Channel: Sajid Ahmed Umar
Season 1 – Episode 5: Lessons from The Early years of the Messenger (SAW) and the Countryside
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira Elijah Medina Marburg. Allahu Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah tena in the cantilena will Hakeem Allah Molina and Verona one foreigner Beamer, lm Tina. Was it an admin watermelon? Yeah, Kareem
Chaudhary is certainly Emery was with me, Lisa, Annie Yahoo. Kohli. All praises belong to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We praise Him. We seek his assistance, and we seek His guidance, and we seek refuge in Allah subhanho wa Taala from the evils of our souls and the adverse consequences of our deeds. Whomsoever Allah subhanho wa Taala decreased guidance upon, then men can misguide him, and whomsoever Allah subhanho wa Taala decrees misguidance upon the nun can guide him and peace and salutations v upon the final messenger, our beloved Prophet Mohammed, Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, and that Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is his final messenger. My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, mothers and fathers, I greet you with the greetings of peace. Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
I welcome you all to another episode of the blast from the past Sierra in the 21st century. Today is our fifth episode where he left in him. And yesterday we discussed the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi, wasallam. And the lessons that can be derived from this mighty incident in our history. Today, we want to move on and discuss the days after the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and try and deduce pertinent lessons that apply to you and I in this century, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us Baraka in our time, and grant as Baraka in our energies. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala increase our knowledge, I mean, I mean,
after the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam
the mother of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Amina was assisted in looking after him by a female called Amen, Baraka and have mushiya. Remember this name? Amen. The mother of Amen. Baraka and habashi are more interested in the name Baraka and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, our beloved Prophet, may Allah gather us with him in Jenna was fostered by two other females. The first female was a female known as through Ava, and she was the freed slave of Abu lahab. Believe it or not, Abu lahab a person who died being a fierce enemy to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So Eva, this was her name. Take note of this name. So Eva. So you have Baraka and you have soy Eva, and
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam His name is Mohammed and his mother's name is Amina. And yesterday we learned that he was born according to the correct opinion in Ravi ear, lol take note of the name or Tim rabbir. Take note of all these names.
So he was breastfed and fostered by suva, the feed slave of
Abu lahab and then he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent to the countryside to be nurtured and taken care of by chosen carers in the countryside. And this was a common practice of the Arabs, they would do this. This wasn't them abandoning post, like what we see today we go to work and leave our child with a carer. This is different. And we'll come to learn why. Right? This was something necessary. And we spoke in our very first lesson or second lesson rather, of Arabia and how rugged the terrain was to survive there, specific circumstances arose and Specific Practices needed to take place. So the Arabs would send the young ones for a few years to the countryside, or what was called
the countryside. so that they could experience childhood and grow up
in these vicinities now, the story pertaining to are firstly Firstly, let's just deal with it now since we discussing the countryside. Why would they be sent to the countryside? Why? Why was this practice necessary? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was sent to the countryside as was a practice of the Arabic because of the many benefits in doing so from the benefits, just like what brother Allen said is that they were sent there to improve on their language skills, why? Why gets sent to the countryside to improve on your language skills? Right? The Quraysh were well versed in the Arabic language. The reason for this was remember where he was salallahu alayhi wasallam. In the heart of Mecca, this place was visited by
that came from many different backgrounds, and grew up upon many different cultures. Some people learn the Arabic language as a second language, right? So they would come in, and there would be an array of different dialects, different accents, and even mistakes in language would be prevalent and present. So the children were sent out also from the wisdoms is that the countryside was cleaner
was cleaner than the city, then this valley that was receiving many guests, we know that when people come from different regions, they carry with them different bacterias, right? And bacterias, mutate, and so on and so forth. And anyone who goes for armor and hedges they know they come back with the ombre and hide flu, right? It has to happen if it doesn't happen, people get worried, was accepted.
Right? So it this is this is natural, because your immune system is dealing with a new strand of bacteria. This happens, this happens. So they were sent to the countryside as well. So there were many wisdoms in doing so it wasn't that parents were abandoning ship wasn't the case, it was a necessity, given the circumstance, right. And the circumstances clearly in front of you, we've all visited Mecca. And we know how many people visit Mecca during every month of the year. So and we discussed the terrain, and it lacked water, and so on and so forth. It didn't have I mean, you should imagine a place that doesn't have many playgrounds, doesn't have any areas to for kids to run
around, and so on and so forth. Right? You got to imagine a place like this. So they were sent so that they could be children. And we will discuss this in sha Allah when we cover the benefits.
Also, we must realize that when we have this discussion about bacteria mutations and getting ill medicine wasn't as it was now. Medicine wasn't as it was now. So they would send their children out to avoid them getting sick in the first place. And we deduce a lesson from this insha Allah, and we'll discuss it when we get to the,
to the benefits Bismillah heated now,
the incident of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And his
journey to the countryside is well known. It's well known. You've heard the story before. And the books have had in sight the story.
We know that he was an orphan, as we discussed, and when we females came from the countryside to pick up or to choose the children. They were jumping Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam they chose to take other kids other than him.
