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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen
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would be Hina standing on a Sunday on a Sunday Mahatma Bina Bina Mohammed Ali. He was like the he
was seldom at the Sleeman kathira la COVID de
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la mina Milena Illa alum Tina in the interacting with Hakeem love Marlene Mia and Pharaoh now on
foreigner alum Tina was in their environment here, Kareem probably recently Emery looked at me Lisa,
Annie, Callie. Oh, praise belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We praise Him and we seek his
assistance and guidance, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the adverse
consequences of our deeds. Whom serve Allah guides, men can misguide and serve Allah misguides land
can guide and feasts and salutations be upon the final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, and that Muhammad
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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is His Messenger, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, my dearest
elders in Islam, Sonnambula la Kumara matovu Baraka with the Peace and blessings of Allah subhanho
wa Taala be upon you all, from the outset, heartfelt gratitude goes out to explore conference and
this wonderful Masjid and institution as well for honoring me with
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the possibility of being present here today and sharing with you all some from the inheritance of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless our gathering, and make
it a gathering that he has a good word and follows it and make us a gathering that is forgiven upon
our departure, and make us a gathering
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that has only come together for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala alone. I mean, you're a bit I
mean, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, Indeed Allah subhanho wa Taala. He sent to this
earth, many prophets, and many a messenger and the legacy of prophethood. And messenger worship was
transferred from the shoulders of one prophet and messenger to another, as a prophet, went back to
Allah subhanho wa Taala, and another prophet was sent. And this continued to happen. The legacy of
prophethood continued to be transferred from the shoulders of one man to the shoulders of another
man, until the advent of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam for sudo, Allah sallallahu alayhi wa
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sallam, he was decreed as the final messenger, and he was decreed as the seal of all prophets, which
means he would be the last single person to carry the legacy of prophethood, the legacy of the MBR
and the Hema Salatu was Salam. But we know through observation, that after Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wasallam, the Ummah continues to exist, people continue to exist, evil continues to exist,
shape and continues to exist. So what will happen to the people after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam? Allah subhanho wa Taala always send someone to the people. Allah subhanho wa Taala always
kept transferring the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam from one man to another man,
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what happens to mankind after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after he passes away? The answer
to that question, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam is that after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam happens to the people, the Ummah of
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam now happens to the people, for after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, Allah subhanho wa Taala he didn't lift the legacy of prophethood and transfer it from the
shoulders of one man to the shoulders of another man, as Allah subhanho wa Taala did
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from the time of his Salah brother, Allah subhanho wa Taala. He lifted the legacy of prophethood
from the shoulders of one man from the shoulders of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he
transferred it to the shoulders of an entire Ummah, to the shoulders of the followers of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wasallam that we collectively now carry the responsibility of the MBR to humans,
so that was set up. we collectively now are responsible for the legacy of Mohammed sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam
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mBiA hemos Salatu was Salam. And take note of the key word here collectively, there is no one man
that carries this legacy. Rather, an entire oma now carries this legacy and that is why the rizoma
will be the first oma to antigen and that is why this oma will make up most of the inhabitants of
Jenna. And that is why about this oma, Allah said quantum hydro method of project leanness that you
are the best of all people.
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You are the best of all people. You are the best of all people, because you collectively carry a
legacy that no nation before you carried for with regards to those nations, or loss and prophets and
messengers. That is why you the best of all nations couldn't
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reject leanness, you are the best of all nations. We all know brothers and sisters in Islam.
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that Islam is not a religion of symbols. It's a religion of substance. It cannot be that we are the
best of all people. Because Alhamdulillah lucky enough, we happen to be born after Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Surely it can't be that easy. That we were fortunate, and other people
were less fortunate. We just happen to be born after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So that is
the privilege. You are the best of all nations. Islam is not a religion of symbols. It's a religion
of substance, if we are the best of all people, and Allah declares us to be the best of all people,
the King of kings, the Lord of the worlds he subhanho wa Taala says, You are the best of all people,
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then surely we need to sit down and ask ourselves, why?
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Why
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Islam is the religion of substance and what symbols when why.
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And if we analyze the same area, in which Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us that we are the best
oma Allah says Why? He teaches us why he says you are the best, because you Muna Bill maroof. And
you can hohner and in mooncup, and you took me Luna Villa, you are the best, because you have three
occupations that the best of all people carried on their shoulders,
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the occupation of inviting towards good and forbidding evil and believing in Allah. This is why you
are the best. This is why you are the best, you are the best, because you carry the legacy of the
best people that walk the face of this earth. And Allah teaches us this lesson, using the present
tense, and the present tense in the Arabic language carries a dual meaning. The present tense in the
Arabic language carries a dual meaning the present tense in the Arabic language carries the meaning
of now and the present continuous.
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Why do we need to highlight this? We need to highlight this so we understand further and understand
well, exactly what a lie saying.
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A lie is not saying you are the best. Because sometimes you invite towards good and sometimes you
forbid evil. And sometimes you believe in Allah. If the present tense carries the meaning of now in
the present continuous of hearing, we'll move on to
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the October
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You are the best because of something that you do now and continuously, then Allah is telling us
that we are the best because we always invite towards good, always keyword. And we always forbid
evil, always keyword. And we always believe in Allah, always keyword. This is why you are the best.
