Saif Morad – Living The Prophetic Way

Saif Morad
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The importance of worshipping Allah's teachings and finding the best strategy for one's future is emphasized. The speakers stress the need for effort and learning in communication to create a safe space within one's home and avoid mistakes. The importance of communication mastery, focus mastery, Type a comment section, and a pure heart is emphasized. Work on internal growth and building a strong bond with others is emphasized, along with a competition for youth and families for the upcoming weekend.
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However, Allah misguides, none can guide them.

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And I bear witness with full conviction that

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there is no one worthy of worship except

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Allah

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He is 1 and he has no partner.

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And I also bear witness with full conviction

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that the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam is

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his Messenger and the last and final Messenger

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as well.

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Oh you who believe, have the taqwa of

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Allah

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that fear that mindfulness of Allah, the way

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that he is meant to be feared. And

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do not die except

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in the state of submission as Muslims.

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O people,

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have the taqwa of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,

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the one who has created you from a

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single soul, and from Him He created His

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spouse, and from them both he created many

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men and women.

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And have the taqwa of Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala, the one from whom you demand your

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mutual rights and those of kin because Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala indeed is watching over everything

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that we do.

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Oh you who believe, O person of faith,

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of people of iman, have the taqwa of

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Allah

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and say that which is just and true.

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For Allah

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will rectify your affairs and forgive your sins,

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and whomsoever

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obeys Allah and His messenger, then those are

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the individuals that have achieved the true victory.

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The best of speech is the speech of

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, and the best guidance

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is the guidance of the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam. And the worst of matters within

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the religion

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are those newly invented matters that has no

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basis, for every innovation leads to misguidance and

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every misguidance eventually leads to the * fire.

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My dear brothers and sisters,

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as we work towards our future,

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as we prepare for our future, it doesn't

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matter what stage of life we're in,

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everyone is hoping for a bright future for

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themselves,

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for their career, for their families,

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for their children, so on and so forth.

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But there is also another future

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that is absolutely guaranteed,

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and there is no running away from it,

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which is the fact that we have to

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go and stand in front of Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala one day,

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and our accounts are going to be weighed,

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and then a result is going to be

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there.

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And as we prepare for our future in

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this life, and if we look at the

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way we operate,

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we don't just go about life haphazardly,

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and if somebody is just living randomly,

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then they need to course correct and check

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themselves, but usually, when people are planning for

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their future, they're planning. They're looking, okay, what

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is the best way? What is the market

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looking for? How can I improve?

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How can I go and make sure that

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my future is secured? What investments do I

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need to think about? So we're looking for

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the best strategy to make sure that I'm

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living a comfortable life. And this doesn't mean

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that a person is planning to be a

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super millionaire or anything like that, but they

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want to live the American dream. They wanna

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be successful. They wanna be content. They want

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to have good relationships.

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So

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intelligence

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dictates

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that a person looks for the ways how

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that is going to become easy for them

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instead of just living life

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on a random basis.

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Similarly,

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there is

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a strategy to get to Jannah.

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There's a way that the Prophet

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that Allah

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has told us repeatedly throughout the Quran, repeatedly

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throughout the sunnah of the Prophet

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that what's the path to Jannah? What's the

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easiest path to Jannah? Now, just because something

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is easy, doesn't mean it's I mean, just

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because something is easy, or it brings you

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a quicker result,

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doesn't mean that it's easy to actually implement.

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And the prophet

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he was asked,

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What is the thing that is going to

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enter most people into jannah? And his response

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was,

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The of Allah

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that mindfulness of Allah that awareness that leads

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to a person doing that which is right,

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and avoiding that which is not correct.

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And also

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the good mannerisms that's there. And these 2

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cannot be separated.

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Where it's only about my relationship with Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala. Yes, I pray. Yes, I

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fast. But then when it comes to my

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dealings with other individuals,

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it's

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not correct.

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Rudeness,

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cheating, deceiving, yelling, shouting, belittling.

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There's something missing here.

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If I have

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my relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is

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going strong, but then on this end,

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my relationships are terrible with people. There's something

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missing here. On the flip side as well,

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that if my relationships are good, I'm able

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to deal with people nicely, but then I'm

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neglectful towards Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, then there's

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something wrong there as well.

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Because these things have to go hand in

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hand. As Allah

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tells us in the Quran,

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That this book is a guidance for people.

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There's no doubt in it, and it's guidance

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for the Who are those individuals?

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Pay attention to these three things. Number 1,

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they believe in the unseen. So they have

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that faith, and whatever comes with that, that

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Allah

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has told them, the Prophet

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has informed them with, they believe in that.

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Even though they don't see it.

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They establish that connection with Allah

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that taqwa is there. The relationship between me

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and my Creator, through my salah, and through

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everything else that's there as well.

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And from what we have given them, what

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Allah has given them, they spend from it.

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Now, who is the one that benefits from

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this spending?

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Number 1, Allah does not need us. He

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doesn't even need us to pray to him,

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but it is us that benefits, but that

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spending is benefiting what? The relationships that we

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have.

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So, Sheikh Asadi, he mentioned that this is

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the pillars of the deen, that belief in

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Allah

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Then comes the relationship with Allah, and then

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on the other side, that relationship with people.

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And Hassan has 2 parts, that relationship with

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Allah,

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and then on the flip side, that relationship

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that we have with one another, with our

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friends, with our families, with our children, with

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our spouses, with our parents, all of that

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comes

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hand in hand.

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And the prophet

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was described by Allah

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saying,

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That indeed you are upon the best of

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mannerisms.

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And bringing that aspect,

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the prophet

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he said, he was asked,

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Who is the most beloved of Allah's servants

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to Allah?

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Now, isn't this a question? This isn't this

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a goal that we should all have? To

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become from the most beloved slaves of Allah

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to him. Forget about who loves me, I

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don't care if this person loves me, if

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they think about me, but

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the one who is most beloved to Allah.

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How can I get to that level? And

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the answer, the Prophet

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said was,

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The best of those individuals when it comes

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to their mannerisms.

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Those are the most beloved people to Allah

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because the thing that is driving them to

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do that in the first place is that

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love of Allah,

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that awareness of Allah

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Then on the flip side, he also said,

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that, That from the most beloved of you

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to me,

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the prophet

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is saying, And the closest of you to

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me,

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when it comes to gathering,

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is,

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The best of those who have that mannerisms.

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So just look at this.

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On one side, that good mannerisms, what does

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it give us? It makes us from the

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beloved servants of Allah

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And who does not want to be from

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amongst the most beloved servants to Allah

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Then on the other side, it makes us

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from the closest companions to

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the

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prophet

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None of us has seen the prophet

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None of us had the pleasure to sit

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with the prophet

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to hear him, to listen to him, to

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be in his companionship.

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But through bringing that trait

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of good mannerisms,

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we get to be from the closest people

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to the prophet

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Now, when we look at our tradition,

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you see there's so much a hadith,

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so much encouragement

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when it comes to good mannerisms.

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More than you and I could even think

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of.

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Abu Muhammad, Ibnu Abizaid

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Al Malik,

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one of the greatest scholars, he was known

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as Malik As Sareer.

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He mentioned that,

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he looked at all the hadith,

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and he said that the good mannerisms,

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they stem from

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4

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4 main

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that I want us to pay attention to.

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And as we look at these I want

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you to reflect and imagine as well, that

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what impact would it have

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if I brought these

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in my life?

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How would it impact me as an individual?

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How would it impact my relationships?

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And how would it impact us as a

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community if we were able to live these

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hadith?

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Now just because

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it brings us closer to Allah, and brings

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us closer to the prophet

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doesn't mean it's easy to implement, because if

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it was, everyone would be doing it.

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If it was easy, then everyone would be

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doing it. But because of the high status

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of it,

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it requires effort, it requires a little bit

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of learning, it requires checking myself, so that

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I can bring these into my life. The

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first hadith, the prophet

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said,

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That whoever believes in Allah in his Mas

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and his

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So whoever believes in Allah,

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which means everybody here. All the Muslims believe

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in Allah and the last day, then

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then let them speak good

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or remain silent.

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The encouragement is where?

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Not to stay silent. The encouragement is to

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speak good first.

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In any situation,

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try to speak good. If you are unable

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to do so, then remain silent.

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Good communication has proven over and over through

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studies how it impacts relationships,

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how it impacts children

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cognitively,

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behaviorally, emotionally, when they hear words of affirmation,

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encouragement,

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it impacts them. They model the behavior that

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they hear, and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells

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us in the Quran,

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that tell my believing servants to say that

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which is

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which means choose your words carefully, the way

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you say it.

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Your body language when you're communicating.

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Somebody can be, like,

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I'm so happy.

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Just because of their body language, you can

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tell that they're not happy.

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What they're saying is not really the truth

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because their body is conveying something else,

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And then also the timing as well.

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Sometimes it's not the right time to have

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a specific conversation.

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There's mental factors there that can derail that

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conversation.

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Why is this important?

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Why is it important for us to say

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that which is

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ahsar? To make sure we communicate clearly, effectively,

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because of what's coming next. As Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala says,

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Because shaitaan is going to come, and he's

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gonna take that, and he's going to put

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words in our

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minds, in our hearts.

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Oh, what did he mean by that?

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How could she say something like that?

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Oh, they hate you. That's why they said

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it to you.

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So he's gonna come and do his best

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to create misunderstandings

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within us, and most problems that happens within

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relationship, within between husband and wife is because

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of misunderstandings.

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Something that was said but was taken a

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different way.

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Something was said, it was interpreted in a

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different way, the moment is interpreted in that

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way, then it creates a feeling, that feeling

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creates a reaction, and that ultimately brings a

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result.

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So we have to make sure that we

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do not let shaytan do his dirty work

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because at the end of the day, he

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is an enemy to us, and he wants

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to destroy relationships.

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And for each of these hadith,

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we can learn how to do it.

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We can learn how to communicate effectively.

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We can learn how to choose our words.

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The next hadith, and this is related to

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this, is a man came to the Prophet

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and he said, give me advice. And the

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Prophet

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said,

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Don't get angry.

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He's not happy with it. He's like, okay,

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give me more. He says,

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don't get angry.

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He repeated his request, and the prophet

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for a third time he said,

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don't get angry.

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Because anger destroys relationships.

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That moment of anger, a person lashes out,

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they say whatever comes to their mind, they

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put their children down, they put their wife

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down, they put their husband down, they put

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their friend down,

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now you have to go and do a

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whole repair process.

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It destroyed that safe space within the homes

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that a person can come and share with

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whatever's on their mind.

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They share something with their father, their mother,

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the parent reacts.

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What?

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Haram? How could you say something like this?

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Don't you know any better? What's wrong with

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you?

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What's the association that's now getting created within

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the child's mind

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that it's not safe for me to say

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what's on my mind?

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And this happens enough, and they just bottle

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everything up, and rather they will go and

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share with the other people outside who are

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going to give them terrible advice because their

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parent did not give them that safe space

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and they reacted at that time.

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Now, there's one thing where this is a

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natural emotion that happens, things happens, there's a

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sequence of things that happen, we feel the

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anger,

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and maybe we cannot control that feeling that

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comes there. But what is within our control

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is the reaction.

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And the prophet

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is here saying that don't act on that

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anger,

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let it calm down, process it, then discuss

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it.

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Because we wanna create that safe space within

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our home, for our spouses,

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for our wives, for our husbands, for our

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children, for everyone. That if somebody is going

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through something, they might feel that I cannot

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talk about it, and the moment and they

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believe that, and Shaytan convinces them that it's

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true, and then they're like, You know what?

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Let me go and try it out, let

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me go and speak to this person. And

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when they go and they speak to them,

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and the moment they start talking, and their

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reaction happens from the other end, especially one

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of anger, like, How can you even think

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like that? What's wrong with you?

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Associations are created now, that it's not okay

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for me to share what's on my mind.