Right? Why? Because he was an orphan. And perhaps previous experience dictated that if you take the child of a person who doesn't have a father, perhaps you won't get paid and so on and so forth. Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best, right, which shows that even the carriers who would come in they will check they would run a background check, you know, today you have background checks inductions and so on and so forth. So they would run a background check, they would check, what is the status of this child, his father, or her father, and so on, and so forth. So everyone was dodging Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And all the children were taken, and there was Halima
a female from Benny sad was this he Halima sadya Halima from Vanessa. She was left without any children, they were all taken. And we can understand the loss of Hannah who knows best that she too was reluctant to take Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam but now she had no choice. So she came back and took him some Allahu alayhi wasallam
when she took him sallallahu alayhi wasallam she immediately witnessed blessings in in her face. Her ride became faster. Her animals would give up more milk, more milk than the other people's flocks. Right. There was Baraka in her time, there was blessings in her home. There was blessings in the happiness of the home. The whole situation changed. And then she and as a result, she became extremely fond of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam because through deduction, she understood
that there must be something with this boy. From the time when I picked him up the whole scenario and situation has changed. There's more blessings. There's more Baraka $1 goes along the way they didn't have dollars then but you get the point that I'm trying to say. Right there was Baraka. This is the blessing of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she became fond of him, she wanted to keep him such that she even asked for a second term with him salallahu alayhi wasallam. And she was afforded a second term, we know that she he he went back and and stayed with Halima for a much longer period and was only returned when haleema became worried because of the incident of the chest
of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam being opened.
So she was fond of him sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
From this incident, brothers and sisters, we have several lessons that you and I can deduce, that have certain values in your life in my life today in the 21st century. Just the summary I've given you remember, this is a car there's many new faces in the audience when you lie down. And I repeat this so that they understand what's going on. This is we we were running through reflections from this era, we're not storytelling. going into details of the stories we summarize, because of hamdulillah we've sat many Sierra lessons before what we want to do is extrapolate, extract and deduce lessons from the incidents which we discuss that apply to our lives today. There are many
lessons that we learn. So fasten your seat belts, right, fasten your seat belts, firstly, firstly, we learn the important principle
or rough Ola Amina differ.
This is a principle in Islam. Prevention is better than cure. Prevention is better than cure. Where do we learn this from?
We learn this brothers and sisters from the fact that they were sent to the countryside for the reasons we cited to ensure perfect language to ensure perfect health.
Imagine if they
lived in the cities. And as a result, they got ill and now you had to cure them. Or as a result, they learned poor language and they learned mistakes from the visitors that came in and now we had to correct it. correcting a situation takes more time, more money, more energies more resources, when preventing it in the first place. Do you not agree?
If you do not protect yourself from a situation afflicting you, you become afflicted by a situation. Now you have to fix it. That requires more effort, more energy is more time. Prevention is better than cure. Remember, in one of our other lessons, we discussed this whole concept or we learn from one of the incidents,
the importance of looking at the consequences of actions, right, we learned or we discussed the consequences of the person who went to to Yemen to center and stain the walls of this part of this church that was blocked by Abra. Remember that he went and stained it in support of his belief, but he never realized that they will be a reaction. There's a consequence of doing this. And the consequence was a strong army of 60,000 with elephants coming to crush the caravan. Right. So when we discuss this principle of prevention is better than cure. This is the same way we look at the consequences of actions. If the children were left in Makkah to get ill, and so on and so forth, the
consequences would be more time more energy, more wealth, more resources or resources would be needed to fix this rather prevented that is easier than fixing it. Right? And any teacher in the audience knows this when a child learns something wrong. How hard is it to fix it? any parent here would know who teaches their child even if, even if, right? I know from experience, and I and I tell my young brothers and sisters who are doing HIV if you learn something wrong, and to do shift you have to repeat is a memorized repetition if you learn it wrong, and let's say you repeated it 16 times 20 times before you memorized it, and now you've memorized it incorrectly. To fix it, you
don't read the correct version 16 times now you got to double you got to double it.
Think of a page you folded it. You took a page and you folded it this way. 15 times you fold folded it this way 15 times if you want it now to be and now when you leave it what will happen it will remain folded right? If you want to make it straight
Do you just have to open it 15 times, you got to open it many, many more times before the paper ends up lying on the table flat by itself, true or false. This is common sense. If you memorize an IRA incorrectly, to fix it, you got to double or triple the energies used. In the first instance when you memorized it the wrong way. fixing it needs more energy is more time needs you to repeat it more often. And even then Allah subhanahu Allah knows best, right?
So prevention is better than cure getting ill. If you know that my child here, the child is young, maca is well known. For its many visitors, the immune system of the child is low, they never lived in societies like ours full of injections, and, and and antibiotics and, and medicines and so on and so forth. Right. And they say let's leave the child with a weak immune system, what would happen that was detriment to the child. So it was excruciating factors and circumstances that made a mother have to depart with her child, and send her child to
the countryside. And this is the second lesson that we learned my dear brothers and sisters, the second lesson, and that second lesson is
where parents have to take and may have have to make rather difficult decisions for the betterment of the children, parents have to make these decisions. Right? We learn this the fact that have you ever had to let her child go.
This was a difficult circumstance which mother wants their child to, to to go far away from them, you carried them for so long? For almost 10 months. Right? You will say nine months. And so common thing is about nine and a half right? And for those who are fathers and we're counting, you know.