There is no public holiday from this. There is no weekend from this. There is no bank holiday from
this. There's never a time in your life where you will breathe a breath whereby your existence will
be separated from these three occupations, you are defined by these three occupations. This is why
you are the best and this means a servant of Allah, that a member of this whether a mother, whether
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a father, whether a child,
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irrespective of your presence in society, you are a person that is always doing the our you are
always propagating good. You are always forbidding evil, you're either doing it with your hand,
because you have the power to do so, or with your tongue. Because you don't have the power to do it
with your hand or with your heart. Because you don't have the power to do it with your hand and your
tongue. But there's never a time when this occupation is detached from your existence.
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May Allah forgive us today. We sleep brothers and sisters in Islam with so much vise around us
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but our hearts don't teach an inch
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We sleep peacefully. That heart doesn't even do that we have
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acted
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in a way
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that is contradictory to the reality of the ayah, which declares us as the best of all people, and
teaches us why we are the best of all people.
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We have detached ourselves from the prophetic legacy that Allah has placed on all our shows, this is
point number one. And point number two, to take note of the key word collectively. I said earlier,
Allah didn't take the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and transfer it to the shoulders
of one man, I said, Allah took it from the shoulders of him some Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and
transferred it to the shoulders of an entire oma, which means we collectively, we are the building
blocks of holding up this legacy. We are the building blocks of doing justice to this legacy. If one
person isn't doing what they're supposed to do with regards to this legacy, everyone is going to be
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affected in their ability to do justice to this legacy. And we will collectively be questioned on
the day of pay. And that is why the scholars say, when the young people of society do evil, and the
older people of society, keep quiet, then wait for the punishment of Allah to consume everyone.
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It's not good enough for you to say I'm on the top tier of the ship. The bottom tiers digging the
hole, I'm saying
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they might think first, but you're gonna simulate. It is what it is. It's a matter of design. And it
is the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when you understand this, understand the following,
that when your neighbor's home has marital turbulence, don't ever stop thinking that's not my
problem. But hamdulillah My home is okay. It's got nothing to do with. If a Muslim family is home at
the other end of the city, and London is a big city. They're having trouble with the children don't
sleep at night saying that's not my problem. We'll handle that my children are safe, they're tucked
in bed. Don't deceive yourself, oh servant of Allah, and oh child of Adam. Because we are a
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collective ummah. We are interdependent, we are communal by design, the problem in our neighbor's
home, if it's not in our home today, if we do nothing about it, it will be in our home tomorrow. The
problem at the other end of the city, if we do nothing about it today, it will be in our home
tomorrow. It might not be your today's problem, but it will be your tomorrow's problem. Don't feel
for one instant that your children won't be affected. Because tomorrow your children may befriend
those other children. Don't be short sighted, understand your responsibility to the hour, your
responsibility to the community, your responsibility to the legacy of the MBR and he was so that was
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Sarah and that is why Allah teaches us about Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Allah tells
us about him by c'est
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la cordage comin fusi comme la partager Kumara Sulu
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fusi Khun azizuddin la Hema. need to hurry soon. alikoum bill meanie now oh Rahim. Allah says,
indeed a messenger has come to you from you, as he is added to your sleepless nights his his
sleepless night. Your worry is his worry. Your problem is his problem. Your tears are his tears.
Your fears are his fears
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as he is in
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Harry's finale, why? Because he's so concerned about you. Why? Because after him, his legacy is
going to be on your shoulders. He's teaching you how to be in practice, will move meaning around for
Rahim to the believers He is merciful and gentle. Where are we in terms of merciful and being gentle
to the Anwar Mohammed Salah Lovell and he will send them the same people that we need so that we can
be successful in carrying the weight of prophethood the weight of the work of them they are being
misled. wasallam Remember I said collectively we carry this. If my brother is not functioning, I'm
going to it's going to be more harder for me.
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However, we ever stopped thinking about this, oh seventh of a month, no child
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will not forgive us forgive our past, in spite our futures. I mean, and this is why even though
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had the greatest responsibility of bringing people to the
worship of one Allah, people who had hearts shackled in the chains of ship. That is a big job, but
even
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though that was happening, he was teaching them how to raise their children. Even though that was
happening, he was teaching them how to be diligent husbands, even though that was happening, he was
teaching them how to be diligent wives. Why was he doing this? Surely he was busy with a bigger
matter, the matter of
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the matter of the beam of correct belief in the Lordship of Allah matches pertaining to correct
belief in the worship of Allah, the unity and his worship, matters pertaining to the correct belief
in his names and attributes, trying to teach his people to believe in life after death. These were
big, massive problems that existed, but even though he was also teaching them about being a good
wife and husband and parent, and Allah says, Allah says
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that in the messenger
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is Oh swattin hacer
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la Candela confy rasulillah swattin hasta. la parte de can, indeed, in the messenger is a perfect
example for you. And perfect example, is in the indefinite format. And this indefinite format exists
in the positive context, but of a technicality, but I explained what I'm saying, because we need to
understand how deep the Quran is. The scholars have a pseudo tip of jurisprudence methodology, they
say, an Akira VCF, and it's bad to feed feet
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or more, they say, an indefinite article, in a context that is positive, entails a meaning that is
comprehensive, and inclusive.
