
All right, you want to do a rapid
fire QA now?
To what?
Yeah, we only talked about atheism for like
two seconds, but we did talk about, we
did make mention of the fallacy, the atheist
fallacy that abandoning God because bad things happen,
it does not change your life.
Bad things will still happen, and in fact,
worse things will still happen, right?
And the solution for that for us is
very simple.
God has the right, and he improves us
through pain.
That's how we look at it.
We as a believer, as a Muslim, someone
submitted to Allah, this is how we look
at it.
Allah Ta'ala improves us through painful things
that happen to us, and he stops us
from doing bad things through pain, and he
may punish us through pain.
So, what is the issue here?
There's literally no issue.
RR says, well, first of all, John is
asking about Jummah.
I'll be at Jummah next week, tomorrow, but
I may not give the khutbah.
We may have a guest khatib because Miftah
Institute is in town.
They're going to be doing a whole bunch
of, you know, they got a big event
lined up, and they have shuyukh.
I don't want to say a bunch of
shuyukh because that's not polite.
They have a number of imams in town,
and we're going to be hosting some of
them.
Salam from the Maldives, please visit.
Yeah, as long as you cover the tab.
Maldives, you know how expensive honeymoons in the
Maldives are?
My friend went on a honeymoon in the
Maldives and regretted it.
Maldives is the prettiest island in the world
right now.
You've been there?
Yeah.
Minister of Foreign Affairs at the UN, and
he took you there.
He invited you there.
Maldives is one of the prettiest islands in
the world, if not the prettiest, next to
Hawaii.
But it's also the, you're going to pay
a pretty penny as well.
Yeah, let's do Q&A.
Let's go to RR says, yesterday you asked,
you talked about isaal thawab.
What is isaal thawab?
Isaal thawab is that you do a good
deed, and you pray to Allah to donate
that, the reward of that good deed to
somebody else.
So you do, you recite Surah Yasin, for
example, or you give charity to the poor,
for example.
Before or after, it doesn't matter.
That thawab, thawab means the reward, is yours.
Now you may intend it to somebody else.
Do you have to make the intention beforehand?
No, you don't.
Just like when I earn money, I have
a gig, I earn money.
I don't have to make the intention of
how I'm going to use this money, right?
After I get the check, I said, okay,
I'll give some to you.
So before or after you do the deed,
you say, oh Allah, I have donated the
reward of this recitation or this charity to
so and so.
Mufti Azeemuddin said that he has direct experience
that it softens people's hearts, and he's seen
it himself.
He had two students, two brothers, who their
parents didn't want them studying at Dar Es
Salaam in Chicago.
So he said, do isalat thawab for them,
and he did.
They did, recited Surah Yasin, Surah Ar Rahman,
and then very over time, period of time,
their hearts softened, right?
And they accepted it.
SMM is from Sweden.
As-salamu alaykum, wa alaykum as-salam.
Can you explain the station of al-fana
in the spiritual journey?
Not properly because you would have to been
through that experience, but I could just tell
you the definition of fana is that someone
is so engulfed or their attention, their heart
is so attached to something that that's all
they see.
How to address when little boy hits little
girl siblings?
Oh, you're going to be in trouble.
Can't do that.
You're going to be in trouble.
Go to timeout.
Go to the corner.
Put your head in the corner.
Put your face in the corner.
People still do timeout?
You got to do timeout.
You'll put your face in the corner, right?
Qisas is optional, maybe not, but and then
you have to apologize and give your sister
a hug, you know, the regular parenting stuff,
the usual stuff.
Asking related to this, do you still get
rewarded if you do Isaah al-Thawab?
You get rewarded a hundred percent, a hundred
percent.
All right, I'm going to start with the
rapid fire.
Go ahead.
That's a cheat code.
You just get other people.
That's true.
Yeah, that's true.
Let me scroll up, actually.
We had a super chat.
I don't know if you read this.
I actually know you already read this.
OK, what is the position of the Maghrib?
Did the Prophet see Allah on the Mi
'raj?
Allah is seen in the next life, not
in this life.
Do you think Muslim couples should get legally
married, particularly in traditional families?
Yes, you should get legally married because that's
how you can ensure your rights that way.
And it's binding in Masajid.
They don't do weddings in Masajid without having
to be civilly certified.
Next question.
What is the status of a non-Muslim
in the afterlife who was on a journey
to learn Islam, left his old faith and
was in the process of seeking guidance with
a pure heart, but he died suddenly?
Repeat the question again, please.
So what is the status, basically, like a
non-Muslim?
What is their status in the afterlife?
They're on a journey to learning Islam and
they left their old faith and they were
in the process of seeking guidance with a
pure heart, I guess intention, but they died
during that, like while they were searching.
Searching for the truth.
We see Allah.
I don't know about that, to be honest
with you.
We leave those matters to Allah, but they
would not be buried with the, with the,
they won't be buried with the Muslims.
What is your position on Ziyarah?
Are you looking at the Prophet's hair?
First of all, when people say they have
the Prophet's hair, like what's the proof of
that?
I'm sure many people get very skeptical about
that, but I mean, what is the loss?
Even if you were to believe it, this
is the Prophet's hair, that's a permissible belief.
If you believe that the source is sound,
is it an obligatory belief?