So almost 10 months,
and then you have to send your child away. This is not easy. This wasn't easy, but these difficult situations these difficult situations arise and difficult decisions have to be made. This is a parent's job. You cannot be selfish. Sometimes you have to change country, for the sake of your child for the sake of your child's education. You cannot be selfish. Sometimes you have to change your job. It's taking too much time it's hemorrhaging
your resources, your time with your child, don't just carry on, actively think that hold on a second here. I have a responsibility to my child. I have a responsibility to being at home at certain times. I have this responsibility. I have to change my job. I have to make this difficult decision for the sake of my child.
Parents make difficult decisions sending our children to nursery. How difficult is that?
That easy for the fathers. And the mothers are watching via link. So we don't know. But I'm sure they know. I'm sure the right way where they are. They can relate to what I'm saying. sending our children to nursery. How hard is it? Your child has been with you from day one. And the day comes in his life or her life? We have to leave them in a strange place. And imagine it's strange for you how it is for them with strange people. And they looking at you with the butterfly eyes.
glowing eyes, glassy eyes, a film of a tear.
They say mama Baba. I don't like nursery. You see no no, but you have to go.
And we know it's two year olds. They can negotiate. two year olds can negotiate. You know, they can probably solve the world problems. You stick them in a room together. Two years can they tell you? But you know I'll miss you.
Unless you what happens to the mother or my child will miss me Subhana Allah. This is tough.
You know, but it's too long. It is too long. You know, I get bored. You know, I like being at home with you. Have you had this before? No, because we never took our children janessa our wives took them to nursery isn't this. Come on. Remember we said yesterday fathers have to man up. You have to man up and have a placement in, in your in your in your child's life. Right? sending them to school. These are difficult decisions, but you make the decision. You know it's good for them as a mother, you a mother knows a father knows this is hard, my child is hurting, and it hurts you more than they hurting. Right? Because you never ever one day in your home allowed them to hurt. But you know it's
good for them just like medicine. What can you do? It's better, but you have to take it. Right? It's good for you. So we learned from this, then how important it is for parents to make critical decisions for the betterment of their children's lives. Sometimes you don't want to take away the PlayStation or the Xbox.
But the harm is far greater than the good you as a father have to make the decision.
You can't say I can't handle my child crying. It's a difficult decision, yes. But a decision they will grow to respect and love you more as a result of when they get older and understand the reality of life.
tough decisions have to be made. tough decisions have to be made, Halima had to leave, had to let her child go to the countryside. It wasn't as if you know, it's just next door, or just down the road, you know, or in the next neighborhood. No, it was a distance, one had to traverse a distance to get there. So it wasn't as if she was going to meet him every time in the day, a couple of times a day, and so on and so forth. Absolutely not. But she made the decision, because it was necessary, it was for the betterment of the child. And that is why my dear brothers and sisters, one of the major lessons we gained from the incident of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam. Going to the
countryside, is the importance of having a robust tarbiyah methodology in your home for your child.
There's many things we can discuss time doesn't allow number one, and number two, I want to keep the lesson specific to the incidents. So we remain on track. You and I both know this topic is an ocean that has no cost. You know, this, right? You know, this looking after our children is not something that expires or knowledge that becomes old, it's always growing. For the purposes of our sitting, I want to discuss three matters to you, firstly, feeling the weight of responsibility, number one, secondly, protecting our children
from the evils of our environments. Thirdly, creating stable environments. These are three things I understand when I ponder over why the Arabs would send their children to the countryside. Number one,
letting them feel the weight of responsibility.
This is why the maturity of the Arabs was far greater than the maturity You and I have today. You know, I was asked a question the other day, that how do we respond to non Muslims when they talk to us or ask us about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam? As
we all know, the incident?
And I said we don't respond. We don't respond. Because this is not a question which you and I can answer. Except after sitting down with the person who asked the question, and sharing with them an introduction, making them understand the reality of Arabia, the reality of the upbringing, the reality of the people. You cannot base your understandings, both on the premises you have understood from your life here today. It can't work. And the same thing happens with many of the other questions that are asked about Islam, about the penalty for leaving Islam, for example, this is not something you can answer.
Just on the spur, you have to take the questioner you have to sit them down, and you have to give them an introduction and necessary introduction. Bring them upon the platform that makes them ready to receive your answer. But if they are listening to your answer based on their understanding of modern day, ideologies, and concepts and methodologies, it's never gonna work. It's never gonna work. You're gonna be wasting your breath and wasting each other's time. Right? We must we must understand this. We must understand this.
This was a side point, of course, a side point from where us discussing why they were more mature. Imagine Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam being born as an orphan, as we discussed yesterday? Doesn't that bring about a level of maturity already? From the first breath that he breeds? It does? Imagine him now being shifted to the countryside
to a strange home
with somebody else? Does this not create maturity within the child? Of course it does. Of course it does. It definitely gives them a maturity that a child who has been brought up with his or her parents cannot have different circumstances, different experiences grow us in different ways. You and I both know this. We know this, this is common sense and this is life. Right? People who have different experiences have a different maturity to us. If we haven't experienced those experiences and vice versa. We might have an understanding of certain things in life that they might might not have. Like our parents, our parents have a mighty maturity. When you and I growing up cannot have
why they have seen a life we are yet to see.