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What does this mean? This means when we read the ayah, and Allah teaches us that indeed, in your
messenger is the perfect example. Allah is not seeing the perfect example in just how you break and
how you fast and how you observe the hedge. No, Allah is saying the perfect example in every matter
of your life. He is the perfect example. If you want to know how to be a wife, if you want to know
how to be a husband, if you want to know how to be a parent, if you want to know how to be a
teacher, if you want to know how to be an employer, if you want to know how to be an employee, if
you want to know how to be a member of a community or a society, in him is the perfect example. And
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that is why after La ilaha illAllah comes Muhammad Rasul Allah, that when you say there is no one
worthy of worship besides one Allah, then Allah is telling you, if you accept that, then Allah wants
you to worship Him, how he wants to be worshipped, not how you want to worship Him.
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Allah allows you to worship him how he wants to be worshipped. And that happens based on the way of
Muhammad Rasul Allah. So you say la ilaha illAllah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, Allah wants you to be a
father, how he wants you to be a father, not how you want to be a father. Allah wants you to be a
husband, how he wants you to be a husband, not how you want to be a husband. Allah wants you to be a
wife, how he wants you to be a wife, not how you want to be a wife, not how society wants you to be
a wife, not how your culture wants you to be a wife. It's submission to the will of Allah and His
will is made manifest to us through Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is why we say that in
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a Illallah Muhammad Rasulullah that's the first question has to be your Allah. How do you want me to
be a husband? How do you want me to be a wife? How do you want to be a parent? How do you want me to
be a citizen of the community that I mean, how do you want me to be and the answer is in the life of
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
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Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He says kulu Kumara and wakulla comas Odin Andhra yet, each and
every one of you is a shepherd. And each and every one of you is responsible for his flock.
Responsible means allow and ask you about how you manage your flock on the day of pm. Allah subhanho
wa Taala Allah says, Yeah, you have levena M and O you who believe boo and fusa con la coonara save
yourself and your families from the fire
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and your families from the fire. You are the shepherd of your families. Allah subhanho
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wa Taala wasabi rally Lana's Allah Karim Khan, Nana Zuko
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Taka, Allah says, command your family, to command your families to the to the prayer.
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What's the valley and don't give up until it's established in your families
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of others and say Be patient in telling them. He says don't give up until it's established. If
talking doesn't work, change your strategy.
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But don't die, except that your families upon the learners lucullus Can we don't ask
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for food and money, National Zoo cook, we are the providers of sustenance. What are people to the
taco? And the good ending is for the people of the person and especially in this day and age in this
day and age, when we tell the parents are you raising your children? They say yes,
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we are very relative answer. We can't stop there. We need to ask, What do you mean by Yes? What is
your definition of raising the children? They say no, we send them to school. We send them to the
masjid. We introduce them to the Imam. We send them to the madrasa they have a Quran teacher, we
raising our children.
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So okay.
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For about you. What do you do with them? I'm busy. you busy? What are you busy with? I have to put
food on the table. Haha. I have to pay the bills. Okay. I'm busy with life so that we can provide
sustenance
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by who's teaching your child about salah and about establishing Salah in their lives? The teacher
the madrasa, the Imam at the mosque. That's why I donate to the masjid. That's why I paid the metric
service. Oh, so you outsource parenting? No, I don't. We don't outsource parenting. Why are you
saying that? That's what it means. Whenever you pay someone to do something for you, you outsource
it. you outsource marketing. you outsource catering. you outsource human resources, right? you
outsource publishing. you outsource it. You pay someone to do it. You're not doing it in house,
cheaper to get someone else to do it. Right. So that's what you're doing. You're taking the easy way
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out. It's called outsourcing. I'm sorry, my dear brother and sister in Islam. You can't outsource
parenting, the madrasa the masjid, the Imam of the masjid, the teacher, the madrasa the school, they
are only there to complement your role as a parent, not to play the role of mother and father for
you understand this and understand it well. You will never ever outsource parenting, it can never
happen. Because what law he will be left with a law he there is no one on the face of this earth
that is more desperate for your child to entertain them with an issue.
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No matter how sincere they are. The man is sincere. He wants to challenge you and agenda but not
more than you.
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The madrasa teacher is sincere. They want the success of your children, but not more than you. They
have their own children. They have their own problems. And by the way, when your child is with them,
there's probably another 1020 or 30 kids with them as well.
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Do you have a family of three or four and you have no time for them? What do you want a mom? What do
you want the teacher at the Methodist Church? What do you want the school teacher to do? They only
spend a few hours in the day with your child, the best years of your child was in your home. If
you're not doing it, no one is going to do it.
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Today SubhanAllah. We find parents
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up in arms, the child has reached their teens. And they're going out of hand. They're getting out of
hand. Why? Because adulthood identity crisis. They're growing. Females, hormones, development,
males. identity development, the Eagles are growing independence of thought. desires are coming in
different things are happening to them. But they never ever knew you as the teacher when they were
growing up. you outsource them to other people.
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And those are the people who are too busy to do your entire job for you.
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So then the empty space is in their minds. Who filled it for them. The television who filled it for
them, the friends at school, who will be for them, the neighbor down the road. What do you want to
do they have other teachers for the last 10 years now you up in arms because you finally realized
that things are not going to plan and you start pointing the finger, the Imam, the madrasa, the
school, the society, the city, the neighbor, are you pointing fingers mightier presidents sustained
Islam. Whenever you point fingers, these three fingers pointing back at you.
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problem starts with you.
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Your child never had some form of GPS installed in them where they should learn from Allah.