I don't think you can say, we can
ever say it's wajib to believe that that
specific relic is from the Prophet's life.
It's not wajib to believe that.
It would probably be forbidden to call someone
a liar, right?
And whether you look, and looking at a
hair is permitted, right?
Looking at anything is, looking at a hair
is permitted.
So, at the very least, you're doing something
permitted.
Okay, next question is, any plans for Scotland?
Scotland?
Actually, probably the runner up for this, some,
this spring, you know, this, this spring international
trip I was doing is Guyana.
That's the runner up, that's the, not the
runner up, the, in the lead right now,
it's Guyana.
Yeah, for the summer trip, which is not
really that far, but still should be interesting.
How do I answer a Ghamidi supporter who
answers his lack of endorsement from other scholars
and authority by saying, you know, Abu Hanifa
didn't have this either?
Is this true?
No, Abu Hanifa had so much support.
Let me actually answer the question of, why
isn't it possible in Islam that a minority
got the truth correct and the majority got
the truth wrong?
So, the answer to that is, that is
possible in all fields of life, except Islam.
And that's out of belief, because Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala says, we have revealed this
dhikr.
And we are the ones who preserve it.
We are preserving it.
So, all of the subjects of Islam are
preserved.
Arabic is preserved, because without Arabic, you can't
memorize, you can't know the meaning of the
Quran.
Vocabulary is preserved, because without vocabulary, you wouldn't
have that.
All the knowledges of Islam.
So, Allah is preserving the truth.
Well, what is the value of preserving the
truth?
So, we can follow it, not preserve it,
and then cover it up with falsehood, and
make it 1% of the ummah.
But we also have ahadith.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked
many times about, what do we do in
the end of time?
He said, follow my sunnah, who will be
on it?
Al-jamaa.
So, the Prophet foretold that the majority will
always be upon the truth.
Which majority?
A, scholars.
The majority here is talking about scholars, it's
not talking about regular people.
And B, across history, and across the landmass
of the ummah.
Because obviously, if I go to Iran, the
majority is not on the truth.
I can go to any city, and the
majority is astray.
So, when we say jamaa, it's the historical
scholarship of the ummah, across the whole ummah,
is the jamaa.
In this context, that's the jamaa.
When people are upon that truth, in general,
we should stick to them.
Alright, so what's the third hadith?
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, ummati
la tajtami'a la dalala.
My ummah will not come together on a
misguidance.
Again, localized ummahs can do that.
Otherwise, you wouldn't have sects.
So, the whole nation of Iran is on
a whole dalala, that we believe is, we
know is a dalala.
So, what we mean by that is, again,
the historically, the scholars of Islam will not
agree to a dalala.
Simple as that.
So, it looks like we got a good
amount of questions.
Alright, let's hear them.
So, let me try to go through them.
Shaykh, can you please give me advice on
my sister?
She disrespects my parents and seems to be
going further away from Islam.
Oh, that's rough.
Omar, while we're answering these questions, can you
fire up the WhatsApp pics I sent you?
Yeah.
Oh, pizza's here from Fahd.
So, next question.
Oh, about the sister, subhanAllah.
Well, I think you got to try to
struggle with your sibling.
I think siblings will tolerate each other a
little bit more than regular other people.
You have to struggle with them.
You don't want them to continue on this
path.
So, you shouldn't let them as much as
possible.
You need to keep them in your orbit,
keep them in your company.
The next question is, comments definitely indicate marriage
is a hot topic and a solution is
needed.
We all need that therapy because the Western
culture is a trap and a mental downfall.
Yeah, that's more of a comment.
Okay, next one.
Can you explain the station of Al-Fanadar,
when he reaches during his spiritual journey?
I talked about that already.
Oh, you mentioned that, okay.
Yeah.
Shaykh, what is your favorite surah?
Surah Alam Nashrah, because it takes hardship and
transforms it into ease.
And people are always in hardship, right?
And so, when you're in hardship, you go
to Alam Nashrah.
Who's your favorite reciter?
I can't say I have one favorite reciter,
to be honest.
I like Muhammad Adil Al-Kalbani, controversial person
out of Saudi, but his recitation is so
good.
It's pretty soothing.
No, I never heard his recitation.
Next question is, can you elaborate the relationship
between the Aqal, the Qalb, and the Hawa?
The heart is, there's a lot of different
definitions of the heart, but some people say
it's what carries everything, what holds everything.
Your Hawa is your desires, your whimsical desires.
There's the Shahwa, Al-Nafs, and there's Hawa
Al-Nafs.
The Shahwat have never changed since the dawn
of time.
Like sexual desires, desire of laziness, desire for
power, all those desires have never changed and
will never change.
All those Shahwat that all human beings have,
they have benefits.
You actually have to have them.
Life will not continue without them.
They're like electricity, gas, fire, water in your
home.
If you notice these things, you have to
have them in your home, right?
But you also have to have them tightly
controlled.
If you have a leak, what happens?
It's a disaster.
If the gas leaks, you'll be dead in
a few hours.
If fire gets out of control, you're in
big trouble.
If the electricity is out of control, you're
in big trouble.
So the Shahwat, the desires of the Nafs,
the desires of the Nafs are just like
these vital important things.
If people didn't have sexual desires, you wouldn't
have children, you wouldn't have marriage, you wouldn't
have a human species.