It's common sense
they have gone through
mistakes we are yet to
And they've grown from those mistakes. And for the young people in the audience that's why it's important that you listen to your children to your parents.
Because you want to listen to them before you make the mistake because they made it and they know
what it took to get out of it.
And they know now how to avoid it
Mashallah, this is one of the vibrant massages that I've come to and I like it like this with the children do what they want to do and so on and so forth. This is important, you must have too many protocol with children in the massages. Because what will happen from a young age we distract them from the massage they feel the most it is a boring place. They should feel like it's a fun place we know that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam would allow the, the the the children to play and in the masjid and train themselves and practice and so on and so forth in the masjid is to play with the spears and so on and so forth would allow them. That's the most in the masjid is actually the
hub. The Hub the masjid is actually
the center point.
The control center
of all goodness that spreads out to the rest of society. It's the hub. It's the hub.
Everything good starts from the master look Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he went to Medina, the first thing he did was establish a Masjid.
Right. So it's nice to see this, Mashallah. And I liked your attitude towards the children as well towards the children as well, if you notice there was noise at the back with it where the kids were playing. I didn't say anything, because I don't mind that rather than them playing on the streets. Rather that the new playing on the streets Well, I don't mind that these little kids, if it was adults would say, we have to reel you in. Let's cast the rod and reel them in. Because they are time for being children has passed.
Right? But if his children is fine, it's fine, we should be a bit more patient and try and listen harder instead of telling them to keep quiet. Why? Because them love the mustard. Or if we want them to keep quiet. We should do it in such a sweet way. That doesn't ever make them feel distant from the masjid
or feel apprehension when it comes to coming to the masjid. Even when they stand in the front lines in some massages. I noticed the elders moving them from the front line. This is wrong. This is incorrect. It's an incorrect practice. You should not move them.
The place in the masjid
is not something reserved by anybody. This is the house of Allah. Everybody has equal opportunity.
Equal Opportunity seating.
Everybody has an equal opportunity to sit first come first serve. If a child comes and sits in the front should not move them is this child's right? You moving them is going against the son of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam number one. Number two, it's causing them to have apprehension
with regards to the masjid. And that's why again, we were talking about looking at the consequences of our actions. Many times we just do things. And then you see this young boy who's become a teenager, and is far from the machine and Australian, we don't know that's what you did 15 years earlier was the means of that allowance that will not protect us. I mean, and protect our children mean and retain our youth to us a beautiful return. I mean, I mean, so brothers and sisters the weight of responsibility, it creates maturity. These young children were growing up with great maturity they were already experiencing life. We need to do the same with our children. We need to
give them responsibility. We need to allow them to make mistakes when you and I this and serious advisors are alive and around.
They should make mistakes when we are around so we can correct them. If you don't allow them to make the mistakes, you must have them so much and father them so much. Tomorrow Allah will take you to him and your child will left behind will be left behind will will protect all of us and our children now we'll have to take responsibility and make mistakes and learn the hard way. You could have made the task easier for them the transition process easier for them, you could have made their futures easier for them, let them feel the weight of responsibility. I'm not telling you how every home is unique and as I said Mashallah, there's a rainbow nation in front of me, right Australia has
everybody here Mashallah, everybody different nationalities, different backgrounds, different upbringings, you know, in your culture, your home your place?
What denotes responsibility? I'm not saying now when you travel internationally, you're a big family. You take old 10 passports and give it to you young child. So you're in charge of the passports not saying that don't get me wrong, then you get the passports Get lost. Then you start phoning me. I didn't say
right, right, I'm saying in the right place and time, let them have responsibility and watch over them and allow them to make the mistake. The tragedy is not in making a mistake, the travesty is in not learning from the mistake. And if they cannot make mistakes in front of us, who will teach them tomorrow? We are the best teachers, we teach them with love with care, we're not teaching them with bias. We teaching them sincerely wanting them to be the best better than us.
So this is the first lesson, we learn the fact that they were sent to the countryside, they were left to feel responsibility.
Make the tough decision. Let them feel responsibility, number one. Number two, my dear brothers and sisters.
And just to recap, point number one, point number one, we know those who specialize in education say that the best learning happens through experience coupled with emotion. So Pamela, so maybe it's true. Think about it in your life. Think about the incidents, you remember. And you'll see that they I remember them because they were extreme circumstances, I was stuck somewhere and someone helped me I was abandoned somewhere, and, and help cane. You remember those people, you can remember those circumstances? Because there was emotion, there was fear. There was worry, right. And so it's an experience coupled with emotion. The same thing when they send their children to the countryside,
they were learning with emotion. So they were growing exponentially, right. So let them feel the weight of responsibility. The second point, the second point,
protecting them from seeing the evils of our environments, we learned this, the reason why they were sent to the countryside was that was so that they did not learn the mistakes in the Arabic language was so that they did not learn the bad practices of these different people that came in different you can control the environment with different caravans are passing through your yo yo your place, you can control the environment, they come with different ways, different habits, different behaviors, different morals, different manners, different etiquettes. Right? You can't control it. So rather send them to an environment that does not have the so they're protected from seeing
mistakes. Why is this important? brothers and sisters? Because children learn first through observation, through observation. Yes, they are great observers.