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Allah monisha Allah extracted them from the wombs of their mothers without them knowing anything,
and Allah placed them in your care. Your child was innocent. He all he wanted all she wanted was
your kid. They were an Amen given to you. It's as if when your child was born, and you held them for
the first time, and those innocent eyes with the twinkle looked into your eyes and you felt all this
fuzzy feeling. At that time, there was a message that was transferred from baby to parent that my
dear mother and father I didn't have a choice who will be my parents, but Allah has put me in you
Okay. All I asked him used to do right by me.
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That's what they asked.
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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says kulu malu, the new lead Allah fitrah
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Ababa who you have with what you know, Sarah?
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Well, you met Jesus and
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that all children are born upon a natural disposition, a disposition of guidance and belief in one
of law, but it's their parents that shift them here, or they make them Christians, or Jews, or fire
worshippers, or whatever they become. It's the environment that affects.
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So when you point a finger, these three fingers pointing back at you, we're talking about effective
homes, beneficial homes, equal beneficial societies. I don't want you to understand this topic, void
of my introduction. What was the introduction, that we are the best on Maui, because we collectively
carry the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It was birthed and sustained Islam. Can you
understand the harm you doing to the onma? If you're not an effective husband? Can you understand
the harm you're doing to the legacy of newborn, if you're not an effective wife? Can you understand
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the knife that you piercing into the hour, if you're not an effective parent, you need to really see
the bigger picture here. That if you're not doing your role as a mother, and a father, and and a
husband and a wife, then your home is a corrupt home, and that home is going to create a corrupt
society. And when that society is corrupt, what's going to happen to the to the people who are
supposed to carry the Dow, the Dow
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and when there's no doubt what's going to happen, a vise is going to spread. A lot tells us about
the people of before the People of the Book. Allah says they are cursed upon the tongue
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of their Buddha and his salah and reset the son of Maria, why can will I attend a homeowner?
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They never did the DAO, they never invited towards good. They never forbidden evil. And then they
became the people that did the evil.
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The semi Academy, what an evil, evil, wretched actually.
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Are we those people may Allah protect us will not protect us. My dearest mother, and father, let's
start with the mother and father before my dearest husband and wife, my dearest mother and father.
One of the best ways to help this hour is to raise your kids yourself. And one of the best ways to
raise your kids yourself is to talk to them. Make time to talk to them every day. Like we say, never
ever sleep without reciting the Quran. Never ever step without having that. That beautiful sitting
with your child. Never, ever make sure they see you as the first teacher. Don't underestimate the
power of teaching. And why should you be the first teacher because when law he let me teach you
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something
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I can teach your child about Salah.
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But the Baraka that exists in you teaching them about Salah is far greater
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than when I teach them about it.
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I can teach your child about being good and having good manners. But the Baraka the blessings that
exists in the lesson when you teach it is found no way except when you do that. This is from Allah.
This is from Allah, you must understand this, that there's a certain Baraka, there's a certain gift
that Allah has put in
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the dissemination of lessons between parent and child that doesn't exist when a teacher teaches that
child that lesson.
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And if you want evidence of this, I refer you to the Quran. Because every story in the Quran when
Allah tells us about a Prophet and his child, Allah always mentioned the concept of them talking to
each other.
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Allah tells us about Look man, the wise man
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and his son, what does Allah say? We've got a local man living
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on a ladder to Shrek villa in Nashville, California.
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When the wise man look man, had a dialogue with his son
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when he taught his son
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when he educated his son
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and he said to me send my DSM, don't associate partners with Allah. Indeed, associating partners
with Allah is a great depression.
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Surah Yusuf, a whole surah dedicated to the story of one Prophet, beginning to end. How does the
love begin the story? Well, have you ever thought about this? How does the love begin its own story.
You expect stories to begin
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in a certain way, how does the love begin the story?
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Is the use of a b here is Carla, when you said to his father,
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that's the beginning of the story. What's the follow up to that beginning? Kalia? buena. Yeah. When
he said to his son, they having a discussion.
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It says if Allah is teaching us about parenting without teaching us about parenting, this is the
power of the Quran, you have to ponder over what's happening. And look at the context of your life.
I mean, which child today just goes to anybody, and tells them about a dream that they had. They
only go to that person and tell them about a dream which they had, when they comfortable with that
person, when there's a report that already exists between them. That's how children are. So in other
words, it is called usefully IV. It says if a lie is saying the story of use of is a story of a
beautiful relationship about a father and a son, and the father played with the sun spoke to the sun
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and vice versa, they ate together, they they ran together, they played together, they were so close
with each other. So the day came when you saw this dream. And he said, You know what, I need to go
tell my father bought his collar you put everything in context.
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And when you've had this dilemma of this dream, he's seeing a star. He's seeing a moon, he's seeing
11 stars bowing down to him. Why is this strange for a young boy?
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Young children have imaginations right?
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Don't they have imaginations? How many of us have children here?
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Mashallah, how many of us have come across a child that has an imaginary friend?
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They have imaginary friends you see them playing with somebody
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who you playing with playing with my friend they even give them names. My son he had an imagine he
had two two imaginary friends one was a good one. And one was a naughty one. Whenever something what
used to happen is a it's it's he had he named the one was alone one was Becky. So he would say this
because for
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me do this. Are you as a parent? You know, you think so? Pamela look at the world of the child. The
brain is good. They have imagination. It is imagination some parents is that punishing the child but
it's only two threes line. Nine is Hara. punish the child to say brother, relax, put your stick
away. Come down. Don't hyperventilate, breathe.
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He's not lying. This is imagination.
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You got to read about the child's mind.
