Salim Morsy – The Treatment of Parents in Islam Pt. 1 Jumuah Prayer 11292019
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The speakers discuss the importance of being kind and being nice towards parents, even in small ways like rewarding parents with good deeds. They emphasize the need to rethinking one's behavior and change their way of life to deal with parents. They also stress the importance of treating parents with respect and humble management, showing love and understanding, and teaching children to be kind. The speakers emphasize the need for forgiveness and the importance of showing love and understanding parents' behavior in the future.
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Dear brothers and sisters,
today,
I will be talking about
to be kind
when he used to advise.
He gave
in general advice for everyone.
And the one who did mistakes,
it would be easy for himself
or himself to cover up
what he missed
with his parents,
his dad, or his mom.
And this is what I'm
trying to do
to remind
ourselves,
all of us,
to be kind and to be nice
toward our parents
alive
or if they passed away.
Just I will
mention
some verses in the Quran,
and we will learn. We will study.
Have Allah
put them in order
in very unique way.
The first
verses I will
What he ran in the
I know we might memorize the verses,
but just we need to look
in deep meaning about these verses
to learn
and to
change our way of life
toward our parents.
We might have some people, they deal with
their parents as friends.
You know, you talk with your friends
and just say one word here or other
word there. You know? Or some people, they
might deal with their parents as enemies
of them.
And this is true.
Subhanallah.
You might see a
son talking to his dad in very rude
way or very bad way or talking to
his mom in very bad way
because of his wife or because of his
children
or because of his position
or his status.
Al imam
Haywa.
He is a very scholar
very famous scholar of the Hadith.
His mom,
while
teaching,
his mom used to ask him, oh, Aiwah,
come to give
the chicken some food.
Subhanallah to give the head
some food. And he left his lecture and
his students, and he listened to his mom
and came back to continue. And he's a
very big scholar.
He didn't say, why you abuse me in
front of my children or in front in
front of my students?
There is no limit
in in between
the trying and his parents
of respect.
There is no limit to say, this is
what I can do.
I cannot do more than this.
There is no limit.
When we look at the Quran,
we will
find out
that prophet Yahya,
Allah mentioned
his description,
He was so kind.
Is it
something important
for Allah
to mention about the description of a prophet?
Yes.
It's very important.
And he wasn't that
person.
And he never disobeyed
them.
He did not
disobey them.
Also, prophet Isma'id
Isma'id,
peace be upon him,
When we look at his dad, Ibrahim,
even his dad was
disbeliever,
but he used to treat him in very
kind way.
He used to tell him,
oh, my, the world of death.
Yeah. Everything. Who knows Arabic language will figure
out what I mean.
Yeah. Everything.
And by Hamil, what is his reward from
Allah
His his own son, when he told him,
oh my son, I saw in my dream
that I'm slaughtering you. What do you think?
And he mentioned the same exact
word. And his son doesn't know what Ibrahim
told his dad in past years ago.
But he said,
But he said,
Oh my beloved dad, do whatever Allah commanded
you. You will find me a man,
the one who has patience.
And the same idea,
we might have some sisters say this is
for boys. This is for female male. No.
You remember
when the 2 daughters of Shoaib,
Subhanallah, he was so old and he cannot
go to take care of his sheep. And
what happened?
2 of them,
they used to take care of the sheep
in the state of their dad.
And
when you choose to help your dad or
your mom out for the sake of Allah
sincerely,
you have to know that Abba will not
waste your offer
toward them. Even this is an obligation upon
us.
There is no doubt for that. But I
try to give you black titans. When you
do something for your parents, for the sake
of Allah Subhanahu Wa'ala, Allah will not waste
your time, and Allah will not waste your
a complete 10 years,
subhanallah.
They have peace of mind for 10 years
because Moses
become
a husband of 1 of them, and he
took care of their
whole household.
And also
and
Nabiya
mentioned,
if you would like
to reward your dad or your mom,
because we might have some some people, they
said,
I have more education than my my dad.
Subhanallah.
And he tried to act with his dad
or his mom as a knowledgeable person
and who you are.
To to have different opinion than me, you
have to follow my opinion.
Our skills dimension,
if you correct your dad or your mom
with
with a good intention,
this is
disrespect
for them,
Allahu Akbar.
Just
to to revise that,
and Nabi mentioned
toward you to to
to reward your your parents,
if you find your dad as a slave
and you you you will buy him and
you will release him,
and this is
you now you will be able to reward
him,
but otherwise,
no one is able to reward
their parents,
their their moms.