You don't believe me? How many people have children here? Ask this question yesterday. But let's ask it today. hamdulillah How many of you have seen many versions of you in your children? There comes a time in your life of shadow. The laughs often becomes a time in your life when you're looking at your children. So Pamela, I sit like that, I talk like that. I eat like that. This the mini me here.
We learn through observation. without trying. They end up copying. Children are imitative by nature.
imitate of they imitate. they imitate. And that's what my dear brothers and sisters television, watch out. Watch out. Don't think to many parents, you know, I just I need a I needed a break. So I just put my kid I put my kid in front of the TV house, I put my kid in front of the TV, I get two hours of break.
You rather breezy yourself in those two hours and spend a lifetime being busy trust me when they go straight. Now law protects them.
TV yes can be an educational resource. But the best way to use TV as a resource is for you to sit with your child and make the process more interactive. Not to let them just sit there as if they in a trance. And the TV just feeds them feeds them. Mind is Static, not dynamic at this moment in time. It's just me a feeding me a feeding and then what happens when they sleep they consolidate everything they've learned in the day. So they start consolidating confusion.
Never let them sit in front of the TV and attendant. Even if they're watching the cartoons, sit with them. Sit with them. I had their little children's program today. So I was telling them what what what cartoons Do you watch Barney and friends? They go Oh, that's old. SubhanAllah How old am I? I said Barney and friends was when I was already.
Right? When you sitting with them? make it interactive. When they see a character ask what color is that? What shape is that? What did they say? and so on. Don't just let them sit and receive allow their mind to come out of the trance every now and again.
They are imitative by nature. They will start imitating without realization they will start copying without realization and this is the lesson My dear brothers and sisters don't think if you don't feel your child's mind, your child's mind will remain empty.
Absolutely not. This is a big red X. If you don't fill your child's mind,
the TV will fill your child's mind for you. If you don't fill your child's mind, the neighbor's children will fill your child's mind for you.
If you don't fully fill your child's mind,
the school and environment of the school will fill your child's mind for you.
They will be your child's teachers and instruct your child's fault when your child goes astray and knew nothing better. And the father is with a whoop screaming at his child. This is this is an irony of a lie. It's an irony. Well, law, it's an irony. It was the father and mother's decisions that created this product. You decided where your child goes to school, you decided whether to send them overseas, you decided the upbringing you wanted to give them you decided you decide that you decide to now say just following through.
They are a product of what you created. That is why I tell parents when they scream at the children that when you point a finger three fingers are pointing back at you when you blaming the child saying you you blaming yourself three times before that.
You didn't take time.
You know, there was a study talking about how
how TV makes our children consumers before they even know that they need money in life.
They say when when a company for example, say a cereal company, any cereal company, not being specific in any cereal company decides that they want to sell cereal.
Children cereal, what do they do? Do they go to that advertisement company? No. They go to a psychologist.
Suppose the psychologists acquainted with the Ask the psychologist. How best can we get into the child's mind how best can we market this so that they relate to it?
You think this is a billion dollar industry? marketing and branding and advertising and so on. You think it's you think it's a billion dollar industry for free? You think they were they were they just had money to throw around when they decided to take some ugly footballers face and stick it on a cereal box?
They're not always handsome, by the way. I'm sure you noticed. Right? You would think well, maybe he's handsome. So they put it on the box to make the box look good. No, they're not always handsome. But why are they doing it? There's a reason. It's not that they were just bored twiddling their thumbs and had money to spend the money. You know, it wasn't the case. So the psychologists will tell them children relate to round figures more than square figures. They relate to round figures more than square figures. So create a character that's round.
Create a character that's round and make this character do these amazing cool things. And you see in cartoons, all the baggies are square.
And all the goodies are round, except in some circumstances. The other day I was I said this and one kid said SpongeBob is a good good cartoon. And he's going
our children are Jeeva the clever the clever ones I was telling a child Don't cry over spilt milk.
said why I said because it's both seconds to drink it. I said it's dead. You can't drink it says no, now there's a machine you can suck up the milk and clean it and then I can drink it. Mashallah lavaca little four year old five year old.
There's a machine that can do this
I guess we are out.
the serial company goes to that to the advertising companies is this is what we did years the brief, this is what we need. So this little character gets created. And he's on screen. And he's doing these cool things surfing and flying upside down and flying out of helicopter jumping out of helicopters and so on and so forth. And then when he's tired, he gets onto the beach, gets his towel cleans himself and he gets given a bowl of x x x Syria.
So what is your child doing? He's sat and he's watching. Wow, this character does cool things. And you know what? He eats that cereal? Okay. I wonder what that is? And then what happened on Sunday? When we said Come, let's go to the shops. So it took a little boy to the shops. What does the company do company say tells the shops look, we will pay you and you know that now this on shelving up where you want your products to be even even the the supermarket's have realized that you know what, there's value in the upper shelf and the bottom shelf in the middle shelf, depending on product. So supermarkets don't charge you when you want distribution and come to them and say I have
a product. They'll tell you right do you want to pay extra and we'll put it on the shelf, or you don't want to pay and it will be somewhere else. they've realized this value here. Let's make money from it. Right. So
They tell the supermarket look this cereal here, put it on the lower shelves because the people who were selling to they know we've made them consumers from TV.
ready made market parents always stick their children in front of TV. Right? So we know they about this high so they can only see the first two shelves so put it on the bottom two shelves. So now you're working with your little boy in shop and he's looking right and left and he's daydreaming and thinking and happy and then all of a sudden his iPhone his friend, who he watches everyday at home.