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So our children have imaginations? How can you serve at the age of four or five or six? He has a
problem with what he has seen in his reading. Have you ever asked yourself why? You know why?
Because his father used to teach him about worshiping Allah and prostrating to Allah. It can only be
right.
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That this is the relationship that they had. His first teacher was his father. So now he has a
confusion. So who should I go to my father?
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Today, there's a confusion. I need to go to the guidance teacher at school.
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There's a confusion. I need to speak to that person up the road. There's a confusion. I need to
speak to my friends when I meet them in the afternoon. They were about your father. My father was
too busy. He's never ever taught me anything. I don't think he knows the answer to this.
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Yes. Yes. Take it from someone who's been tested. I call it a test. It's a test from Allah on me
that I have to sit with some of your children.
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What not your children per se. But you understand what I'm saying children of the community? I don't
think my father knows. Because not once did he ever teach me anything?
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So the fact that us has a problem, if we use our brain, we understand that supanova Yaqoob must have
told us about the worship of one Allah will use it was two or three or four. Because we know that
Yusuf was stolen from his home when he was four or five or six as the scholars of the estimate. So
at that age, he knew about worshiping Allah. So he had a problem. Now he had the problem. He knew
who to go to for the answer, because he knew who his teacher was my father.
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He goes to his father, he tells his father about the dream.
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Look how beautiful the relationship is between the coop and use of today. We don't have time Yaqoob
look at the time that he has for his child. Yaqoob is busy as a prophet of Allah He has to teach
about Allah and the oneness of Allah and stop worshipping idols. You think you're busy measuring how
busy he was?
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You think you have issues, community issues. Imagine what community issues he had.
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And how many children did he have?
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He's got use of he's got Binyamin, he's got another 10 he Mashallah two, three kids, right?
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You have issues he had bigger issues, but he tells his son
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Paula, yeah, Puna Yella Taku Erica Allah wa t Kapha Quito
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lecoq ada in shavon LL
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Bean, this is my dear son, don't relay this dream to your brothers, because they will harm you.
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And my dear son, never ever forget my other lesson which attach indeed shape to man is a clear
enemy. You might be scratching your head and thinking, Man, yeah, who was brave. Today, we don't
tell our children about shavon we worry they'll have sleepless nights. They're too young. Don't
teach them about children grow up and learn. Don't teach them about Allah, we too busy now we have
time. Let them get older, they must get older than we'll teach them. tomorrow never comes my dear
mother and father. Learn from yaku. Today you write to me and asked me, How do we protect our kids,
we can measure them all the time we send them to schools, they're out of our house, they're out of
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our eye, what do we do? learn from you. Teach them what they need to learn. Don't disrespect their
mind, respect them and teach them what they need to know that knowledge will be the security.
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The scholars of psychology
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and instruction, they say, the most perfect education that you can offer someone is when you tell
them to do something or not to do it. And then you explain why. And if it's confusing for them, you,
you give them further guidance.
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three elements to correct speech, and amaroo. What to do with doji in the Arabic language, the
command, the explanation of the command, and then guidance. They call these the three pillars of
correct instruction. We find this in the speech of Yahuwah a Salah, all my son, don't release this
dream to your brothers, this is a common.
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Why? Because they might protect against you they will harm you. He explains himself. But today you
and I will say no, no, no is too young you can you tell him his brothers are going to harm him.
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Who is teaching him life. This is life. If I don't teach you, no one is going to teach you listen to
me, my dear son. But he knows that previously, I used to tell my son that never ever break the bond
of unity between you and your brothers, brothers or brothers. You are united by blood. You are
united by faith. Always be united always forgive each other. That's what I used to teach him. And
now today I'm telling him, your brothers might harm you. So jacoba has to add guidance to his
explanation and teach his son that my dear son, if they harm you never forget that other lesson I
taught that she upon is a clear me to match.
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There's a reason why I'm explaining this in detail. Because
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there's a reality to this.
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So usually by the age of four or five, he listens to his father teaching him about Sherpa.
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Let's fast forward.
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Four and a half decades further
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use of his 50 something years old,
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used to be 60 something years old.
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He was taken out of his home as a young boy, today you take a kid out of his home for five. Right?
And I if I tell you take a five year old put him in a house where they worship items where they
don't have manners where they practice adult. What do you think this child will become at the age of
14? What would you tell me? Will the child be a Muslim youth? No. I can put money on it. You said
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teens is 13 1415 1617 1819 growing up in a house Have you become a Muslim. You become the
environment that you're in.
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Use of gets to the age of 40.
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He's living in a home, which is messed up. Forgive the colloquial English but you understand what
I'm saying?
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And the woman locks him in a room, shuts all the doors, shuts all the windows. No one has access no
in no out total privacy. He's never heard about a law since he was four years old or five years old
or six years old. He is a man. He has designs. Not only is he a man in his 20s a man in his 40s Can
you imagine how much desires he has never been married? He's a slave. She's the master. He's an
expert. She's a citizen. She owns the gods he can be thrown into prison. She has compounded
strength. He has compounded weakness. Don't forget the weakness of his desires. Now,
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the biggest weakness comes he Tila Carla Tater. She said Come to me. Come to me. Now what would you
and I in this day and age with this circumstance with our desires with everything? What would we
say?
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Sudan Allah
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Subhana Allah, but what would we say? What are we thinking? This is easy man. Normally you got to
buy the dinner, you got to send the roses you have to you know, there's a lot you have to do before
he or nothing she's saying Come to me, so easy.