Even one
companion came
in the time of pilgrimage,
and he was
carrying his mom on his shoulder
for all the activities
for pilgrimage.
Yeah. Don't you know that this is not
subhanahu wa? Who you are my brothers and
my sisters?
Yeah. Just
lower
your voice
when you
are in the presence
of
your parents,
make sure.
And he came to prophet Muhammad said,
O Rasulullah,
did I do good deeds for my my
mom? Did I return your ride back to
her?
He said,
Even you did not make a single
moment
that she was struggling when she when she
was delivering
a lot back.
Work. And and Nabi Musa Salaam,
he did subdication
against
the one who did not make his parents
a big reason for him to enter into
paradise.
Means the nose.
Has
to be
to be humiliated
out of humiliation,
or
to put his nose
on the desk.
And both of them are bad.
Really, I'm wondering for anyone
who has a dad or mom, and they
did not take advantage
of this situation
to enter into
paradise. Prophet
Muhammad
mentioned
The word of include
mother and father. Both of them, they called.
Wear
it.
And asked him, O Rasulullah,
give me permission to go
to jihad,
to join
Muslims army, to defend Allah's religion. And he
asked him, do you have anyone of your
parents alive? He said, yeah. My mom. He
said, go to her
and stay near to her feet.
Dads,
we really need to rethink again
and change our way of life to deal
with them.
There is no excuse.
I will say it
clearly.
Whatever
the excuse that you have is
unacceptable.
Don't say it because my wife,
she doesn't like my mom or she doesn't
like my dad to be
with us in the same
What that means? In your house,
we might have some people very nice to
say, I will hire a staff for them,
and I will put them in in in
the shelter.
I will pay for them. No. No. No.
It's not a good idea at all.
And even we might have the worst one
just to kick his mom or his dad
out, and
they go away from my house.
Hey, really? Is it your house?
That let listen carefully. When Allah
put it in order, we will be amazed
how Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talk about this
condition.
Even if your if your parents are Muslims
or non Muslims,
that doesn't work.
Only one condition with the non Muslim parents,
If they force you to disobey Allah,
you have no relation with them in that
moment only.
But if they ask you about health, about,
financial health, physical health, you cannot say no.
How about the Muslim parents?
It's more
obligatory
upon us.
When they reach
an old age,
in
you
came.
They left with you. Don't say because, you
know, my my wife, she really
she doesn't agree with my mom all the
time. SubhanAllah.
When prophet
Ibrahim
came to visit his
son's wife,
and he asked about her condition, and she
was complaining her bit.
And he told her, tell my son when
he come back again,
you somebody your dad came to you and
sent salam for you and said, change
the.
He changed
the frame of your door of your house.
And he understood
what he what does his dad means
to change your mom
because she wasn't
respectful
for his dad. And he is a prophet.
And he knows
what
the world
to deliver to his son. And his son
also a prophet.
And when he came for second time, and
he found him, the new wife, very kind
and very nice, and treated him in very
good way.
And he told him, 10 months old when
he come back that your dad gave you
salam and say,
hold the frame of your door.
Means, keep it.
She is good. She is a pious. She
is a
I'm wondering when we have some problems really,
say, the woman,
I I cannot keep my my my wife
and my mom in the same place. Why?
Why you really cannot
Yeah. Did you have bad choice for your
wife?
Is is it
much better for you than your mom?
She has she has it. And you have
to told them, did she help you out
more than your mom
or
more than your dad?
Really, it's confusing.
When
There is no award to translate.
I found the word
fie.
Do not say fie to them.
F I e.
And this is
when you could decide somebody in very sharp
way to say 5.
SubhanAllah.
And in Arabic language,
when you're reading
this is the respectful
boy now.
He is very respect
for his dad, and he will not
disobey him. But at least when his dad
or his mom told something, he will say,
it's fine.
I will do that.
Like this. Allah prohibited
arms. Even this action, don't do it.
You you will respect them, you will obey
them, you will take care of them. But
even this, when you when you let make
your breath just come out of your mouth
with the some sound, this is what happened.
However,
whatever higher than this.
Talk to them.
And all the verses in the Quran
mention
about
our parents,
And most of them means, which
Ihsan. Ihsan, which is the top.
To worship a mosque,
like when you see him, even if you
are not able to see him, you have
to to know that he is seeing you.
