Salim Morsy – The Treatment of Parents in Islam Pt. 2 Jumuah Prayer 12202019 Parents
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Log you. We're on a kid.
All
the way. Walk
today,
I will I will continue
in the same topic that I started
3 weeks ago,
which is
to be kind and nice toward your parents,
while they are alive
or if they passed away.
And I did not conclude the topic yet.
I choose
some
practices
to practice how to
make yourself
kind
and nice
toward your parents
and how to approach
the level
of
Ihsan
that Allah
mentioned
in the Quran.
Just to mention for you,
when we look at the verses
that Allah mentioned the word of khsan
toward your parents
or husnah,
they are 5.
And the scholars exhibit,
like, we are obligated
to pray
5 times a day.
We are obligated to be kind and nice
toward
our parents in the same level of the
prayer.
And
in the Quran,
Abbas
did not combine between
worshiping him
and anything else except
to be kind and nice toward your parents.
Your lord enjoined you
not to worship anyone except him.
And be kind
and nice toward your parents.
Worship Allah
and do not
make partner with him.
In all kind of commands
that
Allah exhibit for us to encourage us to
be kind and nice toward our parents,
dads and moms.
We will never find a single word in
the Quran
to encourage parents
to take care of their children
because it's a natural way
for parents to raise and to take care
of their children.
But we do
have a lot of verses in the Quran
encourage children
to take care of their parents and to
be kind and to nice
toward their parents. Because children, they might forget
when they grow,
when they become adult, when they become busy
in their life, when they when they have
their own life, when they have the the
children and they become busy, and they might
forget
what their parents did for him or for
him.
What should we do for our parents
even if they are alive or
if they passed away?
We have to make dua for them.
The first action or the first
thing that we need to do for our
parents
to make supplication for them,
and to make supplication even
more than ourselves.
When we look at the reality,
Allah,
he is the main purpose for us.
He created us.
He is the main purpose for us to
be in this life.
And our parents,
the physical main purpose for us to be
in this life.
And this is why Allah did not compare,
did not combine
any other person with
himself
in the same level
to worship Allah
and to be kind to other people except
our parents.
Because
only 2 of them, Amba
and our parents,
are the main purpose for us to be
here in this life.
And when we deal with our friends
or our children or our wives
or any anybody else,
we have to
have different way
and very kind and nice way
to treat them.
The first thing we should do to make
supplication,
need to ask for them.
Why is to do it?
When you do supplication for yourself, don't forget
your mom,
and then you forget your dad.
Stop with them.
Ask Allah in the same way that he
told us.
Oh, Allah sharpen them with your mercy.
Why if they arrived or did, it's okay.
But just when you have a masjid or
when you have Islamic school, when you have
any
a project
will benefit the society.
Write their names in this project.
Make them happy
that you will donate
under their names. It's not under your name.
You honoring your parents more than yourself.
This is the second one, to donate in
behalf of them.
To host them
or to have dating with them, somebody will
will take it in wrong way.
Like we have dating with our wives,
or even with our children, with our friends
sometimes,
nothing wrong to have dating with our parents.
My dad, I will be glad
to go out with you, to have some
time together. My mom,
I wish if you accept
my invitation
and take them or one of them
and go somewhere
else. Have dating with them.
You know, for dating,
subhanallah, I have a story.
It's not long time ago, but it's really
helped me a lot
to understand
some situation we did not be intention for
it.
There is a young man.
He told his wife, I'm so sorry.
I'm,
you know, I'm dating with the other woman.
I know you will be married with me,
but I can't
say no
for her.
And she was mad. She says, do you
know any other lady more than me? And
he said, it's my mom.
And she come down, and she laughed.
And he took his mom
out.
He went to a restaurant. I'm not encouraging
you to choose the very fancy, expensive
restaurant, but at least
just
held her out to think that you do
care about her, or you do care about
your dad.
And he went to the restaurant,
and he grabbed the menu.
She couldn't read because she become very old.
And she said, I I used to teach
you and I used to read for you
when you were young. I said, mom, don't
worry. I will read for you. And he
asked her what she likes to eat, and
he said, I I need to
pay
or to return back
some of the lights that you
showered me
when I was young.
And he he he narrated the story by
himself.
He mentioned the story by himself.
And he was only a boy for this
day.
And he said, we spend the time together,
we forget the time
until
midnight.
Some of us, when we have a meeting
with our parents,
we just
rush ourselves to finish that just quickly
because
he wants he wants to go to his
friends or his wife or his children,
and we need to spend more time with
our parents.