So panela so he says mommy I want the cereal you see is a consumer before we even knew you need money to get that Syria.
Protect your children from seeing bad. This is from prevention is better than cure as well. In our homes. Don't let your children learn bad. Don't let your children see your bad manners. If you're a man, and you have weakness in how you speak to your wife.
Hold your tongue. Hold your tongue. ask forgiveness from your wife ask forgiveness from Allah make dua to Allah to assist you. But in when you're in the interim period of ridding yourself of that bad habit. Be extra careful when your child is in the room. If your child sees you as the Father bad mouthing the mother, the child will naturally speak to the mother that way. And it's not that the child does not respect the mother. This is the irony when the child then does it. Then the father will say respect your mother. Prevention is better than cure. Dear Father, saying respect your mother is not going to mean anything now because he doesn't even know that he's disrespecting his
mother. This is natural. I'm just I'm just being how you are.
I don't know this is wrong. Allahu
Allah, Masha. Allah removed you from the wombs of your mothers and union ethic. Who taught you the environments teachers, right? Yes, Allah is the ultimate teacher, but our it's the student of Allah that our environments affect us.
So they would send them away because they wanted them protected from seeing bad manners, morals, etiquettes, bad language, it's better that they don't see it, because they will naturally acquire it, given how imitative they are in nature. That's the second point. The third point stability. We learned stability from this lesson of how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent out Why? Because the environment of the countryside was far more stable than Mecca. For the reasons I've cited, different people in and out different accents, different dialects, different habits, different behaviors. This is there a stable environment for a child. He's out there playing one
minute he's seeing this then he's seeing that there's no way he's gonna become steady and steady. There's no way
the environment in the countryside was far more stable.
The children would run around there was place for them to run. It was an environment of therapy and being nurtured. Halima had children Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to play with them. We know this from the incident of the chest being cut, which inshallah we will finally get to tomorrow. So many lessons come about because what happens, right? He we know that he was out playing with them stable environments, stable environment, seeing the same people every day for a period. It nurtures a sense of consistency in the chat. We know that children, they consolidate what they learn after they learned, right? If it's if everything is if they just mix and match, it becomes confusing
for them a stable environment allows them to consolidate
similar learnings, learnings which don't contradict each other.
Even in our homes, brothers and sisters in this century, we should learn this the importance of having a stable environment. The importance of only allowing, for example, people who fear Allah subhanho wa Taala to enter your home not just anybody, people who think the same like you, people who have similar habits. Because your child is going to see this Uncle and Auntie that you've allowed into your home tomorrow, you won't be there they will see them as my dad's friend, my mom's friend and they will happily take guidance from them. They will happily jump in the car with them. Create a stable environment like mindedness where there's no contradiction in the learnings. This is
good for them. Allow people who fear Allah only to enter young. This was from the teaching of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He said Don't let people partake of your food except those who fear Allah, those who are God conscious. And this condensate is greater wisdom Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying partake of your food, because we you and I know nobody comes into our home and this opens our fridge unless they're part and parcel of the fabric.
They have a consistent movement in and out of our home.
It's like home. They come and they partake of our food. This is from the eloquent
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is not saying even the strangers made sure they were talkin that is true, but he's saying those who you let get come in and out of your house regularly, make sure they feel
they have the right manners, the right morals, the right etiquettes the right adab the right speech patterns, they should share similar teachings to the teachings you have given your child. This is how you create stability in your home, your home also should not be haphazard, should not be haphazard, all the time, movement, constant travel, travel should happen when it's time to travel.
And we should be settled when it's time to set up.
I'm not saying we shouldn't be spontaneous, it's good sometimes, you know, you know, I know the sisters the other side I say Well, our home is never happy as always the same as those we need to have some something spontaneous, you know, something we just happens on off the cuff a we went for dinner today, wow, come out of the kitchen, let's go for dinner. But I've cooked It's okay, we do something different today. That's good. I'm not saying that's bad. But be spontaneous when the time to be spontaneous arrives
and allow settlement. When the time of settlement exists. This is good for your children. Remember, we speaking about children. That's why understand brothers and sisters, you cannot live the same life you lived with your wife and wife or the husband. Before children after you have children. changes have to happen, can't be the same. We always went out to eat and you always visiting and you're always out of the house and so on and so forth. And your child is out of routine. The sleep times are messed up, you know children when they don't sleep, how groggy they get upset they get. And if they don't have settled routine times to sleep, it's very unsettling for their development
because we know children's best learning happens also when they sleeping, they consolidate what they've seen when they awaken what they hear when they awake. If they sleep turns upside down, this affects their cognitive abilities, their mental growth,
their intelligence, right? We learn all this just from the fact that Rasulullah sallallahu, alayhi wasallam was sent to the countryside for those who ponder. For those who ponder. This is the Syrah we're not discussing anything else. This is the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, every part has a massive impact in our life. We Allah grant us the understanding. I mean, I mean, from the lessons, my dear brothers and sisters that we can learn is the importance of language, the importance of language and the mother tongue.
