Sajid Ahmed Umar – Transformers Ep. 2 – Don’t Be a Sergeant Major, But A Nurturer

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh My dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, I pray you all
well, and welcome to transformers.
		

			Today's Transformers
		

			is especially dedicated to the parents out there listening to
		

			today's lesson, and
		

			I highlight the importance of being a more a bee,
		

			in your Parenthood, and more of being a nurture, right?
		

			being someone that is a means of the true development of
		

			your entire child, and not just their bodies, but their bodies, their minds, their hearts, their
souls and themselves, right? It's important that we as parents are nurturers to the to the entire
child to the entire child. And one aspect that we can introduce in our lives to aid This is to be
parents who become parents, who always explain ourselves when we instruct our children, right? It
shouldn't be that whenever we talk to our children, we just command them. I know some parents say,
you know, she has we busy and you know, there's just so much going on. And you know, the kids are
such a handful these days. And I you know, it's just easier to shout.
		

			Look, we all human beings and the best of us,
		

			you know, go through this. However, the ideal is always to explain yourself whenever you you tell
your child to do something or not to do something always teach them Why? explain to them why this is
the son of the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if we look in the Quran, whenever Allah
tells us about a discussion that took place between a Prophet and
		

			his child, we see a holistic discussion being relayed to us. Let's take for instance iacobelli
salaam, talking to a young boy called Yusuf Alayhi. Salam Yusuf is in his infancy, and jacoba salam
is explaining this dream that you have had, he sees the sun in the moon and 11 starts bowing down to
him. Yaqoob doesn't just brush it aside, and he says, this is a young boy, and don't worry about it.
You know, I'm busy being a prophet, I have bigger fish to fry, and I'll deal with you later. Now he
explains to him what this dream means. And then he doesn't only tell him what this dream means he he
educates him further for his protection because knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. And it's
		

			even more powerful. And it comes from the mouth and heart of a mother or father, understand this. A
teacher in school can teach your child something
		

			right, or the Imam of the masjid can advise your child. But in my experience during the hour,
working with different communities and speaking to different parents and you know, sitting with
different youth, I firmly believe that when a parent shares that same advice, there's more
barricaded it's some power that Allah subhanho wa Taala infuses into the advice and it sticks that
advice is made to stick. It's Made to Stick, right.
		

			It's the power and blessing that Allah has given the advice of a parent that makes that advice, beat
the same advice that might come from an email for example, right. So jacobellis, he is giving his
son first hand information says don't relate this dream to your brothers. Right? But it doesn't stop
there. He doesn't just say don't do it. And don't ask questions and don't do it because I told you
not to do it now. He says for your kid will occur Qaeda because if you do, my dear son, they'll plot
against
		

			me amazingly, Yaqoob doesn't even stop there. Because clearly a cobra has been teaching his son
because when we look at the context of the story and how he is teaching his son here, we understand
that Subhanallah he must have always been teaching his son because the fact that use of went to his
father when he saw this dream to get advice, you know, children don't just go to anybody, they go to
someone they feel comfortable with. They go to someone they trust to be knowledgeable. And that
trust can only happen when that someone gives them time. Right? So if we look behind the verse,
right that Allah released to us, we see that there's a history of yaku teaching his son and remember
		

			Yousuf is in his in his infancy, which means, you know, from the time he was born, Yaqoob was
involved. So you should have this trust, he went to his father. Now his father must have taught him
along the way, the importance of brotherhood and how siblings must have this unite and so on and so
forth. So in the interim here, jacoba sam is understanding that by me telling my son that his
brothers will plot against him. This is going to bring confusion to my son. He's a young boy, I need
to educate him further. Thus Jaco goes on to swim to teach him about shavon.
		

			Right in the Shabbat, I live in sunny Idaho movie. He goes on to teach him about Trayvon.
		

			That my dear son, if your brothers harm you, then they've made a mistake. They're not excused for
the day.
		

			But you shouldn't forget the role of shaman. A shaman wants to break you and your brothers. This is
what he teaches use of in his infancy. And then remember use of is thrown into the wild. And for
decades, Yusuf is away from his father's home, living in, in a home that has no therapy, quite
frankly. Right. But when you serve is, you know, the Minister of Egypt in his early 50s as a
conservative figure, right?
		

			He finally meets his brothers. And the first thing he does is forgiveness. In fact, when they show
regret, he doesn't even want them to show this regret. This is letter three barlick there's no blame
on you. I'm not telling you that I'm using to remind you about what you did to me, please don't feel
any regret, Allah will forgive you. And Allah is the most forgiving, the Most Merciful. And
SubhanAllah. You know, when you hurt someone, Allah won't forgive you until they forgive you. So the
fact that Yusuf is telling his brothers that Allah will forgive you, he's already telling his
brothers that I have I, you know, don't worry about the relationship between me and you. You already
		

			forgiven Oh, there's nothing to forgive. And that's I'm going to the next step and saying, Allah
will forgive you. And he is the most forgiving the Most Merciful. SubhanAllah. Right. So where did
you use them this lesson? That all these years, he was living in hardship, because his own brothers
threw him out of the world? Where did he learn the lesson that he that it's, you know, I'm not gonna
hold any grudge against my brothers, that for decades, he never bottled it. He never carried it.
Because let's be honest, if someone was bottling this for for four decades, five decades,
		

			let's be honest here, right? The moment you you see the perpetrators, you're going to explode. But
he's finally so welcoming, so loving, so caring, like he doesn't even talk about Forget about it. My
father educated me I am empowered, is nothing to forgive, and Allah will forgive you.
		

			This is tarbiyah brothers and sisters in Islam. Yaqoob commanded his child, then he explained the
command, and then he offered guidance. This is giving time to your child. And time is the most
expensive gift you can give your child Why? Because time has
		

			absolute value. Money has relative value. Many parents say well, I'm paying the school fees, I buy
them, you know, the toys, the games, what doesn't my have my child to have? Why is my child like
this? What don't I give him this, this I've heard this. And the bottom line is, money has relative
value $100 to one man might be a lot but to another man might be nothing. That's how it is with
money. It has relative value. But when it comes to time, it has absolute value because the rich man
and the poor man both only have 24 hours in a day. It's the most valuable thing you can give your
child and then when you when you fool that time that you give them with knowledge and knowledge is
		

			even more important than wealth anyway, right? Because money you have to look after but not as looks
after you. Then Allah He will be lucky what a lie. You have given your child therapy.
		

			Right? You are nurturing all of your child,
		

			not just their bodies.
		

			Keep in touch brothers and sisters in Islam via my website Sajid O'Mara dot com. And I pray that
Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses my words with clarity. As I said, Keep in touch if there's any
comments or any questions, let's engage in healthy discussion because after all, our series is about
transformation. Not just inspiration, no transformation. We want change. I love you for the sake of
Allah. Allah bless us and our children and our families and spouses and parents and gather us all
with our loved ones in all those Ameen Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.