Salim Morsy – Honoring our Parents Jumuah

Salim Morsy
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The speakers emphasize the importance of learning how to be kind and nice towards everyone, especially parents, in order to fulfill a promise and avoid negative consequences. They stress the need to rethink how to deal with parents and remind the audience to be careful sharing information. The speakers also emphasize the importance of protecting parents' emotions and behavior, testing oneself, and being aware of one's parents' teachings. The speakers stress the importance of being kind and being aware of one's parents' teachings, paying back for past experiences, and changing one's intentions to be kind to people and act as a real believers.
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Dear brothers and sisters,

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Today,

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I will be talking about

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a topic.

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All of us, we are in need of

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this topic.

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We really need to learn

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how to be kind and to be nice

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toward everybody

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around us,

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especially

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our parents.

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Are dealing with our parents with

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the birthing,

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we will not be able to do that.

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We have only 2 verses in the entire

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Quran

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talking about it better and came only with

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the prophets

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us will be able to fulfill the promise

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with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And this is

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why Allah

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have mercy upon us, and He did not

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command us to deal with the bire.

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But it's a famous

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war to

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say, but there is no a single word.

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The inner Quran commanded us to deal with

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our parents with the bear.

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But Allah

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commanded

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us to do what?

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Like, when we say,

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It's a huge difference in Arabic language

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when you

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say a sentence

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to to

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do only a certain way,

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which is

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when Allah commanded you to worship him

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only alone,

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not to worship anyone or anything with him,

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almighty.

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And after that, what?

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Meaning,

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And this is the only one

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condition that Allah

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gave permission

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for

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mankind

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to

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and to be kind and to be nice

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to all those parents.

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There is no other

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condition in the Quran that we are not

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compared

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with him

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with any other thing except

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to be kind and to be nice toward

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your parents.

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And you should lead

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while you were in the mosque.

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And this is the topic that we really

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we need to

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rethink

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in our life

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how we can deal with our parents

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even if they're still alive. May Allah

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miss them or if they pass away. May

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Allah help them with this message.

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This is what we need to learn today.

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I know most of us memorize the verses

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talking about

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kindness toward parents.

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But really, I would like to touch

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few

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things

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and more details

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about

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how to deal with your parents.

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And this is what we need to do.

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We don't need to for

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the hadith of Rasulullah, alaihis salam,

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and to the Quran. And we do not

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really practice

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like our beloved prophet Muhammad

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And

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this is what we need to learn today.

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Allah

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says, It's not allowed to worship anyone except

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Allah.

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If you are praying,

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if you are fasting,

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if you are doing all the work in

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Baghdad, and you are not kind towards your

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parents,

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it's nothing.

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Allah will reject it. Allah will not accept

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it from your side.

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And be careful.

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This is the gate that Allah opened for

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you

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to enter into paradise,

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to be kind, and to be nice. I'm

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not saying do not pray.

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I'm not saying do not

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fast. I'm not saying do not do our

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in our debt, but you have to have

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both of them together in the same level

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like Allah's

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It's not in our places.

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It will be so kind if you have

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a rental place for your parents, old respected

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parents, but Allah doesn't need that.

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He said, aim in the head

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at your house

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of treatment for them will be

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safe. Don't say toward them of do you

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know what that means?

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But

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when you're in,

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feel tired

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and just

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to let the air comes out of your

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mouth

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without control.

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Even you did not pay attention for that

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word

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off, like this.

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And in English, they translate

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it to the word of.

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It's

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not a word.

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And this is the

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Allah

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did not use it. This is the lowest

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word you can

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explain about the situation when you deal between

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you and your parents.

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And Amas Al Qaeda give us another stage.

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Attention

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sometime

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when we deal with our parents.

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When

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the the dad or mom become old

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and the

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child

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become powerful,

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and when they have discussions

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together,

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and the son will tell you that, no.

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It's not your

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feel a very bad condition even if he

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will not

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explain for you

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what he has right now. But this is

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the whatever to Anne told us.

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What happened to her woman? Someone say, I

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will really control my tongue, control myself.

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I will honor my parents in very good

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way, but I cannot

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say it will work for them. No.