If you didn't love food, you'd die.
If you didn't have a little bit of
greed, you wouldn't want to go to work
and make money and start businesses.
So these Shahwat really need to exist, but
they need to be controlled.
When they're controlled, they only bring good.
When they're out of control, they're all destruction.
So now the Hawa Nafs is a different
thing.
Hawa is not a beneficial desire.
It's whimsical.
It could be lawful or unlawful, and it's
not something that's static.
So the trends of today are not going
to be like the trends of the 1980s.
Hawa is like trends of the wind.
They come, they get really strong, and then
they disappear.
So in the 70s, everyone likes to wear
bell bottoms.
These are Hawa.
And what are the philosophical trends of the
70s?
Who knows, whatever they are.
Then there are philosophical trends today.
Well, there's transgenderism today that didn't exist back
then.
You go to the 70s, and those kids
are the most corrupt hippie in the world.
All free * and drugs, but you tell
him, let's dress up like a woman.
Or you chop your * off.
They'll be disgusted.
Well, it can corrupt your natural desires for
sure.
All messed up now.
But the whimsical, the Hawa Nafs, it never
repeats itself in a sense.
It's always unique to every generation, and it
doesn't have an intrinsic benefit.
We could say sexual desire has an intrinsic
benefit.
It will produce more humans.
It could be out of control and be
crazy and cause all sorts of diseases and
children out of wedlock and all that.
But the Hawa Nafs doesn't have an intrinsic
benefit.
And that's the Shahwa and the Hawa.
Well, the Aql is what keeps these in
order.
The Aql.
And the heart has a role.
If we define the heart as that which
connects or can connect to the unseen, because
through remembrance of Allah, the heart is affected
and the heart can calm the desires.
Once you become conscious of Allah, your desires
will be easy to control.
So that's the answer to that question.
I know we're supposed to be on rapid
fire, but let's look at this picture.
I told you guys, we're really...
A couple of things at Safina Saidi, and
I'm personally getting very interested in.
We got to pay attention to the marriage
situation, but we also have to take care
of ourselves physically.
Physical fitness is part of marriage.
It makes you better off, probably.
Your wife will like you a bit more,
maybe, if you're physically fit, and vice versa
too.
So that's me and that's Hassan, who runs
Prophetic Living, and that's Mustafa B.
There's Hassan right there.
Yeah, that's Hassan right there.
And so these are the brothers that took
part in the race.
It wasn't a race.
It was a run.
I'd lie if I said that I ran
the whole thing.
I walked a little bit.
Or a lot.
But I did do the 5K, and then
there was a whole bunch of people who
did it.
Go to the next picture, and that's a
lot of the kids who did it.
That's just the children.
The children had their own run, and we're
going to keep...
I think we want to do that.
We want to do this here.
We want to do this.
114 is an organization that focuses on Hifz
al-Quran and running races, or running, getting
physically fit.
Empirical Miracle says there are two voices coming
in for some reason.
There's a delay.
Double audio.
Ali Ahmed.
Oh, maybe one of the other mics is
on.
That's why.
Ali Ahmed, your dream means exactly what you
see.
That's it.
Rendad says, if you will major sin after
marriage, should you disclose your habits before marriage?
Is it worse to condemn them by not
telling them, or worse to expose your sins
but be fair to them?
Okay.
Let's say a man, he's a serial womanizer.
You should only marry a woman from that
world.
Go to the club world and marry a
penitent woman from there.
She'll understand.
But don't come and marry the purest woman
in the town that if a brother says,
she says, because you won't relate.
Your little slip up is a tidal wave
in her pure world.
She will never understand that.
So, you should marry someone who has the
same background as you.
But I wouldn't do either of what you're
saying.
You're saying, should I tell her?
I'm sort of a recovering womanizer.
Or should I hide it?
And then every time we walk in the
streets, some woman says, hey, how are you?
I haven't heard from you in a long
time.
All right.
You forgot your watch in my apartment.
That's going to be a disaster too.
So, neither of those.
Yes.
Okay.
Someone was asking a lot of questions.
All right.
Let me take this question while you're at
it because this is close.
Does that apply to brothers dealing with *
addiction?
No, you should not say that to people
that you have this addiction.
It was not.
You should not say that to people if
you have that.
You should fight that.
You have to fight that.
And that doesn't have the application of the
previous one.
Because the club scene and the sleeping around
scene, they know where to find each other.
Right?
And you can find a Muslima who's lived
that life just like you and marry her.
But you don't know where the * scene.
There is no * scene to say that
I'm going to find another sister who's addicted
just like me.
You don't know that.
So, I would just fight that.
Someone's asking, does Islam tell us why this
whole *, heaven system and the test of
life and everything of this was put in
place?
Or do we prefer silence as Allah does
what he pleases?
Why is the system of heaven and *
put in place?
It's a gift for us.
It's a gift.
It's a gift.
The only way to accept the gift is
to face the test because paradise must be
earned.
It's one of those good things you cannot
enjoy except by earning it.
It must be earned.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that this life is like a banquet.
And a man goes and he invites everyone
to a huge banquet for free.
Whoever accepts, eats from the banquet.
And whoever rejects it, stays hungry.
So, you either accept it or you don't
accept it.
