Salim Morsy – Prophet Muhammad Around His Family
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Dear brothers and sisters,
we will continue for
the same
series that we started last week,
to
make our beloved prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasalam
as
a unique example
for us,
especially
for a spouse,
for husbands
and wives,
because this is the hidden knowledge.
You will not find a lot of scholars
or a lot of people
talking about
the knowledge
that prophet Muhammad
used to practice with his own
family members
inside his house.
We might
hear a lot of knowledge that prophet Muhammad
used to pray in the certain way, and
he encouraged all of us
to imitate him.
And for Hajj also,
pilgrimage.
Imitate me, you know, learn how to perform
pilgrimage
from me
because he is the only person
we will learn from him.
This is the second source of knowledge
after
the revelation that Allah
revealed to us. And this is why I
would love to stress
and to express
the point for all of us
as a husbands
and the wives,
as a spouse.
And we were talking last
last time about.
You know, the most beloved person
to the heart of Rasulullah
When somebody asked him, who is the most
beloved one to your heart? And he said,
Aisha.
He wasn't shy to mention her name on
front of everybody.
And Sayidina,
he told the prophet,
I mean, from men's side, not from women's
side. And he said, her father,
Abu Bakr, if,
you know, his showing his love to Aisha,
you know, if not from the women's side,
from her her her dad,
Abu Bakr as Siddiq.
And Sayidna Abu Bakr as soon as he
he said, he mentioned
many names.
I thought he will mention my name amongst
them, but I stopped. I did not ask
Rasulullah
after that about who's the most beloved
person
to your heart, oh, messenger of Allah. Today,
inshallah, we will learn
a very important
technique,
you know, and just
pay attention for that,
and you will be rewarded
for the actions,
and you will soften your wife's heart
or your
husband heart. This is the the the the
technique
that prophet Muhammad used
to to do,
you know, because
sometime
when we deal with the with the
when
we deal with
the women,
we do not know how to deal with
them.
Don't take me wrong.
This is
our beloved prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
He is the unique example. He used to
deal with his wives
in very unique way, sallallahu
alaihi wa
sallam.
You know, for ladies or sisters,
they have different way to express
their feelings,
different than us
as a man.
For them,
she might
speak up
and to say, I love you.
SubhanAllah. How many time that you heard your
wife mention that she loves you? How many
time? Sometime
the husband might really feel boring. It's enough.
I got it. Wallahi, I learn. I I
know that you love me.
Yeah. See? But for us as a man,
hardly
when you tell your wife that you love
her, SubhanAllah.
Yeah. But you you might to prove your
love for her to buy some something for
her.
It's difficult for us to say it by
our tongues.
You might buy some furniture for her or
some diamonds,
or some
gold.
This is the proof that you love her,
but it's much easier
to to practice the love
by your actions
for men.
But for women, it's much easier for them
to practice the love when she
express
her feelings
to her husband.
And this is a Saydah Aisha.
Prophet Muhammad
encouraged us to listen to her a hadith.
Even for the half of our religion,
you know, because our religion
has
the the the commands, the orders that prophet
Muhammad
made openly in front of everybody
outside of his house.
And the other half of our religion, prophet
Muhammad
made the order inside his house,
dealing with his wives and dealing with the
people who lives
inside his house.
And Asayd Aisha, the most
important
source for us to learn our religion
inside the house of Rasulullah Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam.
And she used to say,
I used to comb the hair of prophet
Muhammad
during the time of period of my periods.
What that means?
Yeah. We will learn what that means. And
when
some companions ask her, what is the first
action that prophet Muhammad
used to do when he arrived into his
house?
Can you imagine? What is the, like, when
we came to the Masjid, you know, the
first action we need to pray is a
lot, tahit al Masjid. You know?
To show
greeting to Allah
to greet Allah,
and and his house.
And can you imagine what is the first
action
Rasulullah used
to do when he enter into his house?
Who knows?
Salam. Salam? It's good. No. Action. Actions.
Doing.
So,
You know?
Why?
The the similar way today, what?
Toothbrush.
Good job. Yes.
What did we learn from this?
See? See, brother. You know? This is the
point.
The our scholar, they
learned from the action of Rasulullah, his sallallahu
alaihi wasallam,
to be ready
to kiss
his wives,
subhanAllah,
because
he would love to have a good
breath.
