Saif Morad – Speak Good or Remain Silent Principles For A Good Life #1

Allah created us to know him,

to love him, to worship him.

And we do this by living in this

world, by being a part of society.

We go out and we learn,

And we earn a living.

And we have relationships

with others.

And the Quran and the Sunnah has given

us all the instructions we need to succeed.

It teaches us how to behave, how to

interact with one another, how to speak.

All the principles for a good life are

laid out.

And one of the Quranic principles for a

good life

is to always speak good or remain silent.

Frustrated,

irritated, even angry.

And we're going to want to act on

these emotions.

But a Muslim must always be in control

of their emotions

and always try to speak good.

Not only do we say good

words that have good meanings,

but also we say it in a good

way.

And this is applicable in every area

with our parents, with our friends, with our

spouses, with our children, with our siblings,

when we go out to work, at the

grocery store, in every situation,

we must try our best to speak good.

This is a command from Allah telling us

to speak that which is good, to always

choose the best words in the best speech.

Imam al Khortubi mentioned that this ayah was

revealed regarding Umar bin Khattar

that a man cursed him

and Ummad retaliated and wanted to beat this

person up.

And Allah revealed this ayah telling the believers

to always speak that which is good

because Shaytan wants to cause corruption between us.

He wants to ruin our relationships.

He sees us from places that we cannot

see Him.

He knows our weaknesses. He knows the times

when we're most vulnerable.

He knows our triggers better than we know

ourselves.

And he waits for that moment

that when the time comes he will make

us say that which is bad,

that which will ruin our relationships.

Because Allah tells us that Shaytan is a

clear enemy

for insan, for the human being.

So we need to have mastery over our

emotions, control over our tongue so that we

always speak good. Now this doesn't mean that

we don't get upset, that we don't feel

anger.

Rather it means that we feel this emotion

and we understand what's going on.

We know what emotion we're feeling

and we manage it in the correct way.

This is what's called emotional intelligence

and it is very important that we have

control over our tongue

because how many times have we seen that

one word, one sentence

can ruin a relationship,

can ruin a marriage, can crush somebody,

can ruin a friendship,

and can even get you punched in the

face?

Allah tells us about the Ibadul Rahman,

the qualities of the servants of the Most

Merciful.

When the ignorant people say to them something

that they dislike,

they respond by saying that which is better

because they understand that self control is strength.

You don't let ignorant people dictate how their

emotions are gonna be.

Rather they have control over their moods and

their behaviors.

And they say that which is good in

order to please Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, in

order to be from His special slaves.

And this is easier said than done because

Allah will put us in situations where we'll

be tested

to see whether or not we have control

over our tongue, whether we'll say the right

thing or not, especially with our parents and

our spouses and our children and our siblings

Because

it's easy to be nice outside

at the grocery store, at work, at school.

But what happens when we're tired and we

go home

and we get irritated?

Are we still able to hold our tongue?

Think about how good it would be if

we had control over our tongue,

if we mastered our emotions,

how good our relationships would be if we

only spoke that which is good.

The next time you get upset

and feel your emotions riling up,

remember the verse that was recited

and also try to remember the hadith of

the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam in which

he said

that whoever believes in Allah and the last

day,

then let them speak good or remain silent.

If we can't say that which is good,

then at least we should stay silent.

And if we mess up, we should immediately

apologize. We should not delay. We should ask

Allah to forgive us. And then we should

ask ourselves what went wrong

and how can I improve on this? How

can I be better?

Because we never know. One good word that

we say

can be so beloved to Allah Subhanahu Wa

Ta'ala that can be the means of Him

showering us with His mercy and His blessings.

May Allah bless every single one of you

guys for listening. Until next time, assalamu alaikum,

marahmatullahi

wabarakatuh.