Salim Morsy – Jumuah Prayer 9142018
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The importance of marriage in Islam is emphasized, with emphasis on trusting oneself and avoiding distractions. The speaker advises finding a solution to relationships, maintaining healthy relationships, watching reputation, and being mindful of one's relationship. They provide two updates related to upstairs carpet and Ashura, with plans to finish tomorrow or today after eight hours.
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Dear brothers and sisters,
I was talking in the first tawbah about
marriage.
Is marriage
blessing from from Allah
or
something bad that Allah
treated us us with.
Some people, they might say,
you know, I wish if I did not
marry my wife.
Why?
Because
she's not the one that I thought.
Or the wife might say, I wish if
I did not marry my husband.
Why? Because it's not,
you know, the one
I was expecting
from him.
But
just if we really follow the teachings of
Quran,
we will have very easy life for all
of us.
What did the Quran say about marriage?
What prophet Muhammad
taught us about marriage?
The Quran
described
the ilaha'at, the relationship between
man and woman
with the only
one way.
There is no other way
to have a relation between man and woman.
I mean to have
the relation as a husband and wife,
except
the way of marriage.
Even if you can see everybody around you
doing their own business, we have no relation
with that. We still we are Muslims.
We are the followers
of our beloved prophet Muhammad.
Peace be upon him.
Him. We have no relation with any illegal
way
of the relationship between man and woman.
Allah Subhanahu Wa'ala described marriage in the chapter
of
Arun, the woman.
Verse number
21st.
And among
of his signs
is this.
That he created
for you,
maids
or
wives.
Now between
two sides,
the spouses,
the husband and the wife.
Both of them, they have the responsibility to
make
succeed by marriage.
It's not
upon one side of them, both of them.
And when we find when you find some
unlikely
relationship between husband and wife,
there is something wrong.
Both of them,
they should be asked
what's going on,
why you have broken relationship
between both of you.
It's not fault one of them.
This is their
fault together.
And he made for you.
Made between you.
Repose
and
mercy.
Repose,
Rachman.
Repose,
which is Mawadna.
It's not love.
Because some people, they thought,
you know, the most important things for marriage
is love. No.
The most important thing for marriage is
that Allah choose
for us.
It will be on the
time of
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the time of the time of hardship. And
this is Allah's wisdom.
He knows
our relationship between
there is no house
on earth
has easy life
all the time.
What should we do?
And we have to understand each other. We
have to work with them
together in easy time
or in hardship time.
Easy time we have to keep each other
with them in
the time of Asafa,
Al Redkar,
at the heart of
If we cannot
resist
with this
condition,
we have to move to other condition which
is the lowest level
of the relationship
between husband and wife, which is our rahman.
SubhanAllah.
We have to have mercy in our hearts
toward each other, especially
between husband
and wife.
Which is
our mother
our mother.
And he made after that a lot of
men
and women.
When you look at this verse, just one
verse,
that's it gave us the direction of our
life, the direction of our relationship.
In our life.
To fear Allah
in the beginning.
When you look for wife,
what is the conditions that are are you
looking for?
Even when you have your wife,
what is the conditions
that the Quran mentioned
to be a good husband for your wife
or to be a good wife for your
husband?
And you have to feel Allah
in the beginning and in the end.
Trust me.
If you have
piety in your heart,
you will not be able to do wrong
against Allah
is
watching you. Even if you are able to
harm somebody else, but you will not do
that because, you know,
you will come back to Allah one
day and he will ask
you what did he do
for the opportunity
or the ability that I gave you.
Our problem is
most of husbands,
they thought
they have a servant woman at home.
She must
clean up. She must cook. She must
take care of the
Allah explain in the Quran.
Only
men or husbands
will have
more responsibility.
It's not something good.
Some men, they took it a wrong way.
They said, I'm a maker I'm a decision
maker at the house. No. You are not.
You have to ask
and
you you will be the responsible one.
It's not the decision maker. Because if you
did good
decision,
you have to be thankful to Allah If
you did bad decision,
it will be your responsibility.
No one will will be blamed except yourself.
But in the end of the day,
we have to find solution.
How to live together?
How to really resolve
our problems?
How to resist
with this
distractions
around us,
especially in this
worldly life.
And we need to really
think or rethink
about our relationship.
If you feel that
your relationship is not excited anymore
between you and your wife or between you
and your husband,
we have to ask ourselves,
what's going on?
If there is solution, we have to find
solution.
If there is no solution, we have to
find solution. If there is no solution, we
have to say the divorce is the best
solution in this case
before
somebody might kill himself or herself.
And I'm not sure if
you heard
about some cases last week.
There is a one successful sister.
She killed her children and she killed herself.
She commit society in the end.
And,
you know, her society, they justify
for her. She was a very nice woman.
She was very active in her Muslim community.
So kind of what happened?
Nobody knows. And the problem is
you will see some Muslims
making making discussions.
Is it allowed
to
pray funeral prayer for her or not?
Is it allowed to bury her body in
the Muslim graveyard or not?
Subhanallah. And no one asked
Allah in the beginning
and the end.
We have to watch
ourselves,
and we have
to fear Allah
for ourselves
and for our children and our
spouses,
our wives.
And this is my advice today.
I choose it
because
I heard some
complaints
from husbands
and other complaints from some wives.
And
what are we doing here?
Our reputation is very important,
but it's not more important
than
our relationship
with each other.
We have to maintain
our relationship
between
ourselves.
Ourselves mean husbands and wives, both of them.
Upon him. And we have to have the
same feeling
toward each other.
This is the idea.
When the husband is happy,
the wife should be happy with him.
When the when the wife is not happy,
the husband should share her feeling
to tell her that I'm supporting you. Whatever
I have, but I have to care about
what is your feeling right now. And this
is
what we need to understand
in our life.
May Allah
help all of us out
to be a good
husbands
and and wives
for each other.
And to help all of us
out to understand
our responsibility
and to understand
our
status in this life
and to maintain our relationship
between each other.
Brothers?
Yes. Is it okay? Yeah. How you do
that?
Just
I need 2 minutes, please.
Just do not leave.
We have very important announcement in.
The first one related to upstairs for the
carpet.
We will not be able to use upstairs
until Monday.
We will not be able to use the
carpet or the mousamba upstairs
until Monday. They will finish tomorrow or today
after the afternoon,
and they need at least 8,
48
hours
let it dry very well. This is the
first announcement.
You know?
We we thank all of you
that that you understand the situation, and this
is all the for the state of the
community to serve the community
much, much better in Shafa.
The second one,
we did not have time to to talk
about
the su'a and Ashura.
The su'a will be in this coming Wednesday.
The
of Al Haram.
The 9th of Al Haram will be this
coming Wednesday.
And,
Thursday will be 10th of Al
You know, because marriage was very urgent topic
because I received a lot of complaints
from from,
husbands
and from wives.
And I I said, there is no way
to let it go
and to hear bad news in the end.
And this is just to to hurry up.
If you have some hustles, if you have
some disputes
between your spouses,
just
hurry up to resolve the problems and fix
the problems
as soon as possible. And the good idea,
do it by yourself.
Don't let anyone get involved
me. If we both of us really fear
Allah Subhanahu Wa'ala, if we both of us
have intention
to maintain our relationship
for the sake of Allah, it
will not forget.
Because we both of us, we really are
looking for the word from Allah,
and
we might
continue in the same topic
to touch all the details
about marriage issues, inshallah,
for the following
Fridays.
I hope that Allah will give us, you
know, that the time
and the ability to continue and to understand
one another and to help one another, insha'Allah.