If you don't accept an invitation from the
king, that is a crime.
If the king comes and says, I have
a bag of a million dollars for you.
Nah, I'm good.
I'll stay poor.
That's a crime.
That is a wonderful thing that's being done
for you here.
Same thing, God is offering you paradise, but
you got to pay the price.
You got to go through the test.
And he made the choice for you.
But it looks like that.
In fact, the Quran tells us that we
chose to accept it.
Because many people say, I didn't consent to
this life.
I didn't consent to being tested.
Yes, you did.
You just don't remember it.
That's a transmitted proof.
We believe that.
They're not going to believe that.
That's not a proof that I can display
to them from reason or demonstration.
It's only from transmission.
The Quran says, the mountains rejected it, the
heavens rejected it, the earth rejected it, but
the human being accepted it.
The human being accepted the test, the amanah,
consciousness, free will.
If we pass this test, we get eternal
reward.
And if we fail it, you get eternal
punishment.
So many people are afraid to say you
get eternal punishment.
You disrespected the infinite God.
You disrespected the infinite.
The punishment will be eternal.
That's the idea.
Someone's saying, is anxiety a sign of weak
a man or holding a low opinion of
Allah, but having anxiety itself can push you
to do excessive?
Repeat it again.
Is anxiety a sign of weak a man
or holding a low opinion of Allah, but
having anxiety itself can push you to do
excessive?
I think anxiety should be treated medically too.
I think you should not discard treatment, but
you should also keep spiritual treatment, which is
dhikrillah.
I think anxiety has to do with your
attention.
Where are you directing your attention?
Are you directing your attention to the bad
things that are happening in life or the
uncertainties that are happening in life?
Or are you directing your attention to in
whose hands is my life?
The Prophet ï·º used to say, the one
in whose soul is my hands, in whose
hands is my soul.
I'm in Allah's hands.
My soul is in Allah's hands.
Our affair is in Allah's hands.
So, we're in good hands.
If you keep thinking about that, your anxiety
should go down.
Someone's asking advice to we're not feeling nihilistic.
How do you, feeling nihilistic?
The definition of nihilism being like nothing has
a point?
Yeah, like purposeless.
We are too busy asking questions.
We're too busy as Muslims to think that
life has no point because we're being literally
driven to *.
Imagine that.
You're not going to feel nihilistic anymore.
You have a serious purpose now to avoid
this punishment.
And that's one of the reasons * exists,
is to cut out the choice in the
matter.
If I have a matter that there's a
wonderful banquet or I can stay home, I
actually, that's a choice.
I could sit up sitting on my couch.
I can order out Uber Eats.
I can order some Indian food.
Some Desi food.
I can order ice cream after that.
Maybe if I'm really in a wacky mood,
I'll order Faluda.
Like a sixth grade recipe.
Let's put the vermicelli with the ice cream
with the jello.
Sixth grader made this, right?
It's good though.
That's the problem.
You start realizing that I actually like this
stuff, right?
But I tell them to hold the jello.
The jello is going too far.
You put vermicelli with ice cream with I
don't know what.
I can get all that.
What's with the jello?
I've never eaten the jello.
It's a third grade recipe.
I'm telling you.
I think that's new because I've never eaten
the jello.
Oh, they put the jello in.
I say hold the jello, right?
I'm not that silly.
I'm not in that silly of a mood.
But I could sit at home and I'll
have a great time.
Or I can get dressed and I can
go to the party.
I have a choice.
Allah took the choice out of it.
You go to the party or some thugs
are going to come and beat you up.
All right, I don't have no choice now.
I'll go to the party, right?
I think hellfire is a wonderful thing.
It takes the choice out of my mind,
right?
So, that's how we look at it.
What was the other question?
I mean, we have a bunch more.
Do I want to say in the prayer
to the right?
Yes, we do.
And if there's someone to the left, you
say it to the left.
If there's an imam, you say it in
the middle.
So, you have potentially three Taslim.
As-salamu alaykum removes you from the salah.
That's it.
Is it permissible to purchase a cat?
Is it permissible to purchase a cat?
It's makrooh to trap the cat.
You're not going to be sinful for buying
it.
But the trapping of the cat is makrooh
to the degree that the cat suffers.
If the cat's living a fine life with
you, then it's only lightly discouraged.
Empirical miracles.
Why saying imams don't care about convert women?
I don't think that imams should get so
heavily involved with convert women.
Other women should get involved with convert women.
That's really how it should be.
The sisters have to be involved in the
life of the other sisters.
Okay, I'm going to try to go more
down.
Rendad, which is worse?
If you will choose one, are they equally
as bad?
I guess you would have to say to
the wali.
You know, tell your daughter, I did have
a little bit of a past.
If you have to go that route.
Let's say you're in the middle of the
talks.
It's too late now.
We're going to get married.
All right, fine.
You have to disclose, I think, to the
wali.
I little did some things in the past
that was not good.
That's better than ghish.
Because you're penitent, right?
So you're not disclosing your sins.
You're disclosing that I have a past that
may come up.
And he may say, okay, well, I need
you to get tested for STDs.
That's a fair request.
If someone repented for major sins in this
life, will they still face punishment in the
grave?
If someone did what?
Repented?
If they repented from major sins?
No, inshallah, if he repented from major sins,
inshallah, he will not be punished.
