Saif Morad – Ramadan Stretch Goals Blueprint

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The importance of having a plan and goals for achieving the best in the world is emphasized, along with the need to strive towards deeds and pursue spirituality. Building habits and achieving goals with a clear plan is crucial to achieving their goals, and achieving a reward system and accountability partners are also important. Progress is crucial to achieving goals and a plan is achievable, while identifying the reasons why progress is not achieving and creating a plan that is achievable is crucial to achieving goals.

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			Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi
		
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			wa barakatuhum my dear brothers and sisters. May
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless us with the
		
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			best in this world and the next. In
		
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			the previous video, we talked about stretch goals
		
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			during the month of Ramallah. And in this
		
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			video, we're gonna be talking about the blueprint
		
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			of implementing
		
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			and achieving these goals by the will of
		
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			Allah
		
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			Having goals is great. It gives us direction.
		
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			But it is the system that actually makes
		
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			us progress towards these goals. And do I
		
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			need to have a plan? Do I need
		
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			to have these goals in order to truly
		
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			benefit from Ramadan? The answer is no. But
		
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			if you are like me and the vast
		
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			majority,
		
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			then having a plan and having these goals
		
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			will Insha'Allah take Ramadan to a completely different
		
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			level. And one of the best things that
		
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			we can do is work on ourselves, work
		
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			on our spirituality, work on our relationship with
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Because the more taqwa
		
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			we attain, the more mindful of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala we become, the more we understand
		
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			our deen and how it relates to not
		
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			only our relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			but our relationship with other people as well
		
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			when it comes to our work, our families,
		
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			our relatives.
		
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			We will see other areas in our lives
		
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			improve
		
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			automatically.
		
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			We will approach our work with Ihsaam.
		
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			We'll try to do the best that we
		
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			can because we expect the reward from Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and we know that he's
		
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			watching us. So step 1 is
		
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			what do you want?
		
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			I hope you've decided on what you want
		
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			to accomplish this Ramadan. What 1 to 3
		
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			goals are you gonna focus on that will
		
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			bring you closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala?
		
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			And remember,
		
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			we want to continue
		
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			these actions even after Ramadan. In Ramadan, we're
		
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			gonna stretch ourselves and do as much as
		
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			we can. But once Ramadan is done and
		
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			we snap back, we're still gonna continue with
		
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			these goals. And Ramadan is the perfect opportunity
		
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			to stretch ourselves. There is so much motivation
		
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			involved for us to do good and stay
		
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			away from bad. Example for spiritual goals are
		
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			charity,
		
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			Quran, qiyam, helping people,
		
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			bettering our salah, reflecting over the Quran and
		
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			other things that we can do.
		
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			So once we've decided on 1 to 3
		
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			goals that we want to implement during Ramadan
		
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			and continue even after Ramadan.
		
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			So as an example, we're going to look
		
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			at.
		
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			Step number 2 in the blueprint is
		
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			to know your reason for accomplishing this goal.
		
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			Have a big enough reason why you want
		
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			to accomplish this goal. Ask yourselves questions.
		
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			How is my life going to change if
		
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			I were to be able to establish Qiyamul
		
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			Lay? Look for references that's going to increase
		
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			your motivation. For example, the Hadith of the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam in which he said
		
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			that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala descends every night
		
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			in a way that is befitting for his
		
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			majesty to the lowest heaven when the last
		
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			third of the night remains. And he says,
		
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			who will call upon me
		
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			that I may answer him? Who will ask
		
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			of me that I may give him? Who
		
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			will seek my forgiveness that I may forgive
		
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			him? So we want to work on these
		
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			things for the sake of Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala and we need to have a big
		
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			enough reason that's gonna keep motivating
		
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			us to push towards this goal. Step number
		
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			3 is
		
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			to have a concrete plan.
		
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			So going back to the example of Qiyam
		
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			and Layl, after Ramadan, I want to be
		
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			waking up 15 minutes before Salat Al Fajr
		
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			and praying my wutr and making Dua.
		
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			So in Ramadan, the first 10 days, for
		
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			example, I want to be praying 2 raka'ah
		
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			of Qiyam every single night. Then the next
		
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			10 days I take it up another level
		
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			to 4 raka'ah
		
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			and in the last 10 nights of Ramadan
		
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			I strive and I try to pray 6
		
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			raka'af Qiyam and lay with Dua and once
		
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			Ramadan is finished I continue.
		
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			I don't give up on this goal, but
		
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			now I continue from step 1, which is
		
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			to wake up 15 minutes before Fajr, pray
		
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			my wutr, and make dua to Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala. And we need to build habits
		
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			in order to accomplish these goals, and it's
		
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			best to keep it simple. Don't focus on
		
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			the entire task, but just focus on the
		
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			beginning of the task. So in order to
		
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			build this habit, we're gonna focus on the
		
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			what,
		
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			the when,
		
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			and the where for each of these goals.
		