We never we never think about this way
in our life.
We we might memorize the hadith
that the first action Rasulullah
used to do to deal with the swack,
to clean his mouth to
clean his
teeth.
And we never thought
because,
you know, we might have some Muslims,
they smoking,
and they did not realize how how they
will harm
their spouse.
Either way,
husbands or the wives,
they smoking, or some of them, they might
drink
wine or alcohol.
And they did not notice
that this is very bad
action, very bad smell,
and it might force
their wives to go away from them.
And
Nabiya
mention You know, the piece of bread
to put in the mouth of your wife.
You will take reward for that. You will
soften her heart.
You will
respect her. You will show respect for her.
Our problem today inside our houses,
there is no respect
between spouse.
Let us really be honest.
And this is
the harmful for our children.
Because when they saw
that
their dad and their mom did not show
respect to each other,
what do you expect
from them?
They will be worst.
They will be
more
bad
than
the husband and the wife.
Just the, Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
taught us how to deal with your
wife,
how to deal with the how to express
your love
toward them.
Just to deal with the personal
cleanliness.
You know, just
and this is the sunnah, by the way.
Even if you will deal with your wife
or not,
this is the sunnah. Sunanil Fitra.
Sunanil Fitra that prophet Ibrahim
used to do, and the prophet Muhammad
encouraged us to do, you know, to
to cut your nails
and to shave your
hair
around your private part, under your armor and,
under your arms,
and to to clean
any unwanted
stuff in your body.
Anyway
will cause bad smell.
Just get rid of it.
And this is why the sunnah, when we
make wudu,
you need to wash
any part
might cause,
you know, impure the stuff. Make sure that
You know, the nails,
You know, clean it
and cut your nails. Make sure there is
no way for impure the stuff to stay
and to cause bad smell later on under
your arms,
you know, around your private parts.
Subhanallah. This is the sunnah of Rasulullah
The legal ways of our
beloved prophet Muhammad
and all the prophets of Allah
And if you deal with this,
a certain way,
and and Nabiya salallahu alaihi wa sallam, as
say that Aisha narrated very unique hadith in
Sahih al Bukhary.
To see the the the lightning of the
good smell in his in his hair and
his beard
What that means?
When you we might have some people really,
they have very expensive
suit,
but they forgot to clean themselves.
He might have a suit, a $1,000.
Masha'Allah, he's very and he put the perfume
and
very good smell. But inside his body,
he's not clean.
And one lady, she came to Sayyidina Umar
I will conclude with this one. She came
to Sayyidina Umar and she said, I don't
want to stay with my husband anymore.
This is what Sayidna Umar understood from her.
And he looked at her husband.
It's a shameful. Wallahi, brothers and sisters, if
we have sisters,
we need we really need to rethink about
our system in this life.
When Sayyidina Umar looked at her husband,
really very bad smell, very bad image, very
bad you know, his nails very long, his
hair very long, and and the
encourage
us,
if
you
whosoever has a long hair, he's supposed to
honor his his hair,
you know, to wash it and to put
some some good smell and to comb it
to make very nice looking.
And when Sayidna Umar look at the husband,
he recognized something missing here.
And he told his wife just sit,
And told the husband, go take a shower
and comb your hair. Put some good smell.
Cut your nails. And he came back,
and he introduced
him to his wife. And she was scared.
She did how many times that we really
like Sayidna Abdullah ibn Abbas used to say,
you know, I would love
to make tazayun
to purify my body for my wife
as what I wish from her side. I
wish that she will beauty her body and
makes
the same way because we are same brothers.
You have right
and you have to give also her right.
This is the same way. After the lady
recognized her husband,
what happened?
Sayla ilaha illallah.
She choose to go back with him to
her house, and she
canceled the divorce. She came to Sayidina Umar
as a judge to divorce her. How many
cases in the court today between husband and
wife,
they're asking for divorce?
Did we ask ourselves
what's the problem? What's going on? And you
might find, subhanallah, they are pious. They are
good in front of people, but you don't
know what's going on inside their houses. This
is what we need to pay attention for
because the time is very short. But insha'Allah,
we will continue, you know, how to educate
ourselves,
how to learn
to deal with the our wives
or to deal with our husbands. May
Allah guide all of us to correct birth,
and may Allah
help all of us to stay firm in
our religion
to be role models in our religion.