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But what does he say? What is the words that comes to his tongue at that moment? My other law, I
seek refuge in Allah. Allah protect me in a lava with this 14 men for 40 year old men here the word
Allah with the this that Allah is a protector. Where did you hear that this is wrong in the chiffon?
Where did he learn this from? We didn't teach him. We brought this boy up who's taught him this.
Remember earlier I said, Don't underestimate the Baraka of a father and mother teaching a child
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is Barack Obama, he there's blessings in it that you can't imagine when you do it. Allah blesses
that lesson, that it guides the child.
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It might be good if the Marisa teacher does it, but it's not as good when you who taught him his
father might have Allah
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le I said that he taught him about shape and they went in the UK teach him about Allah at the
moment. Because after Yahoo tells us of shavon is a big enemy beeware
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Yaqoob says
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work
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Toby calm buco on your limo Kumi wheel in the
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metal
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coming through a bar or e mail what is happening in Nara Becca Annie moon Hakeem.
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He tells his son after teaching your son about Chopin. He says My dear son before I lose you, things
are gonna happen to you. I can't imagine what's going to happen to you. But before you lose the
ability of your father to teach you, let me teach you from the University of life. Whatever happens
to you? This is Allah completing his favor upon you. Like Allah completed his favor upon his heart,
and Ibrahim your grandfather's? What is what is the accompanying reason? Today we hear identity
crisis in the oma the Muslims in the UK. They're having identity crisis and my Muslim British
British Muslim identity crisis. Yakov is teaching him who he is my son, you're a son of a prophet
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who was the son of a prophet who was a son of a prophet. This is who you are, Ally's completing his
favor upon you before I lose you. Let me tell you, this is who you are. Never forget who you are,
before I lose you. This is who you are. And
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whatever happens to you in life, always remember that Allah that I always taught you about. He is
your og. And he is Eileen. And he's hockey.
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What does that mean? He is your ultimate protector. No one can harm you and you have him. What does
he really mean? No matter what happens to you, he knows where you are. He knows your situation.
Whatever happens to you, he's Hakeem. He's wise as to why it's happening to you might not
understand. But don't lose faith in him. Don't lose hope in Him. There's a plan that he knows that
you don't know. When you look at the situation, you just have a pixel. But you can't tell the whole
picture from just a pixel. But Allah has the whole picture. And very soon the other pixels will come
into your life and you'll understand Subhanallah what Allah was doing. He teaches you some this four
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or five lessons that you and I today will say no children are too little. Don't teach them keep the
keep them uninformed, protect them. Don't tell them about Japan. Why to protect them, Yahoo be
saying teach them about shavon and teach them about Allah and not just the concept the reality to
protect them. So when used to be taken into the jungle at the age of six, tomorrow your child will
go to the jungle called the school at the age of six. You send them protect
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so used to finally he Salaam is locked up with her. And she says come to me. He remembers my father
told me that when the doors are locked, and the windows are locked, and no one can see you. In
Europe Bacardi would keep you Allah, he's your protector, he will protect you. And by the way, he's
allowed him. He knows where you are. And he's Hakeem. He knows why you there. So that's easy for him
to say.
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His whole life he was growing up with this reality.
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When he's thrown into the prison,
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he tells the inmates What about a minute.
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He grew up in house of shirk, but he's telling the inmates is worshiping one God better worshipping
many gods
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Is worshipping many gods better or should be one God. And you know me, I am upon the way of my
forefathers, my grandparents who Ibrahim and his hack, and he accused my father, I'm a prophet, the
son of a prophet, the son of a prophet, the son of the Prophet. Where did he learn that lesson?
Before he was taken from the home, when his father told him that whatever happens to you, Allah is
completing his favor upon you.
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Have you ever understood sort of use of like this? It is the it is the parenting module from the
Quran.
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It is the evidence of how to be an effective parent from the Quran. You might just think, Okay, this
is what happened. Oh, that's interesting that is tied together. Why is he saying I am upon the way
of my forefathers? why he's telling them I don't have an identity crisis, even though I've spent
four and a half decades around people who worship idols, but I still know who I am. And I know where
I'm from. Okay, what's the next question? Where did you let us have Where you from? And then in my
father's home, but how old were you when used to live with him? I was four or five. But my father,
he taught me from the University of life. He taught me these lessons. And Allah bless those lessons
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that stuck with me.
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At the end of the story, when he's 50, something years old, when a lot gathers them together, a lot
brings the family together. Unity happens, use of mystery, his mother, he missed his father, he
missed his brothers. And now they together Yousuf says, work at the center be a law was good to me.
When it originally minister, when Allah removed me from the prison,
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to Panama, why is use of saying when Allah remove me from the prison? Why does the use of say Allah
was good to me when Allah took me out of the well,
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which was harder in his life, which event being thrown into the prison as a six year old, or being
thrown into prison by his choice when he's 40? Plus, which is harder for a human being.
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What do you think brothers and sisters in Islam
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being thrown into the wild?
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So why doesn't he say to his father, mother, brothers allow us good to meet when a lot took me out
of the well.
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Why? Because my brothers are here. These are my brothers. I always forgave them because when I was a
boy, my father taught me that shavon is a clear enemy, it will shape one who messed around with us.