This is
Even when Allah
told it to
everyone to deal with their parents,
he
You know, the main verse came to prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, but it will
include everybody who comes after prophet Muhammad sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam. When you deal with the
believers
around you, when you deal with your friends,
you have to be kind. You have to
be humble with them.
But when he was talking about your parents,
it's not only your ways. No.
What that means?
Our scholars, they explained the meaning.
And they said, when we have a bear,
is afraid of our bear,
have more power than that that bear, will
put his wings down
like
this and say, I agree with you. Whatever
you will say, I will follow you.
And this is what what we need to
treat our parents.
Whatever they will say,
unless if they order you to disobey
There is no way for anyone to obey
our creation if they commanded you to disobey
Allah subhanahu.
But if they did not
command you to disobey Allah, there is no
way to say no for them.
There is no way. There is no excuse.
I would say
clearly.
Don't say because they bothered me a lot.
They did this against me. Oh, who you
are to compare yourself with your
parents?
And this is the action. He was talking
about how to deal with them
by Usain
to select
a very nice words to say to them.
Now you have to act with them.
How to deal with them? I'm wondering with
some
brothers.
They have their moms still alive
and they live somewhere else, not in their
houses. Or they still have their dads, and
they put them in in the shoulder.
A
place for all people.
Allah
There is a man,
he was sitting next his son,
and he asked him, what is that?
And the son told his dad,
this is a bear.
After
a name, What is that?
And the son said with the he
he hired his voice, and this time he
said, This is a beard.
And for 3rd time, the dad asked,
what is that? And he said,
don't you understand? I told you this is
a bear.
I answered your question.
And the dad told his son, go to
my room. Under my middle, bring my notebook.
And he bring it to him. And he
said, open page, a certain page, and read
what I wrote in it.
And he start reading.
And he said, in that day, I was
sitting with my son in the same
place
on front of his house.
I was sitting
with my son and he asked me a
question.
What is that?
I am he wrote it. I answered him,
this is a bird.
And he asked me more than 20 times
and answered him for every single time with
love
to teach him.
Now
when when the the child was leaving, he
started crying. And he happened with that. And
he kissed his head, and he said, oh
my god, please forgive me.
And sometimes we did not realize
what our parents did for us.
And this is the reason why Allah mentioned
moms
3 times.
The same way
could the prophets come for work, you're going
to feed, your brother to join us. Just
go for work, please.
Okay. Who's else?
He said, your mom. He said, I I
get it already. I understand my mom is
important for me. This who's else? He said,
your mom for 3rd time.
And 4th time, your dad.
It's not criticized for our dads,
but
it's with with the wisdom.
Because when when we grow up, when we
ask for help, the dad will help right
away. Because he is the source of the
money at the house.
Unless if we have exceptions
but unusual,
when you ask for money, your dad will
give you. And we might forget what our
moms did for us when we were young.
And this is why Allah
compare between
that their condition when they become old
with our condition when we were very young.
Yeah. If they need to change their diapers,
do you think you will change for them?
Do not even
make any
action with your face
to tell them you are not happy with
these conditions.
When I was young, they used to take
care of me. Now this is my turn.
I have to take care of them, and
we cannot continue because the time already over.
But in
I promise we will continue in this
difficult topic for all of us.
All of us.
We might have
some
conditions
with our parents, our moms, with our dads.
Even if they are alive or even if
they
passed away, we need really to show care
about them. We need
to be forgiving.
And this is a big game for all
of us.
If you still have your mom alive,
just
go to her.
Kiss her head.
Cry.
Put your your your your check
underneath
his her forehead.
Regret for what you have done against her.
If you steal your dad alive,
ask him,
are you happy with me, my dad?
Are are you satisfied?
Just make sure
where he can take his dad. And, you
know, the shaitan came to him. He said,
the good way, just
kill him.
And he took his dad
and go outside of the village and told
his dad, you know, my dad, you know,
I'm so sorry, but I have no choice.
And we might have the same situation, but
in different direction.
I have no choice. I have to kill
you. I have to slaughter you.
And he said, Juan, I did everything for
you.
I collect the money from everywhere because of
you. And now it's money,
compensation
to be killed?
He said,
this is what I have.
And dad
realized,
he said, if you really
confirm
your intention that you're gonna slaughter me, you're
gonna kill me, take me in the other
place next the big run over there.
And the child was confused.
He said, what's the difference?
To be killed here or to be killed
over there next the big run over there?
And
he said, because
I killed my dad over there, and this
is my turn now.
To that.
Whatever you will do
for your parents,