What about without a wali?
Converts, for example, an imam can ask that
for the woman.
An imam should go to the other brothers
in the community and see who will act
as the wali.
The wali is important.
The wali's job is to do a background
check on the husband, to protect the woman's
rights in the negotiation of the mahr, to
have all the tough talks that are needed
in the negotiation before marriage.
And then after marriage, if she has problems
or she's being abused, she doesn't have a
dad to go to, she has to go
to that wali.
Every masjid should assign that.
Every masjid should assign a wali for a
convert sister to have.
Are you deficient if you recite Quran daily
as dhikr, but don't do other dhikr very
much?
Of course not.
You're not deficient if you recite Quran, but
not other dhikr.
Of course not.
If a Muslim man wanted to get married,
is he allowed to see the hair?
If not, what do they do to make
sure they're attracted?
What do you do to make sure you're
attracted to a woman if you can't see
her hair?
You don't get that right.
The face and the hands.
The face will tell you what they look
like and the hands will tell you a
little bit of what their body is like.
Rounded, very skinny.
That's what our ulama say.
The face shows the appearance, but you don't
get to see the hair.
Sorry to tell you that.
I mean, you mentioned this a few times.
We're so picky nowadays where we can pick
our Starbucks latte, like what's in the milk.
That's true.
It's not Build-A-Bear, right?
If you're attracted, it's fine.
Bro, she's not seeing your chest.
You want her to measure your forearm?
Exactly.
She's not seeing the things that she's going
to enjoy from you.
Right?
It's either yes or no.
Like, you don't need...
It's not Build-A-Bear.
Yeah.
Yeah, Candace Owens had a post the other
day.
She said, why did our grandparents not get
divorced?
They're not scrolling through images of women all
day.
The guy gets to see one woman in
his whole life.
It's not directed to the questioner.
Yeah, that wasn't directed, but I'm just saying
in general.
Next question.
A friend of mine is actively engaged in
zina.
My question is, how do I deal with
this?
He keeps asking me if Sharia police is
going to knock on his door if he
comes to my country alone.
Am I being an accomplice?
What?
Guys actively engage in zina.
He keeps asking me if Sharia police is
going to knock on his door if he
comes to my country.
Tell him, yeah.
Scare him off.
Scare him off.
You can...
Someone who's sowing corruption in the land, like
sleeping around with the women of the country,
you cannot let him stay at your house
and guard him and protect him and help
him because he's going to go and spread
this facade all over the earth.
Keep going.
Can we dedicate an umrah for our dead
grandparents even though they didn't pray their salat
regularly?
Say again.
Can we dedicate an umrah for our dead
grandparents even if they didn't pray salat regularly?
You can, but you have to do your
umrah first.
Is jinn catching like Sheikh Ben Halima popularized
aloud?
I don't know who that is, but...
No, I don't know anything about that.
I think there's a lot of...
Don't get involved with jinn.
Stay far, far, far, far away from jinn.
Can we accept the belief that the Prophet
ï·º has the ability to attend certain majalis
and sit on a chair over there?
That's just a question that's going to get
us involved in some massive debate.
I'm not going to answer that.
I do have a belief about that, but
I'm not going to go into that.
You know, someone recently said that certain questions
may be asked innocently and you answer them
innocently, but it sparks a fitnah.
And so therefore, we're not going to answer
any of those masa'il that are just
going to go back and forth between groups.
And that's not an offense to anybody who's
asking the question.
Feel free to ask any other question.
You have a question?
Go ahead.
Is it good to make dua or adhkar
to increase rizq and barakah?
Istighfar.
Istighfar increases rizq.
All right, rapid fire.
Keep going.
All right, someone's asking, is there a downside
to marrying someone who has a lot of
brothers?
A lot of brothers over there?
No.
Same way, a woman who has mostly women
or more sons?
No, I'm not going to...
We shouldn't make that a barrier.
A woman who has a lot of brothers
or a guy who has a lot of
sisters or vice versa, there is marriage as
difficult as is and nobody should add those
extra barriers.
If I read the sahih of Ibn Abi
Zayd from Madakithub, is that sufficient to practice
fan?
Ibn Abi Zayd?
Yeah.
You can study that, but I would recommend
you try to get one of the commentaries.
But that could last the person pretty much
80% of the masa'il that they're
going to see in regular life.
They clearly won't be able to answer a
lot of masa'il, but that is enough
to live regular life, yes.
What's the ideal age to marry for both
genders?
The ideal age to marry?
I don't think there's one set ideal, but
I think from after college, you can get
married even during college possibly.
And then I would say that, but after
college is the norm for us.
And then I see that the brothers for
four years after college, after that period of
time, the window starts getting very slim for
them because they're no longer in positions where
they can meet people and they're at that
odd age where they're neither seeing a lot
of people and most of their friends may
be getting married.
It's an odd age.
The window starts to close pretty quickly if
you ask me.
Salam alaikum, Dr. Shady.
Would you mind doing an event in Syracuse?
Syracuse, New York?
Syracuse, New York, yeah.
Is this abroad from NJ or from a
lot of time away?
I'm not traveling a lot these days to
be quite honest.
We have a lot of launches to do.
If a person talks in front of a
grave thinking that his or her relative can
hear him or her just to share or
getting relief from grief of losing them, is
it okay?