Today, you and I, what do we do? who say no, no, no, no, no, no mention the well, they must know
what they did. I forgive them but we don't forget, they must know mustn't get away with it, they
must remember what they did to me. Right? You can use of perfect forgiveness, who taught him how to
perfectly forgive his family. His father when when he was six, when he was five, when he was four,
that is choosing his words appropriately. Allah was good to me when a lot to be out of the prison.
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Let me not say anything about the world because that my brothers did that to me. And then he goes on
to say, mean, by the anessa cachet upon being you have been a aftershave balm caused enmity between
me and my brothers. By Allah I asked you who taught us that if something happens between him and his
brothers, when she upon had a big hand, who taught him
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his father, at the end, when they 50 some of his 50 something years old, he's telling his father,
that my father, you taught me about shirvan, Allah was good to me, when Allah brought you out of the
desert. And Allah took me out of prison, after shavon caused enmity between me and my brothers.
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Like, I don't know what more I can say to make you appreciate how powerful it is for you to speak to
your children and teach your children and respect their minds and don't think they're too small. If
you don't know about Allah, go learn about Allah. That's your duty. Why? Because you have to teach
your child about Allah. Why? Because he has to carry the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wasallam also, like you have to carry it, we collectively carry it. If I don't raise my child, well,
then how will I be successful in carrying the Dow the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
now is not on the shoulders of one man is on the shoulders of the entire ummah. My child is from the
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Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wasallam I have to teach him we have like granted the understanding. And
we hope we understanding this the micro and the macro. We always talk about seeing the pixel in
light of the bigger picture.
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We never too busy for the important things in life. My dad has brothers and sisters in Islam. Forget
this word. I'm too busy. Brother, do you speak to your child? We're lucky I'm busy.
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You're not too busy.
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I have a translation for the word busy.
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You have Google Translate, right? Let me give you surgery, translate surgery, trauma translate. When
you tell me I'm too busy. You saying
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you're not important to me.
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That's what you say.
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Because brother and sister in Islam
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When you are busy, you still have time to eat.
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Not so you still wear your clothes before you leave the house. Not so the i in right? Not so you pay
the bills. Not so when you're busy, you still doing things. So you have time for the important
things. If you can't talk to your child that day, you saying talking to my child is not important.
Basically, let's call a spade a spade and not a big spoon with an African singer. Say call the
shovel. Call it a spade a shovel. Don't say it's a big spoon. No, it's a shovel.
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Stop making excuses. And today this is we we allow ourselves to sleep at night. Even though we're
not being effective parents how? By making excuses and lying to ourselves. This is called cognitive
dissonance.
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The people of psychology they call this cognitive dissonance. The people have emotional
intelligence. There's books on this. Right? Read knowledge is power.
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They call this cognitive dissonance. What is cognitive dissonance when you cheat yourself by making
excuses that appease you for your inaction.
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There's an example about the fox who's hungry, and he sees the red apple on the tree which looks
juicy, the fox can climb the tree. So he jumps and he jumps and he jumps. He's trying to get the
apple and he can't get it. So at the end, he walks off shaking his head and saying that Apple
doesn't taste nice anyway.
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He's lying to himself, so he can be happy that I didn't get it. It's no plan. I didn't miss out on
anything. That's cognitive dissonance.
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You know, Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us, forgive us, inspire our futures and mean yorubaland
me. So this is a point related to the importance of being brilliant parents, in light of the bigger
picture of looking after the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam What time is again in
this machine
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right now. So let us listen to event very quickly and then after the event, I will just share with
you one more point and then we will commence with the issue of Salah with your permission is Aquila,
who,
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okay, just before we commence
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was selected Asia, we spoke about
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beneficial home equals a beneficial society from the aspect of good parenting.
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Another very important matter that needs to be considered is the proactive relationship between
husbands and wives. Because the greater the relationship between husbands and wives, then the
greater the ability to raise the children. And this is a big topic, no doubt. But one point I want
to share my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam is the importance of us developing our marriages
so that we co exist upon the paradigm of responsibility and not the paradigm of rights. There's two
R's in our life, the art of rights, and the art of responsibility.
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The books are they teach us about the rights of the husband, and they teach us about the rights of
the wife, but they also nurture us to live with each other upon the paradigm of responsibility
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that it shouldn't be about my right in your right. It should be about what's best for the bigger
picture. This is being responsible.
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And this is what we mean when we say a marriage is not about my way or the highway but it's about
give and take.
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And to emphasize this point, think about the best marriage that this world had the marriage of
Mohammed Salah Lavoie, and he was sent to Khadija robiola and
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when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married her who had the house
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who had the money,
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Khadija probably a loved one.
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Was it her right? That the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam put a roof over her head
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perhaps.
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But nowhere do we find in the books of history ever. Khadija robiola her and her demanding that home
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rather, she happily accepted that they live in her home. Help your loved one. This is your
responsibility. This is responsibility. What do you think this gesture does to the love of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wasallam for her to the love of
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Husband for his wife. What do you think this does?
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Unlike what we see today, today, the email comes. Nowadays the emails are books lumsdaine.
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Chef,
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I got married. Chef hamdulillah chef. He doesn't have a house. We live in my house. My father gifted
me a house. It's my house. Okay, Masha, Allah. Allah bless you, sister. Chef. Is it allowed for me
to charge my husband rent?
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rent? Yes. Rent. Why? Because it's my right that he gives me a home. But he doesn't. He's living in
my home. If I was living in his home, I would rent this house, I would get money. So I think I
should charge him rent is that allowed in Islam here?