Because we as brother, Alan enlightened us,
they were sent to the countryside to protect their linguistic abilities and make them strong. And this is why the kurush we know the Arabic language existed at a mighty level, they were, they were skilled when it came to teaching the language. learning the language started from the day you were born, you had to go to the countryside.
hours, you lacked abilities, with the language, and anyone who learns the Arabic language knows how deep this language is, and will law when you look at the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu Marine and how they were understanding revelation. One cannot help but be in all of them. So Panama II, anyone who learns the Arabic language knows this. And to think Subhan Allah, they were just revelation was coming and they could differentiate between an obligation and something which is voluntary, just from the revelation. Amazing. Amazing what Look at that, what was the level of the language? Today we learn it and we can understand that we have to rely on the
image amazing works of the scholars of Zulu and Arabic language.
Who ABC did for us. The ABC did it for us.
It's all in black and white, we say also panel life it's like this it means this, how would they know? To deduced immediately killed coffee and as they say, right.
Language is important brothers and sisters language is important. We know that when civilizations or when somebody tries to destroy a civilization The first thing they try to do is annihilate the language. What what caused dispute between East Pakistan or Bangladesh? I think it's East Pakistan, right? Bangladesh and Pakistan what caused the problem?
Language Pakistan even tried to remove the Bengali language Mashallah they some people well versed in history they
right this is what happened. They were trying immediately to create a simulation. How did they start they said we're gonna wipe out this language, the moment we wipe it out and they made ODU compulsory in the educational system, they will all learn this language. This was the way to make them forget their heritage.
Right And thus, a war broke out.
Language is important.
learn language well.
Teach language well
allow your children to acquire a solid foundation in language. We learn this from the life of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam. Right, and better still learn the Arabic language, voila, it's more important than your cultural language because it's the language of your religion.
It's a, it's the language of your religion today. SubhanAllah. A person doesn't know his cultural language and he knows Arabic language and we frown upon him.
He knows the most important, which is his, his Islam is more important closer to us. In our culture, we know this. I'm not saying we still shouldn't learn our cultural language, but I'm saying we should be just in how we speak to people. So they appreciate the values, they still know that what they've done learning the Arabic language is good, not that they're frowned upon, no credit is given to them for it. And then we we highlight the fact that the cultural language they don't know. No, praise them for the Arabic language, say they did a great thing, the greater thing and tell them you also need to learn your cultural language, it's good for the preservation of your heritage. It's
nothing wrong with that. As long as it doesn't contradict the Islamic teachings. culture was never a problem.
Allah grant us the understanding. I mean, from the lessons brothers and sisters that we learn is that and this is the last thing I'll say, is that what you and I sometimes see as negative is not always negative.
Where do we learn this from?
Anybody? No? Yes?
They knew that was good. Yes.
No, no from the Sierra this, let's stick to the CRS
Yes, who said that? Marcia a lot of our Cola, when they were reluctant to take us over last Allahu alayhi wa sallam because he was an orphan.
They saw it as something negative, something we shouldn't do.
But if they only knew, if they only knew, and we they saw the Baraka that came in the life of Holly.
Not everything which you and I see as
negative is negative. And I think I told you the other day, right? I told you the other day, that there's nothing like complete evil did not share this with you. Did we share this lesson by the time there's nothing like complete evil?
You remember this?
Let me repeat it.
There's nothing which is complete evil. If you see something as negative, it doesn't mean it's totally negative is negative from where you sit. I'll give you an example.
And I shared this example earlier. Those who watch the videos will say yes, it was spoken about insha Allah I hope I'm not wrong. We all human beings, we forget
about the windscreens. You see I didn't say hamdulillah I said if hailstones fall from the sky and smash everybody's car windscreens, is that good or bad?
Is that positive or negative?
Everybody's going to be saying how's your car? How's your how's your car Subhanallah windscreens gone okay, but go and ask the guy who sells windscreens
you ask him was this good or bad? He's gonna say was very good.
Right? He's gonna say my stocks I'm sold out. I'm sold out for the first time in my life. I can I can go to the Maldives having to rely was very good. The best thing that could have happened. There's nothing like complete evil. As nothing like complete evil. I even shared with you the story of use varicella when he was thrown into the wild as a seven year old boy, a six year old boy a young boy, shirtless, good or bad,
bad but 50 something years later when is the Minister of Egypt and he couldn't be there. If he wasn't thrown in the wealth of tears earlier.
was him being in the world good or bad? So Very good. Very good. Because he was the only one who could manage the drought like he did. Where he had food for Egypt and surplus food for Palestine and the surrounding areas. You as a minister would have done that. So Allah was looking after the people that were going to experience a drought 50 something years later by putting use of Allah Islam in the world but our wisdom is limited. is limited. We lost our job we complaining
our we had issues with our wife we complaining Yes, we try our best if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be turned to Allah get closer to Allah. Even Mr. Rudra Viola who says an amazing statement, listen to this. I've translated it for you. He says that a person becomes concerned with trade and position in life and material well being and financial standing to such an issue.
And then when it becomes a to such an extent that it becomes easy for him to acquire it, it becomes easy for him to acquire it. And then Allah looks at his case. And Allah tells the angels remove it away from him.