And he said, we spend the time until
we die,
until
the people in the restaurant, they told them
we we need to close.
Subhanahu
wa'am.
Can you see how deep the level of
love between him and his mom?
And and they left the restaurant,
and she told him, oh my son,
you do not know
how I was so happy when you asked
me to go in dating with me.
But
I will go with you in the second
time, but it will be on me. If
you agree, we gonna agree together. Isatok came
up. Whatever you wish, I will make it
for you.
And
he dropped her off into her place, and
he went
back to his children and his
wife.
And after a few days,
his mom passed away with the heart attack.
And this is not the surprise. The surprise
will come later.
And he said, I've come busy to prepare
her body and just to wash her body
and to bury her. And after a few
days,
I received a letter from the same restaurant
that they
had they did together.
And
he found a car inside the envelope,
and she wrote her name, and she wrote
a sing a a small sentence for him.
And he told him, oh my son, you
do not know how I was so happy
in that day,
but
I know I will not be here in
future.
I reserved to take it for you and
your wife.
And she signed, I love you, my son.
And he said, in this moment, I realized
what love
does mean for me.
This is the word. We might hear a
lot of people say to their I love
you, dad. I love you, mom. I love
I love you, son. I love you, daughter.
But we say it by our tongues. We
did not practice
the love
in between ourselves.
We need to increase
the level of love, especially between us and
our parents.
And this is the surprise.
You know, SubhanAllah,
he did a no she will die,
and he took her
out to the restaurant.
Yeah. Can you imagine if he did not
make it for his for for
for her?
He will blame himself for the rest of
his life.
And
we we are dating, you know, in often
time, but we need to to
to select
the people that we will be having in
their presence.
And our parents have more right than anybody
else around us. And this is why Allah
combine
them with himself in the same level, in
the same verse, in the same place in
the Quran.
Just I don't like to take long time
about this this point.
We need to move on.
Also,
to kiss their heads and their hands
in often time. Some of us might be
shy
to kiss
his dad's head or his dad's hand. Why?
When you're shy?
Whosoever
humiliate himself
for the sake of Allah, Allah will elevate
him.
And when you do that,
do that
out of love, out of respect for your
parents.
You know? If your if your dad or
your mom away from you,
don't forget to call them
like we pray.
And this is when we look at the
Quran,
the word of
or Husna.
Allah mentioned them 5 times,
which is the the same time that we
have to pray every single day.
To pray to Allah and to be kind
to your parents.
And when you look at Ihsan,
just to understand
why Allah choose the word of Ihsan or
Husna,
when we go back a little bit
to see the command of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala,
Indeed, Allah
enjoined
you
with the justice,
to be just.
And
he said,
what is the meaning of justice?
Justice
to give every single his every single person
his right
and to take only your right.
But how about Ihsan?
It's more than justice.
Ihsan
this is why
Gabriel,
peace be upon him, when he asked prophet
Mohammed
tell me about Islam.
What is the meaning of Islam?
And he he replied to him
to believe in Allah and the and the
to say,
no. There is no one has right to
be worshiped but Allah. I am to believe
that Muhammad Rasulullah
and
to perform
prayers and to give almost given and to
fast Ramadan and to build perform pilgrimage.
These are 5. And tell me about iman,
faith,
and to believe in Allah, his angels, his
books, his messengers,
and his
decree, and
hereafter.
And
which is the top.
It's more than Islam,
more than iman,
which is the top.
Ihsan.
To worship Allah like you seeing him.
If you know that you will not able
to see Allah, you have to know that
He is
seeing you,
and you will perfect your
ibadah. You will perfect your obedience to Allah
subhanahu wa'ala. Now we will come back again
to the word of Ihsan that Allah choose
to deal with your parents with Ihsan.
Because the parents, they have more right than
anybody else.
If you deal with the other people with
the justice,
and this is the lower
requirement
to deal with the people,
to give every person his or her right,
and to take only your right, not more
than your right. But Ihsan
to give people more than their rights.
And to take for yourself
less than your right. This is Ihsan. It's
not aq.
How about Bir?
Bir,
which is in the top of the sal.
This is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala did
not mention in any
verse of the Quran to have Bil to
your parents,
except
for the messengers and the prophet only.
When Allah talked about prophet Yahya,
Jonah, peace be upon him,
He was kind
toward his parents. And the prophet Jesus, peace
be upon him.
Subhanallah.
Because if Allah commanded us to deal with
the bill with our parents,
no one of us will pass.