Like if someone, I guess he's saying like,
they believe that the person in the grave
can hear them as a way to relieve
themselves.
Oh, you're allowed to talk to someone in
the grave.
I know someone just said that that's shirk,
but that's ridiculous.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talked to
the kuffar, challenging them.
And they're going to say maybe, oh, that
was only for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam.
But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
to the Sahabi, I think it was Zubair
ibn al-Awwam, the dead hear us just
as you hear me.
So the saying that that is just for
the Prophet is just a saying.
It's a qawl, maybe that has validity and
maybe not.
But maybe many said it, maybe not.
But for sure that simply speaking to someone
in the grave is lawful.
It's not shirk.
I'll tell you again, what is shirk?
To ask anybody what only Allah can give.
Forgive all my sins.
Create something from nothing.
Or number two, to believe that anybody you
ask has power, has true power to create
something from nothing.
We don't believe in any of that, right?
Those two, if you do though, that's shirk.
And by the way, he didn't say to
ask them anything.
He said to talk to them.
There is no sinfulness in doing that, let
alone shirk.
Do we not say, assalamu alaykum, daara qawmin
mu'mineen.
Antumu assabiqun, wanahnu allahiqun.
Right?
You say, peace be upon you, oh abode
of the deceased.
When you go to the graveyard, that's what
you say.
Home of the dead.
Someone's saying, what should someone do if he
works in banking slash finance but now has
large financial obligations?
It says, do I not answer so long
as he works in this industry?
Yeah, if you're working and your earning every
day is unlawful, your do I is not
answered.
You disobey Allah every single day.
In your eating and in your earning, don't
go and ask him questions.
Don't go and ask him requests.
They'll be rejected.
Banking and financing, if that specific act that
he does every day is unlawful, then yes,
your wealth is unlawful and your dua will
not be accepted.
What is Khilafah now saying?
What is he saying?
What's going on here?
I haven't, I've been reading these questions so
it's like, what the heck?
Oh my god, I've been, caught me lacking.
Usually I'm quick with the bands but you
know, I'm reading the questions.
I mean, he's saying a lot of things
here.
All right, next.
Shahjeeb.
You're on your computer.
Where's the khilafah?
Ruling on overeating, highly discouraged.
What does a black heart mean in a
dream?
But maybe something not good but Allah knows
best.
Couple more questions before we wrap up for
the week.
Does mentally insane not held accountable?
Someone who cannot do tamiz, cannot know his
right from left, top from bottom.
No sharia applies to him.
He's not obligatory upon, not obligated to do
anything.
Harris Ahmed is upset.
Why aren't you answering me?
Don't get upset and send those kind of
messages.
Just put the question again because now I
got to scroll up.
Walmart's got to scroll up.
That's what I always say, like if you
need, if you want your question to be
answered.
Yeah.
Don't just say why you don't want to
answer me or scroll up.
Send it one more time.
But let's see.
If a person, I know we re-read
that.
Is synthetic farming food production permissible as it's
grown in unnatural conditions?
Synthetic farming is not impermissible.
No, if it's not unhealthy.
How does a Muslim convert handle organizing funerals
for disbeliever parents?
Non-Muslim is just buried in a normal
way without the sunnah of ghusl and wrapping
and salah.
You just bury him in a normal way.
Yeah.
So you may still wrap the person, have
a casket and just bury the person, but
there will be no ghusl.
Nor will there be janazah nor any dua.
Is it allowed to pray in a room
with idols in a multi-faith room?
We should either cover the idol or face
the opposite direction.
It's like one of those multi-faith rooms
where they have maybe a Hindu section.
So you can cover the idols or face
the opposite direction.
When we speak about Allah and say fi
haqqihi, how can we translate this properly?
Fi haqqihi, I would prefer, for example, what
do you mean fi haqqihi?
In his right, I guess.
Yeah.
Allah has rights in his rights.
Yeah.
I think we talked the other day about
Abu Hanifa, Sayyidina Imam Abu Hanifa, he disliked
for someone to say fi haqqi fulan because
it gives the image that Allah owes somebody
something.
And they could say, you can say some
other wording that doesn't give the impression that
Allah owes somebody something.
Are we allowed to say istighfar during workout
even though we aren't fully focused?
Repeat that.
Are we allowed to say istighfar during our
workouts even though we aren't focused?
Yes, you can make istighfar while you're jogging,
working out.
Here's a question says, as a convert, my
family can bury me normally.
Then if you're the Muslim, then a Muslim
needs to bury you in an Islamic manner,
in a Muslim graveyard with ghust, with kafan,
shrouding, with salatul janazah.
Is make-up haram and why is it
haram?
Make-up is unlawful.
Zina in general is unlawful.
Zina is what would make someone attracted to
look at somebody.
And that's unlawful in front of other men.
It's lawful in front of your direct immediate
family and husband, of course.
Thoughts on tibbun nebawi?
Tibbun nebawi is wonderful.
I wouldn't say that we should ignore regular
medicine.
Yes, and then he said my mom has
back pain and is confusing prophetic medicine with
these homeopathic grifters.
You mean you don't want her doing reiki
and stuff?
But tibbun nebawi, there are only a few
medicines that the Prophet ï·º specifically gave and
you could do those but you don't have
to ignore conventional medicine.