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			So for example in regards to our goal
		
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			of qiyamul layl, every night at 4 AM
		
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			I will wake up and I will perform
		
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			wudu. If we have a Quran related goal,
		
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			then it can be every day after salatul
		
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			Dhuhr, I will open the musaf.
		
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			So we want to focus on the beginning
		
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			action that would lead to the execution of
		
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			the task because if you wake up and
		
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			make udu, are you gonna go back to
		
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			sleep? Chances are you're gonna go and perform
		
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			qayamalah, you're gonna make dua to Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala. And we want to write all
		
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			this down. And step 4 is to execute
		
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			and evaluate.
		
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			Having a goal is great. Writing it down
		
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			on paper is even better. But if we
		
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			fail to execute, then we're never gonna achieve
		
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			the goal. So we want to execute from
		
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			day 1 and keep track of our progress.
		
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			And we keep it simple, keep it very
		
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			very simple. For example, on a calendar
		
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			with the date, just tick yes. So three
		
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			things that will help us inshallah execute.
		
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			Number 1 is to remind ourselves why we
		
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			wanna do this. How our lives will change
		
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			if we were to accomplish this, how much
		
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			more baraka would it bring in our lives.
		
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			Number 2 is to have an accountability
		
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			partner. We tell somebody about our goals, for
		
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			example a family member, a sibling, our spouse,
		
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			a friend and they hold us accountable to
		
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			these goals. That if they see a slacking,
		
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			they remind us that, hey, didn't you have
		
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			these goals that you wanted to do? So
		
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			we find somebody that's gonna hold us accountable.
		
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			At the same time, we try to be
		
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			somebody's accountability partner as well. And number 3,
		
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			to have a reward system. Of course, we
		
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			expect the reward from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			and we will see the improvements in our
		
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			lives. In addition to that, we also want
		
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			to have something that we can look forward
		
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			to. Something I want to buy, perhaps something
		
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			I want to do. And I hold off
		
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			on that until the end of Ramadan. I
		
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			track my progress every single day doing Ramadan.
		
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			And if I achieve 85 percent because it
		
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			is natural for some days for us to
		
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			not be able to accomplish what we set
		
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			out to do. And that's fine. We need
		
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			to take it easy on ourselves.
		
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			So if we get 85%
		
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			or higher, then I'm entitled to that gift,
		
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			then I'm entitled to doing that thing that
		
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			I want to do. And we want to
		
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			evaluate
		
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			our progress.
		
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			So we track our progress every single day
		
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			and we keep it very simple. Let's put
		
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			the date and yes or no whether or
		
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			not we did the task that we were
		
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			set to do and on the days that
		
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			we fail to execute,
		
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			we need to find out the reason why,
		
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			especially if we miss 2 days in a
		
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			row. What's the reason I'm not being able
		
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			to establish? Am I sleeping too late? Am
		
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			I eating too much before going to bed?
		
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			If I'm in bed, am I spending too
		
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			much time on the phone? We need to
		
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			find out the reason why we are being
		
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			prevented from establishing Be'ah. And many times it
		
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			can be a sin because in order to
		
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			get close to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			it has to be done in obedience to
		
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			him. And sins can block us from getting
		
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			close to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So if
		
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			there's a sin that we're doing something that
		
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			we saw, something that we heard, something that
		
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			we said, even we might have spoken bad
		
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			about somebody that can prevent us from achieving
		
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			our goal. So we identify
		
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			what is the reason we're unable to accomplish
		
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			this task
		
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			and then we fix it. And lastly, step
		
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			number 5,
		
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			we need to ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			We need to believe that this goal is
		
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			achievable,
		
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			that we can continue even after Ramadan and
		
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			accomplish it during Ramadan. And we consistently and
		
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			constantly ask Allah
		
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			to make it easy for us, to make
		
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			this action beloved to us, to make it
		
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			easy for us to go and execute. And
		
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			we believe with certainty that Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala will make us reach that goal. So
		
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			today's exercise is to make your plan in
		
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			regards to each goal.
		
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			Step 1, what do we want?
		
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			Step 2, why do we want it? We
		
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			need to have a big enough reason to
		
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			motivate us.
		
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			Step number 3, make an actual plan and
		
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			keep it simple
		
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			because complexity is the enemy of execution.
		
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			So if we keep things simple, then we'll
		
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			go out and execute. Number 4, we need
		
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			to actually go out and take action
		
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			and evaluate our progress.
		
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			And if things are not working, we need
		
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			to find out the reason why it's not
		
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			working. And number 5, to ask Allah and
		
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			believe with certainty that he's going to give
		
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			us that which we want. May Allah
		
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			allow us to reach the month of Ramadan
		
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			and make this the best Ramadan ever and
		
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			may he forgive our sins
		
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			and make us amongst those who we freeze
		
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			from the hellfire.
		
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			Until next
		
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			time.