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rights versus responsibility? What do you think this will do to the heart of your husband? If you go
and tell him? I asked you excited Omar.
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If I'm allowed to charge you rent and he says it's a lot.
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So here's the invoice, please.
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pay rent monthly. What do you think this is going to do to his heart? Who has responsibility to
sustain his lap?
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Okay, this is with regards to Khadija
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Khadija robiola and her she had a child when the prophets of Allah for Allah He was telling Maddie
that some of the historians say the child's name was him.
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Did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam have to be with him like how a father is to his real
child?
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Know
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that he was responsible? He raised his hand as if it was his own child.
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What do you think this does to the heart of the law and
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for her husband didn't have to but he went fine beyond he was responsible.
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Today, husband might get married, he has a child from the previous marriage. That child wants to
come live with his or her father.
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So you go to your wife, you say, you know, he wants to come live with us. She wants to come to with
us young girl, young boy, one month, then maybe we'll renew the contract for three months, then
maybe it might be lifetime but we're not talking about that. Now. What do you think my new wife, one
month child can come live with us?
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But what about our relationship, our previous, you know, honeymoon period, I want to hold your hand
in the supermarket but then the child is they should see me be
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thinking negative. Thinking about my rights, but thinking about responsibility.
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So Khadija puts a roof over the head of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam raises a devious child like his own all this is responsibility.
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Then, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he wants to be responsible to his relatives. This is
part of the family structure and being diligent to the data. He says, I will finally raised me
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and he has many children and he's not well to do now that we will to do I want to take one of his
sons early and raise him in this home. I want to take my cousin and bring him to this home.
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Do you see in the books of history, Heidegger saying law law? It's not fair. But you know, this is
our home now. This person is a stranger, he's going to come? No.
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She happily agrees. And she raises alley like as if it is her own response.
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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is responsible to his uncle today. You tell someone a
brother, you know that uncle of yours. When you were young, he'd he paid your school fees or he did
something for you. You know, why don't you reciprocate, do something you say? Habibi, brother. I
didn't ask him to pay my school fees.
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From the kindness of his heart, Allah will reward him no obligation upon the typist obligation upon
you to be responsible.
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responsibility. This is the Omaha masala values and we responsible people. It's important that the
relationship between husband and wife is built upon the paradigm of responsibility.
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And this is true.
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Love and Mercy. Allah says from his science is that he created the husband and the husband's wife
and Allah placed between them our love and mercy.
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And some people say no, no, no, no, no, no love is in the first five years of marriage six years,
seven years, then the law finishes so then there's Miss. We live with each other we have to be
merciful. Loving Mercy is responsibility or seventh of Allah. No child of Adam, this is my wife
Deborah. So it's important that we live with each other upon this way and if we do so will close
many of the doors that she upon uses to pollute our marriages. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect
me before I end. One thing from Surah Yusuf
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at the beginning of surah Yusuf
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Usually I saw a dream of a sun and a moon and 11 stars at the end of the story, how is that dream
interpreted?
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The sun, according to one tafsir the sun s un represented the Father, the mother represented the
moon, and the stars represented the the brothers, the children.
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Let us analyze this a little bit.
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In the life that we live in, when the sun is out, people feel safe. When the sun is out.
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Earning takes place. When the sun is out, the rain falls, the plants grow things happen.
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What about the father in the home, when the father is around, the family feel safe.
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When the father is around, earning happens, sustenance is there.
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Back when the sun isn't similar. When the father is around, things happen, the bills are paid, the
school fees is paid.
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Transport takes place, there's an issue the solution comes out. Is there a relationship between the
father and the son in the sky?
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When the sun is out? The stars are out. But do you see the stars? Not so many? Not not so. But you
see the stars with the moon because by default, the mother in the home is pivotal to establishing a
pivotal society. The children are with the mother, the stars are with the moon.
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Let's look at the mother or the moon. When the moon is out. The stars are out. When the sun is
bright, the moon is bright. And the brighter the moon, the brighter the stars.
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When the father is a good father in the home. The mother now is a good mother in the home. When the
mother is a good mother in the home. The children are the best children of that society. Because the
relationship
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Quran is the word of Allah Allah He doesn't this messages ponder. Okay, let's take it further. What
happens when the sun wants to be the moon? And the moon wants to be the sun?
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In real life, what do we have on that day? People say at this time on this day what's going to
happen? an eclipse. And when an eclipse happens, the moon is weak, the sun is weak, and the stars
are nowhere to be seen.
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What happens when the mother wants to be the Father and the Father wants to be the mother.
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You have a social Eclipse, a social Eclipse and when a social Eclipse happens.
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The Father is not effective. The mother is not effective, and the children suffer the most. I leave
you with this to ponder over my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam. I love you all for the sake
of Allah. Everything correct settings from a line is perfect and any mistakes are for myself and
shame upon and I seek Allah's forgiveness. May Allah subhanho wa Taala preserve us in his obedience,
correct the affairs of our homes and make us people that are diligent to the legacy of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then we are adding muscle that was Salim starting with us being
diligent husbands and wives and parents. I mean, you're a bit I mean, may Allah gather us again
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together in this Masjid as he has gathered us here today to learn further from the inheritance of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam everything correct studies from a line is perfect. And any
mistakes I found myself in Japan and I seek His forgiveness or sort of love was something more about
being a Mohammed or he was like be a drummer. It was Mr. De Kumar coming to LA he