Because Allah says that if things are made easy for this person, it will be a means of his destruction in the hereafter.
So the angels remove it away, he says, then this person starts complaining
that this person beat me beat me to it. If only I did this, if only I did that, if only that person didn't do this, if only that person stood up for me, if only that person defended me. If only I learned my lesson, if only if only opened the door to Sherpa.
We act in haste in Al insana, Julio kahaluu, is a solution.
with Amazon, when he gets goodness, he's withholding when he when when evil hits him, what he perceives as evil he's in haste he's complaining who is next.
Elon mousseline, except for those who observe the Salah, the true Salah.
He starts complaining. And in reality, even Massoud says, this complaining person if you only stopped and took a breath and took a step back, he would have seen that Allah was gentle with him. What is worse, losing a piece of the dunya or being punished in the Hellfire?
What is worse, Allah was gentle with you lucky if Allah Subhana Allah brothers and sisters will lie something's cropped up in my head. Use of writing his setup, after he was thrown into the well taken as a slave made to grow up in a house of idolatry. seduced by the minister's wife, seduced by the women of the city thrown into jail.
Without any end.
Difficulty after difficulty after difficulty after difficulty missing his father never is growing up with his father. Never growing up with his brothers never growing up with his mother, strange environments.
We're talking 50 years brothers and sisters, at least, Allahu Allah.
He was about six or seven in in when he was thrown into the wild. He was 14 when he was when seduction happened, and he passed those tests, then he was thrown into jail for close to 10 years. You do the math
50 years let's round it up of being of experiencing trials and tribulations. And at the end of the story, what does he say in Nabila, playfully Masha Allah Akbar, Allahu Akbar. At the end of the story, he says, Allah was good to me when when Allah took me out of the prison, and brought my family and reunited with me with my family took them out of the desert,
after shavon caused enmity between me and my brothers in Nabila, painfully Maya, indeed my Rob is gentle with whom He wills La ilaha illAllah he's calling 50 years of difficulty, Allah be gentle with you.
Look at the understanding of them via Allah Masato salla
Allahu Akbar, Allah my hairs are standing. And All praise belongs to Allah for making me remember this one line. This is what he says. He says Allah was gentle to me.
What I lost is nowhere near what I gained. But most of mankind no not
understand this. My dear brothers and sisters, Elsa and Takahashi, who
were assigned to hibou Shay, whoa, whoa,
Allah says perhaps you love something, but it's bad for you. You don't know. And perhaps you dislike something but it's good for you. You don't know. You complaining about your job and you wish you had another job but you don't know this job is good for you. You don't know what that job is going to do to the person in the hereafter. Allah says And Allah knows.
And you know not
understand this, my dear brothers and sisters, you know, you know what our problem is, before we end today.
We say we believe in the hereafter. But we live our lives as if we don't believe in the hereafter.
When you ask someone, what are the pillars of a man and to be law he, he was to be he was really he was.
He was a remainer.
Right? Well, the battle mode in some
explanations, so he can read it out to you. I believe in Allah and His messengers and his books and his angels and the last
And in Divine Will and pre destination good and bad fate is from Allah type. So you believe in the last day. You believe in the last day you said I believe in the last day? Why do you live life as if you don't believe in the last day, I tried to fix you, and you go into depression as if your agenda is this world and you've lost it, you forgot that this is nothing but a place of acts of examination, a place that you and I are upon to build our hereafter not burn our hair after.
We act as if we forgotten that we believe in the life of the grave. We've forgotten that we have a standing in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala. On the day of the AMA, we say we believe but we practice something else. Nobody is talking the walk.
nobody's doing that. That's our problem. That's when we start blaming allow an area to build me Allah forgive us. That's when we start. You know, I'm asking and I'm asking I was not giving now how La quwata illa Billah. That's not what you should say. Allah He Allah is lofi if Allah is gentle with us, it's for you to find out how it's for you to find out how having not having knowledge about something does not mean that that something does not exist, is that clear.
Not having knowledge about it does not mean that it does not exist. If you don't have knowledge of the goodness that Allah has placed in your difficulty. It does not mean that goodness does not exist in it. It's for you to be patient while we're told to be patient, be patient until Allah switches on the light and you see the wisdom, you might stand in front of the door and say Allah, Allah, Allah, the greatest gender how I wasn't worthy of this, I didn't do these deeds. Allah will say you know how much I took away from you.
See, suparna life I only knew I wish you to cohere with
lawmakers, patient people.
These are the lessons that Allah subhanho wa Taala has made easy for me to share with you today. Voila, what I've left out is far more I've only shared with you a drop in the ocean.
But something is better than nothing May Allah grow our love for Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and grant a strength to continue learning from his era. Ameen May Allah accept our city from us, make the sitting one which pleases Him, make the sitting solely for his sake alone. And may Allah gather us here in this Masjid many many times again, and gathers underneath his arch on the day of the AMA and gathers in general with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Armenia and Amin. May Allah accept our Ramadan and blessing what remains And may Allah decree upon us witnessing the night of power. Amin has Allah who Island or Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad, Allah Allah He
was a big marine Subhana Allah He will be happy he Subhana Allah whom will be Ambika Nasha to Allah, Allah, Allah and Mr. Furukawa to blue lake was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh