Saif Morad – Divine Principles For Better Living #02

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			ونفعنا بما علمتنا وزدنا علما ينفعنا We always
		
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			begin by mentioning the name of Allah عز
		
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			و جل, thanking Him, praising Him, seeking His
		
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			forgiveness and putting our trust and reliance upon
		
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			Him and only Him.
		
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			الحمد لله ثم الحمد لله الله سبحانه و
		
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			تعالى has blessed us.
		
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			Is the voice clear?
		
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			Is it coming?
		
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			You guys can hear me, right?
		
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			Alright, perfect.
		
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			We thank Allah عز و جل that He
		
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			blessed us to be able to come to
		
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			His house on a Friday night to sit
		
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			here and to learn about His religion and
		
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			especially the two sources of revelation, the Qur
		
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			'an and the Sunnah.
		
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			We're continuing our series of divine principles for
		
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			better living and these principles, once again, are
		
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			derived from the Qur'an and the Sunnah
		
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			itself and at the end of the day,
		
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			Allah سبحانه و تعالى sent the Qur'an
		
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			and the Sunnah to us for us to
		
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			implement it within our lives.
		
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			The more we implement these principles, the more
		
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			we see the results of that in our
		
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			lives, in our families, in our communities and
		
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			everywhere that we are engaging with.
		
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			So today we're going to start with the
		
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			principle in which Musa عليه السلام and Fir
		
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			'aun are setting the appointment for when they're
		
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			going to meet and it's going to be
		
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			a showdown between the magicians and Musa عليه
		
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			السلام.
		
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			So when they come and Fir'aun, he
		
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			gathers them and they plot and they plan
		
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			their strategy.
		
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			So Musa عليه السلام, he turns to them
		
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			and he tells them that وَيِّ لَكُمْ لَا
		
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			تَفْتَرُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ that woe be to you,
		
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			do not invent a lie against Allah عز
		
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			و جل because the result will be فَيُسْحِتَكُمْ
		
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			بِعَذَابٍ then Allah سبحانه و تعالى will send
		
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			down his punishment that will completely eradicate and
		
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			uproot you from where you are.
		
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			Then he says وَقَدْ خَابَ مَنِ افْتَرَى that
		
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			the one who invents the lie is the
		
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			one who's going to become the loser.
		
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			And that's our principle over here that وَقَدْ
		
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			خَابَ مَنِ افْتَرَى that the one who invents
		
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			a lie is going to ultimately be the
		
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			loser.
		
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			And the word افترى comes in the Qur
		
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			'an in three different meanings.
		
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			Number one is a lie.
		
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			Number two is shirk.
		
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			And number three is ظلم oppression, injustice.
		
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			And this plays out now multiple ways.
		
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			The worst of it, which is what?
		
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			The worst type of lie that can be
		
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			invented is what type of lie?
		
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			Shirk.
		
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			Or in other words we can say a
		
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			lie against Allah عز و جل.
		
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			وَمَنْ أَظْلَمُ مِمَّنِ افْتَرَى عَلَى اللَّهِ كَذِبًا That
		
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			who is more unjust, who is more oppressive
		
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			than the one who invents a lie against
		
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			Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى And on top of that
		
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			they know it's a lie.
		
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			By saying statements that give me an example
		
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			of that.
		
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			What's a lie against Allah عز و جل?
		
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			وَقَالُوا اتَّخَذَ الرَّحْمَنُ وَلَدًا That they say Allah
		
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			has taken a son.
		
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			That's not a light statement.
		
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			It's a very power to claim that Allah
		
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			سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى The divine, the perfect has taken
		
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			a son as if he's needy.
		
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			That is inventing a lie against Allah عز
		
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			و جل.
		
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			Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى He tells us in the
		
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			Qur'an قُلْ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّيُّ الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا
		
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			ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَالإِثْمَ وَالْبَغْيَ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ
		
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			وَأَن تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ وَأَن تَقُولُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ مَا
		
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			لَا تَعْلَمُونَ That tell them إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ What
		
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			did Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى make forbidden?
		
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			حَرَّمَ رَبِّيُّ الْفَوَاحِشَ That he's made the abhorrent
		
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			sins forbidden.
		
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			And Ibn Al-Qayyim رحمة الله عليه mentions
		
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			that Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى is gradually going from
		
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			worse to even worse than that.
		
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			So he starts with فَوَاحِش then comes وَالإِثْمَةُ
		
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			وَالْبَغْيَةُ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ That sins and then on
		
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			top of that transgressing without right.
		
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			So now you're going from yourself you're going
		
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			to other people and wronging them and taking
		
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			their property and harming them as well.
		
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			That's worse than when it's just between you
		
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			and Allah عَزَّ وَجَلَّ Then what comes next?
		
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			وَأَن تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يُنَزِّلْ بِهِ سُلْطَانًا
		
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			And that you associate partners with Allah سُبْحَانَهُ
		
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			وَتَعَالَى when He has not sent down any
		
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			sort of legislation for that.
		
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			That's level 3, there's still something left.
		
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			But we know that إِنَّ الشِّرْكَ لَظُلْمٌ عَظِيمٌ
		
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			That shirk is the greatest sin that's there.
		
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			So what's worse than that?
		
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			وَأَن تَقُولُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَبُونَ That
		
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			you speak about Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى that which
		
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			you don't know.
		
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			And the shirk occur except that somebody invented
		
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			a lie against Allah عَزَّ وَجَلَّ that, oh,
		
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			these are the intermediaries between us and Allah.
		
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			This is the one who can answer your
		
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			du'a, turn to this dead person who
		
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			can't benefit themselves but somehow he's gonna benefit
		
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			you with Allah.
		
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			Do people fall into shirk except through the
		
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			way of lying against Allah عَزَّ وَجَلَّ And
		
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			in line with that also comes to speak
		
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			about Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى without knowledge.
		
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			To say something, oh, this is halal, it's
		
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			okay, you can do this.
		
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			But without evidence, without any sort of legislation
		
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			from Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى but because I think
		
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			so.
		
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			There was a video I saw on TikTok
		
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			couple months ago.
		
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			There is a sister, may Allah guide her.
		
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			She said, you know how you can spot
		
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			the difference between a true hadith and a
		
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			fabricated hadith?
		
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			What's the criteria to differentiate between what is
		
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			coming from the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم
		
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			versus something that is made up?
		
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			There's a whole science of this.
		
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			You look at the matan, then you look
		
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			at the chain of narrations.
		
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			Who are these people?
		
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			Are they trustworthy?
		
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			Were they known for their knowledge?
		
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			Or there's some random people that's there?
		