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Allah told

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us,

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You're gonna put yourself

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on the tribe to see how you're gonna

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react,

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how you're gonna deal with the

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teachings of the Quran?

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Yeah. Test

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yourself. How are you gonna deal with your

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mom or your dad?

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And

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this is the same way.

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This is the teaching way

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how to act with them.

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And Am Mustafa Ali

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described

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the relationship between the son or daughter with

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their parents

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as a parent with,

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you know, the young parents.

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And

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lower your winds.

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With the medicine.

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This is

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what we miss.

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Even when we talk to our people, sometimes

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we try to raise our neck up. Subhanallah,

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who you are?

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You are not

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without your parents' help.

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You will not teach what you have today

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unless if your parents, they sacrifice themselves and

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their time and their will

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to make you as you are right now.

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And you have to remember that

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you have to make jazam with

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ihsan.

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This is

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just at least.

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You need to pay back

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for them.

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We're not talking about the world

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or about

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the good deeds now. No. You need to

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pay back what they

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did for you

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when you was a child,

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when you was young.

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The first meaning,

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when

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the bird

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feel

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that

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has less power than our

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this is the point. When you feel that

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you have much power than your dad or

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your mom,

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don't forget

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that you had a very weak condition in

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the past,

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and they did

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not take you in bad way or rude

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way.

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They spend

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the possible things to make you happy

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and raise you. And when you have the

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situation right now,

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you are

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much

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stronger than them.

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Wealthier than them,

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more wise than them because this is the

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condition that Allah has created us. Allah

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raise your voice or raise your decision

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about them.

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You have to

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declare all the time

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that you following them, their decision, their advice,

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their demands.

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This is the first meaning. The second meaning,

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when the bird fear

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that

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the young bird, it's not secured

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And to try to cover them to make

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a shell around the young bird.

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And this is the second meaning that Allah

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wants us to learn.

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When you feel that your dad and

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you need to put them under your shell,

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under your wings,

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and protect them. Don't let any condition harm

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them as long as

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you have

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your

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breath in the mouth.

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Your prophet.

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Your mercy is not enough to reward your

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parents, and this is why we ask Allah

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to shower them with His mercy.

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Whatever you did for them, it's not enough.

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This is why Allah mentioned,

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and say, oh my lord,

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You will not be able to cheat our

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paradigm.

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You might act as a most pious person

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on front of people.

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He's

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very kind toward his dad or his mom.

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But Allah knows what we have in our

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intentions.

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We need to change our

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it's cute. We need to change our intention

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if we have that intention

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to show up in front of the people

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of the community.

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When

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the

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prophet

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took us to be kind and be nice

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toward our parents,

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how are we gonna deal with it?

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Now, your dad or your mom

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has very old age, and they stay in

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your house, or they came to visit you,

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and they did something wrong

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at your house.

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They think your wife will let it go,

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young man,

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you know,

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he tried to feed his dad,

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and his dad couldn't

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control his hand, and he dropped the food

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on

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the glove of his son.

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What is your

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reaction when you have the same similar situation?

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You know, Allah is your witness.

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Don't don't deceive yourself because you cannot deceive

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Abbas

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If we try to deceive anyone, we will

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not deceive

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deceive except ourselves. And

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what is your reaction if your dad or

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your mom really

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drop the food on your body or on

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your cloth?

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And that young man,

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you know, he stopped eating the food,

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you know, from his

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clothes.

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And he told his dad,

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oh my dad,

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you

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as you visit me.

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See how he changed the situation,

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you know. Don't embarrass your dad or your

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mom. Don't embarrass your parents.

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Just find the solution

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to say

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their

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and their

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dignity.

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This is what we need to learn.

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And another another

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young man,

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he was laying down under his mother's feet.

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Who

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disputes himself away from his dad. Even

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he might kill his dad or his mom

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because they did not prepare a good life

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for him.

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And

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is this the good way to treat our

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parents?

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And this is why

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Allah combined

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between

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and to be nice and to be kind

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to all

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your parents. May

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Allah help us out

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to stay fervent our religion and to understand

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our religion and to act as a real

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believers.

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