Someone's asking where to seek marriage when there's
no local community or family?
Are there any recommended services?
That's why I'm telling you we're getting into
this more and more because people are having
trouble finding husbands and wives.
So we're working on this.
We are really dedicated to this now.
Cupping is definitely one of the tibbun nebawi,
part of tibbun nebawi.
The Prophet ï·º talks about cupping and wet
cupping is something the Prophet ï·º did regularly.
So we should do that.
Maybe McCurry Swag, your mom could do that
for her back pain.
How someone should give advice to sister or
family that wears makeup and leaves hijab?
You have to just advise them I guess
nicely but maybe the women better off to
advise that if they're going to get sensitive
about it.
It's all a struggle of trying to bring
our family members into good environments so that
we don't have to talk directly because keep
in mind you have this relationship for a
long term.
It's long term.
So you have to try to bring them
into a good environment and they can hear
messages from there.
Brother, we're not scared of you Khilafah.
You're an internet warrior.
You wouldn't say that to anyone's face.
These people are very comfortable online.
They won't say anything in person.
Anyways, any advice for people who are scared
to get married because they've seen so many
failed marriages around them?
Scared to get married, see too many failed
marriages around them?
Well, why don't you start looking at the
successful marriages?
It's where you put your attention.
Put your attention to the successful marriages.
There's a lot of them.
A lot of successful marriages.
It used to be like 99% in
the old days.
Well, maybe not but it felt like that,
right?
It felt like that.
That's the point that when I was young
when somebody in the class said that their
parents were divorced, we didn't know what that
even was.
That was like so rare to see.
So, look at the successful ones.
What is Iblis' goal?
Should we abstain from Hollywood movies and TV
shows?
Well, I'll tell you this.
99% of their goal is to destroy
people's akhlaq.
If not their goal, that's the result.
Probably not their goal is to make money
but it's to destroy akhlaq for sure.
If you don't abstain from them altogether, you
keep that in the back of your mind
and always know that we're not immune to
subconscious thoughts and ideas.
Shirkan says, is it shirk to believe Allah
created laws of attraction?
First of all, we do not know with
any certainty that our thoughts can attract anything.
However, the fact that, let's say you do
believe in something that's pseudoscience.
Hypothetically, let's position it as pseudoscience.
Pseudoscience being a belief that I have that
is not backed by demonstration but it's a
hunch.
Is that a fair assessment of pseudoscience, Omar?
Pseudoscience is like a belief that I have
that is not backed by actual scientific experimentation.
That's a good definition, right?
But you attribute it to Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, you've removed yourself from shirk.
But you cannot state this as a fact.
You could just say it's a hunch that
I have.
Maximum, it's a hunch.
We all have hunches in life.
We see correlations and we attribute causation.
We may be right, we may be wrong.
We may be right or wrong.
We can't ever really say.
So that's where it's in the gray area.
As long as a person believes that that
sabab is created by Allah in the first
place, then you're far from shirk at that
point.
Working for defense forces of your country, Haram
or Halal, namely programming websites.
Working for the army, the military of your
country is unlawful if they engage or have
a likelihood to engage in an oppressive war.
But if you're in a country like, let's
say, Guyana, maybe one third of the country
of Guyana is Muslim and now their president
is Muslim, maybe more than one third maybe.
Maybe half of them are Muslim.
Working for the army with no sign that
they're going to do an oppressive, engage in
an oppressive war, then we can't say that
that's unlawful, no.
Thank you, Mr. Curry Swag.
Mr. Curry Swag has started the Omar Fan
Club.
Should we take into account when considering someone
for marriage if a man is a lot
older but not married?
You can take age into account, yeah.
Nothing wrong with taking age into account.
It's what you like.
If you have an issue marrying somebody who's
a certain number of years older than you,
then it's no different than not liking how
he looks or not liking where he plans
to live.
Those things that are essential for you.
There are only a few absolute, like we're
not even in non-starters, I call them.
We're not even having a discussion.
There are only a few.
Idols in direction of Qibla in multi-faith
room.
You have to cover it with a blanket
or with a shawl or something.
If you can't cover it, then I think
you'd have to pray somewhere else.
Also, this guy, he keeps coming back with
a new account and spamming.
Yeah, is he obsessed?
We're not scared of your question or whatever.
He wants me to say something racist.
That's what it is.
No, he's saying something about dinner or something
crazy.
But if you ask the question genuinely, there's
no point in answering.
You're just being disrespectful.
Using haram to gather attention for a potential
hadal intent.
I'm a content creator and use music.
Sufis in India adopted music for dawah.
Thoughts, Yashif?
It's a gray area for sure, 100%.
I can't say yes.
But he's saying, using haram to gather attention
for a potential hadal intent.
It's a shady area.
Ask some other muftis.
If husband's family is non-Muslim, must wife
be covered in front of husband's father and
mother?
No.
Your father-in-law is forbidden for you
to marry forever.
And you may reveal your hair in front
of him, even if he's not a Muslim.
Is chess haram?
Is chess haram?
Poor Ali Ahmed has been asking this for
ages now.
Chess is not forbidden.
No.
Okay.
Can you remove or smash idols in a
multi-faith room?
Can you remove or smash these idols?
Well, you're going to face a fine, that's
for sure.
