Sajid Ahmed Umar – Marriage is not just for life, it’s for a lifetime! #09

			Love, love.
		

			Love, love, love. Love.
		

			Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah ala alihi wa sahbihi
ultramarine and my bed will begin in the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala seeking His blessings,
praising him, seeking blessings, praises and salutations upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
May Allah bless us all as well. And brothers and sisters in Islam. I welcome you to episode number
nine of our short village series together, dedicated to the hedge and the family common foundations
between the two and I greet you with the greetings of Islam and peace and the people of paradise.
Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh needless Peace and blessings and safety be upon you all.
		

			Today brothers and sisters in Islam I want to discuss the deal of the 10th of Dhul hijjah The day of
read this day of celebration Subhan Allah this day in which Allah subhanho wa Taala has mercy
descends upon us and freedom from the Hellfire occurs and people are forgiven in unimaginable
numbers and our agenda grows in phenomenal ways because Allah subhanho wa Taala really brings us the
day of read, to build and grow our agenda in phenomenal ways. This is the reality brothers and
sisters in Islam. Right that they have read is not a day of burning Jana. So they have building Jana
how through
		

			the prayer Allah gives us new ways to build our agenda. Through dressing smart through showing
Allah's blessings upon us smelling nice bathing going to the aid prayer congratulating each other,
right. All this is from the ways of building gender and being generous with each other we have the
order here or the Quran or the Kobani the sacrifice happens a third escape for you a third is given
to family and friends. The third is given to the impoverished Subhan Allah, the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam said to her, to her due to her gift one another and it will manifest love
		

			between each other Subhana Allah This is the day of read, it's just a day of building genda but in a
different way to the other days. Right. And,
		

			of course, the 10th of the ledger is famous for other things, if you're a pilgrim, It's famous for
pelting the jamara for going to Mecca and observing the top of Hajj and the site of Hajj Subhana
Allah, but general is generally for the masses of Muslims, the 10th is a day of read and
celebration.
		

			And we go further in prayer. And we offer after the in prayer for those who can afford it the
sacrifice now, brothers and sisters in Islam.
		

			Let us draw this parallel into the concept of of the marriage, that
		

			the day of red is a day of celebration. And marriage should also be a marriage of celebration. And
when I say celebration, I don't just mean the wedding day brothers and sisters in Islam. Because
when we look at marriage in Islam, we see that marriage is for a lifetime, not just for life.
Alright, so we don't celebrate marriage on one day, at the beginning of the marriage, or for those
who are into the anniversary concept. And one day every No, it's for a lifetime. SubhanAllah the
marriage in Islam is a marriage that happens upon a platform that the two that are together as
Pamela they love for each other grows every day. And when they pass away continuous green for each
		

			other everyday, the spouse that is left behind, never forgets his spouse, and ends up feeling this
need to be good to the friends of his spouse, or her spouse. Why because my husband or my wife loved
these people. And I celebrate my wife and my husband after the departure by being good to their
friends, and and being connected to causes that are beloved to them as well. This is the reality of
marriage in Islam. And when do we achieve this brothers and sisters in Islam, when we grow closer to
Allah for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala not for the sake of worldly gain and fame, or some
benefit I can get from my husband or some benefit I can get from my wife, and so on and so forth. Or
		

			because if I have a good marriage, then I can people will perceive me in a particular way No, no
brothers and sisters in Islam. And that is why there's what we have the love triangle and the love
triangle or the true love triangle is one whereby at the bottom of the triangle, the furthest two
points from each other is at the bottom of the triangle, you have the husband and the wife. But at
the top of the triangle, you have Allah and the husband is constantly trying to get closer to Allah
in His marriage, and the wife is constantly trying to get closer to Allah in her marriage. And as
they both get closer to Allah, they get closer to each other because the two
		

			portions of the triangle get closest to each other at the top of the triangle. So they become closer
to Allah subhanho wa Taala in the journey to Allah subhanho wa Taala whereby before the husband
speaks with the wife speaks each party asks themselves is this speech of my beloved to Allah
subhanho wa Taala and from the Sunnah of Rasulullah Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. If so, I will
say it If not, I will refrain from it that they both again ask themselves before they
		

			Do something with regards to each other, or that they know will have an impact on the other is this
beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala and true to the teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam? If it is, I will do it if it isn't, I will refrain from it, or if the situation
experiences some turbulence because she upon is that enemy and we discussion upon in earlier
episodes trying to create turbulence within the marriage. Again, this concept comes in Should I
speak now? Shouldn't I speak now? Is this the time to speak? I only know this if I think about what
is pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And what is true to the teachings of Rasulullah, sallallahu
		

			alayhi wasallam. And feel free to engage your Islamic scholarship about this, that you might be
going through something and you ask your scholar, that odious scholar, this is the situation I mean,
this is what I was thinking of doing. What do you think this is a good idea or not? Many times we
will only engage the scholar when Subhan Allah if I can use the temp all * has broken loose, and
you've already acted, he's acted she's acted, the triggers have been pulled, the bullets are in
motion, and Subhanallah it's so difficult to contain the situation. Now we run to the scholars and
we say, what should I do here? What does Islam say here? What are my rights here? panela do it
		

			before prevention is better than cure. So before you pull the trigger, speak to your local
scholarship, knowledgeable and responsible scholarship might I add? Because not everyone is at the
same level knowledgeable and responsible scholarship, those people who are known to be people of
wisdom and tell them that I'm about to pull this trigger, is this the right trigger to pull? Is this
the right time to pull it and they can guide accordingly and through this, the husband is in the
marriage in a way that is for the sake of Allah trying to seek Allah's pleasure by following the
Sunnah all the time and the wife is doing the same. And obviously, the scholars are the inheritors
		

			of the prophets. So the scholars would be there and they are there. It's their responsibility to
guide you regarding what is pleasing to Allah in that moment, what would the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wasallam have said in that moment, and they obviously will not get this from the right pocket
or the left pocket by but by looking at the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the
ideas presented to us in the Quran and accordingly advice anyway. I think the idea is clear. We want
to make the lesson longer than is needed, that you have read is a day of celebration, but that
celebration comes after if it's Ramadan, one month of just going on a journey towards Allah subhanho
		

			wa Taala if it's the first 10 days of the hedger 10 days of just nine days of just going towards
Allah subhanho wa Taala and you do the same on the 10th celebrate marriages that are built not for
life but for a lifetime. By making the days of that marriage days in which both husband and wife are
on a journey towards Allah subhanho wa Taala Love you all for the sake of Allah. May Allah subhanho
wa Taala accept from us. May Allah grant us better than we dream of in both worlds and will not
preserve us in his obedience. I mean, you're obliged I mean, until next time salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato. Allah Love, Love
		

			Love, love, love, love