And Allah just
commanded us to deal with the higher commanded,
which is ihsan.
To deal with them with the ihsan.
And
ihsan,
to give
more than
their rights.
If you deal with everybody
with the justice,
you need to deal with your parents
more than justice, which
is.
May Allah
make all of us
kind
and nice
toward our parents. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
help all of us to deal with them
in very nice way, and may Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala help all of us to pay
back to them whatever
we can
to appreciate
what they have done for us when we
were young.
Dear brothers and sisters,
just I would like to conclude my speech
today
with that some advices
for us.
Don't feel shy
when you humiliate yourself
to your parents,
you have to feel the power of yourself
because this
is the big game
that Allah
opened for us
to enter into paradise
through our parents.
And it's really confusing
for somebody
who has a chance
to enter into paradise,
but he rejected.
He did not take advantage.
He's passing by
his passing by paradise,
and he
refused to enter into paradise.
When we remember, there is a lot of
hadith from prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
For example,
when he was climbing on the member, and
he said, Ameen,
Ameen, Ameen.
O Allah, accept from me.
And the companions asked him what that means.
And he said,
and he said just to for our topic
today, he said,
You do not need
a lot
of good deeds.
You do not need a lot of salah.
You do not need a lot of siyam.
You only need to be kind and nice
to your parents.
If you pray our regular prayers,
if you do
an obligatory
fasting,
and you do an obligatory
actions, you will be in the safe side.
If you do
good actions toward your chaos
and to make dua for them as much
as you can,
because the Quran encourage us.
Say, oh my lord, charge them with your
mercy. It's encouragement
from.
And when
you make donation,
why if they are alive or not,
just
to make their names before your name.
In behalf of your dad, in behalf of
your mom,
be happy.
Teach your children.
Be kind toward your parents, and your children
will be kind toward you.
And I was reading the hadith in sahih
al bukhail.
Subhanallah, it's really
suharped.
If we understand the meaning
and
we did not break
of
the hadith.
And Nabi al salallahu alaihi wasallam
mentioned
that if you
force your parents or if you make them
mad to cry
This is from a book,
from disobedience.
And how many of us really, and even
other hadith, I was I was surprised when
I read
it. If you
stare your your your eyes toward your parents,
this is from the kind of.
It's not from the devil.
How many of us
looked
up to our parents in the same level
and we did not blame our eyes?
Subhanallah.
You try to show them that you are
empowered.
You are stronger than them.
Who you are?
SubhanAllah, you are nothing without their
help. You are nothing without
their care.
And this is why Allah
always repeated for us
to remember, to be kind, and to be
nice toward our parents. Please,
my request,
my humble request,
if you have your mom in town
and I choose the public to be honest
because I hear
a lot of bad stories.
And I will decide is it for all
of us.
It might be the last call for some
of us. Just we need to wake up.
We need to
understand
the the the importance
of their presence.
To help your dad or your mom next
to you, Ubani, it's a lot of blessing
from Allah Subhanahu Wa'ala. Allah Subhanahu Wa'ala will
will help you out
as long as you
care about your dad or about your mom.
Even if they're
still
around
or if they passed away,
you can do it in your way.
And make sure
that
you will not go to your bed
before you
see
their
happiness.
Ask them.
Choose the kind word.
And make sure they you will not sleep.
How how come that you will enjoy your
sleep and your mom is not happy with
you or your dad is not happy with
you? How come?
How you will teach your children to be
respectful for you?
We are lying
when we when we act
that we are humble, we are pious, we
are righteous,
and we cut off our parents. We did
not talk to them. We did not visit
them. We did not help them out. How
come?
We are cheating ourselves.
We are deceiving ourselves.
My humble request, if you have your mom
in town, please don't go back to your
house. Go to her house
first.
Kiss her
head and kiss her hand,
and tell him, please forgive me. I did
wrong against you.
You know?
Allah will be happy with you if your
parents are happy with you. It's simple way.
If your parents are not happy,
nothing will intercede for you. Nothing will help
you out.
And if you're a mom or your dad
back home, please
call them
today,
right after salah.
Ask him.
Ask her. Ask them. Are you happy with
me?
Hear from them. Yes. We are happy. They
will be witnesses with you in the day
of judgement. They will intercede. They will make
shafa'ah
for you.
If your dad or your mom are pious
and your imani is not good,
100%,
you will be lucky
because they will elevate you in their living
in paradise.
May Allah
gather all of us with our parents, with
our beloved ones
in paradise
with our beloved prophet Muhammad
and his companions,