So it's not necessarily our property.
So I don't think following the sunnah of
Ibrahim alayhis salaam, the Prophet was in Mecca
and he never did that when it wasn't
his property.
So that's one of the cases where the
Prophet's sunnah differs from the Prophet Ibrahim's sunnah.
The Prophet alayhis salaam co-existed with these
idols, hating it in his heart and speaking
out against it with his tongue.
But he didn't use his hands until he
had the legal right to do so.
So the answer to that would be no.
We can't go and make multi-faith rooms
and break the idols.
Someone's saying TV shows slash YouTube recs for
toddlers?
I don't like any TV for kids, to
be honest with you.
I took that from my friend who's a
psychologist, I'm sorry, a psychiatrist.
And he said, the phone, the iPad, the
TV, in that order, are not good for
the development of a kid's brain.
And oh, he's asked me, what do I
recommend?
No, I don't know what I recommend, but
I definitely know that, oh, what's that, what's
that one channel?
Cocoa Melon, they've rigged it where your kid
will be an addict within the first time.
The colors are so bright and it keeps
splicing.
All the kids are addicted to that, so
don't go that route.
Is there a certain, I mean, I don't
even, I would question if there's such a
thing as a good TV show for kids,
because the idea of a good TV show
lies in the plot and the message, right?
But kids, like, are they able to...
The medium, the medium is not good for
their brain, not good for their eyes, and
then who's the teacher is the other question.
But there is, for example, let's say you
have, you're gonna, kids are gonna watch cartoons.
What was that one called that...
Omar and Hannah?
No, not Omar and Hannah's one, one, but
there was that other, there was that BrailleVie
one.
There was a, there was a BrailleVie channel,
all the kids walk around with green turbines.
And it was good.
There was like Sira, different stories.
So at least it's something good.
And it's on YouTube.
Can women cut the front of their hair?
Yes.
What the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, well,
I can't even, I don't want to say
if there's a hadith about this, but I
do know that in the, when they talk
about the hair length of a woman, just
as it's discouraged for a man to mimic
a woman, it's discouraged for a woman to
mimic a man and have a male, a
predominantly male type of haircut.
Just discouraged because it takes away from the
beauty of a woman and it's in her
hair.
So, but that has to do with the
back, not the front.
We got two things.
John Cher, our man, Dr. John Cher.
He's saying LED screen is bad.
Dopamine surge is catastrophic.
Screen time limits and back to old school
ways of learning.
Totally agree.
Thank you, doctor.
Totally.
I'm very suspicious of everything that's in the
modern times.
It's not good for our brains, not good
for our bodies.
And then someone's asking on that topic of
women's hair is, what's the logic between covering
women's hair?
Not only in Islam, but all of the
Abrahamic religions, one way or another encourage for
women to hide their hair.
That's true, yeah.
In front of other people.
Well, what's the default?
The default is that a woman is not
in front of these other guys.
That's the default.
So, sure, her going in front of these
other guys is like a rukhsa.
It's like an exception in the first place.
And those other guys, it's just a command
from Allah.
They don't have the right to see this.
They don't have the right to see that
hair.
It's not their right.
Simple as that.
And that's why all these previous religions have
some form of hijab or others.
Someone's asking, can you pray jama'at?
It's related to what you asked before.
Pray jama'at in front of idols?
Can't move or cover or pray on my
own without idols?
Nah, khalas, if the idols are impossible to
cover or not pray in front of, then
go somewhere else.
Don't pray in the direction of the idol.
How to control your nafs without a controlling
you.
Sometimes going too hard is the opposite effect.
Yeah, sometimes trying to fight your ego too
much or your desires too much, you're actually
going to create the opposite effect.
So what you need is distraction.
Distract your nafs.
So when your desires are strong going one
way, the solution isn't going to go the
opposite way.
The solution is try to distract it from
something else.
Go hang out with your friends.
That'll distract you from indulging in the desires
of your ego.
All right, we gotta run.
Last question from Omar.
Let's pick a good one.
I mean, a lot of people are...
Yeah, this one I guess.
How do you avert your gaze when women
now dress in professional settings like they used
to only dress in nightclubs, etc?
There's no solution to this nonsense, to be
honest with you.
Our society today, there's no solution to this.
You just try to lower your gaze as
much as possible.
It's like walking through the jungle with a
white thobe.
How do you keep it clean?
You're not keeping it clean.
You try as much as you can and
that's it.
You make istighfar and tawbah and make wudu
and try to lower your gaze.
But other than that, I don't have anything
to say.
I had a thought with this stuff.
I'm not advocating this because it's just like
an idea.
But it can end up in like some
black mirror kind of situation perhaps.
You know those glasses that people wear?
So what if you take AI and you
have it programmed so that it filters...
That's awesome.
It filters everything you see and hijabifies it.
That would be insane.
I mean, they could lead to like...
That solves the problem right there.
But like you wear it and it detects
any woman.
100%.
And it covers every hijab.
Yeah.
What about that?
Azag?
You hear that?
You programmers out there?
Yeah.
Call it Oculus.
Ock.
A-K-H.
All right, folks.
Thank you very much for giving us a
chance to talk to you all today.
A lot of nice questions.
A lot of good suggestions.
A lot of good comments.
Thank you all very much.