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But we want to change that, we want

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to make it open for people to be

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able to communicate, and then we talk in

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a good way to resolve things. The 3rd

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hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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who said, that

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that from the goodness of a person's Islam

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is to leave off that which does not

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concern them. This shows focus mastery.

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That from the good How do you know

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somebody's progressing within Islam? They're improving? Is they're

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not concerned about things that don't has nothing

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to do with them.

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What's important to me? What's going to improve

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my relationships? How am I going to grow

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in my career? How am I going to

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become closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala? Those

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are the things, and other than that, that

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which is going to move the needle forward

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in their lives, those are the things that

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they focus on. But the things that have

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nothing to do with them, what this person

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said on TikTok, and what comments these person

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are saying, and what the biggest drama is

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going on between so and so person and

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this other person,

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that doesn't benefit me. Why do I need

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to get involved in that? Why do I

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need to open my tongue? And then, why

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do I need to type something on the

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comment section? Sometimes when we look at the

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comment section of some of these videos, we're

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shocked that this is coming from Muslims.

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That where's the implementation

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of the hadith? Say good or remain silent.

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If you don't have anything good to say,

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don't say it. If you're going to advise

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somebody, do it with wisdom. Do it in

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the way that the Prophet

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had shown us. And the final hadith is,

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That none of you truly believe. They don't

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get to the pinnacle of iman until they

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love for themselves what they until they love

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for their brother what they love for themselves.

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This shows

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purity of heart,

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pure heart, a heart that is beloved to

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, that anything that they

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love for themselves, they love for others as

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well. And we've got to look at this

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from a practical standpoint as well, that you

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When you were a child,

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how did you want your parents to deal

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with you? How would you have love for

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you to be addressed when you made a

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mistake? Do the same towards your kids.

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When you make a mistake,

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and you how would you like to be

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addressed?

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Do the same towards others as well. Just

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like you want to succeed, wish good for

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other people as well.

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So my dear brothers and sisters, just to

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recap,

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these 4 ahadith

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and four principles that we derive from them.

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Number 1 is communication mastery, and we wanna

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think that, okay, where do I stand when

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it comes to these ahadith,

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and what is one thing that I can

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do that will improve it?

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We don't need to jump all the way

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to the end, but

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one step

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better than where I am currently

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when it comes to, number 1, my communication.

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Especially within our homes

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because it's easy to communicate nicely when we're

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outside,

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when we communicate with our colleagues. When we

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come to the masjid and we meet the

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brothers and sisters, it's easy. But it's difficult

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when you're tired, and you go home, and

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you're frustrated,

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and then you have to deal with family.

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That's when it becomes easy for us to

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just say whatever is there. So what is

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one thing that I can do when it

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comes to communicating better?

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Number 2, what is one thing that I

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can do when it comes to better emotional

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control?

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It can be as simple as let me

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recognize at what times am I easily frustrated,

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and let me turn an unconscious behavior into

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a more conscious reaction.

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Number 3, what is one thing that I

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can focus on that is going to move

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the needle forward in my life, in my

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relationships,

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in my connection with Allah

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in my career, so on and so forth?

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And then finally,

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what is one thing that I can work

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on internally

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that is going to make me have a

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pure heart, more welcoming towards my brothers and

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sisters?

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Because it stems from here. If this is

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rectified, then it becomes easier to actually implement

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and do the things with our limbs.

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May Allah

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bless us with good mannerisms,

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may he make us amongst the most beloved

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servants to him, may he make us be

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in the companionship of the Prophet

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May

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he make our scale of deeds heavy with

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Taqwa and Husnu Khuduk. May he give us

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goodness in this world and the next. May

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he be there for our brothers and sisters

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all across the world, Gaza, in Sudan, everywhere

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The Muslims and people are oppressed. May Allah

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help them. May He rectify the affairs. May

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He open the hearts of people to understand

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and recognize the truth.

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Please train the lines, close any gaps.

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Please make sure you fill up the rows

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in front before

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starting 1 in the end.

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