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			Her criteria was that I asked myself, would
		
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			the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم really say
		
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			that?
		
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			And if I think that he would not
		
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			say that, I don't take it.
		
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			That's the criteria?
		
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			To judge between what's coming from the Prophet
		
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			صلى الله عليه وسلم versus what's not?
		
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			And this becomes very dangerous because if people
		
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			start listening to you and then they start
		
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			following you within that, who's holding the responsibility
		
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			for that?
		
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			Yes, they are liable and responsible for their
		
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			own actions.
		
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			But if somebody becomes a source of that
		
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			misguidance, then they're responsible for that as well.
		
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			Just like if somebody becomes a means of
		
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			guidance for other people, then they also earn
		
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			hasanat as well.
		
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			And there's another type as well.
		
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			And Imam Malik, he said that it was
		
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			not from the affairs of people and from
		
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			the example of our salaf.
		
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			And he's early generation.
		
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			That I met that we would follow their
		
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			example.
		
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			So people we would take as role models
		
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			that would just very loosely just say, oh,
		
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			that's halal, that's haram.
		
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			When they would come to ask him questions,
		
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			give him fatwa.
		
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			And mind you, these are people who are
		
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			considered ulama, ahlul madina.
		
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			The ones who are seeing the grandchildren of
		
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			the sahaba.
		
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			They're with them, they're brought up with these
		
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			individuals.
		
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			And they would not dare to say, this
		
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			is halal, this is haram.
		
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			Rather they would say, because that requires a
		
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			lot of guts that you decide to speak
		
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			about a ruling.
		
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			So you're the ambassador of Allah عز و
		
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			جل.
		
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			When you say something is halal, who made
		
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			it halal?
		
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			Who's it going back to?
		
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			It's not going back to the individual, it's
		
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			going back to Allah عز و جل.
		
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			He's the one who made it halal.
		
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			He's the one who made it haram.
		
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			But rather they would say, أكره ذلك.
		
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			I don't like it, I dislike it.
		
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			Or أحب ذلك.
		
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			I like that, I prefer that.
		
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			Very careful with their words, not to attribute
		
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			something to Allah سبحانه و تعالى and his
		
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			messenger that they never said.
		
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			So that's why you see within their books,
		
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			Imam Ahmad and the likes of them, that
		
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			they would use these terminologies.
		
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			أكره ذلك.
		
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			I don't like it.
		
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			Because not to dare say something that I'm
		
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			attributing this 100% to what the ruling
		
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			is, and then it turns out to be
		
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			that it's not true.
		
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			So they're very careful when it comes to
		
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			that because of the seriousness of that.
		
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			Ibn Masud رضي الله عنه, when he would
		
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			narrate hadith, he would like tremble.
		
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			Because he knew that the Prophet صلى الله
		
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			عليه وسلم, he said that, مَن كَذِبَ عَلَيَّ
		
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			مُتَعَمِّدًا فَلْيَتَبَوَّأُ مَقْعَدَهُ فِي الْنَّارِ That whoever lies
		
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			against me on purpose, then let them take
		
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			their seat in the hellfire.
		
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			So they'd be very careful.
		
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			Ibn Masud is somebody who said, I took
		
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			70 surahs from the mouth of the Prophet
		
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			صلى الله عليه وسلم.
		
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			Which means he's witnessing the revelation there.
		
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			And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم teaching
		
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			them.
		
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			But yet when it comes to narrating hadith
		
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			after the death of the Prophet صلى الله
		
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			عليه وسلم, very careful, would shake to such
		
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			an extent he said, you know, I think
		
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			he said something like that.
		
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			You know, we hear, أَوْ كَمَا قَالَ عَلَيْهِ
		
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			الصَّلَاةُ وَالسَّلَامِ So we're not saying that this
		
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			is what he said 100%, but something like
		
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			that he said.
		
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			To be very careful.
		
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			And then another thing on top of that
		
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			as well is, افتراء, you're inventing a lie
		
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			against other people.
		
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			Now this is very dangerous as well.
		
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			Inventing a lie against Allah عز و جل,
		
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			the highest level.
		
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			But then it comes down to our day
		
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			-to-day lives that inventing a lie against
		
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			somebody else.
		
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			Now how does this look?
		
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			In real life example, how does that look?
		
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			This happens every, well shouldn't say every single
		
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			day, but this happens, very common for it
		
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			to happen.
		
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			In Muslim societies and also non-Muslim societies.
		
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			Who can think of an example?
		
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			That's entertainment in a sense.
		
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			Talking about people, okay that's one thing.
		
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			But let's make it more specific.
		
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			For example, soiling somebody's reputation.
		
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			You know somebody saw somebody and they made
		
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			the worst assumption, or somebody told them something
		
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			and they were just trying to ruin this
		
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			person's reputation so they spread a lie.
		
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			And then somebody believes it and then they
		
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			go and they spread it.
		
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			And now this comes and impacts that individual.
		
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			There's a rumor being spread about them within
		
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			the community that impacts their life.
		
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			Maybe it prevents them from getting certain jobs.
		
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			Maybe it prevents them from getting married.
		
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			Who's the source of all of that?
		
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			Of the spreading of the lies?
		
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			All that is going back to that person.
		
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			And the sheikh who authored this book, he
		
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			mentions an example.
		
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			He says that I personally witnessed or I
		
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			know of a story that there was a
		
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			kid by the name of Hamad.
		
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			And he said that when I was in
		
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			high school I had an issue.
		
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			We got into an argument.
		
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			Me and one of the elite students of
		
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			the school.
		
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			And he said I was so upset that
		
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			I decided I'm going to ruin this person's
		
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			future.
		
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			So he said the next day I come
		
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			and I bring drugs with me, weed.
		
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			I bring weed and I go and I
		
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			secretly put it in his bag.
		
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			And then I tell one of my friends
		
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			to call the cops and say that there's
		
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			a drug dealer in school and this is
		
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			the person.
		
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			So naturally the cops come, they see it,
		
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			they take him.
		
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			And he's kicked out of school.
		
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			His entire reputation is ruined in front of
		
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			his family.
		
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			And he becomes what we would say canceled.
		
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			Somebody who's canceled.
		
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			Nobody wants to talk to him.
		
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			No family members want to engage with him.
		
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			And he said from that day I noticed
		
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			the impact of that in my own life.
		
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			That how I was experiencing the difficulty and
		
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			the punishment of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			in my own life.
		
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			And he said that so much so that
		
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			two years ago before he's narrating this story,
		
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			I got into an accident, I lost my
		
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			right hand.
		
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			And he said I know where this is
		
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			coming from.
		
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			So he said I go to that person,
		
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			I found him and I begged him to
		
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			forgive me.
		
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			And he said I'm not forgiving you.
		
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			He said since that day and I knew
		
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			it was you, he's like every single day
		
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			I made dua against you.
		
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			And the dua of the madroom, the dua
		
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			of the oppressed person is always answered.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will send the
		
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			result whether it's now or later.
		
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			It's going to happen because وَقَدْ خَابَ مَنِ
		
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			اِفْتَرَ That the one who invents those lies,
		
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			who plots against the awliya of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, eventually their result is going
		
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			to lead to destruction.
		
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			And Ibn al-Qayyim rahmatullahi alayhi mentioned that
		
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			لَا بُدْ That it is absolutely necessary upon
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that anyone who
		
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			plots and invents lies and tries to cause
		
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			these types of corruptions, that Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala will not let them get their
		
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			end result.
		
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			And He will not guide them.
		
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			And on top of that, He will completely
		
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			eradicate them from the face of this earth,
		
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			whether it's now or later.
		
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			So those who think that they can harm
		
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			the allies of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			and think they got away with it because
		
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			of their position, their status, their weaponry, and
		
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			whatever they might have, but that's not going
		
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			to happen.
		
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			Because He said, وَقَدْ خَابَ مَنِ اِفْتَرَ That
		
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			eventually their demise is going to happen.
		
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			And this individual he said that he refused
		
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			to forgive me because of what I did.
		
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			And then he said, even after that I
		
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			became wheelchair bound because of another accident that
		
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			happened.
		
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			And he said the only thing I can
		
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			do is make tawbah to Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala and try my best to rectify
		
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			my affair in hopes that He will forgive
		
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			me one day.
		
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			Because of that.
		
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			And it's something that we can take lightly.
		
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			This happens in the moment.
		
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			Let me just say something about somebody.
		
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			It might not be true.
		
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			I didn't really verify the information but then
		
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			I start talking about it.
		
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			And this happens a lot between husband and
		
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			wife.
		
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			One of them decides to talk about something.
		
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			That person listens, spreads it to somebody else.
		
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			Now the masala is being added to it.
		
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			What started out as a normal situation gets
		
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			spiced up, and then it just goes, gets
		
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			bigger and bigger and bigger until the news
		
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			is spread within the community.
		
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			And human beings are human beings at the
		
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			end of the day.
		
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			We're going to listen, it's interesting, and they
		
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			get sucked into it.
		
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			But then what's the harm that comes from
		
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			that?
		
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			How does it ruin societies?
		
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			How does it ruin people?
		
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			And Sheikh Abdul Razzaq Al-Badr, he mentioned
		
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			a story that this person, he went to
		
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			one of the government offices and he had
		
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			some paperwork that he needed to finish.
		
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			So the person was extremely rude with him
		
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			and he took his paper and he was
		
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			like, he ripped it in front of him.
		
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			So imagine that, you've been waiting for so
		
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			long, maybe days, maybe weeks.
		
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			And you know, in other countries, sometimes people
		
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			come from out of town and you have
		
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			to wait for maybe hours at a time
		
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			or days at a time to finally see
		
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			your turn.
		
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			You wait all this time, then you get
		
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			to the counter, and the guy decides, I'm
		
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			just going to rip your paper, sorry, have
		
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			a nice day.
		
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			So he said, this person was so upset,
		
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			he raised his hand and said, may the
		
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			dua'u Allah rip this person apart just
		
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			like he ripped my papers apart.
		
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			The dua' of the oppressed.
		
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			Now there's a problem here as well, because
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said, فَإِنْ عَاقَبَتُمْ
		
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			فَعَاقِبُوا بِمِثْلِ مَا عُوقِبُتُمْ بِهِ That if you
		
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			were to extract revenge, then do it to
		
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			the same degree.
		
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			The same way you were wrong, keep it
		
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			to that level.
		
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			Somebody rips your paper, okay, you make dua'
		
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			that may Allah not let something happen for
		
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			them.
		
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			Okay, it's within balance.
		
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			It's better that you forgive and just be
		
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			patient with that.
		
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			But here he's going way overboard.
		
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			For ripping the paper, may Allah rip you
		
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			into pieces.
		
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			And he said that, later on I found
		
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			out that that person had got into such
		
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			a serious accident that his entire, like his
		
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			body was completely broken apart because of the
		
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			dua' that he made.
		
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			Now people should have some sort of control
		
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			where the dua' they make is reasonable.
		
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			What's even better is that they have a
		
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			level of emotional control and emotional intelligence where
		
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			they're able to overlook.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ seldom you would find that
		
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			he would make dua' against people.
		
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			But when it comes to that, no, it's
		
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			something that's there, you have dua' but if
		
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			a person can develop that level of emotional
		
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			control, emotional intelligence, and also be able to
		
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			stand up for themselves in the right way,
		
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			in the way that is pleasing to Allah
		
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			ﷻ, then that's always better.
		
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			So the principle is وَقَدْ خَابَ مَنِفْتَرَ that
		
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			we have to understand that those individuals who
		
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			transgress, who invent lies against Allah ﷻ, invent
		
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			lies against Allah's allies, invent lies against his
		
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			religion, then eventually their result is going to
		
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			be تخريب.
		
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			That Allah ﷻ is going to remove their
		
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			plan.
		
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			They will not be able to achieve that
		
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			which they set out to achieve.
		
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			And at times, it will happen here.
		
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			But we know for sure that it's going
		
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			to happen on يوم القيامة.
		
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			That that's when the reality is going to
		
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			come through.
		
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			And that's when Allah ﷻ is going to
		
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			reward those who are patient and those who
		
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			did good.
		
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			And He is going to punish those who
		
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			did wrong.
		
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			The next principle comes.
		
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			So the previous principle we looked at that
		
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			this shows how a person should be there.
		
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			That I speak based on knowledge.
		
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			If I see gossip going on, people are
		
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			talking, backbiting, so on and so forth, I
		
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			remove myself from that equation.
		
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			If I hear information, I don't form a
		
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			judgment.
		
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			I go and verify the information first before
		
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			I start talking about it.
		
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			When it comes, especially when it comes to
		
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			matter of the deen, I make sure that
		
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			where I'm getting my knowledge from is from
		
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			a trusted source.
		
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			I can trust this individual.
		
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			I know what they're talking about.
		
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			I've studied.
		
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			I've verified.
		
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			And then I go and act upon it.
		
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			And if I go and spread knowledge, you
		
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			know, in today's day and age, we have
		
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			all these forwards that comes through WhatsApp.
		
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			And all you have to do is click
		
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			forward to everyone on your list and everything
		
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			has been sent.
		
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			But many times these messages that come, there's
		
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			no basis to it.
		
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			If you research, and alhamdulillah, because of technology,
		
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			you can just take the first statement of
		
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			the hadith and put it on Google and
		
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			know exactly where it's coming from, where the
		
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			source is.
		
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			So to verify information is very easy in
		
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			today's day and age.
		
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			But at the same time, to spread falsehood
		
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			is just as easy as well.
		
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			All it needs is a click of a
		
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			button.
		
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			It sounds good.
		
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			You know, your sins will be forgiven if
		
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			you do this.
		
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			You get into Jannah, so on and so
		
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			forth.
		
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			No verification, no sources are stated.
		
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			It becomes very easy to send that.
		
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			But we want to be careful that as
		
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			I'm spreading goodness, that I make sure that
		
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			what I'm spreading is coming from the right
		
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			source and has been verified.
		
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			And the same thing when I deal with
		
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			other people as well.
		
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			Somebody tells me something about someone, I don't
		
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			believe it.
		
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			I verify.
		
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			If I know that there's goodness in this
		
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			person, then I don't take that at face
		
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			value.
		
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			I make an excuse for that.
		
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			But if there is, you know, there's an
		
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			outcome that is needed, there's some sort of
		
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			rectification, some action that needs to be taken,
		
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			before I act on that, I need to
		
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			make sure that I have the entire picture.
		
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			And then I go and I act on
		
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			that.
		
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			The next principle that we come to is
		
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			in Surah An-Nisa, in which Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, He said, وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ That
		
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			reconciliation is better.
		
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			Now, the principle is general, but let's look
		
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			at the context first.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, He said, وَإِن
		
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			إِمْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِن بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا
		
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			جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يُصْلِحَ بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ
		
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			وَحُضِرَتِ الْأَنفُسُ الشُّحْ وَإِن تُحْسِنُوا وَتَتَّقُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ
		
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			كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا Now the general meaning
		
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			of this verse is that if a woman
		
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			she fears some like her husband is, you
		
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			know, turning away from her he's not behaving
		
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			in the best way and this, you know,
		
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			maybe they get older in their age and
		
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			differences are coming and then Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala says that there's no sin upon
		
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			them if they come together and they try
		
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			to rectify the matter which means, okay, let's
		
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			discuss what's happening and see what it is
		
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			and then وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ so in order for
		
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			that reconciliation to happen you know, they step
		
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			back a little bit like, you know what
		
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			this is 100% my haq I withdraw
		
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			a little bit I'll take 80% of
		
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			it or I'll make things more flexible here
		
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			in order to preserve the relationship and Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala He says وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ
		
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			the sulh is better وَأُحْضِرَتِ الْأَنفُسُ الشُّحْ but
		
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			the problem is that the nafs the ego
		
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			of the human being does not want to
		
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			let go it wants its complete right but
		
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			does not want to give the other person
		
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			their right that stinginess is part of the
		
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			human nature of a person but then Allah
		
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			says وَإِن تُحْسِنُوا وَتَتَّقُوا that if you were
		
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			to play at ihsan which means you show
		
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			up at the highest level you do what's
		
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			best trying to seek the pleasure of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala وَتَتَّقُوا at the same
		
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			time you make sure you do not transgress
		
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			any of the limits that Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala has set because Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala is خَبِير he knows everything he's
		
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			completely aware of that which you do now
		
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			let's take the principle وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ it's not
		
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			just in this situation but this is across
		
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			the board how many problems are there between
		
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			family members between husband and wife, between siblings
		
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			between community members, between business partners, between countries
		
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			that needs people to come together now if
		
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			you look at this I want you to
		
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			think of a problem between two or more
		
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			parties I'll give you a minute or like
		
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			30 seconds just think of any problem whether
		
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			it's a political problem it's a financial problem
		
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			it's a sibling issue it's parents and their
		
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			children spouses between one another just think of
		
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			the problem Sheikh Abdullah Amin al-Shanqiti he
		
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			said that every conflict goes back to either
		
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			one of two reasons either it's a financial
		
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			thing it's because of money or it's because
		
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			of الجاء which is it has something to
		
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			do with respect honor, respect, ego so on
		
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			and so forth would you guys say that
		
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			that statement is relatively accurate it's either financial
		
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			or it's some sort of respect thing status
		
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			or ego or something like that could we
		
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			say that most not all, most issues between
		
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			people will fall into one of these two
		
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			so now how do you fix this in
		
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			order for the principle to be actually executed
		
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			he's saying that is better now once again
		
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			to premise this we're not talking about situation
		
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			where there's like abuse and somebody has like
		
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			completely wronged and violated somebody then to be
		
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			like okay come and let's fix this we're
		
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			not talking about that those are excluded from
		
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			that in situations where it's not possible then
		
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			separation is best we're talking about those you
		
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			know day to day things things happen somebody
		
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			said this business deal went wrong and then
		
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			people become enemies to one another those daily
		
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			rifts between husband and wife the issues that
		
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			siblings go through so on and so forth
		
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			we're talking about these kind of things that
		
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			how do you not reconcile between them the
		
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			first step is I have to be willing
		
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			to listen to what the other person is
		
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			trying to say because I need to get
		
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			rid of that ego aspect stinginess to the
		
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			highest degree you could say they're so keen
		
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			that I want to make sure that I
		
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			get mine which means I don't really care
		
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			what you have to say if a person
		
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			comes to a problem with that type of
		
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			mindset they're not getting anywhere because they've already
		
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			closed the door for any sort of reconciliation
		
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			but the mindset has to be that I
		
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			need to put my ego aside I need
		
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			to see that there's another perspective because at
		
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			the end of the day when it comes
		
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			to issues between people there's subjective reality in
		
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			play subjective reality what does that mean it
		
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			means I see things a certain way the
		
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			other person sees things a different way if
		
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			there's an incident that happened in this masjid
		
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			tonight, may Allah protect us and we have
		
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			how many people here and they leave everyone
		
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			is going to mention what they recall right
		
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			or wrong you're going to leave this building
		
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			and you're going to narrate the story based
		
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			on your perspective which is your subjective reality
		
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			but does it encompass everything that happened or
		
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			only what you remember it's going to be
		
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			what you remember so when people, when husband
		
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			and wife come together and there's an issue
		
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			between them the conversation becomes that this is
		
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			what happened I am right it is factual,
		
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			your opinion doesn't really count or if you
		
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			say something that goes against what I remember
		
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			you're lying that's not what happened that's not
		
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			how you reconcile in order to have that
		
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			reconciliation I have to be willing to give
		
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			the person the benefit of the doubt that
		
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			they have a reality they are also experiencing
		
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			and I'm also experiencing something as well let's
		
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			come together and let's have a discussion and
		
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			let's use active listening which means let me
		
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			listen to what you're trying to say and
		
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			not listen to respond to what you have
		
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			to say because many times we listen in
		
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			order to respond so as the person is
		
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			telling us oh I'm going through this and
		
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			this happened and you did this we're following,
		
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			we're formulating a rebuttal in our minds, no
		
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			that's not what happened this is what happened,
		
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			no you're lying so we're cutting them off,
		
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			we're not really letting them express what they
		
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			have to say and there's a way to
		
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			express that as well that don't go into
		
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			attack mode but say that I saw this,
		
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			I heard this when I saw this I
		
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			started thinking like this, I'm worried because of
		
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			this and then when they are done explaining
		
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			both sides one side gets to speak, the
		
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			other side gets to speak after that, is
		
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			this what you're trying to say, yes is
		
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			this what you're trying to say, yes, ok
		
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			now you move to step number two which
		
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			is how do you compromise now you cannot
		
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			compromise when you don't understand where the person
		
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			is coming from if they don't feel understood
		
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			they're not going to be willing to give
		
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			up their position but when people feel understood
		
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			and this is not just between husband and
		
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			wife this is between everyone that let me
		
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			listen to what you have to say don't
		
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			attack me don't criticize me, just tell me
		
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			your perspective ok this is what you have
		
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			to say this is what's going on, yes,
		
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			ok now you speak let me summarize what
		
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			you have to say is that what you're
		
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			trying to say, yes is this what you
		
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			feel, yes, ok now we've created understanding now
		
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			you can move to where reconciliation can happen
		
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			which is step number two, the art of
		
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			compromise so how do you compromise behind every
		
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			position there are core things that the person
		
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			is not willing to let go of and
		
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			other things they can be flexible on so
		
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			what are those core things and what are
		
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			those things that you don't care about ok
		
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			can we do it like this no I'm
		
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			not really willing to let go of that
		
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			can we do it like this yeah I
		
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			know that could work, ok who gets to
		
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			go first I'll give you a real life
		
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			example right husband and wife, they have financial
		
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			issues the wife thinks the husband is stingy
		
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			the husband thinks his wife is careless with
		
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			money she doesn't care, she just spends on
		
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			anything you guys are laughing ok so you
		
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			have this scenario play out and what happens
		
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			they're going back and forth, my husband is
		
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			so cheap and he's a lawyer and he's
		
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			earning so well but he's so cheap my
		
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			wife doesn't care about money money came easy
		
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			to her so she just spends and she
		
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			doesn't value the worth of a dollar how
		
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			is this going to play out plays out
		
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			negative memories are dominating their thought process it
		
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			just leads to issues ok let's sit down
		
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			let's try to understand you husband where's your
		
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			stance coming from you know what when I
		
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			grew up money was tight my dad worked
		
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			a lot, worked really hard for us to
		
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			be able to get these kind of things
		
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			so to preserve and to live on according
		
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			to a budget is a way to preserve
		
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			our wealth and a way to show gratefulness
		
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			to Allah so it's not so now you're
		
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			getting to the core of it, where is
		
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			the position coming from it's coming from the
		
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			fact that he does not want to be
		
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			wasteful because this goes against showing or being
		
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			thankful to Allah can you respect that can
		
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			we respect that opinion, you don't have to
		
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			agree with it can you respect it, it's
		
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			coming from a good place right ok you
		
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			wife what do you have to say you
		
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			know Alhamdulillah money came easy for us it
		
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			was a way to help people who are
		
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			needy to show the blessings to do good
		
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			for other people oh so what do you
		
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			say so money is a way to be
		
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			grateful to Allah وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَحَدِّثُ that
		
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			when Allah has given you ni'ma then spread
		
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			that or talk about it so what are
		
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			you trying to say I'm trying to say
		
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			that money is a way that we help
		
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			those who are less fortunate we have good
		
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			careers, we're earning well this is a means
		
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			to give back to show those people who
		
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			are less fortunate to bring happiness and joy
		
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			in their lives ok so money is a
		
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			way to express that shukr right, right can
		
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			we respect that opinion we don't have to
		
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			agree with it but can you respect it
		
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			you can expect it's coming from a good
		
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			place now you're soft in the sand because
		
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			both people are coming from a good place
		
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			the way they're going about it is not
		
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			the right but the intentions are good so
		
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			understanding has been created now you can go
		
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			to the art of compromise so what is
		
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			it that you want to do I want
		
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			to make sure that we are mindful of
		
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			our spending we operate within a budget I
		
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			want to make sure that we're able to
		
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			help other people out it's not about spending
		
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			the money it's about being able to show
		
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			the ni'ma if we have goodness let's show
		
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			that within our lives if we have it
		
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			let's be able to give for others as
		
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			well now how do you put this together
		
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			because the theory has to go into practical
		
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			it has to become practical the theory has
		
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			to go on paper has to be actionable
		
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			otherwise nothing changes so how does this become
		
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			practical also the best way is the middle
		
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			path ok so that's good that's a good
		
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			way let's make that more practical ok so
		
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			the husband allocates a certain amount to be
		
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			able to kind of spend on those kind
		
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			of things ok so that's a good way
		
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			that husband says ok you know what this
		
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			is what our budget is this is my
		
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			responsibilities this is what I'm comfortable with going
		
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			wife says you know yeah that's good but
		
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			let's increase a little bit more and he's
		
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			like ok you know since you have good
		
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			intentions and you're the mother of my children
		
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			ok let's get a little bit more and
		
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			they say you guys agree yeah we agree
		
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			so you're budging taking a little bit because
		
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			the main position is what to be able
		
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			to express that gratitude to help those who
		
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			are less less fortunate and on the other
		
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			side is still to be mindful that ok
		
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			we have the budget can we allocate a
		
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			certain amount yes can we go back and
		
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			forth 10% 8% 5% ok
		
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			7% is good so they're coming to
		
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			an agreement and then now it can go
		
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			into practice where the husband doesn't feel like
		
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			the money is just fine and the wife
		
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			doesn't feel as if the husband is just
		
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			a stingy guy who doesn't want to share
		
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			his wealth so this is the process of
		
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			it that the first step that our ego
		
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			is there and if somebody says no I
		
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			don't have an ego then we're lying to
		
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			ourselves because we're human beings we all have
		
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			you get upset you don't want to budge
		
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			how many people when you're upset at your
		
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			spouse feel like oh I can't wait to
		
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			do this wonderful thing for this person anyone
		
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			anybody nobody what's going on right there's
		
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			some back and forth we go we pray
		
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			a little bit you read some Quran you
		
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			calm down so ok now let's go into
		
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			the conversation so the ego is going down
		
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			a little bit which means the room for
		
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			discussion has opened up but we have to
		
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			be willing to listen ok where is the
		
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			position coming from once again this has to
		
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			go into practice we can talk about theory
		
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			all day but when you're in that state
		
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			and you're you know you're a little bit
		
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			upset all the theory goes out the window
		
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			but practical which means we set up a
		
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			way for that to happen if things happen
		
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			like this let's just calm down certain times
		
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			when you get so heated and this is
		
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			scientifically proven that when your heart rate goes
		
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			over a certain limit you cannot have the
		
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			conversation anymore because you're emotionally flooded that conversation
		
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			will not happen so both have to take
		
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			a time out and calm down do some
		
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			dhikr read some Quran literally calm down then
		
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			you can come back into the equation and
		
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			then have the conversation these things alhamdulillah in
		
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			today's day and age you have so much
		
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			research that backs it up that this principle
		
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			was sulh khair we have practical steps of
		
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			how to actually accomplish that and Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala nonetheless he calls us that
		
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			if you show up at the higher level
		
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			that you both men or women be willing
		
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			to show up at the higher level because
		
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			you know people you're naturally gravitate towards ihsan
		
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			can you be mad at somebody that's just
		
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			always happy and joyful and they fulfill all
		
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			the things that they're supposed to be it's
		
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			difficult to be upset at somebody like that
		
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			because the hearts are naturally gravitate towards those
		
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			types of people and there's another theory right
		
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			there's a book written by a Christian author
		
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			it's called love and respect the concept of
		
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			that is that men want respect and women
		
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			want love sisters would you agree brothers you
		
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			agree right 100% you guys agree but
		
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			the sister I would argue with that and
		
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			say they want certainty more they want to
		
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			feel that safety which leads to that love
		
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			that's there now here's how the cycle works
		
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			out he is giving whatever her needs are
		
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			whether it's love or certainty she is usually
		
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			giving him the respect that he wants so
		
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			that's the normal cycle let's say when he
		
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			doesn't feel respected he's usually not giving her
		
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			what she needs and when she's not getting
		
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			that certainty or love she might not be
		
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			respectful so now you go into this crazy
		
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			cycle how do you break that that despite
		
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			the fact that you might not be getting
		
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			that you still give to her what she
		
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			needs and despite the fact that she might
		
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			not be getting what she needs she still
		
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			gives him what he needs this way the
		
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			pattern gets broken and they move towards reconciliation
		
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			once again this is you know for general
		
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			good marriages those that are abusive and you
		
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			know there's way off the boat then these
		
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			principles are not technically going to work for
		
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			that but Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you
		
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			know he says وَالصُّلْحُ خَيِّرٌ and in every
		
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			matter even when it comes to two groups
		
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			of Muslims who have issues with them what
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala say فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا
		
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			وَأَقْسِتُوا that reconcile between them and be just
		
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			let's sit down what do you have to
		
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			say what do you have to say what
		
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			are you willing to back off what are
		
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			you willing to back off now if there's
		
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			somebody has the truth with them then the
		
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			person takes puts their position back and sheikh
		
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			Abdullah used to mention that you know when
		
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			it comes to like issues that people are
		
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			debating about when it comes to fiqh issues
		
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			so on and so forth you have it's
		
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			simple it shouldn't be such a big deal
		
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			you have evidence I have evidence no big
		
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			deal you don't have evidence I have evidence
		
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			for what I'm saying come with me I
		
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			don't have evidence you have evidence I should
		
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			go with you we both don't have evidence
		
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			there's no issue there but if the problem
		
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			becomes that I want to maintain my position
		
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			at all costs that's a problem the ego
		
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			has to go down a little bit is
		
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			the quest so that I be right or
		
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			is the quest so I find out what
		
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			the truth is so I find out what's
		
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			closest to what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			and his messenger have legislated so the second
		
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			principle is that reconciliation in matters is always
		
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			better it preserves the relationship preserves the contracts
		
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			that's there preserves the family that's there and
		
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			in order to implement this principle we have
		
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			to learn what it takes that how do
		
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			I communicate how do I negotiate as well
		
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			what are things I'm willing to lay off
		
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			on I'm going to compromise the other person
		
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			is going to compromise as well and then
		
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			we come together and we form an agreement
		
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			that works for the greater good of the
		
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			relationship the last and final principle is a
		
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			prophetic principle in which the prophet said in
		
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			the end of a hadith that ...
		
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			...
		
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			that the one who is slowed and does
		
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			not do the required action then their lineage
		
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			is not going to benefit them in any
		
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			way shape or form so all the connections
		
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			that a person has is not going to
		
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			benefit them when it comes to yawm al
		
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			qiyamah and it doesn't matter what their lineage
		
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			is whether they're non-Arab doesn't matter it
		
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			all comes back to ...
		
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			that the most noble one of you is
		
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			the most pious of Allah and ...
		
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			he said that make your treasury your graves
		
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			so make that your treasury and fill it
		
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			with as much good deeds as you can
		
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			that when you go to it and you
		
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			find all those good deeds there you will
		
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			be so happy that you get to find
		
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			that treasury there that when it really counts
		
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			when you leave this world and you go
		
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			there and you see all these good deeds
		
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			that were put forth that's when it's going
		
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			to come and benefit you and Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala who's the only sahaba mentioned
		
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			by name in the Quran I heard the
		
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			answer Zayd radiallahu anhu and who is Zayd
		
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			ibn Haritha he's the prophet's adopted son but
		
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			he was his servant slave once upon a
		
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			time until he freed him and then he
		
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			made him his adopted son until Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala abolished that that you cannot
		
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			adopt a son and give him your name
		
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			per se that's the only sahaba that's mentioned
		
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			by name in the Quran and he was
		
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			a slave once upon a time he didn't
		
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			have that family backing that tribal backing that's
		
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			there so you know at times we get
		
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			caught up with where I'm from and who's
		
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			my father and there's one thing where you
		
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			get to know one another based on that
		
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			and certain countries are tribalistic in nature like
		
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			for example our Somali brothers and sisters you
		
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			know we meet somebody what's your name so
		
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			and so who's your father so and so
		
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			and you know the whole lineage until the
		
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			end of the tribe the tribe leader this
		
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			is a way that they get to know
		
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			one another where's the daisies we don't have
		
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			that right what's your name safe last name
		
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			Murad okay khalas end of story there's nothing
		
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			there's no tribe that we go back to
		
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			this is ways for people to get to
		
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			know one another but it's not a means
		
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			for people to boast over one another because
		
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			if you look at it Abu Lahab Quraish
		
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			nobility the uncle of the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam and what was the story given about
		
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			him in the Quran that may Abu Lahab
		
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			be destroyed because of what he did against
		
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			the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and Ibn Taymiyyah
		
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			he mentioned that you will not find in
		
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			the Quran not even a single ayah where
		
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			Allah S.W.T praises somebody based on
		
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			their lineage and their ancestry and where they're
		
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			from and also at the same time he
		
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			does not blame somebody for that as well
		
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			but what he praises in the Quran are
		
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			qualities like Iman, Taqwa Tawakkul, Justice and all
		
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			these praise worthy qualities those are the things
		
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			that sets people apart that how do I
		
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			adore myself with these qualities Iman, Taqwa, Ihsan
		
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			Bir, goodness to my parents, these are the
		
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			qualities that a person needs to bring into
		
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			their arsenal and Umar R.A he mentioned
		
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			that the Arab, you know they got their
		
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			honor because of the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			and he said some of them perhaps they
		
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			go back in lineage where their grandfathers meet
		
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			one another so there's some sort of connection
		
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			within their chain and what we have is
		
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			that lineage and eventually everyone goes back to
		
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			Adam Alaihissalam, whether you're Arab non-Arab everyone
		
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			goes back to Adam Alaihissalam and he says
		
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			that Wallahi that by Allah if the non
		
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			-Arabs they come with better deeds than us
		
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			and we don't come with the righteous deeds
		
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			then they are more deserving and closer to
		
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			the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam on Yawmul Qiyamah
		
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			than us that it's not about skin color
		
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			language a person speaks who their father is,
		
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			what part of the world they're from but
		
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			it's about that Taqwa, that Iman that who
		
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			has that regardless of where they're from, what
		
00:43:05 --> 00:43:08
			their skin color is or what gender they
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:12
			are and he said a person a man
		
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			should not look at their relatives their lineage
		
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			but rather they should work towards what's with
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala because the one
		
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			who falls short when it comes to their
		
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			deeds that status that they're holding on to
		
00:43:25 --> 00:43:27
			that they think is going to benefit them
		
00:43:27 --> 00:43:29
			that they know so and so or their
		
00:43:29 --> 00:43:31
			father is so and so is not going
		
00:43:31 --> 00:43:33
			to benefit them in any way, shape or
		
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			form Imam Al-Zuhri he went and he
		
00:43:35 --> 00:43:39
			visited Abdul Malik Ibn Marwan and Abdul Malik
		
00:43:39 --> 00:43:42
			Ibn Marwan is the Khalifa the Umayyad Khalifa,
		
00:43:42 --> 00:43:44
			so he says where have you come from
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:46
			O Zuhri Imam Al-Zuhri one of the
		
00:43:46 --> 00:43:50
			greatest scholars from the early generation so he
		
00:43:50 --> 00:43:52
			said I came from Mecca so he said
		
00:43:52 --> 00:43:54
			who has been left behind to govern their
		
00:43:54 --> 00:43:58
			affairs and he said Ata Ibn Abi Rabah
		
00:43:59 --> 00:44:01
			that he's the one who is the leader
		
00:44:01 --> 00:44:04
			of Mecca so he asks a question that
		
00:44:04 --> 00:44:06
			is he from the Mawali, now this term
		
00:44:06 --> 00:44:08
			was used to describe non Arabs that is
		
00:44:08 --> 00:44:11
			he from the Mawali or the Arabs and
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:13
			one of the reasons for the downfall of
		
00:44:13 --> 00:44:16
			the Umayyad dynasty is because they gave preferential
		
00:44:16 --> 00:44:18
			treatment to the Arabs over the non Arabs
		
00:44:19 --> 00:44:21
			and that was one of the reasons for
		
00:44:21 --> 00:44:24
			why the Abbasids revolted against them, because they
		
00:44:24 --> 00:44:26
			would treat the non Arabs like second class
		
00:44:26 --> 00:44:29
			citizens in a way, so he said Ata
		
00:44:29 --> 00:44:31
			Ibn Abi Rabah so he said is he
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:34
			from the Mawali, from the non Arabs or
		
00:44:34 --> 00:44:35
			from the Arabs, he said from the non
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:39
			Arabs, so he asked the question like why
		
00:44:39 --> 00:44:41
			or how does he rule over them, how
		
00:44:41 --> 00:44:44
			does he have that status over them to
		
00:44:44 --> 00:44:47
			which he said because of his deen and
		
00:44:47 --> 00:44:49
			his narrations, because of his deen and his
		
00:44:49 --> 00:44:54
			knowledge and then the Khalifa he says that
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:57
			indeed the people of deen and knowledge are
		
00:44:57 --> 00:44:59
			the ones who deserve to rule over them
		
00:45:02 --> 00:45:05
			and then he said who rules or who
		
00:45:05 --> 00:45:06
			is the leader of the people of Yemen,
		
00:45:07 --> 00:45:09
			so he said Tawus, now these are like
		
00:45:09 --> 00:45:12
			Mufassirun in a sense, these people who are
		
00:45:12 --> 00:45:14
			non Arabs, they excelled when it comes to
		
00:45:14 --> 00:45:17
			Tafsir and other sciences that they were better
		
00:45:17 --> 00:45:19
			than many of the Arabs at that time
		
00:45:19 --> 00:45:21
			so he said Tawus, so he said once
		
00:45:21 --> 00:45:23
			again is he from the Arabs or from
		
00:45:23 --> 00:45:25
			the non Arabs he said from the non
		
00:45:25 --> 00:45:27
			Arabs, he said what gave him that status
		
00:45:27 --> 00:45:29
			within his community he said the same thing
		
00:45:29 --> 00:45:32
			that made Ata in that position, it's because
		
00:45:32 --> 00:45:34
			of his deen and his ilm and his
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:37
			knowledge, and he said that is befitting for
		
00:45:37 --> 00:45:39
			him, so he said who rules over the
		
00:45:39 --> 00:45:42
			people of Egypt, and he said Yazid Ibn
		
00:45:42 --> 00:45:44
			Abi Habib, so he said once again is
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:45
			he from the Arabs or is he from
		
00:45:45 --> 00:45:47
			the non Arabs he said from the non
		
00:45:47 --> 00:45:50
			Arabs and he said okay, what about Ahl
		
00:45:50 --> 00:45:52
			al-Sham, who's the one who has that
		
00:45:52 --> 00:45:55
			authority over there so he says Makhul, he
		
00:45:55 --> 00:45:57
			said Arab, non Arab, he says non Arab
		
00:45:58 --> 00:46:00
			and he said he, this guy was actually
		
00:46:00 --> 00:46:02
			a slave once upon a time that was
		
00:46:02 --> 00:46:07
			freed and then he got that status then
		
00:46:07 --> 00:46:09
			he said okay, what about the Arabian Peninsula
		
00:46:09 --> 00:46:12
			he said Maimun Ibn Mahran he said, is
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:15
			he Arab non Arab, he said non Arab
		
00:46:15 --> 00:46:16
			and he said okay, what about Ahl al
		
00:46:16 --> 00:46:19
			-Khurasan he said Ad-Dahhak Ibn Nazahim he
		
00:46:19 --> 00:46:22
			said, is he Arab, non Arab he said
		
00:46:22 --> 00:46:24
			non Arab he said okay, what about Basra
		
00:46:24 --> 00:46:27
			he said Hassan Ibn Abi al-Hassan he
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:29
			said, is he Arab, non Arab he said
		
00:46:29 --> 00:46:31
			non Arab, and he said okay what about
		
00:46:31 --> 00:46:35
			Kufa he said Ibrahim al-Nakh'i and
		
00:46:35 --> 00:46:37
			he said, is he Arab or is he
		
00:46:37 --> 00:46:39
			non Arab, he said he is Arab he
		
00:46:39 --> 00:46:42
			said, waylak ya Zuhri woe be to you
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:47
			oh Zuhri you've given me this shock you've
		
00:46:47 --> 00:46:47
			given me this shock that how do these
		
00:46:47 --> 00:46:50
			people have that position and then he said
		
00:46:50 --> 00:46:56
			Wallahi no he said that you've caused me
		
00:46:56 --> 00:46:58
			this anxious you've made me so uncomfortable in
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:03
			a sense that the non Arabs are ruling
		
00:47:03 --> 00:47:06
			over the Arabs so much so that they
		
00:47:06 --> 00:47:07
			are the ones who are giving the khutab
		
00:47:07 --> 00:47:10
			from the members from the pulpits and the
		
00:47:10 --> 00:47:13
			Arabs are below them, so he still has
		
00:47:13 --> 00:47:17
			this backwards way of thinking you'd say thinking
		
00:47:17 --> 00:47:21
			that because of lineage or because of the
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:23
			language they speak, that they deserve these positions,
		
00:47:24 --> 00:47:26
			and Imam al-Zuhri who has the understanding,
		
00:47:26 --> 00:47:30
			he says ya ameer al-mu'mineen the old
		
00:47:30 --> 00:47:32
			leader of the believers that is the matter
		
00:47:32 --> 00:47:37
			of Allah and his deen whoever preserves it
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:41
			gets that elevated status whoever acts in accordance
		
00:47:41 --> 00:47:44
			to that, they get that elevated status, and
		
00:47:44 --> 00:47:48
			whoever regardless whether Arab, non Arab if they
		
00:47:48 --> 00:47:51
			let it go to waste then they're the
		
00:47:51 --> 00:47:54
			ones who go to that lower position so
		
00:47:54 --> 00:47:56
			within Islam the principle is what?
		
00:47:56 --> 00:47:58
			that it's not about who you and I
		
00:47:58 --> 00:47:59
			know, or who you think you are what
		
00:47:59 --> 00:48:01
			our positions are, or who's our connection but
		
00:48:01 --> 00:48:05
			it is our actions and Islam came and
		
00:48:05 --> 00:48:07
			eradicated all of that, and the Prophet sallallahu
		
00:48:07 --> 00:48:09
			alayhi wa sallam, you all know that he
		
00:48:09 --> 00:48:13
			said that there is no superiority for an
		
00:48:13 --> 00:48:14
			Arab over a non Arab, and a non
		
00:48:14 --> 00:48:17
			Arab over an Arab but it is all
		
00:48:17 --> 00:48:19
			about, we all go back to Adam alayhi
		
00:48:19 --> 00:48:21
			salam, and eventually all of us are going
		
00:48:21 --> 00:48:22
			to leave this world, and eventually we're all
		
00:48:22 --> 00:48:24
			going to turn into dust, but the ones
		
00:48:24 --> 00:48:27
			who truly make it, are the ones who
		
00:48:27 --> 00:48:29
			have that iman and that taqwa the ones
		
00:48:29 --> 00:48:31
			who are the most mindful of Allah subhanahu
		
00:48:31 --> 00:48:33
			wa ta'ala those are the ones who
		
00:48:33 --> 00:48:35
			get that honor and that status with Allah
		
00:48:35 --> 00:48:37
			subhanahu wa ta'ala so may Allah subhanahu
		
00:48:37 --> 00:48:38
			wa ta'ala make us and fill our
		
00:48:38 --> 00:48:42
			hearts with iman and taqwa may He give
		
00:48:42 --> 00:48:44
			us understanding of this deen, may He allow
		
00:48:44 --> 00:48:46
			us to implement these principles that we learned
		
00:48:46 --> 00:48:51
			the first one is that the ones who
		
00:48:51 --> 00:48:54
			invent lies against Allah against his religion, against
		
00:48:54 --> 00:48:56
			his messenger against the people, against his allies
		
00:48:56 --> 00:48:59
			then they're eventually, they're the ones who are
		
00:48:59 --> 00:49:00
			going to be the losers, whether it's now
		
00:49:00 --> 00:49:03
			or later, eventually it's going to happen the
		
00:49:03 --> 00:49:08
			second one was that reconciliation is better, which
		
00:49:08 --> 00:49:10
			means I have to learn how to do
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:16
			that siblings, parents spouses community members, how do
		
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			we reconcile, how do we come together, how
		
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			do we sit at the table and discuss
		
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			without losing it and understand each other and
		
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			then come to an agreement that works for
		
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			the betterment of everyone that's involved and then
		
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			finally that it's not about who you know
		
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			or who your father is or what your
		
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			status is or what your qualifications is but
		
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			it's about the actions that proactive approach that
		
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			I look at my grave as my storage
		
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			box, that I store my good deeds in,
		
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			that eventually without a doubt we're all going
		
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			to be leaving this world and when I
		
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			go there, I'm happy, I rejoice and I'm
		
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			comfortable inshallah may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			give us goodness in this world and the
		
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			next may He make la ilaha illallah in
		
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			our tongues when we leave this world, may
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us goodness
		
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			in this world and the next may He
		
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			ease the pain of our brothers and sisters
		
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			across the world, may He give victory to
		
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			the Muslims always